Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Treatise For The Seekers Of Guidance Part 35 Gratitude, Patience, Remembrance, Friendships and More

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The importance of patient patience and perseverance in the medical treatment of COVID-19 is emphasized. The importance of praying with others and following Shquarter Day is also emphasized. It is emphasized that following sugar and bounty rules is crucial to achieve health and success in life. forgiveness and lighthearted comments to people when they travel are emphasized. It is emphasized that avoiding unnecessary activities and not criticizing them is crucial. A 13-year-old man from America and California wants to study in the US and not Europe, and a person from California in California wants to study in the US and not Europe.

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			Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al
hamdu lillahi Hamden cathedral the
		
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			human mobile rockin T Mobile
akonadi Gmail your bottle buena
		
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			Yalda Jalla Jalla who are Manuel
or salatu salam ala so you will
		
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			have even more stuff SallAllahu
Taala it while he was so happy
		
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			about a cosa Limitus Sleeman
Cathedral in Iommi, Dean from
		
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			nearby, Imam Al Maha CB continues
with his advices. He says, what
		
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			started the Sobrado equally
multilin? What is the Mulhall what
		
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			a big victory was having Nirvana
with Shoukry three extremely
		
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			important Purton advice actually
prepare patients for every prepare
		
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			patients for every place, every
instance, every session,
		
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			every new state of yours, anything
new that you will do always have
		
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			patients ready. So it's almost
like saying make sure that you
		
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			you're carrying a bottle of
patients around
		
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			because you don't know when you
might need it, you know, sometimes
		
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			you go to a hot place. And they
said, make sure you carry your
		
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			water with you. Because you don't
want to get dehydrated. And you
		
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			may not be able to find water when
you're around. So likewise, the
		
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			dunya is full of patience.
Everything that we do has to do
		
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			with patience. There's some amount
of perseverance and when I say
		
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			patients, we mean by that.
		
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			We what we mean by that is we mean
patients in the normal sense, we
		
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			mean perseverance, we mean
abstinence, we mean controlling
		
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			ourselves, that's all part of
patients, that's all part of
		
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			Southern.
		
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			So make sure that you prepare your
patients for every place. And
		
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			you know, you may come into this
place in winter sometimes, and
		
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			you're gonna need your patients
because
		
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			as you saw in winter, sometimes
our heater took a while to come
		
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			on. So you need a bit of patience,
if you didn't have patience, you
		
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			just run out. So you obviously
have patience.
		
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			But it's talking about such
patients that you do it so
		
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			smoothly, that you don't even feel
the pain, like your patient kicks
		
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			in immediately. Not that you start
feeling the pain and then you put
		
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			your you eventually get your AC
on. But it's so smooth that as the
		
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			Diffic. As as the temperature
rises, the AC just kicks in the
		
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			temperature is always climate
controlled. Patients needs to be
		
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			like that. And those people will
survive the best in this world
		
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			because they'll have the
perseverance to even do good
		
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			deeds, you need perseverance.
		
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			I mean, this is a Friday evening.
And the reason why the roads are
		
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			busy is because people are going
visiting to all sorts of other
		
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			places, there's so much more that
you can do on a Friday than sit
		
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			here and listen to these words of
how different Bahasa be taken from
		
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			the Quran, sunnah.
		
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			There's a lot of competition out
there isn't there.
		
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			So to be able to persevere, I
mean, you're not you're not
		
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			nobody's giving you anything for
coming here. I mean, there's
		
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			nothing on offer here. You know,
there's no gifts being provided
		
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			here. This is just the words of
Allah and His messenger.
		
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			And, obviously, in order to take
that you need a level of
		
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			perseverance. If we can build up
that perseverance, then even when
		
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			it gets difficult, and the
perseverance the Sabra kicks in.
		
