Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Do You Feel Wretched When You Don’t Get Something [Hikam 147]
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Bismillah Al Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu
salam ala CL Mursaleen. While early he asked me he raka was
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move on in our series on the book of wisdoms, if not a Tyler's
Hichem Rahim Allah Allah may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless the
author. If not, I thought Allah is secondary. Today we are on
aphorism number 147 which is on page 198 He says Mata couldn't
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fully tick for them? Is it key coffee or booty ethic? A bit of a
high level one.
Anybody who this, this will resonate with those who want to be
close to Allah and want some kind of evidence that they are close to
Allah.
Those who feel that they've made an achievement as being close to
Allah subhanaw taala and not a lovers of the world, or not lovers
of fame and game, not lovers of material objects.
Meaning they, they could have these things, but they don't love
these things. When can a person consider himself to have said to?
To think that yes, I'm there now. But I'm not sure even if a person
would think that way, but this is a good test or what he says is
that if when given something, the giving expands you.
And if when deprived of something, the deprivation contracts, you
then take that, then take that as the proof of your immaturity and
the insincerity of Your servanthood
so when we're given something and mashallah we're getting either
gifts so we're getting fame or we're getting praises, or things
are just happening well in our life. And that
helps to expand us.
Now of course you feel happy, when things happen. This is talking
about you feel as if spiritually you're in a better place. But then
when you get deprived of something this is the true test when you get
deprived it contracts you
it creates a contraction that am I not liked by Allah Am I hated by
this is a very constant feeling. A lot of people actually have this
feeling that when things don't go well for them, that is when they
start with Allah doesn't like me or something like that. And when
everything is going well they think Allah likes them. There's a
deception in both there could be a deception in both. So then what he
says really interesting, I mean, the English doesn't do justice to
the Arabic says first that they will be vertically taken evidence,
take that as a proof of your immaturity.
To he translates to fully This is Victor Danis translation of to
fully as immaturity.
I mean, consequentially it is immaturity. But I'll explain what
the exact word to fully I mean, just a really interesting idea
that came from an incident. Right? And the insincerity of Your
servanthood meaning you're not truthful in you're truly being a
servant of Allah. Because the servant of Allah subhanho wa
taala, was supposed to be
pleased and happy. status quo, whatever it is. So if we're thrown
left and right, when it comes to being given things, receiving
things or not given things, then it means we're not there yet. This
is a difficult stage to reach where everything becomes the same
for a person, as long as they are as long as they know they pleasing
Allah, that's what matters for them.
So I think it's not more about whether something makes them happy
or pleased. It's more about as long as Allah is pleased. And once
that's the main focus, because it can't be an absentee it can't be
this kind of idea that I don't care if I get good or bad. I mean,
like a stable state, but with what what what are you getting from
that stable state? So the main purpose is that your love for
Allah is there. And the connection with Allah is felt, and that as
long as you pleasing Allah, that's where you're satisfied about, then
these things should not matter. So he's not talking about these
things not mattering in a vacuum because what's the point of that?
That means you just cared us you don't care. People like that.
People who don't care about anything, they've just given up
with life or they just don't care, they just relaxed, or they just
lay back. They don't care whether they get praised. There's lots of
criminals, they don't care if they get, if they
get deprived, they just, they just want to be losers in the world.
So it's not about this being an absentee this is about, you're so
satisfied with your connection with Allah, then this does not
matter because you feel you're pleasing Allah.
So let's look at this. The important word here, he says is
that if if you if this is, if you do feel this way, where you
contract and expand when given when deprived or given
respectively, then it means that you should take this as evidence
that you still have to fully now what is to fully
to fully accompany this concept of the TOEFL, the TOEFL to faily,
it's essentially
you can say gatecrashing, somewhere, you're not really
invited, and you end up, you turn up there, and you try to fit into
the group, either to get some food from there to eat, you know, in,
in the invitation at the restaurant at the reception, or
you just want to be part of something because I don't know,
you know, there's some perks there or whatever you want to be, but
you're not really of them. So you dress up as them, or you just get
in or you get just sleeping with somebody else. That's to fully How
did that come about?
Generally, in the Arabic idiom, they refer to that as somebody who
generally gets in get crushes or walima, like a doubt of some sort,
just for the sake of eating. So somehow, access is part of the
family or whatever, and it just goes in, right?
Where did this word come from? To fully? It actually came from this
because twofold. The root of that is difficult, which essentially
means child.
