Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Husband and Wife Bonding Projects

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speakers discuss various community projects that could benefit people, including a voluntary one for couples, a community wide one for couples, and a focus on couples in a project to improve society. They emphasize the importance of finding ways to help people and improve society, including finding ways to help people and improve society. They also discuss various random ideas and general ideas that raise money for local charities, such as raising money for local charities, oil fund, aid for Syria, aid for Syria, aid for Syria, aid for Syria, and aid for Syria. They also mention a program for children to help elderly people with computer skills and social services, and suggest organizing events and donating old clothing and food to help homeless people.

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			Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu
lillahi Hamden girthier on the
		
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			Ubud Mubarak config Mubarak anally
he can bow your head bottle buena
		
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			la Oba Jalla Jalla, who are in
Manoa who Salatu was Salam ALA. So
		
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			you can have even Mustafa
SallAllahu Tada, I think you are
		
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			and he asked me about like, I
seldom at the Sleeman kefir on
		
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			helium we've been. So Inshallah,
today the discussion is going to
		
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			be about something a bit
different. And some time ago I did
		
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			a,
		
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			a talk on the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa salam and how when he
		
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			entered into Madina, Munawwara. As
you know, from the history of
		
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			Madina, Munawwara. They used to be
different tribes, they used to be
		
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			Arab tribes, they used to be
Jewish tribes. And then, within
		
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			the Jewish tribes, there were
three tribes, and some of them
		
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			were actually
		
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			difference with one another. And
then you had the Muslim tribes,
		
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			the Olson huzzah Raj, even though
they actually came from the same
		
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			ancestor, and they actually
collectively called the Blue Kala,
		
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			that was their collective
collective term. But they had this
		
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			skirmish and problem and
difference that actually led to a
		
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			lot of violence, and that had been
going on for decades. So when the
		
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			Prophet salallahu Salam came here,
into Madina, Munawwara, from Maka,
		
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			maka, Rama, one of the first
things that he started was this
		
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			community project, there was a
number of things, one of them that
		
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			he did with the Jewish community,
which is, was this agreement or
		
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			this deal, that everybody's going
to protect one another. Medina,
		
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			the year three was ours, and we're
each gonna protect each other from
		
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			invaders, that was a community
wide thing, then, within the
		
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			Muslim community to bring them
together.
		
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			A very smart move, really perfect
move was the fact that he got them
		
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			to start on a community projects.
And the community project, as most
		
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			of us will know, was Masjid
Nabawi. And it was something that
		
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			everybody took part in. And that's
why they felt that it belonged to
		
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			them. When you do community
projects actually brings you close
		
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			together, it gives you something
to do, it's obviously a voluntary
		
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			thing, it's not something you're
doing as a paid job. When you're
		
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			doing something as a paid job.
Generally, what happens is that
		
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			you're then choosy and picky about
whether you want to do that job or
		
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			not. Because then it's about is it
worth my time, because you expect
		
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			something in return for it. So
there's all of those kinds of
		
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			decisions to make. But when it's
something voluntary, that you're
		
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			doing as long as you enjoy doing
it, or as long as there's a need
		
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			for it. And if it's both of those
things, where there's a need and
		
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			you enjoy doing it, then you will
really, really enjoy doing it. And
		
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			you'll feel really accomplished.
And this helps on a number of
		
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			fronts. So today, what I want to
discuss with us I want to actually
		
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			explore, I've got a list already
of community projects that we
		
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			could get involved in now these
are kind of generic things that
		
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			other people have compiled that
I've taken. But I want us to then
		
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			think of specific things that we
can think of that would be
		
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			relevant, more relevant to us, and
maybe even more pressing and more
		
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			needed for us. And the reason why
I say this is that husband and
		
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			wives doing this is going to start
we want to start this on a husband
		
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			and wife level, on a couple's
level, right? Because the benefit
		
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			of this is that some people just
find their life very boring. And
		
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			the kinds of stories that we
receive from husband and wives
		
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			who, even after years of being
married, you know, two years of
		
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			being married 10 years of being
married, they haven't really
		
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			broken the ice. They're living in
some kind of really strange,
		
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			cultural,
		
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			some some really strange cultural.
		
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			As a very cultural couple, I would
say that they are living the way
		
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			they may have seen other people in
their family living who never
		
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			broke the ice, even after 3040
years of marriage. Like it's just
		
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			this, you can say this, living
together, just so the convenience,
		
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			to produce children, to basically
just fulfill the fact that, okay,
		
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			I need to be with a wife, I need
to be with a husband, I need to be
		
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			married. And they're each just
performing a few responsibilities
		
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			for each other. But there is no
love or affection. There's no real
		
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			common goal as such. It's really
strange. I mean, you know, some of
		
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			you would not even believe that
that's the case. But this is the
		
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			case with some people, they just
haven't broken eyes, because they
		
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			just have no idea how to come
together.
		
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			And the focus is on the negatives
of one another.
		
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			Nobody recognizes the positives.
And the studies that the studies
		
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			that are
		
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			in psychology that have been done
about this, what generally happens
		
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			over the case over the course of a
long time, is that where there's
		
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			negatives that you start focusing
on, then any good characteristic,
		
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			anything good, any good virtue is
then last. It's not to say that
		
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			nobody that you know, these people
don't have any good virtues, that
		
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			they have no excellent
characteristics. Everybody does.
		
