Abdur-Raheem McCarthy – Quranic Reflections Shaykh Abdurraheem McCarthy #7

			Smilla Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. While early he was a happy woman, whatever
but Salam aleikum, wa Rahmatullah. When we look at one of the main problems facing the Ummah, we see
that the differences that we have amongst ourselves as Muslims, is one of the main reasons that the
Ummah has been torn apart. So what is the cure? How can we solve the problems of differences amongst
ourselves and come together as one? We're going to show you the example in general to Allah from the
Quran. And from the zero of our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, our beloved prophet
Alayhi Salatu was Salam.
		

			When,
		

			before the battle, who hurt when their companions came to him, and spoke to him about going out for
battle, because they are different. What do they do? Do they go out into they face them and fight
them outside of the city? Or do they let them come inside of the city?
		

			And when you look into this, you have two options. Something very interesting here. Inside the city,
this is a type of guerilla warfare. And a lot of times we hear that the originator or the one who
came up with guerrilla warfare was Che Guevara.
		

			But in reality, the one who came up with guerrilla warfare even before that we look at Muslim
history, that Che Guevara he learned it from LME or Muhammad Abdul Karim will have Bobby The
Moroccan share who fought against France with guerrilla warfare. And before him is well Imam
Sherman. From Delta Stan also, he fought against the Russians with guerrilla warfare. And you see
this example as well with the Prophet sola Center as a form of guerrilla warfare because this was
his suggestion that we stay inside of the city. And any modern day army will tell you this is
something a very difficult type of
		

			military action when someone's in the city don't know where they are, they just pop out and then
they disappear. So this is also the in something very similar what happened in Vietnam? Anyways,
this is a history issue, getting away from the devil. But this goes back to the meaning of the eye.
When you're reflecting and you look are you understand why this verse was revealed?
		

			So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was of the latter opinion that they should wait inside
Medina. And surprise attack them as the Quraysh came inside to Medina. And this was what he had
planned Ali salatu salam, the Sahaba, who worked with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and
the Battle of butter. They want it now to show what they were made of sure what they could do on the
battlefield. Therefore, they said, you know, we want to go out and we want to fight face to face. So
and they were the majority, the ones who want to go out and fight face to face, they were in the
majority. So the province was telling me he had gathered them and he asked for their opinion. And
		

			there's a very important principle done pence principle of shoulder shoulder to shoulder that we
asked for the advice of others very, very important principle. And fact the scholar said, the shows
that it's from the soul of the HUKUM of it's from the fundamentals, the Foundations of Leadership,
of being a ruler of being someone who's in charge of being a moodier, even someone who are a manager
or CEO, whatever you are, even if it's in your own household, the impact that it has of taking short
of others. And I'll give you an example of something might be very small. From now,
		

			we have a WhatsApp group for my family. So I go back to all of them and ask them, What do you guys
think now about
		

			the eat? What should we be doing on eighth? And you know, the program we're going to be doing? So
each one of them each one of my kids, my wife, everyone has a say so and what we're going to be
doing for Al Hamdulillah. And each one has their own opinion, they're going to maybe already have
something planned. Maybe I'm going to do this, I think this is the best thing for all of us. It's
the most beneficial but I asked everyone's opinion, let them get involved, that has a huge impact, a
huge impact. So the province that Allah is going to see in his verses, we start to make the Dobro on
the verse Inshallah, and sort of de la Milan, the profanity SelectUSA me as their opinion, the
		

			majority was that we go we fight face to face. So even though he didn't see this opinion himself, he
went inside and got himself prepared for battle. When he came back out with his battle armor has
been
		

			Out of hormone Allah to Salam,
		

			as he was going inside some of the Sahaba, who, you know, a bit, perhaps, you know, you know, the
pumped up may have been overzealous, they want to go on their fight, they want to defend the
religion, they want to defend their homeland. They weren't there during the Battle of butter. So
they want to go out and be on the battlefield. They want to have their chance on the battlefield. So
the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, He will put His, he put his battle battle armor on and he came
out, and they were talking amongst themselves as he was inside and said, perhaps we shouldn't have
been, you know, like, this was the process. That was you took his opinion, but he knows better.
		

