Abu Taymiyyah – A Ramadhan This Year Like No Other A Deeper Meaning To Fasting
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My beloved brothers and sisters,
Honestly, it's an absolute pleasure to see all
of you brothers,
and I've been told also that the sisters
section
is pretty packed as well. To see all
of you guys coming out even though
it was
pretty snowy
last couple of days for you guys to
make the effort honestly is something that
is extremely extremely praiseworthy.
My beloved brothers and sisters, another important point
that I want to mention before I start
the lecture.
I know some of you guys may be
regulars at the masjid,
brothers and sisters.
And you might not necessarily be accustomed to
seeing
a sister
dressed
in a particular way, or a brother walking
into the masjid, and his hair is maybe
a certain way.
Right?
Or he's wearing things that
is shunned upon.
However,
as I've said before as well,
on this chair,
the houses of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala are
not just for practicing people.
No one should be made to feel uncomfortable.
Fear Allah subhanu wa ta'ala with the looks
that you give a sister,
who might be wearing hijab for the first
time.
Some of her hair may be showing,
but then you start giving her these dirty
looks,
or making her feel uncomfortable,
or a brother
who may not necessarily
fit
the type that you are used to.
Bear that in mind.
Before I start the lecture inshallah to Allah,
I nearly forgot.
I want
my good friend,
brother Ismail to come and
and read some Quran for us inshallah to
Allah. The sunnah guys is to start the
sitting
with the speech of Allah aza wa sha.
Because the Ramadan is around the corner we
just want to soften up our hearts
with this beautiful recitation of
our brother,
Ishmael
My beloved brothers and sisters,
the deeper meaning of fasting.
When we think
fasting in the month of Ramadan,
what are some of
the things that come to mind?
A lot of us may think that
the month of Ramadan is just to abstain
from food, drink,
sexual *, and that's it.
That's what many of us may think.
However,
Ramadan is so much more than that.
And bi'idn alayhta'ala
every single one of us is going to
exit from this masjid
having changed their perspective of the month of
Ramadan.
One of the common questions that I get
asked is why is it in the month
of Ramadan my iman was sky high?
And then as soon as we
enter into the day of Eid,
my iman has dropped again.
And as time goes on,
I am not in the same place spiritually
as I was in the month of Ramadan.
Right?
This month brothers and sisters is the month
where the worst of people in the eyes
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
flip their lives around.
It is this month.
The month of Ramadan brothers and sisters.
It is the month my beloved brothers and
sisters
where one
becomes from the awliyah of Allahu jalafi'ula.
He becomes from the oliya of Allah.
The close beloved servants of Allahu jalaifi'ura.
It is this month.
As I was
walking out of the Khutba
from Masir Rahma, I ran into a brother
and he said I really want to speak
to you.
I want to change my life around.
And I thought to myself Insha'Allah Ta'ala, today's
lecture
is indeed for somebody like yourself.
It is a lifeline that Allah a zawajal
throws away.
It is an opportunity that Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala
has gifted
every single one of us with brothers and
sisters.
I know and you know
that the lifestyles that we are living, and
I'm not just talking about a drug dealer
or someone who goes clubbing,
some of us may well just be at
home,
and we are so glued to our phones.
We are living a life of emptiness,
spiritually
dead.
We are going to flip that around
after this lecture. We will not leave this
lecture room
except
that our perspective
on the month of Ramadan has changed.
Right?
One of the common questions that people tend
to ask,
maybe 20 days into the month of Ramadan,
maybe 25,
I feel like
I haven't benefited much.
I feel like I could have done so
much more.
I feel so miserable and down.
I feel like
I've ruined the opportunity that Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala threw my way.
There are causes for this my brothers and
my sisters. You know what one of the
causes is?
One of the causes as to why we
may waste our Ramadan is because we did
not start
before the month of Ramadan.
Can someone tell me very quickly how many
days do we have left before the month
of Ramadan?
2 weeks.
It's like 10 days, right?
12
12 days that we have left guys, 12
days.
Right?
What would the messenger salallahu alaihi wa sallam
do in this month that we are in,
the month of Sha'aban?
Did you know my brothers and my sisters
that the messenger salallahu alaihi was would fast?
Why would he fast? The scholars they mentioned
in order to get himself ready for the
month of Ramadan.
Not that he needed to do so,
but we are being taught a lesson.
Start before the month of Ramadan, and then
once the month of Ramadan kicks in, you
hit the ground running straight away.
The way I look at the month of
Ramadan, my brothers and my sister is no
different to a car.
When you get into the car, does anyone
in their right mind put the gears into
gear 5?
This guy is not 100% right?
He puts it straight in towards gear 5.
No one in their right mind would do
that. It takes time. Gear 1, gear 2,
gear 3, gear 4, and then he puts
his foot down on the motorway here not
in small guys.
On the motorway he puts his foot down.
So hey,
it takes time,
and likewise
the month of Ramadan is no different.
One really really wants to flip his life
around in the month of Ramadan. However,
he is still carrying some of these bad
habits
which he hasn't,
right, rid himself of.
This is why, and I've been saying this
in some of the lectures that I gave,
I want every single one of you guys
today today
to go and buy a fancy exercise book.
A fancy exercise book, get a nice pen
with it as well, or a blue pen,
put it next to your bedside
and write down
what are some of the things that I'm
going to
implement or introduce into my life before the
month of Ramadan?
You start off gradually. Everyday I'm going to
read a little bit of Quran.
Right?
Everyday
I'm going to do a bit of dhikr.
I'm going to have my alone time with
just myself and Allah aasawajal,
That seclusion which is priceless my brothers and
my sisters.
Right?
Different
aspects of worship which I'm going to now
introduce.
Right?
Before we enter into the month of Ramadan.
Did you know my brothers and my sisters
that Mohammed,
who fast and Jama who
fasts might not necessarily
be the same when it comes to reward,
even though from the apparent they're doing the
exact same thing.
The messenger sala alaihi wasalam told us about
an act of worship
that is more important in fasting, which is
what the salah.
He salawaturabi
was salamu alayhi said,
When one now exits from the salah, my
brothers and my sisters,
right? It may well be that one walks
away with
10% of the reward.
