Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Treatise For The Seekers Of Guidance Part 35 Gratitude, Patience, Remembrance, Friendships and More
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nearby, Imam Al Maha CB continues with his advices. He says, what
started the Sobrado equally multilin? What is the Mulhall what
a big victory was having Nirvana with Shoukry three extremely
important Purton advice actually prepare patients for every prepare
patients for every place, every instance, every session,
every new state of yours, anything new that you will do always have
patients ready. So it's almost like saying make sure that you
you're carrying a bottle of patients around
because you don't know when you might need it, you know, sometimes
you go to a hot place. And they said, make sure you carry your
water with you. Because you don't want to get dehydrated. And you
may not be able to find water when you're around. So likewise, the
dunya is full of patience. Everything that we do has to do
with patience. There's some amount of perseverance and when I say
patients, we mean by that.
We what we mean by that is we mean patients in the normal sense, we
mean perseverance, we mean abstinence, we mean controlling
ourselves, that's all part of patients, that's all part of
Southern.
So make sure that you prepare your patients for every place. And
you know, you may come into this place in winter sometimes, and
you're gonna need your patients because
as you saw in winter, sometimes our heater took a while to come
on. So you need a bit of patience, if you didn't have patience, you
just run out. So you obviously have patience.
But it's talking about such patients that you do it so
smoothly, that you don't even feel the pain, like your patient kicks
in immediately. Not that you start feeling the pain and then you put
your you eventually get your AC on. But it's so smooth that as the
Diffic. As as the temperature rises, the AC just kicks in the
temperature is always climate controlled. Patients needs to be
like that. And those people will survive the best in this world
because they'll have the perseverance to even do good
deeds, you need perseverance.
I mean, this is a Friday evening. And the reason why the roads are
busy is because people are going visiting to all sorts of other
places, there's so much more that you can do on a Friday than sit
here and listen to these words of how different Bahasa be taken from
the Quran, sunnah.
There's a lot of competition out there isn't there.
So to be able to persevere, I mean, you're not you're not
nobody's giving you anything for coming here. I mean, there's
nothing on offer here. You know, there's no gifts being provided
here. This is just the words of Allah and His messenger.
And, obviously, in order to take that you need a level of
perseverance. If we can build up that perseverance, then even when
it gets difficult, and the perseverance the Sabra kicks in.
It just makes life easy. That's why he says, just make sure you
prepare your patients for every occasion. I think that's a really
wonderful statement ever seen it? stated this way, prepare patients
carry patients with you for every for every eventuality. And then he
says Well, hello water, be decree that when you do your liquor, then
be alone when you do your liquor, adopt solitude in your liquor,
because that's the best form of liquor.
It makes it easy when you're doing liquor among other people, because
humans, we get encouraged by one another. And when you do something
as a group efforts, then it's just a bit easier to do. I don't know
about you guys. But if I have to miss my Jamaah in the masjid, and
I have to pray alone, and I don't even have anybody at home to pray
with, like, none of my children are here, and I can pray with
anybody then. praying alone just feels really weird. It's more
difficult. In fact, it's just much better with a group of people. And
you obviously get more reward for that anyway, because the whole
purpose of five daily prayers to be prayed with Gemma is that you
remain social beings. That's another thing that you pray with
others that you do worship collectively. So that if you if
our own worship is a bit weak, because maybe the state of our
heart, the state of our knifes the state of ourselves, but there's
somebody else righteous in that group and the mercy is all coming
down to them, then that mercy will inshallah overflow to us as well.
Allah subhanho wa taala. Many times he blesses people because of
others.
That's why the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam had a couple. These
two people come to him, one of them complained about the other
day, he's always, you know, he stays here and I have to go and
work to partners. So the reviews are awesome said that. Maybe you
are being sustained and
divided you know you're you're you're earning that you're you're
getting is because of him than in other places says that you're
being sustained because of the children among you, because of the
week among you, because of the animals among you, there's
somebody who's going to be beloved to Allah subhanaw taala. So that's
the benefit. But when you do vicar alone, there's a lot more
sincerity in that not solid but regular other thicker in
remembrance of Allah. And one of the seven people in the shaman Day
of Judgment
is the person who remembers Allah when they're alone. And then the
eyes begin to flow and that shows that they really know motion. It's
not to show somebody else because there's nobody to look there's
only Allah to see them.
