Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Is Marriage Really Half Your Faith
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The transcript describes a conversation between a speaker and a person named Phil about marriage. The conversation discusses the importance of marriage in shaping one's life and the negative impact it has on their faith. The conversation also touches on the idea of "has been a major problem in the community" and the negative impact it has on one's life.
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Bismillah
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also the Allahu Anhu.
He says that
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that there's always a
fork or the stick malonis When Mr. Dean, when a person gets married,
then he has just completed half of his Deen
full yet tequila, half Innisfil bathy. Now he should be, he should
have taqwa and he should be, he should be Be careful and abstain
from the harms and so on with regards to the other, he should
have talked about with regards the other half. So here, it's almost
like saying marriage is about half of your religion. And the other
half. So you know, when you say marriage is half of your faith,
this is what this is. The hadith comes from, what does it mean?
There's a number of meanings. Essentially, one meaning is that
the promise that Allah said that whoever protects for me two
things, I guarantee him paradise. And the two things is that which
is between his legs.
And that can apply to women as well. And that which is between
his tongue,
his lips, right the tongue. So if you can be careful with what you
say, how you say it, and be careful about where you use your,
your, your private parts, then you've really taken care of it.
And because most halacha and destruction comes from these two,
spiritual destruction comes from these two, when you might say the
eyes, well, the eyes all relate to the private parts, they just
satellites for it, then you want to listen, then you want to touch
then you want to go towards that's all satellites for the private
parts. So the private parts are most important. So if you've had
marriage, you've just taken care of one half of it Subhanallah and
push it is just not something so efficient when it comes to the
tongue. Right, that can just protect you so well as marriage
generally, that's a struggle for marriage is a big thing here.
So Phil, you're talking about financial backing, he should be he
should have talked about with regards to the other half, which
means the rest, he also means the remaining aspects of your deed
generally.
The another way to look at this, that's one interpretation. Another
way to look at this is that marriage, even though it's just
one aspect of your deen, it is such an important aspect that the
brothel awesome is exaggerating, and it's important and saying it
is half of your faith.
It's so important that it's half of your faith. Everything else is
like the other half. But this is so important. Make sure you do it.
So that's another way to look at this hadith
the benefits of getting married is that it gives you a halal outlet
for your desires. It gives you
a protection from the shaytaan
right it gives you a protection from the shaytaan this hadith is
related by mamby Husky in his show I will Iman
there's another Hadith which is similar. And so the Allahu Anhu
really relates as well. He says that Manresa hula hula imra attend
Salah Hatton profit earner who Allah chakra Dini he failure
tequila for shattering belty whoever Allah subhanahu wa taala
gives a pious, righteous woman to as a spouse, then he has just
helped him Allah has just helped him on half of his faith.
So he should now be have taqwa in the other half. This gives us an
understanding that the half we're talking about is if you get a
pious spouse, if you've got married for the wrong reason is
not obviously going to be half of your faith taken care of.
So Allah says Zania to rezone and hobby to Hobby thean will hobby
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You bet. Good pure Chase men have a good pure Chase women and vice
versa. And the non Chase impure men for impure women. What that
means is not to say that if you're impure, you can't get married to a
chase woman you want to get to married to a chase woman because
you think well she's not gonna, like be tolerant or what I want to
do. We want to go out together, you know, we want to do this, that
and the other Subhanallah it means that if you're if you think you're
bad, but you want to get married to a chase woman, that inshallah
you've got goodness in you, because you're making a big
decision Subhanallah you making a big decision. So if you want to
change sometimes a good wife is good for change. However I want to
make I want to mention something else. This is if the person the
husband or sorry that the men or the woman wants to do that
themselves. It's not when the parents want to do it. We've got a
major problem in the Muslim community. You've got kids who
have been messed up, they're coming up two or three
Look at night, they're into drugs they're in, they've got a
girlfriend, they've got boyfriends, they've got many,
many. They've got all sorts of stuff going on, you know what I'm
talking about. The parents think that the solution to this is to
get them married. So they conceal everything, they make them out,
they package them, promote them, advertise them, in the best manner
possible that he is the most religious person, most religious.
She's the most religious girl in town, etc, etc. Get married to
somebody because they think that if they get married to somebody
pious is all going to be sorted out. And this guy, or this girl
just doesn't want to do it. They they're forced into it. And
sometimes it's back home as well, which is even worse, back home,
meaning it's in another country.
So that is a major deception to package your son or daughter and
show them to be something else. That kind of marriage hardly ever
last Illa unless you've got some serious dua to Allah. subhanaw
taala. Right. Seriously, don't deceive people like that. So you
kid out some other way. Yes, if the child I know a guy that I know
very well, he doesn't like to. He doesn't pray to a knowledge. He
doesn't like he doesn't pray too much. Right? It doesn't. But he
got married to a woman with niqab. I was like surprised.
But that's what he wanted. Because inside he wants to change he's
just finding it difficult. That's different.
But if the parents are doing it that's that's not what's right.
So this Hadees tells us that what we're talking about half of your
deen being sorted out is if you've got a pious, righteous wife
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