Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – The Reality of Love
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My dear respected brothers and sisters.
Nice to be with you on this Sunday evening.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala make this a blessing meeting and a
blessing gathering. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala make it a cause
of our closest to him and of an increase in our love for Him.
Because increase in love for Allah subhanho wa Taala is the secret of
all success in this world.
Love of Allah subhanho wa Taala is what teaches a person and makes a
person a better lover in every other aspects. How do we define
love? That's something that I will do a bit later. Once we've given a
few examples of what love is all about. Now, I'm going to take a
I'm going to go back into history. So today what you have is people
learn love from different places. I mean, where do people love,
learn love from nowadays, people learn love from EastEnders
neighbors, Oprah Winfrey shows, here she brings on these people
who gone madly in love with somebody for some reason, the way
we describe love is butterflies in the stomach, electricity, feeling
of you know, a connection, et cetera, et cetera. There's lots of
that stuff. Right? You have to remember that when there's a man
and a woman alone, who are not married, then shaytaan is a third
of them. And that's the electricity that you feel. Now
today, the talk is not necessarily about marriage, although I'm sure
most of you read into this poster and I looked at it very carefully.
Before I came. The title of the poster is ingredients to a happy
and content life ingredients to a happy and content life. Nowhere on
that poster though it was read nowhere on that poster, was there
anything to do with marriage? Because when I was preparing, I
said hold on, let me let me see what this is about. Because the
last time I looked at it, there was nothing about marriage on
there. The only words that stuck out for me were divine love, and,
and so on and so forth. So if you go and revisit that poster again,
you'll notice that it's got nothing to do with marriage. I
know that that's generally what attracts everybody. So if you're
here to learn about marriage, then I'm not sure if you're going to be
satisfied. But inshallah let's talk about what is required for
marriage what we will be speaking about today inshallah is something
that is to do with the secret of living this life in a successful
way. And then that be so successful that you have success
Inshallah, in the Hereafter, as well. That's what's important
about this.
So firstly, when you what I'm going to do is I'm going to be
quoting a number of incidents from the past from from classical times
we're talking about from even before Islam among the Arab tribes
and and then during Islam, and we're going to try to inshallah
analyze it and look into it and see how we can inshallah benefit
from this. So first and foremost, there's a very interesting poem, a
line from the poem of Allama boo city, the Egyptian poet who wrote
the casita Buddha. He says in the Yala, me Phil How will a three
year mark the rotten mini alayka wallow and softer LaMotta Lumi. He
says, Yala, me Phil have a three year mark the rotten, mini alayka
Walla Walla and softer lambda Lumi what that means is a person who is
censoring me, oh person who is
complaining about me, oh person who's criticizing me on this
chaste love the love like the tribe of Banu other.
If you were to really understand the reason for this love of mine,
and why I'm crying so much, and why I have sleepless nights, and
why it is as though I'm crying, read tears, read tears and blood
from my eyes, and why they've made these these streaks on my chin.
And then yet I still deny, if you were really to know the reason for
that, while on softer lambda Lumi had you been just in that regard
by understanding my excuse, then you would have no sense of for me,
you will not blame me in any way whatsoever. So what he does here,
as many other Arab poets do, is that they quote, Allah, Allahu
Akbar, or three or allow our three Hawa is actually just one of the
stages of love. Now, we don't have time to go into defining love, and
its stages, as have the Arabs. I'm not joking. But literally, I have,
I collected together all of the words in Arabic that they have for
love and the different stages and morality of love. And I got seven
pages of them. It's not seven stages, I got seven pages, along
with their definitions. Of course, I would say there's about 30 to 40
different words that denote different stages and different
types of love, and how they make you feel and what they make you
do. That's why it's the Arab,
the Arab society, the Arab culture was mashallah full of love. I
mean, it's a generic thing. I mean, it's not just the Arab
culture, but because they were Arab, which means the Arab, a
biller having the ability to articulate their feelings so
precisely, which is what they were very proud of. And that was
something they were extremely proud of, they have all of these
words, I won't go into all of these terms, because that's not
the point here is it's not a Philology, like Philology, or a
lexicography talk, it's actually about love itself. So just to give
you the basic ones, the very some that we can relate to, it starts
off with Howard, Howard is just kind of an inclination. So
something comes up, you see something you see a quality. Now
you have to understand first, that love is not generally not a
rational thing. Right, let's, let's get this right, you have
things which are rational, right, they fall according to some logic
and some intellect, then you have the things which are totally
irrational, something that just doesn't make up like two plus two,
saying it's five, that's irrational. But then there are
many things which people refuse to believe, that are neither rational
nor irrational. They are just non rational. They can't be
categorized by being rational or non rational. However, there are
levels of love, which are rational, for example, you see
beauty in something that's going to incline you towards it, you
see, intellect, smartness, right brain activity, right, somebody
who's very quick like that, you're going to, you're going to be
attracted, somebody's got wealth, you're going to be attracted,
somebody who's from a very good background, you're going to be
attractive, somebody's got knowledge, you're going to be
attractive. These are all intellectual reasons for loving
someone for liking somebody, which eventually turns to love for
somebody. Now, of course, anybody who has a combination of these
triggers for love, there's going to be much more attractive than
somebody who's got less triggers of that love, less triggers of
love, Allah subhanaw taala has the greatest reasons for anybody to
love Him. And so did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam.
