Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Treatise For The Seekers Of Guidance Part 32 Don’t Do Things for Which You have to Make an Excuse
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abandon any such action which will force you or compel you to make
excuses afterwards.
Abandon all such deeds that will force you to
offer an excuse. So essentially, what kind of actions would those
be that would make you make an excuse afterwards, that would
necessitate that we explain ourself, then generally, my
understanding of that would be that it must be something which we
shouldn't be doing in the first place. Maybe it's something that
is doubtful, maybe it's something which is very suspicious.
And we end up doing it. And then after that, we have to actually
start explaining ourself, putting out clarifications or trying to
explain what my intention was or something like that. So just try
to think ahead and not do that in the beginning. Because this is
just maybe we discussed some time ago, all of those
imamo has to be discussed that as well. That there are a certain
number of things which give you a certain benefits, you get a bit of
a pleasure in doing them for a bit of a moment. And then after that,
it just leaves behind huge amount of despondency unhappiness.
And this is a bit similar in the sense that we're doing something
maybe we were in a place where we shouldn't have been speaking to
somebody we should not have been speaking to.
Going somewhere we're not supposed to go.
And then after that, we're forced to explain ourselves, because
somebody's going to find out. The world we live in, is very
interlinked. There's hardly anything that anybody can do in
this world and get away with it lifelong, very few people, if
ever.
It he can only keep stay away, you can only probably do things for a
while,
before somebody is going to find out something. Because we're human
beings and we can't tie up all loose ends, we can't if somebody's
doing something where they need to take a lot of precaution in doing
so. There's going to be that one time where a person was a bit
sleepy or tired or overconfident maybe made me becoming complacent,
nobody's going to find out. So let me just carry on doing
SubhanAllah.
So if that's the case, we can never trust ourselves.
In all these stories, you have people who did a scam for so long.
Even politicians who did things, people in government, people in
high positions who did things, even when they're 70 years old,
they get courts
towards the end of their life, and then they have a really despicable
end. That's really sad, isn't it? You do something for so long.
And then after that, towards the end of your life when you're
supposed to go with no problems. That's when you have an issue.
Yeah, Allah. That's why it is so important. One of them was ALLAH
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Oh Allah, I seek your refuge from the humiliation of this world and
from the punishment of the Hereafter.
Because we all may do something or end up doing something whether
inadvertently accidentally purposely in a moment of
foolishness or whatever the case is. That's why this is such an
important door.
If you want to keep everybody wants to honor everybody, nobody
wants to lose their honor. So oh Allah keep us away because we make
mistakes. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us this,
that this is the dua you make, oh Allah saved me from giving me
refuge from humiliation in this world degradation
that I get shown up, Allahu Akbar. That is really sad. And then
there's punishment in the hereafter as well. That's the
worst part
which are nib. Cooler hand in your mica fit the Caliph.
put to the side, any such state which will throw you into having
to be pretend Civ.
Just be normal and ordinary.
Just be simple and straightforward. The Sahaba like
that they were straightforward. They were simple people. They
didn't over complicate matters. They didn't have to do certain
that they weren't used to. And they did not put on the onto
themselves formalities I hate formalities, especially when
there's nothing, no benefit and no substance that comes out of it.
Formalities is no benefit that comes out of it.
Yes, if there's a formality that makes something look good, and it
makes it makes it look majestic, or great or honorable, that's
understandable. There's a purpose behind it. But to do certain
things that functions for example, which actually served no purpose,
they just some inherited practice, right, we just that's what you
call the color of the car leaf comes from the word cool for cool
for means burden and difficulty. Colfer means burden and difficulty
that can love means to take on burden or difficulty, and clearly
for no obvious reason, no, no viable reason. The cliff means to
burden somebody else to we are all what we call mocha love the
passive participle. From Allah sake, from Allah's perspective
that he has burdened us, meaning charged us, made us responsible to
do X, Y, and Zed and to avoid X, Y, and Zed. That's why we are all
vocal Levine in Arabic, what recording, He's given us what we
call tech leaf. Right, he's made us responsible, because we have to
undertake that Colfer. But what that can look from that particular
Arabic form the color of the firewall, it means to do something
in a forced way,
trying to show something that you're not really wanting to do.
That's kind of where it comes from. In Arabic, it's quite
amazing the way you you can bring in these kinds of verbs. So that's
what it means to show that you're doing something that you're not,
you don't really want to do all these pretenses.
So John, if Janet means put to the side,
anything that's going to throw you into just undertaking difficulty,
for no reason,
be simple. That's why one of the definition or one of the
descriptions and characteristics of the Sahaba done by other Sahaba
is they were a con loom that can often they were the least in doing
in taking pretenses. For example, you go to somebody's house,
or you go somewhere, and you know, genuinely they're trying to offer
you something to eat, you want to eat, you're hungry.
