Abu Bakr Zoud – Excellence Towards Parents, A Royal Decree

Abu Bakr Zoud

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The great and small royal decrees from above give riders the option to show excellence and being beautiful towards their parents. They also discuss the importance of observeing relationships between Allah and their parents, socialization of Islam among people, and the importance of finding one's relationship with one's parents as a foundation for one's success in Islam. The speakers stress the importance of finding one's relationship with their parents as a foundation for one's success in Islam, finding one's relationship with their parents as a foundation for one's success in Islam, and learning to handle tough situations. They also stress the importance of humility and gratitude in achieving success in life, showing gratitude towards parents and individuals, and humility towards the creator.

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			In Alhamdulillah
		
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			Allah, Allah, wa Wai shadow
		
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			la hora, Sula, hufa defensa, frozen of Lima, from samama modify nos da Cunha de kita, la, la la la
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			To her wakulla modesetting beta wakulla be dottin, Allah Allah, Allah Allah Allah Tim phenol adjani
La Jolla, camino Neri from above. All praise and thanks belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And may
the peace and blessing of Allah be upon his servant and final messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam as to follows my dear respected brothers in Islam. Today we want to speak about a royal
decree, a decree and an order and an a commandment that came from above. It came from Allah subhanho
wa Taala, from the master from the kings of all kings, and this royal decree. This commandment was
mentioned many times in the Quran, and the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and
		
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			this is the commandment of Allah said Ellen Whaley. They in the commandment of showing excellence
and being beautiful and showing goodness towards one's parents. And neglecting this commandment,
neglecting this decree, neglecting this order of Allah subhanho wa Taala is a major sin. It is a sin
that can feel the skills of a person sins upon sins, the size of mountains, until he dooms him and
destroys him in this life before the next as colossal Allahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned, my brothers
in Islam. from among the most famous passages in the Quran, is the passage that is known as a
Messiah, the 10 commandments, and these 10 Commandments were originally given to Musa alayhis salam,
		
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			as they were revealed in October.
		
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			And these 10 Commandments were so huge and big of a deal that Allah subhanho wa Taala also revealed
them total solar loss on alone while he was alone. And they became a part of the Quran in which we
read until the last day. They were mentioned in brief in Surah 10 and I am and then Allah subhanho
wa Taala. He mentioned them in extra detail in Surah Al Salam. And this is the passage in Romans
suparna, who Allah begins it by saying wakaba buka Allah tabuteau illa? Yeah, well, Bill Wiley, the
center, this passage is known as
		
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			the 10 commandments. And this is the passage that mentions many different types of relationships
that a person is involved in a lot of soil in this passage, he speaks about relationship, regarding
himself, our relationship with Allah. Our relationship with our parents is mentioned in this
passage, our relationship with relatives with people, our relationship with the poor and the orphan
and the needy, our relationship with people in business, and so on. This entire passage mentions
different relationships were supposed to have. And why am I saying this? Because it is important to
observe. And the very first lesson we're going to learn is that we observe the ordered arrangement
		
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			in how Allah subhanho wa Taala arrange these relationships for large social, he began by mentioning
our relationship with him first, and then our relationship with our parents. In other words, the
second strongest relationship a person is supposed to have is with his parents, Allah azzawajal
begins the passage, and he says, wakaba bukanlah taboo. Illa will be lonely they need Santa and your
Lord he decreed, he commanded and he ordered that none shall be worshipped but him that is the first
relationship that you're supposed to observe and look after your relationship with Allah subhanho wa
Taala and that no one is worried.
		
