Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Nothing Drives You Like Suspicion [Hikam 61]
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa
salatu salam ala UD mursaleen were either early he was Safi or Baraka
was a limiter Sleeman. Cathy, you're on Eli Yomi. Dean, a mother
Sharla to continue with the next wisdom. The next hikma from our
book of wisdoms of Ignatov. Allah al Eskandari and the commentary by
Sheikh Abdullah Ganga, he may Allah have mercy on them both. And
all of our mache, and scholars, this is wisdom number 100. And
this is wisdom number 61.
It's a very simple one, but it's really profound and very full of
meaning. And there's several meanings and several guidances
advices that we can take from this. Essentially, what if not, I
thought Allah is saying he's saying Martha, the cache on Miss
Lulu, me, Martha, the cache on mythical wormy.
Nothing leads you like suspicion, there's nothing that can lead you
on so effectively. So convincingly, even though there is
no reality, such as suspicion.
Suspicion is so powerful, if you if we give ourselves up to it, and
we're not conscious and careful and cautious, it will lead us to
where there is no reality, while making it seem like it's a
reality. And thus, because of that, so many things happen.
Because when a person acts against reality against what's out there,
just perceives that there's something out there a simple
example, for example, somebody is standing at the door of a train,
in a country where they allow you to open the doors and trains even
while they're moving. Like in India, for example, in Morocco,
the doors can open, they sometimes even open for the breeze, somebody
just stands there. And the person thinks while standing there in
that moving train that they are on their porch, at home. And when
they get out, they'll actually
come into their front courtyard. And that's in their mind, for some
reason, they're in some other state. Clearly, they're going to
their death. If they take take that step out, they're basically
taking that step to their demise. So while that's a very graphic
example, but there's a lot of things that happen like that, in
our abstract world, in terms of our relationship with the people,
when we perceive certain things, assume certain things jump to
conclusions about certain people certain things, certain things,
they said, an expression on their face or remark, they made
a movement of this,
and an activity of this, and we assume that it has a particular
perspective. Now, there are different people. In this regard.
People are different in this regard. Some people are very
sensitive to what others say, in fact, overly sensitive.
Nothing is really meant there's nothing sinister in the motive.
There's nothing untoward intended, but this person takes the negative
reads into it, and even comes back five days afterwards about a
conversation that was had last week. And they'll say, remember,
you said this?
And the person thinks that I did I say that? Yeah, and this is what
you meant. I don't even remember saying it, then they think when he
said, Well, I did say those words, but in a different context. And
this guy's taken a completely different context, it was just a
casual remark was completely innocent. So some people are over
the top in that regard. And some people are obviously so laid back,
that they don't focus at all. So humans come with that because the
one thing that describes a human being is diversity is that every
human is different.
Every human is different. That's what makes us so wonderful.
Because of that diversity.
Everybody is very, very different. Two brothers are not alike. Your
two children, if you have two children or three children, you'll
see that there's huge differences in them, even though they both
came from the same parents, even though they may have been fed the
same food. All it is, is that one may have just lived for a bit
longer. And when the case of twins there are so different, and they
only a few minutes apart or a few seconds apart.
So that's Allah subhanho wa Taala squadra. He creates everybody with
a certain diversity a certain difference a uniqueness. So now if
we're on the overly sensitive, that we need to bring it down to
moderation, and if we're somebody who just doesn't get anything, who
just sits there and listens, and even the biggest hints are
provided, and they don't take any hints and they just carry on to
their detriment.
Then of course, that person is going to have to wake up and there
are people of shades in between and there are people who are
balanced. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has
the most balanced character and then the
Those who are closest to him, those who have the most balanced
character will be the closest to him. So may Allah subhanaw taala
make us like that. So that's just a little introduction of how
suspicion works. Now, there's one meaning that
if not authority, Allah seems to have intended, which two
commentators have spoken about what exactly is this suspicion,
this whim woman. So the words that are important here is called the
cache on mythical wormy, called the Yakuza, which essentially
means to drive something. So a car it is generally the commander.
Car, it is somebody who leads from the front. And Sir ik in Arabic is
somebody who leads from the back. That's why generally, even though
the driver is in the front seat, they still call him a sir, because
he's, I guess, behind the wheel or behind the engine, even though
some cars have actually the engine at the back. So interesting idea,
but generally, the car ID is somebody who's at the front.
So
called the means to lead. And it's an interesting idea, because you
could lead an animal with a rope through their nose, a ring in
their nose, so you're leading them on. And it almost signifies an
idea that they have no choice, you are the card that whoever the
caller ID, and the leader is literally leader, then the others
don't have any choice. So who is this? Who is this leader that this
is discussing? So he's saying that it's suspicion, suspicion is the
most powerful leader,
others will lead you into a reality, but suspicion leads you
where there's no reality and makes you makes you feel like it's a
reality? You provide? You design your whole worldview, all your
actions that you do, according to that. So that's one, that's the
idea of one.