Because that generally tends to be the furthest from any kind of
ostentation or showing off and then in front of Allah, that's the
one that's probably going to be most accepted because you're doing
nothing else at that time.
Then he says what's happening near Imma be Shukri
so while you while we should be carrying patients around all the
time, because we're going to need it now he says make sure that you
accompany your bounties with thankfulness.
So whenever you have a bounty, you should do sugar for it. But you
know what the trick is in here Do you know what the subtlety is in
here
it's almost like always prepare your patients for every occasion.
But then it says make sure you accompany your sugar sorry your
bounties with sugar how often do you think that should happen?
Do you think you need to do southern more do you think you
need to do sugar more do you which one is demanded more? The causes
of which one come about more sugar right? Probably because
you we always have bounties we don't always have calamities we
don't always have struggles. But we always have a bounty. If that
bounty just Subhanallah just being in the world and being alive and
mashallah healthy, maybe you know,
it's all a bounty, but all of your bounties, all the net and all the
NEMA. Make sure you accompany them with sugar.
I don't think we should even read any more than this. I mean, that's
enough to just ponder over to be honest.
That could keep us going for the rest of our life pretty much.
accompany your bounties with the Shakur of Allah, thankfulness to
him.
Let us think just for a moment, how many just just think of the
first bounty that you can think of?
This just I mean, you can't even just think of one there's so many.
There's so many things that Allah subhanaw taala has given us. And
then when you start comparing yourself with other people,
especially people who are suffering, then it becomes even
clearer. And that's one of the best ways to figure out our
boundaries to actually see others who don't have it, then we
actually see what we have. Because if we're going to look at others
who we reckon have a greater bounty, that actually might not be
a bounty but then that blinds us from our bounties that we have
because I'm going to stop being ungrateful.
What's the in Billahi for equally armor, seek assistance
with Allah in every matter
whatever happens you need to seek assistance in Allah subhanaw taala
whatever we need, even if it's the most mundane thing,
seek assistance in Allah subhanaw taala sequences er we declare that
several times a day, maybe 2030 times a day we said er cannot
widower er can start in only you do we worship and only you do we
seek assistance from only you do we seek assistance.
And what's not good Allah have equally * and seek, seek.
Seek higher seek goodness from Allah subhanho wa Taala for every
state, or ask Allah to choose for you in every state, you can
translate that both ways. ask Allah to choose for you ask Allah
for the goodness and higher.
ask Allah for excellence in every state.
Don't ask him for difficulty asking for goodness. Ask him for
the best decision for us and warmer or the Kola hula who
for true clarity rather fee
whatever Allah subhanaw taala has intended you for.
Then make sure you abandon criticizing him.
So sometimes we may get into some kind of situation which we don't
realize, and we don't understand the wisdom behind it. And we feel
a bit let down. Maybe we might feel that it's difficult. We don't
want to be in that state. The world never goes according to our
plans. I mean, there's always something I mean, he eventually
goes a call
In the planning Sharla but there's always hiccups, there's always
difficulties. So he's just saying that whatever Allah has intended
for you, you need to one thing you need to completely abandon doing
is to not ever complain about what how he's made us. You can ask
Allah to relieve us. You can ask Allah for a different state.
Because Why did you make me do that?
Because there's always going to be some reason behind why something
happens.
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Every action that you would love to meet Allah with meaning
what does he mean by to meet Allah with
could mean a number of things, it could mean the final actions that
we do.
The final actions that we want to die with, because we expect that
that's when we're going to meet with Allah, in terms of being face
to face in the Hereafter. And it could also mean a book of deeds.
