Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Muhasibis Risalah Part 44 How to Maintain a Clear Heart
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The speakers discuss the importance of finding out who is in a situation and finding the right way to respond. They stress the importance of finding out who is concerned about others and avoiding negative thoughts. They also discuss the importance of self-worth and language in religion, and stress the need for deification and humility in religion to achieve goals. They also stress the importance of love and deification in religion to achieve goals and stress the need for deification and humility in religion to achieve goals.
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A lot of the time when we were confronted with a dilemma, what do
we think? How should they respond? What is the best response? When
sometimes, you know, somebody might think, how would my mom want
me to respond? How would my father want me to respond? But how many
of us think How does Allah want me to respond? And it's a very, very
powerful factor once you are able to do that, but you have to be
able to think at that point in time before you send a response.
Before you respond that What is Allah want me to do here?
All the time. I you know, the last time it happened, I apologized.
The prophesies on did say that the person who starts off the salam
who tries to reconcile who drops an argument is the better of the
two.
That's the Hadith that that's what we get from the Hadith. So that's
where I'm going to do it. She don't say no, but you're always
apologizing. Let them apologize one day, you're spoiling them.
Maybe you are, I don't know. In some cases you might be so don't
spoil them. You know, you do have you can give a response once. But
can you see how it's such a powerful factor is such a
selfless, it allows a person to think higher than oneself. If both
spouses can start doing that, then it's beautiful.
And you can tell them this is the reason I'm doing this. I'm doing
this for the sake of Allah.
Right, not in an argumentative tone, but saying, Look, this is
what I'm going to do because this is what Allah wants. That's how
you teach somebody else to do the same thing.
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salatu salam ala so you can know Muhammad? Why are the early he was
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carries on with his
advices
the last time we discussed the
benefits of knowledge and Taqwa
and abandoning excess
thoughts and ideas and things that are beyond our needs was the best
thing to remove any kind of confusions in the mind. And wala
Anwar the next part he says wala Anwar al Calvi means salah, and
that is solder.
There is nothing more illuminating.
For the heart
than a you can say, a clear heart. What that means is that just clear
the heart from all forms of
undue griefs, and concerns and
inquiries, curiosities.
And that will allow them to be less occupied by mundane pursuits.
So if I, it's absolutely true, when you start a new project or
something, you need to learn about the project.
And you need to make decisions you need to find out about things,
these are essential things, let's just say you need to do a repair
in your house, or buy a new car or something.
You because of the choices which are out there right now. You're
you're forced to make a decision before we knew you needed
something, and there was only one product available. And that may
you need. So that was it, there was no thinking you just need to
go and get the right size. And alas, it was done. But now, in
nearly everything. There is the absolute basic, there's the okay,
there's the better, and then there's the best. And then what's
confusing is that it's not labeled like that either.
It's
you'll get things that is that are made in an inferior quality, but
they call it themselves heavy duty,
professional and adds a huge amount of confusion. So how do you
get something because you don't want to have to keep getting
things a little break. Pricing is a factor. And so it just causes a
huge amount of concern. And it's a I don't know if what the benefit
of the time is spent in doing that. Now that's actually for a
need. You're trying to get a need. You're trying to fulfill a need
here
where there's no need and you're just getting involved in other
people's affairs, then that's even worse.
So just interested in finding out what people are doing and where
they are, why they doing something.
How they did something where they're going, what are they
buying? What's the issue with them? Why aren't they coming?
Subhan Allah absolutely got nothing to do with it. There's no
ultimate objective with any of this except just the appetite,
maybe even addiction to know the obsession with knowing something.
Imagine how much of that is going to be filled in the mind. And that
occupies the mind our mind, obviously,
is limited in terms of how much it can think. So if we're occupying
our minds with just mundane ideas like that, then how does it have a
chance to focus in prayer?
Because if our mind is occupied with thoughts, then even in namaz,
even in solid, which is where the shaytaan comes with even a higher
attack, he wants to remind us of things. And if we're in, he's
gonna remind us of interesting things, because things that
interest us things that occupy us, right? Because he knows us. He
knows what gets us going. So he's going to remind us of things like
that. So you're praying in salaat, and
you're standing, maybe even in the masjid.
And you're going to see somebody and then you're going to start
thinking about them. So that's why you've got the Hadith of the
Sahaba, where the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam just made a
statement is that there's going to be a person who's going to come in
right now. And Allah loves him and he loves Allah and His messenger.
So everybody's wondering who is this person? And then suddenly
this nondescript individual, not very well known, he comes in.