Now, one, you use the word one in many languages, Scott, Warham,
hoga, right.
In Arabic, it's an Arabic word, obviously, it essentially means a
notion, an idea,
a thought, and according to some commentators, it's according to
some understanding, it's actually the first it could be it could be.
I think it's more than that. But it definitely starts off as the
first
stage of thought that comes into the mind. In Arabic, you actually
got terms for all of this. So if there's a fleeting thought a
thought just bounced into hadn't been bounced back out, you didn't
really ponder over it, you didn't engage with it. It's called
a hajus. In Arabic hedges, hedges, hedges or shade Hergest, just a
fleeting thought, then there's hardware, which is the thought
that comes into your mind and you think about it for a while, and
then it, then you either dismiss it, it goes, That's harder.
There's a second level, I would call that a bit of a lingering
thoughts. So one is a fleeting thought another one is a lingering
thought, then if it stays there, and you dialogue with it, should I
do this? Should I not do that? is are they really like that? Are
they not like that you actually debate with it, and then it goes,
you didn't really resolve to do anything with it. It's called
Hadith or knifes.
It's when you discuss with yourself. It's a it's a discussion
that you're having with yourself, I'm sure everybody can relate to
these levels of thoughts. And then after that, if you do have that
discourse with in your mind, as we do with many thoughts, should I
go? Should I go to that restaurant or not? Should I marry this person
or not? Should I take this course or not? Should I eat now or not?
You know, sometimes you're working. You're very focused, very
busy. And a fleeting thoughts got mama hungry. But then because
you're so focused, it just goes out. Another one is I'm hungry,
I'm hungry, I'm hungry, but you don't engage with it. Because
you're so busy. And the third time is, yeah, should I go and eat now
I've got a bit more work left. Should I go on each other? So and
then, and then you get occupied again. And a fourth one is hum.
Which means Yeah, let me go and eat or No, I'm not going to two
hours later, I still need to finish this project off. That's
called hum now, which is getting close to resolve. And the last
stage is Isom full resolve certainty. Full decision, resolute
idea. I'm going to do this. And then you essentially decide to do
it. Whether you do it or not, is now another stage but you've
decided to do it. It may then turn out that it may be in your car may
not work or the restaurant may be closed or something or the person
you're supposed to go and meet that you want to go and meet is
not there anymore.
These are the thoughts. Now another way to look at it is
if you are pondering something considering something whether it's
true or not, whether it's a reality or not. And you're 5050 on
both sides.
could be, it could not be, did I miss my prayer? Did I not miss my
prayer, I just can't make up my mind. It's just too conflicting.
Do I have wudu or not? It's 5050. In January in Arabic, you call
that 5050 stages check, as we say, check us that in different
languages, check that's 5050. If it's less than 5050, where it's
just the thought, just
a one, you call that one less than 50% is a one.
Just the notion, just an idea, doesn't even go up to 50%. That's
a one.
Now, if you do have 50%, and it tips over to more than most
likely,
then you call that one in Arabic, dominant opinion, dominant idea,
right? Pre ponder rated, thought, these are all terms you can use in
English, but basically, you've gone over 50%. Now, most likely,
that is the case, it's this way, not this way. So that means once
you go over 50%,
then the side which goes over is called done, the pre ponder, ated
dominant thought and the other side will become the one because
there's less than 50%. That's just a suspicion left now.
So it depends on where you are, you may just have suspicion and
not that not the dominant thought you may there may or may not be
that Well, I guess in all cases, it will be like that. So here he's
talking about the initial stage before even 50% Just Just the
thought and idea. But Subhanallah, it becomes so strong sometimes
that people resolve on it. And they do things on it, they act on
it, and they break relationships, they destroy themselves, they
destroy others, they cause misery, because it was, in reality, it's
just the worm, it's just suspicionless in the eyes is
nothing. It's just a suspicion. But you've pushed it up. Now, what
he's talking about here, in terms of knowing Allah subhanaw taala,
or the absence of knowing Allah subhanaw taala, which is this is
mostly related to he says
that
what we mean by wham here, what the author means by this suspicion
is something which is on the opposing end of certainty and
conviction, anything which is not a certainty, which is not a
conviction, he takes in a broader meaning that all of that is a
suspicion, at the end of the day doesn't matter how, how much as
long as you don't have full certainty, then, in the context in
which he speaking, he says that is just going to be a suspicion. So
now what he says is, there is nothing that is going to drive you
all right,
towards
people and their assets, and what they have, and flattering them and
becoming a slave essentially, to others, to things of this world,
like suspicion. Now, this seems to be totally different to what we
were speaking about. So he's taking it slightly differently.
