Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Feeling More Righteous than Others [Hikam 44]
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is a way to improve the behavior of people who live with family members who are lower than them and do not want to, and finding the best company is crucial.
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Bismillah Al Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu
was Salam ala UL Mursaleen. While he was so happy about raka was
seldom at the Sleeman Cathy Ron Ely Yomi Deen Amma beret Johan
Latina
Kulu Masada team so we continue with our series on Ignatov Illa
Rahima hula has Hichem so today we're looking at HECM number
hekman. Number 44. If not it Allah says Rob Burma contumacy and for
arqule s none I mean, so bear to comment who are sweat Oh, Harlem
Minka row, Burma. Quinta, musi and for Oracle, Sun Amin, Casa Batoka.
Men who are as well Hala Minka.
He says you may be in a bad state, then you're associating with
someone who is in a worse state makes you see virtue in yourself.
You may yourself be in a bad state. But when you see somebody
lower than you, who's in a worse state, then we look at things
relatively comparatively. And then we start thinking that we're
actually doing very well. He doesn't even pray for Friday
prayer, at least I pray Friday prayer, at least I make it to
Joomla.
You know,
I may not go to the masjid was solid. Well, at least I pray home.
Right as though that's a bad thing, you know.
But it's always comparative like that.
At least I don't,
I haven't committed the act.
I may just flit around, but all of these other guys they're
committing Zina.
So that's, that's what he's talking about here, that real
human issue in everything. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam
talks about that in terms of wealth, looking at person from a
dunya achievement perspective, less than than you all the time,
be with them. So you'll always be grateful. And when we sit with
people with more than us than we generally, it's just a natural
disposition generally, unless we've got enough exercise and
experience to have given it up and say, I don't need it. I'm enriched
from it. I'm independent of it. Allah has suffice me with that I
don't need I don't need it anymore.
I don't need to have it so it doesn't make a difference.
And with effort, Allah does, Allah helps a lot, we need to see the
effort. That's why there's a hadith that says, well, may you
starve if you are a fool who law whoever tries to remain chaste.
Whoever attempts wants to remain chaste, Allah will give him
chastity.
So Allah gives an effort for sure. But that effort needs to come
first. So you may be in a bad state. And then you want to help
yourself so you feel guilty and you want to make amends and you
want to get some, you know, reform, but then
you associate I mean, it's then a shape on who's going to you know,
encourage you to associate yourself with bad people.
And then make you think that you actually virtuous enough you don't
really need to make an effort.
So
that's what we're looking at today in sha Allah so what happens is
sometimes we're not doing very well
we are
we have shortcoming, we're not doing enough. We may be doing a
bit because you have to be doing a bit to see somebody worse than
you. But we're not doing enough and we know that we're not doing
enough and then after that you become a companion of somebody
who's actually worse situation then you so then that would your
companionship with the individual will actually
think that you're doing him a favor sometimes by being good
company for someone, whereas the real estate is that we need
company. I mean, I actually feel like that right now that I need
good company. Right?
So you will then actually start thinking that okay, if I'm better
than that person because he's worse he's not even praying or
he's not doing this, he's not doing that. Then that means, you
know, masha Allah Hamdulillah you know, I'm doing enough
because as the authors as the scholars in the NEF Semaj
bulletin, other route util for the leela, this needs to be
underlined. Because the knifes This is one of the traits of the
knifes the knifes loves to see a virtue in it in itself. Like if
the NEF says a virtuous like yes, that's something we
You're going to notice
and the second thing it sees is when we show her that the tuxemon
lady her ailment or Milan or Hala, loves to see a quality or some
kind of virtue in one's own knifes, and to see shortcoming in
somebody else's, you always does that contrast. We're constantly
comparing ourselves. It's not just, you know, men may say the
only women compare themselves to others or it's men do that as
well, is doing different things. Maybe, you know, some may do it in
beauty, or attractiveness, clothing, some will do it in
wealth. Some will do in other things. It just, there's always
something that we're going to come back to. That's why he's saying
the knifes is actually by its nature. Its predisposed to do
this, either by looking at somebody else's knowledge. Okay,
I've got more knowledge than him. I don't need to study enough,
right? Look, look how much they have. They have nothing. Oh,
Amazon, Oh, * no. If you do this for sugar, that Alhamdulillah
at least you know, we've got a bit and then that spurs you to look
further than hamdulillah that's a good thing. There's nothing wrong
in recognizing some good that Allah has given us absolutely
nothing wrong with that. It's only if it makes us complacent. That's
exactly what he's saying.
