Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Defining Love for Allah

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speakers discuss the definition of "what love" in Arabic, with a focus on the meaning of "what love" in Arabic. They also discuss the importance of fulfilling obligations and not doing things that make one feel bad. The concept of love is related to "haste love" or "haste love" and is broadly applicable across cultures. The speakers stress the need to focus on "good things" and avoid the "sliver of love" that comes with love. They also discuss the use of "immaterial gifts" in Islam and the importance of strong immune systems to boost one's health and knowledge.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa

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salatu salam ala say even more saline or the early he also be

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here or DACA was a limiter Sleeman Kathira in Iommi, Dean a moderate.

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To add on to the series that we were covering about the soulful

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Sufism, one of the most important themes in there was the love of

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Allah subhana wa Tada.

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So today I just want to spend some time in discussing just

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particularly what is love for Allah subhanaw taala? How have

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different people who have loved Allah subhanaw taala explain the

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experience and define their experience? Maybe we can learn

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from that. And maybe Allah subhanaw taala will grant us his

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true love as well.

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Firstly, just to define what love is the word in Arabic is the

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several words and him well hope, and muhabba. And then you have

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Habib, who is the beloved one.

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So, some scholars define an muhabba as a would do, well, may

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you do a little boob, which basically means a love an

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inclination towards the beloved.

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Generally, others have described it as the love for perfection.

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The love for symmetry, the love for balance, the love for

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moderation.

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The Beloved is generally someone that you expect to get some

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benefit from, that you admire.

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Because of the balance in which they come. So if it's human or an

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object of creation, then it's going to be something that has

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been created, manufactured, made or designed or cooked or something

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like that, with a balance that in terms of not just the way you look

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at it in terms of sight, maybe in terms of how you hear it, if it

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has a sound, how you taste it, and the more boxes it will take than

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the greater the love for that. So because Allah subhanaw taala is

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the one with the greatest sense of perfection, and so is the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in terms of

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the benefit we can gain from them, and just how we can admire who

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they are and what they are, then clearly, Allah subhanaw taala, and

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his prophet should be the greatest object of our love. We can say it

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that way.

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How do we know that we love someone, we become inclined

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towards them. That's just a very basic definition. Basically.

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Wilson was article Mustafa filmer tube

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that then NASA necessitates that somehow you want to fall in line

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with your maboob. With your objective love, you want to fall

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in line, you want to synchronize yourself with them.

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Now, that's a very easy thing for us to determine that what are we

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trying to synchronize ourselves with?

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Right, maybe

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the idea is that we can maybe determine what the object of love

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is, and then see if we synchronize. But I think today is

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probably easier to find out who is synchronized or what we're

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synchronized with and figure out that's the real object of our

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love.

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Right? So if we, if we basically start with the effect, so what are

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we synchronized with? People are synchronized with very different

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things. So they're synchronized with maybe a football team or a

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particular football player. Clearly, that means that there's a

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love there, because we're trying to be like them. We wear their

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clothing, we try to play like them be like them, say their names,

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know their history, know everything about them. Whether

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that be a phone company, whether that be a technology company,

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right, like Apple or Samsung, or Microsoft or something like that.

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Buckley, clearly they you can understand why these things

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capture, capture us, because of a sense of perfection, which is

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there. So I guess everybody can think for themselves. What is

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love? I mean, is it food? Is it a certain type of food? Is it going

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out to eat? Is it a certain friend?

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So there's all of these things that we can understand from there?

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Then what that's just, I mean, I'm starting off with some just some

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really basic definitions. Now let's move on to a definition of

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how Allah subhanaw taala How can you characterize Allah's love for

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someone? Because Allah doesn't become inclined inclination

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doesn't apply to Allah subhanho wa Taala so what does it then mean?

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Can you apply this definition to Allah subhanaw taala none of us

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are 100% Perfect anyway, so why would that means we could never be

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loved by Allah because we're not perfect.

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So for Allah subhanaw taala is a different definition. Because you

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just can't have inclination and

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infatuation for Allah can't have that. So what it then means on a

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basic level for Allah subhanaw taala to love someone. Is that

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Allah

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subhanaw taala

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blesses them. Allah subhanho wa Taala treats them in the best of

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ways. Allah gifts them bestows things upon them.