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			It just makes life easy. That's
why he says, just make sure you
		
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			prepare your patients for every
occasion. I think that's a really
		
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			wonderful statement ever seen it?
stated this way, prepare patients
		
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			carry patients with you for every
for every eventuality. And then he
		
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			says Well, hello water, be decree
that when you do your liquor, then
		
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			be alone when you do your liquor,
adopt solitude in your liquor,
		
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			because that's the best form of
liquor.
		
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			It makes it easy when you're doing
liquor among other people, because
		
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			humans, we get encouraged by one
another. And when you do something
		
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			as a group efforts, then it's just
a bit easier to do. I don't know
		
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			about you guys. But if I have to
miss my Jamaah in the masjid, and
		
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			I have to pray alone, and I don't
even have anybody at home to pray
		
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			with, like, none of my children
are here, and I can pray with
		
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			anybody then. praying alone just
feels really weird. It's more
		
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			difficult. In fact, it's just much
better with a group of people. And
		
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			you obviously get more reward for
that anyway, because the whole
		
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			purpose of five daily prayers to
be prayed with Gemma is that you
		
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			remain social beings. That's
another thing that you pray with
		
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			others that you do worship
collectively. So that if you if
		
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			our own worship is a bit weak,
because maybe the state of our
		
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			heart, the state of our knifes the
state of ourselves, but there's
		
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			somebody else righteous in that
group and the mercy is all coming
		
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			down to them, then that mercy will
inshallah overflow to us as well.
		
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			Allah subhanho wa taala. Many
times he blesses people because of
		
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			others.
		
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			That's why the Prophet salallahu
Alaihe Salam had a couple. These
		
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			two people come to him, one of
them complained about the other
		
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			day, he's always, you know, he
stays here and I have to go and
		
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			work to partners. So the reviews
are awesome said that. Maybe you
		
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			are being sustained and
		
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			divided you know you're you're
you're earning that you're you're
		
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			getting is because of him than in
other places says that you're
		
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			being sustained because of the
children among you, because of the
		
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			week among you, because of the
animals among you, there's
		
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			somebody who's going to be beloved
to Allah subhanaw taala. So that's
		
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			the benefit. But when you do vicar
alone, there's a lot more
		
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			sincerity in that not solid but
regular other thicker in
		
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			remembrance of Allah. And one of
the seven people in the shaman Day
		
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			of Judgment
		
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			is the person who remembers Allah
when they're alone. And then the
		
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			eyes begin to flow and that shows
that they really know motion. It's
		
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			not to show somebody else because
there's nobody to look there's
		
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			only Allah to see them.
		
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			Because that generally tends to be
the furthest from any kind of
		
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			ostentation or showing off and
then in front of Allah, that's the
		
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			one that's probably going to be
most accepted because you're doing
		
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			nothing else at that time.
		
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			Then he says what's happening near
Imma be Shukri
		
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			so while you while we should be
carrying patients around all the
		
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			time, because we're going to need
it now he says make sure that you
		
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			accompany your bounties with
thankfulness.
		
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			So whenever you have a bounty, you
should do sugar for it. But you
		
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			know what the trick is in here Do
you know what the subtlety is in
		
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			here
		
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			it's almost like always prepare
your patients for every occasion.
		
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			But then it says make sure you
accompany your sugar sorry your
		
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			bounties with sugar how often do
you think that should happen?
		
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			Do you think you need to do
southern more do you think you
		
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			need to do sugar more do you which
one is demanded more? The causes
		
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			of which one come about more sugar
right? Probably because
		
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			you we always have bounties we
don't always have calamities we
		
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			don't always have struggles. But
we always have a bounty. If that
		
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			bounty just Subhanallah just being
in the world and being alive and
		
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			mashallah healthy, maybe you know,
		
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			it's all a bounty, but all of your
bounties, all the net and all the
		
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			NEMA. Make sure you accompany them
with sugar.
		
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			I don't think we should even read
any more than this. I mean, that's
		
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			enough to just ponder over to be
honest.
		
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			That could keep us going for the
rest of our life pretty much.
		