As opposed to if you were to be a companion of somebody superior to
you with better exon with better beautification, more
beautification of the faith, then you will actually start seeing the
shortcoming in yourself.
And in that is a huge benefit of erotica, how you Ron Kathy Ron.
That's why
she has done a show that he used to say that my beloved his Sheikh
used to say to him Latin Kolkata, Jamaica, Illa, Hydrotreated,
usaba, Allah, don't take your feet, to accept to where you
expect the reward from Allah subhanahu wa taala to come. When
attention is Allah hi to tatman Who hollyburn Me Marcia Tila and
do not sit anywhere, except where you can, for the most part, be
safe and secure from committing sins. In a good environment, a
safe environment for the most, you know, in a majority of situation,
you will be safe there only sit there.
And while the staff at NASA 11 Does the they'll be here you're
keen and don't ever choose for yourself. Somebody you select to
be with sometimes you're going to be forced in a situation which
certain individuals don't have to choose and select for yourself,
somebody
any nobody except the one through through whose company you're going
to increase in your conviction of your faith.
And there's very few of those people. I mean, you do your best
then he gives a few other advices he says do not sit Do not be a
companion to somebody who prefers himself over you
was always giving them so they're selfish. Why would you want to be
with something like that? For in the hula aim because such a person
is considered to be mean downtrodden, individual despicable
individual, wala mania Firo Corolla and FC, know somebody
who's always preferring you over themselves. Because find the whole
color Maya doom. Very seldom Will that continue for too long.
Somebody can't give you preference all the time above themselves.
Humans have to only Allah can assist us at every time.
So who should you be companions of what's Hap?
Man either looky looky here Allah.
Be a companion of the person who when mentioned, Allah is
remembered.
So just thinking about them, just transports us to thinking about
Allah subhana wa Tada for Allah who yogini be either Shahida
we are newborn who either folk either
if you become a companion of such a person, if he's there, then
Allah subhanahu wa taala has assistance will be there, Allah
will suffice you and even when he's not there, then Allah
subhanho wa Taala will give you a replacement for that individual
somehow Allah will give you a replacement spirituality of that
person.
The Kuru who new rule called One who shahada to whom authority who
who
Subhanallah just a few days just always a yesterday or the day
before there's a friend of ours who has been
Islam another country, but in an area where there's not that many
practicing Muslims apparently as well in France,
and mashallah, he's getting married in either today or in the
next few days. Or next week, very few days. He's been trying to get
married for a long time. And Masha Allah, Allah bless him, I mean,
he's,
I've told him off I've done all sorts of things to him and he's
just stuck by Mashallah. And he
He just called me to say I'm getting married. And I just want
to thank you that just because of being with you not I mean, it's
nothing to do with me. It's just like he thinks I've got something.
So he says, I have not committed Zina. And now when I get married,
I can say I am, I've stayed safe until my marriage. That's a big
achievement today. I think for a lot of people.
It's a big achievement today that I've been safe, because every time
anytime I used to think about that, or it crosses your mind,
because other people may be engaged in things like that, in
Haram relationships, I think that no, I've, you know, I've given my
word, I've taken a pledge, I've done this, I've done that I can't,
I can't do this thing. So
just in the name of Allah subhanho, wa taala, there's a
benefit.
