Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Whose Company not to Keep [Hikam 43]
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The host discusses the importance of finding people who inspire one's state and create a positive environment, as it is difficult to find good friends. The importance of finding people who speak the way Allah would be pleased and shun everything else is emphasized, along with the need for individuals to have a strong understanding of their spiritual path and be prepared for difficult experiences and challenges. The importance of sharia and Muslimeen in sharia culture is discussed, along with the need for guidance and forgiveness in every man's journey to cleanse and forgive everyone. forgiveness is seen as a means to cleanse and forgive everyone, and the speaker encourages people to accept guidance and use their true guidance to make their lives successful.
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with the hikma for today in our series on Ignatov Illa. Eskander
is HECM the book of wisdoms, so today it's, we're on starting
chapter 17 on companionship, which is a huge influence in our lives.
So here we're discussing what is a good companion, a good friend,
good company and what is bad company? So he's got a series of
beautiful wisdoms, right short, short, almost like tweets, right,
which describe these things in a beautiful way. So in the first
one, he says, Let us have Mala Yoon Hidaka Ha hoo hoo hoo Allah
you do Luca, Allah Allah He makalah who
it's so intuitive this one is let us have manleigh Yun Hidaka Ha hoo
Wallah you do Luca, Allah Allah He Mikado who do not keep the company
with anyone who state does not inspire you.
Do not be in the company of anybody whose state does not
inspire you, and whose speech does not lead you to Allah. So that's
quite simple. It's quite a simple idea.
So this is all about companionship, who should be your
companion who what kind of people should you have around you? What
kinds of people should you choose as your friends that you choose to
associate with that you choose to go out with that you choose to go
holiday with that you say choose to sit with you choose to work
with and I know that we can never be completely perfect in this
regard? Because it's so difficult to find good friends. Some people
lose all hope that they can't be any good people in the world and
sometimes you have to correct such people that there's only some good
people in the world.
Until
goodness will continue Inshallah, right?
They will always be good people. But we have to ask Allah if you
cannot find good people do not. Firstly, do not. You can say right
off everybody, because that's very dangerous. That's a very dangerous
attitude.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in other words, that
if, in the words of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, to
paraphrase, he said that if you consider that everybody else is
destroyed, they're all messed up, then you are the most messed up of
them all because of your vision, because of your perspective. So
don't ever think that but at the same time, we also know the
struggle of that everybody is not good. And we know this from
experience that sometimes we've learned bad things from people.
But that's difficult to find the right person. So in these wisdoms,
he's going to be talking about what kind of person you should
find. So may Allah give us an understanding of this and may
Allah allow us to find such people? So what does he mean by
manleigh Yun Hidaka Hulu,
and hello, Yun hello in Howard,
who doesn't inspire his state doesn't inspire you? What do you
mean by inspire you. So these are the things
a person he wants us to avoid people who when you see them, they
don't remind you of Allah.
Let us take it the other way around. That's kind of negative.
What kind of person should we be looking for? So essentially, the
person that who stayed should inspire us are people who when you
look at them, you remember ALLAH, and you just feel like remembering
Allah.
If you're ever in the state of heedlessness, when you see such a
person, you want to wake up and do something. You want to get out of
your heedlessness and you want to be productive.
Or if you're in a state
of wanting too much of the dunya too greedy. When you see such a
person, you want to pull back and you want to abstain, and you want
to suffice and you want to focus on the hereafter. So you don't
want to then utilize every one of your moments and every one of your
situation, your your energies and your your whatever Allah has given
you in your resources to just get the dunya but you're now focused
on abstention.
And then, if you're actually engaged in a sin,
seeing that person makes you do Toba and repentant makes you feel
remorseful.
When you see this person you feel like Oh man, I'm so sinful. I need
to make Toba. They give you hope. They don't. They don't they don't
they don't make you despondent.
they give you hope.
And
if you find, these are such people that when you see them you realize
how, how little you know about Allah subhanaw taala.
When you such see such people and you see their interaction with
Allah, what they say about Allah, the way they relate to Allah, then
you feel like you don't know anything about Allah. So he
inspires you and encourages you to learn more about Allah subhanaw
taala.
