Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Dhikr, Good Company and the Correct Perspective [Hikam 201]

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speakers discuss the negative effects of waking up during marriage, including sadness and anxiety, and the factors contributing to negative emotions. They stress the importance of protecting one's behavior and career, including the use of "rowner" and the need for individuals to find their own success. They also emphasize the importance of practice and bringing out one's own goals to achieve success, as it is crucial for personal reasons. The speakers stress the importance of gathering large gatherings of people and finding one's own success in achieving their goals.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi wa Salatu was Salam

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ala so you didn't want to serene while he was a big marine Amma

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bird

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Allahumma salli wa salam ala so you didn't know Mohamed whiner

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early so you didn't know Mohammed or vertical Salam.

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The point we're going to be looking at today says

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The Mikado, hello Atul How're the Makoto Hello Atul Hawa Amina al B,

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who had, who had the little doll.

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Tama couldn't Hello, we're still have a mineral called B who had

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the doll.

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This is underscoring the biggest problem that most of us will be

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facing in our pursuit of the path of marriage. This is what

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takes the ground away from beneath us. This is what causes us

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obstacles. This is what chains us back shackles us.

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incurable sickness results, when the sweetness of passion takes

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possession of the heart.

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incurable sickness results when the sweetness of passion takes

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possession of the heart.

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You think it's incurable. So this doesn't sound very optimistic.

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What this means is

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whenever we get a sweetness, which means a pleasure, out of any kind

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of fulfillment of desire,

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whether that be desiring lots of sleep, desiring food,

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a person should sleep at least around seven hours a day. That's

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nobody's saying, go less than that. We need it. And during

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that's recommended. Yes, you do hear of stories of individuals,

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both religious and otherwise, who lost it on less than

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seven hours of sleep.

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When we were recently in West Africa, one of the big

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Sufi sheiks there who passed away Sheikh Ibrahim yes was had a lot

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of influence in the area until he was.

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So as I was saying, this Sheikh Ibrahim years until he was I can't

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remember the exact date, but it was something like 30 something

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years old, he didn't sleep at all at night.

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And then after that, he started sleeping two hours.

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That's exception. And a

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recent article that I read on this topic is that you need to sleep

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enough to be able to let the brain cells refresh themselves the

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toxins that have been released with the constant movement

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throughout the day to to remove that so it has a repairing system

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in sleep, that's why you feel much more fresh afterwards. There are

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certain people though, that article said who are exceptional

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in this case, they don't need that they can go without it, they won't

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feel groggy the next day, they won't feel dull witted, they will

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not feel less fresh, and so on and so forth. So there are people like

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this and there's numerous scholars that we can actually call Lucy

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etc. At this as well. However for most people they need to sleep.

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However when sleeping becomes a passion when it becomes slough

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when it becomes eating and other haram desires. So these are these

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Halal is haram desires. So what he's saying here is that you get a

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sweetness from these things. That's why we do it at the end of

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the day. The reason we do this, and we'd rather do that than to

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sit in vicar. The reason we do that rather than to read the

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Quran, rather than to do even serious study is because there's a

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certain sweetness that's felt and that is why the knifes is more

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dangerous than the shaytaan because it's a sweetness very

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close to home. It's a sweetness very close to home, and it's

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called a Halawa tool however, however means desire and Hala Amin

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sweetness. So the sweetness of desire is of two types. Now, this

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is the benefit of this is that it will tell us what kind of

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desire is able to be controlled more easily and what is not

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to be controlled more easily is how enough's waha will help. One

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is the desire of the knifes

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the other one is the desire of the heart. And here we're talking

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about egotistic desire here we're talking about negative desire, not

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correct desire Hawa, Hawa. Although the word power is a

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generic, neutral term by its origin, it can be used for good

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desire or bad desire to want something. However,

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it has become us used to.

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in the negative sense, there's certain terms like that they

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become attached to the negative sense of it more than they do to

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the positive sense of it. For example, Sirata loose takim the

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past Sirat Sarah is more positive

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Right. So you have these terms like that this is the way

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languages are certain terms though, literally speaking, they

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have no bad meaning, but then they suddenly become negative, for

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example, capitalism.