He's saying this suspicion,
this suspicion, or this thought that is driving you so badly, is
thought and suspicion that this world can do something for you.
Whereas the reality is that they cannot do anything except what
Allah has decided.
That's the idea. It's based on the understanding of our belief, the
godhood of Allah subhanaw taala the fact that Allah is the divine
nurturer, the one that provider the sustainer. If a person misses
that, then when they don't have that awareness of Allah, they
don't have that firm belief what Allah is, they do have it if you
give them tenets of faith, like Akita to how we are, do you agree
with everything? And he? Of course I do. But is it a reality? Is it
something that you will consider at a time when it should be
considered?
When I need to be deciding whether something can can really harm me
or not? Does it come to my mind that only Allah can harm? If that
idea doesn't come? I mean, this is a test with ourselves, that if I'm
in a precarious situation, and I'm thinking that the harm is going to
come from a certain person, I'm really scared, I'm really
frightened, and physically looks like the guy is going to, you
know, this person can really harm me, because they know something
about us or they're about to attack us or our promotion at work
or being fired at work
is in their hands. If we don't think about Allah, then that means
we don't know Allah.
Clearly, this is the apparent cause, no doubt, that can't be
denied. This is not a fake world we're living in,
in a sense, but it's not a fake. Well, it's something that we have
to interact with as though it's real. But the reality the real
reality is Allah. So at that moment, we should be thinking
really only what Allah does can happen that gives us then some
room because imagine it, just think about it. If I'm thinking
that I'm going to like somebody sent me a message the other time
that you know, they've got to
inquiry at work. And you know, it could be serious. So Subhanallah,
you know, if you now start thinking that this is it, because
it all seems to be going in a particular direction, and I could
be fired, you could be yes, you could be fired. But
what else is gonna let you give you some comfort? What else can
assist you and help you give you some hope? besides Allah, nothing
can give you hope. Because all the factors, the worldly factors are
stacked up against you, maybe the result has come. And the factors
are all stacked up against you, it's going to happen.
Now, what else can you call towards because nobody else that
can help you. But this is where if you realize and believe that Allah
subhanaw taala is the real controller of all affairs and the
administrator of the universe and every small thing, nothing, not
even a leave false. All of that comes into your mind suddenly,
just the opening in your heart, just that optimism and optimism
according to all studies, and according to personal experience,
tells you that it is really really beneficial. A person lives by
optimism. People avert sicknesses, they keep illnesses at bay because
of optimism, because of hope, and the absence of depression, and the
absence of these false pressures and things like that, because they
know that there's Allah and that in for human beings, psychology is
very, very, very powerful.
Now, Allah may let us be fired, or Allah may let us carry on anything
could happen. But we've called on to Allah. And that's the idea
here, that this suspicion, this idea that things can decide your
fate.
That is a really, really bad way to lead. That is something really
bad to follow. Of course, it's a reality, and we need to work with
it. But at the end of the day, it's Allah subhanaw taala, behind
everything, and Allah can perform some amazing miracles, because
everything is in his hands. So that's what it is that there's
nothing except the absence of your understanding of Allah, and thus
your suspicion that the world and things in it hold the reins of
your existence, and your survival. That is going to lead you. And
that is why then you have to beg, and submit and become enslaved,
and thus, change your name sometimes to seem like you're
something else to miss your prayers.
Subhanallah there's a person who contacted me from a place that has
lots of Muslims there, but it's not the West. And there is missing
a prayer.
Mrs. Marguerite pray, okay, Fajr shouldn't also be missed. But
that's understandable. The reason is that you may have overslept,
one of the most, to be honest, a lot of people who miss measure,
and who don't know why.
Most of the cases that I have seen is because they sleep late.
They sleep late, and then they want to miraculously wake up. And
somebody was telling me the same as what time do you sleep? And
then you discover the sleeping 12? One, two, or how do you expect
there's no justification for that. The Baraka is in the morning,
that's our human clocks is supposed to be for that. May Allah
give us a Tofik to benefit from that. Missing Maghrib. And I think
one of the reasons is that in the West here, you know, because we
don't have mustards at every corner. So places where they do
they feel like you have to pray in a masjid, you can't just find a
nice little corner and pull out your prayer mat and just pray.
Subhanallah you know, I remember even in America, I had a place in
LAX airport, there was a certain place, I would go and just pray
there because it was nice and secluded beneath a stairwell.