So I think it's Abdullah live now Mr. Abdullah Amara, they are one
of the two takes an interest in that to find out what his secrets
is. Why is he beloved by Allah subhanaw taala? And why does he
love Allah, so he decides to go and stay with him for a few days,
he invites himself into his house, like, I need to stay somewhere.
And so he stays with everything seemed doing much extra except his
obligations. And sometimes we had an income, so much extra that he
thought he was going to do some huge amount of additional
devotions. So after about two, three days, he decides a bit
dejected, like, what was so special. So he then finally just
asked him that didn't really have a problem at home, I just wanted
to find out because this is a statement of the roof said, a low
summon. So the person couldn't even think for himself as to what
was so special about himself.
But then he did remark, he says that, at the end of the day, I
clear my mind of everything.
I clear my mind of any of these vain pursuits, these vain concerns
about others that don't, that don't relate to me.
And you know, when you start doing that, you have so much more time
for useful things, otherwise, you just get so bogged down in your
mind is fatigue, it's mental fatigue, brain fog, I don't know,
whatever you want to call it, we don't have the capacity. This is
not human capacity to worry about that, yes, if you want to worry
about everybody's affairs, then get yourself elected to be the
prime minister, then that becomes your responsibility. Right, or the
counselor or the governor, whatever it is, you know, in some
some level of authority, then that is your concern, you will be
rewarded for it, you'll be maybe even be paid for it, you'll be
rewarded for it, it's your task, you it's your obligation
afterwards to to concern yourself, to travel at night, and to find
out what's going on and whether people need anything if there's
any media ones, or whatever, you know. And of course, if you even
if you're not in a point,
even if you're not in a place of authority, you can still do that
for the right purpose of trying to find out not for the sake of
curiosity, but to actually try to find out if somebody needs
something. I see that guy he's
seems like he's a bit dejected in trouble. Let's go and find out how
I can help him. And then to actually have some constructive
ideas of assisting somebody. I think if somebody really, you
know, because there's people who just have this predisposed
disposition to do that, they're addicted to this stuff. So I'm
giving you a way that if you are addicted to this kind of stuff
that do it for the right reason. And don't spread people don't do
it for gossip, don't do it just so that you
you are increasing your, your deposit your your balance of juicy
things that you can speak about at your next meeting with somebody.
Right? Do it for the sake of finding out there's always a good
thing. Allah subhanaw taala has made me so many things. You can
take it in the wrong way or the right way. Many criminals they,
they are very smart. They could have had PhDs, they're very smart
criminals. You know, they know how to run a whole scam. They're very
intelligent, they could have had PhDs. There's many other people
who know a lot of information about us, they could have been a
half of the Quran. They've remembered so much about
everybody's affair, they'll tell you the histories of everybody in
the area for the last 2030 years. Everything. I mean, there could
have been a half as of the Quran, but or even Hadith, but it's just
used in the wrong way. So here I'm trying to give you a call that if
that you are like that you got a quality just use it in the right
way instead of the wrong way. Right. So that's what he's saying.
It's just I've not seen it.
says anything more illuminating for the heart than a safe heart, a
Salah to solder keep it Salim keep it safe and secure from all of
these bad thoughts, confusing ideas, unnecessary notions, and so
on. And then some vicar will really benefit when we then do
vicar because we've got no other concerns like that. That's in the
best heart. I, we were just visiting one of my classmates from
when we graduated. I see him once in a while. Like he doesn't have
any children. And he has a schedule. Right? He doesn't he's
not he doesn't. He doesn't. He's not concerned about any buddy else
in the sense that he just sticks to himself. He does his four or
five hour shift in the morning, at some in some store, comes back
home rest for a while. teaches in the afternoon sleeps early wakes
up at half past three does his The 100 does his Quran reading goes to
work, regular schedule, no concern in the world.
Right, no concern about you know, no unnecessary concern about
anybody else. Subhanallah what a what a safe life he has. Now if
you don't like if you think that's boring, that's fine, but then just
use your whatever Allah has given you, or whatever you think you
have used it for the good instead of the bad, just don't do useful,
useless things is going to be very difficult for some people to avoid
that. But you will have a much more illuminated heart.
Then he says
what we're yet to cover all metal mini Taqwa. I've seen the honor of
the believer in his Taqwa.