Because when we're there, then there's going to be a book of
deeds, which is going to be our, our records, that this is, and we
can't throw it away.
We're not going to take you with us, it's just it's going to be
given to us.
And it's, it's going to stick to us,
it's going to be with us, there's no way that you can get rid of
that book or deeds. So
everything that we want to meet Allah with, then make sure we have
it. So it's almost like you know, when you when we want to go to
visit somebody, then we want to make sure that we have a certain
type of clothing on we want to go with a certain gifts, we want to
go with certain presentations, we want to go we do our self up, some
people go get their hair done, some people go get their makeup
done, some people go they get you know, whatever it is that they
have to do. So what however we want to meet Allah, the King of
all kings, the Lord of all lords, then
Allahu Akbar, then we want to make sure that we want to have that. So
he's saying that for Zim, who enough set up impose that on
yourself from now. Because we may end up dying before we before our
ambitions come to any kind of fruition, we may want to meet
Allah subhanaw taala in a certain way. But we haven't even started
that way.
We're waiting to retire. I just got a call from somebody recently.
The husband is from one community, one ethnic background and the
wife's from another ethnic background. He wants to go for
hygiene. He's only about 30, something he wants to go for Hajj,
his wife, family who's from another, they have children,
because they just can't understand what the rush is. Why are you
rushing, but he says I've had hodgepodge of unnecessary for the
new the last four years.
I've already delayed for this many years. This year, it's in
holidays, I need to go, you know, next year is going to be
difficult. And his wife saying why your your his or her family thing
like you know, it's not time yet you know, you can retire and do it
as though it's, it's kind of something you do to gain, you
know, your last * title. Right. So you become now hydrosol
finally, or something like that. So it's just in some cultures had
you seen not as a pillar of Islam in the sense that you must go and
do it as soon as possible. And it becomes obligatory on you. But
it's just something you do eventually, when you retire.
But the thing is that somebody may not ever retire, they may actually
die short of that. So what he's saying essentially, is that
everything you'd love to meet, Allah will just impose it on
yourself from now. Make yourself like that right now. And, and to
be honest, there's a there's a TED talk, I saw once of this woman who
says that
she has started changing the way she behaves, like making a very
conscious, concerted efforts in terms of her behavior, right. And
I think it's really important. I mean, I feel that for myself
sometimes, because she said that she saw her father and mother, I
think both parents that they became senile, they became, I
think, dementia or something, or, I don't know, some disease in one
of these old people's diseases where they can't really control
themselves. So whatever bad behavior you have before, maybe if
you're, you know, whatever it may be, that just becomes augmented.
That becomes magnified in that time because you have less control
over yourself. So is that how we want to retire?
That's talking about just retiring that's just not even retiring.
That's just talking about getting old. Allah protect us there's a
dua Allah who will be coming alarum Allah save us Allah We ask
Allah is refuge from evil old age from see Cena civility civility,
that person becomes senile, or an aura Illa Alta Loma that we become
we returned back to evil old age.
We don't want that anyway, but we want
To prepare ourselves to meet with Allah subhanho wa Taala in the
best of ways, these are these are really big things we ask Allah to
make them easy for us, because these aren't things you're going
to do overnight. They sound wonderful when you hear them,
right. It's not like so much wisdom Subhanallah but if only
they can actually become part of our life we ask Allah for that. We
ask Allah for the baraka inshallah is sitting here and the decree
that inshallah takes place, we ask Allah subhanaw taala, to allow us
to inculcate that with us, and help us and assist us in this
regard. Because if we try ourselves, we can't we just read
La hawla wala Quwata, illa biLlah several times, which means there
is no power to do anything good or any type of restraint from evil
except with Allah subhanaw taala. And that's what are the must say
is that if you sometimes you know, we try to use a lot of strategies
to avoid certain type of sins, and Hamdulillah, that's
understandable, or we try to use some strategies to inculcate some
good things in our life. That's also understandable. But what we
miss out is the dua part of it.
