Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Imam Sha’rani’s Code of Companionship Series Rights of Brotherhood

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The segment discusses the misunderstandings of people's views on society and the importance of finding a positive balance between one's own behavior and others. It emphasizes the need to avoid harming others, and the use of negative language in relationships. The speakers stress the importance of honoring individuality and finding one's own success in life. They also discuss the challenges of disclosing one's secret and privacy, as well as the importance of learning to read books and practice learning in order to become more aware of Islam.
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Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran that there are three

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categories of people, I mean, who mocked acid, or in combining

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Malinowski, there are those who are on the middle path, there are

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those who have accomplished great, and there are also those who are

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oppressing themselves. And you will see this in every group. A

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lot of the time what happens with people of one group is that they

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will folk if they want to denigrate people of another group,

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they will focus on the worst of that group.

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Like this sectarian problems or any other group problems that we

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have or tribal problems or whatever may be the case. What

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generally happens is that we will generally focus on the worst of

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the other group and say, look at that, as though the group is

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bringing down That's just human nature that this is what happens.

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Unless of course, you see that the ideology of a particular group

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creates a particular weakness or a defect in everybody that's a

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different story.

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi wa salatu salam ala

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say you did mousseline whiner earlier he will stop me he he

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married a man back. We're going through

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all of the rights that

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each one of us has over

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another

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and rates that

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we have to fulfill for each other. This is Imam Shah, Ronnie's

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suggestions and his recommendations. So then, the

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second one is women have killed archaeology. And young in my era,

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meanwhile, are watching Minitor when Jamila onken The intermediate

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that Whelan Raja, Allah and FC he belong

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maybe sometimes difficult to do. But once you practice this, and

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you change your outlook, this is actually possible. For a lot of

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people that thing How do you do this, what he's saying is that

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whatever you see of your brother,

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especially something that doesn't seem to be so perfect, then you

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try to give it the best possible interpretation.

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You try to spin it in the best way people do evil spinning outside

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all the time, you know, be a politician, although just do it

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positively. So give everything a positive spin and there's always a

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possibility for a positive spin. And try to look at everything in

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the best possible manner

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Jameela uncle as positively as possible

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for in the music that we learn, sometimes you are going to run up

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against the wall, and you just can't find any way to extract your

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brother from the

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the defect that you are noticing. You can't put a positive spin you

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can't seem to find a good opinion or a good interpretation. Then in

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that case, he says if you don't find something like that, Raja

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Allah enough See he belongs then just blame yourself for being

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for being unable to do so.

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Like I wish I could have seen this in a better light and blame

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yourself for it that I wish I could have been more positive

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about this. So when a person is always trying to act positively

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and censoring oneself and reproaching oneself for not being

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positive, then inshallah positivity will come about. He

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then says that

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one of his teachers Ibrahim at the Suki Rahim Allah, in one of his

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councils in his Wasa, it mentioned that Latin guru either a compiler

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who will arriba WHO, WHAT ARE Toriyama who, what a shadow.

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don't censor your brother for his different states. Don't Don't

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reproach him, Don't accuse him for his different states, whether that

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be in terms of his garments, his clothing, wearing some strange

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clothing was strange garments, or his food,

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his dress, his hairstyle, his drink, whatever it may be, because

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when you start reproaching somebody about these small minor

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things like this, you recall why Shatta Wale in Quito Anila heater

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Ira then your focus changes you it creates. Number one a disquietude

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and a balloon. It creates a problem in between because it

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muddies the water in between because you're looking at

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something negative negativity has that idea even the self care

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experts self eating experts will constantly telling you think

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positively. This is what the Sharia tells you to think

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positively in general. And it will also cut you away from Allah

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subhanho wa Taala Allah subhanho wa Taala is good. Allah is Jamil

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where your hibel Jamal, Allah subhanho wa Taala is excellent and

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elegant and beautiful. And he loves elegance, excellence and

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beauty. So as long as you can extract beauty out of anything,

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then that is what we should be doing well

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In Colorado, in Tacoma Huron Salahi Cherie and moto hora. And

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he says at the end of the day, what the person is doing in terms

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of the weird clothing he might have on,

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or the weird hairstyle or food or clothing or drink, as long as it's

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not haram, as long as it's not something prohibited in the

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Sharia. As long as it's not something that has been considered

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unlawful in the pod, then after that, you can't reproach somebody

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for that.