So the conclusion of this statement is that don't ever be a
companion for somebody who has to really go overboard
for you, or you have to go overboard for them. It needs to be
a very natural relationship, where it's just very harmonious and is
of huge benefits. Now, some people will say, how do you get such a
company? Only Allah can give you such company? These are questions
that nobody can answer you because there's just so many variables,
and it's who Allah wants to make it, right. Like the other day, I
was just speaking to some students in America,
online, mothers, and they were saying, how do you get married to
somebody who is also going to be serving the dean? I said, that's a
very tough question. Of course, certain things can help by finding
a partner or companion, who's already into that field. So you
can expect that
they have some experience, but even then your personalities may
clash.
So really, I believe that while we make an effort, whatever we can
do, on top of that, you have to put your hands you have to put
your hands up to Allah subhanaw taala and say, Yeah, Allah, only
you can make it work for me.
And it really helps. There are just so many experiences in life
where you want you need something you call out to Allah, Allah makes
it happen.
Allah will never, never return somebody who's sincerely asking,
but you have to kind of just cut away from everything else and just
ask Allah in this helpless state.
Allah Khomeini up there, hello, Erica. If the hull moves, maybe
the lien has one of the doors of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. I'm
asking you Oh Allah, like the asking of a helpless, downtrodden
destitute
of Allah, I'm asking you, the circle of somebody who has nobody
else to go to.
Yeah, I had them in law had the law were sent to them and Law
Center the law, or one for those who have no one
so amazing to us.
Subhanallah that if you learn the two hours of the Prophet salallahu
Salam, you actually learn how to make dua.
So I'm just currently please make dua I'm currently working on the
translation for Hezbollah album. It's been something I wanted to do
for a long time, but we just had so many requests for it. So I've
done six days now. So we've got one more day left to do. Meaning
of the seven sections, one more section. And this is beautiful
when you're trying to construct the right kind of die in English,
the translation
because da has its own genre of style of expression.
It has his own expression. Right? So make the offer that Allah allow
us to complete that quickly.
And allow people to benefit from it and make it accepted. So that's
why he's saying that find somebody who's more natural. Then Then he
then the explanation this obviously relates to having
company of Shijo having company of
a scholar, a guide, somebody that can help you. And that is where
you have to be very careful because that's the kind of person
you expect to benefit you. So if that person is the wrong person,
then it's actually going to be really bad. Really, really
detrimental in its backfire one of the Masha used to say Hola Hola,
you curry Butare Bala. He Illa Allah He che on Miss Luigi Lucy
Hema irif In Billahi. In Witcher though, there is nothing
absolutely nothing that can bring a seeker of Allah close to Allah
subhanho wa taala. Right, nothing at all that can that is more
effective than sitting with the knower of Allah.
Then sitting with an hour of Allah, if you can find such a
person, because he accepts that it might be difficult for you to find
somebody like that. We're in LA MUJI. Finally he'd be Vickery.
Lehi Leland one ahora second level. If you can't find somebody
like that, then you need to spend your day and night in the
remembrance of Allah.
That what does that indicate? That indicates that if you do find the
IRF Biller, and a person who really knows Allah, then that is
going to be more effective than doing vicar night and day,
although you'll probably end up doing recognizing that anyway.
Right? Because it's just what you get from human beings. It's just
much more powerful, what you get from somebody else and what you
absorb from that than doing yourself it's actually much
easier.
So then he says, otherwise, you must remember Allah night and day
God Amen. Waqar, either standing up and sitting down basically you
need to be engaged my Lucilla Tian Urbina, it dunya be either mill
julu, Seema at home, what are the mill kala Mubarak and not and you
should shun a lot of
company of just just just general, the general riffraff.
The unknown someone Heinrich, because they're a really, really
destroyed really damaging poison.
Then he says though, that's the best. But he says that the worst
the thing that will take you away from Allah is to actually sit with
an ignorant faqeer. And here he means by fucky is somebody who
claims to be with Allah subhanho wa Taala is completely ignorant
of the path, completely ignorant of the path because you will think
you're onto something, you're getting something and you're not
getting anything at all. In fact, it will be worse because that
person will probably make huge mistakes be going in the wrong
direction.
In fact, he says that such a person is actually worse than a
normal heedless lay lay man.