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			But him and then he said, and we also commended him below validating Cernan excellence towards his
parents, that you shall be the very best towards your parents. The air began with the word war Cabo
wakaba it comes from the word Cabo to decrease something. Jani alcova is a royal decree, huge metal,
that a lot of soldiers didn't even say what bucur aleteia Budo Illa. Yeah, he said what it is Aqaba
is a kind of decree that is handed down and laid down by a judge. And there is no argument after the
case is sealed and the case is closed. The word wakaba is huge. Already before we enter the passage,
a lot of socialists saying Don't you dare, don't you dare argue, after these rules are going to come
		
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			down and what I tell you to do, and what kind of relationships you're supposed to maintain and keep
connected and keep together. That's the word we'll cover. So panela as though
		
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			as though the parents have complained to Allah subhanho wa Taala they standing outside the doors and
the courts of Allah subhanho wa Taala and a lot of social has responded to the complaint and he sent
down these laws and he sent down the verdict normal argument after it and let Abu Illa Yeah, that
you shall not enslave yourself to none but him will be loyally dainius and and, and being the very
best to your parents. Now. My brothers in Islam. These two matters are always mentioned in the Quran
right after each other. You find in sola tillbaka Allah subhanho wa Taala he says, What is his name
ether Kobani sala de la buena Illa ma le the near Santa, these two that is always mentioned to
		
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			worship Allah and then to be the very best to your parents. A lot of socialization Surah Nisa wobbu
la weather to Sri cohesion will be Lally the near Santa once again. In Surah Al Anam Allah socially
cesspool
		
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			bukem la Kamala to Shinjuku. And what Bill Wally the near Santa, lot of socialism sort of in the
levina call buena la fool Mr. como una de Mola Houma saloon. This is an island where a lot of
socialist teaching us to worship Him. And then the after it was sinal insanity rally the center, we
can under the person to be the very best to use parents. Even in the stories of prophets. You find
in the story of Isa Allah His salam, as soon as he speaks the first words he says, He says in me
Abdullah, Attorney Al Kitab, which Allah Nina BIA, then he says, He says after this, what oh, Sonny
just saw that he was seconded, madam to hire, that a lot of soldiers commanded me to establish the
		
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			prayer and give this account. What's that? That is the worship of Allah, then straight after what?
liberty and he commanded and enjoined upon me that I shall be the very best to my mother because he
had no father. Look, man alehissalaam when he gave advice to your son, he said to me, I've been a
lead to shriek biller, do not associate partners with Allah. In other words, worship Allah alone.
The street after that is Allah subhanho wa Taala seeing what was sinal insanity well today, how
Allah to Allah one that we can ended enjoyed upon the person, that he shall be the very best to use
parents. And then a lot of social explains who the mother is in your life. Now my brothers in Islam,
		
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			with all of these examples I gave you, it begs the question, why are these two things always
mentioned right after each other, worshipping Allah, and being the very best to your parents, and
		
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			they mentioned certain things. Number one, they say that Allah is the Creator. He brought you into
existence, and your parents are the direct reason for your existence. Without your parents after the
permission of Allah, you wouldn't have existed. Therefore they mentioned right next to each other.
Number two, Allah he's the one who initially bestows his blessings upon you, even though you didn't
do any good before to deserve any blessings, and the parents, they are the ones who show your
blessings and show excellence towards you. Even though you haven't done any goodness to them before
to deserve a large number three, Allah subhanho wa Taala is merciful towards you, and you are in
		
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			desperate need of him. subhanho wa Taala and the same case goes with the parents. They are merciful
towards you from the very beginning and you are in desperate need of them, otherwise you will
perish. Number four, Allah subhanho wa Taala continues his goodness towards you. As you grow up, he
continues his goodness towards you. And he doesn't expect any payment from you in return. And the
parents the same matter. They continue their goodness towards you as you
		
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			You grew up, and they do not expect any repayment from you for support Allah. This is one of the
reasons for why Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned these two things right next to each other. When
Mr. Milan mentioned one Mo, and this is an important one so that we can figure out what kind of
relationship we're supposed to have. And why do our relationship with our parents suffer and the
lack of love, he said that a lot of social mentioned that we worship Him alone. And then he
mentioned that we be the very best our parents right next to each other, because one leads to
another
		
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			that if your relationship with a lover is good, then automatically and naturally, your relationship
with your parents is going to be the very best. So this is how you measure that if your relationship
with your parents is faulty, it's bad, it's neglectful, it's ruined. That definitely means there's
something between you and Allah subhanho wa Taala. Rush and rectify your relationship with Allah,
and natural consequence of that, that you will find yourself humble towards your parents, and being
the very best towards your parents. My brothers in Islam will be lonely, they need certain goodness
to the parents, while learning. The second strongest relationship you're supposed to have in this
		
