Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Asma’ The Great Daughter of Abu Bakr (r)
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dear friends, dear students,
nice to be with you guys. Again, I've kind of for some reason I
enjoy coming to Imperial been here. I think this is probably my
fourth or fifth time I can't remember probably predates your
entry here
several years ago, started several years ago, but what is found the
crowd to be a bit mature. So I mean, I guess it must reflect
maybe whatever the case is. So may Allah bless you. Because it's a
it's a nice experience. And I think the last talk that I gave
here was about Abdullah hidden and Mubarak Rahima lights. I mean, for
me personally was extremely inspiring. And a lot of the time,
depending on where you are, it makes a difference as to what
you're able to say because I believe that whatever we say,
comes from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada.
So it's nice to be in your midst. I know there's one of you at least
that is supposed to be in forest gate at this time. Right. But for
some reason he's still in Imperial College is supposed to be in
Forrest gates. I hope he doesn't get in trouble.
So let's start our talk.
To start the talk today, I think what's important to understand
first is that when we're covering a biography,
then the whole point of covering a biography, so that we can learn
something from it, we can hopefully relate to it. There are
a huge number of individuals and luminaries and role models,
exemplars in our history that we can benefit from, some of them
will be able to relate more to than others, I may be able to
relate more to maybe OH MY GOD, ALLAH who won more than I can to
maybe a Buddha or the Allah who
some of you may be able to relate to Hadith or the Allahu anha more
than you can to shatter the Allahu anha maybe you can benefit from
some aspects of eyeshot of the Allahu and has lived some aspects
of Hadith Allah, the Allahu unhand, and some aspects of a
smart or the Allahu anha. The more we can learn about these
individuals, the more we become enriched in our understanding,
because the reason we're here and we're listening, and we're
interested is because we're Muslims, Allah has chosen us for
Islam. Now to become good Muslims, the best people we can learn about
Islam from in a more practical sense, are the Sahaba reason is
that from for theory, we learn it from the Quran and the Sunnah, the
Quran and the Hadith, for example, but the way the Hadith are
actually enacted, the way they are, it's personalized in a human
being, you're gonna get that from the sahaba. And there are so many
Sahaba to give us numerous different manifestations of what
the Hadith are saying, because when you read a hadith, how we
apply it, we may have some doubts about that we may have some there
may be some obscurity in that regard. But when you actually see
the companions and the way, they did things in the light of what
they had learned from the messenger of allah sallallahu
alayhi wasallam, then that really helps us that's what I found to be
useful in all of this. And the reason I picked this particular
individual, this particular female companion of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is because she has really inspired
me. She's an amazing individual, not to say the others don't, but
there's just something about her that you will find.
The person we're speaking about is a smart been to Abdullah, a smart
the daughter of Abu Bakr is Abu Bakr is his title. His name was
Abdullah Abu Kochava again is the title of his father. Right. So, so
anyway,
or ignorant of man, that another opinion, but whatever the case is,
her name is Asmaa daughter of Abu Bakr, Siddiq or the Allahu Allah.
So she's the daughter of Abu Bakr Siddiq, really Allah and most
people must have heard about Abu Bakr Siddiq or the Allah one. Her
mother was
another quarter she was from the Quraysh as well. And
she is the sister of Aisha Radi Allahu Allah. She's the older
sister at least 10 years or more older than I showed her the Allahu
anha
she had a different mother to a shot of the Allah one or the other
had different waves over his over his life. And the mother of our
Isha the Allahu anha Her name is Amal Romain, whereas the daughter
aware
was the mother of, of a smart with the Allahu Allah was was another
It was another wife. So they are half sisters father is the same.
Now what we have to understand is that when you're looking for
courage when you're looking for chivalrous chivalry, courage,
valor, heroism, it's not restricted to men only when you
when we will just go through our brief biography of a smart lady
Allahu Allah, you will understand that she is equivalent to hundreds
of men's, she is equivalent to hundreds if not 1000s of men.
Right? So courage and valor. And greatness doesn't discriminate
between men and women. And we have to really understand that. And
when you look at the Sahaba, and how they shone and what they
managed to achieve, then you will actually see how Allah subhanho wa
Taala chooses people despite the agenda. That's why Islam creates
heroes out of men and out of women, not just out of men, you
may hear about the men much more but there may be a greater number
of men, but let us not lose sight. And let us not forget the women
who are the heroes that Islam has created as well. So this great
Sahaba this great female companion of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, you have to understand what she is.
Number one, her father is a great Sahabi her grandfather is a
Muslim, oh Kochava later became Muslim. Her husband was none other
than the Hawaii of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, the the
special assistants the special supporter, just like isa Ali
salaam had a number of disciples. The Prophet sallallahu sallam said
that my disciple is obeyed ignore our arm that was her husband, her
son, and none other than the likes of Abdullah hypnosis obeyed the
one who became a Khalifa eventually.
Then she has Ottawa hypnosis obey, she has a number of other sons as
well.
So her father, her grandfather, her husband has sons, number of at
least one of her sons, they're all Sahaba.
And then in sha Allah, you'll understand what we're looking for
now, I'm going to give you a few pointers as to what to look for in
her story.
Because this shouldn't be just the narrative, this shouldn't be just
the story, this is going to be inshallah a lesson for us that we
can all benefit both our brothers and sisters. Because this is not
just that only the sisters can benefit from this talk. This is
actually for brothers as well. Because as I said, greatness, and
good qualities are something we can all share.
The points we're going to be looking for Inshallah, in today's
talk, number one coping with difficulty. How does one cope with
difficult difficulty comes on everybody. But how does a person
deal with difficulty?