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			Like everybody has something good
		
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			Would you've seen people where
they really criticize somebody
		
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			who's really bad, but then you
must be able to find something
		
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			that's good about them. Now,
obviously, some people are
		
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			dominantly going to have very bad
characteristics. That's
		
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			possibility. But in order to help
a husband and wife relationship,
		
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			or even family relationship, we
extend that out to parents and
		
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			children relationship, brothers
and sisters, right children and
		
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			parents, cousins, family wide as a
whole, this can be expanded, and
		
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			then as a community,
		
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			you know, the community of our
sisters of our community, right?
		
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			All of this really, really helps.
One way to get together is to do a
		
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			common project. And doing
something for our social society,
		
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			for our community is going to be a
community project. And the benefit
		
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			of that will be that you will
actually start having to trust one
		
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			another, having to rely on one
another strengths, you know, where
		
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			one may be weak, okay, you do that
part. And I'll do this part, you
		
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			know, you do this aspect of the
job. And I'll do this aspect of
		
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			the job. When the unit were able
to complement one another in that
		
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			regard, you'll see that you'll
actually start appreciating,
		
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			you'll discover things about one
another, that will be quite
		
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			amazing. I mean, on numerous
projects, there'd be some people
		
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			the discussion would be should we
involve them or not? Like, what do
		
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			you think they can do? And
somebody said, No, involve them. I
		
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			think there'll be a good asset,
when you involve them in the
		
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			martial law, they come out to be
very, very helpful. So some people
		
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			have hidden talents, but because
the environment hasn't been right,
		
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			the setting hasn't been the
context hasn't been the right
		
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			place for them. They've never been
an opportunity to that they've
		
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			just been constantly groaning and,
and having a gripe about things.
		
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			Let people do these things. Subhan
Allah and there's so many
		
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			different things. So today, what
we're going to do is we're going
		
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			to look at that the benefits,
aside from our social community
		
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			benefits that we will have how you
will be able to benefit others
		
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			will be able to benefit ourselves,
and spiritually speaking from a
		
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			divine perspective, the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
		
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			that will Allahu Fionnula, Abdi
Makana lab do fi only he that a
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala will
remain in your assistance, as long
		
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			as you remain in assistance of
your brother or sister. So if
		
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			you're going to think about your
brother and sister out there in
		
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			the community, other people,
humanity in general as well, how
		
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			can we
		
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			do something better? How can we
improve, then Allah will assist
		
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			you in your own issues. And that's
huge. And, you know, we need to
		
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			just stop complaining about people
look at this Masjid is doing this
		
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			than the other, it's not doing
this, it's not doing that. And
		
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			there's lots of places they can
always do more. Even the most
		
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			successful masajid. Even the most
successful institutions, most
		
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			successful organizations that do a
lot of things, they're just
		
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			relatively doing more things than
others, every place can do more.
		
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			Because at the end of the day, it
depends on what the needs are, if
		
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			you've identified the need, but
the masjid can't figure it out the
		
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			Committee of the masjid or the
organization, they just don't get
		
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			it. Well, maybe you can volunteer
and give them some kind of
		
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			assurance that I'm willing to just
help purely free. I'm not trying
		
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			to control anything, not trying to
get a position. I'm not trying to
		
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			do this, because this is what
people in their chairs are worried
		
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			about. And it's a sad fact. But
let's just deal with it. It's a
		
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			sad fact. We're not talking about
how to remove people from
		
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			committees here. We're talking
about how to teach people, educate
		
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			people and help people and that's
what's important. Right, that's
		
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			really what's important. So
there's numerous Hadees to this
		
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			effect. I mean, you can, as a
community, if there is a need,
		
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			then we should feel it as much as
anybody else. I'm not even
		
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			speaking about international needs
right now, although that's very
		
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			relevant as well. But the whole
Muslim community should be like
		
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			one body as the Prophet said, a
lot of them said either stuck in
		
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			her own itch, the girl who saw it
will just get the visa hurry, will
		
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			will hammer that if just one
portion is one part one limb, one
		
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			finger, one nail is being in pain
is in pain is hurting, the entire
		
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			body should feel it. And that is
why people start complaining in
		
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			the first place. But then they
their concern gets misdirected.
		
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			This is the problem. To be honest,
I think the majority of our
		
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			concerns that we have about our
local organizations, they get
		
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			misdirected. While it starts off
on a sincere level with genuine
		
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			concern about the betterment of
our society. But then it gets
		
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			reduced to just complaints with
shaytaan ones because he doesn't
		
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			want an improvement. So we then
don't actually get any improve. We
		
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			keep waiting for somebody else to
make that improvement. And we
		
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			start the blame game. So now the
point here is that let's stop
		
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			doing all of that. And there's so
many things that we can come up
		
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			with. So I want to ask to use our
minds today from the list and of
		
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			things that we're going to look at
today to try
		
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			To see what else we can come up
with. And initially, our focus is
		
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			for couples.
		