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			life is to your parents after Allah subhanahu wa Tada. Who would disagree to that, who would dare to
disagree to this, when you are only a sperm cell in your mother's womb. That's how you began a
sperm. So in your mother's womb, you were eating from her flesh and sucking from her blood. And as
she ate everything, you're the one that was being nourished by everything that she ate. And Jani
when your bones began to develop the mother, and she is taking anything that contained calcium in
it, as your bones were developing, calcium stops going to the mother, and it redirect straight to
you so that your bones can form and grow strong. How dare someone say that, but there is 123 with my
		
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			parents that don't agree with and as a result, these are the issues that are occurring. So Pamela,
after you set in your mother's lap, and after you set in your father's lap for ease and ease, where
are you going to leave? What are you going to go? What are these problems that you come up with? And
my parents are this and but they don't understand. So how the law in these IR theories guidance in
how we're supposed to deal with our parents, let's listen, a man from Yemen, and then from Yemen
came to Mecca to perform tawaf and he was carrying his mother on his back. You can imagine in the
heat in the desert, going seven times around the Kaaba, having his mother on his back, he saw the
		
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			normal of the Allahu anhu. And he said to him, yep, no
		
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			need to do a fatal haka. He said, Oh, please. Do you think that I have paid her back for the
goodness that she's done with this kind of load on carrying on my back? further than normal of the
Allahu anhu. He said to him, Well,
		
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			this entire carrying of her from Yemen, all the way to Makkah, and then power seven times around,
the governor did not even repay one contract. You had one kind of contraction she had when she was
carrying you. So how to love what Bill Wiley they need Cerner
		
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			what Bill Wiley Dini. Cernan means especially when it comes to the parents, you better be the very
best than the law of social said what Bill Wiley, they said and, and originally in Arabic, we were
expecting what son and Bill were leading us expecting that in Arabic, but Allah azza wa jal converts
them. And he says what Bill Wiley they in first and then he said, and second. what that implies in
Arabic is exclusivity, or its specialized is something in other words, when we want to translate
what Bill Wiley dainius and it will mean, and especially when it comes to the parents, you better be
the very best, you know what that means. In other words, you can be the very best to your boss, you
		
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			can be the very best to your friends. You can be the very best co worker, you can be the very best
to your children, and the very best to your wife, but a lot of social he says that's good, but
especially when it comes to the parents. That's where the very best of Nana's is supposed to be
seen. Bill Wiley Dini. sannan, San Juan Allah, my brothers in Islam.
		
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			This is why the hammer home Allah they said, anything. Listen to this carefully. anything short of
the very best to the parents is a sin. Allah repeated. anything short of the very best towards the
parents is a crime is a sin that a person owns a sin for and you'll be accountable for it on the Day
of Judgment. Listen to the story that also de la Sol Allahu Allah. Allah mentions he says
		
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			embedding yourself in. There were three men that were trapped in a cave. The story is long that I'm
just going to focus on the first person so we can learn.
		
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			He said three people were trapped in a cave. They entered a cave, and he closed up. So that means
there is no communication. They don't have any mobile phones. No one knows where they are. They are
stuck in certain depth. They will die soon. If no one comes and sees them. There is no WhatsApp.
There's no video course they can make done cut out of this lonely life. No one knows about their
existence and their whereabouts. So they asked each other What are we supposed to do? So one of them
said, Let's make dua to Allah through our righteous good deeds, that perhaps Allah open it as a
result, good ID. So the first person makes it and he says Allahumma
		
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			in who can only abolishing Hanukkah beyond Bian Welcome to La La Houma. mela, he said Allah, he when
he took a corner, listen to this. It will teach you what it means to be good to the parents. He said
all along.
		
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			I had to old age parents. His parents were really old in age, his mother and father, YALI, they're
very close to the grave.
		
