Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Important Questions on Purification of the Heart and Tasawwuf

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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All right, what practical advice would you give to students to

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control their knifes ie not overreaching? I'm still trying,

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personally, I'm still trying to find the most effective way to do

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that myself. So

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I don't know how helpful I can be in that one. But I think the thing

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that we can do is

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stop grazing.

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What that means is, the biggest problem for eating is that if you

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just eat at lunchtime and supper time and breakfast, and eat

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healthily at that time, then you don't have to then snack in

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between and keep grazing grazing is the worst you can do. I was in

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a cheese factory recently, to see how they make cheese and

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something. And subhanAllah. What they had was

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they had a, the measurement of how much a human eats in a day and how

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much a cow choose in a day. And it was quite

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a big difference, like maybe 50 times as much as quite a

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difference. But humans are now grazing because we have things

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available. In the olden days you had, you know, the food, there

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were no snacks, there were no processed foods. There was no

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packet, you know, crisps and chocolates and snack bars. And all

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of this, this is all in the last 7080 years that this has come

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about before you had to go into a cold kitchen and try to like

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rustle up something. You know, Jenna, that's what you ate. That's

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why when you go to India, now things are different. But I

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remember when I first was studying the, in the trains, the things

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that would be on offer would be tea, and Jenna, which is

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chickpeas, right roasted in the I mean, not bananas, not Gargiulo,

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not Vista, because those things are considered more expensive. But

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nowadays, it's so easy. So I would avoid if you got a problem, I

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would avoid buying buying snacks, just try to keep it to healthy

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foods, avoid snacks, and just avoid having them around because

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having their own, it's just like you want to go and have some you

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keep opening the fridge somebody goes and keeps opening the fridge

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and looking for something. Right. So that's what you call grazing,

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we need to stop being like cows like that.

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An issue that I find with myself and many other sisters is that we

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did better with a shake. at a younger age mother's however, he

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is an inaccessible. What should a person do in this case, there is

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also a language barrier. In that case, if you've noticed that after

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many, many years, you just haven't had any benefit, or you don't

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expect to have any benefits, then try to find somebody connected to

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the same Sheikh who does have you know who you can have access to,

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and who does speak the same language. He is. And then again,

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online, there's a lot of possibility today as well. Because

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sometimes you've got somebody locally, but you may just not, you

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know, you may not be on the same wavelength, you just might want

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somebody else you just may have affinity. And someone a time when

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you say is that you have to affinity with the person,

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which means Congeniality, there has to be some level of that.

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Otherwise, you force yourself into a situation which is not

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appropriate, then it gets, it gets really complicated. You're not

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really benefiting, you're forcing yourself and that's not what you

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want. So generally what people you know, they they go to people who

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are maybe on the same intellectual level, or maybe same cultural

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level, same language. These are various different ways that these

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disinhibition make some mistakes or as well if you can, but don't

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delay. If you think you need help, don't delay in doing it, that the

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self is not necessary. It's not obligatory, like it's not a fault.

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But it is extremely useful. And it's extremely beneficial. And

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especially if you've been trying for a long time, and you haven't

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got anywhere with it, then, like I was in one place.

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And this person comes up to me after the ban.

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He's from another country. And he goes, I need to speak to you and

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you speak to you. I said, Okay, fine. He had so much urgency. And

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I was really tired. I'd done I think had just been this the third

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lecture than two days and we were going to eat and he goes he said,

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Okay, fine. This guy seems urgent. And he goes on to debate right

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now. So anyway, what happened? He says I've been I've just been

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trying to get by without it. Essentially, I've been trying to

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succeed without it. And I always fail. I've got problems, I've got

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problems, I've got issues.

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Finally, you know, he mashallah sends me an email saying that

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Hamdulillah I finally extracted myself from Facebook. And now

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because that was one of his big fitness, one of his big problems.