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			Initially, our focus is for
couples that what can you do as a
		
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			couple with your husband? Right?
What project can you pick? That
		
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			he's good at? You're good at?
Because I'm speaking to sisters
		
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			today. So that's why I'm targeting
in that sense. How can you come up
		
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			with something? What is the way
then we'll get what what do we
		
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			have to do for those things? And
how do we put them now, these
		
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			things you don't have to do every
day. I mean, people are busy,
		
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			you've got your own children to
take care of, you've got your own,
		
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			maybe work that you're doing.
You're maybe you're employed
		
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			somewhere, maybe you're doing some
other great work teaching,
		
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			whatever the case is, and your
husband's probably also working
		
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			and so on. What we want to then
speak about is that it doesn't
		
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			have to be something you do every
day, it could be something you do
		
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			once a week, you can do at
weekends, or Friday nights, maybe
		
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			or one weekday night, it could be
maybe something that you do every
		
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			two weeks, or maybe once a month,
maybe not that maybe it can be
		
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			seasonal you do there's a there's
a project that we need to do at
		
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			eat. Because maybe we need to try
to get some qurbani meat together
		
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			and take it to people who are
suffering who are who don't have
		
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			so much money or shelters, let
them have some meat at that time
		
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			as well from the qurbani, they get
the book and blessing as well.
		
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			Maybe some kind of Ramadan drive.
So it could be a seasonal thing.
		
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			It doesn't have to be, it doesn't
have to be just, it could be to do
		
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			with Hajj, maybe collect money to
send people who are older now and
		
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			can't still go for Hajj, maybe you
know, we can help them go for it.
		
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			So it could be seasonal things as
well. There's no, there's no, you
		
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			know, there's no
		
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			limit as to how much you could do.
And there's no minimum that you
		
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			must do, it's just getting an
idea. And believe me,
		
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			it will have a huge impact.
Because when you have a common
		
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			goal, you'd be surprised about the
kinds of things you learn about
		
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			one another.
		
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			And when you do things together,
and you you basically have to
		
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			experience successes and setbacks,
and then think about how to deal
		
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			with so let's just say that you're
doing your well, you're welcoming
		
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			homeless, you're welcoming
refugees into the into the area,
		
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			right, you're, you're helping them
set up home, for example, or
		
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			you're helping feeding for the
food bank, right helping feeding
		
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			homeless people, for example, on a
Friday or you know, weekend or
		
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			whatever it is, whether you're
helping to educate, tutor
		
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			children, because you know, you're
Your husband's a teacher, maybe
		
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			you're a teacher, you want to set
up like tutoring for disadvantaged
		
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			children, or for needy children or
for underprivileged, or whatever
		
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			it may be, you'll be surprised
that you may run into a, you may
		
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			run into a bit of a challenge that
where you're going to hold this,
		
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			right, because maybe your home is
not big enough for it, you're
		
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			gonna run into a challenge, you're
gonna start putting your minds
		
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			together.
		
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			Normally, you're bickering about
silly things. But now you're
		
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			actually putting your mind
together, to think about how you
		
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			can overcome this challenge, you
suddenly become a team, Team,
		
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			develop teams develop love for one
another, that it's just a natural
		
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			thing that when you do things with
people, and you then start seeing
		
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			their qualities, because they're
going to come up with some idea
		
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			that other that you may think is
wonderful, that causes attraction.
		
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			And the thing is that this happens
in the workplace, and sometimes to
		
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			the detriment of husband and wives
of their married lives. Because
		
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			there's a lot of people who will
say that, that the husband common
		
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			thing that the woman who works
with that at his colleague, is
		
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			much better than his wife, because
she seems to be so much more
		
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			intelligent or caring, or
compassionate. You know, she, she
		
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			offers to make him tea once in a
while, or she offers to help him
		
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			out with something. Likewise, a
woman who's working, she's going
		
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			to think that about a male
colleague, who might say, you
		
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			know, I'm going to the coach,
should I bring you some coffee,
		
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			right. And she doesn't have to do
that, or he doesn't have to do
		
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			that, or whatever it is, you know.
So when you're working together,
		
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			and in a lot of jobs, you actually
work on projects together. So then
		
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			when you have these setbacks, when
you have challenges, you try to
		
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			come to common, you work on it
together, you try to come to some
		
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			kind of some kind of escape from
these things, some kind of
		
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			solution for these things, that
brings you together. And then
		
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			after that, the most wonderful
thing is that when you actually
		
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			finish a project, and you actually
see the see the fruits of that
		
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			project, right, and in this case,
if your volunteer tearing, that
		
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			kind of you know, the that kind of
success, and that kind of result
		
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			is amazing, the kind of dopamine
that it provides the kind of you
		
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			know, it just makes you want to do
things again, and it brings you
		
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			closer together so that there
can't be any harm in doing this.
		
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			And then it's a sadaqa jariya
Inshallah, right the rewards that
		
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			you get for helping other people.
The community improves if a family
		
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			unit improves.
		
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			If a husband and wife improves
their children's situation,
		
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			environment will improve. If that
improves, we'll have had a
		
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			healthier families healthier
children in the community, right?
		
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			I just think better do better
communities, families will
		
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			improve, because then eventually
what's going to happen is somebody
		
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			is going to see you're doing that.
And they're going to want to help.
		
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			But they're gonna want to do
something similar. Right? For
		
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			example, I gave a talk about
community about leaving sadaqa
		
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			jariya, leaving some kind of
perpetual charity. And there was
		
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			several people that came to me,
for example, is one of them. He
		
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			says, yes, there's an old man in
that we know, he started helping
		
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			people, I think, in Bangladesh, or
somewhere, or Myanmar, in Burma.
		