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			Allah, He began his way out like this, as though he's saying, I acknowledge that there are two doors
of the paradise open right before me, the door of the Paradise is only 1.5 meters away from you. It
is under the feet of the mother and the father. This is where it is.
		
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			mentioned, he realizes the greatness of having old parents, young, it's a disaster and a calamity.
If you don't have old parents, this is how a mama would see all parents as an opportunity to be
granted the paradise and granted mountains and mountains of good deeds. He said all along, I had two
old parents. And I did not feed anyone in my family, nor my wife or my children, nor my slaves
before them. I didn't feed anyone. He's making a very clear message this person. He's making a very
clear message. He's saying I did not feed anyone from my family before them. In other words, his
message is to say that no one comes before my father and mother. No one at all. Look, my brothers in
		
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			Islam. You might love your children and your wife more than your parents. But you need to make that
clear message to your parents that no one comes before them. This is what he's doing. When he said
no one will drink milk before my parents.
		
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			And he said was superior to
		
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			the hormone. He went into his parents. They were sleeping and he's holding the bowl of milk and his
children are crying at his foot. Now, you know Subhan Allah, Allah, Allah azza wa jal placed in the
parents, that as soon as their children are crying, or they're hungry, the emergency alarm rings in
your mind, and you will go out of your way to do anything to look after him. Look at this man. He's
saying that his children are crying at his feet. And he's still carrying the ball of milk. And he's
not going to give them anything, because no one will drink before his parents spout alarm. Yeah, he
gives them half the milk, nothing. Make it a clean message that no one comes before the parents. He
		
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			could have given him half the milk. But he's not doing that. Then he said,
		
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			Well,
		
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			he said, so I stood at the head, carrying the bowl of milk. Wake him up. I don't want to wake them
up. Because if I wake them up, maybe I disturb them. And as a result, they won't be able to sleep
after that. You sit down. You've been working all day. I don't want to sit. I'm going to remain
standing right here to give a clean message. This is the kind of goodness he had towards his
parents.
		
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			You have sleeves. Make one of your sleeves standard the head and go sleep no. None of my sleeves
will stand. I will do it. It's an honor for me. It's an opportunity for me. I will stand at their
head. And he stood there waiting them to wake up until Virgil. Once and Fisher came in. They woke up
for soccer. And I gave them their hubback their milk and they began to drink from it. My brothers in
Islam Yanis hanamaki is not only spent in solid, this is a form of clear Malaysia
		
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			as an adult Salafi Allahu anhu he said that his mother asked for water once he went to her and she
found her sleeping. So he stood there until sonetel fisher of sunlight and fish it and then he gave
her the water
		
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			To drink, and some of the righteous of the past, they would say, I spent the entire night at the
foot of my mother and a PR service. And my brother spent the entire night in Salatu Lail praying.
And he said, and I wouldn't for a second prefer his night over my night. So Pamela dishpan in the
cave, he made this slide. And he said,
		
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			if I did that, for your sake, if that righteous deed was done for your sake, my love and my
obedience or my goodness towards my parents, if it was done for your sake, then move this boulder
and open it up. And Allah subhanahu wa tada opened up the cave a little bit. And they saw the sky.
They saw relief. My brothers in Islam, Jani. So Pamela, when, when Thailand when when boys in the
Thailand cave got trapped, the entire world came to the rescue. 7 billion people on the face of this
earth came to the rescue. And they didn't know how to do it until after a few days went by. Here
we're learning that power build rule. While it ain't goodness to the parents has such a power that
		
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			it would move a boulder. It would move difficulties in your life. To the point where you'll see
light, you'll see the sky, you'll see relief. So Pamela, how many boulders exists in our life, that
would be opened up if you were to kiss the forehead of your parents, and how many boulders exist in
your life that would open up if you were to serve them, clean their clothes, and shine their shoes.
In other words, when a person has difficulties in life,
		
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			perhaps most of the times, it's because of your relationship with your parents. This is the first
one that this person made. And relief came to Panama. When I recall on this moment. And in this
Limbo, a friend of mine who flew Panama so you can understand. A friend of mine once he told me a
story. He said
		