But you keep saying no, no, no, you start, you know, doing all of
that stuff, then that's wrong. But if you say, Okay, I'm hungry,
yeah, okay, I'll have a bit and you have a bit, you don't like you
know, eat everything up. But you know, you have a bit, that's what
you call, no tackle off. As opposed to that you always go to
somebody's house at dinner time, lunchtime, whatever it is, and you
always eat there, then that's going to look a bit weird as well.
These are just some society norms. So don't do Takalua you don't need
to, don't make people force you to do things, which you would, you
know, you can just do simply, especially if somebody is giving
something with a good heart, if you think that they're not then
avoid it. People who don't have pretenses, they're very easy to
work with. Because you see what you get, right? You know, you get
what you see, rather, whatever you see, that's what you're gonna get
from them. It's just simple. There's no need to then plan and
plot and second guess and everything like that. It's just a
very simple thing to do.
Then he says, in fact,
something that Ali Radi Allahu Anhu said, which is very
interesting. He said that eoco, my SP CO, ll rucola in Cairo who were
encounter in the desert row.
Avoid everything that will automatically make people reject
it or deny it or question it. Even if you have an excuse for it.
Just avoid anything, which is immediately going to make people
think certain things, even though you got an excuse for doing it.
That ties into what we were saying that try to avoid places of doubt.
Even if you've got an excuse for it. You have to then really
conceal yourself. So don't openly brazenly do things like this even
correctly. So if you can write which people are generally going
to consider to be wrong, even if you've got an excuse for it.
Generally, those kinds of people, those kinds of things will be
wrong. Anyway to start with. That's probably why this is being
said. But sometimes we have cases where there's something which is
culturally wrong, wrongly wrong, meaning it's wrong the way they
see it, but it's completely fine. Otherwise, then in that case,
you're supposed to do it so that you can actually correct it. But
not every time they can hurry because then they'll slaughter you
He has to be somebody in a position, which will make people
think if he or she is doing it, then they must be right to do
this. And we've been thinking wrong about doing it.
You know, I would say certain superstitions, for example, in
certain backward communities or certain progressive communities,
they have certain says superstitions. Those need to be
broken, that you can't marry in this particular month or something
like that. We'll go and have your marriage in that month.
Just because people say that you're not going to get Baraka in
it because they think so. When is it is it between hygiene, ombre
Ramadan, which I think is in Mahara? It's just really
ridiculous.
In that case, you should actually get married. But you know what the
mind will play tricks on you, oh, people are gonna say this, I mean,
must be wrong. And then if something little happens always
because I'm married Muharram you have to be solid in that case. I
mean, it's not your responsibility to, you know, to go and make sure
you get married at that time. But in that case is different. But
when something is considered to be wrong,
and it should be wrong, then you need to be very careful.
Then he says it was Sunday NACA Bill aqidah. II. Wow. Protect your
Diem by following someone.
Protect your deen through emulation.
Protect your deen through emulation. Now, I'm going to read
into this. I'm hoping this is what the author intended by this is
that if somebody goes off on their own, against what the majority of
scholars were talking about here, again, no, we're not talking about
culture says because culture can be very, very wrong. Right? I'm
talking about the majority of scholars say they go off on a
tangent from that without knowledge.
And they think they're doing right. They're not going to
protect the deen.
If the scholars were supposed to have studied this, they're
supposed to be as what the prophets of the Lord Islam said,
Allah ma waterfords Will MBR scholars are the inheritors of the
Prophet, then that means that there must be something with the
scholars, whether you like it or not. Whether you you hate all the
scholars in your area for whatever reason, right? You think they will
sit on their backs and do nothing?
Right? You may think that they you, you see, you see what I've
seen is this. Whenever you go to any area, they'll all start
complaining about the masjid. And their committee.
I've seen that like, wherever you go, you start talking about the
Masjid. They'll all start complaining about their local
masjid. And then what I've noticed is somebody is going to be
complaining about the Masjid. But in another community, people were
complaining about their masjid and praising this Masjid.
It's really weird. So in my area, they will be complaining about
their Masjid. Right? They may be saying look at that Masjid. But
when I've gone to people of that masjid, they've complained about
their Masjid. Maybe they're doing one thing. One thing or two things
maybe, which these guys aren't. So they think that those guys are Oh,
what a wonderful Masjid look at their committee community
interaction, this, that and the other and all the rest of it.
They're doing one or two good things, these guys are maybe doing
one or two good things as well. Right? Maybe these guys have good
toilets, that are always got hot water in there. That's a good
thing. I've heard praises of that. I was with somebody. I went to a
masjid. And he said, ya know, this Masjid is the machine is doing
wonderful work in terms of the outreach work and everything but
that he complained about their toilets. And he said that these
other messages that he was speaking about who don't do much
other outreach work. That's not what you mentioned. But he said
they have better toilets.