However, in many cases, there are people who will love somebody
without having necessarily any of these triggers, it is something
that will just enter into us. And that's something I will define
later.
So love, in many cases, is totally non rational. You don't know why
it's there. You don't know why a husband will not know why he loves
his wife, or a wife will not know why she loves her husband. And
yet, there's reasons and Allah subhanaw taala, places something
there. So how is the first stage, it's just its inclination, it
hasn't really got to the depth of the hearts. It hasn't set in your
heart yet. It's just our we go through this probably many times
during our life where we become inclined to something and then we
look at it, we ponder over it, or we distance ourselves for it from
it, or we never see it again. And and then it goes so it's not
allowed to settle. The second stage is ala carte, or Aloka,
which means the kind of association it gets a bit
stronger. This is a bit stronger than just how it's stronger than
just being inclined where there's a bit of a connection that's made
because a lotta Allah Cummings to stick to something or Luke means
to stick. That's why Allah is a bit strong.
And then they've got a dish, which becomes even stronger, which
becomes even stronger, then you've got shut off and shut off is when
it reaches the outside of the heart. That's when the love
reaches the outside of the heart that shuts off. And then you've
got Sheriff. And then of course, you've got hope and hula, and
you've got many, many, many others, right would then have been
SubhanAllah. There's many. Now, the point is that if we go back to
the Arabs, they were a different tribes, they were the blue acid.
They were no, they were the blue acid. They were the blue team.
There were numerous Arab tribes. Now each one of them had a
particular quality, or some negative quality, the blue other,
they had this particular quality that if they loved something, they
would love it to death. That's why they mentioned that from a young
age, if a person
fell in love with his cousin's sister, or the girl fell in love
with her cousin brother, they would literally not marry or even
if they did marry, they would absolutely not be able to deal
with anybody else they would have to get married or they would kill
themselves in many cases like that. So the Arab poets they use
this earth three love that is a three hug or three how on earth
three, right to to describe this kind of intense love that's why
this point point is saying here Yeah, hola me, Phil, how are three
oh my oh person who is complaining and criticizing me for this
intense love, like the love of the people of of the tribe of other.
So now let me give you one example.
A summary, who is one of the Arab philologists and lexicographers.
He says that once Jimmy Lipno Abdul Rahman. He went and visited
Abdullah medic IGNOU. Marwan one of the homemade leaves, and he
said,
Abdul Malik, number one said to him, oh, Jamil, tell me something
about the bundle, Agra, I've heard a lot about them telling me
something about them about the bundle IRA, because what I've
heard is that there are people of intense love, they've got a lot of
this love about them. So tell me, tell me a story about them. They
also they also were very good at fulfilling their promises. Right?
That's what makes this love so strong, because once they love
somebody that said it to them, it's to death. So he says that
look, older Arabs, I mean, they there's There's love in all Arabs.
I mean, just like there isn't everybody because love is a
generic thing that everybody has to deal with. However, when it
comes to the bundle, addre, you will see, he says that you will
see somebody right now what does love do to a person?
What is the one thing that love does to a person, if somebody is
in love, they're not going to be aggressive, they're going to be
very soft, they're going to be like, you know, like a walkover
because they're just in another world. They're in a different
dunya. So he says that sometimes you will see people who have who
are who look rough, because they've got these rough garments
on, you know, thick wooden rough sack like garments on and you
would think that this person will kind of swear at you, you think
that this person is going to give you a really rough response. But
then when you actually start talking to him, because of the
love that he has inside. He's from the boudoir era, you will see that
he is actually softer than running water. He is just so soft and so
mellow and out of mineral however, he is so subtle, like the wind
like so calm, yet outwardly. He's something else because of what's
inside him. So this is a special trait that they had.
Yes, he didn't know more Aria. Yes, he didn't know more Elvia. He
had a person that used to speak to him.
And one day he said to him, that actually he's this friend of his
that used to sit and speak to him. He was from the Benoit era. He was
three. So one day he said to him that you know, I've heard that you
people are very soft. He says, oh, Ameerul Momineen. Now remember,
this
year's eve no more, are we Yes, even Huawei is the main is Mario
to the hola wanna son? He actually he actually ruled for quite a
while. So what's mentioned that he taught here, he asked this or the
person that I've heard that you people are very soft. So he said,
Yes. Ameerul Momineen. I'll give you an example. He said that.