Some get 20,
some 30, some 40, some 50 and so
on and so forth.
Even though from the apparent they might be
doing the exact same thing.
Let me ask you guys a question. The
one who's focused on his prayer,
right, concentrating,
he
is praying in a way where
he is interacting with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
directly.
Right?
You think he's the same?
When you compare him now to someone who's
thinking about what his wife has cooked.
Back home?
Always
car
keys
are? No. Not at all.
They're not equal.
It shows us that it varies. Likewise, the
messian salallahu alaihi washan told us about hajj.
When somebody goes out for Hajj, and he
doesn't fall into transgression and obscenity,
this person comes back like a newly born
baby. Even though from the apparent, they're doing
the exact same thing.
Right? They all go to Mina, they go
to Muzdalifa, they all go to Arafa,
they do the tawaf.
These are what outward actions.
However there's a spiritual side to it my
brothers and my sisters.
Year in year out, wallahi I see brothers
and sisters who go out on Hajj with
us. Right?
Every year I used to see this. Every
year.
He's performing Hajj but he can't control his
mouth.
I remember many many years ago we had
this multi millionaire
on Hajj with us.
Of course the packages that we do is
not like Al Hidayah, Allah humbarik, Al Hidayah,
big shots in the game.
We just have you know
basic 5 star package.
In Mina everyone's like in the basic place,
right?
So this multi millionaire
walks into the tents and for those who
know how many are everyone's cramped in together.
Cramped up together.
He went and sat down,
he looked to his left,
he looked to his right,
and he was absolutely disgusted.
He walks out of the tent,
and he just starts ripping into
the organizers of Hajj.
And I'm like uncle, you know, can we
save it for maybe later?
And he's just going off. He's not going
off on me, but he's going off on
those who have organized the minute tense,
of hajj.
Right?
Insult after insult after insult. And I'm like
your your uncle,
you are going to destroy your hajj.
And he's just going on.
Can this person be the same as the
one who is controlling his mouth?
People start fighting in Muzdalifa. Don't get on,
get on the bus. See people what?
A bit like the black stone. You know
the black stone in the Kaaba?
Literally fighting and pulling with one another.
Alright. Insults. You're this. You're that.
And then you got some people waiting patiently.
They're not going to walk away with the
same reward, guys,
and the same is mentioned about the fasting.
Right?
Muslim
said, Rub Basaim Laysalahum Masiyami Lajuur Wal Atash.
Someone may fast but he gets nothing out
of the fasting other than what? Thirst and
hunger.
How many hours are going to be fasting?
17 hours. Right?
Maybe more, maybe little bit less.
Maybe my calculations are from years back.
But that's a lot of hours guys.
Imagine you turn upon your
and this is what
scattered particles.
And you got absolutely
nothing for
it. And that is because you thought that
the month of Ramadan, when you fast,
all you have to do is what? Stay
away from food and drink,
sexual *, hamdulillah.
Right?
We try to kill time in the month
of Ramadan,
or it might be that he sleeps throughout
the whole night,
and in the whole day is sorry not
the whole night
because we're doing all nighters.
The whole day.
The whole day brothers and sisters because he's
up all night, and then he wakes up
maybe what half an hour before iftar, alhamdulillah.
Yes.
I don't have to endure.
Right? That tiredness.
Just before iftar, it's only half an hour
11, then he gets on his phone,
and he's going through snapshot stories.
Some one somebody called it was a chat.
Called it was a chat,
or Instagram,
fit in a gram.
You got the TikTok tigers,
right?
These names are good,
Alakulaha my brothers and my sisters.
Fasting is a lot more than that.
Right? Fasting is a lot more than that.
Jabri bin Abdullah radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu my beloved
brothers and sisters.
The great companion, you know what he said?
Just to show you guys
that fasting is a lot more than
staying away from the things that nullify
your fast.
Right.
There are certain things that are going to
nullify it,
and there are other things
that are going to destroy
the month of Ramadan for
you. Explains 2. I want to concentrate on
the spiritual side of things guys.
He said, either sumta failure sum samruk
or basaruk.
Walisanuk
and ilkadibiwal
mathim.
When you fast,
make sure that your eyes are fasting.
Make sure that your ears are fasting.
Make sure your tongue is fasting from what?
From lying
and all types of sins.
Make sure
your body parts are fasting brothers and sisters.
I honestly believe, I honestly believe, you don't
have to agree with me,
that if you are someone who manages to
control these three body parts, you are on
your way of becoming a saint,
a beloved servant of Allah ahsanwajal. I believe
that.
Would you guys agree?
When you think about it guys, a lot
of the sins that we fall into, would
you agree
that it stems off from the eyes, especially
in today's day and age?
With the emergence of social media, would you
guys agree with
that? Think about it for a moment.
If
I remove the sins that I fall into
through my eyes and through my ears and
through my tongue,
how many sins are we actually falling into
throughout the year?
Can you see how
much it ends up going down?
Right.
It's a lot more than that.
Every single year, guys,
I receive correspondence
on Instagram, messages on social media.
A brother
and a sister saying,
I committed zina in the month of Ramadan.
What is the expiation?
Did you know my brothers and my sisters?
Did you know? You know husband and wife?
Are they halal for another?
Husband and wife.
I don't do trick questions.
A man came and he said, Oh messenger
of Allah I burnt myself.
Burned himself where? Burned himself in the *
fire.
I've destroyed myself.
So the mess of Allah just asked him
what happened? He goes, waka to alam raati
fearamadan.
I had sexual * with my wife in
the month of Ramadan.
Scholars they took from this that, the fact
that he said I burnt myself in hellfire
and this is from the major sins.
With your wife, a woman that is halal
for you, you
do sexual *,
you have committed a major sin.
Subhanallah.
If that's the case with 2 people that
halal for one another, and I'm talking about
while they're fasting, yeah? Because after maghrib you
go do what you want,
While they're fasting.
Right? This is a major sin. Then how
about the person, how about the person Calm
down guys.
Relax.
How about 2 people don't even halal for
one another?
Every Ramadan guys.
Countless messiah received this. You know one time
I decided to ask them, alright,
how did you guys get to know one
another?