Number two, being revolutionary, doing something different, not
just following the grain, but coming out of your comfort zone,
doing what somebody else, nobody else, in fact does. Because it's
needed. And it's what's right at the time, that's being
revolutionary, you're going to look out for revolutionary ideas
from her. Number three, dealing with an alien environment, maybe
how she deals with new environments,
contribution to conquest or Dawa, inviting others. Another aspect of
faith in the time of struggle, we really need that Muslims are going
through a great struggle at this time. Many are losing their faith
because they can't bother. They want to be comfortable. But there
are going to be difficulties. So how is a person able to hold on to
their faith at a time, just general role in society. That's
another aspect. And then of course, very specific to women
roles as mothers roles as females roles as mothers. This is, these
are some of the things that we're going to be looking at here. One
of the most famous things and most popular things that you will hear
about a smarter the Allahu Anhu whenever you do any search on her
and whenever you pick up any book on her is that she's called a to
Anita arcane. nataka is the jewel of NITAAC to detox, what's in the
dark. And the talk is like a girdle or a belt, something that
women will use to basically tighten their clothing around them
a kind of a belt of some sort. So essentially a piece of cloth or
some other material that is used to make a belt. So she is the
she's been called. She's known as the one with the two belts. Now
why was that the case? Well, she had a piece of cloth, she had a
cloth that she used to use. And on one occasion when the province of
the last one was about to migrate to Madina Munawwara
there was some food and supplies that were being prepared but there
was nothing to tie them into, or there was nothing to tie them up
with. So what she does, she was quite young at the time. This was
before the migration. She was quite young at the time. You can
tell her intelligence from here that she immediately she took this
cloth the sheet that she had, she tore it into two pieces, and she
used one to tie up the cloth that cloth the profit and loss
intervene observing this, and he gave her the title to Natalka in
because now she had two pieces, one she used for a belt. The other
one, she used to tie up these supplies, this pack lunch and
these other supplies for the road. And she was extremely, extremely
proud of this title because the prophets also had given her this
title, when a great person gives you a title, then generally you
really revel in it. So that's why she was called the verb to knit
Artane. That's what it means. Now, another thing that we have to
understand is that despite the fact that her father is this great
person, or grandfather, or husband, or Son, why does it make
her great? The reason it makes her great as well as not just because
of where she came from not because of these individuals only. She was
great because of her Eman as well. So let us not try to try to take a
ride on who our father or mother is, or which village we come from
which postcode we live in, or which family we come from, or what
background we have, that's going to not help you in the accurate at
all. It's your own qualities, your own Iman with Allah subhanaw
taala, that's going to be of benefit. Every one of us maybe has
something that they can maybe brag about. But let us not become
deluded. That's maybe not our achievement. Let us not just ride
on the achievements of others and think it's sufficient. We can ride
on the achievements of others, but we need to make a name for ourself
for the right reason, then we will be remembered for our own self
rather than through somebody else. And that's exactly what she did.
That's exactly what she did. So now what we have is, that's why
there's a poem in Arabic, which says letter called ously latoken
ously. Were firstly above them in Oslo Fatima called hustle.
Basically, don't keep saying that, Oh, my lineage, my ancestry. My
background, I'm from this family and I'm from that family. Don't
keep saying that forever. That's not going to help you. The your
real origin. The real thing that you stand on the foundations that
you stand on is what you actually achieve. That's very important.
Now, a smart mint boubakeur, acidic Radi Allahu anha her entire
life was full of iman. So from a very young age, I think she was
only 14 years old when she became Muslim. That is when the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam declared Islam and her father was obvious the
first man to become Muslim Khadija, the Allahu Anhu was the
first person and the first woman to become Muslim, but the first
person as well. She became Muslim, a smarter the Allah one who became
Muslim and she was only 14 years old. And it looks like there were
only 17 Muslims at the time. So she was probably the 18th one. So
that's very early on at that age, she becomes Muslim, and then her
entire life seeing her father and his closest to the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wasallam. It taught her a great lesson. She
obviously benefited hugely from that and her life reflected her
father's relationship with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
as well.
A very interesting incident tells us her her intellectual acumen,
her insight into matters how she was a very practical woman who
managed to deal with with issues in a very practical way after her
father left with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. They
leave for Madina Munawwara for the migration, they go secretly. Now
for that trip as Albuquerque, San Diego, they pretty much took
everything, all of his wealth.
He took everything with him because they would need it on the
way this was all preparation, the two animals that he had the
additional supplies and everything he took with him. His father, who
was a missionary who was a policy at the time, it was not a Muslim
at the time, he says to a smuggler, the Allahu anha. After
the after Bakr Siddiq or the Allah one has disappeared. He says that
it looks like just as he has disappeared himself, he's also not
left you any money and he's taken all of his money with him as well.
And he's left you nothing. Now, smartly, the Allahu Anhu felt that
it was a great affront, especially from an Islamic perspective that
this is coming, though from her grandfather, who is the father of
her father. And he could be saying this in a fatherly way. But she
felt that this may be coming from a mushrik apologist against Islam
as such. What she did is she says, No, my my father, look, I'll show
you what he's left. What she did was, she went to that place in the
wall that where they would generally store their coins. She
went and put a number of stones in the pebbles in there. She covered
it, covered it up with a cloth, her grandfather couldn't see she
was blind. He and he she led him to this place and says here, give
me your hand. And then she made him feel around and he says, Oh,
your father has left you a lot. That's good. He's left you a lot.
So you can tell her intelligence right from that he is quite young,
right? 1415 years old, but she's able to deal with these matters.
And today, I mean, we get our young brothers and sisters 1415
years old. 16 years old, they lose their phones and they start crying
I mean, no phones are bad to lose. But the problem is that they flush
them everywhere, then they leave them on a bus.