Because there's no deception that you know what, what you're in
front of their be alphadex in 1000 times worse he says, because some
of these could be exaggeration, or he's got a particular type of
comparison in mind Allah knows best. So that's why he says
algebra Summa Allah it fibula, he asked the luminal Islam, no doubt
that sitting in good companion of a knower of Allah is superior,
more virtuous than solitude. But then solitude is superior than
sitting with just normal, normal heedless people. But sitting with
normal human heedless people, is actually superior to sitting with
an ignorant individual who claims to have something.
He says that is nothing I mean, maybe he's just really on a rant
here. He says there's actually nothing that would black in the
heart of a seeker like sitting with an ignorant faqeer of that
nature. That's why saheliyon or Abdullah to study, Rahim Allah
used to say that also bathala him in snappiness.
Stay away. And beware of the company of three types of people.
Algebra Bureau, Allah Rafi lien,
heedless, arrogant braggarts.
Right? Well corral muda Heaney are people who read the Quran but they
suck up to wealthy people and things like that they're doing it
for the for show and to gain something through their care or
the restoration. And when Buddha saw with Elijah him, and those one
of the Sufis who claim to be Sufis who are absolutely ignorant
ignorance
shaker has the rug says, all over him
lay under new Fusa whom have already been to naughty him. Those
even who may have scholarship in terms of know some fifth and the
sea or something like that, but not have the remembrance and not
be close to Allah like that. Then these these people, they're no
fools are
dominant over them.
Because they don't have the insight is not prepared for the
knowledge that they may even be carrying. You have lots of
professors out there. We're not even Muslim, the teaching Islamic
studies, they know their stuff very well. Right, the historical
points that they have the nuances that they understand, amazing, but
there's no knifes the there's no heart. And the reason he says that
it's so bad is because these people they don't they only know
the apparent form of the Sharia. They don't know the internal
spirit of it. So it's devoid inside it's hollow inside
and generally says way around and naman Hyla from Jehovah had Hardy
on our doll, which had been a Fiat demon holophone. Generally what
you see with such people is that they're going to be generally
criticizing others. There's a lot of people out there who come new
on the block and they just start criticizing everybody
because
You see everybody has a has a deficiency, right? A
lot of the time these comparisons between this generally your local
mosque is always the worst mosque for you.
Right? That always make the biggest mistakes, they don't do
anything. And you look at other mosques like they're doing a lot
more sometimes that's the reality. But it's just because you don't
know the politics and other Masjid. You don't know what they
may be doing one or two things that may appeal to you. But if you
go locally down there, there'll be complaining except some mashallah
Hua accomplished. So,
you already see as though the, you know, the pastures are greener on
the other side somehow. And sometimes it is a reality, no
doubt, but not all the time. There's a interesting idea about a
Buddha led fiery Radi Allahu Anhu. So at the time of the Sahaba
now, you would expect that all the Muslims that he was dealing with
in Madina Munawwara was a harbor
right? Because they probably be in the company of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Now, he was very particular with Allah
the alarm was very particular. So he would shun people. And he would
say, I can't just take from everybody like he was on another
level according to himself. So if that's a Buddha or the Allah on
state at that time when he's dealing with other Sahaba and he
thinks like that, of course he had a slightly different way of
looking at things than today. We don't have Sahaba around us, you
know, we don't we have a we have to be very very careful.
That's why you're here if no more Earth raazi Rahim Allah
used to say about the oil amount of his time.
Yeah, natural rhythm. Ah, yeah Masha Allah ma, the rue come
harmony. Amara Kieboom Karroo Nia
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while ma Simo calm Jaya Helia wakad CR to Mother Heba calm che
Tawnya for 18 for * Mila tool Muhammadiyah it says, Oh group of
Allah ma now he's, he's an Adam, he's able to
you know, admonish other or muddy when you're at a certain stage you
can do that. This is what he says. He says, oh,
assembly of Allah ma, your homes are the homes of Harmon
because Frauenthal Harmon to build him a high
tower so that he can get to the the load of Musa as he said
immediately
as is mentioned in the Quran,
you're riding your rides, your vehicles, they are Caronia, they
like that of course
because Allah mentions in the Quran, the Quran, just the keys of
his storehouse is used to be carried by you know, so many
people.