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It's necessary that we love Allah subhanho wa taala. So the

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obligation of loving Allah is it's there. Why Allah subhanho? wa

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Taala Satan sort of drama either. Yeah, you have Latina woman who

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may or third the main command Dini for Sophia Tila, who be combing

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your hair boom where you hate buena.

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So, Allah subhanaw taala is telling us Oh, people who believe

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whoever turns away from his Deen from from his religion, whoever

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from the real religion, whoever turns away from it, and ignores

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it. Then for so. So then Allah so if you do that Allah subhanho wa

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Taala will bring about a people that will love him

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and they will love him. So clearly, Allah loves people, and

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they love him. And if we don't act upon that, then some then somebody

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else is going to take our place. It's related from Gibreel

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Alehissalaam.

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Who

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relates this Hadith from Allah subhanaw taala. So this is a

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Hadith of kotse that men are Hannah Lee. Well, Ian

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forgot Belarus and he will marhaba

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whoever degrades humiliates one of my wellies and uh, well, he is

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someone who Allah subhanho wa Taala loves.

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Then he has basically challenged me with war. He's declared war

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against me in another version, it says mon ad, legally and whoever

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expresses his enmity, whoever treats with enmity. One of my

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friends, one of my beloved, then I declare war on him. So this both

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ways it's mentioned.

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And then it says

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there's nothing, nothing that I've hesitated in.

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There's nothing that I've hesitated in, then my hesitation

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in taking the life, the soul

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of a servant of mine who is a believer who dislikes death, and I

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dislike to make him feel bad, but it's necessary. So death is

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inevitable, it's necessary. Death is necessary, but he doesn't like

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death. And I don't want to make him feel bad, but that is

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necessary. And then the rest of the hadith is Rama Takara Baleia

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appdb che in la meme after meme of Torah to are they the way to gain

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the love of Allah subhanaw taala. The absolute basic requirement

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this is the basic requirement is that we need to fulfill the

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obligations. Without obligations, you can do everything else, you

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can have major vicar gatherings, you can basically have program

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after program. But if you don't do the fry, the prayers, etc. None of

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that none of that is helping. Because the obligations are the

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initial tickets, then what I then after that, once we've gone to

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that first threshold, then the sun, the seven will become closer

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and closer to me by the option and X until I love him. So he says

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then he will become closer to me after he, he becomes he becomes

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close to me with his obligate with his option legs until I love him.

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So that love comes after that. So we're going to have to make that

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effort if you want again, we can't expect that Allah just loves me

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because there's just something about me that he loves. I don't do

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any of this stuff, you know, because in the world, that's how

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it is, isn't it? There's certain people who may not act, who may

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not fulfill all the requirements of something they just like

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something about them. So you let them in. It's like it's okay. It's

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okay. Right. So here Allah subhanho wa Taala is saying that

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they better do these things, or when I have to who controller who

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summon and then of course, the rewards of becoming beloved by

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Allah subhanaw taala is that he will become the hearing by which a

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person hears insight and the hand touching and why and so on and so

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forth.

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There's another Abu Huraira the Allahu Anhu relates that the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said either have Allahu

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Abdon called alegebra in famous generation, to give you an idea

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when Allah subhanaw taala then begins to love somebody. He says

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to Gibreel Gibreel I love such and such a person you love him as

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well. I love such and such a person, you will love him too. So

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gibril begins to love Him because angels are under the command of

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Allah subhanaw taala then Gibreel alayhi salam, what he does is he

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goes beyond that. And he tells all the angels that you have to love

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this person because Allah subhanaw taala loves him.

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So then the people of the heavens meaning the inhabitants of the

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heavens, which primarily are angels, they begin to love him.

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And then because they have, they have frequent visits to the world.

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The acceptance also descends and is placed on him in the earth.

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So people begin to love that person in general. But clearly,

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there's going to be some people who won't love him. Because there

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are people who are going to, as mentioned, the other hadith is

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going to be people who have enmity towards the friends of Allah.