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So, yeah, which shakes are currently easy, I've answered that

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which currently easy accessible speaks English for girls who seek

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to do beta. Please clarify what beta entails, what they are

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entails, it depends. Different Sheoak will tell you to

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do different things. Right? What we generally say is you do six

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things very easy. You do 100 So far in the morning and and in the

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evening, and especially one a stockfeed Allah Robbie will call

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them we want to be a sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam to do

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that. So you do a six day stick for a day. Number two, sorry, you

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do 100 istikhara pneumonia and it takes a few minutes when you try

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to do it some concentration. Number two, you do

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solo out on the Prophet sallallahu Sallam Allahumma salli ala

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Sayyidina Muhammad Wilder early say that Muhammad wa barik

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wasallam which which which means which is a special Durood Sharif

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salata, neurons, Allah sent me to the 100 times in the morning 100

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times in the evening. Number three, you read some Quran

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the days that you can read Quran for the women, the days that you

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can you read some Quran, for sure. Now in this, what I would say is

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that you read at least whatever is easy for you to read every day, I

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don't want you reading one subpoena a day one just a day. And

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then the next day, you can't do that, or you don't have the time,

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read what is practically possible and then build up on that. Because

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that which is regular, a bit but regular is better than that, which

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you do. And then you don't have any state karma. We want to we

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want to life of St karma. And we want to build on that life of St

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karma. So there's no point doing lots today or tomorrow because

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somebody has, that somebody has, you know, it's inspired you and

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then after two, three days, you mess up again, that's not the

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point. The point is that you do a bit. So for example, a friend that

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I know, somebody came to him the system he's sending, you must do

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this much Quran he says I can't do I can't read Quran I can't read

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any Quran at all. I got no time whatsoever. I'm so busy.

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Finally, after a lot of puzzles, she said, Okay, I'll read one at a

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day. He says fine, read one today.

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One is fine.

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The whole act of taking a Quran down, opening it and reading one

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Iots that's a big thing.

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It is a big thing. It's a big accomplishment for many of us,

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because many of us don't even touch the Quran.

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Right? So what I would suggest is you read Quran at least one page,

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two pages, Koteswara whatever it is, but regularly,

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and you open the Quran, and you read that. So that's the third

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thing. Number four, is what we mentioned before Volkoff Calbee

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work of Kobe, which means to just constantly attentive to Allah

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subhanaw taala. Just constantly, Allah, you know, with everything,

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you just, it's like you're cooking. But if you have to look

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after a small child at the same time, you're one year is going to

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be on that, isn't it. So you're cooking, you have to focus

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otherwise, you'll burn the food and put too much salt in it or

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less masala, whatever. But at the same time you're multitasking, in

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essence, you're listening out, can I still hear him is he still

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there, you know, little nephew, whoever you're looking after. So

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it's like attention to Allah subhanaw taala, that has to be

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learned, you're not going to get that straightaway. But that's our

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life. That's the whole purpose of this is to use a lot of money,

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they say, you know, we can't do that. I know you can't do that.

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It's not easy. It's something that has to be learned try for an hour.

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And then you'll see eventually.

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Number five, this is the most powerful of all of them. It is the

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one that enriches the rest. Because you can do all of the

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others get reward for it, but not get closeness to Allah. This fifth

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one is the Morocco.

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Now the good thing about Morocco is that you don't have to be you

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could be anywhere and do it because it's all inside. You don't

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need to be in a room and you don't have to like say you could be in a

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waiting room, you could be on a bus, you could be wherever, and

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you just will if we got time we'll do some rocker by the end just to

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get it give you an idea of what it is. Essentially, the idea is that

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you sit down, lower your lower your lower your head, close your

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eyes, and just talk to the empty your mind from everything of the

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dunya lower, empty your mind everything of the dunya. And just

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imagine that the Mercy of Allah is descending on your heart. So

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that's on the left hand side under your chest, the Mercy of Allah is

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descending on your heart. And Allah subhanaw taala says, I am

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with my servant as he thinks of me, Mercy is around everywhere we

