Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – How to Conduct a Marriage on Zoom

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speaker discusses the idea of having multiple people in one place during a lockdown. They explain that the idea is to make it physically possible to have a marriage, and that the physical presence of the participants is crucial. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of having a strong marriage, and encourages the attendees to contact them for further questions.

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			Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim.
		
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			There's a question that is quite
often asked, and especially during
		
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			the lockdown is how does one
		
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			conduct a marriage, how is a
marriage and Nika conducted in the
		
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			Islamically sound way, during a
lockdown when people cannot gather
		
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			and all be in one place, because
generally what you have is you
		
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			have the bride, you have the
groom, and you have generally a
		
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			representative of the bride. And
you have two witnesses, and you
		
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			generally have a shake, or
somebody who's going to conduct
		
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			the Nica. And you have generally
other people as well. Now that's
		
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			happening, you know, that's very
difficult sometimes do in a
		
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			masjid, or otherwise. So I've done
a few knickers during this time
		
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			when I did in America, and another
one in Sharla, I'm going to do
		
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			today. So the way to do it is
actually not that difficult, it's
		
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			actually quite easy. The
assumption is that if the, if the
		
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			if the bride and groom are in
different places, let's just say
		
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			like, let's just say that Mohammed
is in the UK, in London, and his
		
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			wife to be is, is in Morocco, or
is in India, or Pakistan, or
		
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			Egypt, or wherever it is, then
generally, what happens is that,
		
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			you know, you can get together on
Zoom. But physically, this is the
		
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			condition that physically there
needs to be the the main people
		
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			need to be together physically.
Now, it's difficult if the wife
		
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			cannot be in the UK because of
visa issues, or whatever. So
		
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			generally, what happens as in when
we do I mean, normal days as well,
		
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			that the wife makes somebody her
representative. So what she would
		
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			do from Morocco, or Egypt or
wherever, is that she would make
		
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			somebody here, who knows Mohammed,
maybe his brother, maybe his
		
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			father, maybe somebody else, the
representative to represent her.
		
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			And she can send him an email, or
a letter or something of that
		
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			nature to make him the represent I
make it the representative for my
		
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			marriage to Mohammed for this
dowry amount, mahatva, Timmy 1000
		
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			pounds, whatever it is, right?
Once she's done that, that person
		
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			becomes a representative. Now,
physically speaking, the four
		
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			people that need to be together in
one place is the groom, and the
		
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			bride or the bride's
representative. So in this case,
		
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			is the brighter of those two
people need to be in the same
		
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			place, along with the two
witnesses who witness them, the
		
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			shake, conducting the Nikka
doesn't have to be physically
		
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			present, he can be present on a
phone on Zoom, right? Through some
		
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			wireless contact or some sort,
then they can be whoever else
		
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			wants to be, there can also be
present over zoom. But the four
		
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			people need to be there, they
could be in one place, they could
		
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			be, you know, distancing
themselves, as long as they can
		
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			see and hear one another. That's
enough. So now what will happen is
		
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			that the Sheikh will, you know,
point out who the groom is
		
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			Mohammed, and the representative
of the bride, the bride can be on
		
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			zoom as well. But generally
speaking, we have the
		
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			representative of the bride
physically present, because she's
		
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			in another country. So let's just
say Brother use of right who's a
		
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			cousin of Muhammad, he is
representing the bride. Right? Oh,
		
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			it's his uncle, for example. So
she is representing bride. So now
		
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			the Sheikh will ask the brides
representative that you as the
		
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			bride's representative, take her
name, right? Whatever, Selma,
		
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			personnel, whatever her name is
that, do you give consent to her
		
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			marriage to Mohammed? And you'll
say, Yes, you know, for this dowry
		
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			amount in front of the Two
Witnesses, and the groom will,
		
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			will be asked that, do you accept
her in your marriage for the set
		
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			amount in front of witnesses? And
you'll say, yes. Right. So the
		
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			witness the two witnesses who are
present there, you know, they're
		
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			physically witnessing this, that's
all you need, right? The two
		
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			males, right, could be one male
and two females as well, but
		
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			generally two males, and that's
it, the Nikka is done, and
		
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			everybody else is watching online,
right, there's just not going to
		
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			be probably any food or whatever.
Now, obviously, the you can give a
		
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			one email, one walima doesn't have
to be, it's the husband's
		
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			responsibility to give a one
email, he can give good feet to
		
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			three people, he can send some
food somewhere, right, you know,
		
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			get an Uber Delivery or something
to several people, and, or
		
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			whatever the case is. And that's
it. That's it. So just to
		
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			reiterate, the main thing is to
actually just have
		
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			the four main people in one place,
the groom, the bride's
		
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			representative, and the two
witnesses, the shake can be
		
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			somebody else somewhere else. And
anybody you know, there can be
		
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			other people watching as well.
This is according to the agreed
		
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			upon. There are other views that
make it a bit more lenient about
		
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			certain other differences, but I
think just to keep it safe, why,
		
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			especially since it's possible
just to make this proxy of someone
		
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			to Representative represent, then
this is the way it should be done.
		
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			May Allah bless your nickels and,
you know, don't delay don't delay
		
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			marriages because of this, you
know, because of the pandemic. Get
		
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			married if you have to. And if you
have any other questions, just
		
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			contact us. Allah bless us.