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You can't reproach somebody for that. And then he says something

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very important. And if we can understand this, I think this is

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the crux of this whole point. And it really enlightens us, it really

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gives a very good understanding of how to understand especially how

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to work with your own family members, your own

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people at work or anywhere else for that matter. He says, because

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for in the NASA hustle, will hustle house will move to the

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woman dahin or moto Chabane Momota hockey team will cover Eulalia the

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rattle Mashima dive waxy wala with Dara Yarraman, Belga, Bilbao. He

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says, Because among people, if you take a assessment of people, there

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are the elect among people, the high level ones, then there is the

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hustle house, there's the elect of the elect, the very special

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people, meaning those who've really been able to be particular

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about their faith, you know, so there's the particular ones, and

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there's the very particular ones. And then he says, there's also the

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beginners, there's also the advanced, there's also those who

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are just trying to impersonate others, we're trying their best.

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And there are also those who have actualized, and who who've reached

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and who've accomplished, and then he says, The going, the one who's

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spiritually stronger, and more powerful, or higher level, is

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unable to walk and keep up with the weak one. The strong one is

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unable to keep up with the weak one. And likewise the opposite.

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The weak one is unable to keep up with the strong one. It's going to

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be the case if you're traveling together one is spiritually much

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stronger and he's doing extra Nawab feel and everything and the

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other one wants to carry on he's done his forehead only and his you

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know, too soon. But in suffered, you don't have to do your Sunday

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in journeys you don't have to do Sunday if you're in a hurry. But

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one insists on doing his sunnah and his issue aka no often and the

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110 minutes of vicar and so on as well. He's way advanced. And he's

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comfortable with that. It doesn't matter how long it takes, the

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other one just wants to move on, move on, move on, you're not going

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to be able to keep up. But understand that that not everybody

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is like you. So don't stop criticizing people. As long as

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they're doing the basics of their Deen don't criticize people for no

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reason. Over and above that.

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arbitrarily, of course, if you're trying to help somebody, it's a

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different story. But arbitrarily don't just keep your eyes just

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pretend to overlook it. You can't see it.

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And then he says, And the wonderful thing is that Allah

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subhanaw taala has mercy on some people by virtue of others. So at

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the end of the day, this mix that we have, this is by the same

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thing, that Allah subhanho wa taala, he gives Baraka due to the

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weak people to the strong, due to the Allah gives Baraka because of

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the young people to the old, to the very old, by by virtue of the

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very old to the middle aged, Allah subhanho wa Taala chooses

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different people. And he uses some to spread the baraka and the mercy

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upon others.

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Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran that there are three

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categories of people mean hooked acid, or in combining will NFC,

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there are those who are on the middle path, there are those who

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have accomplished great, and there are also those who are oppressing

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themselves. And you will see this in every group. A lot of the time,

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what happens with people of one group is that they will folk if

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they want to denigrate people of another group, they will focus on

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the worst of that group.

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Like this sectarian problems or any other group problems that we

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have, or tribal problems, or whatever may be the case, what

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generally happens is that we will generally focus on the worst of

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the other group and say, look at that, as though the group is

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bringing that up. That's just human nature that this is what

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happens. Unless, of course, you see that the ideology of a

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particular group creates a particular weakness or a defect in

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everybody. That's a different story.