Or when did you guys get to know
one another?
You know what he said?
We got to know one another in the
month of Ramadan. Hey, in the month of
Ramadan while you're fasting. Type how?
He goes through none other than
fitnagram.
Innocently,
you know these glances,
Shaitan is whispering to him, well I she
might be a marriage potential, and he clicks
on the profile, and then the shaitan whispers
give her dua.
She ends up giving him dawah.
Right?
And then before you know it guys,
the unexpected takes place.
Right?
The zina of the eyes is what? To
look.
And the zina of the tongue is what?
To utter, To chirps.
Right? To flirt.
These loose conversations they start having with one
another.
And shaitan is telling him, akhish, she's your
potential. She's your potential.
And you are falling for it.
In the month of Ramadan,
and then the minister
said, zin aliyat, the zina of the hand
is what? To reach out to her.
To reach out to her.
And the zina of the feet is to
walk towards her.
In the month of Ramadan, this is happening
guys.
And then they're messaging me absolutely heartbroken.
Feeling miserable.
I've destroyed myself. Oh my god, this is
genuine, and this is what major sins does
to an individual. It kills you inside.
Wallahi brother says it kills you inside.
I wish I had the time to go
through my Instagram and to start reading
messages of brothers and sisters who are saying,
please help me.
I'm ashamed of myself, I am broken.
I am unrecognizable.
This has happened to me. What is he
talking about? I committed zina.
You guys think oh, Islam's all rough and
tough, right?
It's depriving you. Sah!
It's depriving you for what? To go clubbing,
to have relationships,
Just ask me guys.
My Instagram is full brothers and sisters.
Full
of people who are absolutely
broken,
spiritually dead and empty.
Right?
Month of Ramadan the scene has been set.
Right?
The doors of Jannah are swung open, the
doors of hellfire are slammed shut, and the
shayateen are locked up.
But you know why we're still carrying out
our filth and evil in the month of
Ramadan? People always ask, okay, what wasn't the
shayati? Look, why am I doing this? It
is because you're so used to these bad
habits before the month of Ramadan.
That's why we're saying stop it now. Try
and find a routine to stay away from
some of these bad habits.
Are you guys with me?
Right? So it's a lot more than I've
stayed away from food and drink, I've stayed
away from sexual *, I'm fine. I'm gonna
walk away with my 30 days of Ramadan.
It's a lot more than that.
Right?
Did you know my brothers and my sisters,
and this is one of the deep meanings
of the month of Ramadan.
Right? Look what Ibn Uthayim Rahmatullah a'layhi mentions.
He says,
Indeed,
the most virtuous of people
are those who remember Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
the most when it comes to the acts
of worship that they carry out.
You guys know that?
While you're fasting, the more zikr you do,
the more Quran you read, you are so
much more better than the one who's reading
less.
And then he says,
The best of those who fast are the
ones who remember Allah azza wa ji the
most.
The same goes with hajj.
Right? Your guys were speaking about what? The
Arsenal game. Why is in haram?
What was the score again? And they're just
talking about that. I'm not saying he's doing
haram.
Right?
However,
there are people are remembering Allah Azawajal much.
Can they be equal? Without a shadow of
a doubt no.
Right?
This is the reality brothers and sisters.
Also my brothers and my sisters, right? And
Ibn al Qayyim again mentions this in Alwab
Al Sayyid. He mentions from the benefits of
dhikr,
is that he occupies your tongue from haram.
I hope you guys are writing them down,
unless you're like Imam Abu Hari guys.
I was able to take in all of
the information,
and don't write down.
What was I going to say now?
They care. I was talking about they care.
Right? What was I saying about Thikr?
Nam.
Nam.
While you're remembering Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala with
your tongue,
what have you now occupied your tongue with?
The remembrance of Allah. And what have you
occupied it from?
Griba, backbiting,
filth, slander and so on and so forth.
People genuinely actually ask me and they say,
brother, I've got a problem with my tongue.
Help.
I have an issue.
I'm always talking about others.
Keep your tongue moist.
A man came to the mister alazim and
he said, in a shayi alayi
alayi.
There are too many obligations.
Right? It's become too much for me. Give
me something that's going to help me.
Some of us might be feeling like that.
Wallahi,
16 hours, 17 hours, that's long.
That's a burden for me.
Believe you or not guys, you know what
the new trend is in the month of
Ramadan? To not fast.
That's become a trend.
Allah he knows
it's wrong.
Right?
You'll be surprised how common this is actually
becoming.
Right?
You want something to help you when it
comes to your fasting?
Do dhikr with your tongue.
What did this man want when he came
to the messenger salaam alaihis salam? Was he
saying oh messenger of Allah, allow it you
know, You know, to remove some of these
obligations from me. Was he saying? No. Give
me something that's going to help me.
So he said keep your tongue moist of
the remembrance of Allah, and that will give
you strength in all of these other acts
of worship.
Right?
You have dhikr, and you have the opposite
of that which is what? Music.
He talks about the tricks and the traps
of the shaitan. He has a section where
he talks about music
and brings the same
What does Gina do?
Music, it causes hypocrisy to grow inside of
your heart.
And then he mentions a whole load of
reasons as to why that happens.
Right?
Or some of the consequences of that. You
know one of the points that he mentions?
He goes, those who listen to music,
right,
tend to be afflicted with another problem. You
know what that is?
Being lazy when it comes to the prayer.
Being lazy when it comes to acts of
worship.
You are probably asking yourself why am I
struggling? Why do I walk to the prayer
in such a lazy manner?
Right?
I don't have that, you know,
eagerness as I may have had once upon
a time.
Music,
haram does that to an individual,
and the opposite of that actually gives you
that physical strength. And Allah tells us this
in the Quran quoting hud,
He told his people do istighfar,
What will Allah do? He'll give you strength
above strength.
I'm talking about physical strength.
Sometimes people say, oh how is it that
so and so is able to do so
much? Youkhir first say mashallah, don't give him
your evil eye. And then secondly secondly,
He's remembering Allah much.
It could be that you're driving, it could
be that you're walking, it's a difficulty
guys.
So they are generally a lot better.
Also, just as a side benefit.