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			And, you know, we, we, he's an old
man, right, and he collects
		
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			people's money, he and these, this
this person that I was speaking
		
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			these men, they said that we've
got much more access to funds than
		
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			he does. So we're gonna get
encouraged. Now, they got
		
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			encouraged to do this by looking
at that man, by listening to the
		
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			talk, they made that connection.
And now they want to do the same
		
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			thing. So that old man who started
that volunteering, you know, for
		
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			and helping that relief for Burma,
he gets reward for what he's done.
		
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			But he's also now going to get
reward for those people who've
		
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			been inspired by seeing what he's
done. And that's just free reward
		
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			and free investment. So there's it
this is just like a no brainer.
		
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			Now, I don't know what you're
thinking sitting down here, you
		
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			know, like, what's your thoughts
about this already? Like, what am
		
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			I going to do? Right, I can just
imagine that she'd been telling us
		
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			like, what are you going to do? My
husband? I'm not going to work
		
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			with him. Like, you know, what's
he going to do? You know, don't
		
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			start off on the negative this
listen to the possibilities. Now,
		
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			there's a few things here that I'm
going to, I'm going to I'm going
		
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			to discuss that kind of gives us
some idea of how you look at this.
		
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			Like, why should a person
participate? I've mentioned a
		
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			number of things. And this is what
people say, it gives you a way to
		
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			help others.
		
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			I mean, it gives you I mean,
helping others has some of the
		
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			greatest level of satisfaction.
		
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			When you help others, and you see
that they've been helped, and you
		
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			hear that they've been helped,
they just does something, it makes
		
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			your life worth living.
		
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			It helps you improve your
community. Right? It helps you I
		
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			mean, they say if your children
get involved in helped to
		
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			strengthen their resume in college
applications, I mean, it's,
		
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			that's, that's a side byproduct,
Alhamdulillah, you're going to
		
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			meet a lot of new people in this,
you're going to get access to a
		
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			lot of people's lives. And you
will be enriched by that, it will
		
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			give you the opportunity to do
sugar for what you have, when you
		
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			see what others don't have, and
you're helping them and will give
		
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			you a cause for thanking Allah
subhanaw taala, really, and it's
		
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			going to make you new friends,
possibly, it's going to make maybe
		
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			some of them will be able to help
you out with something else make
		
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			your life more enriched.
		
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			Of course, it results in personal
growth, because it is mentioned
		
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			from a spiritual perspective. And
also just as a human being, you're
		
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			going to feel better that when you
leave this world that 100 Life
		
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			helped out this many 1000 people,
or I've started this project and
		
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			that project and look, mashallah,
it's continuing, right. And
		
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			there's, there's just numerous
things, this is numerous things
		
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			like so there's a, there's a list
here that I have, again, this is
		
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			just a list. And some of this may
not be relevant to us. But I want
		
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			us to get ideas from this. So you
know, maybe get out your pieces of
		
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			paper or phones or whatever and
start thinking if you come up with
		
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			any ideas, put them down, and then
I'll take your ideas. Inshallah,
		
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			at the end, these are just for
consideration.
		
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			Now, firstly, you should probably
try to think that,
		
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			is there a particular group of
people that I would like to help?
		
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			Is there a particular cause that
I'm very passionate about? Think
		
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			of the generally the cause you're
passionate about is the one you
		
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			generally complain about. Right?
So are you always complaining
		
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			about
		
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			education? Are you always
complaining about the Masjid? Are
		
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			you always complaining about the
committee? Are you always
		
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			complaining about poor people not
enough is doing or not for Syria?
		
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			Right, for example, then maybe
that's where your passion lies,
		
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			most likely, because that's the
one you feel like you want to
		
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			complain about. It's possible. So
what are your passions and
		
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			interests?
		
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			What are you good at? So maybe
somebody is very good at baking.
		
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			So we're going to try to use
baking in something. And you'd be
		
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			surprised what you can do with
baking. Right? I mean, there's so
		
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			much that you can get through
baking, you know, you can get
		
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			access to people like that. Right?
You can help a lot of people that
		
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			you can generate a lot of funds
like that as well. Are you good at
		
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			cooking?
		
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			Are you good at speaking? Are you
good at coordinating?
		
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			Or are you just good at
complaining?
		
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			What are you complaining about? So
think about these things. So these
		
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			are some very random general
ideas. I mean, some of the most
		
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			common ones, right? raising money
for your local charity. So we have
		
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			numerous local charities, we have
no Oil Fund, obviously we have, we
		
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			have the those containers that go
to Syria, right, the aid for
		
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			Syria, aid convoy that goes to
Syria. And we have a number of
		
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			others that, you know, I can't
think of, you know, mentioning
		
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			their name right now, but there's
numerous others. So you can just
		
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			get on to something that's already
happening. That's generally easier
		
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			sometimes hold a bake sale for
your favorite charity, your local
		
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			charity, another charity, your
mother's, the local masjid, or
		
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			whatever the case is, or for the
homeless shelter.
		
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			These are just some random things,
right? Go and find a lonely person
		
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			in your community, an old
grandparent whose children
		
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			unfortunately are neglecting their
neglectful, they are working all
		
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			day they don't really look after
she's just, I mean, she wants to
		
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			go back to India or Pakistan or
somewhere.
		
