Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Wedding Engagements

			can you attain an engagement of a
close relative though we wouldn't
		

			go to engagements normally. It
depends on what's happening in the
		

			engagement. Really, the problem is
that sometimes because of some bad
		

			that happens in a particular type
of event, all those events become
		

			socially considered to be wrong by
certain religious people. Now,
		

			let's just say that your sister is
getting fixed up and the other
		

			family is coming for just a decent
casual talk, just to discuss,
		

			discuss when it's going to be and
so on so forth, to attend that
		

			there's nothing wrong with it.
What is wrong is when the
		

			engagement is like a wedding. When
Haram is taking place in that
		

			engagement, when the when the the
couple who are to be married, the
		

			coming together and maybe putting
a ring on each other sitting there
		

			holding hands, when haram takes
place, then you avoid those. But
		

			if it's a local family thing in
which it's just a straightforward
		

			affair, right, and nobody's making
them an excuse to have a party
		

			about, then there's nothing wrong
with that. So it just depends
		

			whether it is a haram element to
it or not. So I'm not going to say
		

			engagements are haram. Obviously
you have to discuss when when to
		

			do the wedding, how to do the
wedding, where to do you know and
		

			so on and so forth. So how do you
do that? That's the question. So
		

			some people make that to have a
mini wedding. Right? Well, that's
		

			what's wrong.