In his god fairness, if somebody is God fearing that's when the
person is going to become ennobled. Because in a chroma
Komenda law he at Koco This is from the Quran, that the most
noble among you, is the one who is most God conscious God
consciousness means that whenever you do anything, you do it for the
sake of Allah subhanaw taala by recognizing Allah's presence that
he is there. So it's supposed to be a protective aspect. And it's
supposed to be an incentivizing notion as well. Incentivizing in
the sense that this is what Allah wants me to do, I see somebody in
trouble.
So I need to go and try to assist and help and be of guidance. Or I
see that this is bad for me to do. So I should avoid that because
Allah doesn't want me to think that way. Allah doesn't want me to
get involved. Allah subhanaw taala doesn't want me to do that. Taqwa
is literally. The only way you can have Taqwa is the more we
understand the law and the more we develop a relationship with Him,
then we don't want to upset him.
And we want to make him happy. So then we're going to do what we
think that he likes and he wants from us. That's Taqwa. That's why
he said that and any person who does that other people will notice
that on them that this person is because when you have duck or real
Taqwa you become selfless. Because this is not for selfish reasons
you will do that. Give me an example of a husband and wife
relationship. The three verses that are reciting the hotbar about
Taqwa. And I used to always wonder why about taqwa, but Taqwa is the
secret ingredients to keep them together. Because it removes
selfishness. person becomes selfless, because they're thinking
that okay, she's done that to me, or he's done that to me. How do I
respond? How do I respond? What does allow? How does Allah want me
to respond?
A lot of the time when we were confronted with a dilemma, what do
we think? How should they respond? What is the best response? When
sometimes, you know, somebody might think how would my mum want
me to respond? How would my father want me to respond? But how many
of us think How does Allah want me to respond? And it's a very, very
powerful factor once you are able to do that. But you have to be
able to think at that point in time before you send the response.
Before you respond that What does Allah want me to do here?
All the time. I you know, the last time it happened, I apologized.
The Prophet saw some did say that the person who starts off the
salam who tries to reconcile who drops an argument is the better of
the two.
That's the Hadith that that's what we get from the Hadith. So that's
where I'm going to do it. She doesn't say no, but you're always
apologizing. Let them apologize one day, you're spoiling them.
Maybe you are, I don't know. In some cases you might be so don't
spoil them. You know, you do have you can give a response once. But
can you see how it's such a powerful factor is such a
selfless, it allows the person to think higher than oneself. If both
spouses can start doing that, then it's beautiful.
And you can tell them this is the reason I'm doing this. I'm doing
this for the sake of Allah
Not in an argumentative tone, but saying, Look, this is what I'm
going to do, because this is what Allah wants. That's how you teach
somebody else to do the same thing.
So it's extremely liberating string extremely powerful, and you
get reward for doing so. Because for Allah and then eventually,
when people see that there's a selflessness that this person
believes in the truth. And what is arrogance, by the way, you know,
the famous Hadith where the Prophet sallallahu Sallam talked
about the evil of arrogance and showing off, so a person came in,
he said,
You know, there's some people who like, everything about them to be
the best. Best means very good. I said, Even the way the straps are
of their sandal, they like them to be really good.
Is that arrogance said no, that's not arrogance.
That's just Allah's Nerima on that the person is expressing arrogance
is bilateral hoc wantonness. Is to repel the truth, not accept the
truth when you see it, because it then will put me down if I show
that I'm
wrong.
There is no taco day, can you see there's no taco day? Because
you're not thought what would Allah think I'm thinking what i
What's going to become of me.
And people will see that people will see that, how one of the most
telling features of somebody is when they got something wrong, and
how they deal with the wrong how they deal with it, when they
corrected that just really tells you what a person is. Like, if
something has been pointed out, they've been corrected, how do you
deal with it? Like, for example, if I say something in a talk, and
somebody comes up after me and said, shake, you said this, and
this, and I realized that, how do I deal with that? Should I become
defensive and say and say, Oh, but I thought it was this, and I was
looking at it this way. And that, and I could do that. And that will
really disappoint you. Right? And the other way for me to say is
JazakAllah. That's a really good idea. You know, I appreciate that.
Yes, you're right. You're right. It is that way. You are absolutely
right, that that is that way. Do I become any lesser? When I say
that? I'll probably increase in Kurama. In honor. Right? Then if I
become defensive, why do I become defensive? Because I'm trying to
protect my honor. But I'm not getting any I'm actually becoming
dishonorable by actually being defensive.
And rather, if I accept my mistake,
you know, then I think that's going to give me more honor. And
that's exactly what it is. And why should I do that? Because that's
the truth.
So I think people have just got it wrong.
You know, just this self interest, self love. It's blinding us.