You have to give up, because using a strategy is other than Allah,
it's really weird. It's really strange. We're doing something
wrong, and we want to abstain from it. And we want to find a strategy
to abstain from it. That's fine. It's it sounds like a good thing.
What Allah really wants is he wants us to ask him, use the
strategy, but don't put all of your eggs in that basket. And
don't think that's it because at the end of the day, strategy is
not Allah. Allah is He can help us without any strategy. So he
doesn't mean don't use a strategy but don't consider don't think
that it's just the strategy that's going to help you because that
strategy is nothing without the Tofik of Allah
don't get me wrong this is like I'm not saying don't use strategy,
but don't make the strategy the end all the be all and end all of
everything. That strategy is only useful with the dove Tofik of
Allah so which strategy we need to like literally say to Allah look,
I'm i You need to help me because nobody else can help me. What Kulu
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every matter that you dislike on somebody else, every matter every
issue, every trait every characteristic that you dislike in
somebody else, then avoid it yourself from your own character.
That's the simplest way to do it. Factors Illumina flock
avoid it in your own character in the numerous examples you don't
like somebody when they they sit they always putting their finger
in their mouth they biting on their nails so don't do it
yourself.
And then other more subtle things as well that you notice about
others there's a lot we can learn for ourselves from others so avoid
it in your own o'clock
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Every friend, companion associates, through whom you do
not increase in goodness every day.
Then
throw his companionship to the wayside.
You've got friends, you've got associates, you've got a group of
people that you hang around with.
If you can't be if you can't be getting better
if you can't be developing and reforming and benefiting from
that, then leave them there waste of time.
You can find it's not saying don't have friends is saying find better
friends.
Find somebody that's why every time I traveled to a new place,
you know when going somewhere whether that be your Amara,
whether that be wherever Egypt anywhere, that one of the dollars
that you make, which is actually from from the Hadith from the
Prophet salallahu Salam is Allahumma Habibullah Illa Allah
and what Habib sila he earlier Elayna
Allah Allah make us beloved to the local people here, so at least you
won't be thrown out at least they won't oppose you. And inshallah
they'll give you a good welcome and you know that Allah will place
your love and affection in their hearts. I mean, you can't go wrong
with that to our to be honest. Right?
So it doesn't matter if you're beloved to them. But what Habib
sadly he actually hurt you, Elena, but only make beloved, the
righteous of them to us.
Because I mean, you know, when you go to different places you could
end up I mean, there's lots of people that you don't want to fall
with the wrong crowds. So you want Allah to help us
only be attracted towards the good people. So that's from the Hadith,
right? That's from sunnah. Then the DUA I generally like to make
his Oh ALLAH
In this trip, make me benefit from some person that is close to you
from whether you Allah, especially if you go for ombre or something
like that, you know, you want to benefit from good company. Because
whenever you travel you need company you need you know you're
going to find somebody to assist you help you be your companion,
whatever. So it's always make dua to Allah subhanaw taala. And Allah
is very helpful when you make dua to him. And literally, this is a
dua that you can make, I mean, you can make dua for every state, as
he said, Make dua, we're Colusa had been letters that we hired on
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every associate that you do not, do not increase in goodness with
every day, every day, you must have some benefit from that
friend. Otherwise, just forget his friendship.
What are you going to do man,
you may want to leave them, they may not want to leave you because
they think you're benefiting from you. But then that means you can
that should be fine. Because then you're you're better at getting a
benefit from them as well, if that's the case.
But if not, then you need to really think about this because
that may be what's keeping us behind because sometimes you know,
we have friends, you have people that you go out with and they
basically the ones who keep you back, because they want to do
something on certain nights, no one is gonna do this. On Monday
night, it has to be football, football is not bad. On Tuesday
night or Wednesday night, it has to be we have to go out to eat on
Friday as well, we have to go out to eat, or Saturday we have to do
this Sunday, we have to do this, you really don't want to do it,
but you're obliged to do it sometimes. So these kinds of very
demanding friends can be nice but challenging. And then maybe
detrimental. So have lighter friends where you don't have to
do what you don't like.