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			that he had a soccer game to go to, you know as youth as young men house once you have a soccer game
or a sport you want to go they care about the world. So he wanted to go to the soccer game. And his
father stopped him. And he said to him, wait, you cannot leave until you rake the leaves beside the
fence. Go to the fence, rake the leaves. Once you're done, you can go to your soccer game. He got
frustrated and upset Danny and I got a game please don't do it later. He said now anyway, of small
argument Fine, fine, my dad, I'm going to go rake the leaves. So he went and he began to rake the
leaves. And as he's raking the leaves, he said I saw something shining. Besides the fence. He
		
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			approached it. And he happened to be his key. Also para la. He said we thought that key, I wouldn't
have been able to turn on this car and go to the soccer game. So Panama, something as small as that.
We need to understand excellence towards the parents. Obedience towards the parents is going to
reveal relief difficulties in your life. A lot of so shall he says what Bill while he said the word
sannan. It came with it. And when
		
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			they said this, then when it implies in every aspect of life they're supposed to be in your words.
They're supposed to be excellence in your behavior. They're supposed to be excellence in your
actions. They're supposed to be excellence in your patients. They're supposed to be excellence
towards your parents. anything short of the very best in any aspect of life is going to be a sin. In
my ablon nine the kebab, Kibera, Houma, Oklahoma, Fela top Allahumma of Allah azza wa jal, he says,
If either one of them or both of them were to read old age at your place, then do not say to them,
Jani. Why? Because when parents grow at old age, their demands and requests become more and more. So
		
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			as a result, the possibility of coming out of you is going to increase more and more.
		
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			He says, Do not say to them off at that moment. My brothers in Islam the word off is a word. Your
parents could have said towards you a million times when you were growing up. When they were feeding
you when they were changing your clothes, when they were changing your nappies. When you were in
your mother's womb, when they spent time and effort and money upon you, every moment they could have
set off against you. But they decided not to say it. So Allah subhanho wa Taala teaches you don't
you dare say it towards them. When not once they said it towards you, fanatic Allahumma often when
		
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			they said if there was a word less than off, Allah would have forbid us from seeing it. But it's
nothing less than all of
		
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			that imagine the one that swears that his parents imagine the one that swears at his parents.
		
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			Imagine the one that hits his parents. Imagine the one that raises his voice and his parents a law
he's telling you don't say off, and you're acting in this manner. What kind of punishment Oh, it's
such a person, fanatic, Allahumma vallotton Haruna and do not disappoint them. Do not upset them.
		
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			Do not annoy them
		
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			Do not be a river of insult in their faces. You're not an error that comes from the word na. Na is a
flowing river. There are some people that would stand before their parents and keep on talking back
talking back talking that until their parents before them would just decide to walk away. A lot of
social says do not be a river of insult before them. You know a river, when it flows strong after a
flood. What happens? It doesn't leave anything in its path, except it destroys it. A lot of socially
saying Don't be that person before your parents. When I talk to him, I often wonder
		
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			why? Why can I say off to my parents? And why can I upset them? Why? Why? Because this is considered
validation. It's considered rebellion against the parents, and for such is a bad and a major sin in
the vehcile Allahu alayhi wa sallam he says, I don't like vanilla hoomin himself and one other three
types of people. A lot of soldiers will not accept the single beat from them. Nothing of the obliga
tracks, nothing of the voluntary acts, and he mentioned the first one and
		
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			the one who is disciplined, disrespectful towards his parents. Whenever you sal Allahu alayhi wa
sallam he says in a hadith
		
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			don't lay on buruma who lay him Yeoman Kava, three types of people. Allah will not look at them on
the Day of Judgment, meaning they do not own a loss mercy on the Day of Judgment. And he mentioned
number one, Allah led to one who's disrespectful and rebellious towards his parents. When Nabi
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the same Hadith, certain layer kulula agenda, they do not enter
the paradise three types of people. And he said Allah once again, and this repetition implies
severity and danger towards this major sin. When
		