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			accompany your bounties with the
Shakur of Allah, thankfulness to
		
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			him.
		
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			Let us think just for a moment,
how many just just think of the
		
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			first bounty that you can think
of?
		
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			This just I mean, you can't even
just think of one there's so many.
		
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			There's so many things that Allah
subhanaw taala has given us. And
		
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			then when you start comparing
yourself with other people,
		
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			especially people who are
suffering, then it becomes even
		
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			clearer. And that's one of the
best ways to figure out our
		
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			boundaries to actually see others
who don't have it, then we
		
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			actually see what we have. Because
if we're going to look at others
		
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			who we reckon have a greater
bounty, that actually might not be
		
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			a bounty but then that blinds us
from our bounties that we have
		
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			because I'm going to stop being
ungrateful.
		
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			What's the in Billahi for equally
armor, seek assistance
		
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			with Allah in every matter
		
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			whatever happens you need to seek
assistance in Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			whatever we need, even if it's the
most mundane thing,
		
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			seek assistance in Allah subhanaw
taala sequences er we declare that
		
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			several times a day, maybe 2030
times a day we said er cannot
		
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			widower er can start in only you
do we worship and only you do we
		
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			seek assistance from only you do
we seek assistance.
		
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			And what's not good Allah have
equally * and seek, seek.
		
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			Seek higher seek goodness from
Allah subhanho wa Taala for every
		
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			state, or ask Allah to choose for
you in every state, you can
		
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			translate that both ways. ask
Allah to choose for you ask Allah
		
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			for the goodness and higher.
		
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			ask Allah for excellence in every
state.
		
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			Don't ask him for difficulty
asking for goodness. Ask him for
		
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			the best decision for us and
warmer or the Kola hula who
		
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			for true clarity rather fee
		
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			whatever Allah subhanaw taala has
intended you for.
		
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			Then make sure you abandon
criticizing him.
		
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			So sometimes we may get into some
kind of situation which we don't
		
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			realize, and we don't understand
the wisdom behind it. And we feel
		
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			a bit let down. Maybe we might
feel that it's difficult. We don't
		
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			want to be in that state. The
world never goes according to our
		
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			plans. I mean, there's always
something I mean, he eventually
		
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			goes a call
		
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			In the planning Sharla but there's
always hiccups, there's always
		
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			difficulties. So he's just saying
that whatever Allah has intended
		
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			for you, you need to one thing you
need to completely abandon doing
		
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			is to not ever complain about what
how he's made us. You can ask
		
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			Allah to relieve us. You can ask
Allah for a different state.
		
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			Because Why did you make me do
that?
		
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			Because there's always going to be
some reason behind why something
		
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			happens.
		
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			What could you do Amylin? Taheebo
and pelicula hubbie for al Azim
		
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			Hoon OFSAA.
		
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			Every action that you would love
to meet Allah with meaning
		
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			what does he mean by to meet Allah
with
		
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			could mean a number of things, it
could mean the final actions that
		
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			we do.
		
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			The final actions that we want to
die with, because we expect that
		
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			that's when we're going to meet
with Allah, in terms of being face
		
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			to face in the Hereafter. And it
could also mean a book of deeds.
		
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			Because when we're there, then
there's going to be a book of
		
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			deeds, which is going to be our,
our records, that this is, and we
		
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			can't throw it away.
		
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			We're not going to take you with
us, it's just it's going to be
		
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			given to us.
		
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			And it's, it's going to stick to
us,
		
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			it's going to be with us, there's
no way that you can get rid of
		
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			that book or deeds. So
		
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			everything that we want to meet
Allah with, then make sure we have
		
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			it. So it's almost like you know,
when you when we want to go to
		
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			visit somebody, then we want to
make sure that we have a certain
		
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			type of clothing on we want to go
with a certain gifts, we want to
		
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			go with certain presentations, we
want to go we do our self up, some
		
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			people go get their hair done,
some people go get their makeup
		
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			done, some people go they get you
know, whatever it is that they
		
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			have to do. So what however we
want to meet Allah, the King of
		
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			all kings, the Lord of all lords,
then
		
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			Allahu Akbar, then we want to make
sure that we want to have that. So
		
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			he's saying that for Zim, who
enough set up impose that on
		
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			yourself from now. Because we may
end up dying before we before our
		
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			ambitions come to any kind of
fruition, we may want to meet
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala in a certain
way. But we haven't even started
		
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			that way.
		
