Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Q&A Dealing with In-Law Issues

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speaker discusses their experience with their in laws and how it has affected their ability to be themselves. They also mention a book about a healthy Muslim marriage and encourage listeners to subscribe to it.

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			Okay. If I live with my in laws
		
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			and try my best to show good conduct
		
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			towards them, however I have, I am more
		
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			mute and silent than talking. I've been married
		
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			for over a decade and it is affecting
		
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			me now because I'm not able to be
		
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			myself. The science is killing me. Is it
		
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			best to move out?
		
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			I would say so. I mean, if you've
		
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			got the
		
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			opportunity and ability to move out, then
		
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			that's always the best. Hopefully, your husband thinks
		
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			the same, and hopefully,
		
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			your in laws don't cause a big problem.
		
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			But I've seen in so many cases,
		
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			even close to me,
		
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			right, that when they actually moved out, initially,
		
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			there was a bit of a bad feeling.
		
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			But over time, it's actually a much better
		
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			relationship than to be suffocated because just I
		
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			don't know why people don't understand that sometimes
		
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			it just doesn't work.
		
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			Right? And try as you might try to
		
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			tell each of those parties you do this
		
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			and you do that. It just doesn't work.
		
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			And whoever doesn't understand that, I think they
		
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			they need some help because seriously, it doesn't
		
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			work sometimes. Unless it's a miracle then. And
		
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			over a decade, then what else? So good
		
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			luck to you. I've got a book coming
		
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			out which deals with,
		
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			some of these issues, inshallah, especially this issue.
		
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			Dealing with in laws, some strategies, and things
		
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			like that.
		
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			Inshallah, make duh, it's coming out in about
		
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			a month or 2, called the handbook of
		
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			a healthy Muslim marriage, right, based on 20
		
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			years of, obviously, marriage and consulting with these
		
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			kind of cases.
		
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			For listening. May
		
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			Allah, bless you. And if you're finding this
		
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			useful,
		
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			you know,
		
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			as they say, do that like button and
		
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			subscribe button and forward it on to others.