So now you can understand why Victor Danny's saying it's
immaturity and still like a child. But what really happened was that
there was a person in Kufa.
Right there was a man in Kufa, from the venue, Abdullah hirato.
He is from that tribe. And he eventually became known as to
failure to failure Aras Gatecrasher, essentially to
welcome us to weddings, because he used to go to all of them without
being invited there. And he used to just dress up or pretend that
he's part of the tribal group or whatever. And he used to go. So
essentially, that's where you get this idea for anybody who just
kind of comes in to any kind of group, or invitation or Fudo.
uninvited, that's essentially where this word comes from. From
this bundle, Abdullah agnihotra fan, this man from that tribe.
So what the author is saying here the is that anybody who tries to
now be part of a group and say that I'm a Sufi, I'm close to
Allah, I'm a Willie of Allah. You know, I'm a righteous man. But
then he's going through these fluctuations, it's only good. If
there's good things coming in. If there's good things happening, if
there's materialistic achievements, otherwise, the
person becomes dark. Otherwise, the person's life becomes
miserable, and dark when they're not being given. Right. So that's
why and this is the life of a lot of people on social media. This is
the life of people on social media, even those who claim I
mean, this is a challenge on social media. And for those who
claim that they're doing something religious update, because if you
don't get the likes, and you feel like what's the point.
And then especially when you start comparing yourself with somebody
else who gets even more likes, more hits more followers, then
you're even in a bigger mess. But if somebody is on there, and
they're trying to benefit people, and there's 10 people benefiting
Alhamdulillah, and they're happy with that 50 People 100 People
that benefit, they're not looking at those who have a million, or
500,000 or 100,000 or 50,000, or whatever, you know,
they just trying to do their best, oh person who reckons This is what
the author is saying that the person who reckons that they are
somewhere with ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. And you're only there when
Allah subhanaw taala is opening the doors of his treasures and His
bounties upon you worldly bounties. So you're getting
riches, you're getting money, you're getting wealth, you're
getting praise, you're getting fame, you're getting likes, you're
getting followers,
or
you've got good health, you're enjoying good health, and you
generally feel secure and everything else. And all the other
fool desires that you get, you get invited out and all the rest, you
know, to eat and other places. So you get really excited. But as
soon as there's a setback, as soon as you didn't get something you
expected, or it stopped coming, or you became sick, you became ill,
or something happened. That's why a lot of people be
came miserable in the downturn in the lockdown, a lot of people
became miserable. They just didn't know what to do.
They just didn't know what to do, of course, it affects you, and it
changes your whole lifestyle. But those people who are connected to
Allah just adjust faster than those people who are not
connected. Because for them, it's all about the outside life. It's
all about meeting someone. It's all about being somewhere when
they could not do that it was difficult, there was no
adjustment, adjustment was very, very difficult, because how life
is of that style. So if Allah subhanaw taala now changes your
prosperity, your bank balance, rather than going up is now going
down your fame, you actually losing people, there's criticism
upon you, you're getting into controversy, right? And instead
of, you know, your, your dignity and everything like that, people
are abandoning you, they're not coming to you. Right, they don't
care about you anymore.
So your internal feeling of expansion is now contraction. And
or maybe you you're very healthy, very fit. And now suddenly, you've
been overcome by some kind of debilitation. Weakness, you can't
do what you were doing, right.
Or initially, you had no challenges. And now you're full of
challenges. And you just don't know you can't really, you know,
you even in challenges you have to remember, it's Allah subhanho wa
Taala provides them, right. So then what happens is that you
become really, really terrorized by that.
The world becomes a very, very dark place, and you start
thinking, what doesn't know Nabila who do noona and you start having
all sorts of ideas about Allah subhana wa Tada. So now, just
understand that you are never there anyway. First study will be
30 kada, through booty, so booty, tata fulica, Allah Calamy him, you
are just basically trying to act like a righteous person, you are
not really a righteous person.
So this is probably not going to be relevant to people who never
who never think there anything anyway. Right? Because it's not
that
you have no place of this, you're not on that MACOM and that station
yet.
You're just like that person who, who used to get invited to the
limos. And eventually they figured out, so they told everybody who
you are. So now you can't go into them. You're still in slumber. But
the main thing about that is that it just goes to show forget about
the place. Now, the bigger problem here is not that you're not there.
The bigger problem here I think that that is really effect that is
really detrimental here is that you're not true in your seeking.