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			We're waiting to retire. I just
got a call from somebody recently.
		
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			The husband is from one community,
one ethnic background and the
		
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			wife's from another ethnic
background. He wants to go for
		
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			hygiene. He's only about 30,
something he wants to go for Hajj,
		
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			his wife, family who's from
another, they have children,
		
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			because they just can't understand
what the rush is. Why are you
		
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			rushing, but he says I've had
hodgepodge of unnecessary for the
		
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			new the last four years.
		
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			I've already delayed for this many
years. This year, it's in
		
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			holidays, I need to go, you know,
next year is going to be
		
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			difficult. And his wife saying why
your your his or her family thing
		
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			like you know, it's not time yet
you know, you can retire and do it
		
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			as though it's, it's kind of
something you do to gain, you
		
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			know, your last * title. Right.
So you become now hydrosol
		
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			finally, or something like that.
So it's just in some cultures had
		
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			you seen not as a pillar of Islam
in the sense that you must go and
		
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			do it as soon as possible. And it
becomes obligatory on you. But
		
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			it's just something you do
eventually, when you retire.
		
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			But the thing is that somebody may
not ever retire, they may actually
		
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			die short of that. So what he's
saying essentially, is that
		
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			everything you'd love to meet,
Allah will just impose it on
		
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			yourself from now. Make yourself
like that right now. And, and to
		
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			be honest, there's a there's a TED
talk, I saw once of this woman who
		
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			says that
		
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			she has started changing the way
she behaves, like making a very
		
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			conscious, concerted efforts in
terms of her behavior, right. And
		
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			I think it's really important. I
mean, I feel that for myself
		
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			sometimes, because she said that
she saw her father and mother, I
		
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			think both parents that they
became senile, they became, I
		
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			think, dementia or something, or,
I don't know, some disease in one
		
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			of these old people's diseases
where they can't really control
		
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			themselves. So whatever bad
behavior you have before, maybe if
		
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			you're, you know, whatever it may
be, that just becomes augmented.
		
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			That becomes magnified in that
time because you have less control
		
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			over yourself. So is that how we
want to retire?
		
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			That's talking about just retiring
that's just not even retiring.
		
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			That's just talking about getting
old. Allah protect us there's a
		
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			dua Allah who will be coming
alarum Allah save us Allah We ask
		
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			Allah is refuge from evil old age
from see Cena civility civility,
		
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			that person becomes senile, or an
aura Illa Alta Loma that we become
		
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			we returned back to evil old age.
		
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			We don't want that anyway, but we
want
		
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			To prepare ourselves to meet with
Allah subhanho wa Taala in the
		
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			best of ways, these are these are
really big things we ask Allah to
		
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			make them easy for us, because
these aren't things you're going
		
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			to do overnight. They sound
wonderful when you hear them,
		
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			right. It's not like so much
wisdom Subhanallah but if only
		
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			they can actually become part of
our life we ask Allah for that. We
		
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			ask Allah for the baraka inshallah
is sitting here and the decree
		
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			that inshallah takes place, we ask
Allah subhanaw taala, to allow us
		
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			to inculcate that with us, and
help us and assist us in this
		
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			regard. Because if we try
ourselves, we can't we just read
		
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			La hawla wala Quwata, illa biLlah
several times, which means there
		
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			is no power to do anything good or
any type of restraint from evil
		
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			except with Allah subhanaw taala.
And that's what are the must say
		
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			is that if you sometimes you know,
we try to use a lot of strategies
		
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			to avoid certain type of sins, and
Hamdulillah, that's
		
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			understandable, or we try to use
some strategies to inculcate some
		
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			good things in our life. That's
also understandable. But what we
		
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			miss out is the dua part of it.
		
