Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Maymuna Bint Harith, Wife of the Prophet ()
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He shouted the Allahu Anhu used to praise and praise coming from a co
wife is very, very valuable. She actually said that in her cabinet
at Cana Lilla whoa sollen olive rhyme, which means that she was
one of the most God fearing among us, one of the most God conscious
among us. And she was also one of those who are most particular
about tying the knots of kinship, like keeping, you know, with the
relatives, it's a very, very important thing. And I said, we
just spoke about that in the beginning that that's being lost
today. Right? There's people who have not met their aunties for
years, or their uncles for a long time. So hon Allah, it's really
strange.
Bismillah R Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu
salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa Baraka was
seldom at the Sleeman coffee or on Eli Iommi, Dean on a band called
Allahu Taala for the Quran emoji they will for carnal Hamid one
minute on in what habit NAFSA Herlin be in Aradhana bu estan que
ha ha Holly sata lecom Indonesia meaning. So the Kola hula alim.
So dear sisters, As Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
We are going to cover today, one of the blessed wives of Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa salam, to learn a bit more about her.
And there's a reason to learn about the wives of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one of the wisdoms of how having multiple
wives so the prophets of Allah Islam was that they were then able
to relate. The various different internal happenings of the
province are the lessons of life and his home and his household, to
the Ummah so that they could benefit from it. Because the
Brahma sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as a man, he would discuss a
number of things to the men and of course, he would discuss things
for women as well. But what you would get from a woman would be
different and the best representatives of that the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam zodat, which is very, very
important for us to understand their lives as well. They were
specially chosen.
And that is why it's important for us to learn about them as well.
So today, we're going to speak about Mamoon out of the Allahu
anha Mamoon out of the Allahu anha is the last of the waves that the
Prophet saw some married, so she's the last of the Ummah had remote
meaning in that sense,
her name wasn't originally Maimana that's the name The Promise of
Allah some gave her her name was Barbara.
And Barbara means the obedient one, or the it's like a self
righteousness, a name that usually denotes self righteousness, same
thing they say was about God or the Allahu anha. And he was Barasa
the prophet of arson. Change that
to say, don't consider yourself to be a don't purify yourself. So
Mamoon has a good name. Maimunah is a good name, refers to good
fortune, and so on. So she's from she's originally from from her
father's side, she's from the Quraysh tribe as well.
Her father's name is Harry. So call me Mona been till Hadith, if
no hasn and then and then it goes on. Her mother is from the Himba
tribe.
And so she's from above the Quraysh tribe and the hiMirror
tribe.
And her mother in her mother's name was hen. So that name seemed
to be quite a popular name at that time, hen Binti Aoife
Ebenezer hated the Hadith.
And that goes on. may well not have the Allahu anha was, had had
two husbands before the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam.
She was first married to a person called Miss Ruth ignore amor
ignore Omega coffee Masaru Dibner omega.
For some reason they separated, there was a divorce that took
place so they separated. Then after that she got married to a
person called Abu dyrham Ibni Abdullah Rosa.
She got married to him afterwards. He died in Seminole Hijiri in the
seventh year after both of some migration Medina whenever he died,
and then after that, that's when she was ready to marry the Prophet
sallallahu sallam.
The way this happened is a really interesting story that's usually
mentioned its Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa Sena was on his way to
for ombre to Kava. Now they were unable to perform their own route
the year before because they had to break it the courage to let him
in and there was agreement that they could come the next year. So
this was his makeup. Amara, Amara Takada so some opinions say that
he actually married her in a place called serif looks like she was
from close there or that's where her sister on
We'll follow Bentyl herreth was a bursary Allah one whose wife so
she's the sister in law of the brothers blossoms uncle Ibis are
the Allahu Anhu. So when she heard about the Promise of Allah as I'm
coming for Omron, learn more about him and everything she was
obviously divorce he Anna widow in that sense from two husbands
before so she must have mentioned this to her sister her sister must
have mentioned this to Abbas the Allahu Anhu is very stories about
how exactly that happened now bacilli Allahu Anhu said to the
Prophet salallahu Salam and suggested that she's a good woman.
And so they got married.
So it says that they did the Nikka Honda way to O'Meara in a place
called setif which is just outside of mcomber Karma some miles 10
miles or so after that's where they got married.
And then after that, because remember, I busted the on this had
stayed in mcomber karma, so he was still from that area. And then
after that on the way back afterwards, and went for ombre,
and came back completely had completed his ombre and so on. And
then after that said, if that's when she was brought along one of
the one of one of his servants or slaves brought her and then that's
where they had made a tent. And that's where the conservation took
place at safe as well. So she got married and said if and then a
conservation took place there. And then Subhanallah many, many years
later, after my son had passed away, she ended up passing away
down there as well. So it's really interesting that sometimes
multiple events, a significant events in your life happen in the
same place. It says about her that she is the one that Allah subhanaw
taala says in the Quran.