Right? If there's no prayer room. But there's some people out there
is one person to travel with me once a friend and he traveled with
me from California to Virginia. And I said, you know, he was just
talking about what he learned from the trip and thing he learned is
that you can actually pray in these places. Like you don't have
to miss your prayer. If there's no prayer room, and this person is in
a Muslim kind of community was what to massage it, but because
he's in a place where there's no massage and, and he's gotten late
of work, he's missed his prayer, because he's not willing to go
into a corridor somewhere or whatever and pray or whatever the
case was, of course, it's not easy to pray in an airport, but
Subhanallah it is always some place. And then you do have this
feeling that somebody might see you but hamdulillah in the West,
generally people are a bit respectful anyway, so. So the idea
is that we do not give up these things. Because remember,
ultimately, Allah subhanaw taala is the one who's in charge. And
the way to survive in this world in a way that Allah wants us to
make something for us in the hereafter is going to have to be
to make that connection with Allah through lots of vicar and just
reading the Quran with meaning to understand who Allah is.
That's why the
commentator says, What a hassle. Luckily, luckily, a clean and
amerihome via the law, if only this certainty can come to you,
right can be yours, all their affairs as well, just like your
affairs, all their affairs are also in the hands of Allah, their
lives in the control of Allah.
And they are
also
too weak to even benefit themselves unless Allah wills how
can they benefit someone else, then if Allah does not will, if
you can think according to that, that they're a servant of Allah, I
am a slave of Allah. And only Allah, whatever happens, whatever
Allah wills happens, then suddenly, can you see the playing
field is different now. You're no longer inferior. You're no longer
in that same state of vulnerability, if you're
vulnerable, they're vulnerable, they still might have a position,
they may still be your boss, that's fine. We have to respect
that idea. But in terms of what really is going to happen has to
be from Allah is to give us that optimism and understand, to make
us do a vicar that everything in the hat is in the hands of Allah.
So when you think like that, he says luck. Totally Yes, I mean,
whom you will now sever your hope from them, your real hope will be
from Allah now.
That doesn't mean you won't petition or you want to explain
yourself to the person you do that. But your heart is with
Allah, and you're trying to
explain your yourself or your situation.
So you will remove you will become despondent, of any benefit coming
from them. And you'll put all of your hope, with the one who can
give whatever we hope for
the rubble or dab the load of all, so called loads, that's the one we
need to be connected to. Another way to understand this is it's a
bit more complicated. But everything as you see around us
does exist. But their existence is a temporary existence.
And they don't have to be around.
Only Allah has to be here. Only Allah has to be existent. For
everything to work the way it is, you and I, the world could care
less if we weren't here.
Right? Imagine if Adorama never came into this world, a world
would never have limited Oh, how I wish there was a this, Abdurrahman
will make any difference. But if there was no God, there'd be no
world, there'd be no big bang, those forces would not have come
together.
So when you look at it, that way, you suddenly start understanding
the weakness of who you're fearing, or who you're hoping in.
Why not put all of your fears and hope in the one who it really
belongs to who really is the existent one, the necessarily
existing one, the one who's always been there, pre eternal, as one of
the Hadith on the 99 names of Allah, not the famous one, the
famous one is by sunnah Timothy, with the famous 99 that most
people will be aware of. But there are several other narrations,
other versions with a slightly different collection of 99. One is
the liberal manager, there's something NASA II, there's others,
and one of them has the name of for Allah al Khadim, the pre
eternal one that's always in existence. That's why the idea is
that if the light of knowledge about Allah subhanahu wa taala,
the conviction in him is to grow in you, then suddenly, all of the
other so called lights of what you feel are realities that you should
be too concerned about, will suddenly all diminish because the
light of Allah will be shining bright.
You don't need candles, when the sun is shining, it seems
an absolute foolishness and redundancy the sun is then you put
candles around the house as though that's going to do anything.
In the third wheel, which is another book by the author, he
says
the thing which is the only thing in fact, which has stopped people
from running to Allah and putting all conviction in him and
strengthening that relationship is just the pull of the associations
of other things of other creatures just like us. So every time they
their hearts, they hear something, they get a moment of realization
and they want to go to Allah subhanho wa taala. That
Association, and there there will be some very strong associations
and some not so strong, but we all have, unfortunately, some kind of
association with the world. Right? That really pulling Association, a
Genoveva a very attractive Association, and everybody has
their own associations that they can think about that particular
The Association, that relationship will pull the person. So then he
becomes deprived of the real association with Allah subhanaw
taala. It's a struggle, you know, it's something that we need to do.
There are some people who Allah subhanaw taala just gives it to
some, but we can't complain if we don't get that. Because the other
way to get which is through effort is open to all and it's
scientific. Anybody who tries it will get it. It's not by chance.