			Let's take his opinion. And we'll go back on what we said. When he came out. They see ya Rasulullah.
We looked into what you were saying, we thought what you say and what you were saying was correct.
We'll stay inside of the city and he said, it's not for a profit. When he puts on his battle armor
to take it off. It's not on a profit. When he puts it takes his battle armor to put it off. So he
put his battle. It's on his battle on Amazon, he's ready for battle. Now the tempo that we have
reflected on this in this is the code they call suburbanization. Why the I was revealed the story,
but what had happened when you go back and you look in the eye, Allah mentions this Furby, my
		

			rationality min Allah healing tele home. So by the mercy of Allah O Muhammad, you were lenient with
them
		

			limped along, you had leniency when you dealt with them.
		

			And then Allah said, Well, openntf oven, right.
		

			Len Fogg Domon holik. But if you were
		

			to be someone who was harsh in your heart,
		

			rude in your speech, and how you spoke to them, they would have disadvantaged you and run away from
you.
		

			And this apella, when you look at this if
		

			as someone who's in charge, and it doesn't matter what you're in charge of, or how much you're in
charge of something.
		

			No matter how big it is, how, where you are in the company, and your own household, if you're in the
local government, whatever you're in, and how you deal with people. For Bhima Rama, Tim Miller law,
he lint, hello, by the mercy of Allah, you are leaving with him. What does this mean, because of
this leniency because of this Rama
		

			that you had and how you dealt with them,
		

			they followed you.
		

			Reflect on this, the one who has
		

			those who follow him out of fear, they will leave you very quick.
		

			But the ones who follow you out of love, out of respect.
		

			And you have respect for them and return, then you're going to see the impact.
		

			Then you're going to see, like we saw from the Sahaba when they would risk their own life to protect
the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and they would, you know give their own life for their for their
religion. Why was this because what they saw from the
		

			Islam first of all, and then from from the matters of the prophets, that Allahu Allah was me how he
dealt with them. The love they have for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that's where it
comes from, how he dealt with them, he was he didn't come like no the tyrants do nowadays, and put
people in order by force. All of them came to Taiwan, they came from their own selves from the old
love that they have for the prophets of Allah when they were selling the product and the love they
have for this Deen
		

			didn't even have to be asked. But law is teaching us an important message, that if we want to have a
true impact on people, we truly want to benefit people, then you have to have this mercy, this
leniency when you deal with them, even when it comes to our own children. Wallahi one of the biggest
mistakes we make in raising our children is raising them with the stick. And this happens all around
the world where people still think, you know that, raising the children with the stick putting them
in line, and we've got to discipline them, you know, and even if it's not with the stick, because
like in the West, if you use the stick, you're going to you're going to prison, right? Or your kids
		

			are going to take it from you or both. So but even some people may be constantly yelling at their
children,
		

			you know, constantly and some people smacking as well, you know, we have different different customs
around the world, different laws around the world. But this is something that's been in the past,
and unfortunately, even till today, how some people deal and raise their children. And this is
something
		

			that has the opposite effect. What are we doing? We're actually pushing them away. We're not
bringing them closer, we're pushing them away. And they can't wait for the day that they get away
from us. And I remember one of my close friends telling me you know, he has a lot of love and
respect for his father. He said my father was was always you know, no, Calum wouldn't speak with
this. He would speak but followed up by by the smack or by hitting it's how it was. And he said we
couldn't wait to he would travel we couldn't wait till he was
		

			turned around.
		

			He even says to penalize it, I tried to get
		

			my father's second wife. And he said, My mother got better upset, how can you offer to get your
father's second wife? And he said, You don't understand my he said, We want you to relax. Those days
that he's over there at the other house, you're gonna be relaxed, you're not gonna have to deal with
him, and we're not gonna have to deal with him. So it's gonna be a Rama for us. SubhanAllah. So you
see that that negative effect that it has on the children it doesn't have a positive effect. When
people are, you know, when you deal with your children or you deal with those in authority, with
with a rough way That's why Allah said while con tougher than hurry delta will be learn FOB domain
		

			Holic that if you were you know, rude in your speech harsher and harsher in your heart, that they
would have disadvantaged you they would have a bad run away from you, and pop them in holik. And
that's what it means then probably would hold it went away from left you by yourself.
		

			Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling this to the Sahaba that the best of the creation of followers of
the prophets and the promises deliver the best of Gration the prophets and then the best amongst
them after that, is this a habit?
		

			And Allah is telling them, Allah is telling us that if the Prophet SAW Selim was harsh with these
people, they would have run away. So what about us? What about us now when we're giving Dawa when
we're reminding people
		

			and I remember in my local Masjid in Ireland, we have a beautiful brother who came in once you'll
have a Quran. Noah had a very passionate for the deen. But he was very harsh in his approach. And I
had traveled I remember and I left him as the Imam. And the administration came back to me so there
was complaints because the brother is very harsh. And they said, We like how shake up the Rahim
advises us, Chef abdur-rahim.
		

			He speaks to us and he says, when we fall into sin, us sinners, and I'm included with you guys,
which all of us respond when Allah was a male forgive all of us Europa datamine. He said, But when
the other guys speaks, he says us use in us
		

			when you say you people you and he's like, put us on the spot and he's very harsh. And he's bringing
the same idea that I'm bringing to remind and the same Hadith and I'm bringing as well, but just the
style was different. And that's what the prophet Eileen said. That was me said the Hadith. Maracana,
Refco fee che in a lezana, who that gentleness has never put into something except for that and
beautifies it Walmart Canada should ship the trophy che Elysia No. and harshness is not put in to
anything except for that it ruins it and destroys it.
		

			This is what we need to realize when we deal with people in all walks of life. If you come off, you
advise someone a nice way you comes. It's haram. It's haram, what you're doing. You don't know this
talk Allah is someone who can take that type of advice. Yes, It's haram. What he's doing. Yes, in is
that the Taqwa of Allah, but is that the way they come off?
		

			But if you came up with a smile, syllabary correct, Allah you do a brother, Herbert villa. Well, I
love you for the sake of Allah. You know, I saw what you were doing, you know, you're Muslim. It's
that good man. You know, you don't want this to be in your skin have bad deeds, Yokoyama laws giving
you that particulars bless you with this deal. And you come with a nice and nice approach. So if you
have some advice for you,
		

			that I'd also advise myself and want you to advise me as well.
		

			This is dangerous what you're doing.
		

			Be careful, brother, I love you. I want I want the good for you. Look at the impact, even if he's
not going to accept it, he's going to are going to implement he's going to accept it at least.
		

			Why? Because you came off in a goodwill Hamdulillah.
		

			And this what this is teaching this Iron Man, it's just it's very, very deep. Because sit on this, I
just reflect and reflect and give example after example. But this is what's meant by Allah subhanaw
taala, reminding us of what happened in the story. When they came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, and the Prophet Ali's letters and he was merciful with them.
		

			He took their advice to their opinions
		

			didn't go against the group that he disagreed with, or the opinion that he disagreed and a harsh
way.
		

			And we said at the beginning of this episode, the differences of the OMA and how we deal with the
differences of the OMA
		

			How can we resolve these differences?
		

			By implementing this ion channel Tada by having mercy those around us by having sure or going back
and asking the people what they think a lot of times, I'll tell you, as a leader in many of the
roles that I have, and hamdulillah many of the times Wallahi
		

			just like in this story
		

			with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam the opinion
		

			I might not agree with but Alhamdulillah if that is something that doesn't go against the Sharia,
when I talk about things, we will actually pay attention. That opinion which goes against Islam know
something that's in within the fold of Islam, but I think this is the better of the choice is the
better choice. But we have our group with us who I'm in charge with, or I'm one of the leaders of
the group are of the project. And they the majority sees this and everyone's needed, let's go for
it. Many examples I can give,
		

			but unfortunately we're out of time Inshallah, I think hamdullah we got the point. Be merciful, how
you deal with people be lenient, how you deal with people, be wise and how you advise people, and
Chautala the favor and blessings will spread. And we'll come together as one on my channel Attalla
will implement this as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did, as Allah mentioned in this
verse, and until the next episode, Allah knows best Allah LM was Allah wa sallam Mubarak and it'd be
Muhammad would deserve more fame and celebrity Curatola.