In the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about those women who
have gifted themselves to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam.
The verse that I read at the beginning one or two minutes on
what habit NAFSA highly Nabhi in another Nabil as then kihavah
Holly sata lecom enduring meaning. So any woman who give themselves
would probably sell Allahu Allah He was selling it to Allah. So if
Allah's Messenger wants to marry them, he can, you know, he can
that's kind of the gist of what we're saying. So she wants where
she was quite excited when the price hasn't accepted her in
marriage. She says, I don't want anything. I don't want anything.
And so she gifted herself, but the promise of awesome gave her either
400 Durham's as a Maha or 500 Durham's as a Maha. And nowadays,
we're actually now encouraging rather than Maha fatemi, we
actually encouraging them the MaHA the dowry of the wives of the
Prophet sallallahu Sallam because that happened multiple times. And
that's pretty agreed upon in terms of the figure there. While the
MaHA have faulty model, the Allahu anha obviously happened once. And
according to one thing is the same as the MaHA as much as well, but
there's multiple opinions about that. And we're saying that you
should probably do what the Prophet salallahu Salam did,
right. There's nothing wrong with doing Marvell TV but for 20 years
or so, Marfa TV has been the kind of trend in many communities and
now it is shifting to Mahara as wedge Mahara of the wives of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now she's from a really,
really interesting family because she's got connections all over in
the sense that her sisters are married to prominent people, or
from them come really prominent people. And one of the wisdoms
they say in the promise house and marrying her is that her side of
the her tribe promises them in those days, especially nowadays,
this doesn't really work much to be honest, is sometimes not even
any respectful in laws. But in those days, in laws were very
important you married your
a woman in your family to somebody else, or a man in your family got
married to a woman, it's like the two tribes would have to really
start respecting one another, and would have to really like look
after one another almost, this was alliances in those days. And they
were very, very important. Oh, they've got our daughter now, or
we've got their daughter, we are connected. We're like brothers and
sisters, almost. I mean, it's not that close. But he used to get
really, really close. So a lot of the times that used to work for
stopping kind of enmity, stopping rivalry, there was a benefit in
that. There was also benefit in doing that in terms of just if you
wanted to dominate then you strategically got married into or
yourself or your children or your brothers or sisters or somebody
got strategically married different tribes. They're all on
your side now. So your side now dominates. Over the other side. I
don't know I don't think much of that remains is very few people
actually respect this now and would go on out for that. I mean,
it's still there to a certain degree, but in this postmodern
world, we're living with individualism and so on. And
selfish. That's pretty much it. People just care for themselves.
They don't even care for their own parents anymore. So I mean, who
cares about an inlaw anymore? You know, so, I'm not saying all the
tribes in the world were like that some tribes aren't like that, you
know, weren't like that. But I think in many cases, especially
the Arab tribes are definitely like that. The Turkic tribes are
like that. And
And a number of other places that that is exactly how it used to be.
So there was a certain benefit.
Now, she had, she had some brothers, she had some sisters
that were entirely her full brothers and full brothers and
sisters, meaning the father, their father and mother were that were
the same height if and the mother were the same.
And
some of them were just her mother's just shared in her
mother's in Mother's not in the father's so they were her half
sisters. So her full her her full sisters. One was Amal father,
whose name is Lu Baba al Cobra.
Amil father Lu Baba al Cobra Bentyl Hadith who's the wife of
Abbas Ibn Abdul Muttalib are the Allahu Anhu then she had a low
Baba Sagara so that was a tradition of the time as well that
they had the same name and called one the elder and call the other
one the younger. So you know if you really like the name Fatima,
for example, so you call the older 140 mile Cobra and the younger one
Fatima surah. I mean, it might create a bit of confusion but they
did it. So one was Lu Baba al Cobra, and the other one was Lu
Baba sobre la Baba Surah as the name was, you probably know us
asthma. Her name was Asmaa Ben Phil Harris. She's
the wife she was the wife of Walid YBNL Mahira and from that you
should figure out that that's Holly didn't really needs mother.