My family, my family members were in this place called cinema. And
they'd gone there for a particular reason. I went behind them and I
kind of got lost. So suddenly, I found the shepherd. So I asked him
for some help. I said, Can you tell me which direction I need to
go in? He was on the side of a mountain, and he was grazing
sheep. So I said to him, Can you help me out? So he said to me,
okay, I'll help you out. A Salam. Aleikum, gave Salam etcetera, and
he said, I'll help you out. But why don't you just relax with me
for a while, you know, scrimp, stretch out your back a bit, which
means just relax a bit. I'll feed you something, and then after
that, you will go after that. So I sat there, and he was very
welcoming, and he was extremely, extremely
hospitable to me.
What he did was immediately what he did is he went to uh, got one
of his goats. He sacrificed it got a fire running, right got a got a
fire running immediately. And he began to roast this goat for me
immediately. And then after that, he put it in front of me.
And
then after that I you know, he told me to stay the night because
it was evening time at nighttime. So I stayed there, but in the
middle of the night, meaning as night fell, Now in those days
night means after maghrib, right, that was nighttime. You know,
there was no 12 o'clock, one o'clock is nighttime, you know,
when you've got artificial lights. This is nighttime, right after
maghrib. It's nighttime. So he says that in the middle of the
night, I'm here, I'm hearing that he's complaining about something.
And he's talking as though he's got this longing. So he's talking
to somebody, I know that there was no other person with him. But he's
talking to somebody, and he's talking with this great law, you
know, great, great for lawn, kind of love and longing and desire,
and things like this. So I really felt really sorry for him that he
seems to be in a lot of pain. He seems to have some kind of
emotional issues in terms of this love and this longing. So in the
morning, I asked him, I asked him, I said, Can I leave? I didn't
bother. I didn't bother asking him what he was doing at night. But
then I said, Can I leave now? So he says,
he says no, you can't leave because generally hospital
hospitality is for three days. The Arabs are very strong on this,
that no, you have to stay for three days even with strangers.
And this is this is something I've actually experienced in homes,
which is homes in Syria. Mashallah. There's this man Omar
rural home, see his name was in May, Allah subhanho wa taala,
preserve him. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala help Allah
brothers there, but believe me, he insisted on staying in his house,
we wanted to come back to Damascus. But he insisted and
staying, it's a long story. But in the morning, he took us to all of
the shops. And he is so proudly saying these are my guests. Right?
It was amazing. It was myself, my wife and my child. And he kept us
in the house. And he just wouldn't let us go. And that was the first
time I was like, attacked by this Arab pure Arab hospitality was
quite amazing. But anyway, that's a that's a different story. So he
says, No, you can't leave, you know, you have to stay with me for
three days. So I said, Okay, fine. I mean, he's impressing on me, you
have this is what culture does, right? I have to stay there. So he
stayed there.
And then I asked him his name, and you know, his ancestry and
everything like that. And he turned out to be from Ashraful,
bunny, bunny, Azara, from the nobility from the aristocracy of
the blue era. So he was actually he seemed like a shepherd. But
really, that was not his true status. His status was one of the
noble men of the Bonanza seisin. What are you doing here then? Why
you grazing sheep? The no nobility did not graves graze sheep, you
know, you had the lower cost doing that. So he says, Well, you know,
the story is this. I used to love my cousin sister, my uncle's
daughter. And I proposed to her to her father, to her father, but he
refused. Because I didn't have enough money at the time. I didn't
have enough money.
So he had heard and marry somebody else.
He had her marry somebody else from the blue Killa from another
tribe, completely another tribe. And then she left the area to go
and live in this different locality with the other tribe. And
I have no patience. I had no patients. I couldn't stay there
anymore. I had to be close to her. Now, this is John Elliott time,
okay. So this is not like do it. You know, this is like Don't do
this at home. You understand? This is not something you're supposed
to do. All right. This is just to show what love is all about. So
what he's saying is that I couldn't stay in my area any
longer. I went, and I big I employed I got myself employed as
a husband, by her husband as his shepherd.
Just so I can be close to her
in like going work in her father's shop, that kind of a thing. Right?
Or become a maid in her house, in his house, something like that.
So what she does now is she comes at night, and we speak and then
she goes back. She's got the same love that I have for her. She's
got the same love for me. They were both bewafa. Right? They were
both from the same tribe. So she does the same thing at nighttime.
That's when she comes.
So now it's the next evening. And as it's the evening he is now his
health. He is He is getting extremely exasperated. He's
waiting. He's waiting, you know when you you're waiting for
somebody, especially somebody you love, so I could see his agitation
and Subhanallah he says when he saw her, he quickly rushed to her.
And you know he would quickly rush it that's that's the way he would
do it. But this night she didn't come.
She got delayed.
it so he began to Singapore him he says MABA Lumini yet in theory it
ha ha ha, ha Sugarland Nuptse Frieda Oka cada yet Leisha Jana
Tucker Dolman, the curcumin hurry hill with a star a blue. So
essentially he's saying what's prevented her What stopped her
what's stopped her from coming She comes every day without fail,
there must be something as something happened,
something happened. And he says that I've got such heat intensity
in my body that
it's like my, my, my limbs are going to burn with the heat that I
feel for this.