You're not true. In what you're trying to be. You're not true in
the fact that you are a servant of Allah, you're not fully a servant
of Allah, yet you still feel like you're a servant of other things.
Because if you're a servant of Allah, then all of these things as
long as you've got that focus of Allah in your mind, then all of
these things should be the same to you. Because you know that you're
with Allah. So as I said, this is not about a person who doesn't
care about that either. who's just a loser who doesn't care.
That's why
a poet says regarding his friends about his truthfulness and his
sincerity with his associates and his friends, he says,
a hit by unto us in the room as for Kunal or a buyer into a center
for Kunal Kumar ship to another vertical Hill, Lou,
you are my beloved, you are my friends. Whether life does well
for me, or for us, or does bad meaning.
If there's a something that comes up in between us or not, you're
sick. I've sincerely offered you my friendship. I'm going to be
your friend, regardless come thick or thin. So you'll be whatever you
want. But I'm going to be truthful in my in my relationship, in my
friendship,
say that your spouse say that to your friends say that to your
brothers. Your sisters, say that to people if you truly want to be
a friend. That's the idea that Allah I'm with you regardless of
what comes regardless of what happens. abou Earthman al Healy,
one of the famous ascetics of the past or the ALLAH and he says lyac
Molar Lakmal Raju had died yesterday we have people be arbury
to Asha, a human beings cannot be accomplished in the sight of Allah
can't be incompletion accomplished in their, in their faith in their
standing with Allah subhanho wa Taala until four things become
absolutely equal to them. It sounds very difficult. But if we
don't know this concept, we can't even kind of adjust ourselves to
try to even get to it. So he says, in being prevented from something
in being given something makes no difference. How I don't know.
That's a difficult one. Well, it is
withdrawal and in dignity and respect or in humiliation. There's
lots of stories of humiliation Subhanallah look at the
Palestinian people how humiliated they are. The pretty much the
whole world has abandoned them in a sense, right especially
governments and things like that is very few of them. The dignity
the
they always have alone the lips mashallah they always chanting,
Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar La ilaha illallah
when that guy lost his fiancee said she's become shaheed.
That was really amazing to think of Allah at that moment that she's
gone as a shaheed. Just imagine, what are these ideas you had?
All of these dreams you had? What are these ambitions you had? And
this fiance is now gone. What are you going to remember right now,
it's only if Allah is in your heart, you'll be able to think Oh,
but she's gone to a better place. So now generally, when you've got
a person who, when they're in the right state, meaning when the
circumstances are correct, then they start acting up and they
start acting like the boss. But when has he mean the hammer little
Abdol but when they get attacked by the brave ones, then they then
they suffer defeat than firemen who died before her. They know
that that person is really, really in reality, very weak moto Tofino
and Allah mahkamah T region, is just trying to get himself invited
into the ranks of the true people of the true men. Now, the author,
he's got another book. I think it's his book called the 10. When
he says in there that Allah subhanho wa taala, sometimes
through his wisdom, Allah subhanho wa taala, sometimes test the
people who claim to be close to him, right, those who claim to
others especially because you can't claim to align close to you,
because ALLAH knows and we know, but when you claim to other
people, so Allah subhanaw taala, tests them sometimes to see, and
he knows they're not truthful. So he does this to actually expose
them.
Be it hurry, marketer Moomin erotica, by revealing and making
manifests the actual desire they actually have of the world. So it
becomes very clear that these people are very worldly, they're
given a position of a worldly position, you can tell now that
they become indulgent in that and what they hide of their desires.
So then these people end up bowing down flattering, the those that
they think they can get some worldly benefit from worldly
individuals,
people who they think they're gonna get something out of this
world for them, they start fluttering those people, they
start becoming conducive to them, and they start appearing at their
doors, and they leave what they were originally doing. That's when
they lose all of the pretense because now they seem to have used
the system that they were involved in. And now they've almost like
reach their price. So they give up this system, they give up their so
called worship, the way they used to dress maybe the way they used
to worship and the claims they used to make because now they've
really got their objective, which was a position somewhere the world
some gifts, money, influence or whatever it is.
So Allah subhanaw taala reveals them. So at least people are not
deceived by them. That's the main thing that these people don't
deceive others. However, the true ones, they will recognize these
people, people will start seeing that these are Allah equal caribou
and Allah Allah these people were liars. They were just making
claims before Assad, Donal Eva and Sabeti Olia Illa, these people
thought that they were leading other peoples in people in the
right direction, but they're actually preventing people from
true companionship with the earlier of Allah. Essentially,
these are people who are banging the drums of the war. A good
parable, banging the drums of war, putting on the armor,
spreading out their flags, to go to war.