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Right? So but generally speaking, there's love towards this person,

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especially good people will love this person because the hearts

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will connect.

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So that's the face famous one. And then of course, it's the same

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opposite, which basically means that if Allah subhanaw taala,

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dislike somebody, then he says, the same thing. And that's why one

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of the transmitters have said that I don't think except that he must

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have said this opposite with regards to hating that the same

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thing he tells you reload Islam and UBI some passes that news on

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that I don't like this person. Right. So now let's get back to

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understanding love itself, Al muhabba. Another way to understand

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his harlot and Sharifah love is supposed to be an honorable state

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in a person

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with regard to Allah subhanaw taala. So if we have love for

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Allah, and Allah has love for us, that's a very honorable state,

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because Allah subhanaw taala has told us about that.

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I just want to clarify love for other things. So what I explained

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is that when you find something of beauty to you, that symmetry and

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perfection, and you would consider that to be beautiful, then you

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want to, you want to be close to that thing. You want to have that

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thing, right. So obviously, if it's a product, you will try to

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acquire it, you may spend a lot of money in acquiring it, you may

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purchase it, you may some people steal things like that. And if

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it's a person, you'll you'll want to get close to them. Right now.

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This is where I spoke to a friend of mine who's an expert on love.

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And there's somebody who is basically interested in somebody

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because they find them balanced, and they find them beautiful, in

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terms of what they do. Right? Generally is going to be a man to

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a woman, that kind of thing, right?

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I'm not sure if that person's even seen the individual. Right? But in

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terms of everything else about them.

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So I asked him Is that love?

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So he said, does he feel like eating?

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Like, is he eating? I said yes, I'm sure he's eating. Is he

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sleeping? Yes, he's sleeping. This isn't that's not proper love yet.

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Love is when you essentially are so, so engrossed, that you can't

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even eat anymore. And you can't sleep, you can't do anything for

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yourself anymore. Because everything is focused on the other

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person.

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And in some cases, that is sometimes the best of states for a

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person, because that's the only time they're not selfish. That's

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the only time they actually focused on somebody else. Now,

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before you start finding an object of love like that, it has to be

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pure.

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Right? Because

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certain I asked him, but this person, I don't think he's up to

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that level. Actually, there were two people I was wanting to ask

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him about. One was a 16 year old who's so infatuated like that,

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that he just can't see any other way about it.

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But this person, the older person, he's not like that.

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So the idea is that he says, Well, this is probably infatuation,

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right, which is like a beginning stage. It's an infatuation. It's

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not there yet.

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But again, you can only have that with somebody who it's halal for

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you to have that kind of love with. But sometimes the problem is

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that love will take over your heart, and you have no control

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over it.

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And that's the difficult part. So now I asked him, Okay, if

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somebody's got love with somebody that they cannot express, they

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cannot basically realize their love with, right?

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Because you could have those kinds of situations that you it's just

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impossible for you to realize your love with them.

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And there's a lot of people because love will make you sick.

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Right? If you can't eat, you can't do anything, it will make you

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sick. So then the question is that, how do you? How do you stop

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loving somebody? How can you stop loving somebody that you don't

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think it's worth loving? Because emotionally you love them, but

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intellectually, you know, it's just not going to happen. I can't

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realize this love.

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I mean, ideas, maybe you want to marry somebody who your parents

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are against. Or maybe you're already married, and there's

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somebody else you interesting, but it's just not going to happen.

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Right? You know, I mean, it could happen, but it's just not going to

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happen. Because you know your situation, right? You don't want

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to mess it up with the first wife or whatever the case is. Or a

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woman is married and she just becomes infatuated with somebody

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else it can happen would you do them? Right? These are practical.