He told me then he goes, you wait here, and I'm gonna go and check
what's happened to I'm going to go and see see if she's in the path
if she's on the road. So
he left. And now I couldn't see him any longer, you know, in the
moonlight or whatever it was I couldn't see him any longer. And I
waited for a while. And finally he came back. And he was carrying
something. And I could hear his screams and he shouts and he's
crying. He's weeping. He was intensely weeping. And he was
carrying something said, What's happened to you? What's wrong with
you? So he said,
Oh, my brother, this is and what he was carrying. He said, This is
my cousin sister. This is my cousin sister, she was coming. And
a while beast attacked her on the way and he's killed her. He's
killed her. He placed her down. And then he said to me, you stay
where you are. I'm going to go for a while I will come back but you
stay where you are. He went and then he had gone for quite a
while. Finally. I was like, he's not going to come back. Finally he
came back and he had the head of this wild beast, whatever it was a
lion or whatever. It was a wild beast in his hand. And he brought
it back. And then he said he said to me, Oh, my brother from the
other tribe because this man was also from the Benoit era, right?
He says, Oh Person of the other tribe. Soon, you're gonna see that
I'm dead as well. I'm going to be I'm going to die very soon as
well. What I want you to do is I want you to bury myself and my
sister, this cousin sister of mine, put us in the same shrouds
put us in the same shroud and put us into the same grave. Then what
I want you to do is I want you to put a headstone there and I want
you to write on there the following two poems. Couldn't
Allah hurry her? While I issue FEMA Hurley was shum was Shamu
huge Maradona with the horrible watamu. And then, and then he
says, For for rocket doll rubbish, the old fatahna fissara H
Marquina. Fee botany ha al Kapha. No. So what he what that means is,
he's saying that we were together, time after time, meaning we were
together some time after some time, while we were on the surface
of this earth. That's how life was used to gather us together.
Sometimes, even though we're from the same family, we were in the
same area. But he says the time and life has now separated between
us, and our familiarity, and our love has been dissipated. Now the
coffin and the shroud is what is going to finally gather us
together and bring us together. And then he said to me that these
sheep that I have these, these goats, etc, give it back to my
master, so that they returned to the owner. And then after that, he
went, and he took a noose, and he was about to hang himself. And I
am trying to insist and persist on him not to do that I'm swearing by
Allah, don't do this, don't do this. And don't do this. But he
totally refused. And he killed himself. He killed himself.
So I did exactly after I did, I buried them both together in the
same grave. And then I wrote those poems. And then after that, I went
and told the owner when I went to give him back, his sheep, and so
on, and I mentioned that, and he felt really bad that he hadn't
known about this situation. He felt really bad about this
situation. So this is there's a number of stories about his
grandmother. It's not a it's not a time for those stories. It's just
to give you an understanding of what love can do to a person,
right, especially when it gets very strong. The question for us
is, where should this love be targeted? What are the boundaries
of this love? What's the good and bad of it, to know that love can
do this to you is important, because many of us, we don't know,
sometimes before we experience some some of these things, what
these things can do to us. Love is a very natural trait. It's
something that occurs with all of us, but there needs to be some
kind of intellectual governance of it as far as possible. Right? Love
is definitely something that is going to overtake our
intelligence. It's going to overtake our intellect, but
Subhanallah it is something that still needs to be fostered in a
proper way so that it can have the true benefits. And we ask Allah
subhanaw taala to make it like that now, or to be another
narrator. He says that there is nobody in history now. This is his
opinion. He says there's nobody in history who has reached a stage of
love that this case, face reached.
case was this man who's called the Laila damage. No, no, Leila,
you've heard the story of Leila Majnoon the Romeo Juliet of the
Arabs. Right. So his real name. Majnoon means it is insane. The
person who's insane about something who's crazy, right?
That's not his name. That's his title. His name was case, right
case, he fell in this in love with this woman called Leila. Right.
So OTB says that lumea blog ahead and let me let me I don't mean
anymore. Hibino my beloved Jason appraisal Majnoon, nobody has
reached the stage of love and obsession, as much as plays has.
Now, of course, he does not, you know, has not investigated the
entire world and every single Love story there is out there. This is
obviously in his knowledge, there must be other people who are of
the same caliber, who are of the same, you know, level, but
Subhanallah or even more, maybe, but this one is become famous.
Now, some interesting things about him. He was so crazy in his love
that he says
he used to go and he used to kiss the walls of this locality. And
people used to say, why are you doing this? It says, look, it's
not the it's not the walls that have attracted my heart and
captured my heart, while Akin. It's the one man second Diarra.
It's the love of the one who lives in this locality. So even the
walls that are associated, I go and kiss them because I can't get
to her. Used to keep looking at the moonlight. Somebody said,
why'd you do that? He said, Well, maybe Leila is looking at the moon
as well. And I'm looking at them I might be able to coincide with the
look of the moon, and then our gazes will meet at the moon.
