Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – The Sign of a Dead Heart [Hikam 48]
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In fact, there's a hadith which says, method will lead the EFF
could rob will live the lie of Kuranda cathedral, how you will
make it very famous narration, the example of the one who remembers
Allah. And the one who does not, is just like the example of the
living one and the dead one.
So if somebody never remembers Allah, they're like, fully dead,
spiritually, fully dead. They're not getting anything. And they
just literally going through the turns of this world, whether
through enjoyment or otherwise, but they're getting nothing.
If a person does it a bit, they're partially that.
So this is integrated level. But that's very, very true that the
one who remembers Allah, their hearts will be alive. And when
they're alive, that mean they will take in things that they need to
take in, and they will give things that they need to give that will
provide a benefit in the hereafter. So their hearts are
active. They're active in terms of the Hereafter, that they're doing
things in this world which are benefiting them in the hereafter
not harming them in hereafter.
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If not, I thought it Allah Allah Eskandari Rahim Allah, that he
left behind such a wonderful collection of wisdoms and
aphorisms, truly a knower of Allah, may Allah make us notice of
Allah and grant us Malefor so that we can gain closeness to him as
well. Today, it's a very, very intuitive one that will make a lot
of sense and put things in perspective. This is what if not,
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a sign of the hearts death is the absence of sadness over the acts
of obedience that you have neglected.
And the abandonment of regret over the mistakes that you have made.
So it's a sign of the heart. It's the sign of a dead heart.
That we feel no sadness about all of these days and months and years
that have passed in which we could have done definitely could have
done a lot more.
And it doesn't bother us that we didn't. It doesn't bother us that
we've wasted so much time. And that we could have done more.
And my hope in Allah subhanaw taala is that if somebody could
even think that way. Allah is so generous, that if he is willing on
the Day of Judgment, to turn all the bad deeds into good ones. If a
person makes Toba to give you a starting balance already, then I
couldn't put it past the loss of $100 generosity that for a person
genuinely felt that that kind of remorse that last 40 years, 50
years, 20 years, I've spent wasting my time I could have done
so much differently. And then he seriously does it afterwards.
SWANA, you know, you might even give us for the previous years.
Right? What we wished we would have done. So he said, that's one
of the signs of the heart. And the other is that
the abandonment of regret over the mistakes you have made. We've made
mistakes in the past, we have no regrets over them.
Sometimes, I would say that out of the two
out of the two, feeling like we could have done more and feeling
bad about that. And the other one is that feeling regret over what
we shouldn't have done, but we did. I think the second one is the
one that generally if anybody feels like that would be the first
thing would feel that. Okay, I feel bad about this since I've
done. But I don't know if anybody actually feels I've seen I've
heard this very less from anybody that they would feel that when
I've wasted so much time I could have done this. I do hear it. In
fact, on one occasion, just to give you an idea I was with
another scholar in it was in hygiene, I think it was in
hygiene. It was after hedge. He goes for hedges well, but he
always goes alone. And he says the reason is I can focus more on my
hedge, I don't get bothered with anybody and so on. I always like
to go with a group because you get to guide the group. You get to do
your own hygiene and you get to get the group because that's all
free reward for you. So when I explained that to him that way
that don't you understand that you could literally get the reward of
300 more people or 500 More people depending on the size
A group is because they all they will most people in hedge need
help. And the scholar is the most important thing in a hedge group
sometimes. So if you can guide them and they follow your
guidance, you're going to get their reward as well. And then
he's like, all of these years, I've wasted my time. I should have
done it then.
So there are people who think about this. There are people I
wish I did this, I wish I'd done my heads of the Quran.
So there are people I wish I'd continue my studies, I wished I
did this, I wished I prayed all of these years, there are people who
do that. But I will say that it's not something everybody thinks
about. Now we can actually make it a point to think about that. So
let us see what this is all about. So the way
where this all comes from,
is that the Quran Allah which Allah constantly tells us to do,
in the Quran, over and over again, remember your Lord, remember your
Lord, remember the Name of your Lord? The hadith tells us often,
in fact, there's a hadith which says, methodology, yes, could rob
will lay the lay of call Rhonda can method how you will make it
very famous narration, the example of the one who remembers Allah,
and the one who does not, is just like the example of the living one
and the dead one.