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These are practical situations that are real and we need to deal

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with them because there are examples of this. You know,

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there's women who are married but then they've just fall in love

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with somebody they work with,

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even among religious people because sometimes

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As the shaytaan is there, and I'm not saying it happens religiously,

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but you know you start speaking to somebody and you see that they

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seem to be better than your own spouse. And that's why it's very

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important at this point to start reading two doors to those very

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effective one is Allah whenever you have this kind of alert to

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something else, and it's kind of putting down what's halal for you

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and you're becoming inclined to haram then Allahu mfine be halal

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and haram ik will have the nene before the government Ciroc Allah

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suffice me with the halal away from the Haram

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right and make me independent from the need of anybody but you but

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Allah suffice me with the halal away from the Haram so you think

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there's things that you're looking at that attracting you and clearly

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the Haram or the the most likely going to lead to haram whatever,

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right then just read this door, and the other door is Robina to

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her Milla, which is from the Quran Robina to her Milner, Mela, Taka

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tele Nabi, Allah don't make us carry a burden that we have no

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ability to carry. Because as I said, sometimes it gets so

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overwhelming that you have no control over yourself. And people

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ended up messing up families messing up their life messing up

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their relationships, existing relationships that were fine due

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to that.

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So this is very powerful Robina to her Mennonites, the end of the

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Psalter dakara just before sort of done a Imran is there that oh

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Allah do not, do not make us carry a burden that we can't carry that

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we don't have the ability to carry. So then how do you de love

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somebody? Like how would you stop loving somebody. So I forget the

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poem you mentioned. But basically, the the point is that love is

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based on all the good qualities, love is based on all of the good

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qualities or the fascination that so you have to basically do the

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counter to that, which is you start thinking of all of the worst

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things.

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Which is very difficult to do. Because the Love makes you so

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emotionally attached to all the good things that it's

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overwhelming, then for you to even try to break through that cloud.

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And to think of bad things is very difficult. But that's what you're

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supposed to do to try to get away from somebody that you can't

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basically realize your love with SubhanAllah. But basically, I

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think the antidote here is I want you to have that experience a few

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times. And maybe the thing is that just don't focus too much on the

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good things. And just ask Allah then May and then ask Allah

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subhanaw taala okay, this is something is not going to happen

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for me just get do the istikhara DUA

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and people are dealing with this. That's why I mentioned people are

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dealing with this kind of stuff on different levels. You know, some

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are very far gone. So now just start thinking of the worst

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things,

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you know, all the ignorant ignoring of, she's genuinely so

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bad to me, but I still, you know, the she's back to me, you know,

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because people just overlook these things. Because they think somehow

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miraculously with magic is all going to be fine.

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So,

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that's a bit about love, and how to deal with it because it's an

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essential

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it's something that is so essential to many, many human

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beings that it needs to be discussed.

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So anyway, when it's love with Allah subhanaw taala. You see,

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there's another concept which is called the ish and generally ish

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is considered to be love that has gone beyond the boundary beyond

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the limits. Right? Now, what's very interesting is that while

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some people do use this term for love of Allah, in their in the

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real sense, you can't have a wish for Allah and you can't

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characterize love for Allah as a wish. Or Allah's love for a human

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being as a wish.

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Why do you think that's the case?

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Because it gives when you go beyond the limits, you can never

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go beyond the limits of loving Allah.

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Right? The more you love him, the better as Allah says that

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we're living in a shack do Hogben Villa those people who believe

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they're the most intense in the love for Allah. And there's a lot

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of bandwidth that they use, there's so much more to go the

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more you love him, it never ends. There's no end to the love. Right?

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And Allah can love a person like that. So because there's no

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there's no end to Allah has infinite gifts and bounties and

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care and attention. or Allah subhanaw taala himself, you kind

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of ish, though people do use images and I think they use it

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metaphorically for that. But in the real sense according to many

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scholars, you can't have issues with Allah.

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Right? Just pure love. But you can have issues with somebody else

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that goes over the boundary and makes you not fulfill your rights

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and makes you basically negligent of other rights and so on. And so

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for that would that would be excessive love.

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So, if we go back to the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala for his

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creation and the

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Love the creation for Allah is that love of Allah subhanaw taala

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his creation is that Allah then intends to bestow him with gifts.

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Right and that gifts doesn't mean just you know material aspects it

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obviously means closeness and love and vicar and all the rest of it

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we can have attached that's all from the love of Allah subhanaw

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taala avoidance of sins.

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So what is the difference between Allah was intending to give a

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bounty to to His servant, which muhabba has been defined as

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Allah's mercy.