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Right? That in itself is not an intrinsically bad word. But

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because of the abuses politics is another one. So now when you see

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us the word politics, how can he be in politics, it's

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would you call it inappropriate, it's negative, you know, it's

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deceptive. This is the these are kind of connotations. So, there is

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the desire that the knifes produces. And there's the desire

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that the heart produces now which one do you think is worse? He says

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the how enough's the one of the knifes is, it goes back to the

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that's attached to all of those desires that are to do with the

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body.

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They all to do to do with the body, for example, the sweetness

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you feel when eating sweetness here means that the good

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experience you have, because it's a sense of sweetness, it's not

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bitter, that's what you do it the food may be, the food may be hot,

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but you feel that that's what you like. So there's a sweetness to

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the to it, which means is a pleasure. So the pleasure of

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eating, drinking, garments, clothing, clothing, handbags,

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coats, jackets, cars, you know, whatever, monarchy which is it

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means of conveyance monarchy,

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marriage,

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to do it for only the purpose of desire

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to do it only for the purpose of desire to now here he is probably

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also taking the consideration in those times when people used to

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get married more than one

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just purely to fulfill extra desire to have extra variety.

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Right? Not to really one is that the person has a lot of desire,

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and he needs to get married. That's, that's recommended. That

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sooner anybody who says I don't want to get married, they're going

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against the Sunnah. It's as simple as that. Doesn't matter how pious

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this individual is, yes, we've had a real amount of reserve. We've

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had individuals in the past who didn't get married for whatever,

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some circumstances. But

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the professor logs them in the preface of the lessons time, as

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you know, there's certain Sabo said, I just want to worship I

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don't want to engage myself in any of this, I'm not going to marry

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the professor awesome. This is one I am the most pious of you, and

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I'm married to nine.

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And that's why there's actually a hadith, in which he mentions that

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it is superior to worship your Lord while you meet to while you

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are in contact with people, then to try to worship your Lord, when

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you're not in contact with people. So it's superior to be worshiping

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your Lord while you still deal with people because we are social

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creatures. It sounds very easy, the knifes does make it sound nice

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sometimes that you should just stay alone. But that's not

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accomplishment. We are social creatures. That's our nature, the

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province alone isn't was like that the prophets were like that. Well,

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Misurkin. And then above that is places of residence, adorning the

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place of residence, buying a new house, buying a better house,

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buying a bigger house, better area. And so sometimes you need to

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do that to get away from Bad Company. Children are in bad

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company, that's understandable. But if it's just a status symbol,

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just for the love of nice things around you, realizing I've only

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got 20 years left in this life, 30 years recognized or maybe less 30

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years is by statistics, 40 years, maybe by statistics, but really,

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maybe less than that, all of this because it's to do with the

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system, it's to do with our bodies. All of this is to do with

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the knifes then he says, Well how will curb those to do with the

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hearts are different, which is Shaohua to Walmart in a Ouija

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these are the these they don't really have. They're more of a

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mental problem. They're more of a psychological problem. They're

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more of a an abstract issue that has nothing to do with feeling

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meaning physical feeling, this is non physical. So for example, the

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love of influence, the love of fame, the love of renown.

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Feeling famous, in fact,

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ml has already mentioned that the love of renown is worse than the

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love of money.

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The reason is that

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with money, a number of things you have to look after it. It

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decreases by using using it you have to look after it renowned

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doesn't need as much looking after you don't need to keep it as save

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yes you need to keep away from doing things which are unbefitting

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but then today there's renowned in totally negative as well the more

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worse you act on stage, the more you do weird things and

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ugly things the more famous you become because there's a market

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for that as well.