Because I remember I lost the phone one. So the lesson I learned
from it is that when I'm sitting in my car, whether as a driver or
passenger, don't leave your phone on your lap, because when you get
up, it dropped somewhere. It's obvious, isn't it? So keep it in
your pocket. Now a lot of us what we do is when we're eating
somewhere, whatever we just leave our phone on the table and that's
really a bad habit to be honest, because it's just right for
pickpocketing. It's just right for stealing. So mashallah, that's,
that's her state. On one occasion, she says, just after this, she was
sleeping at night, and suddenly there's a loud knock on the door.
So she opened the open door in the middle of the night. And you know,
who's standing there, abou John, one of the arch enemies, very
violent individual. And he you could tell the anger on his face
because he just discovered it looks like that the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam had left and migrated had slipped out. Because
remember, if you know the story, that they're actually all
congregated outside his house on that very night, Coincidently,
right? That very night, they had actually congregated outside to
try to kill him, you know, through one individual from every tribe so
that the blame would be so far spread that they wouldn't be able
to retaliate. But the province also managed to slip out because
Allah subhanaw taala blinded the eyes, which are unknowing being at
him said that
so he quickly burst into the house, and you could tell he's
very angry, asking where's your father? She says, she I don't
know. I don't know where he is. Meaning at this point, I don't
know where he is. So he gave her a slip by which her her earring fell
off. She remembers that slap that he gave her a huge slap.
Finally, she also goes from maca, maca, Rama and she also migrates
but she is heavily pregnant because by this time, she has
married a zubaid in an hour and Rhodiola Juan Zubaydah our I'm
ready Allah Who on the great Sahabi now one thing about
Abdullah Hypno Zubaydah or the Allah one, let's talk about she
becomes pregnant. And
in that state, she is under migration on a camel on a horse
whatever it was, as soon as they get to Madina, Munawwara and they
enter Masjid Koba that Koba area, she gives birth, so you can tell
she was heavily pregnant, just ready, and the and the child was
born to her ear. His name is Abdullah.
That was the first child born to the MaHA genie in the integrators
when they reached Madina Munawwara and they were extremely excited
and happy. And the reason is that there was I think there was some
rumors going around that there's some spell a curse has been placed
on them, oh, hygiene, etc, that they can't have children. So when
Abdullah Abu Zubaydah the Allahu Anhu was born, there was a huge
amount of happiness. She sent the child to the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam took this child,
he he kissed him. And then he did the technique. You know that
Danny, when you take a date, he had a date, he chewed it soft and
put it into the child's palate. That's what you call the hammock
is the palate so he placed it by the palate and then if you do
this, you'll see that the child really enjoys it because very
sweet, right? They really enjoy it. So basically, the first thing
that enters into the mouth of Abdullah Hebron is the better the
Allah is the saliva of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. Now, for those
of you who don't understand this, that this has a great huge
spiritual connotation. Right? You know that we believe in this kind
of spiritual aspect here, that the saliva the Prophet salallahu
Salam, the bless it, saliva is going into his mouth first. And
thus, he becomes one of the greatest and bravest of the of the
Sahaba later on.
So yeah, they took this baby and they were going around, but then
I'm gonna wa la ilaha illAllah La ilaha illAllah. Really, really
excited. Allahu Akbar. They were saying all the way through.
This Abdullah Haman was available while he was still a young, young,
young toddler young boy, actually young boy, not a toddler, but
young boy. He was playing with some of the other students. Sorry,
he was playing with some of the other children at the time. Why am
I remembering students? Right? He was playing with some of the other
children at the time some of the other kids and American
photography Allah on passes by now I'm going a little hotter from the
beginning had an aura about him. He commanded a lot of ore. So the
children all ran away except Abdullah Hamza bin, right, the son
of a smuggler, the Allahu Allah, Allah, and he stands there he kind
of just looks at him you politely he stands there politely not not
in a kind of with an attitude, right? So the thing of amaro the
Allahu Allah is that he's interested in what's happening
here. So he gets to him and he says, young boy, how come you
didn't run when everybody else ran? Why didn't you run away as
well? So look at the answer he gives is a you help me.
You're not an oppressor, that I need to be fearful of your
oppression.
And neither am I guilty for anything that I must be fearful of
you punishing me
You're not guilty of anything, either you're an oppressor. And
you know the path. There's enough of it for both me and you, for you
and I there's enough road so that you can just tell where this is
all coming from Ottawa, who is her other son Abdullah as brother is
name is Ottawa. So Ottawa Ignacio Valle, he says that
he relates from a smart lady alone, his mother, his mother said
that disobeyed Him and our Meridiana married me. And he had
nothing to his name. He was very poor, very didn't, was actually
very, very poor, except his horse, and a piece of land that the
profits and losses had given gifted him, he had nothing else.
So he had in those days, you know, you had servants, he had slaves,
whatever, he didn't have anything else. So we had to do all the
work. So now, this is she saying that I used to look after this
horse, I used to feed this horse, I used to go and get the seeds and
everything I used to grind them. And I used to get the other fodder
for this horse so that I could feed this horse.
She says that he the piece of land that he had was quite a distance
away. So I used to go all the way there, pick all the seeds up, and
then put them on my head. And I used to bring them back. And then
on one of these occasions, there was a very famous incident that
took place, as she's coming back with this bail on her on her head
carrying it back for him. She didn't have to do this. But this
was just the husband and wife relationship. This was just the
Hitman that she was doing. This was just the just the assistance
that she was providing him. He was working nights where she was
looking after the animal. So as she goes past is the province of
law some day with a number of his companions. He sees her in that
state room, but it's his sister in law, because the province of Assam
is married to her sister, earshot of the Allahu Ana. So he says it
which means get on the animal. Right. So she remembered, I mean,
there was a lot of men there. And she remembered that zubaid Even in
our model rhodiola, who has a lot of self esteem, jealousy about his
wife, you know, he was known for that, right? That is very
protective of his wife. So she said no, right. She said, No, she
refused to go and ride on the animal of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam. So the Prophet Allah some lifter, and then she
went, and then she went and told this disobeyed Him that our *
Allahu, and that look, this is what happened. So he said, Look,
you know, you're, you're carrying this heavy weight on your head
that's actually more severe on me than you having written the animal
of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that would have been
fine, but she's still refused for whatever reason to go on there.