It just needs sincerity. Just need effort and just need to cut away
from reliance on other associations. Sounds easy. It's
not, but it is easy if Allah helps. So you asked for help at
the same time, some of the IoD fiends said,
do not ever assume don't ever, ever think that you can enter into
the
Divine Court
with Allah, whereas there's something behind you that keeps
pulling you away.
These that same things that you seem to love, they're pulling you
away from getting into where you really want to be they want to
veil that they don't want they know that they may lose you. So
that's why they keep you so focused with other things that
they don't let you see the truth so you're not able to get it as
soon as you get to the door they pull you there's a distraction Hey
brother, there's a distraction. That is what Allah subhanaw taala
said, yo Mala in fact woman who Allah by noon IL, at Allah Habib,
Calvin Salim Surah, to show Ara, that's the day when no wealth or
children will be to your benefit, which are the two closest things
to a person, their children, their family, and their wealth because
you feel that you get the greatest strength through those two, except
the one who comes with a sound heart. So the juxtaposition here
is of a sound heart and juxtapose with your wealth and children that
means they are what you didn't have so much association with who
you who you do anything for sometimes even the wrong things.
So the kobolds alkyl, Boo Salim is the one that doesn't have any of
these fetters attached to it of other things besides Allah. Then
Allah subhanaw taala said in Surah Al Anam now think of this right.
Allah says,
Welcome to Munna Ferrara, the karma holla Karna come uh, well,
Amara,
right, when people will eventually when we will end up in front of
Allah subhanaw taala. And make May Allah make that day, the best of
our days. Because if that is the best of our experiences we've ever
had, then that's really helpful.
So Allah says that, you will certainly come to us individuals
for other, just like we created you, at the beginning, when you
created you at the beginning, you had no association, if there was
any association you had, it was with Allah, because we had, you
know, embryonic stages somewhere before that, with other Mali
Salaam and his progeny, that that covenant that took place, we
recognize Allah subhanaw taala.
Again, that shows that there's no way to get to Allah, except if you
want to get to him before we're gonna get to him anyway, and be
ready for that, then we need to cut away from all of these things.
Again, enjoy the world in a permissible way, while always
understanding that it all it's all from Allah, you're having a
wonderful meal and you're enjoying it. Well, it's because Allah
subhanaw taala provides you that meal and provides you the
enjoyment in there provides you the tastebuds in your tongue to
enjoy. It provides you the eyesight, and the psychological
connection between your eyesight and the pleasure of the food and
how it looks in the beauty with which that Food Platter has been
laid out. Then Allah subhanaw taala gives you the olfactory
senses of your nose so that you can further appreciate and those
who are thinking What's that got to do with anything, right, close
your nose and try to have a packet of crisps you won't taste the
taste, nose has actually sometimes even more to do with how you taste
the food than your own mouth than your tongue. So all of this is
coming together your eyes looking at that wonderfully laid out, you
know, five star Michelin, you know star graded platter, right with
your with your nose, with your senses of your nose and your
tongue and then it goes into your stomach. And then Allah is the one
who's created the entire system of our stomach that allows it to go
down and not just come back up like that. Then the bile and
everything it
turns it into what it needs to and then it allows it to go out so it
just doesn't get stuffed inside the stomach. It doesn't give you
stomachache, there's no indigestion. All of that is coming
from Allah subhanaw taala. How can you discount Allah from that
process? How can you only praise the chef?
Yes, praise the chef because we give you that do you thanks to
people, that's part of our religion, but the real idea is
that it's all inside.
It's all from Allah subhanho wa Taala that's the reality may
Allah make this an easy reality for us.
Then Allah subhanahu wa Allah says in surah to Doha, and you know
this, Allah Mujica, Yachty, Iman for our
didn't he, meaning Allah find you an orphan and thus he gave you
refuge.
orphans are generally supposed to be the most vulnerable, they're
young, and they don't have a father. They don't have the
support system.
That's the example of some of the most vulnerable in our society.
And often, people abuse orphans, unfortunately. That's why there's
a huge encouragement to look after orphans.
So Allah says that about the prophets, Allah isn't that wasn't
he an orphan, then Allah subhanaw taala gave him refuge, Allah has
the ability to give refuge to the weakest of the weak. What that
understands as well is that we all need to become orphaned of certain
things for Allah to then take over.
Alhamdulillah if we have, if we've had parents while we were young,
and we're not orphans, Alhamdulillah that's a shocker to
Allah. May Allah bless our parents, if they're still here,
may Allah bless them if they've gone, may Allah bless them in
their graves.
But
this is talking about beyond just having parents, this is having
someone to look up to someone to get something from now, if we've
made all of these artificial things around us, our sustainers
and our parents in that sense, those who will take care of us,
then we've left we ourselves don't want Allah to be part of that.
So judging from this verse of the Quran, the guidance we understand
from there is that become a your team and everything.