Those are the people that we should be with. And he's saying
that if somebody is not like that, then do not accompany them, Allahu
Akbar, I mean, who's going to pass in that, then the next part, which
he said
and whose speech does not lead you to God. So the first one is just
the state, just looking at their demeanor, their behavior, their
interaction, the way they lead their life, the way they interact
with others, the way they do their job, it could be a person at work,
the way they do their job is just so wonderful. So full of
character, so full of goodness, so full of beauty. Right? So then the
person's speech
should indicate towards Allah. So what does that mean? So that is
the person who, whenever they speak, they always referring to
Allah, they're speaking according to the way Allah would be pleased.
And what they say is always indicative, or is always
indicating towards Allah, it reminds you of Allah.
And it makes you want to shun everything else, to focus on Allah
and shun everything else.
When he speaks, when such a person speaks, he grips your hearts. For
the sake of Allah, there's people who grip your heart to do the
wrong. This is talking about a grips your heart and captivates
your heart. And you just want to just enjoy that moment. Because
he's making you remember Allah subhanaw taala is making is giving
you food nourishment, coatl collude nourishment of the heart.
If he's silent.
Then
his state reminds you even in his silent, he's not speaking, but in
his silence, he reminds you of the one who knows all the unseen.
So the idea then, how does that how's that going to be the case?
That means that even when he's silent when he's not seeing
anything, his state confirms whatever he says. So he doesn't do
differently, he doesn't say one thing and do another thing, but
his state is also a manifestation of whatever he preaches. So Makalu
Morphicon Lee, his statements, his words
and his dialogue are in accordance to his knowledge.
So, then, the commentary says for SORBA to mytheresa, IXXI Ron yuck
liberal.
If you find that person like this, it is such an elixir, it is.
so valuable and so powerful than that is what could actually change
and transform things from in their essence. So that is what he is
trying to say, that do not then accompany somebody whose state
does not inspire you. But in a company, somebody whose state does
is Aspire you, inspire you, and whose words lead you to Allah
subhanaw taala. So now, this is the basis of the soul. This is the
base of spirituality. This is what people are looking for, when
they're looking for a guide, a teacher, an instructor, a shake, a
motion, these are these are just the different names, right? This
is what the pizza was supposed to be. This is where it came from.
But unfortunately, the whole concept of pizza sometimes is
taken on a very negative role among people because of the abuse
that disposition can sometimes bring about with it in the non
scrupulous individuals and I don't have to go through that again.
We've got a whole series on the zamzam. academy.com which
discusses all of that in detail as to what it really supposed to be.
But really, that's what it is. It's about the company because
Allah subhanaw taala says, Yeah, you will Adina Manu Kumar,
Tsadikim.
Right, be with the truthful ones, who state and whose words are the
same Coonawarra Bernie, be those associated to the Lord.
That's what Allah tells us to do.
So
generally speaking, when we're left to our own devices,
except for the very
A few people who are so connected to Allah through the Quran,
otherwise, it's going to be very difficult. That's why good company
is variable because humans are social creatures. So that's why
you need that. That's why he's encouraging this, that make sure
your friends and your associates, your surrounding people are good.
That's why some people said manleigh, che holla, HuFa,
shaytaan, O'Shea, who who, whoever doesn't have a spiritual guide
like that, then shaytaan becomes that guide, because a lone sheep
is always going to be a hazard.
That's why somebody else said that alone Insan.
A freelancer like them, right? They are like
a tree that doesn't grow in an orchard, because in an orchard,
you expect that somebody is going to attend to those trees, and
they're going to look after you, they're going to prune it. And
they're going to make sure that they remove the weeds, they're
going to make, make sure that they straighten it straighten, they're
going to do the right things and water it. So what a person who
doesn't have good company around them, who does everything on their
own, who doesn't have good company, then that kind of a
person is like a tree that grows in the middle of nowhere. Wild.
And what happens to a wild tree is that it grows all over the place
and there's weeds around it. If such a tree is not cut and pruned,
then obviously it's just going to be wild. But what should you look
for somebody? So now if you're looking for a shake, right, then
what should you be looking for? What you should be looking for is
that on a basic level, like on a fundamental level, there must be
four conditions that any shake should have, any guide should have
that you're looking for somebody to benefit from, like in terms of
becoming a student of theirs in terms of becoming them becoming
your instructor, your mentor, then they need to have for one is
ailments or he was though, Saudi, were him Mattoon, Alia wahala to
Model D. That's what the other must say. Number one, his
knowledge needs to be sound, you can't have exotic degenerated
corruptive.