Eventually, though, a worker, worker acidic or the Allah one
sent some help for them. And then after that, she says that life
became easier. But you know, as the Prophet, Allah says, In the
Quran, in the Marlos, three usara. These were the humble beginnings
of zubaid, even Halawa. Now remember, he is actually one of
the 10 that have been given the glad tidings of paradise. Her
husband is one of the 10 that have been given the gluttonous paradise
I shall Mashallah. And among those 10, he is actually up there with
earth Amanda, the Allahu, and zubaid, sorry, Abdul Rahman
himself as being a millionaire, a billionaire, he was extremely
wealthy afterwards. Right. So he eventually became extremely
wealthy. So that's fine. You know, if there's tough beginnings, it
doesn't have to remain tough for the rest of your life.
We can only obviously touch on some very salient features of her
life, because in the time that we have, it was during the Khilafah.
Just one story that I do want to talk about. Remember, this is a
Bakr Siddiq are the Allah one, the closest to the Prophet sallallahu
sallam, he could have pretty much had his daughter marry anybody one
of his daughter was married to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa
sallam, he could have had her a smart lady to marry to anybody he
wanted. But he lets her marry this very poor man at that time is
available in our the Allah one. And the reason for it is that you
look for quality, as opposed to just material substance. If you
have quality, it will last forever, that quality will stay
with a person forever. Whereas if you have wealth, not to diminish
wealth in any way not to denigrate it in any way. Wealth is fleeting,
you could lose it tomorrow, or you may maintain it tomorrow. But at
least if you have the quality you have the ability then to have
wealth with it as well. What's the point of wealth with no good
qualities? So if there was a choice between the two that's why
there was a famous stab at somebody who came after the Sahaba
his name was
sorry he didn't know Musa say the minimal say I'm
not saying given a job I'm sorry the minimal say he had an amazing
daughter.
She was a big scholar in her own right she was one of his students.
She was a huge scholars. She was proposed to by so many different
people including the the prince of the time. Abdul Malik new Marwan
who later became the Khalifa after Zubaydah in Milan after sorry
after
The likeness of man. The person who became Khalifa was Abdulmalik.
Number one. He proposed to her for his son Walid when he didn't have
the money who later became the Khalif. Right? And he refused. He
refused. On one occasion, what happened is one of his students
disappeared as a faqeer student who had no money. He disappeared
for two weeks. And he was wondering where his students gone
for two weeks and Sunday when he came back, he asked, Where have
you been? He says, My wife passed away, my wife died. So you know, I
was taking care of a burial and everything. And so he said to him,
are you married? Meaning do you have another wife? He says, No, I
don't have another wife. I can't marry another wife. I don't have
the money to marry another wife. So I said, Okay, I'm gonna marry
you to my daughter, you my daughter, I'm going to marry you
to my daughter,
whatever. Then he goes home that day. And suddenly at nighttime,
right, in the evening, at nighttime, he suddenly hears a
knock on the door. So he says, Who is it? He says,
Saeed, and he says to himself, he says later, when he's reporting
this, I thought of every side in the world except my teacher, why
would my teacher come to my house, that's too much of an honor. I
thought of every side, I would say he does this coming at this time
of the night. So I opened the door, and it's my teacher. And I
did my teacher is saying to me, I brought your wife for you. I
didn't want you to sleep alone tonight.
That's just amazing. She was a sought after, she was beautiful.
She was a great scholar, she had the knowledge, you know, you can
say this was a woman with a PhD in the works. But he marries her to
this poor student of his because their focus is something else. If
your intention is inshallah to help people because medicine, you
know, scholars and medics, they're very similar. Do you know that
scholars and medics are very similar economy, economic
conditions don't don't effect scholars and doctors, because
people still become sick. Right? So you need to go to scholars for
spiritual sicknesses. And you need to go to medics for physical
ailments. So you guys, you know, scholars, and medics will always
be Inshallah, in demand. And we've got more potential than engineers
than accountants to have learned huge amounts of rewards, believe
me. And the reason is that if you have the right intention, and the
motivation for why you are doing medicine, then your entire study
and your entire life afterwards could be just full of rewards. If
you haven't changed your intentional corrected your
intention already, then you've wasted a lot of time already. And
it's not too late yet have an intention that because it's one of
those fields where you can you are individually going to be
confronted by people with a need, engineers aren't going to be as
much they have general needs sometimes, right? But a lot of
their work is less, less directly related. Whereas for medics it's
directly related. So believe me you're in a wonderful vocation as
long as you do it right for the right motivation and may Allah
give us the right motivation for that.
So Inshallah, in general, you're gonna get a lot of scholars and
medics Navy,
and others.
It was during
the Khilafah of her son at the liveness debate after Malawi after
it Rudy Allah 100 Young became holy for about six months, then
why we are the only became honey for several years. Then his son
years Eid became honey for some years after he died. Then the
people in Madina Munawwara in the Hejaz, they gave their beta as to
make Abdullah Abu Zubaydah her son to be the next Khalif of the
Muslims. Right. But there was a lot of civil war during that time
because there they had the Armenians in in in Damascus, you
know, who didn't agree with that. And they felt that they had to
continue there. So there was Marwan down there. So there were
skirmishes throughout his life, but they were they did come a time
when he had much of the Muslim world under him. But later he
started losing it when the son of Marwan took over Abdulmalik number
one, and the reversal began until eventually, until eventually what
happened is that he was then confined to maca, maca, Rama
alone, right? It was quite a bad scene at that time. It is no time
to go into that, though. If you do want to listen to it. I've covered
it in what is it the signs of the Day of Judgment. It's under the
signs of the day of judgment on zum zum academy.com. I mean, you
can listen to the whole story of Abdullah Agnes herbarium there but
it's not the time for it right now. But during the time when he
is the Khalifa, when he is the Khalifa and He is the ruler of the
Muslim world, or at least much most of the Muslim world. Once his
mother invited him over and spoke to him.