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A lot of the time what we do is we compare

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non Muslim ideas or cultures or trends with the Islamic ideal, not

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with Muslims. We compare non Muslim fashions of the day. We

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compare that to sahabi, a companion or a big scholar, not

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with the state of Muslims today. Do you understand and then we try

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to show

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Islam is superior because of that. It's not superior because of that

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it's superior as it is, it's got its own ways, but one needs to

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follow it. So it's not a very straightforward comparison that we

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do a lot of the time, we take the worst of another group, and we

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show the best of ours. And we try to compare it like that, you can't

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make comparisons like that, that doesn't deny the point that there

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is great good here, or that it's the best or the most excellent, or

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it's God given or divine. That's not the point. That's not That's

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not we're trying not to deny that, but we're trying to say is that

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when you make a comparison, be fair in your comparison. But going

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back to this point, the point is that look positively as as many

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things as possible, and inshallah this will really, really create

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harmony between us. That's why this thing about quickly

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criticizing people in a hurry on any small thing that you see on

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the apparent face of something that's very, very dangerous.

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That's very dangerous for just generally general brotherly love,

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and harmony between people in general, and just people in

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general, this is very important that a person doesn't do that.

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Because people are of different categories and different levels

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and different states. And we need to understand that that diversity,

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we have to be able to deal with it.

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A lot of people, they become pious, righteous,

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they suddenly have illumination, they suddenly become practicing,

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then they want everybody to walk along with them. They want

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everybody to be illuminated. At the same time. If you do, ask

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Allah for that, don't get angry, and people say, Why don't you get

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up to my status? Why don't you do the same thing that I'm doing now?

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I've put my TV away. Why don't you do the same thing, I've stopped

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watching all of this film, you do the same thing.

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It took what it took time for you to gain this inspiration, this

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motivation.

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So it may take time for others. A lot of the time has happened

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between husband and wives who happens to be one spouse to happen

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between brothers happens between parents and children, children and

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parents.

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So ask Allah subhanaw taala, you might say the woman will say

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you're

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one of the greatest of the February.

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He it's mentioned about him

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that he says mom and Sharif and what are the fondling in Luffy

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Hinrichsen. There's no honorable individual, meaning every

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honorable and individual and anybody with any kind of

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distinction in this world,

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every one of them will still have a defect.

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So even people who see people with great honor and his generally

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accepted as being an honorable individual, and a person of high

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distinction. Still a person is going to have some defects, ask

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his wife,

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you know, ask the people close and we're going to there's going to be

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some defect to the other. But the best part is this. That's a

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reality. We can't do anything about that reality. That's the

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thing here.

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These are realities that we can't do much about, we can help in that

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situation. But while I can, men can afford to work for me noxee

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Wahiba, not to leave for the day. However, the one who is

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distinctions is honor, his merits are better and superior and more

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abundant, then his defects, then his defects become disguised in

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the good points.

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At the end of the day, that's what we're all going to try to achieve.

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Everybody's going to have a defect. But

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the more good merits that we try to create for ourselves, our bad

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things will just become dissolved in that it will become hidden in

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that essentially that's what it is.

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And that's that's what we're trying to achieve.

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About

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Saeed in the mosaic Rahima. Hula is from the high debating the most

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elective the targeting, and one of the greatest narrators of Hadith

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as well from the sahaba. He took a lot from Abu Huraira the Allah one

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for example. He took a lot from him.

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And he used to exert himself a lot. He was a great worshiper. He

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says this is his own statement. He says Marfa tetani three Lawton

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fija Martin Mundo Barbarina. Santa

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for 40 years. I haven't missed the salaat in Java.

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Like he know Salah Did he miss for 40 years without congregation. He

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prayed in congregation. And during his time in those early times,

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there was a major problem during the those early times there was a

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lot of sectarian wars, especially over Madina, Munawwara who's going

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to become the governor during the time to lighteners obey and the

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OMA years and so on and so forth. So at that time, I mean, you'd be

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surprised about this, but they came three days when it was really

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severe, and no Advan took place in Masuda nubbly

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That's how bad the situation was. The Muslim could not go to West

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you never want to give a damn.

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So, in those days, he stayed in the masjid. He was in retreat in

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the masjid. He literally like made it take off in a sense. I mean,

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those days you didn't have clocks. You didn't have timetables, you're

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inside. So you can't. I mean, it probably be dangerous to go out

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and see the sun. So where is how does he find the time of the

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prayer?

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How does he find time of him? Because he seems like he's the

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only one inside. He says that he used to recognize and identify the

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time of the press by a sound that would come from the grave of

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Rasulullah sallallahu sallam.