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			You know, I really feel sorry for
some of our old elderly here, they
		
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			want to go back to their village
because there it's sunny, at
		
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			least, you know, they've got
people to speak to there's always
		
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			somebody passing by. I remember I
was in India just now for two days
		
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			in my village, and one of my dad's
cousin brothers, like an uncle of
		
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			mine, it comes along and he was
sitting outside, right? And he
		
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			says, I've just come to help you
pass your time. I'm like, what is
		
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			that? For me, that's just really
strange. Because, you know, when
		
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			you're always doing something or
other, you don't have any time you
		
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			don't need pastime, right. But in
a village, there's a lot of
		
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			pastime. That's why they do a lot
of talking. And then it leads to
		
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			obviously a lot of Hebrew as well.
But that's a problem. But, but
		
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			it's, it's very difficult for them
to be here cooped up in a house
		
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			with the weather that we have. But
the problem is that they can't go
		
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			back either. Because there's
nobody there to look after them.
		
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			There's people to visit them, but
there's nobody to look after them.
		
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			Because all their children are
here, this is really weird limbo,
		
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			where in in this generation, it's
probably going to take another
		
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			3050 years to resolve this.
Because then eventually,
		
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			everybody's going to become, you
know, second third generation
		
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			people here, their parents are
going to be here as well. But this
		
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			is the thing that we have to think
about. So you've got a lot of
		
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			people like this who are in their
homes, they don't have anybody. So
		
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			it might be a good idea to go and
speak to them. Not not doing
		
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			PunchOut, but just go and speak to
them, whatever, then take them out
		
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			to maybe
		
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			maybe even gather them together
for all peoples tea tea or
		
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			something like that just makes
them feel a bit better. Right
		
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			leaves, removes the depression
removes that kind of feeling from
		
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			them. And of course, we have
actually got people and which
		
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			we've spoken about before. Here's
what we've got people in all
		
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			people's homes as well. Right and
Hamdulillah I think some sisters
		
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			did start going there. And I think
that's really appreciated.
		
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			There's always charity auctions
that are taking place, help
		
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			deliver. I mean, this is something
that we don't probably do help
		
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			deliver meals and gifts to
patients or local hospitals.
		
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			I mean, you just contact the
Muslim chaplain, then they'll tell
		
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			you about the Muslims there who
sometimes don't have any family,
		
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			there's nobody there to I mean,
you know, a lot of our family
		
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			Alhamdulillah the hospital has to
kick us out. Right? Because we
		
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			have so many people go to the
hospital that we are kind of
		
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			overrun the hospital. And after
then regulate the only two people
		
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			allowed otherwise, you know,
mashallah, in our community,
		
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			especially the majority community,
I mean, the whole, the whole clan
		
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			turns up at the hospital
hamdulillah generally, but there's
		
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			a lot of people that doesn't
happen to and there's people who's
		
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			not even there for curry Mandela.
So that's why the chaplain has to
		
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			take care of that. But there's a
lot of thing there's, there's even
		
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			women there who are giving birth,
and they're from communities that
		
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			don't have an extended community,
they new members of, you know, a
		
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			new community, and their their
husband's at work, or he's
		
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			somewhere else, he can't be there.
Right. So there's people that can
		
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			go and help them. In fact, there's
people who are in hospitals, who
		
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			don't know how to speak English. A
friend of mine, another Maulana he
		
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			was at, at the hospital for his
wife, and he noticed that with a
		
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			few other women, and they were
treated being treated really
		
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			badly. You know, by some of the
nurses, you get that you know,
		
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			somebody that's it not all the
nurses are the same measure that
		
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			we have really good nurses, but
then you do have a few, you know,
		
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			are not willing to give the extra
because maybe they're overworked
		
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			or whatever the case is. So that
is another factor that women can
		
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			even take into consideration to go
and find out from us and get some
		
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			relationship with the nurses there
with the administration there,
		
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			that if you need somebody, we know
we're willing to come in at least
		
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			once a week or whenever there's a
need to help somebody out to do a
		
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			translation for people.
Interpretation. That's an
		
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			important because, you know, we
still have people who don't speak
		
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			English. I mean, it's there. It's
they've just come new.
		
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			Right? So now let's kind of look
at it more in a topical sense,
		
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			helping children in schools.
Right. And again, think about what
		
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			you know, is more relevant to us.
So tutoring children, you know,
		
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			after school or in weekends, and I
know they had something like that.
		
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			Clapton, my brother, who's a
teacher's at City Academy. He's he
		
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			and a few of his friends, they
started like this where they would
		
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			tutor children in the weekends.
		
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			Right. And that was a free service
that they were providing, because
		
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			that's how you're going to get
better students, better children
		
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			from our community. That's a
hikma. At the end of the day, you
		
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			have to have a good intention for
this and it's a big, it's a good
		
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			kid, my inshallah. And those
children will feel good about it.
		
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			Because if they psychologically
feel that, you know, mashallah,
		
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			we've got a boost from our masjid,
tutoring by our, you know, Masjid
		
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			through our masjid, they're going
to it's going to strengthen their
		
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			bond with Islam, you're always
worried about losing our children,
		
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			but we have to think out of the
box, and more practically, about
		
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			how we can help them. So I don't
know, I mean, many of you, our
		
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			children, our teachers and to, you
know, have PGS or is a PGDCA, or
		
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			whatever, pgcs, or whatever you
have, right? That that could be a
		
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			help there as well.
		
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			I mean, this isn't, these aren't
my idea. So these sound a bit
		
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			weird, like, you know, knit baby
blankets to be donated to
		
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			hospitals or homeless shelters. I
mean, that's if you're good at
		
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			knitting, you'd probably think
I'll just go and buy one, collect
		
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			baby clothes and supply supply
them to, to donate to new parents.
		
