Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Wedding Engagements

can you attain an engagement of a close relative though we wouldn't

go to engagements normally. It depends on what's happening in the

engagement. Really, the problem is that sometimes because of some bad

that happens in a particular type of event, all those events become

socially considered to be wrong by certain religious people. Now,

let's just say that your sister is getting fixed up and the other

family is coming for just a decent casual talk, just to discuss,

discuss when it's going to be and so on so forth, to attend that

there's nothing wrong with it. What is wrong is when the

engagement is like a wedding. When Haram is taking place in that

engagement, when the when the the couple who are to be married, the

coming together and maybe putting a ring on each other sitting there

holding hands, when haram takes place, then you avoid those. But

if it's a local family thing in which it's just a straightforward

affair, right, and nobody's making them an excuse to have a party

about, then there's nothing wrong with that. So it just depends

whether it is a haram element to it or not. So I'm not going to say

engagements are haram. Obviously you have to discuss when when to

do the wedding, how to do the wedding, where to do you know and

so on and so forth. So how do you do that? That's the question. So

some people make that to have a mini wedding. Right? Well, that's

what's wrong.