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			You have to give up, because using
a strategy is other than Allah,
		
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			it's really weird. It's really
strange. We're doing something
		
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			wrong, and we want to abstain from
it. And we want to find a strategy
		
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			to abstain from it. That's fine.
It's it sounds like a good thing.
		
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			What Allah really wants is he
wants us to ask him, use the
		
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			strategy, but don't put all of
your eggs in that basket. And
		
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			don't think that's it because at
the end of the day, strategy is
		
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			not Allah. Allah is He can help us
without any strategy. So he
		
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			doesn't mean don't use a strategy
but don't consider don't think
		
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			that it's just the strategy that's
going to help you because that
		
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			strategy is nothing without the
Tofik of Allah
		
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			don't get me wrong this is like
I'm not saying don't use strategy,
		
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			but don't make the strategy the
end all the be all and end all of
		
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			everything. That strategy is only
useful with the dove Tofik of
		
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			Allah so which strategy we need to
like literally say to Allah look,
		
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			I'm i You need to help me because
nobody else can help me. What Kulu
		
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			Amarin the Kra who later Eric
factor ZIL who mean a halakhic
		
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			every matter that you dislike on
somebody else, every matter every
		
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			issue, every trait every
characteristic that you dislike in
		
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			somebody else, then avoid it
yourself from your own character.
		
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			That's the simplest way to do it.
Factors Illumina flock
		
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			avoid it in your own character in
the numerous examples you don't
		
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			like somebody when they they sit
they always putting their finger
		
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			in their mouth they biting on
their nails so don't do it
		
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			yourself.
		
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			And then other more subtle things
as well that you notice about
		
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			others there's a lot we can learn
for ourselves from others so avoid
		
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			it in your own o'clock
		
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to be hired on equal yeomen thumb
		
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			biz anchor software turbo
		
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			what Colusa Haven lattice that
will be higher on FICO Leominster
		
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			with anchor Sorbetto.
		
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			Wow.
		
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			Every friend, companion
associates, through whom you do
		
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			not increase in goodness every
day.
		
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			Then
		
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			throw his companionship to the
wayside.
		
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			You've got friends, you've got
associates, you've got a group of
		
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			people that you hang around with.
		
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			If you can't be if you can't be
getting better
		
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			if you can't be developing and
reforming and benefiting from
		
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			that, then leave them there waste
of time.
		
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			You can find it's not saying don't
have friends is saying find better
		
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			friends.
		
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			Find somebody that's why every
time I traveled to a new place,
		
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			you know when going somewhere
whether that be your Amara,
		
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			whether that be wherever Egypt
anywhere, that one of the dollars
		
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			that you make, which is actually
from from the Hadith from the
		
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			Prophet salallahu Salam is
Allahumma Habibullah Illa Allah
		
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			and what Habib sila he earlier
Elayna
		
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			Allah Allah make us beloved to the
local people here, so at least you
		
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			won't be thrown out at least they
won't oppose you. And inshallah
		
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			they'll give you a good welcome
and you know that Allah will place
		
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			your love and affection in their
hearts. I mean, you can't go wrong
		
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			with that to our to be honest.
Right?
		
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			So it doesn't matter if you're
beloved to them. But what Habib
		
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			sadly he actually hurt you, Elena,
but only make beloved, the
		
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			righteous of them to us.
		