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He died in 93 Hijiri. So this was this was his statement. It's a

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very penetrating statement that everybody is going to have some

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kind of defect, but the more merits you'll have your defects

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will become dissolved in that in those merits. Another right this

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is the third one I think that another eight that a brother has

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over a brother, a yellow jeweler who women are three routes you

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have to wish well for them.

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One is you overlook their defects. turn a blind eye. But number two,

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you wish well for people in general, every brother of yours.

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When we say brother here we mean in general. We mean in general

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here, Muslim brother, Muslim sister, humanity in general, we

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want good for them. Your jeweler who means the rods,

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we wish well for them. Well, Musa Maha, we want pardon for them,

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just like we want pardon for ourselves. We want pardon for

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them, who will Adobo and we also want their Toba to be accepted

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just like we want our Toba to be accepted. What does that tell us?

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It tells us that just like we also sin, anybody who criticizes

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others, they should think to themselves haven't I got any

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problems? Don't I commit sin as well? Don't I want doba? Over I do

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too. Well? Don't you want doba for your brother? Don't you want

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repentance to be accepted for your brother just like you want Toba to

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be accepted for yourself. So that is a right that we must have

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towards others that we must feel that way and have that emotion for

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others. Well Oh for elemental bouncy, and Islamia my foreign

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come I argue that he couldn't have seen regardless of what sins

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they're committing, we went over for them just like you want for

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us. Another one another right that he speaks about is Alliander Illa

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zileuton Eliza let in Sabah cots. What are the actual hula hoop? I

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will attend SUTI. Right.

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So one another problem that we have in our communities is a

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person holding a database

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of everybody's past wrongs, even though they've sorted themselves

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out now, people may become reformed, now maybe reformed now.

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But

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we remember 20 years ago, they did something bad or they were in

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prison

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or

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the state wasn't very good, whatever the case may be. So, a

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person should not look at past defects, past slips and flows. And

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a person should not open up and reveal any hidden defects. You

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know, that are veiled and conceal the nobody knows about a person

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should not reveal them to people. Because he mentions in a hadith

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and this is from the Hadith he mentions in a hadith woman mantra,

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I will often for Salah gonna come in here, ooh, that data.

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Anybody

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know who that and recovery how anybody who conceals

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some hidden defect of somebody, anybody who conceals. So this is

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actively concealed. So even if somebody is about to open it up,

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you are conceding it or you're trying to make an excuse for that

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person. So one is you don't open it up. You don't say anything

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about you keep silent. The other one is somebody wants to reveal it

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or starts talking about it, you say? Normally you try to

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some just kind of gloss over it somehow. you conceal it you

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actively. So he says that whoever does that. Now this is not talking

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about somebody's harm to others, that has to be opened up. The

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Goodwill there is that you reveal to people that Be careful of this

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person. That's a different situation. But this is something

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that is not contagious. Somebody's own little problem that he has,

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that he's working with is trying to you know try to struggle with

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or whatever the case is, don't make it more difficult by making

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it public conceal it. Anybody who does that the Prophet sallallahu

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sallam said is like the person who brought back to life. A infant

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girl buried alive.

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Now an infant girl buried alive was something that was really an a

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very emotional sense point of sentiment for the people of Makkah

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at that time because this was

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The pre Islamic Jahai, the practice of burying the daughters

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alive because they felt that sons had more valued. And daughters

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didn't have enough value for them that you'd have to invest and

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bring them up and spend on them, and so on, so forth. And then

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after they get married to somebody else, and they're gone, right,

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they don't carry on your family name. You know, this is one of the

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extremes of being so focused on your tribal lineage. There are

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extremes in everything, when you become so engrossed in your tribal

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lineage that I'm put on or am

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this, that, or the other, whatever it is, I don't know why I thought

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at the time right now, but you know,

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anything, for that matter. And then you get so extreme about it,

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that you don't want to dissolve that in any way or dilute that

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anyhow, and this is one of the extremes of these things. So

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Subhanallah if somebody goes against that trend, and brings

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back a girl who has been oppressed in that manner, can you imagine

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such a high deed that is what a great deed that is, that's just

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like the profit or loss I'm saying, that is just like, if you

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conceal somebody, and you conceal their defects, they flow.