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just wait, we're just tapping into it Wi Fi, we just need a password

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here. You don't need password, you just need to focus and you get

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access and there's never been with problems. Right? There's never too

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many people on you know, take it, you know, using it. It's just

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there's a lot of it available. And the more you want to take, the

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more you take. So you just sit there and you just imagine that

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the Mercy of Allah is descending on your heart. And then your heart

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begins to say, and it's taking away the dirt and the evil and the

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wrong and the sins and so on. And then your heart begins to say

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Hola. Hola. Hola. And that's what you're looking to do. And you just

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sit there five minutes just doing Hola Hola. Hola. Now, eventually

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shaytan is going to come and distract you and that you don't

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give up. Remember the concentration has to be learned.

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Sincerity has to be learned. You just keep doing it and keep coming

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back to it and trying to concentrate and doing better the

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next time. That's the fifth thing.

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So you've got a stick for Salawat delusory. Number three, Quran

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number four workqueue Calbee. Just general concentration and Allah.

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Number five is the maraca meditation. And number six is the

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keeping constant relation, constant communication with your

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shake, call rabita to shake, which means that you keep appraising

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them on what's going on. So every two, three weeks, you send them an

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email or if you're on telephone or whatever way that you're

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communicating you, you generally tell them that you know this, and

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if you haven't done anything, two weeks, I did it one week, I

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couldn't do it. I just couldn't do it this week, no problem, say what

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it is. But the whole purpose of it is that when you hear something

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from a shame, no, you must do you must do it, it makes a difference.

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It makes a difference. Now generally the fifth everything

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else will remain the same. But the fifth one there'll be progress in

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that they'll move on to different sounds. So you will focus on

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different lotta if they call it you'll focus on different parts of

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the body.

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The Kolata if it basically these are this is the 35 Subak system

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that you move on to which is being developed with Majid Al Thani

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Rahmatullah the Sheikh Ahmed said Hindi anyway, so that's, that's

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some idea of what some beta entails, and generally avoiding

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Herranz trying to fulfill as many obligations and obviously it

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starts with a Tober. The beta is just the Toba. That's it. Right?

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The beta is just the Toba. It's just and then you might say, Well,

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we do Toba all the time, then what's the point of beta with a

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shake?

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And I'll tell you what that is.

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You know, like in Hadith, you have a transmission. Somebody's

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mentioning a hadith just like that. Another person mentioning it

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who has a transmission up to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam who has

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a chain and it's not. i And you and I can make Toba just like

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that. But if we make Toba at the hands of a Sheikh, he has done it

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with his Sheikh. He's done it with his Sheikh until it Abu Bakr Radi

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Allahu Anhu from Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, you will get

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the baraka of that Silsila of that chain that goes back to Rasulullah

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sallallahu sallam said they will be more powerful because you're

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following the Sunnah the professor Lawson took the beta on October.

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And that's essentially what this debate is. That's essentially what

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a beta is, I won't do this I wonder is I wonder is I make Toba

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and so on so forth.

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So you will get the baraka of that doba and that doba inshallah will

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be more before benefiting of for you. And as opposed to just

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personal dua that you do. That's it. That's, that's what you do

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that for.

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And then, of course, they expect you to sit in Majelis. But if you

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can have access to the modality then you can listen to if they do

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recordings, then you listen to their recordings of those

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modalities. And essentially any other Dini things comes some

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shakes, they like you, they like you to tell them about everything

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that happens in your life. And some are a bit more casual, that

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you know, they don't want to know everything that you do. Just tell

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us anything that's gonna relate to your spirituality. Do you

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understand anything that's gonna relate to your decision about

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spirituality, that's what you want to know about. So different sheiks

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act in different ways. And some, some have more time, some have

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less time,

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and so on and so forth. What is the difference between

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purification of the heart and the soul, it's the same thing. It's

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just interchangeable words that are used.