So we're always looking at other people and other things about
other people. And we're noticing the best of them when we want to
be self criticizing.
But at the end of the day, there's very few massage that actually
fulfilling the role properly.
Everybody's doing a bit here or there. Nobody's perfect. But just
don't think that just because somebody else is doing one thing,
which is good, then they must all be good. Because there's criticism
there as well. Or maybe the way to look at this is that your own
people, you're going to constantly be criticizing your own much more,
because nobody's up to perfection. It's just a natural thing. But
protect your deen by following. That's why another thing that I
was saying is that
there's an area which has a lot of good scholars in there. But when
they hold programs in their area, they don't get much of a turnout.
Then they got a scholar that is another prominent scholar from
another area when he came they got a massive turnout. So saying we
need people like him, bringing him a few more times, bringing him 234
more times and you see the same thing as well.
Do you see what I'm saying? Very few people can attract a massive
crowd each time everywhere.
especially when you become local, then people then psychological
reactions. Oh, you know, there's a way he's he all the time. He says
the same thing all the time, whatever the case is, that's just
the way these things are. And people need to put this in
perspective, when you understand this, then you won't be chasing
after things, which are not useful. Otherwise, you're always
going to be looking for big name people who are going to come and
inspire people Hamdulillah. And may Allah bless these people for
doing that. But in terms of solid work on the ground, that's not
going to happen is that all you want from your local Masjid is to
have a big event. And then nothing sustained on a day to day basis.
You just wanted that to 500 people, maybe 500 people, maybe
1000 people came to your event. So what what happens after that
shouldn't be that you're actually providing services on a day to day
basis. That's what you should be focusing on. This is what people
do they just looking for names that will attract the best crowd,
if you're attracting the best crowd to then get them to do
something that's maybe understandable.
So things need to be broken down to understand why is something
happening the way it's happening? And is this something that we need
to be looking for? Is there something that we that is useful?
How is it going to benefit?
Going back to this point, though, he's saying that if you want to
stay secure in your faith, then find a role model, find a scholar,
find somebody that you can you can
allow it to lead you in the right way. They may not be perfect,
because nobody after the poster Lawson was perfect. But at least
if they're mostly right, then that is good. Because how else do
people do even scholars need even scholars themselves need somebody
above them? Because the human being is very vulnerable.
The human being after the prophets of the Lord Islam and then the
Sahaba because of the fact that Allah wanted them to be strong,
everybody is vulnerable. Even scholars can be misled. Even our
limbs of the deen can be misled. That's why even scholars need
somebody's supervision as far as possible. And then those who are
not scholars who can't go directly to the Quran, sunnah.
They, of course need help. Everybody needs help in this
world. And the Prophet SAW awesome showed us that he showed us how he
was the guide for everybody during this time.
Because without that shaytaan is going to make you want to do
things which are wrong. And it's going to justify, it's very easy
to justify, it's very easy to justify things, especially today,
when we're quite vulnerable in the face of all of the challenges that
are coming towards Islam. People think that there's certain needs
that are required, there's certain needs, which justify doing a
certain thing in a certain way.
Even though the fatwa of the scholars is different, no, this is
needed by the you guys don't and those scholars, they don't get it.
They don't live in the real worlds.
Right. So you get you try to justify things. And you see some
people who go on to justify justifying bandwagon, and
eventually they just end up justifying everything.
I mean, then then you can even dress up as a Father Christmas and
it's not a problem. Right? It's just
what's the big deal sold for the sake of attracting people and so
on and so forth.
This is what you call the justifying bandwagon everybody
needs a guide. Otherwise shaytan will embellish. Use a yellow home
or murder home, which is the UNL home or murder home he will
embellish the deeds for us to make them seem right.
That's why it's nice when somebody comes and corrects you. Because
most people don't correct anybody. Most people aren't corrected these
days, people leave people to do whatever they want. So if somebody
is there to correct us, then we can learn from it.
And then he says
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protect your intelligence. Protect your intelligence, from the
etiquette of the people of forbearance.
Forbearance is the ability to see things happening but not react in
a spontaneous manner incorrectly. It's to be very considerate, very,
very considerate and respond in the wisest way in a situation.
That's what you call him. That's why they say you need l but with
the LM you need a huge dose of him to be able to do the right thing
with that l
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of how you deal with your knowledge. So you've learned
something. And then you go around militantly bashing people and
actually turning them
more against the Dean than actually closer to the your focus
is to actually bring them closer to the dean to stop them doing
wrong. But the way you do it is without him.
A lot of people when they graduate from certain institutions, they've
been in a very protected area,
very protected environment, where generally not much wrong is taking
place, everybody is, you know, very observant.
