Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Encouraging Children to Pray Salat
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim, I have three children 11, nine and
six. And I have difficulties to ask them to do five times prayer,
especially Salat al Fajr.
Please give me your advice. It's very difficult to give very
specific advice because the dynamics of every home is very
different. Have
other parents praying regularly? Have they been praying regularly?
How have they managed to encourage or what kind of encouragement have
they provided to the children, I would probably just say,
generically speaking, it's about maybe sitting down and maybe
reading some Hadith on the formula of prayer on the virtues of
prayer. So for example, there's a famous book called virtues of the
prayer for dial a solid, it's part of the family law model. The whole
collection is some really beautiful, very intense, very
powerful narrations in there. So you just go through them with the
children to sit them down and say, Look, this is what the prophets
Allah said, This is what Allah says in the Quran, I realized that
that helps a lot, because I remember we had a student in, in
the, in the group that I was teaching and he, his, his father
was not very encouraging him of encouraging of him to miss school
for Juma prayer.
So I told him a few times, but he just couldn't have the willpower
to speak to his father and saying this is important, or whatever the
case is. So once we went through the narrations, both generations
that warned about what happens if you miss prayer, and also the
virtues of doing prayer, and mashallah he started. So it's
about positive encouragement. That's what I would suggest to
start with what helps a lot for example.
If my children have
computer time, two hours on the weekends, for every prayer they do
in the week, they get five extra minutes. If they get to do it in
the masjid, then they get 10 extra minutes. And believe me, they
running to do it. Because that computer time is very valuable. So
we found that to work and how long it's going to work for but it
definitely does work. So every time I'm going for prayer, he
wants to come with me for prayer.
When I'm praying at home, he wants to come and pray with me at home.
So there's there's these different things that you can use May Allah
subhanaw but make lots and lots of dua. The parents obviously have to
be praying for that to happen as well.