When Ibn Alkaim speaks about music, you know
what he also says?
Says
how many women
has he come across?
Right? She was fine, but because of music,
she became from amongst the prostitutes.
That's what the music done to done done
to her.
Is it Farfetch now when you have all
this grime and this rhyme and r and
b and whatever have you that glorify filth
and evil.
It makes it so beloved to you. You
see yourself behaving a certain way,
acting a certain way,
carrying yourself in a certain manner, all of
a sudden now you're dragging your trousers,
showing whatever, you know, while you're walking.
Right?
Music does that to the people, right?
Hypocrisy starts growing inside of your heart brothers
and sisters.
And the Dhikr, you have that on the
opposite side.
Right?
Second point that I want to mention my
beloved brothers and sisters, when I think Ramadan,
the deeper meaning of Ramadan,
is the aspect of al Afu.
Pardoning and forgiving one another.
Ibn Qayim Rahmatullahi alayhi, my beloved brothers and
sisters, he says,
inna baynaqawabein
Allahi khataya laiaalamuha
illallah.
Indeed there are sins between you
and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that nobody knows
about.
If you want Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
forgive and pardon you,
be someone who pardons and forgives others.
Be someone who pardons and forgive others.
Right. Brothers and sisters, I'm not going to
sit here and talk as if this is
something that is easy.
Right?
To remove that grudge in your heart, you've
been wronged, you've been oppressed. Wallahi, it's not
easy.
It is really not easy guys.
Specially if that individual stabs you in the
back. He shows you your face, and then
behind your back what? He's stabbing you. Oh,
I found it extremely difficult
with these kind of people,
And at times I still do,
but we have to step on our egos,
and we have to bite our tongues.
Every single one of us here, guys, wants
to be pardoned and forgiven in the month
of Ramadan. Right?
Messenger salallahu alayhi said, mamsam Ramadan.
With Iman, a musadiq and mu adillah believing
in the reward of Allah. Waatisaban a mukhli
son, he does this with sincerity.
His past sins are going to be forgiven.
Wallahi brothers and sisters, it's not easy
to remove that grudge you have in your
heart. I was telling
some of the brothers
who attended the asr prayer in Masjid Sunnah,
that I know people
who don't talk to their siblings. You know
why?
Let's just say you have Muhammad and then
you have his brother Umar.
Muhammad doesn't speak to Umar. You know why?
Because when Muhammad's
son wanted to get married,
Omar wasn't the first person to find out.
He was maybe number 3 or number 4,
but he's upset.
Just because he wasn't the first person,
and because of that he cuts off his
brother Muhammad.
Imagine that now guys.
He cuts him off and he doesn't speak
to him for years.
You want Allah azza wa jal to forgive
you. Right?
Be someone who's ready to forgive others.
Right?
There's a beautiful statement of Ibn Rajab that
I really want
to enlighten you all with.
One time Aisha radhiallahu ta'ala Anha, she came
to the messenger salaaliya was to me, she
said,
If I come to know when Laylatul Qadr
is, oh messenger of Allah, would you advise
me to say everyone of us has memorized
his dua. Right?
Ibn Rajabi comments and he says Al Afoo
min Ismailah
in his kitabla Taif al Marif. Beautiful book.
He says Afoo is from the names of
Allah.
It is He, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that
forgives
and pardons the sins of his service.
It is he who removes any traces of
these sins that he's been carrying out.
Wahuwahuhibbulaaaf.
Allah loves
forgiving
and loves to pardon.
Right?
And he loves for his servants to forgive
and pardon one another.
And then look what he says.
If they pardon and forgive one another, that's
when he's going to forgive them. That's when
he's going to pardon them guys.
And this falls in line with when the
messenger salalai alayhi wasalam said
Have mercy upon the people and Allah will
have mercy upon you.
Pardon and forgive others, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
will pardon and forgive you.
It's not easy guys.
However like I said, and I'll repeat it
again, you have to step on your ego,
and you have to bite your tongue.
Pick up that phone and make the call.
And remember guys, The
best of the 2 is the one who
starts with the salaam.
You are the better one once you pick
up that phone and make that call. And
wallahi my brothers and my sisters, and I'm
sure some of you guys would agree with
this, right?
It is almost immediate,
instant,
when you seek forgiveness,
or when you try to bury the hatch.
You are the initiator,
right?
After a phone call wallahi, it is as
if a huge burden has been lifted from
your shoulders.
Give it a try.
You want your heart to become soft? Brothers
and sisters, go and do that.
I've got a whole series on my YouTube
channel which speaks about how to soften up
your heart.
10 points. There was another 5 that I
wanted to go through, I didn't get a
chance. You know one of them is,
to pardon and forgive others.
To bury the hatch, to remove the grudge
inside of your heart. It's not easy guys,
but remember
Abu Bakr radiallahu ta'ala anhu.
Did you know my brothers and my sisters
that his daughter was surrounded?
Imagine now someone calling your wife
these s words,
spreading about that she slept with this guy
and then she done this and she
done that. Tables are going to get turned,
right?
And flipped.
This will burn us.
How would you feel if someone done that
to your mother, or to your wife, or
to your daughter?
Especially in Alham Rock,
I don't know what goes on in Birmingham
guys,
especially Alham Rock.
Alakuli Hala guys, Alakuli Hala.
This is what they done to Abu Bakr
radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu.
Right?
They spread this about his daughter.
And you know from amongst those who spread
these lies about his daughter was none other
than his own cousin called mister.
His own cousin. That's her uncle.
He engaged in the slander.
And just to let you guys know,
when Miftah
migrated from Makkah to Al Medina,
did you know that his only source of
income was Abu Bakr radhiallahu ta'ala anhu?
They didn't have benefits by the way. No
child tax credit.
They didn't have also housing benefits.
His only source of income was none other
than Abu Bakr radiAllahu ta'ala.
Abu Bakr came to know about this and
it infuriated him,
and he said,
I'm not going to spend on him again.
A verse came down. You know what this
verse was?
When Allah azza wa j said in Surat
An Nur, when I tell you allul fadlim
income was sa'ati and you to ululqurbah
walmasakinawalmuajirina
fisabilillah
walyaafoo walyaafarallahu.
