Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Hadith Series Get Allah and People to Love You
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on the authority of a bull Abbas saheliyon Who said that his name a
sir Ed, or the Allahu anhu, may Allah be pleased with him who said
that a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, and
said, O Messenger of Allah, Ya rasool Allah,
direct me to an act, which if I do, if I do it,
Allah will love me.
So if I do that act, Allah will love me. And people will love me
as well. That's wonderful.
So Allah loves me and the people love me hamdulillah So the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, renounce the world. And
Allah will love you and renounce what is in what the people
possess. And the people will love you. So essentially, he's asking,
he wants success, he wants people to love him. So when people love
you, you have less aggravation.
You'd rather be loved and hated.
I mean, on on a normal day, you'd you'd rather have people love you
than to hate you. But they better love you in a balanced way.
Otherwise, that could become difficult as well. If somebody is
obsessed by you. And then we have issues with people stalking others
because they love them and it's not be unwanted love. This is good
love that should be coming from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. Now, if
Allah subhanaw taala loves you generally the idea is that if
Allah loves you, then Allah generally puts Kaboul
there's a long Hadith about that where it says that when Allah
subhanaw taala, loves the person he calls Gabriella salaam, and he
said, I love such and such a person, so you must love him as
well. Now when jeera is Salam, he is on the order. So when he begins
to love, and he then spreads that among the angels, and then the
angels have work to do in the world, on this sublunary world as
such, so then he puts that in the minds of people here as well. So
then the people begin to love the person.
So the Sahaba is asking the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam that I'd like something which will cause both Allah and
the people to love me. This hadith is according to ignore Hydral hate
me or hate mahalo is a great Sharpie scholar Mahad, this fucky,
jurist and so on. He said that if you look at all the Hadith that we
have, and you were to distill them down to a few Hadith as to, which
are those Hadith which you can say, form the basis of Islam,
where if you were to I mean, just hypothetically say that if you
were to lose all the Hadith, and you only had four left, you could
still understand your faith from my Dar Al Islam, that essentially
the foundation of Islam is upon them, that are very profound, this
is one of them. And that's obviously why it's made its way
into the top 40 of Imam know his collection, right is the reason
for it. You know what I said earlier, that when Allah subhanaw
taala loves somebody, then he tells Gibreel and then there's
this whole series of events and then eventually people love them.
We can understand that from a verse in in the Quran as well in
Surah Maryam where Allah subhanho wa Taala says, in the Lavina
Ermanno, while Amira asylee had
those people who believe and do good deeds, say God Allah whom are
Rama and who would, Allah, the Rama, the Most Merciful on the
right kind of description of Allah characteristic or name of Allah is
being used here. The Most Merciful One will essentially designate a
place for them love,
decree for them love. So you understand that from the Quran as
well.
What does it mean that Allah will love you? What will you get out of
that? When Allah begins to love a person? What would you get out of
that? I mean, you can understand when people love you, right? If
people love you, hopefully they won't harm you, at least not
purposefully. So you stay safe from people's harm. If somebody
loves you
They're not gonna think you're a competition. And one of the
fundamental ideas in this hadith as explained later, as you'll see,
that one of the reasons why you will become beloved of people, if
you kind of abstain and shun and avoid what they have, like, if you
because they don't see you as competition, humans are by nature
very competitive. So when you stop competing with somebody else, when
they think that you're not after what they are after, you're not
after their position, you're just a normal worker, you just, you
know, you do your thing. At the end of the day, you're not
interested in promotion, you're not so career oriented. You're not
so promotion oriented. You're not a competition for them. I mean, in
the cutthroat work markets in the in the corporate world as it is, I
mean, your people are seen and there's so much inhibit, that
takes place. There's just so much backbiting there's so much
backstabbing, that takes place because it's all about survival of
the fittest almost. And so the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is
saying that that is what's going on. So we can easily understand
how we no longer remain a threat to people. So when you no longer
remain a threat to people essentially means that they love
them in a sense, what what does it mean when Allah loves you? So
firstly, we have to take out of our mind the concept of love, and
attribute that to Allah because what we understand to be love is
where your heart softens out. It's an idea of the heart and
inclination of the heart. Now Allah is free of all of these
things. So when we say Allah loves somebody, there is no thing about
softening of the heart and inclination and all the rest of
it, or infatuation or adoration or something like that. It's more
about what is the result of somebody loving another. When you
love someone, you're willing to care for them, you take care of
them, you look after them, you basically
treat them well, you treat them with excellence is axon. So that's
basically what it means that Allah's love for a person means
that Allah will be satisfied with the person, Allah is happy with
that individual, Allah subhanaw taala essentially deals with him
with excellence, which means that he provides him the gifts of
Allah, which is bestowing him with His bounties.