Your foods are Ferroni
Ferro,
your willingness and when you are here means celebrations parties,
right? Festivals, get togethers, they are gel lutea
Of course he just wants to put everything in a negative light so
he's using these terms.
Well Maha Cebu comme je Helios Omar symbol calm is more the
celebrations and wallah in the doubts and the get togethers that
they have. So your mobile sim, your various religious so called
religious gatherings, the Jahai ignorant
and you have basically made your mother's shaytani.
For * for * mill little Muhammadiyah. So where is the dean
of Mohamed salah, loathsome gone.
Now I don't want us to see this and then start
basically telling everybody that this is Joe Hindi and this is Joe
Lutie, and so on.
This is somebody who's saying this. So
the lesson we're getting from here is that, you know, you can't just
suddenly shun all of your friends and whatever. But I think one of
the things that we can start doing is that we can put, we can
understand and put things in perspective and not be deluded.
Because sometimes people will say we've got family members like
this, this is who we live with.
We can't escape. So what do you do in that case?
You can't run from everyone where you're gonna go.
A lot of people like they've tried to run from everybody in the wrong
way. They've actually become burned, they've just gotten worse.
So the idea is that let's understand things. We don't look
down upon everybody. Right? We don't look down upon anybody. And
we just try to at least remedy that by not allowing this kind of
evil thought to come in
that just because we're surrounding with the with a lot of
people who are maybe lower than us, we pray a bit more than them
and practice a bit more than than them so that we must be
sufficient. Now, also try to have another group of people that you
can associate yourself with, even if infrequently as much as you can
write, that can remind us of where we really are. So that any
arrogance, any complacency that's
develops with one group of people, we can remedy that by the
humility, and the vulnerability that we can inshallah learn from
the other side. I think that's the main lesson is to try to get as
much good company as possible, and try to remedy the bad company with
that good company. May Allah subhanaw taala. Accept that from
us, Sheikh Abdullah, Abdullah, Al can go here, Rahim Allah He
explains this by saying that it is incumbent on the believer to
acquire the companionship companionship of a person better
than himself. This is page 212 For those of you who've got the book,
so in such company, you will see your own faults and you will
become concerned with your moral and spiritual reformation. There
is lots of people who have the company of good people, but they
don't have in their heart
to become like them. In fact, they feel sorry for them.
These guys must be so dull, so boring. What kind of satisfaction
and pleasure in life must these people have? How do they enjoy
themselves?
Fun Allah Subhanallah it's just you don't know.
So sometimes it's people who will, who can have good company but they
shun them look at as Allah says in the Quran, Dora Allah Who Mithila
Lilina Cafaro Murata, no one has the loot, the wives of loot and
new Haile Salam, they've got profits in the house, angels are
coming to them, what better can you have than them? And it's like,
what's the big deal. So if Allah seal somebody's heart, then it's
not going to make make a difference. But this is speaking
to people who want to seek, right who are concerned who have that
conscience. So then for that person, when they stay with good
people, then they will realize that look, you know, I've got a
lot to learn yet.
And my company, they're in such company, you will see your own
faults and you will become concerned with your moral and
spiritual reformation. On the other hand, if you sit in the
company of a man worse than yourself, it's necessary cuz
consequence will be that despite your evil, you will regard
yourself to be pious. And you know, if you never see good people
after that, like you hardly because your area is like that.
And you you know, you are the most learned person or the so called
most practicing person. There are communities I've been to in
America, this community, lots of cases where there's no Imam. It's
one local guy who's just a bit better than everybody else,
because he knows Arabic, he knows how to read Quran, he can give a
good lecture, he is the Sheikh of the area.