So if somebody never remembers Allah, they're like, fully dead,
spiritually, fully dead. They're not getting anything. And they're
just literally going through the turns of this world, whether
through enjoyment otherwise, but they're getting nothing.
If a person does it a bit, they're partially that.
So this is integrated level. But that's very, very true that the
one who remembers Allah, their hearts will be alive. And when
they're alive, that mean, they will take in things that they need
to take in. And they will give things that they need to give,
that will provide a benefit in the hereafter. So their hearts are
active. They're active in terms of the Hereafter, that they're doing
things into which are benefiting them in the hereafter not harming
them in hereafter. So now, when we know this hadith is from the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we want to try to
understand what is a dead heart. And what is a living heart them
because it's quite general to to just say the one who remembers
Allah and the one who doesn't. So let's see if there's more to it.
So now there are them through the different Hadith there are and so
on. We've come up with the following conclusion, as Imam
igniter Allah says, he only mentioned two signs.
So
there are generally three causes for the death of the heart.
We're going to explain this in a bit of detail. There are three
causes for the death of the heart. The first one is love for the
world.
Love for the world. Now, again, I've clarified this many times
when you say love for the world, it's completely fine to love
things in this world for the right reason. If they're taking you
somewhere, if they're doing something for you for the right
reason for the sake of Allah, if it's there for the sake of Allah,
and to reach Allah and to please Allah and to fulfill our
obligations by Allah, then that's fine, but loving the dunya purely
for the sake of loving and being obsessed by it, that's the
problem. So it's completely fine to have a good job, a good
business, good clothes and everything else, as long as it's
done, not with the wrong reason, not purely out of intrinsic love
for this world. That's number one. Number two. Number two is
heedlessness from remembrance of Allah, when we just don't even
think is necessary to remember Allah.
We don't think it's remember necessary to remember him. I said,
there are many people who pray a lot, but they don't really
remember Allah in that they do it as a ritual. So the remembrance of
Allah is devoid of that. Did you think about Allah in your prayer?
Even once, maybe not in every posture, but at least once?
Sometimes no, sometimes no. Even though we're taking Allah's Name,
we're taking it in a ritual. So can you imagine people who don't
even prayer at all, they don't even get to say the name of Allah.
At least if we pray, we get Allahu Akbar, remain of focus and say
Allah is greatest.
May Allah give us prayers in which we have full consciousness of
Allah subhanaw taala. So that is heedlessness from the remembrance
of Allah. And the third sign, he says, is Irizar or gelar, femur
Arcilla which is to let loose the limbs
in the disobedience of Allah let loose means that's a really good
way of saying that's a really clever way of saying it. The
reason is that, if we're not careful, it's very easy to let the
limbs slip, the eyes slip
the ears, slip the tongue slip the feet and the hands and etc slip.
It's very easy. You actually have to keep it.
That's Taqwa. That's God consciousness to keep it in check.
unless we've made such an effort that we've put ourselves
In an environment where it's very difficult to let it slip, where
they can't slip
where it's difficult to let it slip.
But that environment is very difficult to attain. It's not easy
to have for everyone. The closest we've probably ever had it was
with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in Madina, Munawwara but
we didn't get there, we weren't there.
You get in the masjid. If you're in Attica, if you're in hajj, if
you're in the path of Allah somehow, may Allah give us more of
these opportunities. So those are the three things he says, love of
the world. heedlessness, no attentiveness to remembering
Allah, no care to remember Allah and number three is to let just
let the limbs loose without feeling any kind of regrets or
whatever in the disobedience of Allah.
Okay, so that was how to kill the hearts.
Unfortunately, many of us are very good at that. Allah, Allah make us
bad at that. Then he says, then the means for enlivening the
heart, rejuvenating the heart, giving it life, making it bright,
are also three things, the opposite of the verse, which is
Zulu, fit, dunya detachment from the love of the world. So we're in
the world, but we're detached from it, we're using it, we have to use
it, I'm only using you because I need to use you literally is like
that. Right. And that's number one. Number Number two,
to occupy oneself, with the remembrance of Allah.