This verse came down where Allah said,
the people of grace and virtue
should not stop
helping out those who have migrated from Makkah
to Al Madina.
Allah is referring to Abu Bakr radiallahu ta'ala
Anhuya.
Turn the page, forgive and forget. This is
what Allah told Abu Bakr.
As much as this hurt him, it burnt
him.
Abu Bakr radiAllahu ta'ala anhu forgave and pardon
him. He didn't stop there.
Right?
He went a step further by also what?
Continuing
being his source of income.
Now compare that to your situation guys. There
are people that we are not talking to
for things that are much less than this,
and we're going to be crying you Allah
forgive me, right? In the month of Ramadan,
but we can't forgive others.
Right?
A deeper meaning to fasting my brothers and
my sisters, another important aspect,
and then I'm good with time.
Another important aspect my brothers and my sisters,
which may well be
hidden from a lot of us,
is to have that alone time with Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala.
And again, Ibnur Rajabi comments on this hadith.
When Aisha came to him,
salawaturabi
wa salamu alay, radiallahu ana, and
she said, oh messenger of Allah would you
advise me to say and he
taught her this hadith, Allahumma inaka'afoo went to
hibul afa. You love the father, so pardon
me.
Right?
My brothers and my sisters, this is going
to teach us how to become from the.
How to become from the close beloved service
of Allah.
He only instructed her
to ask for forgiveness, please brothers.
Listen up to our mother saying,
He only instructed her now to seek
forgiveness. Why?
Even though she's been working so hard.
In the last 20 nights of
the month of Ramadan, she's been working
excellently,
but now
he tells her
to go and ask for forgiveness.
Even though she'd been working so hard, ask
forgiveness from what?
Look what he says.
The smart
and intelligent
beloved servants of Allah, the awliya, the saints.
They work so hard, they carry out righteous
deeds,
and then they don't see themselves having accomplished
much. They don't become deluded with their actions.
They don't become complacent.
However,
they rush back to seeking forgiveness
like a sinner. Let me ask you guys
a question, right?
A smart sinner,
a smart sinner, what does he do after
having committed a sin?
Guys,
someone just committed a sin, what does he
do after they be smart?
He cries his eyes out, you Allah forgive
me. Sahih,
He's saying
this is the state of
someone who's been working so hard
when it comes to righteous worships,
righteous deeds.
Right?
After having done so well, he sits down
with himself, he sits down with himself, and
he breaks down into tears. You Allah forgive
me.
This is the way of the awliya.
This is the way of the righteous saints
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
They're after doing so well, they sit around
feeling sorry for themselves.
Right? I could have maybe done better. And
he cries his eyes, oh dear Allah forgive
me.
Because you don't know whether it's been accepted
from you. Right?
To have that alone time with Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala, my brothers and my sisters, is
the point that I really want to drive
home.
The messenger salallahu alaihi wa sallam
would at times isolate himself away from his
family
and his relatives from amongst the Quraysh.
He would leave the midst of his people
and go into isolation,
and he would be alone.
Right?
When I think Ramadan, this is what comes
to mind guys. And this is a deeper
meaning to the month of Ramadan, to be
away from the destructions
that might destroy our Ramadan guys.
Before you would say to the people, stay
away from your friends. Go and have that
alone time.
However, today, someone may not even have friends.
However, he's got Facebook friends.
He's got friends online.
Are you brothers and sisters with me?
And these friends are a lot worse than
the friends that he would what?
Engage with, interact with.
Are you brothers and sisters with me?
Right.
Move away from your phone brothers and sisters.
Stay away from it.
Prepare from now.
Get yourself in a routine.
If you want to know as to whether
you are addicted or not,
right, try this.
Maybe not tonight because it's cold, but tomorrow
try it. Leave your phone at home and
walk outside.
If you don't stop fidgeting like a knee,
right,
then no, then inshallah to allah you're alright,
but if you do, then no you have
a problem.
Are you probably sisters with me?
One of the ways to know that you
are an addict is that you start fidgeting.
Like the end of the world for this
guy.
Where's the phone?
There's no wifi. It's the end of the
world for this individual.
Prepare yourself now, just go.
And
go and, smell the air.
Breathe in.
Go and walk in the park.
Do that.
So you could what? Detach yourself from this
phone that you've become so glued to.
Are you promised this with me?
This is very very important. Well light may
well be that these phones are going to
destroy
our Ramadan.
And every year I receive countless messages of
people saying I've destroyed my month. I've destroyed
it because of none other than his phone.
Right?
Ibn Rajibrahmatullahi
a'hi says,
From the signs that one
loves Allah and he also brings about the
love of Allah either for that individual.
Is that
he loves to be alone with Allah
Right? He loves to be alone with Allah,
especially
in the last part of the night.
Sisters always ask, I'm on my menses in
the month of Ramadan, or the last 10
nights, I feel like I'm going to miss
out.
There's so much that you could do. We
just did a lecture today, mazinur.
Right? And went through points
on what a woman on a men's list
can do.
This is one of them, to be alone.
In the dark patches of the night, while
them people might be asleep, and then you
Allah help me. You Allah do this for
me. Right? Holding yourself to account.
Right?
And you're doing this all interacting with Allah
azzawajal.
By way of a dua.
Right.
Another important aspect my brothers and my sisters
of when it, of the month of Ramadan,
that I see as a very very deep
matter,
is this issue with Dua guys.
Our brother
studied Ishmael,
who read those verses
of fasting.
Does anyone know which was the last verse
that he recited?
He read like Rafi'i din?
What was it?
See who was listening.
Waida salakyaibadianiqarib.
In these verses that he read my brothers
and my sisters,
right,
Verses of fasting.
That was the first.
2, also speaking about fasting. 3rd,
also speaking about fasting. And then all of
a sudden, Allah azza wa jal starts speaking
about the dua.
And then the verse after that speaks about
fasting.
The concept of a dua has been sandwiched
with the verses of fasting.
Right? Which shows that this is an integral
important part
of
one's fasting in the month of Ramadan.
My brothers and my sisters,
wallahi,
and I believe this
with conviction.