When you come out into the world, and they see a lot of looseness,
they get very angry, they want to see a black and white world. They
don't want any grays in between, because that's what they've been
used to. That's what's been drummed in their head, and rightly
so it's got it's fine. So they come out and they don't know how
to react. So then they start being very militant in trying to correct
it the next day. And the world doesn't work like that. After 10
years, they look back and say that was the wrong approach, I should
have been calmer about it.
I would have gotten further.
And this happens in everything. Whether that be in your work as
well, you can't change things overnight. You have to but you
have to, you have to win people over first you have to let them
trust you. You have to set yourself up first, to be trusted
with people's Deen with their life with their culture, then you can
start helping them with it.
So make sure that your uncle your intelligence doesn't get them the
better of you where your intelligence starts to direct you
in a way that is completely incorrect incompatible with the
way of data that will has its dub inviting somebody to Allah
correcting people has its own adab
and
that let not the intelligence get the better of you in that regard.
Have a heart in it, have a heart in it. We ask Allah subhanaw taala
for assistance we have Allah to protect us. We ask Allah to give
us company and people that we can follow and may Allah subhanho wa
Taala protect our deen protect our akal and protect and accept us for
the service of his Deen Lachman this an element because Salam
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Allahumma salli wa salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala early so
you know Mohammed or Burdick was synonym or Allah we ask You for
Your beneficence. Oh Allah we ask You for Your forgiveness of Allah
forgive us, O Allah purify us of Allah enlighten our hearts, our
love, purify our hearts, oh Allah make our hearts the way you want
them to be. Our Our hearts are filled with the attachment of many
other things besides you are what Allah they prevent us from turning
towards you. Oh Allah, all of these things in our hearts. They
turn us from having full concentration of you in our
prayers of Allah even when we remember you. of Allah, we ask You
to cleanse our heart. Oh Allah grant us an overwhelming love in
our hearts for you. of Allah grant us a love that penetrates deep
into our hearts and infuses our body for you. Oh Allah make us of
those who are true believers. And Allah the true believers, as
you've mentioned in the Quran, are those who most intensely love you,
Oh Allah, make us truly of these people. Oh Allah, we ask that you
turn our attention away from the dunya of Allah, that you keep us
away from the culverts from doing pretense, the from having to
undertake an undertaking pretentious, X, O Allah, O Allah,
we ask you, that you make us of those who have high resolution of
Allah, those who are highly motivated to do the right thing.
And Allah make us of those who have clear goals and ambitions and
Allah who then see them through our Allah above all, let us be of
those who follow the righteous and our Allah who follow your ways,
who make us of those who make the halal and consider it to be halal.
And those who make those things which are haram to be haram. And
Allah, allow us to abstain from the Haram of Allah show us the
truth wherever we are. Protect us. protect us from being in the wrong
company. protect us from being wrong company. protect us from
being leaders of evil. Oh Allah make us leaders of the good of
Allah make us leaders towards the good of Allah you be our guide. Oh
Allah you be our guide. Oh Allah protect us, our children and our
progeny until the day of judgment of Allah all those who sit here
today on this Sunday morning. Oh Allah Who? Oh Allah do not turn no
You have us away without being forgiven of Allah without having
granted without having granted us your great rewards and your great
attention. Oh Allah is you who brought us here this morning
without you we would never have been able to be here. But since
you've brought us here now, we take this as a good sign that you
want to give us something. Oh ALLAH There was no need for any of
us to be here this morning. But Oh Allah, you allowed us to be here.
Oh Allah in this gathering of liquor. Oh Allah, we our liquor is
not of anything our thicker doesn't hold any weight. But Allah
it is your remembrance of Allah we're remembering you in this
case. And Oh Allah, your messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has
told us that when people gather together to remember your name,
then the angels surround such people. And there is tranquility
that descends there is mercy that descends and these are such
people, that anybody who even sits with them, they are not, they
don't remain unfortunate and without anything, oh Allah. If
this is the case of Allah make this a gathering of vicar of Allah
allow those characteristics to be applied here. And our law makers
of those who have received these benefits, despite our shortcoming
and our weakness of Allah, O Allah, we ask that you assist us
in this world and grant us baraka and blessing in whatever we're
doing. Oh Allah allow us to do only that which is right of Allah
protect us, our children from all the challenges that this modern
world puts to us today. Oh Allah, Oh Allah, we ask that You grant us
the Cunnamulla Illa Illa Allah on our deathbed, allow all of the
stages to to, to go very well and successfully and grant us a place
in gender to fill those. And finally, we ask you to send your
abundant blessings on our messenger Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam and that you grant us his company in the
hereafter. So why not because of the diversity and IOC Fonasa
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