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So they saying that mercy, Rama is actually more specific than just

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the will to give him something, the intention to give him

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something. And muhabba is then even more specific than Rama. So

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while Allah can have love Rama for many more people, there's going to

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be fewer that he's going to have before.

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Because Marhaba is more specific, for the for the fewer

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Allah subhanaw taala is intending to give somebody reward and

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bounties that you know that you call that Rama. And then Allah

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subhanaw taala intending to specify a person for his closeness

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to basically single out a person to give him proximity is intimacy

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and closeness and to give him the experiences of high spiritual

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states, then that is what you call muhabba. That's a way of Allah

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subhanaw taala.

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In sha Allah we all share in sha Allah we all enjoy Rama from ALLAH

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SubhanA wa Tada by the fact that we're believers, but we ask Allah

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to also give us his muhabba

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an extra level, the top level in sha Allah

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and that depends on the individual then because for some, Allah

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subhanaw taala has attribute is just one I mean, there's going to

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a bit of theological discussion, the attribute of Allah subhanaw

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taala is one but it manifests differently in terms of who it is

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on the receiving end, but ignore that point if it doesn't make

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sense. And for the servant to love Allah subhanho wa Taala

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for Hala to near G do huffy Calbee so as far as the love for this for

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servants with Allah subhanaw taala is concerned, then it is a state

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that they generally will experience in their hearts. A lot

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of idle a bar either a bird

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under a bar it's very sad it's too

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complicated to bring in words it's an experiential feeling it's very

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difficult to apply that in words that what exactly does it mean

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that a seven loves hola now? How do you describe the feeling? You

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can maybe describe what he's going to do now based on it, but to

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describe the actual feeling is going to be very, very difficult.

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Now what it does to you is that what made you who telecoil hola

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hola Tao V Mila, who? It will obviously make you glorify Allah

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and revere Allah more revere revere Allah more than anything

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else. So when Allah becomes our main objective compared to all the

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other things that we're loving, then that makes sense. What if our

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reader giving preference to his satisfaction can lead to somebody

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and who, which basically means that you know, just like with when

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you have a love of object, I always want to be with that

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person. So likewise here, you just never want to be away from Allah.

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How can you never be away from Allah? Well, you can be wherever

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you want, but as long as you're remembering him, you're with ALLAH

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SubhanA wa Tada. But if something comes to distract you, you'll be

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very angry. Are You distracted me? That means What's that won't be a

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distraction.

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Well ATR delay and just the desire for Allah subhanaw taala the need

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for him or Adam will karar mean Dooney he basically means that the

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person is going to be restless without

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doing vicar without being with Allah subhanaw taala what would

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you do a state nurse with the worm is decree law who will call V

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which is that the only way you will gain that sense of

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familiarity and closeness to Allah subhanaw taala is by staying in a

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constant state of vicar with his heart. Now, in terms of how people

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have shared their experience of love for Allah subhanaw taala

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there's abundant statements we'll just go through some of them in

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the time that we have. And so, firstly, let's try to understand

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the word muhabba the word hope there are various different

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understanding of where it actually comes from to give you an

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understanding, so what some say is smoothly li Safa il My word is

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basically basically the name for absolute pure friendship.

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absolutely pure friendship is suffer or murder.

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Because when the Arabs when you've got totally white sparkling teeth,

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shiny teeth, they they say this is horrible is none

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so

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Oh, hobble asinine, which basically means shiny white teeth.

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So it comes from there, they're saying that it's absolute purity

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of something. So purity of friendship is that level higher,

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that's called muhabba. Another opinion is that hub comes from

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hubbub. herba basically means the water when you have abundant rain,

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when you have torrential rain, the water that basically comes up,

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right and overflows. So the concept is overflowing. When you

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love somebody so so much that you basically overflows and just

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dominates you overwhelms you.

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And there's several other I'm not going to go through all of them.

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There's this one one is very interesting is that

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the earring in Arabic is also called hub or hub.

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Why? Because it always stays on the

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on the air. Right.

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And it's always moving, because it moves with the head. So it's got

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that concept of it's always in a state of stress, right based on

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the object of its love. Anyway, we that this is so literal stuff.