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			Because I mean, you know, when you
go to different places you could
		
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			end up I mean, there's lots of
people that you don't want to fall
		
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			with the wrong crowds. So you want
Allah to help us
		
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			only be attracted towards the good
people. So that's from the Hadith,
		
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			right? That's from sunnah. Then
the DUA I generally like to make
		
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			his Oh ALLAH
		
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			In this trip, make me benefit from
some person that is close to you
		
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			from whether you Allah, especially
if you go for ombre or something
		
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			like that, you know, you want to
benefit from good company. Because
		
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			whenever you travel you need
company you need you know you're
		
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			going to find somebody to assist
you help you be your companion,
		
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			whatever. So it's always make dua
to Allah subhanaw taala. And Allah
		
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			is very helpful when you make dua
to him. And literally, this is a
		
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			dua that you can make, I mean, you
can make dua for every state, as
		
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			he said, Make dua, we're Colusa
had been letters that we hired on
		
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			equally young infant, these
angkasa, Beto,
		
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			every associate that you do not,
do not increase in goodness with
		
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			every day, every day, you must
have some benefit from that
		
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			friend. Otherwise, just forget his
friendship.
		
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			What are you going to do man,
		
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			you may want to leave them, they
may not want to leave you because
		
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			they think you're benefiting from
you. But then that means you can
		
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			that should be fine. Because then
you're you're better at getting a
		
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			benefit from them as well, if
that's the case.
		
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			But if not, then you need to
really think about this because
		
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			that may be what's keeping us
behind because sometimes you know,
		
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			we have friends, you have people
that you go out with and they
		
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			basically the ones who keep you
back, because they want to do
		
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			something on certain nights, no
one is gonna do this. On Monday
		
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			night, it has to be football,
football is not bad. On Tuesday
		
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			night or Wednesday night, it has
to be we have to go out to eat on
		
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			Friday as well, we have to go out
to eat, or Saturday we have to do
		
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			this Sunday, we have to do this,
you really don't want to do it,
		
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			but you're obliged to do it
sometimes. So these kinds of very
		
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			demanding friends can be nice but
challenging. And then maybe
		
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			detrimental. So have lighter
friends where you don't have to
		
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			do what you don't like.
		
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			That's important. Friendship has
to be reciprocal, it has to be on
		
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			both sides, it has to benefit one
another.
		
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			When somebody is in need, of
course, you have to go out of your
		
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			way
		
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			will have to be heavily communal,
if we were to Joe's
		
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			will be have the mineral if we
what was he
		
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			that means make sure you
		
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			make sure you take up
		
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			your share of pardon, and
forgiveness and overlooking.
		
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			Because there's going to be people
who will act a bit weird in front
		
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			of you, there's going to be people
who will make mistakes, there will
		
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			be people who may insult you, who
may do something criticize you who
		
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			may do something with the other,
make sure that in your wallet,
		
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			just like you have a bit of cyber
and you have lots of Saba that's
		
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			probably should be the main, you
know, in your toolbox or whatever
		
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			you carry with you. handbag, you
know, wallet, whatever, whatever
		
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			it is that you have with you. Just
make sure that you also have with
		
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			you will be how thick your share,
take your share of Apple antigen
		
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			was
		
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			have forgiveness and pardon.
Because if you don't, you're going
		
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			to be just insulted all the time.
If you don't have that openness of
		
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			heart to forgive people, it's
going to be very difficult. It's
		
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			going to be very difficult because
you're going to be upset a lot of
		
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			the time.
		
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			We just read about
		
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			Moses name, shelf and shelf and
shelf and what's his name? He
		
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			was one of the philosophers his
whole world Lee, his whole worldly
		
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			worldview was based on a negative
		
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			would you call it
		
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			just the whole negative idea?
		
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			Right.
		
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			While Rizzoli and one of the other
philosophers who said that this
		
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			world is the best that could have
been created in the form that it
		
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			is, that's the best possible. This
is one of the best possible worlds
		
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			that could have been created in a
way it is. This particular one, he
		
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			said, This is the worst place. And
it's all miserable. And there's no
		
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			end to it. And his whole idea was
that it's on that his worldview.
		
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			And he's a very influential
philosopher as well. Just forget
		
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			his name and just read about it.
We just spoke about him
		
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			on Monday.
		