And number three, he says, is keeping the company. So this one
is not the opposite of the one. That was the sign of that that was
a cause for the death of the heart. This one is, and being in
the company, of the friends of Allah, being in the company of
those who are close to Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, because that
has a huge benefit. A human being humans are very social. humans
learn from others more than learn from anything else, whether you
like it or not, that's how we learn. So being in the company of
good people, is going to keep us in check. It's going to benefit
us, it's going to remind us, the company helps us to be in the
environment to do something. When we're sitting here in this liquor
gathering, we could still think of wrong things, but we're more
likely not to, because we're sitting in a masjid, we're sitting
with the words of ALLAH is Mr Lumm, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
are being spoken about everybody else's heart is focused on that
just makes it easier.
Then after that, he says that the sign of the death is three things.
The first one is which he which is which even our title has
mentioned, which is not to feel any kind of sadness over any of
the opportunity for obedience that we could have had and taken in the
past, that we didn't fill out accounts. And number two, was not
to feel regret over whatever mistakes we've made in slip ups
we've done and number three.
He says that this is actually one of the signs of the death of the
heart is that if you continue to remain with heedless people
you can't change with heedless people. I mean, that's just the
given.
The more we stay with heedlessness around us, we pick that up
unless we're the leaders and we're trying to change that he listeners
we've got a plan. We're taking people in the wrong in the right
direction. But otherwise, if we're just with the heedless you can't
that's why a lot of people they mashallah they retire to the
masjid in the advanced age, they spend more time in the masjid
rather than So, mashallah, we've got a lot of older people, and
some younger ones who will stay between Maghrib and Isha.
Or, you know, any two prayers and that because for them, they've
just found this love in being away from things that are distracting.
And a safe places the Masjid. As long as you don't get involved in
the politics of the machine, man is everyone fortunately, maybe
seen the mercy of get involved in the politics of the Masjid? Just
look, who do we like to be around? Where do we enjoy being?
Are we trying to get out of that kind of situation?
If you can't get out of it, at least we dislike it or we minimize
it, or we protect ourselves in it would be more caution in it.
So I think that really puts everything in perspective anyway.
He says because
another way to explain this, he says Leanna SIdora Tara Minelab
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for any good thing to be able to come from a human being from a
slave of Allah for any good thing that comes that signals to one
fact that there's hope for you for salvation in the hereafter. That
That's why you're doing good things, any good that we can get
to do in this world. At the end of the day, Sophie crane, I was just
speaking to a doctor who was with me in Hajj. He's from America, I
got to speak to him after many, many, many months, maybe over a
year. And he says, we're getting older, but I'll tell you
something, you can't do anything without the Tofik of Allah.
Nothing happened. No good can happen in your life without Allah
wanting that to happen. And we can, we can only expect Allah want
that to happen for us. If we want it to happen from Him, then He
enables us.
He enables us to do it. Otherwise, if we're distracted, we're
constantly showing him negligence. Why should he do that? Why should
we force us we have free will in this world. So that's why he's
saying that if if good does come from a person that just shows that
it's good fortune for that person. And then the opposite is true as
well. If bad and bad does come a fair person that's a sign of
Chicago, which means being wretched in the hereafter.
That it's doesn't feel bode well.
It doesn't look good.
So then he says the easiest way is fine kind of call bohemian Bill
mad if you will. Iman number Houma, ug Bucha Kawata.
If the heart is going to be locked alive with Allah's, with knowing
Allah and Iman full of human, then it's going to pain the heart.
Anything that would cause a person to be wretched in the hereafter
that would pain us. Man, this is wrong. I know I'm doing it. But
this is really painful. I know there's pleasure in it as well but
it's actually really painful like that should dominate and once that
dominates, then the pleasure of that will go away. Otherwise haram
things are very pleasurable. Usually that's why we do them. So
it's this heart over matter almost that we have to start thinking
start thinking that no, this is wrong. This is going to be bad for
me. I can't do it. This overindulgence like too much sugar
or too much smoking or, or smoking at all, or anything like that is
bad for me, even though it's so pleasurable and so attractive. No,
I can't do it. You have to overcome it that way.