I mean, come on, man.
But Subhanallah that's the way that's what love does to you.
That's what love does to you. That's why the way Boosie even
starts it off in this love, like a love poem, his poem about Rasul
Allah salah, and he starts, like a love for him is that he starts off
by saying that are you crying because of you're missing your
neighbors? I mean, could eg Iranian be the salami, or is it
Oh, muddle Berg? COVID Voluma in either me, or is it because the
Lightning has flashed from the direction of Edom. You see, in
those days, they had no light. So when lightning would flush in the
area where your beloved lived, you'd look in that direction
thinking you could see her
big business, you're hanging on threads. It's that kind of a
situation. Going back to this case.
He wouldn't. He just absolutely was so besotted that he wouldn't
understand anything. He wouldn't even wear proper sewn clothing. He
would just be in tatty clothing, he used to run away from everybody
used to want to be alone. The only time that he would sit and talk to
anybody is if they were willing to listen to the stories of Leila. If
they were willing to talk about her, then he was willing to speak
to them. So he would sit and he would sing these most eloquent
poems was amazing how he could compose his most most eloquent
and, you know, strong poems in that as soon as the person started
to change the subject and talk about somebody else, he would walk
away. That's what you call love.
Right? You only want to speak about him. Nobody else right.
Now, some of the stuff he says now, one of the seller one of the
aroma of the past he says that I saw this place in my dream after
he died, and I'd heard his stories. So I said to him mafia,
Allah, Allah Who Bic What did Allah subhanaw taala do to you?
How did he treat you after all of you know your you know, your your
entire story in this world and everybody's talking about you?
What happened to you in the afterlife? So he says, refer
rally? He forgave me. He forgave me. And then he said another thing
he says what Jelani heard Jason Alamo had been, he made me the
proof on all those who claim love for Allah. How, okay, it's related
the on the Day of Judgment. Now, this is, you know, I'm not
swearing by any of this. This is just a description. He says that
they say that on the Day of Judgment. Allah subhanahu Uttara
somebody from Allah subhanho wa Taala has on his behalf. He will
say a name as Nunu Leila, they will call out for a call out for
this measure noon right for case that way is he he will be brought
a shot Akbar. Allahu Allah whole Allahu Allah che Alberni. He'll
come in the same state that he was in the world totally disheveled
and soiled and touchy clothing, he will be brought in front of Allah
subhana wa Tada and Allah subhanho wa Taala will reckoned with him
and then after that, he will forgive him. He will forgive him
because he was insane. Whatever the reason is, right Allah knows
this. And then he will say then Allah subhanho wa Taala will say
Aina Lavina it there OMA Huberty now bring those people who used to
claim love for me. This man used to claim love for this woman. But
you Pete bring to me those people who used to claim to love me,
Alfie
Come, man Bella her fee thority Mithila, ma Bella Thiessen fee
thority. Leila Wamba batea. Is there anybody among those
claimants of Divine Love, who have reached the level of obedience to
Allah to the to Allah who they claim to love? Has anybody reached
the same level as this case has reached of his his obedience to
Leila. And, of course, you know, that's, that's, that's what they
say.
Now, going on to moving on, it's related. Now let's look at some,
let's look at something that I've described to you what love can do
to you. Now let's look at what love is, and how you have to deal
with that for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. See, because there
are a lot of people, I get a lot of these emails that they love
somebody. But unfortunately, the families can't agree. So they're
not going to be married, then she gets married to somebody else, or
he gets married to somebody else. And this person is still waiting
for a miracle to happen. What are you supposed to do in that
situation? If it's a one sided story, I would say just forget it.
Ask Allah subhanaw taala. That's why I believe the dua for
istikhara is very powerful. Oh Allah, if this is not good for me,
then remove it from me. So one is that he's removed it from you, but
you still love it, you're still emotionally attached. So then the
DUA says and removed me from it. Right? So separate both of us. And
then it says, give me the best wherever it is. It's the most
powerful door you can have if you've got an emotional problem.
So anyway, it's related that this basally, this young, young guy
from Missouri, he fell intensely in love with this girl, who was
again his cousin sister, right? I mean, in those days, that's what
you had you had your family around you, right? It wasn't a London
cosmopolitan city where Subhanallah you know, it's all
varieties and everything you have to deal with every day. This was
his cousin, sister.
Again, he went and proposed to her father, but the Father for some
reason did not agree. Right? The same old story, right? The the
father did not agree, because he was he was too poor. So
he became so intense about this, he became so crazy that it was as
he was going to lose his mind.
That news reached this girl, his cousin sister had reached his
cousin, sister. So she sent him a message. Now look at this, she
sent him a message. And she said, your love for me has reached me,
and how you're feeling the news of that has come to me. But you have
to realize that I have a multiple amount of love, the love that you
have, for me, my love for you is a multiple of that. It's much more
than that. If you want, I will leave my house and I will come and
I will, I will, I will, I will basically depart my family. And if
you want, I will facilitate a way for you to come into my house. So
she's essentially offering him a haram relationship. Right? In a
sense, he then sent back He then sent back now you might put
yourself into this situation. This is where you have to be careful.