He used to actually live with his mother, his mother, he used to
actually look after his mother afterwards, because it transpires
that later there was a divorce that took place an interesting
story of how that happened between us martyr the Allahu Anhu and her
husband Zubaydah the alarm later on. So she moved in with with
Hassan Abdullah Abu Zubaydah. He said she she told him that look,
I've heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
mentioning that the Kaaba which is square right now as
as it is today a cube, it's actually supposed to be rectangle.
And so Abdullah Hypnose Zubaydah. The alarm says that my mother
Osama bin Abu Bakr, Siddiq has told me that the Messenger of
Allah and Allah used to say to each other the Allahu anha, her
sister, that if it wasn't that your people had just become
Muslim, the Quran had just become Muslim, out and come out of their
disbelief, you know, their state of disbelief and I would have
taken the Kaaba and made it back into the rectangular shape that it
used to be, right, because the Kaaba before the Quraysh was or
during the time the coalition was rectangular, but when they
renovated it, they didn't have enough money to make it
rectangular sort of made it square. And that's why they kept
that semi circular wall next to it to show that that's also part of
the Kaaba, but then it was just cut short.
So when he found out about this up, the liveness obeyed. That's
what he did. He dug up the foundations, and he made it into
the rectangle.
He made the rectangle, he added two doors, both on ground level
one, two going from one one to go out from because the reason the
coalition put the door higher up is because then they could
regulate who go in there. Now you might be thinking is that where is
all of this coming from and Aqaba we see today is square. Right? So
exactly what happened, you will find out later. Right. I'll just
tell you now that though he made it rectangular, after her judge
took over and had him killed out of spite, he put it back into the
square. Right. The scholars did come later to our great sorry, not
the scholars, but some of the later leaders. They came to Imam
Malik and said we want to make it back into the rectangle as had
been the wish of the Prophet salallahu Salam. But he said Look
now leave it because he's already gone through all of this turmoil.
Every subsequent leader who hates the previous leader is then going
to make this a plaything and a demonstration or manifestation of
His power and thus keep changing it so just leave it now so we're
stuck with it as it is right now. Right though the profits or loss
unwanted it back into the rectangular extended shape as
Ibrahim Ali Salam had originally made it rectangular.
Now what happens is, it's just some moments or some some time
before the before Abdullah hiddenness debate is finally
finally martyred. He goes to visit his mother. He goes to visit his
mother. She was by this time over 100 years old, extremely old, over
100 years old. And she it says that she couldn't see at that
time. Maybe she had cataracts or something but she'd lost her
eyesight by that time. She still had all of the teeth though, but
she'd lost her eyesight. So he said Sarah Malika uma
Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
Peace be upon you. Oh, my mother. And Allah's mercy and His
blessing. She says why Lika salaam, yah, Abdullah.
He said, she said to him, what brings you at this time,
there are all of these massive bombs that are falling on Makkah.
And he was supposed to be defending that because it's his
Khilafah. And they had judged him the use of has been sent against
him to finally finish him off there said all of this attack is
taking place on Maccha mukarram. And at this time you come to see
me what is going on?
Generally, is the sheer luck, I've come to ask you for your opinion
about something, some advice on something?
What are you going to ask me about? What advice are you going
to ask me said, Look, people have people have humiliated me. And a
lot of my supporters they've left to me, they've left me out either
out of fear for Hajaj and what he will do to them, or out of out of
greed for what they've promised. Because you know, people who are
being either bribed or whatever the case is to leave his side. So
much so that even some of my own family some of my own children
have turned away from me, he says, and they've run away from me. I've
only got a small band of men with me that remain with me. But the
problem is that they are so tired and weary from the constant
battle, that any moment they can't, they don't have they don't
have the same ability to withstand this, as they did before. And also
now there's another proposal that has come up. And the proposal is
that the bundle Omiya the Romanians who are fighting against
him, they've sent me a proposal. And they've told me that they're
willing to give me whatever I want. Anything of the dunya
anything of the world, whatever worldly possession I asked for,
and I demand from them, they're willing to give it to me, as long
as I put down my weapons, and I give the bait the pledge. The
pledge of allegiance to Abdullah sorry, Abdul Malik. Number one,
the one they had given beta two on the other side. What do you think
I should do? What do you think? What do you what's your feeling?
She suddenly her voice
became raised and she said Shut shut. Look, you're you're
Abdullah. It's up to you. Abdullah, it's up to you. You know
your story better we're under and there will be enough sick
if you believe that you are on the truth.
Listen to these words carefully. This is a mother, who is speaking
to a son who is about to be killed. She knows he's gonna go
very soon, if he carries on the way he, you know, in his mission,
and she is over 100 years old, and she's speaking, she says, if you
are on the truth, and you have been inviting to the truth, then
be patient and persevere, just as your companions have have
persevered, those who've already been killed in the past those
who've already been martyred in the path under your banner,
they've gone for a cause. You need to also be patient for that cause.