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But so it doesn't need to be protected as much. Number two,

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money doesn't increase on its own, you have to work hard to invest it

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and increase it. Whereas fame only increases. As long as you play it

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right? Fame only increases today 10 People know about you,

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tomorrow, an additional 20 will know about you. And as more people

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hear about you, the more it will spread, the more that starts to

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affect you. That is why that is very difficult to deal with. You

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may be fine. From a sincerity perspective, one day, you've

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managed to convince yourself that this is all from Allah subhanho wa

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taala, you've got it right. Tomorrow, somebody will come and

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praise you, they'll write a nice comment online about you, you will

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get a bigger following on YouTube or when you go to Facebook or

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somebody will say something nice or somebody will praise you. And

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then the exercise of restraint class has to come in again.

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So that's an ongoing endeavor. That's why finally his conclusion

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after mentioning a number of the comparisons, he says that the love

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for fame is worse. It it the love for money. When money is gone,

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then, you know, there's there's a certain aspect there, the love for

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fame is SubhanAllah. It's worse, he says, because it takes much

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longer for it to actually go it produces a bigger challenge. Okay,

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so he says like the love for fame, leadership, on a praise, all of

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this, these are all

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members only mentioned that people like to have

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leadership, they like to influence people, because this is a natural

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trait in the human to

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make themselves out to be bigger than others. So if it's such that

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he, this person does it through creating love among people, or a

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person is doing nice things, a person is doing praiseworthy

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things. So then what happens is, people begin to naturally love

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them. The challenge here now is to not let that get to your heart.

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Not that not let not that be a personal thing, where you start

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enjoying and basking in the glory of people loving you. He says in

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the same way, there's people who will act in an authoritarian way

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in front of others, to subjugate them, these people will hate him

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inside, they won't have the love. But because they're doing his

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bidding, because of the authority that this person enjoys, then that

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also gives a problem in the hearts.

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So now you can understand where all of this is just very fine,

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very, there's issues to be had each of these places in each of

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these instances

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will also see Yeah, well Kurama another one is for a person who

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likes to be distinguished from others.

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For particular reasons again, that leads to the same blameworthy

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traits wahala to title hissy. Now this is on a very high level,

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feeling the pleasure of

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perceptible worships, should be done for the sake of Allah

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subhanaw taala not to enjoy.

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The enjoyment should be with Allah subhanaw taala.

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He says this is the status of normal worshipers and normal czar

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heads, people who want to abstain from things, not the ones we might

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prefer. But the ones who are not there yet. They do this for

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purpose for pleasure through this worship. Just like with other

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people, they get their pleasure out of tennis, out of swimming,

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they get a certain pleasure out of that it gives them a sense of

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fulfillment. These people get a sense of fulfillment in a bar.

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That's and this is probably the state of most of us today. We what

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leads us into the stages to is that we get a certain pleasure.

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We're trying to build up pleasure because right now it's a struggle.

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So we're trying to build up pleasure but that's still just the

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status of a bar that row a bar that is not there yet.

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Well Halawa tell me how roofie will resume he doesn't need

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anybody alone. And likewise for scholarship, the love to know more

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details, the love to know all of these details of why something is

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like this. historical details, grammatical details, just

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basically academic details. This is talking about pure academia for

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the sake of academia. And for example, Imam Shafi he relates he

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says

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if the kings and the wealthy people knew the pleasure that we

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got from studying a single masala

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then they would leave all of that to come and study this. But

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there's a threshold you have to get by

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You want to get this level?

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Again, there's a fitna in that level as well.

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Just because somebody is an academic, we can't blame them that

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they're at that stage. But it's that's their challenge. Because

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Allah should reign supreme in all of these things.

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So now these are all Can you see these are more difficult than the

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first ones. The first one we know we're getting pleasure out of

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eating too much or sleeping too much.

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And here, this one is much more difficult because all of these are

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cloaked in praiseworthy things.

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Becoming a good scholar, doing lots of worship. So there's an

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aspect there. That's why he says, A Marilla Julho enough's for

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Amberle Caribbean, when it comes to remedying the desires of the

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knifes, that's a

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very possible thing. That's something easy to happen. Some of

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you may be sitting and saying that this is where I'm struggling. I

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can't get away from just going out with friends from just enjoying

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myself from not working hard from all of this.

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But he says that, He said it's easy, which means it has to be

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easy.