Become an orphan in every sense, except, of course you don't. You
have a father, you keep that father but in every other sense,
in everything else that you need. Right? Ubik become an orphan to
Allah and He will take care of you. Just like he took care of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then Allah subhanho wa
taala, then actually, the prophets Allah says something very
interesting. He describes Allah and he says in Allah withdrawn, or
what run when you hit bull what Allah is single, and an odd
number, single, right? And he loves that singularity, or the odd
number. Right? That's why during the tradition, we are told to
three the species in your records are in your schedule. And if you
want to do more, do I mean
additions of two odd numbers so 3579 Don't do 10 Even though 10
sounds like such a wholesome number in the metric system of
ours, but no,
that's why things in the universal seven odd number is there.
So Allah subhanho wa Taala likes that. So now what's going on here,
similar here, in what you want. Allah does not like anything that
destroys unity, that encroaches on unity on oneness. Because Allah
loves one he is one and he loves oneness, and that singularity in
this case, so that's why don't let anything else be affecting you.
Because you're allowing somebody besides Allah or something besides
Allah to compare and Allah says, Okay, if you want them to let you
go with them, let's see what you get from them.
Leave it to Allah subhanaw taala that's why mashallah some people
who've reached that status really refined this have pondered this
for a while and done dhikr and done a lot given a lot of thought
to this and connected themselves to Allah subhanho wa Taala one of
them said local lift to an era Hydra hula started.
Even if I'm forced, coerced, and pushed to see anybody else as a
reality. I cannot. I see you now sir. You know, I see you is my I
see you.
But I wish I could say this for myself. But I can't see you
because I'm seeing who created you. When I see you then I think
of everything else of how you came into being in the one behind you.
Subhanallah
when I see anything,
I see the maker of it. That's what Allah really wants us. And it's
not difficult once you
I think the only
the only well one of the most effective examples of that is the
story of Leila and Vishnu and Romeo and Juliet or if you love
someone you can't have everything associated that it just remind you
of them.
You see some shoes that Oh, that's it you don't wanna you don't care
about the shoes you care about who they belong to. That's what it's
going to remind you.
You see a book you see a writing you see a name that resembles
immediately a mind goes to that person and you look at no it's not
that it's just the resembling name.
That's how Allah wants us to think of him to be our because well
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believe believe they are most ardent in their love for Allah.
Ya Allah, Allah make this easy for us.
You love us and allow us to love you remove these fetters from us.
See what it is, is that this suspicion that something else can
do something for you, is so strong, that if you grade people
into three levels, the awam general people general Muslim,
then the house, which means people who are supposed to be more
learned and knowledgeable. Then you've got Havasu house, the elect
of the elect. That's the true Siddiqui in an earlier and of
course, the prophets. So this worm is so strong, this suspicion, this
idea of connection with other things, plagues both of the first
two categories,
even the electrons, because it's a whole exercise to get rid of it.
It's only those at the top, who may Allah make us of those who
don't have this problem? Because they are so besides everything,
they will interact with you, they will feed you, they will host you,
they will ask you even for assistance, but they know
everything is coming from Allah subhanaw taala
is not like that person. Or I remember once a discussion with
somebody, he wanted something from me or you or something like that,
or somebody else. And he said, I know you can't do anything, it's
from Allah.
So I'm not going to give you the Thanks. That's absurd. That's not
the way this is supposed to be.
You know, that's like saying, in Ramadan, we're told to say that if
somebody argues it to say that, I'm fasting, right? That is to
show that we're fasting we shouldn't do this in a positive
sense. So it was one person I'm fasting I'm fasting was like it
was done in a way to put the other person down. Or when Allah says in
the Quran, that when you come across foolish, foolish people
then just say Salaam. So the idea isn't to say Salaam in this like
weird voice to kind of tell them that you're that person of the
Quran, who you're supposed to just deal with the inner escape through
from it, just dissolve it and just carry on so that you don't get
involved is not to put them down with that, because that in itself
creates a problem.
Subhanallah How complicated is life? And you know, what's the
most interesting thing there's a sheikh who said wala Hema hijo
Vanessa and ilaha illallah wa Muammar Imran, either Miyun Well,
WA more or Morona either Miyun la Hachiko Tada that this worm this
suspicion is so powerful, right? There's nothing else that
veils people from Allah except suspicion. And yet, what is
suspicion?
Suspicion is a non existent matter. There's no reality where
it does not exist in a tangible form. It doesn't exist. There's no
reality to it.
Subhanallah Can you believe that something we know reality, yet it
makes it seem so real, that it actually takes you away from the
real one. So the lowest category, the general laity, they will never
think about Allah, though they believe in him, but they will
hardly ever think about Allah throughout the day, a day will
pass and they've never thought about Allah.