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			rebellion against the parents is from the minor signs of the hour. And the VESA lamola yo salami
says in the hadith of Allah, Allahu anhu, that if 15 things were to happen in this ummah, Allah
punishment will come down. And he mentioned and for among these 15, he said, Well, upper lusatia,
who, when the man begins to obey his wife, and as a result,
		
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			he begins to become rebellious towards his mother. Because of his obedience to His wife, he
preferred his wife over his mother. As a result, he rebelled against his mother. The fourth one, he
said, well done Ruby. So the T, and the one who shows excellence towards his friend was for who
		
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			he says was alpha. And he was dried to his father, he neglected and turned away from his father. He
can show goodness to everyone, but his mother and father that is meant to serve from the minus signs
if these were to happen, a lot of social promised that his punishment would come down very soon, my
brothers in Islam, how many Muslims around the world today are standing outside the courts, with
their case prepared against their mother and father, because of a home because of a house because of
somebody because of some stupid worldly thing is standing outside the courts? Taking the parents
stood Subhanallah for my brothers in Islam, let's understand
		
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			what they need sanan rebellion against the parents is a crime. And let me just mention on this
point, that what about if a person actually complains from very tough parents? How do you deal with
tough parents? There is there are parents that are tough that you can you cannot even live with
them? How do you deal with him? Or him or her mama, they said,
		
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			a sabudana they're human in our family, for people that have very bad parents, and wish to do good
to their parents, and said that the greatest goodness they could do is being patient,
		
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			before they difficulties and they insults and their hardness and their toughness, exercise patience,
before their toughness, and this is the greatest of Bill. So if they scream at you, or they swear at
you, or whatever it is, you remain patient, and your patience will be counted as your excellence
towards them. The whatever in the case where and we have this a lot our youth would say
unfortunately my parents did not accept
		
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			Then I made a tober and I begin to pray at the masjid and, and hamdulillah now I have a bead, this
is this is a problem as well, this is a problem, they go back and they say Alhamdulillah they go to
their parents, and they say Finally, I found the righteous man and Allahu Akbar, my mother, you
should have seen this person. We read together any fasts, there is any praise the knights and and
they are expecting from your mother to clap for you. Instead, she says it's a masiva. This is a
disaster. When you go back home and you say I heard a lesson today, Allahu Akbar, well, I was a
killer. What do you expect from your parents, too? So some parents would be annoyed by this? isn't
		
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			how, as a young youth, trying to establish his team correctly in the home? How do you behave with
your parents, when they are unaccepting of this kind of attitude and behavior? You need to
understand my brothers in Islam, that you're supposed to be smart. Number one, be smart.
		
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			Don't tell them about the things that I went to the machine. I heard this. And I heard that and I
made friends with it. But don't say this stuff. They don't want to hear it. Don't say it. Be smart
and wise. Number two, don't be confronting. Can you walk into the house, my sister, you need to
		
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			walk into my Dad, you're supposed to stop shaving your beard. When my mother wants this kind of
clothing around. Don't be like that. That's unacceptable. Don't accept that. Of course your parents
are going to rebel against you. Be smart, be wise. And the first thing you change of yourself in the
house is your manners. That's the first thing you're supposed to change. You come back to the home
		
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			and you clean the clothes, do something extraordinary you've never done before.
		
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			Because people generally love good manners from anyone, whether it was from a Kaffir whether it was
from someone else, generally people have good manners. Imagine it came from you as a child. You go
on date to your parents, and you say father, today I want to call my Auntie's and my uncles from
overseas, and
		
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			watch this Deen that you follow where you hang out with these things that you've learned from. It'll
give a good impression. And realize and understand that perhaps you are the one who has established
the dean in his life. And perhaps you're the only member in the family that such remember that
you're the shining beam in the house, you're going to be the source of guidance to everyone
misguided in the family. And just like a shining bulb is very sensitive. Be very careful. A light
bulb just with a flick, it'll crack. Don't break yourself. Be that shining source of light. Change
your manners first, do things that you've never done in the house, clean your clothes, shine your
		