That's important. Friendship has to be reciprocal, it has to be on
both sides, it has to benefit one another.
When somebody is in need, of course, you have to go out of your
way
will have to be heavily communal, if we were to Joe's
will be have the mineral if we what was he
that means make sure you
make sure you take up
your share of pardon, and forgiveness and overlooking.
Because there's going to be people who will act a bit weird in front
of you, there's going to be people who will make mistakes, there will
be people who may insult you, who may do something criticize you who
may do something with the other, make sure that in your wallet,
just like you have a bit of cyber and you have lots of Saba that's
probably should be the main, you know, in your toolbox or whatever
you carry with you. handbag, you know, wallet, whatever, whatever
it is that you have with you. Just make sure that you also have with
you will be how thick your share, take your share of Apple antigen
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have forgiveness and pardon. Because if you don't, you're going
to be just insulted all the time. If you don't have that openness of
heart to forgive people, it's going to be very difficult. It's
going to be very difficult because you're going to be upset a lot of
the time.
We just read about
Moses name, shelf and shelf and shelf and what's his name? He
was one of the philosophers his whole world Lee, his whole worldly
worldview was based on a negative
would you call it
just the whole negative idea?
Right.
While Rizzoli and one of the other philosophers who said that this
world is the best that could have been created in the form that it
is, that's the best possible. This is one of the best possible worlds
that could have been created in a way it is. This particular one, he
said, This is the worst place. And it's all miserable. And there's no
end to it. And his whole idea was that it's on that his worldview.
And he's a very influential philosopher as well. Just forget
his name and just read about it. We just spoke about him
on Monday.
So the whole worldview is made of that if that your worldview is
made up that that's what your worldview is, then you've just
basically
accepted that you're going to be miserable on your life. That's not
how Allah wants us to be doesn't want us to be miserable.
When he said that the believer that this world is a prison for a
believer, it doesn't mean that you need to be miserable, just means
that you're gonna have restrictions. So just understand
that you can't do what you want. But it's a lot of stuff that you
can do. And the more you start enjoying the good stuff, the more
you start getting into the good stuff like salad and praying they
actually becomes more enjoyable. But when you're not in there, and
we're in Haram,
activities that we think What a boring life that's gonna be
like, I can't do this anymore. I can't have girlfriends anymore. I
can't drink anymore. I can't go out anymore. And you're gonna
think, man, how can I? How can these guys What's wrong with these
guys? Man? What kind of world do these guys live in? Don't they get
any enjoyment? Look at them.
The only thing the WASC what kind of enjoyment is that?
It just depends on where you are and what you think.
Now, you know as much as I do that, that's not true. Enjoyment
is a very individual experience. Some people are completely happy
and satisfied in a in a tent in the middle of the desert. I've
seen students like that in Mauritania, they're completely
fine. That's what they've chosen to do.
There's people who've run away from cities to do that. In fact,
there's a guy who called me recently that I know very well
he's got a I think he's got a 13 year old son, and he can go
anywhere to study and he's intelligent, he could do very well
a top university. He goes, No, I don't want to I want to go to
study Mauritania. I want to go to right when to study.
Now my a friend of mine that study in Dr. And said that he had to go
and work in the fields. I've never seen that in any mother's about
enlivened mothers, they will actually go and make you work in
the fields. He was from America was actually an American, who is
mother data. He was in America, he got into the American army went to
Iraq and other places, I think. And then after that, the Tablighi
Jamaat mashallah helped, helped him caught him whatever you want
to call it, right?
You know, the right and mashallah, then they went to right, he went
to Taiwan and he is from California. He went and stayed in
Ryan for nine years. He didn't even come back home. He stayed
there for nine years, and that's tough. It's not darlin Karachi,
which has gotten really good facilities. Because I've seen
darlin Karachi, I haven't seen Raven. But right when he told me
we had to go and work in the fields in that heat, he was there
for nine years. Now mashallah Allah subhanaw taala has blessed
him, right? He's doing some really, he's doing some really
good work. So
you know, he's seen both, he's seen both. He's seen both sides of
the story, but this is what he's chosen. There's a reason he's
chosen it because Allah can give that satisfaction to anybody.