You know, maybe even in their prayer.
Allah did not feature.
Things were happening in their life, but they never thought about
Allah. They were receiving gifts or they were getting bonuses or
they had good food or they had another good form of joy but they
never said thanks to Allah.
They had trouble and they never thought about Allah. There was no
concept of somebody who was just entire focus on how to relieve it
from from a worldly perspective.
Just no idea whatsoever.
That's the our,
the house, they do think about Allah. Now this is really
interesting. These are people who've done vicar and so on. And
when they start doing vicar, there's certain things that you
start experiencing certain feelings of joy.
Certain maybe unveilings certain realizations,
they are not alive.
They're just things on the path that you do certain things and
something happens to you. Right? You start understanding things. So
you get so excited about that. That now that becomes your focus.
That was just another thing that's happening on the way you still
remember Allah is still beyond
that's what I mean by house.
Both of these people are led by one.
That's why we need to seek protection from that and we need
to get higher and higher because there's obviously grades in
between. So if we're at a very low grade, we need to get higher up
and hopefully we can read reach the real sense before we die. May
Allah subhanaw taala make this easy. May Allah subhanho wa Taala
accept from us and may
Allah bless these people who've made this so clear to us and I
hope that after today this is put things in a perspective for us.
And above all that it just doesn't remain just the perspective but it
becomes a reality. So this is how Sheikh Abdullah can go, you know,
concludes it summarizes this idea he says
the words of even auto allawah Nothing leads you like suspicion
marcada cache one myth Lulu, me. This assertion is the proof of the
previous aphorism. Nothing is as effective, effective, effective,
as suspicion for imprisoning man in greed and desire. As a result
of suspicion, men become so ensnared in the net of desire, one
imagines or suspects that a certain person or a certain thing
will be of benefit to one. One therefore turns the gaze of desire
to them, expecting benefit from them, or one imagines a particular
trade, profession or occupation to be beneficial for one. Greed then
induces one to become involved obsessively in that pursuit. All
the chains of relationship that are then fettering man's legs are
then the products of man's imagination or suspicion.
In some cases, you could see this, other people see very clearly that
that's what it is.
But they can't see themselves. There's some people who are just
involved in nobodies often but they think everybody's after them.
Subhanallah they think somebody hates them, but the person doesn't
need them. You know that other people around you can see that,
but they can't see that. What a punishment. What a punishment.
spoke to somebody recently, he says he doesn't trust anybody.
He's got some medical condition doesn't even trust the doctors
says everybody's a liar. Everybody I've dealt with is a liar. So I
respond to trying to help him from the Hadith perspective. He says
that if you think everybody's destroyed, then you're almost
destroyed of them, because of your perspective of just, you know,
just misunderstanding everybody. So I said, Look, if you might, the
analogy was that if you think everybody's a liar, then that
means humans are liars. That means it's a trait within them that you
can't escape because your maybe your level of what you consider
lying or not, is skewed. That means, according to the Hadith,
and you must be the biggest liar.
SubhanAllah. So,
but obviously, that didn't go down very well. said, how can you judge
me? I said, I'm not judging you. I'm just giving you an analogy.
Based on the Hadith the Prophet SAW, some does not want us to
paint everybody with the same brush. Yes, there are lies in the
world. But you can't then say, I can't trust anybody anymore in my
life ever, ever.
Because that means that means actually, that Allah has messed up
this world to such a degree that there's nobody left anymore that
you can trust anymore. Yes, there's going to be a problem with
Amana. Right? of honesty, there is a problem with that. And the
Hadith mentions that, but it's been there's nobody. And then he
said, Why are you talking like a psychologist? You're not, you're
not you're not a psych psychiatrist. I said, I'm not I'm
literally I'm a human being. We've lived in this world for more than
40 years, I've had this experience. And I'm telling you,
based on what I understand, do you have to be a doctor or a
psychologist to be able to mention aspects of psychology that you've
experienced in your life? We're not claiming to be psychologists,
but there are there is just common psychology. There's common logic,
you don't have to be a logician to use logic.
Right? You don't have to be a doctor to know that certain
things, you know, will maybe remove your cold.
But the interesting thing was that I said, you know, because I'm
trying to I feel for this brother because I, I know him. But it's
just
it's a psychological problem.
I said, but you don't even trust medical professionals. So who
cares whether I am one or not, it doesn't make a difference. Because
all the psycho he's saying he doesn't trust any of them.
Now, okay, there may have been one or two problematic, but if
everybody's a problem now, you're you're stopping yourself from
being helped and assisted. So really bad place to be, but
it's like, how do you how does the individual understand I wish I
could help.