And as soon as the attack as soon as they met the enemy, then they
turn back and around.
They just claims on their tongue.
We're Kulu whoo hoo ha we are two minute Taqwa.
How we are two minute taqwa, their hearts to actually completely
devoid of any kind of fear of Allah subhanho wa taala.
That's why Allah subhanho wa Taala in Surah Al Azhar, Verse eight
says LEUs al Assad the Akina and CDP him, can you believe this?
That the truthful ones, Allah is going to ask them and question
them about their truthfulness. So imagine that if we're not even
truthful, we don't even claim to be truthful, then there's clearly
going to be a question there. So the truthful answer questions
about their purity and sincerity.
than those who are not true for they're going to be questioned as
well.
That's why Allah subhanho wa Taala says you think is going to leave
people without being questioned because questioning is for
everyone the reckoning. Allah says in surah Tober verse 105, what
Cody MaryLu first said Allah Who am Allah kumara su will not be
known was the Torah dunya Illa Ironman Arabia was shahada, for
unibit will call me my quantum thermolon. And say, that you carry
on, do the work, practice and Allah subhanaw taala will surely
see your deeds, and so will His messenger and the believers will
see it as well. Believers are seen as a proof as well for this, not
just Allah and His Messenger, they're obviously that approved by
even believers are considered to be proof. We take them to be proof
if people if many people consider somebody to be a nice person, we
generally take their word for it, we still have a bit of caution,
but we take their word for it.
And then Allah subhanaw This is all in the world. But Allah
subhanaw taala says, then you will be returned to the knower of all
the unseen and the seen, and then he's going to tell you what you
used to do. May Allah allow us to stand properly on that day. So he
says that don't be like those people who seem to outwardly act
and dress and other things as righteous people as truthful ones.
But inside the ignorant inside, they are negligent Sheikh Abdullah
Ganga he, he adds a bit to this, this is his conclusion of this
aphorism. He says, Oh traveller, meaning Oh seeker. If your
condition is such that you worship and remember Allah with
concentration and relish, when he showers favours on you, but when
these favors are withheld, you become and you become disappointed
and despondent in worship, then know that in the Divine Court,
you're not regarded as one of the people of Allah. You may let other
people know that, but actually, that your name isn't recorded.
You're telling everybody you got this big degree. But if you
actually go on, ask Oxford, you actually didn't do anything there.
Or wherever, for that matter. You are not the people of Allah, that
Allah Allah, you are only claiming to be among the people of Allah,
but your claim is false.
If you are truly among the people of Allah, then this would not have
been your condition. When things were withheld from you, you would
have dealt with it, you would not have freaked out. Your attitude
indicates that you are not true in your servanthood and worship. Your
state indicates that the quest for pleasures of the ego still look in
you, you are still inclined to the acquisition of your egos goals,
and hopes this attitude is a negation of the state of
servanthood and indicates slavery
to the ego. However, now he clarify something which is very
important for us to clarify, right?
Because just because you feel a bit contract contracted in your
heart when something goes wrong, doesn't mean that this is us.
Insha Allah, I mean, I think I'm here I am, this is my example
anyway. But however, he says if the hearts constriction is on
account of fear of a trial imposed by Allah Most High,
you fear that Allah has
putting you in a really bad test. And that trial is a manifestation
of the Wrath of Allah Most High. So now you want to please Him, and
you see this as a sign that Allah is displeased at you.
Right? And, and you want to try to please Allah again, see, the
person I talked about earlier? We feel that Allah has forsaken them,
they start complaining about Allah. That's the difference
between these people and those people. You start complaining of
Allah or you know, whatever, this that and the other and then like,
I'm not going to worship Why, what's the point of worshiping?