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The machinery say, when you say the machinery, this word machine,

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I agree first, generally the spiritual scholars, scholars of

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spirituality, could lumen lamea store, Allah Juan Heemeyer, all

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human human and Hatha words for confetti had NFC Berber cashmere

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Arathi because there are other haram in Haifa to him.

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When this is the general guidance of Islam to conceal people, that's

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the general guidance right? As far as possible, if that's what Allah

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wants from us, that anybody who violates that, then what's going

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to happen? So that's what he says that the Messiah is say that

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anybody who does not conceal of their brothers, whatever faults

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that they notice that they are opening for themselves a door to

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their own defects being revealed.

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Because if we're not actively trying to keep the balance that

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Allah wants in this world, the MISA, then Allah is going to open

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up the door of our defects.

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Because Reema Amina half of our team, and as much as we reveal of

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others, that is how much Allah will reveal of ours.

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So if you don't want to do it for somebody else, at least do it for

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yourself. At least think that way if, if not in a more positive way.

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They also say that in our eight minute clinic, Martha, Marcia de

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la Mujer, he'll be half as true. If you see somebody doing a sin,

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that he is not openly doing outside. He is hiding and doing

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it. Right. He's not openly and brazenly going into a pub and

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drink in front of everybody and going around, you know, he's got a

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problem of drinking poor game and he tries to hide it. Right? He

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tries to hide it,

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then don't

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if you see somebody like that, then what be who who basically

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admonished him privately. Contact him privately first.

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He's trying to make an effort. It helps when somebody finds out

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somebody tells you nicely, you know, of course you have to have

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some kind of relationship here. While Amiens surgery if the person

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doesn't desist

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then and then if he doesn't desist it means he's going to do it in

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the open then maybe tell him in front of people, but with the

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intention of his welfare.

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See, even if somebody does this, what shaytaan puts into the mind

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is to get one over them

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to somehow get some merit out of it for yourself. But no, that

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should not be the intention even if you do have to open it up to

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people that do it for his welfare

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with the intention and the hope that inshallah he will desist and

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stop doing it now.

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Now one thing you have to understand he says mme a yo yo see

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if you carry the V where you are, who are they for who Allah mujer

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Yatta jar, as long as the person is doing it in the deep recesses

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of his home, or wherever it is, that is hidden, hidden, right? And

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he's closing his door, and he's not publicizing it. He's not

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putting it up on Twitter the next day, or Facebook as city people do

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today.

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Then it means he's not openly doing it. The prophets of Allah

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Islam says everybody is going to be forgiven. Except the people who

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openly do this in the province that are supposed to say said,

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somebody doesn't sin at night. Allah reveals it nobody finds out

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and the same person openly tells everybody the next day.

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What an idiot.

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Before people wrote diaries and diaries were generally private.

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They were only generally discovered after the death, right?

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People kept diaries and they will try to keep it private and

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They would only be read generally After Death. Today, the diary

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becomes Facebook and Twitter. And people want people to read it.

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So a lot of the honesty and it goes and the genuineness of it

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goes as well. Because to attract more people towards your hosts,

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and so on, they need to be dramatized a bit more. So Allah

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knows best how true things are, as compared to what they used to be.

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But look at where the private life became suddenly very public, and

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how lives have changed perspective has changed. Then he says, though,

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that if the person is doing it in privacy, but there are children

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there who are telling others about it, then consider that they are

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like adults, then in that case, and that he is openly doing it as

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well. Because if a person is doing something wrong, and he's trying

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to privately do it, then he should not do it in front of children

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either.

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Another hap another rights

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of one brother over another is law, your IRA, who will be them

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been what led for in them, why are the Dakota will wind out to cut

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the sofa. So this is another level now, somebody's committed a sin.

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What one is a genuine

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Naseeha goodwill towards them or trying to make them desist. But

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another one is where you keep saying, you do that.

