Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Wives, Please Just Let Him Be

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speaker describes a woman who wants to speak to a man, but the man doesn't want to speak to her. The speaker suggests that men need time off and that women like to chat a lot. The speaker also talks about a situation where a woman wants to deal with a man who talks too much and advises the speaker to not ignore him.

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			This is one of the complaints. He
comes home from work. He doesn't
		
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			want to speak to me.
		
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			This is women.
		
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			He comes home from work. He just
sits there. Sometimes he's in
		
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			front of the TV. Sometimes he's on
the internet, or he just lays on
		
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			his bed. He doesn't want to speak
to me.
		
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			That's men for you.
		
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			Men need time off. Women like to
chat a lot. Men just sometimes
		
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			need silence. They just don't want
to talk to anybody. It doesn't
		
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			mean they hate you. I'm just
telling you, unless, unless you,
		
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			you know, I'm not speaking about
extreme, certainly where they
		
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			don't ever talk to you. I'm
talking about that one hour. Or
		
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			that sometimes Sometimes you ask
them a question.
		
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			Sometimes wife will come and ask
me a question. I'm like, I'll tell
		
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			you later, it just got no time to
go over it again. It's not because
		
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			you don't like them, because
you're not interested in telling
		
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			them.
		
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			You can't talk about the same way
men can't talk about the same
		
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			thing over and over again. So I'll
tell you later.
		
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			Now, if the wife isn't
understanding of the men's nature,
		
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			they think she's just like every
other woman she knows. He told me,
		
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			I'll tell you everything. Right?
She's gonna feel really bad.
		
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			That's why I said Men Are From
Mars in this case. Just understand
		
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			that it will deal with what should
you do in that situation? I asked
		
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			my wife this. In fact, she gave me
this idea. What should you do in
		
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			this situation?
		
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			She's done the sessions before for
someone. So she says that this is
		
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			what I tell them that women like
to chat more. They just can't
		
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			understand the husband wanting
silence timeout for a while.
		
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			What they should do is instead of
not bothering and nagging him like
		
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			what's your problem? Are you upset
with me? Come on, tell me. Are you
		
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			upset with me? No, I'm not upset
with you. I just want some time
		
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			off. They just don't get it. They
think they upset. So instead of
		
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			just give him a little massage or
something, right, and just go
		
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			away.
		
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			Go and find somebody else to talk
to.
		
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			Seriously, that's what my way is
gone. Find somebody else to talk
		
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			to. If you really want to talk,
right? Just leaving for a while.
		
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			But after about half an hour, one
hour, it'll be all fine. Don't go
		
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			off in a half hour. He's not
talking to me. So I'm not going to
		
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			talk to you now. Don't ever do
that. So don't just ignore them
		
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			and walk away as though you're
upset. Give them Okay, no problem.
		
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			You must be tired. Whatever, I'll
go away. Right? I'll see you soon.
		
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			Men just need time to them
themselves.
		
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			How do you deal with women that
talk a lot them?
		
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			I'm not stereotyping. I'm not
stereotyping. These are just
		
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			serious issues.
		
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			Personally, I've learned to
multitask.
		
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			I'm on the camera. I'm doing some
work. And you know if your wife is
		
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			talking to you, and if you're just
saying yes, yes. They will ask you
		
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			like, what did I just say? Right?
And you'll be like, Sorry, what
		
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			did you say?
		
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			So you have to learn to multitask.
		
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			What I do generally in that
situation is that if I know
		
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			something is demands my full
attention, there's a question
		
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			that's come in or something like
that. I'll just let me deal with
		
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			this one first, and then I'll
listen to you. I personally
		
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			learned to multitask if that's
your situation. But don't ever
		
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			pretend you're listening to them
when you're not listening to them.
		
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			And then after that, maybe you
know you can just say yes, no
		
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			whatever and just just you'd have
to do the best in that situation
		
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			if they want to just talk to
		
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			bla