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			There's probably parents out there
who don't have, especially the new
		
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			refugees and others who don't
have, you'd be surprised, you
		
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			know, working through novel, novel
benevolence. And we've actually
		
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			discovered there's a lot of poor
people. I know, we've mentioned
		
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			this before here. And I think over
the last four or five years, we
		
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			probably spent over 100,000, just
in the local area, just in
		
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			Hackney, Waltham Forest, and a bit
of
		
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			what you call a forest gate area.
Majority from Hackney though,
		
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			you'd be surprised how many people
are in need in these areas, just
		
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			because you are eating well, and
were eating well, and everyone or
		
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			your cousins have a nice house and
they're sorted. It doesn't mean
		
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			everybody else is Hamdulillah.
Allah has blessed our community,
		
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			there's no doubt about that. But
there are that doesn't mean that
		
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			everybody else is right, that
everybody else has the same kind
		
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			of mashallah disposable income
that you do. Another one, if
		
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			you're good at sports or whatever,
fitness, go and coach a youth
		
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			sports team, go and give exercise
classes to our women. I mean, they
		
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			need it. Right? Because
unfortunately, I mean, you know,
		
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			we don't have this tradition of
exercise. So why are women do a
		
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			lot of work at home, they're
moving around cooking. That's not
		
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			enough for the general fitness.
Really, it's not the, it's not,
		
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			it's not enough for the general
fitness, they say I move around
		
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			all day. But that's not enough.
There has to be some exertion as
		
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			well. And there has to be some
fitness classes and I'm sure they
		
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			always appreciated. So if you're
good at that, and that's something
		
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			that you can assist with then
then, you know, try to organize
		
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			that somewhere. Don't give up this
you're gonna get treated that way
		
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			should we do it? The Masjid the
community center, the the UN
		
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			organization we say no, you can't
do it here for whatever reason,
		
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			well find another place. Keep
trying to give free Quran lessons
		
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			to children or does like tutoring
Quran in the weekend. Sometimes
		
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			the mother says not enough, the
teacher has maybe 1520 students
		
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			and there's just not enough
there's some children who need
		
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			more help offer that as a service.
		
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			I don't know if anybody does that.
It looks like the Quran teaching
		
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			has all become like paid job, but
you could don't do it for free.
		
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			Right? They are people they must
be people and then it's not that
		
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			does not forget children. There
are adults who don't read. They
		
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			just haven't had any teaching when
they were young. If you don't see
		
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			that in your own community,
meaning your own ethnic community,
		
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			look at another community. I'm
telling you, there's a lot of
		
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			people out there who are
struggling. They've never let read
		
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			Quran when they've been they've
been growing up and they would
		
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			love to do so target that
community get an access into the
		
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			community by finding an individual
say look, you know, this is
		
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			something send out the WhatsApp so
whatever it is, Allah has taught
		
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			you the Quran helped somebody
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			Allah Allah is the One who studied
the Quran and who teaches it, this
		
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			is maybe your way of teaching it.
		
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			If you can get them to read the
Quran before they die Subhanallah
		
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			what a wonderful thing. If you're
good at speaking to people, and
		
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			like, you know, you've had some,
maybe some experience with young
		
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			children become a volunteer for
teen crisis. There's a lot of
		
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			teens out there who are undergoing
crisis, they don't even want to
		
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			tell anybody, parents don't even
tell anybody. But if we have
		
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			proper services in place, and
proper people doing this, then
		
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			then I'm sure more people be
willing to open up because then
		
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			people don't know where to go
organise a summer reading program
		
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			to encourage children to read.
		
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			Write babysit children during a
religious program. There's a lot
		
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			of need for that. I tell you that.
Because, for example, I mean, the
		
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			biggest problem is that when women
there's a women's program, or a
		
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			program that women can attend, one
of the biggest stumbling blocks
		
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			for them the obstacles is
generally where do they leave
		
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			their children? They take their
children, they're gonna cause a
		
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			disturbance to others, right, this
is their fear. Right? And you can
		
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			generally hear your child louder
than anybody else. So you I mean,
		
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			there are some people are very
insensitive, but most people will
		
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			hear that
		
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			Children. Right? So where do you
leave them? So go and volunteer at
		
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			a program? Do you guys have
babysitting facilities? No. Okay,
		
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			I'm willing to volunteer for that.
babysitting. This is very
		
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			expensive. So that's why a lot of
programs don't even think about
		
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			it. And mashallah, I think we've
started here, and may Allah bless
		
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			those who are helping us in this
regard, because this really helps.
		
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			I mean, women need time for that
to themselves where somebody is
		
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			looking after the children, they
can go and benefit. Why should it
		
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			be that it's only the men who are
attending programs, and then you
		
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			keep complaining about their
wives. And then they keep
		
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			complaining about women? Right,
let's help them. But if the men
		
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			don't help you, you help yourself,
you're not going to tell a long
		
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			day of judgment a minute and help
us, they didn't organize it, go
		
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			and volunteer for it, you can do
it the powers in your hand.
		
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			There's a lot of people who love
to do these kinds of things, who a
		
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			lot of organizations that would
love to offer these things, but
		
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			they don't know where to look,
they're not fully committed. If
		
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			you find some, if you go and
volunteer Subhanallah Can you
		
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			imagine all the reward you're
gonna get for those parents who
		
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			learn and who be improve, will
become reformed to do something
		
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			different, you're gonna get reward
of their of, you're gonna get a
		
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			reward for a share of their
reward. So it's not a waste of
		
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			time that you're doing.
		
