Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Three Divorce in One Sitting

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speaker discusses the three divorces that are required in marriage, and how they can be resolved. They emphasize that giving three is not required, and that there is a halala that needs to be done with the wife. The speaker also warns against giving three as an excuse, and encourages others to stop giving them.

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			Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi
Wabarakatuh, my beloved brothers
		
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			and sisters, there's something
really important that I want to
		
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			tell you today. Right? It's
something that I've wanted to tell
		
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			you for a very, very long time.
Three divorces are absolutely
		
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			wrong. It's a sin to give three
divorces, right? To utter three
		
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			divorces at once is an absolute
wrong and it's a sin and it is not
		
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			required. And that is not what is
necessary. Right? If somebody
		
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			wants to divorce their wife,
they're very angry or they want to
		
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			divorce their wife for whatever
reason, please, one divorce is
		
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			more than sufficient. This is
agreed upon, they will all agree
		
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			all the owner will agree that
three divorces and there are
		
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			Hadith about this as well, three
divorces are wrong, you do not
		
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			give three divorces together, we
really really need to understand
		
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			this. Because for the absolute
overwhelming majority of scholars,
		
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			if you give three divorces, it's a
point of no return. Which means
		
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			then there's a halala, that has to
be done with the wife and so on. I
		
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			know there's a minority opinion
out there, right, which is not
		
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			agreed upon by the majority, that
three is equal to one. But even
		
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			those people who say that I mean,
I don't particularly take that
		
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			view at all, I reject that view.
However, despite that, even the
		
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			people who hold that view would
say that to give three is wrong,
		
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			right in the first place. It is
wrong to give three, it is not
		
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			necessary at all.
		
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			We get calls all the time saying
oh, I divorced my wife three times
		
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			I did it three times, the wife
will call and say my husband said
		
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			it three times. Right? And then
when you ask them why they say
		
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			they would say that, Oh, we did
not know I didn't really mean it.
		
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			I thought you actually had to say
three times one doesn't do
		
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			anything. The way to do it is
actually three times. These are
		
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			all excuses. These are excuses.
They say I'm ignorant of my faith.
		
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			I didn't really know Brother,
you're married, you should know
		
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			about marriage, you should know
about divorce as well, especially
		
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			if you've been contemplating
divorce, most people will not
		
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			divorce unless they've
contemplated it. Lots of people
		
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			get angry and have arguments with
their spouse, they don't issue a
		
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			divorce just like that. They might
swear they might do something
		
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			else, they might get very angry.
They may tend to get up but they
		
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			do not say the word divorce or
Talaq or whatever the case is,
		
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			generally, it's people who
contemplate divorce,
		
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			from whom it actually then just
comes out like that. So there's no
		
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			excuses. Again, just to finish
off, three is completely wrong.
		
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			One is more than sufficient. One
is more than sufficient, right?
		
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			One is more than sufficient,
please, I would really, really
		
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			request really, really plead to
you that tell at least 10 people
		
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			from those around you, your
friends and family that just one
		
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			divorce is more than sufficient.
You do not need to give three
		
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			three is actually wrong, you will
be sinful for even giving three
		
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			three, right? Besides the fact of
whatever happens afterwards, it
		
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			will be wrong to even get three
please tell at least 10 people
		
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			this so that we can actually stop
this abuse we can stop this sin
		
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			and we can actually stop so much
misery from taking place and so
		
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			many families from breaking up for
no reason please be part of the
		
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			change here. Right so that we can
stop this abuse from taking place
		
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			please do let other know others
know. And just alcohol here on a
		
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			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa
barakato Jazak. Allah here for
		
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			listening. May Allah subhanho wa
Taala bless you. And if you're
		
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Salam aleikum wa Warahmatullahi
		
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			Wabarakatuh.