This is where you don't want shaytaan See, having love for
somebody you can't it can't be helped. The Bronx philosophy is to
love each other the Allah wanna more than any of his other wives.
But that did not allow him to favor her in giving her more, you
know, in giving her more gifts or something he had to be particular
about all of that same thing here. He's he said that his response to
her was that no, I've got no need for that. You know, this kind of
association, I have no need for that. I have in need or have
Wounaan thalaivar? What are the urban lion katsu Avada, I have
fear for a blazing fire. And I am fearful of a punishment that will
never end when this news when this message got to her. Nowadays it be
through email or through whatever, right? But in that day, we sent it
through somebody else. When when the news came to her, she began to
cry. And she said wala Hema had an Ola behavioral number Mindy, there
is nobody who needs to act on this advice more than me. So
immediately she's you know, she's she's understood the reality of
the situation. And she says we're in the 100 acre field where it
will worry the mystery Kuhn, because in terms of the warnings
from Allah, subhana, wa Tala, and whatever promises is given all
everybody is the same in that regard. So if he's feeling like
that, I must feel like that as well. This is what you call a
reflection within your love that you take on what your lover feels.
It's amazing, right? So the piety actually reflects to the other
individual. And then after that, she began to become intense in her
worship, right. And she began to do lots of worship. And that
became very difficult for her parents and her family to see of
her because she just kind of disregarded everything now. She
left the social, you know, the social activity that she used to
do. She just focused
On worship, until eventually she died. So she died. Now this young
man, he used to come to her grave every day he used to visit the
grave every day. And he used to make a stick far for her, used to
make a stick for for her and then he used to he used to return. One
day in his sleep. She comes to him in his dream. And he says to her,
he says, are you so and so? And she says, Yes, this tells me where
you've gone to what is your situation at this point in time?
Where have you gone to how you're feeling? So she got up and she she
read the following poem. She says, Ilana Iman, where are you? She in
Lhasa? Allahu Feagin natin Whoa, hello, then Lisa. Bill fanning
SubhanAllah. She said that I've gone to bounties and to a life
that is never to end, in a paradise in gardens and in
eternity. That is never to that has never to come to an end. And
then he says to her, Do you remember me? Do you remember me
and she says Wallah, he learned circa in Nila termina Kala,
Robbie, I will never forget, forget you. In fact, I have hoped
for you in front of my Lord, I have petitioned for you in front
of my Lord. So then he says metal mill taka, when are we going to
meet? So she says and Caribbean insha Allah very close if Allah
wills so then he continued persisting in his Riba, his focus
on his a bother for a short amount of days. And then after that
death, death overcame him, he passed away and he went to the
Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala as well. That's the way to deal with
love. That's the way to deal with not to kill yourself. But you
know, if you if you're in that level of relationship of love of
obsession, well, that's another thing but may Allah subhanaw taala
help us because that's a very critical stage. Very quickly. One
of the Omega leaves Salima and even Abdul Malik, he had more than
a personal and wasn't a private more than in his palace who used
to give the Athan and used to call him for the salaat. Now, another
thing was that there was a slave girl, a young girl, a slave girl,
right, really beautiful. And she used to work for Soleimani the
Abdulmalik and the mazdan. looked, looked at her cast a few glances
at her because she was very pretty.
And Salima, if not Abdullah medic, he discovered that one day he saw
him glancing at her.
In fact, she went and complained that he keeps looking at me.
Right, so she went and complained to Salima Abdullah Magna Salima
Abdulmalik was very jealous, very jealous individual. So he said to
her, this is what I want you to do. He wants you to kill him
straight away. But then he says no, let me give him an excuse to
be killed. So he says to her, go and adorn yourself, wear nice
clothing, go and adorn yourself. Go and put some nice perfume and
fragrance on and then go to him and tell him that you're looking
at me is not hidden on me. I see you looking at me all the time.
And I have in my love I have in my heart affection towards you as
well. So if you've got any need from me, here you go take it
because the Ameerul Momineen is sleeping at this time. So I want
you to do that. So that's exactly what she did. She went up and she
said to the more than she she she said exactly what Abdulmalik sorry
what Salima and I told her to say, now the magazine said to her in
Conde sadhika If you're truthful about this, then go today and come
back to me tomorrow. Like I don't want to do anything today. Come
back tomorrow if you're truthful about this. So she went and she
told Sulaiman about what he had said yesterday man was very
persistent, right, very persistent. He said, No, go back
and tell him that I've only got time today. Right? I've only got
time today. And there's no time better than this. So she went and
she made you know, she she mentioned this to him. So this is
when he glanced up at the heavens this morning. Then he glanced up
at the heavens and he said Ya Jaleel are in a city local Jamil.