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			So the whole worldview is made of
that if that your worldview is
		
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			made up that that's what your
worldview is, then you've just
		
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			basically
		
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			accepted that you're going to be
miserable on your life. That's not
		
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			how Allah wants us to be doesn't
want us to be miserable.
		
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			When he said that the believer
that this world is a prison for a
		
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			believer, it doesn't mean that you
need to be miserable, just means
		
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			that you're gonna have
restrictions. So just understand
		
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			that you can't do what you want.
But it's a lot of stuff that you
		
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			can do. And the more you start
enjoying the good stuff, the more
		
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			you start getting into the good
stuff like salad and praying they
		
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			actually becomes more enjoyable.
But when you're not in there, and
		
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			we're in Haram,
		
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			activities that we think What a
boring life that's gonna be
		
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			like, I can't do this anymore. I
can't have girlfriends anymore. I
		
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			can't drink anymore. I can't go
out anymore. And you're gonna
		
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			think, man, how can I? How can
these guys What's wrong with these
		
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			guys? Man? What kind of world do
these guys live in? Don't they get
		
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			any enjoyment? Look at them.
		
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			The only thing the WASC what kind
of enjoyment is that?
		
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			It just depends on where you are
and what you think.
		
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			Now, you know as much as I do
that, that's not true. Enjoyment
		
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			is a very individual experience.
Some people are completely happy
		
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			and satisfied in a in a tent in
the middle of the desert. I've
		
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			seen students like that in
Mauritania, they're completely
		
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			fine. That's what they've chosen
to do.
		
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			There's people who've run away
from cities to do that. In fact,
		
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			there's a guy who called me
recently that I know very well
		
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			he's got a I think he's got a 13
year old son, and he can go
		
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			anywhere to study and he's
intelligent, he could do very well
		
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			a top university. He goes, No, I
don't want to I want to go to
		
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			study Mauritania. I want to go to
right when to study.
		
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			Now my a friend of mine that study
in Dr. And said that he had to go
		
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			and work in the fields. I've never
seen that in any mother's about
		
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			enlivened mothers, they will
actually go and make you work in
		
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			the fields. He was from America
was actually an American, who is
		
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			mother data. He was in America, he
got into the American army went to
		
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			Iraq and other places, I think.
And then after that, the Tablighi
		
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			Jamaat mashallah helped, helped
him caught him whatever you want
		
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			to call it, right?
		
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			You know, the right and mashallah,
then they went to right, he went
		
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			to Taiwan and he is from
California. He went and stayed in
		
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			Ryan for nine years. He didn't
even come back home. He stayed
		
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			there for nine years, and that's
tough. It's not darlin Karachi,
		
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			which has gotten really good
facilities. Because I've seen
		
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			darlin Karachi, I haven't seen
Raven. But right when he told me
		
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			we had to go and work in the
fields in that heat, he was there
		
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			for nine years. Now mashallah
Allah subhanaw taala has blessed
		
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			him, right? He's doing some
really, he's doing some really
		
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			good work. So
		
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			you know, he's seen both, he's
seen both. He's seen both sides of
		
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			the story, but this is what he's
chosen. There's a reason he's
		
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			chosen it because Allah can give
that satisfaction to anybody.
		
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			So this kid, I'm talking about
this 13 year old kid, his father
		
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			studying like, what should I do?
He wants to go to study in
		
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			Mauritania, because I don't want
to go to this. I want to go where
		
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			there's nothing, I don't want to
fall nothing.
		
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			How many kids you get like that?
		
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			And, you know, it's another topic.
I don't want to start this topic
		
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			right now. But
		
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			in the future, I do want to speak
about this in more detail through
		
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			a more research based talk on the
science and the psychology that's
		
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			going behind
		
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			all these social media platforms
and children's games right now.
		
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			There's a whole psychology behind
it that's worth billions that is
		
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			being used there. And, and they're
talking about it right now.
		