I mean, it is it's difficult if you're not self if we're not
selfless by nature. Right? If Allah has created a self assembly,
that very selfless, they just willing to, they actually have no
selfishness in them or not much. It's easy for them. They have
other challenges, right? They become a bit too selfless. They
have other challenges. Everybody has a challenge. That's why it
needs to only be tempered by Taqwa.
I hope that's I hope that's useful. I think that that's really
really useful to know this, that you're gonna have honor from Allah
subhanaw taala, you're gonna have honor. And if Allah gives honor to
somebody, then people will honor that person. Because Allah lets it
be spread. I mean, why would Allah honor somebody and nobody else
understand? Well, maybe that might be a possibility. Then he says,
we're, we're here to kuramathi Mommy in taqwa, Helena. Who Sabra
and I found
you see in our Sharia one of the praiseworthy traits is to be
forbearing school Help me Help me is a very powerful word in Arabic.
Helene Halima?
Right the prophets of Allah sons wetness was called Halima Sadia.
Help means forbearance. Calculated patience, I would say, right,
considered well considered patients, not naivety. Not being
gullible. But
being patient, not reacting without thoughts. Not being hasty.
All of this is hidden. They call it forbearance. They call it
clemency. But it's a form of patience, that you don't react to
everything. You can't fight every battle.
Everybody that maybe drives a bit weird on the road and effects you
you can't have a fight with everybody. You're probably never
going to see that guy again.
Today, I was getting off the roundabout on
To the exits, it's my lane and as the guy in another one, and he
sees me coming, and he still pushes in, causing me to break
habits. So now you feel like I need to teach him a lesson. So he
doesn't do it again.
You know, because if they keep doing that one day, they're gonna
cause a problem, right? Because it's a risk you take.
And I'd already beat because when I saw him kind of like, Do you
know what you're doing? Like, I've already beat and then after a, he
just put his two lights on and carried on. He said, Sorry, you
know, but I thought it was still very pushy. So I thought, like
kind of never going to see this guy again, shall is learn to
listen, because you do learn a lesson. If you try something like
that, and somebody beeps at you. It doesn't make you think unless
you're just very belligerent you don't care, then then you'll
probably start swearing, if you did try to tell him anything
anyway, you can't fight every battle, can you? Again, that's
just like going to be occupied with that I might end up doing
something else on the road, if I try to kind of go by with, you
know,
other people, they make other signs, you know, when when you cut
them off, or something like that. So Subhanallah you can't fight
every battle in this world.
You know, you have to choose your battles that is called *. The
more patient you are the process of amazingly Haleem when it came
to his personal self, right? That doesn't mean you'd be naive or
whatever. But it's just this very dignified patience, dignified
perseverance, dignified self control. That's what health means.
So he says that that's what I found. If you want to be Haleem
you have to start with patients because he is patience. It's a
it's a special form of patience is what you reach when you're patient
in the right way, in the right places.
And you know how to pick your battles. And then he says, What
are color who the Jim moolah who
and I've seen intelligence in them trying to sorry, I've seen, I've
observed and I know that if somebody wants to be considered
intelligent, that they seek to beautify themselves, when you seek
to beautify yourself, you need intelligence to put that into
action. And this is not just shallow beauty of the exterior by
getting nicer clothing, or a nicer grooming, right to show yourself
as being some kind of suave individual. You know, this is more
about beauty in character and everything about is Jamil and
Allah loves Jamal, Allah is Jimmy and he loves Jamal. Allah is
beautiful. And he likes beauty. Allah is elegant and he likes
elegance. This is a religiously motivated elegance. This is not an
elegance
of the model type. You know, the hero type this is this is a
spiritual elegance. Right? This is a spiritual elegance.
And he says I've seen that if somebody wants to become beloved,
and be a recipient of love, and a giver of love, a loving individual
which is a big part of our deen because Allah subhanaw taala is
where dude, Allah is the most loving
and love is a very important aspect of our deen. So what my
what data who
digests who the who, what are for whom,
if he wants to develop this love, because love is an important part
of our faith, love for Allah love for His Messenger love for the
creation of Allah, because they are the creation of Allah. not
selfish. Love, again is selfless love for the sake of Allah is the
user who are for whom, which is his pardoning
and his forgiveness, overlooking something in a calculated way, in
an elegant way and in a noble way, not because you can't do anything
anyway, or not in a gullible way, that you let them people walk all
over you, but in a way, that is extremely befitting an honorable,
a dignified way of the jail was an apple, which is padding somebody
again, don't try to fight every battle. You don't need to be part
of it. You don't need to risk you don't need to respond to
everything, especially if it's of no benefits. So the jail was the
whoever who
was shut off for who the WHA hoo, what if God, a lot of these are
related.