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The same thing, the soul and the heart, you really what we are

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purifying is the soul. But we're verifying the heart as well as

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soul and how to two different entities that work in tandem. The

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soul is what gives us life. And the spiritual hearts.

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This is we'll we'll have to spend a lot of time so I won't go into

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that. But essentially the soul the heart is always there. But it

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becomes corrupt because of the soul. The soul if it becomes

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adulterated and polluted and we allow ourselves to fall for the

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shaytaan, then the soul becomes what they call a Mara Bisou.

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The evil inciting self, when we get a grip on the evil inciting

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self, most of us if we're practicing people, and we're

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trying to do our best, we generally have what we call a

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lawanna soul, which is the blame blaming soul. So it's the one if

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we feel bad when we're doing something wrong, then that means

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we've got a soul that is Illawarra the problem with the lawanna soul

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is that it doesn't have is the karma but it's better than the

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Amara, but sometimes we fall into the amount of sometimes we in the

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law world sometimes we want to do something wrong sometimes we were

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it's blaming us don't do it. Don't do it. It's the internal good

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voice we hear inside. When we overcome that after this entire

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journey to Allah subhanaw taala then it becomes an absolute

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nightmare in your enough's ultimate in era je la robic

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because if you look at this verse, the only soul that is being told

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to go back to Allah is enough Sinatra in the

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Not the nostril awam are not the left nostril Amara. So we have to

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work for the nostril Motema in, otherwise chances to get into

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paradise without having to be purified in hellfire, the oblique.

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That's why it's important to get that. So that's some difference of

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what the heart and the soul is. But they're sometimes used

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interchangeably in, like what we're saying. Women generally

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lacking opportunities when attaining sorbet from a payer

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shake etc. Bed is possible, but communication is limited. can you

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advise on this? This has been the case in the past. And I think it's

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because of our culture is very restrictive. It's very difficult,

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but she used to, you know, and now things are a bit different and

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that it's possible nowadays to do that. And now some tricks and some

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shoes, they're very particular, they focused on women. There's one

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Sheikh, who, mashallah, last year, he there are at this is in

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Pakistan, he has eight Is it 60 or 80, I can't let's just say 6060

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female doctors that became graduates of Dulcinea army, their

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medical doctors, but they've just finished the early Marcos. He gets

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them all involved in that because he knows that at the end of the

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day, if you become yourself and Alima Alima, you're sorted, you

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won't bother to shake too much. Because you've got your own

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knowledge at the end of the day, you can help others as well.

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Right? So

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there's a lot of focus assumption focused on women more than others,

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but I think it's very necessary because women are out there now.

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They're doing a lot of work, and I think it needs to happen.

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When something bad happens to you, or if you're going through a bad

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experience, how do you know if it's a test, or a punishment? Very

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difficult most of the time, unless you've just done something wrong,

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you should always think back what have I done wrong? Make Tober you

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should always make Toba always make Toba because doba will, will

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take away calamities anyway, I count the anger of the Lord. But

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otherwise, if you've done Toba and you're still having calamities,

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then understand that it's from Allah, at the end of the day, it

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doesn't make a difference, you have to have sub anyway. And then

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there's the higher level which is of Radha delicado, which means to

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be satisfied with how Allah wants to keep us whether that's mercy

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but or not, because Allah knows. So we have to do is take for and

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we make Toba and we just hope for the best from Allah. But if we

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have sinned, we should definitely make us suffer anyway. So I think

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we should do both.

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Again, another question, how does the female interact with the shave

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what's not, there's obviously interact female interaction with

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shake, you have to be very careful, because you're getting

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really personal in that case, because you're mentioning your

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like, you know, your real personal details in that case. And that's

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why you have to have a very suitable shake, because there's

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has been abuse in this case. So if you ever think there's any abuse,

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because I've had people come to me, and they say certain, certain

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shake this, that and other whatever. So there is I'm just

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being open about it, there are there are issues. If you ever

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notice that, then you need to be really careful. Obviously, don't

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jump to conclusions for nothing. Because shaytaan will want you to

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there's a balance here. shaytaan will want you to separate from

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somebody who's benefiting you. So they'll show you the wrong is

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right to the right is wrong, do you understand. But if you

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definitely see something wrong, you need to run a mile.