If you are the biggest drug dealer in
Alham Rock,
I'll say Birmingham, forget about Alham Rock.
You are the biggest drug dealer in Birmingham.
Or you might be the biggest
prostitute here.
Why you guys laughing? Well, I'm being serious.
Well, why I'm being serious?
I'm honestly being serious.
With one dua that you make to Allah
as a wajah to say it from your
heart in the month of Ramadan.
As the messenger salallahu alaihi wasallam told us,
3 people that duas are not rejected. One
of them is Asaim.
The one who's fasting up until he breaks
it.
Your dua is being accepted.
One dua that you make from the bottom
of your heart, you Allah.
I know what I'm doing is wrong,
and I shouldn't.
You Allah help me.
Right? Ramon I told you guys of that
brother, I was walking towards the masjid,
right? And I said I really need to
talk to you.
Insha'Allah, this month I want to flip my
life around.
Make that sincere dua from the bottom of
your heart.
You Allah help me through this.
Flip my life around.
There is no reason for Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala to reject you.
And you're doing this when you are alone,
by yourself.
Not just away from your friends that are
real in the flesh, but also from your
phone.
Just the alone time.
Wallahi, there's no reason for Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala to not reject that which you're requesting.
Right?
And to our brothers and sisters,
don't let that get away.
And then likewise when you are in Tarawih,
in your sujood,
use that as an opportunity.
The closest one draws to Allah is when
he is in the sujood position.
It is the dua that doesn't get rejected.
As the master said,
whatever it might be that you are struggling
with,
right,
whether it may be adult content,
some of the filth that we keep looking
at when we go on Instagram,
right?
Everything that you look at it is going
to Allah. Destroy your heart gradually.
You Allah help me.
Alright.
You Allah help me with the sincere dua
that you make.
I I think I said this last time
around my brothers and my sisters.
You guys want to know the cure for
watching this adult content?
And I'm being serious about this. I know
some of you guys are gonna start laughing.
It might well be time to
get rid of these smartphones for a period
of time and to turn to the truck
phone.
You know the brick phone that we used
to have back in the day?
And with the snake, they used to play
on the Nokia phone.
Wallahi, I'm dead serious guys.
Move away from it now
before the month of Ramadan. The psychologist they
say you need around 20 days or 21
days.
Do that.
Can we live without social media? Allah, we
can.
Stop telling me that it's become an integral
part of your life.
You can stay away from it. Sometimes I
tell people to delete TikTok.
They should all delete by the way.
He goes, no, we like habibi.
We lived life without it,
and you can live life without some of
these apps that are destroying you.
Identify the sin,
write it down,
and then say to yourself, what is it
that is causing you now to fall back
into the sin time and time again?
I'm giving you guys something practical now guys.
Take the paper, write down the sin that
you have a problem with, and what is
causing this sin.
This is exactly what
Sulaiman alaihis salatu wa sallam did.
Under the statement of Allah, the earlier that
Allah ibn Achiih, Asafina tuljiad.
Did you know that he had some finely
branded horses which busied him
from the Asif Raya? What did he do?
He ended up sorting all of them.
Put your hand up, you got Lexus.
Sorry, I meant the Tesla.
Anyone got Tesla here?
Imagine you had a car like Tesla, and
then he busied you from the salah. Would
anyone put that up for auction?
So Ayman alaihis salatu sam did that. Not
that I'm saying you should, but what did
he do? And the lesson here is he
tried to disassociate himself from that which caused
him to be distracted.
A deeper meaning to fasting, my brothers and
my sisters, in the month of Ramadan, another
important aspect guys is, how many are we
on? Is anybody writing it down?
What do you guys like, remember how to
write?
I don't want someone that's writing it down.
We're on point 20.
How many points are we on? I'm giving
you guys a deeper meaning.
5, Jamil, it's number 5 now.
The deeper meaning of fasting, my brothers and
my sisters,
is what?
The sincerity that we build in doing
acts of worship in the month of Ramadan,
especially the fasting.
When you're fasting, my brothers and my sisters,
anyone know as to whether you're fasting or
not?
Some might be looking at you assuming that
the guy is fasting, but nobody knows with
surety, right? He could be the guy that
goes into the bathroom to drink water,
right?
And that is because if he goes into
the kitchen, he'll get caught. Some people do
that.
But he walks out, everyone assumes that he's
fasting.
That fasting that we do my brothers and
my sister, which is an act of worship
just between us and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Right?
What we learn from him my brothers and
my sisters is that
we go through the month of Ramadan
doing these acts of worship, which we don't
tell anybody about
and then after the month of Ramadan we
continue this.
The sincere acts of worship that are just
between us and Allahu Challafirullah.
You know the story of Youssef alaihisattu salam?
When that
wife of Al Aziz locked him in the
room
and she said, let's get it on, hate
talaq.
She locked him up,
and she tried to get him to commit
fahesh with her.
Right?
Was stabaqal bab and he started running away.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave him a particular
description as to what had actually helped him
in this situation.
All is it?
He was from amongst those servants of ours
that was extremely, extremely sincere.
When
she
locked him inside of the room and she
started coming off him, not to take his
life,
but she was absolutely blown away by his
beauty,
how handsome he was.
Right?
His sincerity even though it's so difficult as
a man to control yourself in this kind
of situation,
that which got him out of this pickle
was the sincerity that he used to have.
Right?
Doing things for the sake of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala. This
is one of the deep meanings of the
month of Ramadan.
To conclude
to conclude guys,
I want you guys to think about
why you are fasting the moment you enter
into the month of Ramadan.
I want you guys to think about
why you are attending Taraweeh.
Why you attending Taraweeh?
Are we attending Taraweeh because all the boys
are attending?
Sometimes you do that, right?
Just the vibe in the masjid, everyone is
just, you know after that we're gonna go
to
what's that place called Pepe's?
This is not free promotion by the way.
We're gonna all go out and eat together.
Is that the reason why we are going?
To perform these acts of worship because everybody
is doing it, we are going to go
and do it as well.
Right?
If you are doing that my brothers and
my sisters, and indeed
I fear that
it might not necessarily be accepted,
and we are wasting our time
with all of these
acts of worship that we might engage in.