So he's saying and for a person to be considered humble, because you
know, he's going on the understanding that people already
know that the prophets Allah Salama has mentioned, the
the virtues of love and intelligence and people no
intelligence is a good thing and honor. So the best way to become a
to have honor and
was shut off or who? The one who, if you want to be, have shut off
it. This is a praiseworthy honor a praiseworthy, dignified state. So
some people can be dignified because of their material wealth
that people are in all of them for that reason.
That is a material wealth. Then there are some people who don't
maybe have enough material they may have but the honor there is
for a different reason is because of the
the merits that they possess. So he's saying that if that's what
you want, then you're gonna get that through two things the Waldo
humility and risk which means gentleness, humility and
gentleness. If somebody has that they'll avoid a lot of said it's
all related to the big idea at the top. So they
humility.
I said Humility is the opposite of arrogance, which we spoke about
earlier, which is to not accept the truth. And that was a
wantonness Botterill. How can I help the nurse buttock means to
repel the truth? And stay on your fault? So even though you you see
it, you notice it. And the other one is home to nurse, which means
to belittle people to think people as lowly?
How would you get away with that, when you know that there's
somebody who is lesser than you in some, they have less money than
you?
Or they have less knowledge than you? They have less expertise than
you then what do you do with that?
Is that belittling somebody?
Because, I mean, it's a fact. Right? It's a fact like,
somebody's come to study with us, it was obvious they have less
knowledge does that is that belittling somebody? No. Believing
somebody is when you think you're more superior in the sight of
Allah, if somebody could recognize that they've got more of something
than others, but that does not make them a superior individual,
not even a superior human being.
Right? Because it all matters as to how we're going to go from this
world, and what ultimately happens in the next world. So that's the
real test of it. So that's why if you hear somebody saying, think of
yourself as low as possible, and you're like, how do I do that when
I know I've got some qualities that are better than others, but
it's in the sight of Allah. Because we don't really know until
we die. And then once we're dead, then who you're gonna, you know,
where you're gonna give the argument. It's too late then. So
it's in this world. Sometimes I go into the masjid and I see some
people who I don't see as practicing in terms of them, maybe
the external, but they were always in the first stuff of the Masjid.
They all lay all five prayers. And I'm like, This guy is much better
than me even though I probably got more knowledge than him. Right? I
teach Bohai he probably just reads Quran doesn't know Arabic. But I
think he's better than me because he's got something Subhanallah
that I would love to have that to be able to do that in the
diligence that he has to do. So compare yourself in that sense, it
just makes it easier, I wish we can do that for everything we do.
So Allah subhanaw taala bless the author for giving us this advice
and Allah allow us to be recipients of this advice in a way
that we are able to bring them into action. And we benefit
ourselves and hopefully we can be accepted by Allah subhanaw taala
and Big B hon human beings in the true sense of Donna working with
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your generosity from your blessings from your mercy, from
your forgiveness, grant us forgiveness purify us Oh ALLAH
cleanse us of Allah forgive us. Our Allah protect us of Allah
grant us beneficial knowledge of Allah grant us the ability to
serve your deen of Allah grant us the ability to understand
ourselves
Allah and to eradicate our faces, our wrongs, our indulgences, our
excesses of Allah, our shortcomings. Oh Allah our
transgressions. Yeah Allah forgive us for our heedlessness for our
negligence for our distractions. Oh Allah for our wrong obsessions
are Allah imbibe in us the praiseworthy traits are Allah what
we discussed today or Allah grant us the ability to imbibe ourselves
with the best of character, to be enabled in your sight of Allah to
be truly ennobled and of Allah to gain the best of character and to
avoid the blameworthy traits and problem, problematic character,
allow us to avoid that which does not concern us. Oh Allah allow us
not to be naive not to be gullible not to be obsessive about the
wrong things, or Allah grant us the ability to work for a higher
motive of Allah to focus on the next world as well. And oh Allah
to focus on investing and building for the next world of Allah accept
us coming together, gather here today. Oh Allah, Allah, grant us
blessing and Baraka in our needs, in our chores in what we need to
do and allow them to be completed. Allah protects us from the harms
which are out there from the difficulties and the fitness and
the problems in our life. Accept us all. For the service of your
deen of Allah send you an abundant blessings in our messenger
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and run this company in the
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