Abdur-Raheem McCarthy – The Life And Times Of Umar Ibn Abdul-Aziz 01

Abdur-Raheem McCarthy

This talk was delivered at the Green Lane Masjid on March 25, 2017.

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The speakers discuss Omarale's birthday party and the importance of being mindful of others' behavior. They emphasize the need to be focused on the story of Omar Abdul Qaeda and the importance of learning about his life story. The success of Omar's upbringing and his family history is also discussed, along with strategies for raising children properly and emphasizing the importance of being present for daily learning. The speakers stress the importance of learning to be an embedment and protecting one's health, as well as the importance of learning to be an embedment and holding onto one's Deen.

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			Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
		
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			begin In the name of Allah please be to Him and we send salutations upon his final messenger
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Welcome to green and mustard and deserve one lahave for
everyone who has attended this special event entitled story night, the golden era, the life and
times of Omar Ibn Abdul Aziz Rahim Allah and desert for the head chef of the Rahim McCarthy for
joining us this evening in sha Allah, it will be an evening full of inspiration for the whole
family.
		
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			Before we begin, I'm just going to mention some households inshallah. So please, if everyone could
put the mobile phones on silent, and you don't want anyone to disturb her while he is delivering the
talk. Also, if you are parked in the masjid carpark and you are double parked or blocking your end,
please move your car because maybe somebody will need to leave halfway through
		
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			and if I could please ask everyone to fulfill the cinema of our beloved messenger Muhammad peace be
upon him and move as close as you can to the state and fill in all the gaps. So, if everyone can
just move as close forward as they can and self close together as possible inshallah
		
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			but this person at the back come right in
		
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			also, because this can be quite a long
		
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			evening shala 530 to 1030
		
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			which is probably the maximum amount of time we would need, there will be breaks inshallah, so every
maybe an hour so there'll be breaks and there will be refreshments. drinks, I think they got
provided in the lobby area, so if you can help yourself to things in the breaks. Before I start, I'm
just going to show introduction to show him the other tomorrow bound with the confidential
		
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			Abdur Rahim McCarthy is of Irish American heritage and was born and raised in the USA. After
accepting Islam in 1994, he moved to Sudan and then Saudi Arabia, where he spent 10 years in Medina
standing under the scholars and as a student in the Islamic University of Medina. He graduated from
the Arabic language institute and from the faculty of Dawa and assuming thing he is well known from
his TV shows on TV who the TV via tv shudra tv and Qatar TV and also delivers lectures all over the
world. So inshallah without further ado, I'll pass it over to effect begin this evening's story
		
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			smilla hamdulillah salat wa salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was like the woman whatever.
		
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			hamdulillah This is, in reality, the third session
		
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			about the life and times of Omar bin Abdulaziz starting with our hobo on Friday. And then our lesson
last night we looked into the creed the Arpita of Omar Abdullah bin Abdulaziz Rahim Allah Tada. And
today
		
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			before we start,
		
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			it's important that I mentioned you might ask yourself
		
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			how many of you have heard the story of some of the early Muslims before? Whether it be a lecture
you've attended or online? One of the early generations never heard any stories and
		
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			I think all of us have heard them. Have you ever heard a story be talked about for five hours?
		
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			Or that's a bit strange, isn't it?
		
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			In reality,
		
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			the brothers first one to make an eight hour course.
		
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			And I agree to that knowing that there's a lot to talk about when it comes to money.
		
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			Abdelaziz
		
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			and then obviously we made it five hours and shall we'll see how it goes tonight might not even be
five, I might do less want to focus on some of the benefits. We can't cover others in this time all
of his life story. And so Pamela, when you look into the story of Omar bin Abdulaziz, how old was
he? How old was he when he died?
		
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			Who knows the age if I want to read that rhodiola rhodiola and Rahim Allah.
		
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			He was young.
		
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			He was about 40 years old, when he died.
		
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			How long was the lever for
		
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			about two and a half years, two years and five months and sometimes about two and a half years. With
this short amount of time when you look into his life?
		
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			Well, if we can't cover in the five hours, a me properly going through. So I mean, even though I've
given many lessons about the biographies of many of the self, is one of the things I really enjoy
doing. When I agreed to come and I'm preparing hour after hour, day after day and reading.
		
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			And I was left in shock. Honestly, I didn't realize how deep I mean, I know the story from before.
But we start going in depth and what we gain what we benefit, there's so much that in reality, if we
wanted to give the story, it's just I think I would need to stay here in Birmingham with you guys
for about a month, 30 days. And every day after Isha for one hour that we I think we could cover it.
Because one of the stories that we can start by just one of the stories, or one of his quotes, or
one of his full budget, we can spend an entire hour on that. So I'm gonna mention some of the things
that we can benefit and hamdulillah. The book, which we based it on, obviously, the lecture,
		
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			the book of Dr. olea syllabi, it's translated in English. And you can find it easily here in
Birmingham. It's a bit long, it's 733 pages. And but hamdullah, you'll see from what you're hearing
tonight in Charlottetown, it's worth having it's worth reading yourself or reading with your family,
and amazing story to see. And like I keep telling the brothers when I sit with them about this, as
it's like it's a fairy tale, when you hear the light form or the disease is like how could somebody
like this exist? And he at the time of the Sahaba? What will be a loved one home, when you hear the
amazing things that they did
		
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			they with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So when you went the prophets that a lot of it was
selling them.
		