You know, individuals, because you're gonna have a very special
relationship with such a person, and you're going to be affected by
things that they do. And if they just extremely liberal minded in
that sense that they just cut so many corners, Everything is
permissible, just so I can get more followers or whatever the
case is, then that's just not going to work. That doesn't mean
that you have to go to the strictest man on the you know, on
the scene, or the most ultra orthodox as such, it goes somebody
that's balanced, that recognizable, that is
authoritative, that knows what they're doing. And that carries
themselves in a religious manner. Right, not unscrupulously. So
that's what you call it elements or Hey, number two, though, could
sorry. So Alamosa, he says that basically is somebody who's
convincing in every aspect in terms of their knowledge and in
terms of their obligations. So they should also be understanding
of the spiritual path, otherwise, how they're going to leave you
lead you on the spiritual path. He says, if they don't understand the
spiritual path, and you are having a certain state, where you've done
a number of God, or you, you know a lot of people, what happens is
that when they start to shun the dunya, right, meaning to dislodge
themselves from it, right? Sometimes they go overboard,
because they think that I must just abandon everything of the
world, I must abandon everybody, I must consider everybody to wrong
and lowly, everything brings with it its own difficulties and its
own challenges. So the sheikh needs to be understanding of this,
he must have had that experience or know that experience from
another shake before him. So that person will be able to tell you
that no, no, no, you're doing too much here. Right, you need to take
it easy, we're doing too little here, you need to supplement with
this, you need to do more salawat and the Prophet salallahu Salam,
you need to do less of this thicker, more of that thicker, and
so on, you need to sleeping early at night, you know, you need to
stop doing this, or you need to start doing this. That's what they
should understand all of these things. They should understand the
subtleties of the soul, the various different
Deceptions of the soul, because then they'll be able to tell you
about them, tell us about them. And that can only be done if
they've had good experience with this through another che.
Generally, that's the way it is. And they've been able to make that
second nature. That's what the second condition was, though,
couldn't study, which means that they actually have a second nature
of this, this has become their temperament. This is not something
that they're just going to be looking in books for trying to
rush around to find out, but this has become their temperament. And
number three was him earlier, which basically means a high
aspiration, high aspiration. There's lots of people with high
aspirations, right to make money, for example, right? The richest
men of the world are like that. That's why they got there. They
had huge aspiration. And even if they're very old right now, they
still have high aspiration. And some of them, you know, could
cause turbulence in other countries and, you know, those
kinds of things. They got huge
aspiration, that's not what he's meant here. Huge aspiration for
Allah and everything related to Allah. That's what he means. And
number four, he has to have Hala Meridia, which means satisfied
state with Allah. That means it's the karma. we've just discussed
this the karma quite a bit, which is steadfastness. So as far as
possible, they they're very measured. They're not doing crazy
things one day, and the next day, they, you know, they
one moment they seem to be like, really into it, and the next time
they're not into it, right. Sometimes they say some crazy
stuff. Sometimes they say some, they say some things which make
you think that the biggest shake in the world by another time they
make you surprised, right, there has to be some balance doesn't
mean that it must be dry either. You know, they can joke around a
bit. That's the Prophet saw some used to joke, right?
Well, yeah, but the Yakuza Jeremy and Boehner hockey cotton were
Shariati. So they must have basically been able to combine
between the Sharia and so they must know the Sharia at least they
don't have to be a full scholar either. They need to know enough
to be able to lead their life and help others lead their life. But
they must also have the reality of Allah subhanaw taala in their
hearts, anybody who claims to be a shake, and he's got any of these
five
signs or five weaknesses or five problems, then there's no way that
that person can help anybody else. Number one, alcohol will be the
that's the biggest one ignorance of the deal. Like they don't know
the basics of what is halal and haram. What is good and bad.
Number two, is called to hermetic Muslimeen if they are in any way,
any way invalidating, cancelling out, destroying disturbing the
sanctity of believers,
like the bad weed believers, or they are usurping their rights, or
they are
abusive to them. Right, then that they can't be they can't be right
because that's not the way the prophets Allah snores what the
whole Ramallah Yanni, if they constantly involved in things,
which are of redundancy, vain pursuits, right, most of the time
is spent doing that kind of stuff,
then that's another problem. That person can't be assured that
person can't lead anybody else. That person can't help anybody
else. What etbr Will, however, frequently shape following their
fantasies in everything. So it's all about oh, that sounds right.