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It's this kind of reproach, humiliation, putting them to

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shame, essentially shaming somebody all the time. So your

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idea is not to give them genuine, sincere Naseeha. But it's actually

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just keep putting them down for whatever reason, whether in front

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of others, or even if it's not in front of others, but just between

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you two,

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just to keep shaming them and reminding them reminding them of

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that

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as very, very dangerous. Because first and foremost, if you're

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trying to create love and bond between two friends between

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yourself and somebody else, and you start bringing these things

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up, then is not going to go very far in terms of creating love. And

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people do this between spouses husband will do this to wife and

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wife will do this to husband. It's a relationship where you're

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supposed to be creating love and bond and affection between you

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doing this is not going to create any of that it's going to break

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that anyway.

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If it doesn't

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remove the love, it will definitely muddy the purity of it.

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So it's going to be really polluted. Then he says that from

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Hasson bursaries, words, he says either brother welcome and I had

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in Zelda. If you hear about anybody's slip a floor of

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somebody, somebody did something wrong, somebody conveyed and

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there's many people, unfortunately, who convey things

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to us. Right? You sit in most gatherings and somebody's going to

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speak about somebody else. Right? So if somebody does come to you,

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one of these conveyors, back biters,

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tale bearers, slanderous, whatever you want to call them, radio

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hosts, chat, show people, you know, news bearers, whatever you

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want to call them, right?

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Commentators, speculators.

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What is that good during the hacking, however, whatever they're

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saying, has not yet been established in front of a judge.

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So it has not been judicially established and proven for that to

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our hero who behalf. So now don't take it in your hands to go and

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shame that person about to admonish him or humiliate him

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because of that, don't reproach him because of that, what can the

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movement Shah mean? What you should rather do is you should be

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lying, and discourage and deny the people who are trying to spread

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that rumor. Especially

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if the person is among you, you should definitely try to do this.

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The reason is that just by the default state in everything is

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that a person is free. A person is a person is innocent, that's the

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default level, you can only prove it's that guilty until proven

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innocent. That's what he's saying. But because the default status in

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everything is that a person is innocent, until proven guilty,

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until there is sound proof that is established in front of a judge

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after that, even if it is now proven, and yes, he was a whatever

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he was, still don't reproach him. Because it's not your

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responsibility to do that.

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It's not your responsibility to do that to do that.

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Because it's very possible that Allah will

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cure him of that or even relieve him off that and he will affect

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you in it. It's a possibility tomorrow we do the same thing as

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others. You know, whenever you hear on the radio and TV and all

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of these places,

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And we get the news about certain people falling to certain human

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weaknesses. You know, we should just think Allah that we're not

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part of that. Because it could be us tomorrow.

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We all have lusts and desires and failings and weaknesses and things

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of that nature.

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And although we may feel very strong today, if Allah wills, it

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can just change. He doesn't like it when a person upsets the

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balance of the world just doesn't like that at all. Because Allah

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says, Well, what are L MISA and so to Rama, he's created the balance.

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And do not destroy that balance. Let that overfill Misa

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Do not be tyrannical, don't go aboveboard, in upsetting the

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balance of the world. Now, the problem here is the challenge here

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is for the people who for 50 years, 40 years who've gone old,

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criticizing others. That's all they do.

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They criticize everything. They criticize everything from food,

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that they will eat somewhere,

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to the way that Imam reads

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to a to the talk of a scholar to anything.

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Like the scholar gave a one hour talk, do Mahatma whatever it is.

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And he made one silly comment or whatever, they will seize on that.

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They are literally just looking for the evilness. They're just

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literally looking for the floor, the weak point.

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It's like they say that when a nightingale goes into a garden, it

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will find the best of flowers. And it sits in those whenever a pig

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goes into a garden and looks for the dirtiest place just as nature.

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So now, if we have become accustomed to doing that 40 years,

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50 years, it gets difficult to relieve that. So how do you

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relieve yourself? Well, first and foremost, you have to recognize

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that we've got that problem. And many of us have this problem. It's

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part of the culture by the way.

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It's part of the culture to do this.

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It's part of the country to do this, which is the sad thing.