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			organise a reading hour for
children at a local school library
		
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			or masjid,
		
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			you know, for the younger children
so that they get some association
		
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			with the masjid or whatever the
case is. And again, this can be
		
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			part of a program. I remember, I
was invited to this program in the
		
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			east of London. Further east. It
was from the Nigerian community.
		
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			And I really liked what they had
organized. So that while we were
		
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			doing the program, in a while I
was speaking to the men and the
		
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			women, they had, I think they had
the youth somewhere. And they had
		
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			the children in another program.
So they'd actually invited
		
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			somebody to talk to the children
and tell them stories, or whatever
		
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			it was, the youth had another
program, and it was all the
		
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			parents that we were speaking to.
So I thought that was very well
		
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			organized. We just don't have that
concept of our programs.
		
00:32:08 --> 00:32:12
			For men, for women, and we forget
the children, I mean, I would
		
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			allow it to like that we we give
really, really hot foods, hot
		
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			biryani that the adults love and
the children don't enjoy it.
		
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			Right? We just don't think about
our children, these programs,
		
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			unfortunately.
		
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			And we do think about that we feed
them pizza, junk food. So we got
		
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			no clever ideas in that. And
that's really sad.
		
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			volunteer to help with an Islamic
school or other religious program.
		
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			Right, any of your local
organizations. You can volunteer
		
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			to help there. We've got
nurseries, we've got community
		
00:32:40 --> 00:32:43
			centers, we've got housing
associations, we've got
		
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			educational facilities, we've got
academies, we've got, Institute's
		
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			we've got so many different
things. And all of these places
		
00:32:50 --> 00:32:53
			need volunteers. I guarantee you
all of these places need
		
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			volunteers. You know, whether
that's to fix something, whether
		
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			that's to clean something, whether
that's to sweep something, there's
		
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			a thing for everyone, I'm telling
you that you'd be surprised. Think
		
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			what you can do and go and say,
Look, this is what I'm willing to
		
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			do. Do you need some service here?
		
00:33:10 --> 00:33:13
			Right, I'm just going to quickly
go through these because I want
		
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			time to hear from you. Helping
senior citizens visit and read to
		
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			residents and nursing home,
deliver groceries and meals to
		
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			elderly neighbors.
		
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			Or at least help them on ordering
online these days. Right? That's
		
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			easy. You don't even have to go
for them. What do you need order
		
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			online for them? Maybe they just
don't know how to do it online
		
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			through Morrison's or whatever,
right? teach computer skills to
		
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			the elderly. If they're always
coming to can you fill in this
		
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			form for me? Can you do this for
me? Well teach them or get some
		
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			older people and teach them I'm
sure you guys there's a lot of you
		
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			are computer savvy.
		
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			Drive seniors to doctor
appointments,
		
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			get them to doctor appointment
hospital appointments. More an
		
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			elderly neighbor's lawn if they've
got a nice lawn to clean their
		
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			house or whatever. Right? Help and
gather this and distribute qurbani
		
00:34:00 --> 00:34:03
			meat to the needy and old and
elderly and shelters. Pick up
		
00:34:03 --> 00:34:06
			medicine for an elderly neighbor.
Because that's sometimes an issue.
		
00:34:07 --> 00:34:09
			Go to the doctor pick up that's a
big hassle sometimes to go and get
		
00:34:09 --> 00:34:13
			your prescription help elderly
neighbors clean their homes and
		
00:34:13 --> 00:34:17
			organize their belongings. Right?
When it's snowing or something
		
00:34:17 --> 00:34:21
			gone help them you know, clear
clear out the garden or whatever
		
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			it may or whatever it is. deliver
food for them sometimes if they
		
00:34:24 --> 00:34:26
			need I mean you don't have to do
this everyday, once a month you
		
00:34:26 --> 00:34:30
			give food to somebody that will be
appreciate they're not gonna say
		
00:34:30 --> 00:34:33
			why don't you give it to me every
day. If they're never getting like
		
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			a good food and if you give them
good food that would be useful.
		
00:34:40 --> 00:34:42
			I mean, it could be something like
you're going to growing flowers in
		
00:34:42 --> 00:34:46
			your backyard. Then make bouquets
and give them to patients give
		
00:34:46 --> 00:34:48
			them to get get give them to
people are going to be happy about
		
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			them.
		
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			Helping the hungry and homeless.
Donate your old clothes, collect
		
00:34:54 --> 00:34:57
			other people's old clothes from
your family and go and donate them
		
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			somewhere. Volunteer at soup
kitchen
		
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			I donate non perishable food to a
food bank, we waste a lot of food
		
00:35:03 --> 00:35:07
			by the way, right? Our Communities
unfortunately waste a lot of
		
00:35:07 --> 00:35:11
			foods. So find some way that we
can bring that together donate
		
00:35:11 --> 00:35:14
			blankets to a homeless shelter,
host the Ramadan and eat dinner
		
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			for people who may not be able to
cook for themselves and have that
		
00:35:18 --> 00:35:22
			same kind of enjoyment offered to
babysitter nanny for a family in
		
00:35:22 --> 00:35:23
			need.
		