That's basically what it means when Allah loves you. And because
Allah is in charge of everything, and he's the administrator of
everything, for Allah to love us. That is the ultimate, you know,
when you work for a company, or you work for an organization, or
you're in a certain position, sometimes there's a certain
individual or the the people who run the company, or those who own
it, or those who run everything. And if you get into their good
books, you know, you're secure, you know, you're in good books
like you are secure. Otherwise, until then you're not sure where
your position is whether you're precariat, you know, you're you
could be knocked out, you could be demoted. But when you know that
you're under their care, and they you've got one with them, then you
feel much more comfortable. And can you imagine if you know that
with Allah subhanaw taala how much comfort that would give you. I
mean, if working for a small company, if working for a small
organization will give you such comfort. Right when you get into
somebody's good books, especially the managing team, then can you
imagine when you have that with Allah subhanaw taala? How much
satisfaction that should provide because that's everything in your
life.
Of course, that comes with a bit of sacrifice.
Now, what was the professor Lawson's answer? His answer was
that renounce the world.
Well, not renounce the world, but renounce what people have. So what
people are after you should renounce that. We need to be very
careful to understand what renunciation means here, because
this is where there's a massive
confusion.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, renounce the world
and Allah will love you and renounce what the people possess
and people will love you. What people possess is the world. So by
renouncing the world, you'll probably have already killed two
birds in one stone essentially. But this is just being said to be
more graphic and explicit about it. Right? So renounce the world
and renounce what people possess. Imam Muhammad, Imam Muhammad, the
great Imam, he relates the meaning to avoid the confusion.
Essentially, he relates the meaning of the word in the world
of renouncing the world. What exactly does it mean by renouncing
in the world?
Some of the ideas that could come to mind when you renounce the
world is that okay, I've got nothing to do with the world. I'm
going to move even crawlies outside of London, but I'm going
to actually move out of Crawley, and I'm going to go where there's
absolutely nobody, some renouncing every connection with the world.
Of course, you can't renounce your connection with the earth because
you have to live somewhere. Right? But generally, we understand it to
be wealth, and people, right because they are what bother us
most or cause issues for us. That's what most people's mind
goes towards. So
So is that what this means? Renounce renouncing the world?
Does it mean to just shun people and just give everything up? Take
off from your job? Give up your house, give up all your any wealth
that you have, right? Any assets that you have shut your business
down and just basically leave everything is that what it is?
Generally, according to the majority, that's not the case. In
fact, some scholars have actually called that a foreign idea to
Islam. Because the Prophet sallallahu Sallam didn't do that.
Right? He didn't exactly do that, did he? Yes, he used good things
and then he gave them away. So Imam Muhammad
he relates from a scholar before him. His name is Abu Idris and how
learning are the Allahu Anhu said that
renouncing the world's Zohar in the dunya
is not by making the halal into haram not by basing, basically
considering anything which which is halal for you, as a Muslim to
be haram now, and it is not by getting rid of your wealth
by wasting it or by just basically
getting rid of it. In the Masada to fit dunya and takuna Bhima
Afiya de la he orthok Min Kirby mafia dAche. What Zaha the fifth
dunya means ozada of the world renunciation of the world means is
that you are more trusting, you have more assurance
in what Allah possesses.
Then what you possess. So even if you have everything, still your
mind is on the fact that what Allah has and what he can do for
me, and what is at his disposal is actually much more, much more
secure to be relied upon. Then what I have, even though I've got
all of this.
This is where the greatest deception of people, people take
space. Because generally if you look at the sunnah to Allah, He
filled out, if you look at Allah, Allah has custom in this world,
Allah has order in this world when it comes to prophets, when every
Prophet came, mostly it was the poorer people, the less
influential people that followed him first. The reason is that they
didn't have a club already. The wealthy already had clubs as such.
That's why the new new Harrison's people actually said to him, that
should we follow you? What tabernacle or the loon? It's the
lonely people that have followed you? So it's not really our club?
Right? We've already got something why would they say that? They say
that because generally, there's a false sense of security and
confidence when when you have things at your disposal. So if you
can basically be spending on you know, Amazon Prime and get
whatever you want the next day or even the same day, right, and
basically have whatever you want, and you've got a credit card to
spend on and you generally don't have to worry, you feel like I got
everything. Why should Allah matter then? Materialism is
antithesis to Allah subhanaw taala. So what this is saying is
that look, Zeus, it doesn't mean that you get rid of your wealth,
but that you don't rely on your wealth and position anymore. You
rely on the fact that what Allah has is way more superior and
effective than what you have.
And number two, were either a sub Tomasi button, or a shadow Raja
and Lee agilely. How was lucre Harmon? Er, hello, Bucky at luck.