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At least as optimistic for us. Yom Kippur Elijah who Bill fear or

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even Ohtani Dalek was already was submitted here. The ways of

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reformation from these things is to run away from such places where

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you fall into this kind of passion. Places where we are bad

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company, places where to stop frequenting these kinds of friends

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or situations or friends of all places. And keeping good company

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and abstinence from these things. This is the way to remove this

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because you will feel withdrawal symptoms in the beginning but it

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will get easier

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while more alert allergic to how well Colby either tamarkan

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As far as remedying the desires of the heart,

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if that's if that's possible for her sorry, that is difficult. That

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is a very difficult matter. Well, who had the will Oh doll. That is

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what he calls the incurable sickness, meaning extremely

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difficult to cure sickness.

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Unlike the Ebola at birth, or just the home or habits of man, Elijah,

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even the physicians have been exhausted by trying to find the

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remedies. This just shows the complexity of Allah's handiwork in

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this world, the heart, the mind is such a complex institution within

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the human being that nobody has been able to understand it fully.

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Until today, psychologists are trying to understand the mind.

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They claim they've understood but then they find a contradiction.

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Every mind is different. The heart is different. When they say mind

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they obviously mean heart but they just don't mentioned it because

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they think heart is just a biological pump of you know,

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biological organ, whereas it's actually much more than that.

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That's and because of this inability on part of the

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physicians as well. That's why these defeat these this type of

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sickness is more it's become more settled.

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So how do you remove it? Again, this is Alhamdulillah Islam as

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a religion of hope. It's got answers. Allah provides answers to

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everything. He created us he knows the way out. We're in nama you who

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did you who worry don't Isla he be a knight in Serbia, because it

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will be lady was.

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What will take it out is special attention from Allah subhanho wa

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taala. When Allah wants to gift a person, so what you do in this

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case is you ask Allah

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there are certain things you can do and try yourself through

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exertion. The other one is the exertion of dua to ask Allah

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subhanaw taala for America to do more Mujahidin and ALLAH SubhanA

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wa Taala gives a Nya

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and then he mentions la you could eat your shower terminal Colby

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Hofer, Mazar edge, oh Shulkin McCulloch, which we're not going

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to look at today, it will take too long. But the desire of the heart

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will can only be taken out by hopefulness edge by a fear that

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really overtakes you.

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It's a hope it's a fear that really troubles you.

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That will then lead you to do something about it. So it's a

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state of desperate desperation. This desperation I don't think we

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have to worry about right now because we're not there yet. It

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seems, but this is that states that the people will go in

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SubhanAllah. If you look at if you read the biographies of the pious,

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you'll notice that they have come across these stages. There'll be

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certain stages where they will just be totally withdrawn. They

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will just totally be withdrawn and you'll see them crying prophecy in

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a certain phase in their life. They got these, these are stages

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people have to go through these stages people have to go through,

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oh Shoko makuleke If it's not the fear, then it's x

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stream shows that is extreme desire for Allah subhanaw taala

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which then leads the person and propels the person closer to Him

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and to forget all of these things because the Maqsood becomes so the

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object of our desire becomes Allah subhanaw taala the object of our

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interest becomes Allah subhanaw taala. So not my conclusion from

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all of this, and something that I've been thinking about for the

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last week or so, is that really in our life, there are three things

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that we need to have,

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there are three things that we need to have, that will then shape

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us that will drive us and that will protect us. So it will drive

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us in the right direction, it will protect us from the wrong things,

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and it will drive us to the high level.

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Right. Number one is to get our priorities right, our dream

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desire, objective and goal needs to be Allah subhanaw taala

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genitori for those and Allah subhanaw taala that's why the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said said they do work are

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able

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hit the mark

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or get close Allah subhanaw taala knows that the problem is that the

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human beings they're not always going to hit it right?

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This is what Colonel Insano or ephah the human is weak. We have a

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lot of temptation, weaknesses, he knows we're not always going to

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hit hitting right and that's why Allah doesn't expect us to be 100%

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We, when I say this, I say this because in that hadith, it

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mentions that there's a hadith which mentioned that somebody said

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to Allah subhanaw taala there's a there's a narration which says

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somebody said to Allah subhana wa Taala make me of those who never

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sin. So Allah said to him, that if everybody asked for that, and I

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was to accept that idea, I was to accept that from everybody, then

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who would I have my fatherland, grace upon? Who would I forgive?

