Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Dealing with In-Law Issues
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The speaker discusses their experience with their in laws and how it has affected their ability to be themselves. They also mention a book about a healthy Muslim marriage and encourage listeners to subscribe to it.
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Okay. If I live with my in laws
and try my best to show good conduct
towards them, however I have, I am more
mute and silent than talking. I've been married
for over a decade and it is affecting
me now because I'm not able to be
myself. The science is killing me. Is it
best to move out?
I would say so. I mean, if you've
got the
opportunity and ability to move out, then
that's always the best. Hopefully, your husband thinks
the same, and hopefully,
your in laws don't cause a big problem.
But I've seen in so many cases,
even close to me,
right, that when they actually moved out, initially,
there was a bit of a bad feeling.
But over time, it's actually a much better
relationship than to be suffocated because just I
don't know why people don't understand that sometimes
it just doesn't work.
Right? And try as you might try to
tell each of those parties you do this
and you do that. It just doesn't work.
And whoever doesn't understand that, I think they
they need some help because seriously, it doesn't
work sometimes. Unless it's a miracle then. And
over a decade, then what else? So good
luck to you. I've got a book coming
out which deals with,
some of these issues, inshallah, especially this issue.
Dealing with in laws, some strategies, and things
like that.
Inshallah, make duh, it's coming out in about
a month or 2, called the handbook of
a healthy Muslim marriage, right, based on 20
years of, obviously, marriage and consulting with these
kind of cases.
For listening. May
Allah, bless you. And if you're finding this
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