And that's like that in, in a lot of places, especially in rural
kind of areas where you can't get any mom. That's why having a good
Imam is very, very, very important. But then in such
places, they don't even want any mom. Because
what they say is that if you have any mum, then it's going to be too
rigid one way, depending on who that Imam is, it's too much of a
gamble. At least right now. You know, it's a difficult one, but
it's against the Sunnah and the tradition of the Ummah, for
13 1400 years. They've always had Imams, and you want to live
without any mom never thought about this before like this.
Right? Because when I left American 2008, at least 50% of the
messages I would say didn't have a local. Any mom, like an officially
mom
has huge confusion, huge confusion. hamdulillah in England,
we're lucky that people are really they want any mom. Right? They
want any mom.
Now, of course, normally moms are the best, but at least there's
something
so
they they're going against the whole tradition of the OMA for
1400 years.
Right, then that you would call is the new Western Islam, American
Islam British ism. I don't know what people trying to call it
afterwards, then actually some people can go as far as giving it
a different name as though it's a better Islam than everybody else's
Subhan Allah.
I would say that those Muslims in a little village that are
practicing, right,
somewhere in Syria, somewhere in India, somewhere in Pakistan,
Bangladesh, in Somalia, they're much better off than a place like
that, who does not have leadership. So then he says, You
will most certainly gain the impression that you are better
than him. Thus your own deficiencies will not become
discernible and you will be overtaken by
vanity,
ostentation
self confidence and then you'll be pleased with yourself and our
progress has been stunted.
Our progress has been stunted.
And subhanAllah you know, when I was an imam in America, I was an
imam in a small community about two hours from Los Angeles. The
next Masjid was about 40 miles down one side and about 50 miles
north. So we were the only Masjid I'm the only Imam I'm giving 50
something 100 bucks a year, right every Juma so I never get to
listen to anybody else. There was no YouTube at that time. It wasn't
that big of a deal at that time. All of that you know, you had
obviously cassettes and CDs and things like that. So, you know,
you think you're doing well but you know you're not doing well
enough.
So it can come it can happen to anybody. Allah protect us preserve
us and Allah enhances Allahumma InterSolar moaning about the
elderly with a Quran Allah homea how you after you and your attic
understudy Allah on my Hannah Yemen. Isla Subhanak in condemning
of it, I mean,
just a loved one, Mohammed. Hello.
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domino Cody welfare at Willamette even Nia, Allah we ask you for a
special mercy of Allah the brothers and sisters sitting here
of Allah those who are listening, those who will listen our Allah
bless them all. of Allah grant us blessing grant us complete
forgiveness of Allah grant complete forgiveness of Allah
accept us on how Allah grant us good company, Grant us your love
and the love of those whose love will benefit us in your court of
Allah surround us with
the right environment. To practice your deen of Allah allow us and
make us enjoy what is beloved to you. And make hated in our hearts,
your disobedience and all acts of your disobedience of Allah. Accept
us all for some service of your deen to implement in our lives and
to facilitate for others keep us away from being
evil company for others keep us away from evil company for
ourselves. Oh Allah.
We ask that whatever shortcomings we have had, whatever mistakes we
have made, whatever deficiencies we've experienced, and Oh Allah,
whatever faults
that we possess, that you forgive us, that you forgive us and that
you grant us closeness. You grant us a special protection from you.
Remove these evil diseases which are surrounding people and
increasing in some areas of Allah grant us all protection grant the
world protection make us worthy of your mercy make us worthy of your
mercy. Make us worthy of your armor, your special attention of
Allah what have we done? Protect us remove from us the wrongs that
we may be doing which is bringing on these things upon us like
punishment of Allah protect us from the shaytaan and his
mischief. Especially protect us from the mischief of the shaytaan
on our deathbed. Oh Allah accept from us our likes it from us.
Grant us the company of your messenger Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, open up these massage and allow them to raise
the call
of your Karim Allah Allah Allah Allah the tech be the allele that
the homie the Kira once again
from these masajid Oh Allah, Oh Allah protect us and accept from
us Subhan Allah big herbalist that Yama Yasi phone was salam al
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