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How would my reform go far, and so on? How would that then be

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expressed? So the fact is, all of this tells us that sins, mistakes,

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blemishes, faults, weaknesses are inevitable. What's the most

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important thing is to get close at least what that means is simply if

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you're doing target practice, if you're going in a direction, at

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least get your tomtom and go right in the right direction. Don't hit

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self. Don't hit East don't head west. And if you're gonna go

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straight, don't take a detour. Get straight. That is your direction.

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Yes, you may still end up losing yourself and ending up somewhere

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else but then you'll still be close enough. So idea is that even

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if you don't hit the mark, when you're firing, you'll at least get

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close said they do work Haribo said they do means hit the mark

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and cardio means get close. Then the profit and loss mean another

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version of this hottie said what up Shiro and accept the glad

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tiding if you've done this, this is your perspective, then accept

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the guiding. Our biggest problem today is that our focus is not

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right. We dilly dally in that regard. Our focus is weak. Yes, we

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all want Allah subhanaw taala but it's not our focus. We change our

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focus Allah then only when we're reminded when we sit in a barn or

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lecture or something like that we reorient ourselves, okay, okay,

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tomorrow from today, I'm going to do this stuff with the leftover

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you know, and then we reorient ourself. But if it's in our mind,

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every day, every day, every day, in our mind few times a day,

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Allah, Allah, Allah, that's our that's our mind, whole purpose of

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our thicker etcetera, is to, to make that foremost in our mind,

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then everything will do will suddenly fall in place in the

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right direction, it will still be enjoying yourself in the dunya

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Halal enjoyment, but your MCSA your goal is right, your intention

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is right, the physical aspects of it will just be carrying you

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along. That's it, they'll just be side aspects. But if you're aiming

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in the wrong direction,

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you know, this is the job that I want, you will want the job but if

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your job is part of in the direction of Allah subhanaw taala,

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then that's fine. It's the same thing. Just don't aim it in that

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direction. Just don't make it a different goal. It's a it's just

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something on the pathway to our main goal is not a separate goal.

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So don't just aim in the wrong direction I'm doing you know,

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target practice Sunday, I just started facing that direction.

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Everybody's gonna call me silly, stupid. So face in the right

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direction, I may not hit the market or get close. But then

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that's except the glad tidings that this is what is required from

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you don't expecting to get a bull's eye all the time.

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So the first and foremost, I believe in everything is

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perspective. If we can remember our death, standing in front of

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Allah subhanaw taala, where we're going to be in Jannah

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then you'll see that life will become a bit easy, because it's

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all about perspective. Right? When we lose that perspective, then

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it's just like so difficult, then we'd rather enjoy going out with

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friends. I mean, there's nothing wrong with going out good friends

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I'm talking about when it's bad. That's what I'm talking about.

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Wasting time, wrong ideas.

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not fully understood of things, you know, all of these things, get

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the perspective, right? Believe me helps so much. I'm saying this

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practically speaking, if I can just think of the earth era, once

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or twice a day, and I'm gonna die one day suddenly all is desired to

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have a bigger house, then it becomes tempered, you start

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looking at more realistically, right? The desire to have this,

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that and the other.

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Like, for example, I have this insatiable appetite for learning a

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lot of things. You know, I wish I could just drop a lot of other

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responsibilities that I have, and just sit and learn.

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But, again, what's my perspective in that? What's my ambition goal,

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that when I remember the hereafter, then I suddenly start

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realizing that this is helpful. But if I make that exclusive, that

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is not helpful.

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It has to fit into my worldview, it has to fit into my goal, which

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is Allah subhanaw taala.

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So I have to do the relevant things. And then you start

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thinking, I've only got maybe this many years of life left.