And if you feel if you feel that you want the world now, you want
the world now, then what a evil, what a evil person you are, what
an evil person you are, then you have destroyed yourself. And you
have destroyed your own people as well. They have fought in vain,
you've destroyed them. So then he turned to and he says, What are
kidney Mattoon alone, la Mahara. Today, I'm gonna die. Regardless,
I'm definitely going to die today because it was a small band of
people. And that was it. He said, I'm going to be dead. So then she
says to him, that he got hydro luck, that is actually better for
you. Then you give yourself up to her judge willingly. So then you
allow your head to be played with by the young children of the
blooming of the Omega, they'll cut your hair because they were known
to cut people's heads off and play with it. Right? He says, she says
that's what's going to happen. So he said, Let's do actual cattle. I
don't have a fear for death. I'm not fearing the death. But I fear
that they're going to mutilate my body. That's the fear that I have.
She said, You know what she said that? What is the mother gonna say
that? She said, Lisa bad, the ugly Maya half of will. After you die,
there should be nothing that you fear for even a slaughtered sheep
a slaughtered goat. It skinning it doesn't harm it anymore. Doesn't
hurt him. He doesn't feel the pain of its skinning.
Suddenly his face lit up. It says that the lines of his face
suddenly lit, lit up. And he said to her boo * in common. What
a blessing mother you are, what a blessing mother you are. He's
basically saying this is exactly what I wanted to hear from you.
boudic, the monarchy, monarchy, baka Algeria, your great
excellencies may they be blessed for you. I only came to you today
at this moment. So I can hear from you what I have just heard. This
is exactly what I've come to hear from you. By Allah. By Allah only
He knows that I have not become weak and I have not become
cowardly. He is a witness. He is a witness that I did not embark upon
what I embarked upon this entire mission, this entire movement for
the love of this dunya or for its adornments. It was purely for the
sake of Allah, it was purely for the sake of Allah, because his
limits were being violated by these people.
And here I am, I am going to continue on to that which you are
pleased with. If I am to die today, then do not grieve over me.
Do not grieve over me, and consign my Mata to Allah subhanaw taala.
He is talking to his mother, people have a special relationship
with their mothers. And she said to him, I would only grieve over
you if you had died for falsehood. I would only grieve over you if I
had died for falsehood.
And then he said,
Please, be fully confident, have full trust that your son
has never listened to this. He's saying that to her that make make
sure that you understand very clearly and be in complete, be in
complete confidence that your son has never purposely done any
wrong. He has never purposely committed any indecency. He has
never committed any indecency. He has never oppressed anybody. And
neither has he been treacherous to anybody. He has never purposely
oppressed Indian Muslim or even a non Muslim,
Muslim What am I ahead and there is nothing according to him, which
is more pleasing than the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala I am
not saying this. He says I am not saying this to you to purify
myself to my show myself as being great. But
why am I saying this to you? He says because Allah knows me better
than I know myself. The reason I'm saying this is because I want to
give you a condolence. I want to show you I want to I want to just
give you some condolence that your son is not dying in vain and
you're and you had a good son. I'm just really focused on you. She's
saying, she said Alhamdulillah all praises to Allah
Who made you according to his his, his wishes, and according to my
wishes, and then after that, she's she comes behind them. She comes
behind them to her son, Abdullah, Agnes obey. And she says Come
closer to me. She says, Come closer to me, so that I may smell
your fragrance your odor, and I may hold your body
because this may be our last meeting. This may be our last
meeting. So let me just hold on to you for a while. So Abdullah knows
when he went down to where she was sitting.
Her arms, her feet, he started kissing them. And
she was holding on to him. Suddenly, it looked like she was
feeding his body and she moved her hand away.
And she says, What is this I see you wearing Abdullah?
Oh, that's my that's my armor. And she said Lisa how they are Benny
Lee batsman, you read the Shahada. This isn't the garments of the one
who wants to be martyred. This isn't the garments of the one who
wants to be monitored. So you know what he says to her. He says that
I only wore this to make you feel good. To give you some comfort,
that's why I had worn it in the first place. To give you some
comfort and to calm down and satisfy your heart. She said take
it off you. She said take it off you because if you take it off,
you will be able to move faster, you will be more lighter on your
feet and that is what's going to help you however, do wear.
He said do wear a double trousers do it a double pant and the reason
for that is when you do become overcome when they do overcome you
at least you will not become denuded. That's the main thing. So
Abdullah Agnes Zubaydah the other immediately took off his armor,
and he put on the double his the double pants on him. And then he
went and he said to her make dua for me. So she started to make dua
for him. She said
she raised her hands to the heavens and she said, Oh Allah,
have mercy. On his lengthy standing in front of you, his
lengthy standing in front of you, the intensity of his crying in the
darkness of of darkness is of night when other people are
sleeping. Oh Allah. I have consigned his him to you. I am
satisfied with whatever you are satisfied with for him.
Oh Allah give me the reward of those who are patients.
And oh Allah have mercy on his obedience on his being obedient to
his mother and father.
I am satisfied with whatever you're satisfied with that day the
sun did not set except that Abdullah Agnes Zubaydah the Allahu
Anhu went and joined his Lord. And
it was only about 14 days or so later that she eventually leaves
this world as well. She passes away as well.
She goes to mocha mocha Rama where her son was now remember, he'd
been
his head has been cut off, or he sorry, he'd been killed, and then
he'd been hung. And there was nobody brave enough to go and take
him down. There was nobody brave enough to go and take him down.
When a smarter the Allahu anha got there, she couldn't see properly.
Her judge who was in Makkah at the time, he sent somebody to bring
her to him. She refused to go. He sent another person saying that if
you don't come, I'm going to send some people to you to grab you by
the four locks. To grab you by the four locks and drag you to me, you
can see is an extremely violent guy, extremely violent guy, no
respect for anybody. So she refused. says I'm by Allah, I'm
not going to come to you, even if you call even if you send somebody
to drag me to you. Finally Hajaj came to her.
