Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Patience as you have never known it

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speakers discuss the meaning of soberity and the benefits of soberity in society, including avoiding bad behavior and not giving up. They emphasize the importance of patient patience and avoiding sinful behavior, and stress the importance of commitment to one's faith. They also mention a new social media site called Aimee that encourages people to stay sober.

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			Bismillah
		
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			most people take sober in the
meaning in one of its three
		
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			meanings. There's three meanings
of sober, although two are more
		
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			popular in terms of practice, but
most people only know what what
		
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			the mean, what one meaning is. So
for example, if I was to ask what
		
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			do you understand by the word sub?
		
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			somebody telling me what somebody
is patience for what
		
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			exactly difficulty hard time
calamity, somebody troubles, you
		
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			know, does anybody know any other
meaning of sober.
		
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			We do more sober in the other two
senses every day than we do this
		
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			one because you don't have
calamities everyday do. So the
		
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			other two are much more prevalent,
and yet most of us don't know
		
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			about them.
		
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			That's why when we ask for support
to Allah subhanaw taala, we're
		
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			asking for a calamity on which we
can then have well being
		
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			is kind of really weird. That's
why some of the other mentioned
		
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			that if you don't have a problem,
don't ask Allah for sovereign.
		
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			And a story that happened in front
of me was that we went for Hajj,
		
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			and one of us did a long dua in
out of this very long dua about
		
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			suburb. And on Mount Arafa. You
know, like, by mount all of us,
		
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			that's the time it was accepted.
And he had money about $2,300 That
		
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			was in his belt, and covered by
his forearm, there's no way
		
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			anybody can steal that except the
most professional person. And he
		
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			didn't check his money, because
the one other guy in the, in the
		
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			in the group was spending and you
know, it was like a collective. So
		
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			after he, after the third day when
he pelted the shake hands and got
		
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			up and he thought, you know, I
need to take some money out and
		
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			give some donation. He looked in
his he looked that harm was
		
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			undone, like unfolded, the pocket
zip was open, and the 23 $2,300
		
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			were gone.
		
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			He had no problem. Yes, it was a
loss. But he didn't feel the loss.
		
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			Allah gave me my jeep patients.
And a friend of his the person
		
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			next to us, he, one of the
brothers, he reminded us that, you
		
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			know, you made that big toy out of
our on sub, I did not say I'm into
		
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			that one.
		
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			Because we generally take
somewhere in the meaning of summer
		
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			from calamity. Whereas the other
two meanings, they're actually
		
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			much more that we do day in and
day out. And you probably did it
		
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			today. What is that? The first one
is sober, other thought, sober on
		
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			obedience. You're coming here
today. I guarantee you wasn't
		
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			there, some of you who wanted to
come but then had kind of last
		
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			minute thoughts but overcame them.
		
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			And thought I could go to that
diet. You know, I could go and
		
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			just relax, I could do my
homework, I could just relax in
		
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			bed on a Sunday. Then you get some
of you think like that? Didn't I
		
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			mean, put your hands up if you had
to, if you had to go through some
		
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			right that you did somewhere. So
you came here and you're doing
		
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			Sabra sitting here. You know, when
you have to wash your wake up for
		
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			Fudger you're doing sober on
obedience. When you have to, would
		
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			you call it wake up on a cold day,
use cold water or anything for
		
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			that matter, or pray like in front
and people are seeing you in the
		
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			university? And you're studying
and you know, you have to pray
		
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			that suburb on obedience. We're
doing suburb hundreds of times in
		
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			a day to be a Muslim. Can you
imagine the reward we're getting
		
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			for that?
		
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			Right? Suddenly, all of this
suburb we do, you just made it
		
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			Islamic. All of these normal
activities you do, you suddenly
		
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			see some benefit in it. Now it's
got a new name, it's got a new new
		
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			site to it, and there's reward for
it. The second one, we also do
		
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			quite often sober, annual Muxia.
		
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			Patience from sin. So staying away
from sin, I am being patient. What
		
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			is patience mean? Patience means
restricting yourself with holding
		
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			yourself. That's what sober means.
Not letting go. Right. So
		
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			patience. For example, everybody's
you know, you've got a group of
		
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			friends that are not necessarily
Muslim or whatever, and they're
		
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			gonna go and eat somewhere and
you're like, Man, that's haram, I
		
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			can't, I can't have that beer with
you. I can't go into that pub with
		
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			you. Right? Remember, don't don't
go in and say I'm just going to
		
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			have an orange juice, it's a bad
environment, you don't want to die
		
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			there. And then it'll get your,
your your taboo to it gets gets
		
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			lighter, and then eventually, you
know, in a bad day, something else
		
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			might happen as well. You just
don't want to be there. In fact,
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said that a believer
		
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			whoever believes in Allah on the
last day, he should not sit on a
		
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			table on which intoxicants are
served.
		
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			And that's how bad it is. Okay.
		
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			So
		
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			and I had a friend who really
stuck to that. And he was, you
		
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			know, he's an engineer in a firm,
superconductor technology, one of
		
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			the only guys who could do that
stuff there. And he used to refuse
		
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			to go
		
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			So the annual general meetings,
the AGM is why? Because, you know,
		
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			I used to say he was a very good
worker, at the end of the day you
		
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			say, I can't work, I can't come
here because you serve wine and I
		
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			can't, you know, I'm not allowed.
Now, if you're a bad worker was
		
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			always messing around anyway,
they're gonna think who cares?
		
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			Right? You're gonna think who
cares? But with him after about
		
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			three years that this happened, I
think it was the third year or the
		
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			fourth year, his supervisor came
and said, you know, we've got an
		
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			annual general meeting in two
weeks. He says, Yeah, I know that.
		
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			He said, You know, we would like
you to be there. He said, You
		
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			know, I'm really sorry, but you
know, what my, my issues are, he
		
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			said, It's okay, we've changed our
policy, they will, no one will be
		
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			served there.
		
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			Right. But you're only going to
get that if you trust in Allah,
		
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			you're proud of what you're doing
for the right reason and you're a
		
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			good worker, you're giving to them
what they want from you. They're
		
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			going to respect you for it. But
if you're messing around running
		
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			off all the time and slacking in
your work and then think I'm a
		
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			Muslim I need to do this what kind
of an image are you giving to
		
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			them? So you know, you guys are
going into the corporate world you
		
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			guys are gonna go into that that's
what you need to be proud of your
		
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			faith but contribute contribution
should be good. Right you should
		
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			have a Muslim contribution
		
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			Sonic contribution a beautiful
contribution right don't try to
		
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			take the benefits of being a
Muslim on one side and then not do
		
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			not give you can't do that. We
need to make our mark. So the two
		
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			meanings of some of them sober
annual Marcia, and sober Allah
		
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			Tala sober on obedience,
persevering on good deeds, and
		
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			persevering against committing bad
deeds. That's what we do all the
		
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			time. And of course, we can ask
for supper on these things. Or
		
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			when most of us ask for supper,
we're not talking about these two.
		
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			We're speaking about the third one
which is about calamity which
		
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			happens muscle much less than the
first few times. Alright, so now
		
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			you just got a new idea of what
solver is. So hopefully that will
		
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			be a benefit bla