Let's do that. Not from a Sharia perspective. It's just that oh,
let's make it easy, because that's what appeals to the to the knifes
and the soul was, so we'll hold means at mobile ads, this is a
very interesting point he brings here and he has bad character
with a careless attitude.
With a carefree attitude, what that means is that look, some
people, everybody goes through states. So sometimes somebody
could display what some people would consider to be bad
character, because they got very angry, or they're very hungry, or
they've just had a bad night. Or they've had some very difficulty
because not everybody is like the Prophet sallallahu Sallam who was
100% in control in every situation. And he knew exactly how
to react.
That's only the prophets, Allah, Allah is perfect control.
But not everybody has that. Like, even when you look at the Sahaba,
right, you will see that sometimes they said something, they did
something in the process that no, that's not how you do it. Right.
So that's just a very difficult that. So that's why he's saying
that if somebody has bad character, but with a careless
act, he doesn't even care that he's got a bad character that's
problematic. A lot of people struggle with harshness, with
certain bad character traits, but they're concerned about them. So
they only let go, they only lose it sometimes. So it's not what he
says, mean Lady mobila without any care. So it's that kind of thing.
For Sahaba to miss Leha, door on mouth. If you're going to
accompany somebody with these traits, then it's just going to
harm you. It's just going to harm you. And that's why in the next
hikma, which we're going to do in sha Allah next time, he says Rob
Burma can demo see and for Oracle, Exxon I mean cassava took for
Oracle, Exxon aminika, sorbet, tequila man who had a mink, so
inshallah We'll do that one next time. But what it is, is that you
might be in a bad state, meaning your state may be very lowly one,
you're concerned about it. Then you become associated with one who
is in a worse state. And that makes you see virtue in yourself.
So you stop progressing because you think I'm better than that
one.
In fact, I'm better than the sheikh. In some aspects. That's
what you start realizing. Right? But that could be
In any company, that if you're going to be with lowly people,
you're going to start thinking you're better. So you don't have
to go anywhere because you think I've got enough whereas when we
see ourselves with better people, we want to aspire to become
better. So inshallah we'll do that in the next gathering, if Allah
subhanaw taala. So wills, but now I want to just give you the
commentary of how of Sheikh Abdullah gonna go, how he explains
this, do not keep company with anyone who stay does not inspire
you and who speech does not lead you to Allah. So, says, There is
nothing more beneficial for the
the one wanting to travel the path of Allah, then pious
companionship, that is the best thing that you can have. I mean,
even in a physical journey, if you got a good company, right, your
journey will become wonderful. If you've got bad company, you will
suffer because already the suffering in a journey in itself,
right. And if you've got bad company with that, that's double,
triple treble.
So in a spiritual journey, it's very similar. Hence the sheikh
Rahim Allah states, the principle in this regard, so that the
traveler understands the company that will be beneficial and
harmful for him. Never choose the company of a man who does not
inspire you towards Allah, the state of the companion should be
such that his entire attention is focused on Allah, the gaze of his
heart should be diverted from creation. In every affair, his
complete reliance should be on Allah, in his lofty estimate,
creation should have no significance and no rank. That
doesn't mean that he doesn't fulfill their obligation. He
doesn't fulfill their rights, they he doesn't value them. It's just
that that's not who he is pursuing his pursuing only happiness of
Allah, obedience to the sacred law in all of his should have become
his natural disposition. His speech should guide towards the
path of Allah such a person is qualified for companionship, and
now we're feeling probably very dejected. Where do you find such
people
as you look the humbling
right? God don't don't call God the lashkari but ask Allah
subhanaw taala in
ancient Egypt, how hookah right? Where we're going to find people
like this
that's why I believe Allahu Merzouga Hogberg were Obama and
pharaoh now who are in that is actually very powerful to Allah
grant us your love and the love of those whose love benefits us in
your court. Then Allah insha Allah surround us with good people. So a
man who lacks the aforementioned qualities is of no benefit. In
fact, his company is harmful. Even if overtly he has the appearance
of a saint. Since his hearts relationship is with alien
objects, meaning things besides Allah, His companionship is bound
to exercise its influence one day on you, and those in his
association will be similarly affected by his detrimental
influence. So we ask Allah for protection we ask Allah for good
company, we ask Allah for closeness to him, while he read
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Leanne. Where are you rolling? 18 year Allah we ask you for your
special grace. We ask you for your special mercy. We ask you for your
special blessing. Yeah, Allah shower us with your special
