Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – The Problem Boasting
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The next point I want to mention today is about boasting.
Similar, but it's different.
But when you understand the fine tuning the fine divisions between
these things and differences between these things, then we can
become more knowledgeable about them. And thus we can inshallah
try to figure those things out
to become perfect in something.
Like, for example, let's just say that you want to be perfect in
football. What does it mean by being good at football?
Is it just one thing to be good at football, are the number of parts
in football that you have to be good at to become perfect at
football? Do you understand? So if you want to be a good at football,
you have to be good in a number of things. Now, I'm not a footballer,
you'll have to help me here, you have to be good at dribbling, you
have to be good at tackling. You have to be good at taking shots,
you have to be good at managing the ball, and so on and so forth,
right?
Passing, right, you have to be good at all of these things. If
you're only good at one thing, you're not good at football,
you're only good at one thing, the one who's good at football is the
one who's good at all of these things. You can only reach
perfection and attain perfection in anything. If you divide it up,
separate them out and understand each issue, each component and try
to achieve perfection in all of those things. Why do I mention
this? Same thing when it comes to our behavior. You can't just
perfect your behavior as one thing. Now he's gonna get better
behavior. Behavior is not one component. It's made up of
numerous components. We I have to figure out what is my problem?
Do I have a problem with accepting the truth when it comes to me? And
if I do that, I need to work on that. Why am I doing that? It's
because of arrogance. Or maybe I hate the person or maybe it's
because of jealousy, I need to work on those things. And
that's how perfection in character is attained by looking at the
individual components, may Allah give us that Tofik so that's why
helping us understand these things is useful Inshallah, boasting in
Arabic is called Solid.
Solid with a solid, not a scene, the scene set up that means for
ancestors, forefathers, predecessors Salaf. This is
defined as a person considering himself specially praising oneself
all the time,
mentioning his virtue and achievements, a person constantly
mentioning their virtues, I did this, I did that, yes, I was part
of that. I built that mosque. I did this, I did that.
Not for any reason, but just that people know that I did this
mentioning his virtues or achievement achievements low then
obviously, if you'd like to do that, then you're also going to
love anybody who shows him his faults.
Low anything, hate anything that shows a person is false, and
reminds him of his mistakes. Because you're supposed to be
perfect. In your eyes, you're perfect. In my eyes, I'm supposed
to be perfect. So if somebody shows me my mistakes,
or if somebody displays his or another one is displaying his
prowess at difficult tasks, showing how you can actually, I
mean, a lot of footballers do this,
scoring difficult goals and then being arrogant about it.
Or informing others of interesting or extraordinary matters. Like you
know, everything, or them I could do this as well, knowing
complicated mosyle and issues
that I know all of these things is to show off.
However, one caveat here,
while not giving any heat to lying,
because that's how you butter it out. That's how you spice it up by
adding certain aspects that are not fully there. So you're not
being completely accurate either.
So all of this comes from all of this is defined as boasting.
It stems from lying, so others are impressed with his speech. Because
when it's only about boasting then would you care if everything you
said was true or not?
At least once you see one is to to articulate that I'm really good at
something that's under there could be a reason for that. If the
reason is to boast and to show people how great you are, then a
bit of untruth and falsehood in there won't matter.
It's all part of the deal, because your objective is something else
now.
So it stems from lying. So the others are impressed with this
speech and narcissism and it leads to then hypocrisy
because you're not like that inside. Yes, you're actually
saying something different inside.
legible Dina has the states in hirsuta Naboo have the traits of
Satan are noticing one's self, like constantly focusing on
oneself, deeming oneself virtuous, being impressed by oneself, and
getting angry for the sake of the ego.
For indeed, when a bliss was commanded to prostrate
for the one who was lesser in status, in his estimation,
he became angry and furious.
His rage led to him, led him to rejection, pride and unbelief.
Look where it got him to,
completely to cover whereas Satan a bliss, and they've even got a
name for him as zeal, his ex name, his worship name, God knows best.
He was a worshiper, used to do lots of worship. But
unfortunately, he did not have full submission. He used to do
lots of worship, but he didn't have humility. And thus, it led
him to think that fire rises and the soil is lowly. Or the Muslim
is created from soil. So how can he prostrate to him? This just
this is, again, you can't reach perfection in character. He had a
lot of Ibadah but he didn't have perfection of character. He can't
be a perfect servant of Allah. That's essentially what it is.
So his anger arose only due to his seeing himself as special and
better than other money he said I'm
done you consider what he said in the Quran. I am better than he.
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I am better than you created me from fire created him from clay.
Okay, you created me you should be thinking, it doesn't matter. At
the end of the day. I didn't create myself from fire. He could
have thought about it that way. There's many ways of looking at
something is just, you know, the disease of the heart makes you
look at something in a particular way.
It just makes you look at something in a particular way. I
spoke to somebody who'd become a shear
because they said look at what Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu did.
It's a narrative.
They did not give we rasa.
You see what happened is 14 out of the Allahu anha, she came to obika
the alone to ask for inheritance
or buckler, the Alon related a hadith, that prophets, the
prophets, Allah Some said that we do not leave inheritance.
What we leave as inheritance is knowledge.
Hence what the prophets Allah is the law of the land that he had
left was not for inheritance, the expenses of his wives and so on
would be would be given from there but it wasn't inheritance.
Now this is made a bit of the one of the biggest issues on the shear
is this, that he made up this so that he wouldn't have to give to
Fatima. He had this animosity towards the family of the Prophet
sallallahu sallam. It's a narrative. So this person I'm
speaking, I'm saying that's a narrative. You bought into the
you've bought into this narrative.