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And as long as you're absolutely sure that there's there's some

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wrong play there. But otherwise, you just keep the other. There's

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nothing wrong with talking to a man formally speaking for

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educational reasons. So you just keep it up. That's the main thing.

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Other is important, important. And you must also realize that your

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main purpose is not the sheikh, your main purpose is Allah

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subhanaw taala, they are only a means. So Allah is your ultimate

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goal. And that should always be kept in mind, or it will be kept

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in mind.

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That's why I have a very casual relationship in the sense that,

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you know, my thing is not like, you must be on me everything and

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you must, you know, because it's too difficult. I mean, how much do

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you want to know about people? How much can you hold? Subhanallah

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you've got a lot of things to do. Just focus on the focus on the

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right on the appropriate information. And that's it.

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Pious friends for females, how do you recognize them, find them not

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as easy. I mean, you learn the good traits and bad traits. And

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then you find those with good traits.

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Now, I would, I would talk about having associates, but only making

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close friends of those who are really going to be beneficial to

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you. You can have a lot of associates, which means get along

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with a lot of people that are of benefit to you and you're learning

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from them. But or you're learning with them or you know, you're

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having a good time with them. But a close friend, you must choose

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who is really on the proper right path and they can benefit you or

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you can benefit them because at the end of the day, close

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friendship requires you to sometimes do things for them that

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you may not want to do it now if it's wrong. It's like then you

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have to sell your deen for somebody else's dunya

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Subhan Allah, what it is, is that if somebody wants to do something

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wrong, and you're a follower type, not a leadership type, as many,

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most people are followers, that is following somebody. Now they want

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to do something wrong. And you're following them because you have

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to, you don't really want to but you have to. What you've just done

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is you've sold your dean akhira for somebody else's dunya you've

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done it for them for their dunya and that is highly despicable. So

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that's why only close friends should be those you'd rather have

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no friend than having a bad friend, because a Julissa Sue is

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very harmful. How does one find the balance between worldly things

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such as work education, marriage and spirituality with Allah?

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Imam Al Ghazali seems to have a perfect spiritual devotion. Do we

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know anything about his family life? No, Imam Ghazali is a very

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difficult person to follow in this regard. He left everything for

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about 11 years. And subhanAllah he he's got a very tough regimen.

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And that's why there's no there's no gazillion schools there are,

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you can say retentions of it that like the Abdullah edaville had the

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other week. Tarik in Yemen, they look up a lot to the sheikh, and

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they take a lot from him, but obviously, it's been modified and

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so on. That's all of tricks. They always get modified. Like, for

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example, a shadow literally, you've heard of the shadow trees.

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They are that's not that's not a new trick. It's just

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the Kadri tariqa Sheikh Abdul Qadir jeelani, then down the down

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the line, this shakable has an usher that he he kind of revived,

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or he re reformulated some of the Afghan and so on. So now it's like

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the shadow that he called that Italica. The the shift is just go

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all the way back to shave Moringa and then Tuesday, and then even

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before that, it they go up, but it's just from the main person

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that kind of formalizes. That's why then within the tissues, you

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have the tannery, then you have the shakes the career that with

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slight variations in and then you have hockey master sub got slight

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variations and induction these you've got different ones as well.

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So this is there's always a revival going on.

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How does one find a balance? That's why what I mentioned

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earlier, right, these six things they're not too difficult to do.

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We're not asking like, spend 10 hours doing something, we're

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asking for something very simple, that you know, that's what you do

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you if you start that the way I would say is that it's very

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difficult if you're going to try to find the ideal situation, just

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do your best in getting enough time. And what I found is that if

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you give time to Allah subhanaw taala, he will open your time up

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for you.