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Is that what I want to be spending my time on? Yes, I do to a certain

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degree, but is that what I want to be spending all my time is that

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all there is in the world. So if you have that, after that thing,

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you will start realizing these things, then things that you're

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emotionally attached to, which are not the things that are

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praiseworthy, you will start weaning yourself of these things.

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That's why focus on the Akira

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without getting to the extreme of that, because we're not told to be

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totally without hope, either. Right? No, we're not supposed to

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be in total fear. It is extremely powerful. Then the other two

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things, good company

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as much as possible. This doesn't mean you leave your job.

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I know number of people who come I've got, you know, I'm joking

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around all of these non Muslims, this, that and other whatever

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people are swearing, talking about the dunya talking about

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promotions, talking about cars, talking about women, you know,

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whatever, whatever, right?

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It doesn't mean you leave your job, yes, if your job is having a

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very negative impact on you,

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then find a better job, you have to have a job. There's must be

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somewhere and you pray to Allah subhanaw taala to give you a job

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that is mashallah conducive to your religion. hamdulillah make

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the best of your job, doesn't mean you lose, you lose your job,

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because that's something we have to do, right. But at least try to

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compensate for the dawn, the one of the reasons I do this measure

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this, despite the fact that I feel absolutely incapable of doing

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anybody else's law. Right. It's because the Sheikh said and I

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personally just find that once a week, in the middle of all of

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this, there's not many gatherings happening. There were other big

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gatherings happening. We don't have to do this. This is one

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gathering that's happening, we get together we do some liquor

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together, right? And there has to be some benefit in that. There has

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to be some benefit in that. The modulus of liquor that that

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happens, is one of the most beloved company, beloved, the

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gatherings that Allah Subhan Allah to Allah subhana wa Tada. He will

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be speaking to the angel saying, what are my servants doing? Are

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they remembering you? Right? And he'll ask, have they seen me? No,

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no, they've never seen you.

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So why, then finally, he will say just tell them that I forgiven all

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of them. Over the Hmong them, there's a guy who came was just

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sitting around, he wasn't there for the machine. He says, Okay,

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these are such a group of people, that anybody who sits with them

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cannot be unfortunate. That's the baraka. So we're just trying to

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create that kind of atmosphere. Maulana Shiva Italia Talalay he

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used to do, he used to do these majorities, etc. One of my

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teachers just told me that he said, for his own benefit, he

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would speak about topics that are to his own benefit, so that he

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could have his own Islam to to reflect over these things. So all

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reason we're doing this is that to benefit from each other, when we

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do the vicar of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada.

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So, good company, if we can mean good company, 24 hours

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Alhamdulillah. But since we can't be, which is very difficult, this

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is essential. This is essential a modulus is essential, that's the

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whole purpose of it is essential.

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And number three,

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so one was having the right direction. Number two, was much

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less good company in general, specifically metrics. Number

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three,

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the vicar of Allah subhanaw taala. Without the secret of Allah

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subhanaw taala. You won't feel like having that direction. Except

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sometimes when somebody reminds you, you won't feel like good

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company. You'll start enjoying Bad Company, vicar is the battery is

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the power the energy that keeps you moving forwards. Otherwise,

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you're taken by the by the waves. If you've got to see vessel that

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has no power, it's going to be prey to the waves. It'll take in

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whatever direction if it has energy and power

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It will sail in the direction that it wants. This is our example in

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this world, have the direction, have the good company and then

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have the energy by doing the Dhikr of Allah subhanaw taala. That's

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why if we can't do our half an hour, Morocco, about one hour of

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Morocco a day, then we are weak, and we start falling prey to these

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things. So if you're lots of people, they say, I can't help it,

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I can't help it. These guys I know, I've seen them online.

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They're on Facebook all the time. And then once every few months,

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I'll get I'll get an email from them. They may be in different

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countries or whatever, I'll get an email from them saying, I need

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help. I need help. I don't know what to do. I just can't You know,

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I am always messing up. Well, obviously you don't do the Korean

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are gonna you're gonna get messed up. You don't have good company

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and you don't have liquor. There's no way you're, you're reminded of

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your goal once in a while, but you don't have the liquor to continue

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forward. There's no way you're gonna do this without the liquor.