That's why he said that any heart which is alive is going to be
pained what a for whom IUD Bousada, and we if we do end up
doing something which is supposed to attain good fortune for us in
the Hereafter, we're going to be happy about hamdulillah Al
Hamdulillah. I managed to do that today. Hamdulillah I managed to
fulfill this or do my cover prayers or do all my prayers to do
in the masjid to give that much charity to do that donation to
assist in this to do that it makes you feel good. And it genuinely
does.
He then says out the coal. Another way to look at this is sudo rota
Amina lab, the other button Allah Redondo Allah, whenever goodness
comes from a person. Whenever a person does a good deed, then
consider that to be sign of Allah's being pleased with him.
That's another way to look at it. Allah is pleased with us in sha
Allah is pleased with us was so Duromax yada, yada, yada. And
whenever bad comes from us, then consider that that is a sign that
Allah subhanaw taala is angry with us. So he's letting us he's not.
Would you mean, it's not like he's pushing us to do it, but he's
letting us do it.
The way Allah does it is that he just
takes it away from us. He just
takes his assistants away.
And then we just incline we just go wrong.
Otherwise, there's people who, because they doing certain good
things or somebody's do hours with them, they want to do bad and they
can't do it.
They want to go out and commit a haram. And the friend is supposed
to go with doesn't show up that day.
And they curse him on the phone.
But a week later they come to this and like Alhamdulillah I didn't go
hamdulillah Allah saved us.
That's the baraka of doing good deeds. So it protects us from
other bad deeds. That's the baraka of having our parents do ours with
us. Our teachers do ours and pious people's company and
all of this is a quantum world we live in where all of this is
impacting because everything has an impact.
Subhanallah that's why he says then, for callable Hi yo yo his su
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the heart has to become sensitive. Our hearts aren't sensitive, they
blunt they have no feeling. That's why we can't feel either way. So
this is the third way he's explaining now. He says the heart.
The living heart will be a sensitive heart, which means it's
sensitive. You
enough to understand what is going to be pleasing Allah and thus is
going to become excited by it and happy by us.
It just shows with desensitize, we have no sensitivity because that's
dead. Then he says, And likewise, they will have the sensitivity and
consciousness of what
brings about the Wrath of Allah and the displeasure of Allah. So
then they will feel bad about it.
It happens slowly, slowly, we do a wrong we feel bad, we carry on
doing it, somebody justifies it, or we overcome and we do it and
then we feel a bit bad only. And then the third time we feel very
less bad if at all, and then after that, we start feeling that and
then one day when we hear a lecture or get a reminder or
something happens in our life, and we like oh, that must be is.
Allah make it easy for us. Allah make it easy for us.
What are your husband or herself let in so then he says
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A dead heart doesn't feel anything has no sensitivity has no feeling
Calistoga in the hoodoo tal Marcia. It's the same for him.
It's absolutely equal famous it does a good deed or a bad deed
makes no no difference. Sometimes you have to do good deeds because
they with others or whatever the case or to Actually Actually I
have to do yoga, or it's Ramadan, so I have to practice makes no
real big difference about it.
And then he says layup for who better at in one more Africa team.
They don't get very excited or joyous when they do some obedience
or conformance to the Sharia. And what I have you know as Allah,
they don't become unhappy when they make a mistake. When I'm out
see, or or even a sin for that matter. Just like dead person. You
do what you want to a dead body, nothing happens. You do what you
want to a dead body, dead body, you know they're at the People's
mercy. Nothing happens. The same kind of thing with this. That's
why we the the Prophet saw some sums it up beautifully. He says,
Man Serato Hassan Otto
was a to say, to follow a McMann whoever's good deeds,
make them happy. And whoever is bad deeds,
upset them.
Then he's the true believer.
Because I was told us multiple def is providing multiple definitions
of a believer in terms of what we can do in life to be a true
believer what's required for us and this is just one of them.
Abdullah Hypno, Masuda the Allahu Anhu says a lot you know, Yasunaga
getting the houfy ously Jabel you have on your car, they are a
beautiful example. He says that a believer he sees himself. He sees
actually he sees his sins, he the way he observes the sins is like
he is standing
underneath
a huge mountain that is going to topple over in any time.