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Let's look at what some of the show you have mentioned about

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love. One of the one of the expressions and again, this is all

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based on experience right? And my habit to eat or maybe movie, Jimmy

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almost rube, which is the muhabba is for you to give preference to

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your beloved upon everything else that can come to you.

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More Africa to hubby Phil Mashhad, he will Mohib

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for you to try to synchronize yourself. That's the word I'm

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using more of a compatibility. But I'm saying you're trying to

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synchronize yourself with your beloved one, whether they're

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absent or whether they're present.

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The Sufis they see that somebody gets so beloved, somebody so

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beloved, loves their Sheikh so much, that they actually sometimes

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it happens that they actually start taking on a number of the

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same habits using the same words doing the same things and so on.

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And they call that Nisbett at hottie like a unified

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relationship, unified attribution that you resemble your chef like

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that.

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Some say

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my whole Mohit Bailey Sefa t what is battle Mabu bebida T is for a

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person to erase their own characteristics and imbibe the

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characteristics of their beloved one.

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If it's Allah they must wonderful, but if it's anybody else, you

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better be careful with that.

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Why? Because likoma HDHomerun in Mojave, Mojave Hattah, yam South

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SIFAT SIFAT enough, see, because they're just so focused on them,

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beloved, that they forget their own attributes.

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Another one more thought to call bilimora that you rub.

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Basically, for the heart to become synchronized with the desires of

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Allah with whatever pleases Allah that would be a wonderful state.

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Another one is hopeful. Torquil Holmer T.

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Ma iqama till hikma the fear to abandon reverence of your Mohib of

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your maboob While you are serving your your maboob So you're serving

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them in such a way that you don't want to get you don't want to get

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anything wrong.

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Abuja Z Bucha Z by Z they'll be stormy he says Al muhabba to St.

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Claude will Cathy REM enough sick?

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What is stick therell Colleen Habib ik

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you see from this collection of sayings you get an understanding

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of what true love for Allah subhanho wa Taala is everybody's

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explaining it slightly differently. The first few are

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similar. This one is very different. I can tell he's talking

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about experience here he's saying that muhabba is for you to

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consider. What you give abundantly is very small. Like I don't give

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much at all even though you're giving everything

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muhabba will make you do that like I haven't done anything and for

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you to think abundant, even a small amount that comes from your

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beloved.

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And we better have that relationship with Allah subhanaw

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taala because we need to give him everything and if he gives us

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something Alhamdulillah

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see the picture now is emerging.

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June Junaid

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Subhan Allah Junaid Al Baghdadi was once questioned about muhabba

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he said the whole of the Fatima movie al Bedlam in Seattle

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Moorhead. This is where basically what somebody else said as well

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which is that for the characteristics of your beloved to

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enter in place of the attributes of the lover himself, right. A

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shout out be Donica Illa istilah Ezekiel maboob Obviously he's

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indicating towards the fact that you

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The mention of your beloved must be overwhelming must be dominant

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had that icon was it Bala called? Will it be ill Degrassi Fatima

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boop such that the only thing that overwhelms your heart and

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dominates your heart and nothing else is the mentioning of Your

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Beloved. What the awful will Kalia mean and SIFAT enough see? And for

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a person to be totally

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ignorant, negligent, heedless, and blinded of his own sephats of his

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own needs and attributes, well excess behavior or to even feel

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them. That's what you call. That's what the Sufis will call Fana.

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Like total annihilation.

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There's some more simpler ones abou Ali, rue the body. He says

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Allah habitable mwah forgotten Maha movie Emery he wanna hear to

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synchronize yourself

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to be compatible with Yamaha based on whatever they like and wherever

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they dislike. Right. Abu Abdullah Al Quraishi he says hotkey

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Cuttwood mabati and the hub Gaddi kleemann, abd Phalarope kala

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comunica che.

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The basically you give everything to your maboob to the one you

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love, such that you have nothing left.

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It's only starting it because you've got so many different

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experiences that will inshallah give us an idea.

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We ask Allah subhanaw taala to make this a driving force and an

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inspiration for us. We can mention these things over and over again.