I've been asking for solo, nothing happens. Look what's happened to
me, where's my dollars gone? Is Allah really there or not? You
know, and so on and so forth. These people, they actually start
turning back to Allah, that if this is a rough, then I must ask
for forgiveness and protection. And the uncertainty of now the
another thing they worried about is they have an uncertainty of
maintaining patience and steadfastness during the trial. Am
I going to be able to hack this trial? See, a Ubud is on the story
about him is that he just relaxed all the way, even though became
worse and worse and worse and worse and worse. And then
eventually, the only time he actually he was he had rather Bill
cover, not even sober. The highest status was actually satisfied
whatever Allah had given him, even though he lost everybody, he lost
his physical, you know, health and everything. But eventually when he
realized that now, I may not be able to actually you know, it's
getting to a stage where I can't even do what I need to do for
Allah subhanho wa Taala whatever, like complete debilitation that's
when he asked Allah subhanho wa taala. So now these people are
thinking in the same way that I don't know if I can deal with
This I don't know if I can deal with this I don't know if I can go
through it. Oh Allah helped me Oh Allah helped me uncertainty of
maintaining patience and steadfast and during the trial, then such
contraction constriction will not indicate falsity of one
servanthood such contraction, constriction of the heart and
fear, a natural human reactions, that that's fine. The attributes
of humanity by Sharia remain in the IRF even when a person becomes
close to Allah, they're still a human being. They don't become
angels. They're still a human being. There's going to be human
feelings that will overcome a person.
May Allah subhanaw taala allow us to become his true Olia and may
Allah subhanaw taala allow us to overcome our egos.
Allah make it easy for us, Allah grant us Afia glaucomatous Allah
Allah who also lives salam ala so you know I'm Eduardo early so you
didn't know it was him? Allahumma you know at the benowa JANA who
that eliminated the law Minister local airfoil if you if you're
dealing with dunya without your your Allah have mercy upon us yeah
Allah have mercy upon us. Well Allah there are so many things
happening in the world of Allah we ask you for steadfastness we ask
you for if yet we ask you for security, we ask You for safety.
We ask You for connection with you. We ask you for your love of
Allah, there are so many confusing things happening. There are so
many distractions there are so many distractions. Oh Allah, there
are so many temptations of Allah there are so many issues of Allah,
the world we live in, you have brought us at a time in this
world. When there are so many distractions Oh Allah, only you
can grant us steadfastness only you can grant grant us the tools
to remain straight Oh Allah there is confusion out there. There is
there are so many different issues out there of Allah we ask you for
steadfastness, we ask You for uprightness, we ask You for piety,
we ask You for righteousness, we ask You for Your Mercy. We ask you
for forgiveness for the many, many mistakes and errors we have
committed for the many sins that we have perpetrated by Allah for
our shortcomings of Allah for our problems of Allah for our excesses
of Allah what have we not done our Allah what have we not done? of
Allah but we can only turn to You for Your Mercy. We can only turn
to foil Mercy of Allah allow there to be righteousness and Taqwa and
God fearing us in our lives and in our family's lives, in the lives
of our progeny in our community of Allah, we thank you for bringing
us up in communities that have had scholars that have had righteous
people that have had religious guides, Oh Allah, we ask that you
continue this tradition that you allow from our own children now on
progeny, those who will memorize the Quran, those who will learn
the Quran, those who will teach the Quran, those who will practice
the Quran, who will respect the Quran will glorify the Quran, who
will promote the Quran, who will teach it to others and Oh ALLAH
who will live by the Quran allow that to remain in our progeny, oh
Allah what will good will be with for all the other wealth that you
may have given us all the other respect you have given us Oh
Allah, what good is all of that? If if we are not going to be able
to stand on the day of judgment and love to meet you and you love
to meet us, oh Allah make us of those who say the Kalamata Ilaha
illa Allah on our deathbed, who are constantly in your remembrance
who do not forget you you for too long at all of Allah who remember
you many times who have your consciousness many times a day. Oh
Allah allow us to
fulfill our life and do our daily chores in accordance to with your
pleasure in accordance with your pleasure of Allah bless all of
those who are here who are listening. Oh Allah, those who
will listen, oh Allah bless the soul of Allah. If you've given us
the trophy to raise our hands, to cover these topics to ask you like
this, then we hope that this is a good sign that you want to give us
of Allah grant us and make us of your close ones of Allah except
our dua O Allah accept our Da, O Allah accept our donors, and Allah
bless all of our disease once and raise their status, especially the
orlimar who have recently departed this world allow there to be a
replacement of Allah allow there to be replacement Do not deprive
us with ignorance of Allah do not deprive us and challenge us with
ignorance. So Allah grant us awareness and grant us access to
awareness and knowledge and sacred knowledge when we need it. Oh
Allah, increase the automa in our midst among our midst and increase
those who are close to you so that we can benefit from their
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