Your Jaleel are in a city local Jamil. Oh, majestic one. Where is
your beautiful covering? Where is your beautiful covering that will
help me in this situation.
And then he said to her, I want you to now go and never come back
to me and never come back to me. And the reason is that it's very
close, that we will have to then meet in front of the one who I
don't want to give a bad impression. We're going to have to
meet in front of the one who I don't want to give a bad
impression. She went back to cinema and ignore Abdulmalik. Now
she is very scared herself. Because he's talked about Allah
subhanaw taala standing in front of these people who soft hearts
and she began crying and she told so they want if God didn't like
this story, and finally
so they might even abdomen sent somebody to them or them and he
said, Son, a man that Amir, he has given you this girl as a gift. She
was a safe girl is that he has granted you her as a gift. And he
has Oh
also order that you be given 50,000 dirhams that you can spend
on the wedding that you can spend on the wedding. He says, Yeah,
Ameerul Momineen now imagine that with us, you really wanted
somebody. And then after that you fear Allah subhanaw taala then you
came to you. Now you're going to think Subhanallah that's from
Allah, my patience. My Taqwa is brought the person to me. But this
person was truer than nuts. He was on another level Subhanallah he
was on another level. He says, Yeah, Ameerul Momineen. In New
Allah, he caught the bottom a fee ha, oh Ameerul Momineen I
sacrificed my desire for her. I've already sacrificed my design made
that promise yesterday, I sacrifice my desire for her, from
the time that I saw her. And I have made her a treasure for me,
by Allah subhanaw taala that I will take her in the hereafter.
Meaning I will be given something in the hereafter on her behalf for
a study and a strategic shape and in the heart to who are in the now
I feel totally embarrassed to take to return and to break a promise
or take back something that I've kept by Allah subhanaw taala I
feel totally embarrassed to do that. Sulaiman ignored the
American system. Now you can take it it's fine. It's Hala lesser
than the other. But he totally refused to take either the wealth
or the girl finally so the man you know he's he thought this was an
amazing, amazing story he would always
he would always relate the story to others in absolute wonderment.
So that is the kind of situation that people have found themselves
in love is not modern. Love is something that is as ancient as
human beings. This is the way they deal this is the way to deal with
them that Allah subhanho wa Taala has told us to deal with it. Now
to quickly finish off units of no Abdullah who's one of the one of
the students of Hassan Al Busey Rahim Allah he says that I was
with hassle with hassle basally for 20 years, never wants today,
men. Here he mentioned anything about the dunya about how things
were his love. He never showed any love for anything of the dunya
never wants for anything of the dunya one day we were sitting down
and people used to come to Him for questions. So one day this woman
came who was of the highest level of beauty. She was stunningly
beautiful. Like absolutely beautiful. And she was of perfect
stature, perfect. You know, perfect proportion. Everything was
just so the perfect model Miss Universe type of thing, you know
of the time. She came and sat in front of us and was the she was
covered up. She came in sat in front of us and basally he said
Yeah, Sheikh. Now listen to this story. This is for those of us who
are married and are constantly looking for more, right? So he
says she says I hate LuLaRoe Julie and yet as a word you're Allah's
OJ, well, he assured by Jamila were lewd,
is it permissible for a husband to marry over his wife meaning take a
second wife, despite the fact that she is
she is very fertile gives children she is extremely beautiful
everything all the qualities are there Is he allowed to take
another wife? So Hasson bossy Rahim Allah, He gave a technical
answer. He says, Of course, yes. He can marry up to four. That's
what the Quran says. He gave her a tech gave him gave her a technical
answer. Right. So then what she does, she says even over somebody
like me, and then she lifted her niqab up. She revealed her face.
Extremely beautiful. She said, even somebody like me, he can take
another wife. He said, Yes. You're just very technical. Yes, of
course.
She said SubhanAllah. She said Subhanallah glorified. May Allah
be a shaker. Allah to fill in Nassif, you have the fatwa.
By your life, don't ever give this fatwa to people.
By your life do not ever give this fatwa to people. And then she went
away. And Huson just looked in that direction. He said, My guru
Imran Imran Khan, Allahu Mithila, the shaman of dunya know anybody
who's got something like this in the world. I mean, he should not
want anything else. That was his remark. He gave a technical answer
to her. But that was his remark that so holla Why would anybody
want anything? I mean, subhanAllah you know that he's, he's got that.
So now, somebody asked, can anybody not have love? You said
yes. The only person that can have is somebody who's absolutely
roughen just has no idea that only people who don't have love, see
the thing. And now I'm going to define define love for us. Some of
the Hakama say, Al Hawa Jellison mum there. Were ill from news were
many Concur here. Your medical adviser a burnable Arwa? Well,
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early and society made Hulu
Well, Javier, I need you, Nima Sliggoo. This is he defines love
and I find this the perfect description. He says that love is
a very affectionate companion. It feels really nice to have it.