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So you have to recognize I've got a problem. I also do this and once

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you've recognized that then cry in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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and say, Oh Allah remove this from me.

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Because if you don't recognize it, and we just do anything, it's

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completely right to the we should know the bad of people so that we

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stay safe. Nobody's nobody's telling you to not know that there

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is a bad person. But it's our reaction to that which is

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important is how that has to be managed.

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That's why this hadith Subhanallah when I heard it, the first time

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Imam told me he has related this from Morocco Mujibur Radi Allahu

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Anhu. I was, it just really frightened me because you know, as

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children, you, we do this generally. And it was a good job.

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I heard this when I was young, because it helped me out a lot.

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That's why these Hadith are very important for young people that we

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should teach. We shouldn't do these things from a young age. It

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will just protect us from growing up doing having a bad habit.

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Anyway, the prophets Allah some said man a year or a year or ha

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who be humble. Anybody who's

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who reproaches his brother for a sin that he's committed. In the

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past, somebody's committed a sin and then you keep going on about

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it. lamea Matata, yeah, methodical dumb, then this person who's doing

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this is not going to die until he also becomes engaged in that

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same thing that we're shaming others for humiliating others

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because of, we will get involved in that before we die. Allah will

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not let us down until that happens. That was extremely

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frightening, that just really put the frightened and Subhanallah I

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just tried to avoid doing this. Because as young children, you

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learn these kinds of things you'd like criticizing you make fun of

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people and things like that. Subhanallah say the idea of verses

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letter, it could be Masaba hoomin masorti be dunya.

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Don't bother your brother about different to nearly calamities

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that come upon him. Because, look, there could be many reasons why

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this has happened. Either he is oppressed and not really the

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guilty one. And Allah subhanaw taala is going to help him because

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Allah will help the oppressed people. Or maybe he's a he is a

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sinner. He violated. He is a criminal in that sense, and he is

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a sinner.

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And then Allah is punishing him now because of this color by this

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calamity. And now he's going to be purified.

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Now he's going to be purified because of it.

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And he says it's the most greatest level of foolishness

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and idiocy that a person is proud of something

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They themselves are not secure of staying away from

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like how secure are you that by your debt you will also not have a

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problem like this? How secure are you? what guarantee do you know

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it's also stupidity says that a person reproach somebody for

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something that is not impossible for you also to vote.

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So, just always think about that in the in that sense and you know

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that whatever is possible for you is possible for others or whatever

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is possible for somebody like you it will be possible for you as

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well. So, if today he has been engraved in engrossed in that

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calamity tomorrow it could happen to you as well.

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Okay, we're going to Inshallah, stop here today, because we did

00:35:43 --> 00:35:45

promise that we'll take some questions, inshallah. So

00:35:50 --> 00:35:54

the point of a lecture is to encourage people to act to get

00:35:54 --> 00:35:59

further an inspiration, and encouragement, persuasion. The

00:35:59 --> 00:36:03

next step is to actually start learning seriously, to read books

00:36:03 --> 00:36:06

to take on a subject of Islam and to understand all the subjects of

00:36:06 --> 00:36:10

Islam at least at the basic level, so that we can become more aware

00:36:10 --> 00:36:14

of what our deen wants from us. And that's why we started Rayyan

00:36:14 --> 00:36:19

courses, so that you can actually take organize lectures on demand

00:36:19 --> 00:36:22

whenever you have free time, especially for example, the

00:36:22 --> 00:36:26

Islamic essentials course that we have on there, the Islamic

00:36:26 --> 00:36:30

essentials certificate which you take 20 Short modules, and at the

00:36:30 --> 00:36:36

end of that insha Allah you will have gotten the basics of most of

00:36:36 --> 00:36:38

the most important topics in Islam and you'll feel a lot more

00:36:38 --> 00:36:41

confident. You don't have to leave lectures behind you can continue

00:36:41 --> 00:36:44

to live, you know, to listen to lectures, but you need to have

00:36:44 --> 00:36:47

this more sustained study as well. JazakAllah Heron salaam aleikum wa

00:36:47 --> 00:36:48

rahmatullah wa barakato.

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