She he came and he says, What do you think I've done with the enemy
of Allah? What do you think I've just done with the enemy of Allah
referring to a son. So the mother or smart Radi Allahu Allah says
that what I have seen is that you have destroyed his dunya for him.
You've just killed him in this world. So you've destroyed his
dunya his world, but he has destroyed your akhira he has
destroyed your other worlds, your next world.
It's reached me that you say you said to him that you're the son of
the one with the two bells as a denigration he had been saying
that in a mock
Anyway, I've heard so she's addressing him saying that I've
heard that you've been saying that to my son.
I am by Allah I am that to Anita Kane. As far as one of them I used
to I tied with it the food and supplies of the Prophet sallallahu
sallam, and the other one. I used it for what women use it for. So
what's the problem with that? But all I know, and she gives him back
as much as she gets, even at this age. She says, You know what? I
have heard that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has
said, that among the blue Saki, which was his tribe, had George's
tribe was a thief says among the bandwidth taki if will come to
people from them will come two people, one will be the imposter
who will claim prophecy, and the other one was going to be this
destructive person, very destructive person. As far as the
imposter. We've all seen him referring to Mortara McAfee, who
passed before and as far as this destructive person is concerned, I
have no doubt that it's you.
This is after all the warnings he had given her her judge at that
time you didn't respond to her you went away. Now eventually, there's
a another exchange that took place. And in that case, it was
something similar but finally the words reached the Khalifa who was
Abdulmalik number one, obviously for him the
Hedgehog is the one who had actually put everything in order
for him. So you probably appreciated him for that but he
was unhappy of the way he addressed a smarter the Allahu
Allah. So he said, My luck well immunity originally solid, what's
your problem? Why do you have Why are you acting this way with the
daughter of a really righteous man Abu Bakr, Siddiq, or the hola Juan
and then he ordered him that he should take down Abdullah Hypnose
Zubaydah, the hola Juan from the wooden post that he was on. So
then finally, smartly, Allahu Allah was the only one who was he
lay there for a while. It was only a smart lady at her age, who then
went maybe with the help of others, who went and took the body
and bathed it shouted perfumed it and then prayed upon it, and then
had him buried.
And then after a few days, she passed away. In fact, on it may
have been the same occasion when he came to a smarter the Allah and
He says, Yeah, OMA or mother, just out of maybe showing some kind of
respect. In a mirror meaning was sign Ubik because you're not after
Abdulmalik. Number one told her that you must deal with a properly
so I think he must have come again. And this time, he said, Oh,
mother, out of respect. The Ameerul Momineen has told me to
treat you well. For her lucky when Hajah Do you have any needs? Is
there anything I can do for you? I know what she says, Let's do
lucky. Um, let's do like her own. I'm not a mother of yours. I'm not
your mother. But I am the mother of the one who has been crucified
on that wooden post, and I have no need from you. But I will tell
you, and then she mentioned that statement that the prophets of
Allah Islam has mentioned the two things.
It mentions in on another occasion, that
if no Amara, the Allahu Anhu
the great Sahabi he was told that a smart Radi Allahu anha is in the
corner of the Masjid. This was when Abdullah Hemant Zubaydah the
Allah had been had been Hunk and a smarter the Allahu Anhu was there.
So this is Abdullah Agnew. Omar, he came to her
to maybe give her some condolence, maybe just calm her down. And he
said to her that look, the souls are all by Allah, while he may
have been killed the souls are all by Allah subhanho wa taala. You
just fear Allah and be patient, fear Allah and just persevere
through this difficulty. And she says, What am I am not only what
is going to prevent me from persevering? What can others do?
So yeah, here administer Korea. Illa bug him in Bahasa Bani
Israel. She said that before me the John Yaya alayhi salam, the
son of the Korea Ali salaam, his head was cut off and was given to
a prostitute of that time, an unchaste woman of that time, so
why what what should prevent me from being patient when they were
patient at that time, she was just too much in tune with the with our
heritage. She knew exactly what to do. She didn't lose her mind in
any of these in any of these situations.
Now what happens is
she passes away, but just a few things that are known about her
I'd like to mention about some of Her Excellency is
it's about her that it's related that her mother came to visit her
mother was not a Muslim. Right her mother was not a Muslim at that
time, at least. When she came to visit she said hold on I need to
go and find out whether I can interact with you where I can
still have the same relationship with you. So she went to the
Barber Salon services in my mother's come Can I have the same
relationship? Because yes, of course, she's your mother. Still,
you know, go and go and tie the knots of kinship with her.
Kasim Abner Mohammed says that he heard Abdullah hipness Aveda the
Allahu Anhu saying that there are I've not seen
there are two women. He's talking about his his mother and his aunt
He's talking about I show the smart he says, I haven't seen any
woman, any women who are more generous than those two women. The
only difference in their generosity is that a smart lady,
Allah, I showed her the Allahu anha, when she used to get her
supplies, you know, whatever was given to her, her yearly supplies
and everything, she would gather whatever bits she had together
until she had enough, and then she would go and give it out to the
poor. Whereas a smarter the Allahu anha, her focus was totally
different. Whatever she got, she would give out, she wouldn't even
wait to gather it together. And she would tell, she would actually
tell her, the women folk and everybody in the house to do the
same, she would, she would just, she would just give everything
out.
She died after a few nights after her son had passed away. This was
about the 17th of Jumada Lula in the year, 73 Hijiri, 73 Hijiri,
the same year as her son. And
you can tell from her the the various different excellencies the
various different merits the various different qualities that
we get from her, which is extreme intelligence, being a very
reasonable woman, being very quick to make decisions and judgments
extremely courageous, not fearful at all, even at the old age, look
at the interaction that she has with her with her son, and also
look at the service that she provided to her husband by going
all of those miles and picking up everything. So she was an all
rounder. She is not just some intellect. You know, you get some
people who are just very intellectual, and they're very
good in laboratories. They're very good in the academic setting, and
so on. But when they go home, they have no idea how to interact with
anybody. Right? And you have some people who are very good with
everybody, but they're not very intellectual. She had everything.