That's why even married people, they like to flirt, because they
just give them these butterflies which is haram. They like to
flirt. They don't think they want to do anything. They've got no
intention to do anything afterwards. But they just like to
do the initial stages just to feel romantic. And that's haram. That
is haram. Just to feel romantic.
Once you start going that way, less romance will be with your own
spouse, husband, wife, but both in both these situations, the more
you focus on your husband wife, the more it will be Subhanallah I
was sitting in at coffee in Ramadan.
I was sitting in Antigua and Ramadan. And I got really friendly
with this one older Maulana mashallah, he was a very pious
individual is probably about 65, maybe 70 years old, very nice guy
who sit together to eat. And one day he was talking to his son, who
was also the essence that you know, he was saying something
like, I haven't called your mum on the phone. You are some debate is
that I haven't called the moment that I said, just joking with my
son, Maulana. I said, Man, you're so old now. You still have to,
like worry about these things. So he, he slaps me, like, you know,
like this and he goes, Maulana, you don't understand Allah
subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran, would you rather be in a
coma with that Omarama Allah subhanaw taala has placed between
the couple, the husband and wife, Muhammad and Rama, love and mercy.
And he says, initially, when you're young, it's all about lust.
But as you grow older, if Allah has given you Baraka, then you
won't even touch each other. But Your love will be so strong, your
bond will be so strong, even though you don't even have to
touch each other. You may even be sleeping in separate beds, at that
at that age, but you will have an ajeeb affection and love and
bonding that Allah subhanaw taala will put in you know, will place
place for you. And what the Allama mentioned is that this will be
lost when you start entertaining yourself in Haram ways. That's why
there's so many people they say I have to get married again because
I just don't like my wife but she got a problem. Is she aggressive?
Is she like this issue like that? No, no, she's fine. I can't
complain about her. What's the problem? Problem is baraka
approach problem is baraka
right. Now, of course, I mean, there's other aspects to this,
which we can't go into right now. But then he says, Love is a very
affectionate companion. It is
a dominating King, it will dominate you, you won't be able to
go against it. And then he says it will control your body and your
room, your soul and your mind, and your heart and everything you will
take over everything. That's what love does. Love what is love, love
is that which makes you blind love is that which makes you blind of
your beloved defects. That's what you call if somebody tells you
you're going to defect and you think it's all fine and glory
means you're in love. Right and sometimes good. Sometimes it's
bad. Then he says
it will take over your eyes, it will take over your gaze, it will
take over your knifes it will take over your thoughts it will take
over your opinions. And the problem is that it is able to
enter from where your eyes don't see it. It is totally hidden to
your wife, to your to your sight. It is hidden it is invisible to
your sight. And that's the problem with it. That's the problem with
it. Now, all of this that we discussed until now was the love
between human beings. There's a more intense form of love which is
the love for Allah subhanho wa Taala and Allah's love for the
human being, which we don't have, unfortunately, we don't have time
to go into. But essentially, when Allah subhanaw taala loves
somebody, he makes life easy for them. It makes life enjoyable for
them. Allah subhanho wa Taala makes it such that finally he
calls to Jabril Alayhis Salam, and he says yeah Gibreel I love so and
so I want you to love him as well. Gibreel Ali salaam spreads this
information around the inhabitants of the heavens, the angels they
begin to love him. And then as they come onto the earth, people
begin to love this person. Love for Allah subhanho wa Taala is
what it's all about. And that's why if you love Allah subhanaw
taala there are many people who claim to love gods but what the
poet says that sin illa Anta to hero herba for her Mohan fallopia
See buddy Rue La Quinta sadiya confy her Biggie la Tata who in
the limo Heba Lima you hip in El Mohit bulimia in your head boom
oto basically saying that you disobey Allah you disobey your
God, whereas you claim and you claim to love him, this is
impossible. This is inconceivable. This in any kind of logic is is
absolutely
change where you truthful in your love for Allah subhanho wa Taala
you would be obedient to Him, because the lover is obedient to
His Beloved. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us true love. And the
reason why I say this is that if we focus our love on Allah
subhanaw taala there are a number of the Allama who have had divine
love who've reached that status. They reconcile between this one
question that comes in all of our minds, if you're going to love
Allah subhanaw taala not anything else in your heart? How are you
then supposed to love your children, your parents, your
spouse, people you're supposed to love as well. How do you reconcile
between that? The other mentioned, when you taste divine love, that
is true love, that is real love, you will become a better lover in
general. Even in terms of worldly love, you will become a better
lover than those who only have worldly love and no divine love.
So focus your attention on Allah subhanho wa Taala and you will
notice that in every aspect, it will be much better. May Allah
subhanho wa Taala grant us His love and the love of those who
love Him. This is dua that is very powerful. Allah humara zakenna Her
book will help Dominion pharaoh now herbal who are in that I have
benefited greatly from this da O Allah grant us your love and the
love of those who love you. He will give you the right company
and he will give you the right influence. May Allah subhanho wa
Taala grant us that working with that 100 Naira bla
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