The intention goes a very very long way.
Is what we've all memorized. Actions are judged
by its intentions.
We are told as the messenger said,
that when one is now placed inside of
the grave.
When you are now placed inside of that
grave,
and those who had dropped you off have
now walked by walked away.
2 angels come to you.
They sit you up
for your and
then they say to him,
what did you used to say about so
and so?
Meaning the prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam. You know
his response is going to be?
I heard the people saying something so I
said it as well.
Is that what you want your response to
be on day of resurrection?
I saw everybody doing something so I went
and done it as well.
I fasted because everyone else was fasting.
Right?
I prayed or I attended tarawiyah because everyone
else was doing it.
Just a small change in one's intention, my
brothers and my sisters, can go a very
very very long way.
Right?
The last thing my brothers and my sisters,
and this is especially to my sisters.
Some of you guys may have missed the
program,
And I want you guys
to really pay attention to this especially my
sisters because they always send me so many
messages
especially
at the end of Ramadan.
Right?
Her men's strikes.
Some sisters feel as if his hala is
doom and gloom.
Right?
You are doing so well in the 1st
20
days of Ramadan
and just as you're about to enter into
the last
important 10 nights of Ramadan,
the men's strikes.
I'm going to miss out. I feel like,
you know, I'm going to ruin my Ramadan
because I can't do barely anything.
No, my sister.
Right?
First and foremost the messenger said,
When one becomes sick or he travels, did
you know my brothers and my sisters that
he gets the same reward as what he
used to do
before he became sick and before he started
travelling. Do you guys know that?
He became sick and he used to pray
at night. He's still going to get the
same reward because of his
incapability
due to something that is out of his
control.
Does that make sense my brothers and my
sisters?
Right?
So you're still getting the reward my sisters.
And likewise my brothers who might become sick,
you're bed bound. You can't get out of
your house. You want to attend Talawiyah for
whatever reason it might be. You are still
going to get that reward, so bear that
mind.
Something that our sisters can do,
and I hope you brothers are paying attention
as well because I know you have sisters
and mothers,
right?
Being alone with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, and
we elaborated on it.
Specially in them 10 nights when you think
that you might not be able to do
anything beneficial.
Number 2,
making dua.
Again, we mentioned that a woman on a
menses can do that as well.
Right?
You don't have to be off your menses
to engage in these acts of worship.
Number 3,
making or doing dhikr should I say.
Right?
Do you need to be
off your menses in order to say
or to say
Number 4,
feeding those who are fasting and also the
poor.
When you cook soup,
right? Not just soup anything.
And the pakora.
Do more. Cook more.
And then go and give it to your
neighbors.
Right? And especially now you're breaking
their fast with what you've cooked, you are
going to get the reward
of what,
they were doing while they were fasting.
So how can the brothers get in,
get engaged in this particular point? Who can
tell me?
Go to Morrisons and buy the food for
her.
Go to Asda, get her the food.
Right? You're spending from your wealth now to
cook more,
and you are going to get the reward
of all these people that are fasting.
So make
sense? We tend to look at
doing chores as a burden.
Right?
Allah it might be
that while we are fasting guys, I'm talking
to you brothers especially.
While we are fasting, we end up committing
a major sin. What's his major sin? I'll
tell you guys.
Your mom is saying, Muhammad,
come down while you're on your PS 5.
And you're like,
doesn't happen.
She wants you to go and buy the
food that you're going to be eating.
But you're like,
I'm busy.
I don't have time. Mama Lawe, please go
ask someone else.
The food that she's feeding you with,
to break you off fast.
Right?
You get in with the action by buying
the food,
right? As a father, as a husband,
as a son. This food that is being
brought, you are getting the reward inshallah for
because you are part of the process, and
they're going to be breaking their fast.
It's a here.
Number 5, and I really like this one.
May Allah as a will give you all
wives and husbands like this.
The husband's for the wife, not for you
guys. And
and the wife's for you guys.
I know things are changing here. It's getting
very very colorful but
the messenger salallahu alaihi wasallam he said,
Rahim Allahu Rajulan kamaminalayl.
May Allah azza wa jal have mercy upon
the man.
Wakes up in the night,
and then he plays.
And then
he also wakes up his wife.
Right?
If she refuses,
gets water,
and he dashes on her face.
Right? He sprinkles on her face.
What a wonderful husband.
May Allah bless all of you sisters with
a husband like that.
Say I mean sisters,
not you guys.
But,
messenger salallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
and may the mercy of Allah
be upon a woman.
Wakes up in the night, and then she
prays for salat.
And then she wakes up her husband.
And if he
refuses,
gets water and she sprinkles down his face.
Right?
My sister who might not be able to
go to the masjid, might not be able
to go to taraweeh,
encourage your brothers or your relatives, wake them
up.
Get them to engage because
anytime you help
in an act of worship, my brothers and
my sisters,
you are getting the reward for it.
Right?
You are going to get the
reward for
it.
Right? The one who directs to good, it
is as if he's doing it as well.
Are you provinces with me? You are getting
the rewards for engaging
in helping others to do that good.
Number 6, forgiveness. Again, you don't need to
be on your menses.
Sorry, you don't need to be off your
menses to forgive.
And number 7, charity, guys.
That's 7 points for my
sister whom I think that she
is missing out on Ramadan.
And I advise you guys to do this
guys.
Set up a standing order
of maybe
couple of quid
coming out of your bank account
everyday of the month of Ramadan.
And you can't do everyday of the month
of Ramadan for the last 10 nights. Set
us something up,
and it's coming out without even realizing it's
not putting a hole in your pocket.
Are you provinces with me?
Right.
May Allah
bless every single one of you.
Last point. Last point, guys.
This is extremely, extremely, extremely important,
and I want everyone to listen.
Why is it
that outside the month of Ramadan,
I don't have the same
energy.
I don't have the same zeal.
Because remember guys, the month of Ramadan
is not just a one hit wonder.
I only do whatever I have to do
in the month of Ramadan, and then after
the month of Ramadan, we hang up our
boots and we retire it.
Oh, guys.
The way I look at the month of
Ramadan
like a boot camp,
right?