00:35:24 --> 00:35:27
			Right? prepare home cooked meal
for the residents of nearby
		
00:35:27 --> 00:35:31
			homeless shelter, babysit children
while their parents look for jobs
		
00:35:31 --> 00:35:34
			because they've just starting off
maybe or they're going through
		
00:35:34 --> 00:35:36
			jobs and they're having the it's
tough for them.
		
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			Bake a batch of cookies or loaf of
bread or whatever and delivered to
		
00:35:42 --> 00:35:45
			a local soup kitchen. Or maybe do
it for a masjid program or
		
00:35:45 --> 00:35:50
			something or whatever it is.
Right? One as the kid is getting
		
00:35:50 --> 00:35:52
			happy here, right? Do it do it for
this program, Mashallah.
		
00:35:54 --> 00:35:57
			Then there could be other things
like reducing crime and promoting
		
00:35:57 --> 00:35:59
			safety in your community, that's
something we're very behind. And
		
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			unfortunately, we just don't have
that system. Whereas we know of
		
00:36:02 --> 00:36:06
			other communities that have that
system in place. Organize a self
		
00:36:06 --> 00:36:09
			defense workshop. So if you're
into your martial arts, because I
		
00:36:09 --> 00:36:13
			know we have sisters who are
mashallah quite advanced, right in
		
00:36:13 --> 00:36:17
			terms of the, you know, some
various martial arts, organize a
		
00:36:17 --> 00:36:21
			drug free campaign, starter, or
join a neighborhood watch program,
		
00:36:21 --> 00:36:24
			create a distributor list of
hotlines for people who might need
		
00:36:24 --> 00:36:30
			help, like just resources. And
then, you know, email and WhatsApp
		
00:36:30 --> 00:36:33
			them out to everybody become with
a CPR certified
		
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			first idea, become because you
need some people like that
		
00:36:37 --> 00:36:40
			locally. I mean, if nothing else,
plant flowers at your local Masjid
		
00:36:40 --> 00:36:42
			on Mother's Day, if they would
appreciate it.
		
00:36:44 --> 00:36:46
			I don't know if anybody's ever
thought of that. But that's a
		
00:36:46 --> 00:36:49
			great idea. Makes makes people
feel good. And planting is a
		
00:36:49 --> 00:36:53
			massive therapy. Gardening they
say is like a wonderful therapy.
		
00:36:54 --> 00:36:56
			It really helps. In fact,
		
00:36:57 --> 00:36:59
			they come out with some amazing
there's what they call it a
		
00:36:59 --> 00:37:04
			Christine therapy right now, which
is for ADHD kids. They're
		
00:37:04 --> 00:37:08
			benefiting from being with
animals. So for ADHD kids, they
		
00:37:08 --> 00:37:12
			really help when they go and work
with horses, start riding horses
		
00:37:12 --> 00:37:15
			start and caring for them. I mean,
this is all natural stuff. I mean,
		
00:37:15 --> 00:37:18
			it's the computers which are
messing us up. It's the games.
		
00:37:19 --> 00:37:21
			That's what's messing us up. It's
messing up parents and messing
		
00:37:21 --> 00:37:24
			everybody up. We're completely
losing our connection with our
		
00:37:24 --> 00:37:29
			nature without saved the animals
with other people as well. So
		
00:37:29 --> 00:37:31
			there's so many other things. And
again, this is not an exhaustive
		
00:37:31 --> 00:37:35
			list. Yeah, there's another
another suggestion that we missed,
		
00:37:35 --> 00:37:40
			which was we've got a lot of
mashallah reverts. And sometimes
		
00:37:40 --> 00:37:44
			they actually go through some very
great difficulties, part of their
		
00:37:44 --> 00:37:48
			test Subhanallah to just get them
closer to Allah. But it puts a
		
00:37:48 --> 00:37:54
			massive strain on the Eman and we
need to help reverts. And I think
		
00:37:54 --> 00:37:57
			the best way to do that is the
Prophetic way. And the prophetic
		
00:37:57 --> 00:37:58
			way is more our hearts.
		
00:37:59 --> 00:38:02
			Right? Because I remember there's
in India, there's mashallah one
		
00:38:02 --> 00:38:07
			Sheikh who's done a lot of work in
converting Hindus. And I said,
		
00:38:07 --> 00:38:10
			look, the problem we have here is
that I get converted, but then
		
00:38:10 --> 00:38:11
			there's nobody look after him. He
says, you need to do more our
		
00:38:11 --> 00:38:15
			hearts, which is create the
Brotherhood or sisterhood in this
		
00:38:15 --> 00:38:20
			case, right sisters. So the idea
is that there used to be a few
		
00:38:20 --> 00:38:24
			families that kind of adopt this
sister in a sense to help her out.
		
00:38:25 --> 00:38:28
			Right, not in a way that they you
know, that she's vulnerable or
		
00:38:28 --> 00:38:30
			whatever in that sense, but you
know, you know, in a very
		
00:38:30 --> 00:38:33
			respectable in a respectable
manner that they can help them
		
00:38:33 --> 00:38:38
			out. And because we need to
strengthen, we need to have
		
00:38:38 --> 00:38:41
			strength in that regard. That's
very important. Otherwise a lot of
		
00:38:41 --> 00:38:43
			people lose I mean, there's people
could lose their faith in this
		
00:38:43 --> 00:38:47
			regard, and it's our fault because
we didn't help. So we ask Allah
		
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			for assistance, just like a large
hadron particle Lovick