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			That's something. But when you look at the life of Omar Abdulaziz, and you see the type of
corruption and things that the people have fallen into,
		
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			during his error, and you see his life, it's like it's something from out of this world, honestly.
So shall we'll try to want to try our best to look into some of the
		
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			things of his life, his life before that he laughs and his methodology in his khilafah. And also
what are the personal characteristics that made him so unique and so special and so successful? And
then we'll also look into his family life and how he raised his children. I don't know if the
sisters can tell their brothers also how it sounds they I don't know. It's a bit of a echo a bit
with the microphone. I don't know.
		
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			We'll look at how he raised his children.
		
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			And, obviously, as we mentioned, I'm sure all of you saw the little video that we did, we sent out
before we came in from the beautiful thing is that actually we were preparing the course in Medina
hamdulillah where all of the stories started with Omar Abdul Aziz Rahim. Hello, Donna. And so
Pinilla what we want to focus on tonight is not just the Malema information, we want to focus on how
we can benefit from it in our everyday life. That's the key thing. We focus on the stories of the
pious predecessors of the self. It's nice just to have the myeloma information. That's good to know.
So it's not a history lesson. What we're taking today is a teddy bear lesson,
		
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			where we're going to train ourselves to try to be like Omar Abdulaziz implement some of the things
that he implemented. Some people say it's impossible to reach what he reached. And you're probably
right.
		
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			But what if we reach 25% of what he reached? Would it be a success?
		
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			I have 120 5% only, and the university if you get 25% Is it a success or not?
		
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			No one in university or in school?
		
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			What is passing in the UK?
		
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			Yeah, come on. 75% so you guys, it's like 40 years
		
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			5040 somebody then
		
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			in America 65%. Late
		
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			25% failing, but if we reach 25% of what he reached if we reach 10% of what he reads 5% that's in
their minds a blessing hamdulillah so we take as much as we can and see what we can put in
		
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			action shots on, we'll look at how he did the total beer for his children look at his social life
and how he dealt with others and learn from his methodology of change. Because a lot of times we see
the problems that the woman is facing, but we don't know how to go about change. And we're gonna
benefit that tonight from the disease or him alone silent, and see how he focused on the importance
of knowledge and Tao. And also his focus on the science of Hadith and the importance of Hadith. And
then then obviously, the his last days and for his death in general Tana and that's what we'll be
covering tonight. When you look into his family life, Omar Abdulaziz, his father was Abdulaziz
		
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			Marwan even in hacking, he was the governor of Egypt for more than 20 years. And his father himself
focused on studying Hadith and benefiting from Hadith. And he took Hadees and he said with Abu
huraira, obey Allah and benefit from him. His mother, who was his mother,
		
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			his information was already given some of the last sessions if you were paying attention.
		
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			Let others his his his his wife,
		
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			who was his mother?
		
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			His mother was the granddaughter who,
		
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			Amara, even Abdullah Abdullah kabob Rahim Allah tada
		
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			boom, awesome, Annie. And she was the daughter of Alison, even Ahmadinejad, Bob, one of their loved
one. He was born in Medina, some said in Egypt but at the crisis he was born in Medina 61, after his
you know,
		
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			he had a nickname.
		
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			What was his nickname? Anybody know his nickname.
		
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			He was known as a Szeged miwon. And that is because I was at MoMA because he had a scar on his head.
And the story of that he was he was young when he was in Egypt with his father, that he was hit by a
horse. We went to this table, and it opened up his head. And he started to bleed and they were
scared and according to his father, his father came in and after he stopped the blood,
		
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			he became happy.
		
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			Perhaps
		
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			a good thing is about to happen is the same good if you get hit by a horse and your son is bleeding.
But he remembered the dream of the grandfather of his son or mother called Pablo De La Hoya. And he
had a dream one time that one of his oma one of his offspring, one of his offspring from his
grandchildren, that he had a scar on his face and he came in he
		
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			bought the oma back to the theater back to the good after the corruption has spread. So this was a
dream that he had and all of the offspring of I want him called Baba waiting for that day, that
perhaps
		
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			one of their children would be that one who comes and reforms the oma, even the son of Bilal of
Abdullah bin Omar of the Allahu anhu Omar that he had a like a mark on his face. And he thought
perhaps it would be his son, but it ended up being on Medina even after Aziz Rahim Allah.
		
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			He had
		
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			from his brothers and sisters and his children from his his, his father had 10 different sons. Omar
himself had 14 different sons and three daughters. Some say a bit more different narration that's
the main narration Some say 12 sons and six daughters. But what is the main narration is 14 sons and
three daughters from three different wives.
		
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			So here he had,
		
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			how many sons
		
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			13 how old has any died?
		
