Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Is Marriage Really Half Your Faith

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also the Allahu Anhu.

He says that

Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that there's always a

fork or the stick malonis When Mr. Dean, when a person gets married,

then he has just completed half of his Deen

full yet tequila, half Innisfil bathy. Now he should be, he should

have taqwa and he should be, he should be Be careful and abstain

from the harms and so on with regards to the other, he should

have talked about with regards the other half. So here, it's almost

like saying marriage is about half of your religion. And the other

half. So you know, when you say marriage is half of your faith,

this is what this is. The hadith comes from, what does it mean?

There's a number of meanings. Essentially, one meaning is that

the promise that Allah said that whoever protects for me two

things, I guarantee him paradise. And the two things is that which

is between his legs.

And that can apply to women as well. And that which is between

his tongue,

his lips, right the tongue. So if you can be careful with what you

say, how you say it, and be careful about where you use your,

your, your private parts, then you've really taken care of it.

And because most halacha and destruction comes from these two,

spiritual destruction comes from these two, when you might say the

eyes, well, the eyes all relate to the private parts, they just

satellites for it, then you want to listen, then you want to touch

then you want to go towards that's all satellites for the private

parts. So the private parts are most important. So if you've had

marriage, you've just taken care of one half of it Subhanallah and

push it is just not something so efficient when it comes to the

tongue. Right, that can just protect you so well as marriage

generally, that's a struggle for marriage is a big thing here.

So Phil, you're talking about financial backing, he should be he

should have talked about with regards to the other half, which

means the rest, he also means the remaining aspects of your deed

generally.

The another way to look at this, that's one interpretation. Another

way to look at this is that marriage, even though it's just

one aspect of your deen, it is such an important aspect that the

brothel awesome is exaggerating, and it's important and saying it

is half of your faith.

It's so important that it's half of your faith. Everything else is

like the other half. But this is so important. Make sure you do it.

So that's another way to look at this hadith

the benefits of getting married is that it gives you a halal outlet

for your desires. It gives you

a protection from the shaytaan

right it gives you a protection from the shaytaan this hadith is

related by mamby Husky in his show I will Iman

there's another Hadith which is similar. And so the Allahu Anhu

really relates as well. He says that Manresa hula hula imra attend

Salah Hatton profit earner who Allah chakra Dini he failure

tequila for shattering belty whoever Allah subhanahu wa taala

gives a pious, righteous woman to as a spouse, then he has just

helped him Allah has just helped him on half of his faith.

So he should now be have taqwa in the other half. This gives us an

understanding that the half we're talking about is if you get a

pious spouse, if you've got married for the wrong reason is

not obviously going to be half of your faith taken care of.

So Allah says Zania to rezone and hobby to Hobby thean will hobby

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You bet. Good pure Chase men have a good pure Chase women and vice

versa. And the non Chase impure men for impure women. What that

means is not to say that if you're impure, you can't get married to a

chase woman you want to get to married to a chase woman because

you think well she's not gonna, like be tolerant or what I want to

do. We want to go out together, you know, we want to do this, that

and the other Subhanallah it means that if you're if you think you're

bad, but you want to get married to a chase woman, that inshallah

you've got goodness in you, because you're making a big

decision Subhanallah you making a big decision. So if you want to

change sometimes a good wife is good for change. However I want to

make I want to mention something else. This is if the person the

husband or sorry that the men or the woman wants to do that

themselves. It's not when the parents want to do it. We've got a

major problem in the Muslim community. You've got kids who

have been messed up, they're coming up two or three

Look at night, they're into drugs they're in, they've got a

girlfriend, they've got boyfriends, they've got many,

many. They've got all sorts of stuff going on, you know what I'm

talking about. The parents think that the solution to this is to

get them married. So they conceal everything, they make them out,

they package them, promote them, advertise them, in the best manner

possible that he is the most religious person, most religious.

She's the most religious girl in town, etc, etc. Get married to

somebody because they think that if they get married to somebody

pious is all going to be sorted out. And this guy, or this girl

just doesn't want to do it. They they're forced into it. And

sometimes it's back home as well, which is even worse, back home,

meaning it's in another country.

So that is a major deception to package your son or daughter and

show them to be something else. That kind of marriage hardly ever

last Illa unless you've got some serious dua to Allah. subhanaw

taala. Right. Seriously, don't deceive people like that. So you

kid out some other way. Yes, if the child I know a guy that I know

very well, he doesn't like to. He doesn't pray to a knowledge. He

doesn't like he doesn't pray too much. Right? It doesn't. But he

got married to a woman with niqab. I was like surprised.

But that's what he wanted. Because inside he wants to change he's

just finding it difficult. That's different.

But if the parents are doing it that's that's not what's right.

So this Hadees tells us that what we're talking about half of your

deen being sorted out is if you've got a pious, righteous wife

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