Like it's precarious. It can fall anytime there could be another
launch or the whole mountain can just just follow anything for that
matter. That's how bad he sees a sin
where whereas a third year, which means the transgressor they look
at their sins like some fly
that settled on the nose, and they've just kind of moved it off.
It's not a big deal. Like how easy is it to just move a flyer? Not a
big deal at all. Like we just do that it's a bit inconvenient keeps
coming back. It's a bit inconvenient, but it's not a
serious as the house is going to drop down here.
So yeah, he just goes like this and causes the flight to move
away.
So we ask Allah subhana wa Taala for Tofik to give us the ability
to feel bad about the years that we've passed. Because our days
continue whether we like it or not, the time doesn't stop and
we've got an end time we've got a destination to get to. And the
train of our life is just hurtling down. It's just going towards this
destination
and care about anything. It just goes it just on track, doesn't get
derailed. It knows exactly where to go.
So we ask Allah subhanaw taala to forgive us and compensate us if we
can summon up enough remorse over the past because we can. He's so
generous. He is so generous. ohana, Allah. He is so generous.
And may Allah subhanaw taala allow us to remember him and do
everything that we do with his thought in mind. And when we make
a mistake, we seek forgiveness and we feel really bad about it so
that we repent and
we can do good deeds to compensate
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even human Ahmad yeah Allah, Allah we ask you for your session
especially mercies. Yeah Allah we thank you for allowing us to be
here. We Allah we thank you for allowing us to remember you are
Allah however broken our worship is, however weak, our remembrance
this, Allah whova distracted by however negligent we've been. At
the end of the day we are Your servants near Allah we have love
for you. Yeah Allah We worship you. Yeah Allah we believe in you.
We acknowledge you, we affirm you. Allah, we do not deny deny you.
Yes, we get sidetracked. We get distracted. We become negligent.
We become lazy. We keep delaying. We have good ideas. And then after
that, we fail and we drop and we fall down. Oh Allah, we need your
assistance of Allah. Only your assistance can take us to
paradise. Only your Tofik can make us do good deeds of Allah only
your help, can assist us on your help can be beneficial for us. We
need your support. We have seen in this world when children are
learning how to walk and they get tired then their parents pick them
up. Oh Allah, we need picking up we are tired from fighting against
the shape time and our enough's. Oh Allah we want to be good. We
get up in the morning with good intentions. We leave from the
masjid with good intentions, but by the time the next hour a few
hours have passed we have broken these we have broken these pledges
and we have changed our mind or we have become distracted. Oh Allah
we ask that you assist us and help us of Allah We thankful to you for
allowing us to be believers, allowing us to be those who pray
and those who want to be good but Oh ALLAH now make us good. Oh
Allah make us how you want us to be our law makers, how you want us
to be, Oh Allah, sometimes we don't even know what's good for
us. We get caught up in different things we get pulled from from
different directions, we get pushed into different directions.
We get attracted by different things. But Allah, we ask that you
assist us and guide us right. And we ask you for your love and the
love of all of those things and all of those people who love you
to Allah, we ask that you make our surrounding environment to be a
good one that will remind us of you and Allah, we ask that you
make our environment such that makes us sensitive to the things
that we're doing, and to be happy with our good deeds, and to be sad
with our bad deeds and the ability to stop them. Oh Allah, Oh Allah,
we need your assistance. This is so difficult for us to do our
Allah bless all of those who are here and those who are listening
are Allah those who are listening, or Allah bless all of those who
Allah we ask you to grant a respite and a delivery for all of
those around the world in the various different countries that
are suffering. And oh Allah protect us here as well and
everywhere else. And oh Allah protect Islam here protect the
masjid, the monarch is the institute's and everybody else
that's doing good work for you. And Allah allow us all to take a
part in this and become part of those who serve the deen part of
those who serve people, part of those who assist people so that
our life is a rich life, our right life is a fulfilling life our life
is a higher than ever, so that when we die, we die with a good
life. We die with a good life and lots to keep lots to contribute in
the hereafter and we rise up and you accept us as well. If we rise
accepted by you, of Allah accept so a lot except our children and
our progeny and our families and except us all. So why not? Because
I realized that the IOC Fonasa when I was studying all
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