What it means by masiva here is that if you have a loss, if you
sustain a loss,
let's just say something happened to your car or your job or your
child or your parents, or whatever the case is.
You have so much reliance in Allah, and you understand the
significance of this world. And its true position, that it doesn't
make you
it doesn't make you depressed, but rather, you know that every
difficulty that comes upon a believer, Allah is going to reward
you for that. So your focus on the reward of the at the loss of your
worldly possession is much more intense than if that possession of
yours had continued to be with you.
Does that make sense? So one is that I didn't lose what I lost.
Right? That's one option. The other option is I lose it, but
then I get reward for it. So my now this is only after you've lost
it, by the way. All right, you shouldn't be making your main ally
lose everything get reward for it, because we're supposed to ask for
well being. So the idea here is that if I have lost it, it's a way
to now deal with that loss. So now it should be that the reward I'm
getting at this loss, which has already taken place, his milk has
already been spilt. So now I should actually be much more
trusting in the fact that I'm going to get a reward than if I
had continued to have that blood.
Sing and had not lost it in the first place. That's essentially
what it means. And that's the secret of this whole thing. Imam
Abdul Josie who died in about 606 Hijiri or something, right? He
writes that there's some people when they listen to these Hadith
about Zeus, about renunciation of the world, they get so excited.
And they Here are some examples of people who basically just just had
a coarse cloth, and very few assets. And that's how they live
their life. Right, you have to remember that these people who
successfully live their life, despite having only a few assets,
their heart was there to match. Their heart could essentially bear
that kind of a life. Most of us who have been basically brought up
in a lot of luxury, having access to whatever we want, if we're to
suddenly give up everything. And that's what he said, he says, they
give up their business, they give up their income, they give up
everything, and then they're okay for about three, four months,
because that excitement or the inspiration carries you for that.
But inspiration only lasts for so long. And then after three, four
months, you become dejected, you become despondent, and now you've
just lost your means. So then it actually ends up turning to be
very negative for you. So if you want to do that, that has to be
built up. So the prophets of Allah Islam dealt with riches. He
literally had millions coming through his hands, but he would
distribute it. He could keep it if he wanted to. He had it he saw it.
Some of the best Zohar examples you'll find actually in the
sahaba. Right? And if you look at the actual number, Bashara, the 10
that were given the glad tidings of paradise who are after the four
hula, they are the hierarchy, right? If you look at the
hierarchy of the Sava, you've got the professor Lauricella, after
we've got Abu Bakr Omar with man and it with the Allahu Anhu. And
after that, you've got the 10. So the four are included in the 10.
So the other six, among the 10 I don't think you've got anybody who
was a pauper, like, who was destitute, absolutely, like, in
fact, you've got billionaires in there, and you've got at least
three or four. So somebody alone you guys will know about. The next
one was Abdurrahman him now he was so wealthy and such a good
businessman, that he'd actually say that if I pick up a stone, I
can find gold underneath it. He says I can spend to their homes in
the morning. And I'll get probably 1020 dinars in the evening. I
mean, he just knew how to do business. And he had a huge amount
then disobeyed even an hour I'm had massive assets, and then Tala
ignore obey the law. Another one, that's the fourth one, he was
another millionaire. So what was it? Why are they millionaires, and
yet, they're still among the top 10. It's because just to give you
one simple example, I've dropped mine, when I offer the Allahu
Anhu. He used to give huge amounts in the path of Allah. And one of
his biographers says that the way he built up his business was
actually by giving sadaqa of huge amounts, crazy amounts, right?
Which would be considered just like, how can you give so much
like, just give all of your proceeds of a certain business?
visa vie the law. So
the reason the analysis shows that the reason is that you can have a
lot of wealth. But if that wealth is in your heart, then that's a
problem. But if the wealth is in your hands and not in your heart,
then that's okay. Because your heart is with Allah, there should
be nobody else in your heart. So that's what Zuid means. You can
have wealth in Zuid. But you're just not reliant on your wealth,
your reliance on Allah subhana wa Tada. So, I think
and of course, the way people will love you, just to reiterate, is
that if you if you don't compete in what they want, then if you
look around you, there are people who you love. Right? Why do you
love them? You think those lovable individuals, what is the quality
that they have that makes you love them? That makes them so lovable,
affable to you? Generally, it's because you don't see them as a
competition. A lot of people, especially if you've got a
competitive streak, right, you will think that anybody who's got
a bit of who wants the same thing as you, you feel that they're a
bit of a risk, that that you have to be careful with them. They're a
bit of a threat to you. So this is one way of getting people to love
you, when you don't show any greed or any avarice in what people
possess. So that gives you smooth sailing, at least between you and
Allah subhanaw taala