Anyway, so then he finishes off he says, all the chains of
relationship that are fatter fettering man's legs are the
products of man's own imagination or suspicion, it is only the
divine power through the means of the righteous which can free men
from these chains.
You see that this is something I missed seeing but he's reminded us
that one of the ways to learn this is to be in the company of people
who have that connection with Allah. I find that to be the most
useful way because otherwise, it's a theory that you're trying to put
into practice yourself. But when you see and you're with someone
who has that and you see them react in different situations,
When they call out to Allah where we would not we learn, okay,
that's the way, you know, that's the way to do it. Like you've
never had the strength to pray in a public place like in a concealed
public place, you've seen somebody do it, because a human, another
human has done it and they got away with the image, you can do
the same thing. Right. So that's why being trying to be in the
company of a sheikh, you know, having a relationship, being able
to be with them. That the idea is that they teach you how to put
these things in practice, because you see them putting them into
practice. That's why the true Sheikh is the one who puts these
things into practice.
The ego inclines greatly to imagination and suspicion, and
remains very Frey very, very far from the highest spiritual
realities. As long as the ego has not been purified. The elimination
of this disease is difficult is difficult. So
that's how we round that's how we finish this discussion. But as I
said, right in the beginning that another way to read this, which we
didn't have time to expound, but I think I may have done so in
another lecture sometime before is that just your suspicion about
certain things, causes you to hate that and that because that, again,
is a similar, he's obviously taken it from the Gnosis perspective,
but purely from a worldly interaction perspective as well.
Suspicion is one of the worst things that can drive you to make
you hate somebody to make you love somebody for the wrong reason,
right? It's just suspicion. May Allah protect us from suspicion? I
could read that one. I mean, hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Aloha
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Sayidina Muhammad Ryder early you say you didn't know Mohammed you
are vertical selenia Allah, we sit here today in this house of yours.
We ask you We beseech you we employ you of Allah, O Allah.
In desperation, we ask you for your assistance. We ask you for
your arm and your mercy. We ask You for Your forgiveness and your
MACURA Oh Allah we ask you for your special attention of Allah we
ask You for Your Inaya of Allah we ask you, to assist us and to guide
us and to protect us of Allah. So longer life we have lived our law
according others our Lord, oh Allah without calling them out.
We've called them our Lord while
we should have known better of Allah.
We have not called them Lord by word of Allah but in action. We
have demonstrated that we have hopes in them we have fears from
them. Oh Allah, we ask that you make us independent of all besides
you of Allah that you suffices with the halal away from the
haram. You forgive us our wrongdoings, you forgive us, our
sins, our vices, our defects, those things that are preventing
preventing us from being close to you that are bringing darkness in
our lives that are spoiling our relationships. That is disturbing
the peace of our homes and our hearts. That is bringing about
turbulence in our lives. In our thoughts of Allah remove these
problems, remove these fetters remove these obstacles, Oh Allah,
we think of these things as good things for us. But Allah, all of
these things around us of Allah, we have to interact with them. But
Allah allow us to remember you at all times make us of those who
remember you abundantly and who thank you and our gratitude, have
gratitude towards you with abundance of Allah bless these
authors, these scholars and our mache can those we have learned
from those who we have benefited from and those we have, we are
still benefiting from our law makers. Also people have benefits
of Allah also accept us for some service of your deen of Allah.
Make us the leaders of the guided ones of Allah make us forces for
good in this world. protect us from being forces of evil of Allah
protect us from submitting to evil, from being convinced by evil
from
inclining towards evil. Oh Allah inclines us to the truth of Allah
make us slaves of the truth, the true and make us slaves of view of
Allah Allah. Remove the facade from our eyes from our hearts and
allow us to see things and the truth as the truth and allow us to
follow it and see the wrong as the wrong and allow us to abstain from
it. Oh, Allah removed this persecution around the world of
innocent people. Oh Allah, remove the aggression, remove the
aggressors, our law, teach them a lesson of Allah, grant them
understanding of Allah We ask that you allow us to serve in whatever
way is beneficial for us to serve. Oh Allah you have knowledge
of everything and we know nothing. You know the future, and we don't
know what is going to happen to us, oh Allah does this, decree the
best for us of Allah decree the best for us. And Allah allow us to
be satisfied with your decree of Allah bring in our progeny, those
that we will be glad with, both in this world and in the hereafter.
Our law removed the problems that spouses may be having with one
another, oh Allah and grant their love and affection and
understanding and mutual mutual affection, so that we can build
better communities by having better families of Allah, we ask
you to accept our dua we ask you to to allow us to complete
whatever permissible needs that we have, and allow us to be useful
and profitable people in this world and to leave a positive
legacy Subhan Allah big Rob Bella is that Jana Yasunaga Salam Ananda
more serene or hamdulillah