So she's got one nephew Abdullayev no Ambus she's got another nephew,
meaning Maimunah under the Allah has one nephews Abdullah in our
bus. The other nephew is Harley Dibner Walid for the Allahu Anhu
and she had others which you which you won't you know people don't
know they're not as well known. Then she's got other sisters who
are just her mothers
who are just share that share the mother and that's a smart been to
mace she's she's well known as smart Binti Omis she's her sister
but half sister only. She was the wife of Jaffa ABI Taalib. So
they've got a son called Abdullah iblue Jaffa it'd be toward him and
our own. That's another one of her sons. So that's two other nephews
that she had as well. Now there's a famous story that once
Abdullayev no ibis, her nephew, wanted to see how the bras arm
spends his night. So it's a famous Sahai narration that he wanted to
see how the bras also what he does at night, and what's his worship
and so on. So he asked his aunt Maimunah are they alone? Can I
come and spend the night with you guys. So he did that. And then he
explains exactly what happened was on when to sleep. And then after
that, he got up and then there was a water skin where they store
water. So he went open that he did what it will do from there. And
then I watched and then so on, and then he started his prayer. And I
joined in I was on the wrong side, he pulled me to the other side and
gives this whole description. So that was an interesting kind of
adventure of his what actually inquiry of his really, I mean, he
got the ability to do that because she was his auntie so she could do
that.
She,
as I said, she was very particular about the Sunnah. And she, you
could tell from her narration she's got a number of narrations
to her name, a number of Hadith to her name, and a number of them are
related by Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim as well.
So, in Bukhari and Muslim she has
six generations altogether Muslim has transmitted five and Imam
Buhari has transmitted one.
And
altogether this 13 Those are individually what remember only
mob Buhari has there's one that only man Buhari has this five, the
only man Muslim has But then in addition, those that they they add
as well in total that they both transmitted in total is about 13
narrations. So she used to obviously vocalize and teach
others there's a number of Sahaba who have studied with her a lot. A
lot of them were her nephews. So they managed to get a lot of
knowledge from her being with the Prophet sallallahu sallam. She was
there with the person for the last two and a half, three years
because she got married in the seventh year of hijra, so she's
obviously the last of the wives that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam married on one
occasion, one of her
servants had gone to abdulai bacilli, Allah Hans house to maybe
give something or bring something. Her name was Vidya. She went to
Abdullah Abbas of the Allahu Anhu his house and she noticed that the
bedding for the couple was separate.
So his is on one side and his wife says on the other side, so she
came back and reported this to she thought maybe they've got some
problems so she reported it to the aunt that maybe you can sort it
out or something.
like that it wasn't just gossip.
It's probably a reason for that. So in May one or the Allahu Allah
found out actually that Abdullah bacilli on thought that he had to
stay away from his wife and menstruation. She was a
misunderstanding she correctly she said the prophesy was I'm used to
sleep with us. In fact, in on another occasion, I believe not
Dustin's hair wasn't combed. This way and ways in were you in this
disheveled says Oh, my wife should not be recording my hair because
you know, she's on her menses or something. He said, we used to do
that with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam the process of in fact,
when we were in Mensa, she would actually have his head in our lap.
Right, and he would be resting there reading the Quran. And
there's nothing, there's nothing wrong with that. So she used to
correct a lot of wrongs in that regard as well.
So that's pretty much what is known about her life, because I
guess it was just the last three years and there's, the others were
for much longer, but that's what's known from them. And we've learned
of
the various different benefits that that that brought, you
shatter the Allah one I used to praise and praise coming from a co
wife is very, very valuable. She actually said that in her cabinet
at Cana, little Lilla. Well, oh sollen olive rhyme, which means
that she was one of the most God fearing among us, one of the most
God conscious among us. And she was also one of those who are most
particular about tying the knots of kinship, like keeping with the
relatives, it's a very, very important thing. As I said, we
just spoke about that in the beginning that that's being lost
today. Right? There's people who have not met their aunties for
years, or their uncles for a long time. Subhanallah it's really
strange. So there you go. We ask that Allah subhanaw taala reward
her abundantly elevate her status, and that we can learn from the
likes of her and the other as much of the Prophet salAllahu alayhi
wasallam.
She used to take, she used to take a she used to take loan sometimes
for fulfilling a certain purpose or whatever. On one occasion, she
took a really big loan. So some people were concerned that how are
you going to pay back? It's such a huge loan, what are you going to
do? She said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
that anybody who takes a loan with a firm intention to pay it back,
Allah subhanaw taala helps him.
And that's true. If you take loans, genuinely, if you need
something, and you take a loan for that. I mean, taking a loan is
difficult, it's not easy. And then some people if they get to use it,
they take a lot of loans and let everybody down. That's a problem
as well. And some people are just very, they don't want to take a
loan. But sometimes you have to, there's a need for it, if there's
an absolutely take a loan, but full intention to pay back and
Allah makes it easy to pay back. So look at the Tawakkol that she
has. So there's a number of other narrations like that. I think
there was another woman who had made a vow to Allah subhanaw taala
that
if she gets cured from some illness that she was in that she's
going to go to all the way to Baitul macness to Jerusalem to do
solid down there.
And mashallah, she became better. So I think she came to visit me
one of them before she set off, and maybe one or the other one had
told her that you don't need to go all the way down there is get more
reward of praying here in Masjid Nabawi. Pray here, so she would
give it to us as well, like that.
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