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But really, it's about trying to accomplish I think the benefit of

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this will tell us that what is it that we love most that we're

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constantly engaged with thinking about going after? That basically

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is a sign that we love those things. So it's not Allah subhanho

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wa Taala Ramadan has finished and we've gone back to how we work

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before Ramadan, then it means we haven't really developed much of a

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love for Allah subhanaw taala to to do that. So we ask Allah

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subhanaw taala to help us otherwise this is all theory. So

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we ask Allah subhanaw taala for reality, here's Darwin and you'll

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Hamdulillah he won't be lying to me Allahumma and this Salam Amin

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because Salam Bharati had originally with a Quran Allahumma

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salli wa salam ala Sayidina Muhammad who either early so you

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deny Mohammed in my body because

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Yeah, they'll generally will eat Quran dinner God will Karim or

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Hannah Raha mean yeah Allah Ya Allah, Allah.

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We ask for your special mercy of Allah we ask you for your special

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attention of Allah we ask You for Your forgiveness of Allah forgive

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us all of our wrongdoings, all of our shortcomings all of our

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defects. All of our sins are Allah this beautiful month of Ramadan

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has passed us of Allah we ask protection that we go back to how

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we were before that. Allah grant us closeness to you of Allah.

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We've just had this discussion in on your love of Allah make this a

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reality for us. of Allah allow us to feel your love. Make your love

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dominant, have Allah removed the love of all else. Oh Allah allow

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us to only love those things which you have commanded us to love. And

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Allah take the love of those things out of our hearts that you

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have prohibited us the love of Allah allow us to love whatever it

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is through you. And Allah we ask that you

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help us to fill our hearts of Allah fill our hearts with your

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love of Allah make that dominant in our hearts of Allah remove all

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of the blemishes and the darkness is for our heart to allow your

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love to come in our Allah allow us to do the right thing allow us to

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follow in the footsteps of your messenger Muhammad sallallahu

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alayhi wa salam, O Allah allow us to gain beneficial knowledge.

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Allow us to be imbibed with good beautiful character. Allow us to

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be our Allah allow us to only

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love your Allah allow us to only love your obedience and keep away

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from your disobedience of Allah make your disobedience hated in

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our heart of Allah remove our spiritual and physical diseases

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and ailments and sicknesses. Oh Allah grant us Shiva and grant us

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Alfia grant is complete if you grant us the ability to thank you

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for your idea of Allah you have given us abundantly you have given

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us from your vast treasures of Allah We ask that whatever you

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have given us, do not make it a source of your anger. Do not make

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it a source of sinning of Allah do not allow us to use what you have

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given us to commit sins and transgressions against you against

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others of Allah don't make all of the bounties that you have

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bestowed us with to be a source of our losing out in the hereafter.

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Oh Allah we ask that whatever you have given us you make it a source

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of blessing and you bless us in whatever you have given us.

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Allah, those of our those of our brothers and sisters around the

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world who have not, who who are suffering of Allah, we ask that

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you remove their suffering of Allah, these projects that we have

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our permissible projects, our work, and whatever we do we ask

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that you bless us and you.

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You give us from Your abundant generosity of Allah, you're more

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generosity you have more generosity than all the generosity

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that exists in this world of Allah we ask from this generosity of

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Allah We can't go to anybody else's Door of Allah We can't go

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to anyone else. Oh Allah, we bow down in front of you. Oh Allah it

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is only you that we can ask any of these things to our Allah bless us

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all here. Do not let us return from here without being absolutely

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forgiven and purified of Allah, we ask

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that You grant us a life of purity and obedience and Taqwa and oh

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Allah that You accept us for the service of your deen of Allah. We

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don't know how we can help. But Allah we know that you can accept

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us for Your service. So Allah accept us for Your service. And

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Allah grant us the Kadima La Ilaha illa Allah on our deathbed, and oh

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Allah grant us both for the travels of this world and the

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troubles for the hereafter grantors salaam grant us success

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and oh Allah make it facilitated make it easy for us. Subhan Allah

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be corrupt biller is that Jana Yossi foon wa salam ala moana

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Salim Al Hamdulillah Rabina Alameen wa Rahmatullah or Hameroff

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