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I remember when I first moved to America, I just the time was

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flying. So I talked to one of my teachers here Sufism, and he said,

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do some thicker, because we do thicker, you're doing it for Allah

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subhanaw taala. If you give time to Allah, Allah will open up time

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for you.

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We don't think like that. We think very materialistic terms. 10

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minutes, 20 minutes. But when it comes to YouTube, we can spend

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more time than that. So the thing is to start and Jerry, the

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mornings are the best time just get up early off the budget and do

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your Morocco or do your liquor, do your whatever, and just do the

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best you can?

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Is there such a thing as bad luck?

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There are things that happen. There are bad things that happen

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in the world. And if you want to call a bad luck, you can. But you

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must never think that somebody is I learned something very recently.

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There was a convert brother who told me Well, he's not a con is a

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convert, but he's been in Islam for five, six years. He said,

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initially, he did not know that you have calamities, and they are

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from Allah. He felt that any calamity you have in this life is

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God hates you. That's why it's happening. So he's a believer in

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God, anything wrong happens. God hates you. That's why it's bad.

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So it makes you it really depresses you. That's what bliss

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wants to do to you, it depresses you. Then he realized that in

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Islam, that's not the case. calamities are from Allah. In

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fact, the more pious you are, the more calamities you will probably

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get.

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And subhanAllah we don't have the time today. But really, a lot of

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the calamities in our life are because of the state of our heart.

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Because of the darkness of our heart because of the blackness of

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our heart, because of the sins, they call this evil to us. And you

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start clearing that out, you will find that you'll have much more

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solace, much more comfort, much more tranquility, and much more

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reliance in Allah subhanaw taala and that is the problem. There are

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layers of this, that when you start having problems with your

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heart, you start feeling bad about people around you then you start

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feeling bad about yourself. Then it goes to a level where you start

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feeling bad about Allah and then you lose all hope. And it gets

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really bad these are just levels upon levels. Anyway. So yeah, that

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that ends our that ends our

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our question answers hamdulillah

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a lot of Monticello Monica salon debark the other jewelry with the

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Quran, Allah may Allah Hi yah, yah Rama Deaconess, delete. Allahu Mia

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Hernando Yemen

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La Isla learn the Subhanak in Milady mean just Allah horn now

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Muhammad Allah homophone an hour an hour if you know you know what?

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Oh Allah, Oh Allah we've gathered here to get oh Allah we've

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gathered here today with with dirty hearts. Oh Allah, Oh Allah

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with haram passions and with haram. Haram desires Oh Allah we

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ask you to purify us who Allah we ask you to purify our hearts. Oh

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Allah Oh Allah we asked you to cleanse us of Allah we ask you to

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give us closeness to you Oh ALLAH that is something that we so much

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seek but it's difficult for us so Allah we are constantly in

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redundant activities in futile activities. We are constantly

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engaged in them. We find it passionate to be in futile

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activities and to sit on the masala and to do your liquor. Oh

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Allah we find that so difficult. Oh Allah, Oh Allah we asked you to

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purify our hearts and draws close to you. Oh Allah make your

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obedience beloved to our hearts. Oh Allah make your obedience

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beloved to our hearts so that we want to do it and we enjoy doing

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it. Oh Allah give us the Halawa of iman, give us the sweetness of

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your faith or Allah give us the sweetness of your faith of Allah

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that will only help us to be greater worshipers of you and to

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be more obedient to you and have greater servitude for you. Oh

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Allah we ask You for Your Mercy of Allah your mercy your rivers of

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Your mercy are constantly flowing. Oh Allah just a drop will do Oh

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ALLAH just a drop we'll do our Allah we asked you to give us even

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a drop of Allah you say in the Quran and Tamil for Quran.