She was very intellectual, but such a decent person of character
and willing to serve others as well.
She left a number of children her children were asked him muhajir
Ottawa mother, Hadiya, Khadija Cobra, and Omar, Hassan and Aisha.
These were these were her children. So we ask Allah subhanho
wa Taala to
allow us to benefit from the great qualities that we have just heard
of a smarter the Allah may Allah grant a greatness in where she is
right now. And where she will go in the hereafter May Allah granted
the greatest places in Jannah to refer those and her entire family.
And may Allah allow us to be inspired. And may Allah allow us
to also be like these people and to have in our families, people
like this, and to be truthful to Allah subhanaw taala and His
Messenger Salallahu Salam, the way she was working with Ariana and Al
hamdu, lillahi, Rabbil aalameen.
She got divorce here, I didn't want to prolong the story, because
sometimes I get into all of these side points. So what what it is,
is that there's about three opinions as to exactly what
happened. But it was actually because of Abdullah was aware that
she got divorced.
Now you have to remember that in those days, divorce was quite
easy, right? It didn't hold the stigma that it did today. Right?
So let's just base it on that. I'm sure he must have had other wives
as well. I wouldn't be surprised. Abdullah sorry. So bear with me.
So what happened is, there's a number of stories, but one of them
is that they had an argument. And Abdullah meaning the husband wife
had an argument and Abdullah is there. An Zubaydah the Antos his
son, if you come in here, your mother is going to be divorced.
Right? If you come inside the room, your mother's he was You
stay out of it. But he came in.
Right, he came in so she got divorced. So then she moved in
with Abdullah Agnes obey.
What is important here is that don't get carried away with your
the normal trend of what everybody else is doing. Unfortunately,
what's happening, and I've seen this more in America than I've
seen here, but I'm sure it's happening here now as well, which
is that everybody is is basically saying that look, my son's doing
this. So then suddenly, you feel that your son and daughter must do
the same thing. Or my son is going to impair my daughter's got into
Imperial with your son got into where's your daughter got into? So
in suddenly everybody wants a license becoming a doctor? Right?
A doctor? So everybody feels that, then they have to do that as well.
You just have to really understand what is the what is the focus and
what really ultimately matters. Don't get stuck. Don't get don't
get stuck in the adornments of what everybody else is doing. Have
your own principles, let these people be your guiding lights. So
really what I want to do is I want to ask at least two or three of
you what you found to be the most salient feature that has somehow
inshallah impacted you. Right. So we've, we've had this point that
you've brought up, right, can we have another point from this side
of something that you think that you can resonate with, or that
hopefully will help to, to clarify and to
To improve your understanding, or maybe change your understanding
and perspective, maybe can can we have somebody? Yes. Yeah, you see,
I didn't think of it from that perspective, that's actually a
very important perspective, that we are very quick to keep blaming
our parents, because we are, what is the generation we called the
complaining generation or something where we just complain
about everything, right, so to appreciate your parents for what
they have given us, and even to defend them in things that we
don't at least to keep your like, you're not going to go to school
to start today with my dad doesn't bind me that stuff. You know, my,
my parents are like this, my parents are like that. That's
probably the vilest thing that you can do to put your parents down in
front of others.
I used to defend my parents, I didn't have much, you know, my
spending money was very small when I was young. I used to get even in
mother's house to get one pound a week. And we used to go out the
next day, and I used to packet of chips of 70, Pence couldn't even
buy a fish with it. Right? Seriously, it was about one pound
50 for efficient chips in those days up north. Right.
So I used to get a power nice to finish on Saturday. And then after
that I had no money for the rest of the week. But I never once
complained to anybody.
And I remember once one of my teachers, he said read certain
Muslim men.
And you will get Baraka in your wealth. And I started reading it.
The next week, I got a job in the mother as I got seven pounds a
week,
one pound to seven pounds, which is a lot of money in those days.
And since that day, I've never looked back anything I've wanted,
Allah has given me right. So at the end of the day, if you have
trust in Allah subhana wa Tada and I don't even have much trust, you
just put a bit of trust in Allah, Allah will start giving you so
yeah, never denigrate your parents never denigrate your parents.
That's a very good point. Another point, she she had a lot of guts.
I mean, the fact that even when she's pregnant, she undertakes
that journey. Right, you can tell she's got a lot of guts, you know,
we only covered a bit of a life, we couldn't cover too much more
just some of the salient features. But to say that that exchange with
her son was just amazing, you know, to to focus on what's right,
in that context, right? We're not, we're not saying by the story that
you must tell your children to go out on war or something, right,
don't get that wrong. It's just that unfortunately, in that time,
there was just a lot of blood that was being spilled. And the stories
just include some of that, but we need to take the wisdom from there
and apply to our situation. Because we need a lot more people
with that kind of fortitude in sha Allah. And the other thing that
you realize is that today, we've got crazy stuff going on in Saudi
and other places. May Allah protect us, and may Allah protect
the Muslim world because you can see some of the movements that are
taking place. But listening to this today, doesn't it tell you
that we've already encountered these things before in the
heartlands in MK karma, karma, it was being attacked. They were
attack attacking it with huge catapults, right to get up the
liveness Zubaydah the Allahu Anhu out of it. So all of this has
happened before this is not unprecedented. And none of this
should actually cause us to lose our faith. We've had ups and
downs. Just like a lot where Allah bless you, Allah bless all of us,
and those whatever you're doing, may Allah give you the Tofik and
acidophilic to do something for his sake, whatever we're doing
Allah accept us for the service of his Deen. He knows best how to do
that will ask you to Darwin and Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen