Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Wives, Please Just Let Him Be
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This is one of the complaints. He comes home from work. He doesn't
want to speak to me.
This is women.
He comes home from work. He just sits there. Sometimes he's in
front of the TV. Sometimes he's on the internet, or he just lays on
his bed. He doesn't want to speak to me.
That's men for you.
Men need time off. Women like to chat a lot. Men just sometimes
need silence. They just don't want to talk to anybody. It doesn't
mean they hate you. I'm just telling you, unless, unless you,
you know, I'm not speaking about extreme, certainly where they
don't ever talk to you. I'm talking about that one hour. Or
that sometimes Sometimes you ask them a question.
Sometimes wife will come and ask me a question. I'm like, I'll tell
you later, it just got no time to go over it again. It's not because
you don't like them, because you're not interested in telling
them.
You can't talk about the same way men can't talk about the same
thing over and over again. So I'll tell you later.
Now, if the wife isn't understanding of the men's nature,
they think she's just like every other woman she knows. He told me,
I'll tell you everything. Right? She's gonna feel really bad.
That's why I said Men Are From Mars in this case. Just understand
that it will deal with what should you do in that situation? I asked
my wife this. In fact, she gave me this idea. What should you do in
this situation?
She's done the sessions before for someone. So she says that this is
what I tell them that women like to chat more. They just can't
understand the husband wanting silence timeout for a while.
What they should do is instead of not bothering and nagging him like
what's your problem? Are you upset with me? Come on, tell me. Are you
upset with me? No, I'm not upset with you. I just want some time
off. They just don't get it. They think they upset. So instead of
just give him a little massage or something, right, and just go
away.
Go and find somebody else to talk to.
Seriously, that's what my way is gone. Find somebody else to talk
to. If you really want to talk, right? Just leaving for a while.
But after about half an hour, one hour, it'll be all fine. Don't go
off in a half hour. He's not talking to me. So I'm not going to
talk to you now. Don't ever do that. So don't just ignore them
and walk away as though you're upset. Give them Okay, no problem.
You must be tired. Whatever, I'll go away. Right? I'll see you soon.
Men just need time to them themselves.
How do you deal with women that talk a lot them?
I'm not stereotyping. I'm not stereotyping. These are just
serious issues.
Personally, I've learned to multitask.
I'm on the camera. I'm doing some work. And you know if your wife is
talking to you, and if you're just saying yes, yes. They will ask you
like, what did I just say? Right? And you'll be like, Sorry, what
did you say?
So you have to learn to multitask.
What I do generally in that situation is that if I know
something is demands my full attention, there's a question
that's come in or something like that. I'll just let me deal with
this one first, and then I'll listen to you. I personally
learned to multitask if that's your situation. But don't ever
pretend you're listening to them when you're not listening to them.
And then after that, maybe you know you can just say yes, no
whatever and just just you'd have to do the best in that situation
if they want to just talk to
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