forgiveness. Forgive us all of our sins, our wrongdoings our
excesses,
our shortcomings, our sins our transgressions, our violences our
infractions. Yeah Allah we've
led a life of sin of Allah purify us, O Allah, cleanse us of Allah
forgive us, our Allah do not turn yourself away from us. of Allah do
not shun us of Allah, you are our merciful Lord of Allah, you are
the Most Merciful of the merciful ones, you are the best patron,
Allah, we can only turn to you we can have only hope in you. We are
despondent of all others except you have Allah is only you who is
in absolute control of everything. Only you in whose hands is and in
whose control are all the hearts of Allah forgive us of all of our
sins. Those we remember and especially those that we
forgotten, or Allah do not make it such an on the day of judgment we
rise and we find so many sins to our name, hidden deep in our
database
Is and we've forgotten them and we have not sought forgiveness. So
Allah forgive us all those that we remember and those that we have
forgotten of Allah, there are those that we may have not
forgotten that we don't realize those that have become part of our
life now and we actually consider them not to be sins any longer of
Allah there's so much delusion there's so much
ignorance in the world of Allah there are so many of us who think
that we're doing good but we may be doing wrong, that by the good
that we think we're doing we actually disobeying you that we
actually contributing to transgression of Allah do not make
us the keys of evil do not make us forces for wrong and forces for
falsehood of Allah make us the keys for goodness forces for piety
and righteousness of Allah accept us for the service of your deen
guide us right? Guide us give us true guidance of Allah guide us
and make us the guides of the guided ones. Our Allah make us
forces for good change in the world for productivity, protect us
from laziness, from procrastination, from blatant sins
and wrongdoing from oppression from wronging others Oh ALLAH from
withholding the rights of others of Allah taking advantage of
others of Allah assist us and help us of Allah assist us and help us
for there is nobody else that has the power that you do that can
enable us to do things in the right way. Oh Allah suffices with
the halal away from the Haram of Allah due to the abundance of the
availability, the ease and the prevalence for so much evil that
is so easily available, and so many vices that are available and
so easily people can acquire them. There is just so much happening,
where people are disrespecting their spouses, they're
disrespecting
their parents of Allah and they're going and they're fulfilling their
desires in Haram ways of Allah suffices with the halal satisfy us
with the halal away from the Haram so that we don't even have to look
at the haram. We don't have to consider the haram. We don't have
to try to acquire things through the Haram method satisfy us Oh
Allah, everything that is good for us in this world. You've given us
a halal way to do it. But Allah there are haram ways that exists,
which shaytaan causes us to consider our hearts adorn for us.
Oh Allah, we ask that you suffice everybody with Halal income, halal
fulfilment, halal satisfaction, halal food, halal nourishment,
halal earnings of Allah remove this pandemic, it is increasing
again in various different places of Allah. Maybe we haven't learned
our lesson of Allah allow us to become a right of Allah allow us
to become steadfast allow us to become corrected of Allah.
Make this a source of mercy for us, oh Allah make this a source of
mercy for us. of Allah, we believe that you have given us many
things. And Allah whatever you have given us, we ask that You
grant us gratitude, you grant us the ability to thank you and to
use whatever you have given us in the right way of Allah bless all
of those who are listening here. Bless all of those who are
listening wherever they may be in the world, our life except our
doors. However, whatever is in our hearts are the two hours that we
need answered, that we can't that we haven't asked you right now of
Allah grant us the best of what you give your righteous servants
and protect us from all the evil that you keep away from your
wonderful servants of Allah keep us also away from those wrong
things of Allah protects us against the shaytaan especially
his mischief on our deathbed, allow us to have a good ending a
good life and make the final parts of our life better than any other
part of our life. And allow us to say that Kadima La Ilaha illa
Allah and depart from this world, with an eagerness to meet you,
with the eagerness to have this meeting with you, and make that
the best moment of our life when we stand in front of you, and
allow us to enter into your satisfaction into your perpetual
satisfaction in the gardens of Jannat. In the gardens, of
paradise in the gardens of Ireland, in the gardens of Naeem
are in the gardens of fear dose of Allah except from us, bless us and
our parents, our teachers, our students are Allah, those who are
good to us, those who requested dollar from us those who mean well
with us and Allah allow us to mean well for them. Oh Allah send you
abundant less
Things on Messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and
grant has his company in the hereafter Subhan an Arabic
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Lillahi Rabbil Alameen