Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Dealing with In-Law Issues

Okay. If I live with my in laws

and try my best to show good conduct

towards them, however I have, I am more

mute and silent than talking. I've been married

for over a decade and it is affecting

me now because I'm not able to be

myself. The science is killing me. Is it

best to move out?

I would say so. I mean, if you've

got the

opportunity and ability to move out, then

that's always the best. Hopefully, your husband thinks

the same, and hopefully,

your in laws don't cause a big problem.

But I've seen in so many cases,

even close to me,

right, that when they actually moved out, initially,

there was a bit of a bad feeling.

But over time, it's actually a much better

relationship than to be suffocated because just I

don't know why people don't understand that sometimes

it just doesn't work.

Right? And try as you might try to

tell each of those parties you do this

and you do that. It just doesn't work.

And whoever doesn't understand that, I think they

they need some help because seriously, it doesn't

work sometimes. Unless it's a miracle then. And

over a decade, then what else? So good

luck to you. I've got a book coming

out which deals with,

some of these issues, inshallah, especially this issue.

Dealing with in laws, some strategies, and things

like that.

Inshallah, make duh, it's coming out in about

a month or 2, called the handbook of

a healthy Muslim marriage, right, based on 20

years of, obviously, marriage and consulting with these

kind of cases.

For listening. May

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