The other narrative is that this is a worker who was beloved by the
Prophet sallallahu sallam, none of the other Sahabas, the majority of
the Sahaba, the overwhelming majority, and nobody criticized
him for doing this. They accepted. They believe they confirmed what
he said. Why don't you look at that narrative, the majority
narrative, you want to take the minority narrative and go with
that? Can you see how the
who's who's to decide which narrative you take?
Because if you suddenly become convinced by something else,
despite all the truth on the other side, what does that tell you?
That it's a matter of defeat and HIV learn of Allah forsaking
somebody and allowing them just to believe whatever they want to
believe. That's why it's so important for us to continue to
ask Allah for guidance and showing us the truth, robbing Allah to zip
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about it about it? I was looking at dinner but
otherwise, if we suddenly start thinking tomorrow, it's okay to do
this haram. Why should it be wrong?
Sexual vices for example. No longer do we feel they're wrong?
Certain sexual vices, for example, or deviant sees
should be okay.
That's a narrative. And we can only bind to a certain narrative
Allah forsakes us into the wrong narrative.
So Satan was veiled from the reality.
You see,
Satan
focused on
I am better than he because you created me from fire and creating
from clay. He took that as the biggest point. And he forgot the
other point. The other point was
in a coma, coma in the law here at Qualcomm. Indeed, the most
honorable of you, in the sight of Allah are the most pious to just
do what Allah tells them to do. He could have thought about that he
could have given that emphasis and not that emphasis. Can you see how
were wrongs come from in the world is just giving the wrong things
emphasis, focusing on the wrong too much and forgetting the other
part.
And to such a degree sometimes that if we remain reminded of the
other way of looking at something, we disagree with it because we
bought into this so much. We're not allowing ourselves to be open
that no no, I want the truth whatever it is, this is what the
process will did for the Sahaba he made it for them that they were
just willing to stand for the truth wherever it became manifest.
That's where Omar or the Allah one, he would take his word back,
despite being the immediate meaning the most powerful man on
earth at a time
a woman stood up and said, No, you can't do this with regards to
fixing a dowry the limit of the dowry you can't say you can't she
said you can't do this because Allah says in the Quran, that you
know, she she gave the with Kintore you know, like huge
amounts, you can't fix it and he took his words back. Can you
imagine an imam somebody gets something and he says, Okay, fine.
This is Omar the alarm Amira macmini.
Why? Because the province has taught them that truth may become
may may become clouded to you and you need to take it wherever it
comes from, they were always willing and flexible, that in
flexibility is the problem today, as though whatever we've been
believing in since A and you know, whatever we become used to do to
our surrounding, we're not gonna change our position, and our moon
issue our challenges shoe, our ED shoe, all of this is based on
that.
Because how can they be three timetables? How is that possible?
In one country, but nobody's willing, each person is just
willing to go with what they're used to. That's why I give an
example, the two mustards that I'm close to, they both Gujarati
right, the many relatives between them as well. But they have
different timetables, and I'm hearing one person from this one
Masjid.
I mentioned this generically, to understand the issue. I'm hearing
one person from this masjid. And I believe their timetable is best,
better than the other one. I don't think it's perfect, but it's
better because there are three timetables in our area within six
miles.
So this person is saying, I can't understand those guys, why they
break in their foster, why they, you know, ending their soul so
late. Now, this guy is not an island or anything. I mean, he
just knows this stuff.
The reason why he's saying this is because he's followed this
opinion, since he's been living in this area for the last 40 years.
If I go there, they say the same thing about these guys. And what's
their problem? And why do they stop there fossil early, and yet
these people are from the same background, they probably have the
same level of knowledge, but it's what it is because he's used to
this and he's used to that nobody's gone out of their way to
do a bit of research and say is what is the truth here? Let me try
to understand this. Let me read a few. Let me listen to a few
discourses on this. I mean, do a bit of research now this is this
is what I have. And that's what you have. So you are wrong in
this. Think about it. This is what it is.
Then Satan, he wasn't also not privy to the well known proverb,
unfortunately, shape if somebody gave him this proverb of flames of
fire.
You leave nothing but ashes.
You may rise high, but you don't leave anything but ashes. So when
Satan looked at himself with veneration he disdained
prostrating, to one whom he saw with the eyes of contempt.
He saw soil as a contemptible thing. That's why he looked down
upon it, if he saw that soil produces, whereas fire produces
only ashes, he would have thought, No, I'm not better. Can you see?
It's focusing on the wrong point. He became angry then, and the
sparks of rage took flight until they completely incinerated him.
And this is what happened to Satan. May it not happen to us.
Just as with Satan, one's very religion will be destroyed by
boasting and having an inflated ego Bishal half he says Rahim
Allah. I never met a man who loved a kid.
name save that he lost his religion as public publicly
humiliated one day, one day you will be overcome. You can only
play this game for a certain period of time. Imam has salami
relates at one of his ancestors said, Whoever considers himself
special, his religion will become trivial to him. If you think
you're good, you're too good. Your religion will become nothing for
you. Because you will then use your religion just to to boost
yourself up.
Imam O'Shea the states
commensurate to his estrangement from the ego when a person come to
know his Lord. What does that mean? It means as much as we
overcome our knifes, that is how much more you will understand
Allah subhanaw taala
one of the sages said the basis of true though hate is ridding
oneself of the first person.
Don't say this is for me or by me are from me or to me, that is to
ascribe all of one's ownership achievements and talents, and
states, rather related all to Allah. This comes from Allah, this
has come from Allah, but then don't use it. Allah has given me
so much Allah has given me something Allah gave me Allah gave
me this Allah made me that you just using Allah as a excuse for
your arrogance. Don't do that either.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the Tofik May Allah subhanaw
taala remove our blameworthy traits and allow us to focus on
the Praiseworthy, and may Allah allow us to have our narrative
right and guide us and do not forsake us. Aloha Manda, salaam
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