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Alinea one terminal for Cara? You're saying you're saying the

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Quran that we we are the We Are the enriched ones and you are the

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PO and so today we come to you seeking you. Oh Allah you also say

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in the Quran in the Masada, CA total for Cora. Verily charity is

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given to the fucky use of Allah Today we ask you we come to you,

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we asked you for charity, charity in the form of your love of Allah

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charity in the form of istikhara and doba. charity in the form of

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repentance, charity, in the form of purity of our hearts, or Allah

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charity in the form of purity of our hearts. Oh Allah, Oh Allah we

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see. We see that use of our day his Salam he forgave his brothers.

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Oh Allah Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he forgave the

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people of Makkah. Oh Allah, we see that the Prophet salallahu salam

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for 10 years had UNASUR the Allahu Anhu in His service. And and so

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the Allahu Anhu says that never once did he tell me off? Oh Allah,

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if a human can do this, if your Prophet can do this, then we know

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your mercy is 90 times greater than any mercy that's in this

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world. So we ask you, we invoke some of this mercy from you, that

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you have mercy on us and you make us change. Oh Allah. We're not

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here today by accident. We're here because you brought us here. Oh

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Allah. We're not here by accident today. Oh Allah, we're here

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because you brought us here you gave us the Tofik Oh Allah make

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this a source of purification make the source of knowledge and

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understanding and insight into the way our heart and our desires

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work. And above all, give us give us control over them. Oh Allah

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give us control over them. Oh Allah, we've seen this world that

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when there's a soil child who's wet, and who's messed up their

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nappy and they're all dirty and nobody wants to pick that child

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up, the mother will come and she will pick that child up despite

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all the dirt and despite all the soiling and she will take in

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washing she will take and wash that child and make him smell good

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and pure again, Oh Allah, this is our state and there's nobody to

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pick us up. Oh Allah, this is our state and there's nobody to pick

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us up. Oh Allah. This is our state we have seen for many years we've

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done the wrong for many years we've looked at the wrong things.

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We've listened to the wrong things we've said the wrong things. Oh

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Allah, Oh Allah if we're to analyze our heart and to become

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open to others, How bad would it be? But there's nobody to purify

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it except you of Allah, we ask you because we can only ask you

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there's no other purifier.

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There is no other purify. Oh Allah it's only you that can do this.

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You have more mercy as your min prophet has mentioned sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam that 99 parts of the Mercy retained for yourself.

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What kind of Mercy must that be? We asked you to give it to us. Oh

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Allah, whether we like it or not draw us by our forelocks and

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interesting to Jin and put us on the right way. Oh Allah because

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You are our Lord and we have no other Lord to ask even the worst

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of us when they make such that they make such they're in front of

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you and nobody else. Oh Allah. Oh Allah, we ask you, we asked you to

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just turn your gaze of Mercy on us for once so that we can gain this

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Oh Allah we can get closest to you Oh Allah, your messenger

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SallAllahu on Twitter said that we asked for your love or your Allah

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we asked for your love and the love of those who love you. Oh

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Allah, we ask for your love. And we ask that your liquor and your

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remembrance emanates from every part of our body and we find it

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easy to deal with the pitfalls of this life and the challenges of

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this world and we be given success in all the permissible things

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that we desire and we be given Baraka in our in our spouses and

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in our children in our families and remove our law remove all of

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the difficulties from us, while the removal of the difficulties

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from us Oh Allah all those who worked hard the brothers sisters

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who worked hard to make this program and organize this program,

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oh Allah grant them great success and agile. Oh Allah grant them

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great, great reward for what they have done and all those who have

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attended Oh Allah don't let us don't let us return from here

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without without being forgiven. And without being purified and

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without feeling more illuminated and, and without feeling closer to

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you of Allah. That's your gift. And finally, we asked you that you

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send your abundant blessings and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam, until until eternity. Oh Allah send your blessings on him

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until eternity. Oh Allah grant us the ability to have from his hole

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then his his his his pond on the day of judgment and I would love

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to be in his company in June little fear dose in general fear

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though so Allah make the best of our days the day that we stand in

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front of you Subhanallah because popular is that your IOC food was?

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More saline

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