What happens when you go to a boot
camp, you train,
And then after that you're what? Sorted for
life, right?
Or I might look at the month of
Ramadan as someone who is starting
this new workplace.
He has to do training for 2 weeks,
and they're paying you for it as well.
Are they paying you for 2 weeks just
so you could leave the job? I know
some of you guys do that.
Some of you guys just go for the
training, you slouch around,
take the money and assalamualaikum
next job training.
Doesn't wanna work. But they're paying you so
that you could get the job done.
That you hit the ground running after.
Ramadan is like that. It's a boot camp.
It's meant to what? Introduce new habits into
your life and to remove bad ones.
Right?
There are 2 kinds of people
in the month of Ramadan.
The first kind, my brothers and my sisters,
who use the month of Ramadan
as
a stepping stone.
A sister might start wearing hijab.
She was not a hijabi prior to that,
and then you begin to look at her
as a Ramadan Muslim.
Look at her. She only wears hijab in
the month of Ramadan.
That's how you start looking at people, right?
Or a brother who started practicing,
started coming into the masjid in the month
of Ramadan, you go, look at him, he
only comes,
Only comes month of Ramadan.
Where is he for the rest of the
year and then backbiting with taraweeh time?
This person's situation is excellent.
Like I said, month of Ramadan is a
stepping stone.
The scene has been set for you now
to become a better person.
And then you have another type of individual
guys.
Right?
Who says you know what, I'm gonna stay
away from my boyfriend,
when I cut him off.
And then, and likewise girlfriend, and the opposite.
Equal rights guys,
They stay away from Haram
throughout the whole month
and then,
brothers, this is very very important and sisters,
and we see it year in year out.
Last and nice are the greatest nice of
the year.
Greatest nights of the year.
What are we doing in the last 10
nights? We are planning
we are planning the filth and the evil
that we want to engage in on the
day of Eid.
We're booking out the hotels in these last
10 nights.
We are renting our cars.
Right? We are getting ready to parties for
the day of Eid.
Sahih.
Which girl I'm going to meet and vice
versa?
Planning out when? In the last 10 nights
of Ramadan.
And then come the day of Eid.
Come the day
of Eid. Just ask lady who wrote,
The night before that,
as soon as soon as soon guys,
as the sun sets on the 30th night,
well as if you can see the shayatin
have been unleashed,
Well, the way people start behaving.
Belight out there brother and sister, and that's
so heartbreaking.
And then you're asking yourself,
why did my iman go down?
Why don't I feel the same?
Right?
That's midnight, and then you got what? On
your way to the salah.
Some of our sisters,
please don't take it the wrong way, but
it is as if we,
are dressing up on our way to a
fancy dress show,
or a fancy dress party.
Dressing to impress.
Some of us might not dress like that
inside of the house to the husband.
Who are we trying to impress?
On our way there, layers after layers after
layers, she becomes a different person.
BB cream this and powder that.
She's become a completely different person for who?
And we're addressing in so many
on the day of Eid guys. We should
be the day when we are what being
thankful to Allah aza wa jal. They allowed
us now to celebrate our hard work,
but what we throw it back in his
face.
And know either Kharaj Aminho.
Right?
As Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
fasiyamu alayhimardud.
Whoever fast the month of Ramadan he's telling
himself once Ramadan finish I'm gonna disobey Allah.
The fasting will be thrown in his face.
Wallahi brothers and sisters,
every single Eid,
every Eid I hear about someone who died
with alcohol in his mouth.
Every Eid, every Eid, either alcohol in his
mouth or he's jumping up and down in
the party,
right, or he's up to no good blasting
music inside of his car,
every single
Eid,
every Eid guys.
You're telling yourself, allahi, you know, I just
had Ramadan.
I did so well. Let me go and
enjoy myself.
Every aid, guys, I hear about it.
Please brothers
and sisters,
don't become someone who are mentioning in a
lecture
so and so happened to him.
Right?
Because of him not controlling himself on the
day of Eid. Don't become an Ibra for
the people, a lesson for them. Don't.
Your iman
just goes,
crashing down into the ground,
and that is because of the sins that
we carried out on the day of 8.
That day of 8 guys, you could either
make or break your Ramadan.
Right? And I'm sure a lot of us
have felt that in the past.
It wouldn't make sense to me why we
all feel like that. Many many years ago,
we'll have this conversation. Why? So we're different.
Right? Because on the day of Eid,
we're trying to enjoy ourselves. Allah didn't say
you can't.
Right? You can go into the restaurant. Go
enjoy yourself. Get together, but it's the haram
that you're not allowed.
Which then ends up destroying you spiritually guys.
Alright.
We have to finish, right?
Honestly brothers and sisters, I love you all
for the sake of Allah.
For attending and filling out the house
of Allah while it was snowy.
Right?
Please,
Mohammed Saidi said you guys have to attend
the rest of the conference.
Not just for this lecture guys.
Inshallah I'm hoping
Let me ask you guys a question.
Don't give me Mujammalah.
Just be honest with me. Do you feel
like this lecture has changed your perspective on
how we look on the month of Ramadan?
Put your hand up. You feel that?
You don't have to feel pressurized. I don't
pull people out. Where is the Hasin by
the way?
I met Hasin earlier. Where is the Hasin?
Is
he there?
Where is Yasin Yasin?
Is he hiring?
Yassin. Good day you came.
I caught him outside.
Good day you came.
Guys.
I'm really hoping that you change your perspective
inshallah.
Please brothers and sisters,
let's not walk out of this room.
Oh, it was just a lecture. I felt
great. Now, let me just go and do
whatever. This was a very practical
lecture that I just gave.
The video is going to be available. Please
guys,
go and implement it, write it down, and
make a change from today.
To quickly recap, we talked about getting that
paper
and writing down the sins,
and then what's causing me to fall into
these sins. We also mentioned
getting that paper
and writing down some of the things that
I want to implement
from now, having that schedule, and the schedule
really really helps.
Right?
May Allah ajazawajah bless you all. If Allah
does not reunite us in this dunya, I
ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to reunite us
in the hereafter,
in the highest part of Aljannah.
May Allah Azza wa Jal bless you all.