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			There's more of a discussion. It's
coming up. There's very few people
		
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			who actually can see beyond that
and say, no, they don't want that.
		
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			Very few bare majority of us are
stuck in this. We can't divorce
		
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			it. We can't get rid of it. Even
though we read the research. We
		
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			can't even get rid of it. It's so
important. We justify it. But
		
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			you've got this 13 year old kid he
lives in London, he lives very
		
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			close to here.
		
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			And he's saying he won't he
doesn't want anything to do with
		
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			he wants to go on to study in
those one of those kinds of
		
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			places.
		
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			You know, he could be sent to any
man he's got his father's got the
		
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			money, I'm sure you can send him
anywhere. But that's what he
		
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			wanted. He wants to go Subhanallah
We ask Allah subhanaw taala to
		
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			assist us and help us. We ask
Allah to give us insight we ask
		
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			Allah to guide us because without
you ya Allah we are nothing. I
		
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			could read that one and then
hamdulillahi rabbil Alameen Allahu
		
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			Mantis sinner I'm willing to sit
on devolve they have an agenda
		
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			anybody Quran?
		
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			Allah who may or how you consume
your particular study Subhanallah
		
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			hilarity curtain Allah herb. Does
Allah horn Mohammed ma Hua Hello?
		
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			Allah, we ask you for your grace,
we ask You for Your Mercy. We ask
		
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			You for Your pardon. We ask You
for Your compassion. or Allah we
		
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			ask You for Your Mercy. We ask You
for Your forgiveness. Oh Allah,
		
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			forgive us our sins. Forgive our
excesses. Forgive our
		
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			shortcomings. Forgive our
wrongdoings. Oh Allah, forgive our
		
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			lapses. Oh Allah, Oh Allah,
forgive all the time that
		
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			we have turned away from you, that
we have turned to things
		
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			that have attracted us of this
world of Allah. We ask that you
		
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			keep us focused on you. of Allah,
we ask that You grant us all the
		
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			good things that you've given to
your righteous servants, and that
		
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			you make us among your righteous
servants of Allah make us among
		
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			your righteous servants. make us
of those who on the day of
		
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			judgment you will love to meet and
we will love to meet you. Oh Allah
		
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			Allah
		
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			I was to meet you on the Day of
Judgment. With only those things
		
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			that will not cause us
embarrassment of Allah we ask you
		
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			for forgiveness for all of those
things that will embarrass us in
		
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			front of others and in front of
you. Oh Allah allow us to be
		
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			rectified before we die. Allow us
to
		
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			get a control on ourself and our
knifes before before the knifes
		
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			overcomes us, Oh Allah, we ask
that you make us of those who love
		
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			you. Oh Allah grant us your love
and the love of those who love you
		
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			grant us good companions, good
friends, good colleagues of Allah
		
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			good work environment, a good home
environment. Oh Allah grant us
		
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			righteous spouses. Oh Allah make
us grant us righteous children, a
		
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			righteous progeny until the day of
judgment of Allah, all of those
		
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			who are here all of those who are
listening, Oh Allah, bless them
		
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			and do not allow any of us to
return home today without being
		
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			forgiven, without having taken a
full share of Your mercy today. Oh
		
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			Allah, we ask that you accept our
doors, you accept our sitting here
		
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			you accept the small amount of
remembrance and the small amount
		
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			of Deacon that we have done and
you allow the words and whatever
		
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			we have discussed or Allah you
allow us allow us to make that
		
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			part of our life and to follow it.
They seem wise words that seem to
		
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			be easy, but we know how and you
know how difficult they are for
		
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			us. But nothing is difficult. When
you make it easy. Oh Allah
		
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			facilitate all of this for us.
You're the facilitator, you're the
		
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			bestow, Oh Allah, grant us of all
of the good that you give to the
		
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			righteous and Oh ALLAH righteous
among them. Subhan Allah because
		
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			Allah is that you are an IOC foon
was salam when I read more
		
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			discerning on hamdulillah Robben
Island Amin