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			parents shoes, pay the bills, do something change your character. As a result, you're accepted. And
then your change is accepted. When the vehcile Allahu alayhi wa sallam he said is stuck. You stuck
on become very famous, powerful Hadith. Authentic is the key when you first change you bring the
goodness upon yourself. You stuck on become people around you change people around you with adopt
the good character and the obedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala if you were to do it first these are
the ayat and the guidance that a lot of social teaches us What about a book Allah tabula? Yeah,
well, Bill Wiley, they need a certain image my cover how to Houma, Oklahoma, Oklahoma. Why Latin
		
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			Houma. wakulla Houma Colin Karima speak noble words, soft words compassionate kind words, Wofford
lahoma Janelle has really made a law and law of the wings of humility to them out of mercy, lower
the wings, you know, wings for birds and the birds they fly with their wings. In other words, a lot
of socially saying, that is acknowledging that you might have power over your parents. You can fly
above them, you can slam the door in their face, you can hang up in their face, you can do it. But
Allah is saying the
		
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			law of the wings of humility, out of mercy just like they showed you mercy, lower them. Zhanna
Hassan Managua. What does that mean? mean serve them. When you go when as married people, when you
go back to your parents, don't wait for them to bring the food out and to serve you. You go and
serve them. When you get to the house after your marriage. You go in there with your kids and you
wait expect to her mother to put the food and to bring the tea and to bring you do that. Once you
lower the wings out of humility. Humble yourself, humiliate yourself before your parents. You bring
them this kind of stuff you serve them.
		
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			And on top of all this, once you've served them, don't think that was too much. At the end the
losses will
		
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			come out of burning sahira with all of this kind of goodness. add on top of it for them as well.
doesn't stop. Goodness to the parents doesn't have a limit. It doesn't have a limit. It's open. The
door is open just like the doors of the paradise.
		
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			Open. There is no limit for anything. That's good do it. Welcome Rob Bell hamama say Allah, bestow
Your mercy upon them, just like they showed me mercy when I was young. Walker Rob Bell, who McNamara
Baroness O'Hara, finally my brothers in Islam and hammer home Allah, they said that Allah subhanho
wa Taala mentions in the Quran, and it's called Lee Valley Valley, they show gratitude to me and to
your parents show gratitude to Allah and to your parents. How do you achieve that, especially for
those who their parents have died? People whose parents have died, they assume that the door of
goodness to their parents has closed, it's come to an end wrong. Actually, the most sincere kind of
		
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			goodness to the parents happens after their death. Because now it's since he maybe you should
goodness towards your parents during their life. You wanted to hear good vibe from them, some kind
words, some appreciation, but after the death, no one has you got to love. And no one sees you about
a law. And your parents after their death are in most need of your goodness towards them, that you
remember them in a dryer, that you remember him in a photo that you remember him in a prayer. Don't
forget the mother, that so long as she carried you, and looked after you and prepared your meal, and
put it before you every day, that later on when you grow and she is dead. Every time meal and a food
		
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			is placed before you is supposed to motivate you to get up and go feed and often go feed the needy
to feed someone, Paul, and don't forget the father, who looked after you, and perhaps left your
fortune in this life. And if not, he left your good reputation. Don't forget this stuff. So you
remember him as he's in the darkness of the grief. And the grief is tight. As he's in it. You
remember him he knows what you make. And this is counted towards them. Goodness towards them. How
many do I a person did towards his parents? Allah subhanho wa Taala opened up the grief and
illuminated for them just because of the drama of a righteous son. for newbies Allahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam. As a homeowner they mentioned that a lot of supervision wants us to show gratitude to him
and to her parents. How do we do this? And Ola hammer home in LA they said, Man sala de la Vallee De
		
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			La Hoya Chicago Leo LED. Anyone who prays has shown gratitude to Allah, and anyone who makes it to
his parents has shown gratitude towards his parents. For after every salette you make for your
parents are Bill fieldly while you led or bilham who may come out of bed in Sahara. With that being
a toddler you have achieved gratitude to Allah and showing gratitude to your parents or loved one
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cantata about the law in the law.
		
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			What about when how and in fact Shay
		
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			la la, la la skokomish guru who had any I mean, he is it kumana the Corolla jaquar
		
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			own