Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Wives, Please Just Let Him Be

This is one of the complaints. He comes home from work. He doesn't

want to speak to me.

This is women.

He comes home from work. He just sits there. Sometimes he's in

front of the TV. Sometimes he's on the internet, or he just lays on

his bed. He doesn't want to speak to me.

That's men for you.

Men need time off. Women like to chat a lot. Men just sometimes

need silence. They just don't want to talk to anybody. It doesn't

mean they hate you. I'm just telling you, unless, unless you,

you know, I'm not speaking about extreme, certainly where they

don't ever talk to you. I'm talking about that one hour. Or

that sometimes Sometimes you ask them a question.

Sometimes wife will come and ask me a question. I'm like, I'll tell

you later, it just got no time to go over it again. It's not because

you don't like them, because you're not interested in telling

them.

You can't talk about the same way men can't talk about the same

thing over and over again. So I'll tell you later.

Now, if the wife isn't understanding of the men's nature,

they think she's just like every other woman she knows. He told me,

I'll tell you everything. Right? She's gonna feel really bad.

That's why I said Men Are From Mars in this case. Just understand

that it will deal with what should you do in that situation? I asked

my wife this. In fact, she gave me this idea. What should you do in

this situation?

She's done the sessions before for someone. So she says that this is

what I tell them that women like to chat more. They just can't

understand the husband wanting silence timeout for a while.

What they should do is instead of not bothering and nagging him like

what's your problem? Are you upset with me? Come on, tell me. Are you

upset with me? No, I'm not upset with you. I just want some time

off. They just don't get it. They think they upset. So instead of

just give him a little massage or something, right, and just go

away.

Go and find somebody else to talk to.

Seriously, that's what my way is gone. Find somebody else to talk

to. If you really want to talk, right? Just leaving for a while.

But after about half an hour, one hour, it'll be all fine. Don't go

off in a half hour. He's not talking to me. So I'm not going to

talk to you now. Don't ever do that. So don't just ignore them

and walk away as though you're upset. Give them Okay, no problem.

You must be tired. Whatever, I'll go away. Right? I'll see you soon.

Men just need time to them themselves.

How do you deal with women that talk a lot them?

I'm not stereotyping. I'm not stereotyping. These are just

serious issues.

Personally, I've learned to multitask.

I'm on the camera. I'm doing some work. And you know if your wife is

talking to you, and if you're just saying yes, yes. They will ask you

like, what did I just say? Right? And you'll be like, Sorry, what

did you say?

So you have to learn to multitask.

What I do generally in that situation is that if I know

something is demands my full attention, there's a question

that's come in or something like that. I'll just let me deal with

this one first, and then I'll listen to you. I personally

learned to multitask if that's your situation. But don't ever

pretend you're listening to them when you're not listening to them.

And then after that, maybe you know you can just say yes, no

whatever and just just you'd have to do the best in that situation

if they want to just talk to

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