Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Removing Hatred for Someone That Has Done You Wrong

How do we remove heal from the heart? If it's for someone who has

wronged me destroyed marital relations or caused

misunderstanding in marriage? Well, they've already done that.

So now for you to hate them will make no difference I understand

that kind of hurts is difficult to just get rid of. But at the end of

the day, we must think that what's the point? What am I going to do

out of this, just because you don't have an ill feeling doesn't

mean you have to become their friend necessarily, or that you

have to start going out with them and eating with them. And visiting

them doesn't mean that it just means that you don't have to carry

the baggage anymore. Whether it's healthy for you to have a

relationship, that's a separate issue. Sometimes it is, sometimes

it's not. But it doesn't, it just means that you take it out of your

heart, focus on other things and don't let this sink you further,

because it's only going to harm you. That guy's done what they've

done, they've done what they've done, they may be laughing about

it, they may be sad about it, they may have sought forgiveness about

it, they may be excited about it, but that should not you should not

let that affect you. All right, you move on to maybe another

marriage. You know, go and get married again. For example. Just

because you've been divorced once doesn't mean that you never get

married again. A lot of people feel that way that I've had a bad

experience so everybody must be like that. That's not true.

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