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A shake can help you to a certain degree and spur you on but you're

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not even coming to the measurements.

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You're not going to meet your chef, whoever the shake is, you

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know, right? Without vicar you can sit and do whatever you want. We

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will be praying to the world, you start losing yourself, your heart

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starts being afflicted, our hearts already afflicted, but if we do,

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vicar at least it gets away from these things. Believe me this

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after thinking a lot. These are the three most important things

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that I found

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the liquor, company and perspective

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and they all intertwined.

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The company helps you to do your liquor.

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The vicar helps you to start off wanting good company and

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straightening your perspective. Perspective helps you to keep

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doing your liquor and wanting good company because it helps you to

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get you to your objective and it protects you from going in the

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wrong direction or focusing in the wrong direction. So finally, what

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he says what the commentator says here, Sheikh Abdullah, Gonzo he

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some physical ailments deteriorate to the degree of incurable cure in

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Curability, and the patient is rendered terminally ill. The case

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of spiritual ailment is similar. Physically that happens sometimes,

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spiritually that's happening as well. He said, everyone is plagued

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with lowly desires and the desires for worldly pleasure. When the

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pleasure of some lowly desire becomes ingrained in the heart,

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the disease becomes incurable faith, obedience and the seeking

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of forgiveness. Although these are remedies for spiritual ailments,

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as long as the disease has not been ingrained in the hearts,

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after entrenchment in the heart, he doesn't make that distinction

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between how innocent because this is just the matassa right? He

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says, after something like that becomes entrenched in the heart,

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then only the Grace of Allah was taken eliminated, which mean lots

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of Da Shoko makuleke

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or, or a said How often was age, the extreme fear

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or extreme desire for Allah subhanaw taala It is therefore

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essential that the traveller prevent spiritual ailments from

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becoming ingrained in the heart.

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May Allah subhanaw taala give us the Tofik May Allah subhanaw taala

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give us the Tofik allotment of sirloin to

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allow

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us to

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love me 100 em and then

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running into a lot

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of like sipto So Alexa, tell us online, we asked you for Your

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Mercy, Oh Allah, we ask for your compassion, we ask for your

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forgiveness. Oh, Allah has spent many, many years just fulfilling

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our desires on life spent many years pursuing our desires. Oh

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Allah, we never had you as our focus. We'd only be reminded of

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you sometimes. Oh Allah, we ask that you make us you make

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you make us focus on you more than anything else. Oh Allah, we ask

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that you become objective objective in this life. Your

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Pleasure becomes our objective. Oh Allah, Oh Allah. How many more

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years are we going to stay like this? Oh Allah. We ask that you

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give us good company. You ask that you make us of those who remember

00:34:12 --> 00:34:17

you abundantly? Oh Allah. Oh Allah, we ask that you keep us

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strong, you remove our weaknesses. You remove our weaknesses. You

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remove our weaknesses. You grant a strength through your remembrance,

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you grant the strength, the remembrance of Allah, we ask that

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you make all of our surrounding and our company conducive for our

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worship of you. Oh Allah, the Muslims around the world are going

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through difficult times. We ask that you

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make this you relieve us from these problems of Allah that you

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make us true representatives of your messenger sallallahu alayhi

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wa salam.

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O Allah that you make it easy for us to remove the desires in our

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life, the false desires in our life, and to make you our ultimate

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objective of Allah

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Allah we ask that you purify our hearts you take out from our heart

00:35:03 --> 00:35:07

that love that we have an excessive love that we have for

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this dunya and it's different pleasures of Allah We ask that you

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remove the difficulties, you removed the weaknesses, you remove

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the negative attractions from our life. Oh Allah we ask that you

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have your mercy on us you have your mercy on us. We have no one

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else to go to. Oh Allah we can only ask you we can only ask. We

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can only ask you. I will accept Alexa tower gathering together of

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Alexa tower gathering together and grant us if loss and sincerity and

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strength. So Hernan Robina is it here and now you'll see who was

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around when you're sitting in 100

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