So this kid, I'm talking about this 13 year old kid, his father
studying like, what should I do? He wants to go to study in
Mauritania, because I don't want to go to this. I want to go where
there's nothing, I don't want to fall nothing.
How many kids you get like that?
And, you know, it's another topic. I don't want to start this topic
right now. But
in the future, I do want to speak about this in more detail through
a more research based talk on the science and the psychology that's
going behind
all these social media platforms and children's games right now.
There's a whole psychology behind it that's worth billions that is
being used there. And, and they're talking about it right now.
There's more of a discussion. It's coming up. There's very few people
who actually can see beyond that and say, no, they don't want that.
Very few bare majority of us are stuck in this. We can't divorce
it. We can't get rid of it. Even though we read the research. We
can't even get rid of it. It's so important. We justify it. But
you've got this 13 year old kid he lives in London, he lives very
close to here.
And he's saying he won't he doesn't want anything to do with
he wants to go on to study in those one of those kinds of
places.
You know, he could be sent to any man he's got his father's got the
money, I'm sure you can send him anywhere. But that's what he
wanted. He wants to go Subhanallah We ask Allah subhanaw taala to
assist us and help us. We ask Allah to give us insight we ask
Allah to guide us because without you ya Allah we are nothing. I
could read that one and then hamdulillahi rabbil Alameen Allahu
Mantis sinner I'm willing to sit on devolve they have an agenda
anybody Quran?
Allah who may or how you consume your particular study Subhanallah
hilarity curtain Allah herb. Does Allah horn Mohammed ma Hua Hello?
Allah, we ask you for your grace, we ask You for Your Mercy. We ask
You for Your pardon. We ask You for Your compassion. or Allah we
ask You for Your Mercy. We ask You for Your forgiveness. Oh Allah,
forgive us our sins. Forgive our excesses. Forgive our
shortcomings. Forgive our wrongdoings. Oh Allah, forgive our
lapses. Oh Allah, Oh Allah, forgive all the time that
we have turned away from you, that we have turned to things
that have attracted us of this world of Allah. We ask that you
keep us focused on you. of Allah, we ask that You grant us all the
good things that you've given to your righteous servants, and that
you make us among your righteous servants of Allah make us among
your righteous servants. make us of those who on the day of
judgment you will love to meet and we will love to meet you. Oh Allah
Allah
I was to meet you on the Day of Judgment. With only those things
that will not cause us embarrassment of Allah we ask you
for forgiveness for all of those things that will embarrass us in
front of others and in front of you. Oh Allah allow us to be
rectified before we die. Allow us to
get a control on ourself and our knifes before before the knifes
overcomes us, Oh Allah, we ask that you make us of those who love
you. Oh Allah grant us your love and the love of those who love you
grant us good companions, good friends, good colleagues of Allah
good work environment, a good home environment. Oh Allah grant us
righteous spouses. Oh Allah make us grant us righteous children, a
righteous progeny until the day of judgment of Allah, all of those
who are here all of those who are listening, Oh Allah, bless them
and do not allow any of us to return home today without being
forgiven, without having taken a full share of Your mercy today. Oh
Allah, we ask that you accept our doors, you accept our sitting here
you accept the small amount of remembrance and the small amount
of Deacon that we have done and you allow the words and whatever
we have discussed or Allah you allow us allow us to make that
part of our life and to follow it. They seem wise words that seem to
be easy, but we know how and you know how difficult they are for
us. But nothing is difficult. When you make it easy. Oh Allah
facilitate all of this for us. You're the facilitator, you're the
bestow, Oh Allah, grant us of all of the good that you give to the
righteous and Oh ALLAH righteous among them. Subhan Allah because
Allah is that you are an IOC foon was salam when I read more
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