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			Buddy so Mashallah Baraka, Mr. Young, and that's the origin is that getting married at a young age
is something we should be doing? Many people now. They have. They don't get married during the 30s
and things like that. Well, almost done. So we'll talk about that a bit later in general Donna.
		
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			It's one of the problems we're facing as
		
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			one of his famous most famous wives who were she
		
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			the most famous wives.
		
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			Well, Thema Abdul Malik.
		
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			Her father was Who? The halifa and
		
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			her grandfather was a diva. Her husband was Khalifa and her brothers also work reverse before her
husband and will eat into the man and then after him came, is he the family and he showed them all
of them came as the believers after all, from from her all from her family, or their loved ones. You
could see what type of background she was coming from that's important to pay attention that when
you hear a story later, and Sultana
		
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			what are the factors that shaped Omar Abdulaziz into the personality that we know today? his
upbringing. What do you think were the main
		
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			factor's
		
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			maybe I want to do something different today
		
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			we'll do some some group work you guys break down into groups and give us some benefits What do you
guys think? Are you interested? Or you just want to sit and shake your heads all day?
		
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			I think it'd be fun What do you guys think?
		
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			I just don't seem to do better. Are you guys want to just chill out? Bring some popcorn and
		
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			listen
		
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			No, no, not this one. No, he was one up in a whole different way.
		
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			I have one plate Can we go into groups? Is it possible
		
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			just leave so let's break down into different groups in different parts of the budget also the
sisters upstairs you should have got the papers in the pin. Can I get a volunteer or a few
volunteers that pass these out?
		
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			If he volunteers depends on the papers just like five minutes. Now the The objective is
		
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			we're upbringing now.
		
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			This child we want him to be something great for the future and chautala what are the
characteristics or the traits that he has to have an order to be great in shuttling understand just
all you have to do is sit down and write down as many things as you can think about with your group
and then pick one person from the group who will share it with us in general. Obviously it'll be
things will be said more than once but it's okay inshallah. And the sisters when they finish they
can send their papers down the brother in shuttle tada will get the papers from the sisters. So if
we can break down at different groups
		
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			it doesn't have to be the people you know anybody Bismillah like seven brothers seven brothers
something like that. So different groups regrow go here go there and tell me inshallah tada what are
the traits we need to have in order to raise our child properly for him to be inshallah something
great for the oma for the future?
		
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			And then we're going to compare it to the traits that Omar Abdulaziz had inshallah
		
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			you guys can't sit on one group together you have to you have to move the brothers and the chairs
when you stand. You see you get into groups inshallah.
		
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			So don't worry if it's
		
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			too good.
		
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			Because it's a long session of why don't we just sit here and just talk everybody's gonna be? I
think it gets boring honestly.
		
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			So you have one person who writes down and you have one person inshallah, who is going to present
the group's findings. Don't make the group too big.
		
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			Don't make like 10 or more, she'd be like, roughly 701 this group over here with the brother brother
has the pen and paper nobody's sitting with him.
		
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			molar groups
		
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			is just like the huddle when you guys play football and get in the huddle and you discuss your
strategies.
		
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			Now we're discussing strategies are similar. I think you guys need to spread out a bit more. Maybe
Maybe you guys never done group work before.
		
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			You spread out a bit. It's a bit better for you guys.
		
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			Leave about five minutes or one or a bit less.
		
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			Yeah Can we get about three or four more minutes to see the brothers are working good and shuttles
will increase the time a bit. Let's try to wrap it up about three or four minutes in general Tom is
talking with him
		
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			and make sure you understand what you write. Don't come in and ask you what does it mean explain it.
		
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			So have a discussion about you know why it's important. Don't just write down points. Makes you
understand why it's important.
		
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			Two more minutes or one minute
		
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			one more minute jaquan if you can wrap up now and john loves
		
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			it
		
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			Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim
		
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			hamdulillah sisters Mashallah work they were like the brothers you keep your papers because most of
the men's handwriting we can't read just one of our traits. And we have unreadable handwriting
sisters handwriting is always good Mashallah robotic. Some brothers are good and the brother might
be upset. My handwriting is good, but I'm talking in general playback when
		
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			we want to raise our children to be like Omar Abdulaziz
		
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			to follow in the way of the Sahaba the teachings of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			What are some of the things that we need to do? We'll start with this group in general.
		
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			There's no mention all of them just mentioned as a one, we'll come around.
		
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			And once again, what if something is mentioned from your group? Don't mention it again. When we come
to you bring something new inshallah.
		
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			Very good. So the brother, he said, The key thing now when it comes to the parenting, and that is
that we are good role models in front of in front of our children. The first thing we have actually,
if you go back to the book, about his biography, the first thing he mentioned was the main thing
that had the impact on him was his family. His father was pious, even though he was a governor is
involved in politics at the same time, he focused on knowledge and the importance of knowledge. And
as I mentioned short, he focused on sending Omar rhodiola and Rahim Allah to focus on
		
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			seeking knowledge as well. And the implementation as the brother mentioned in the story, that when
he was we mentioned last night, when he was late for the prayer,
		
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			when he is more of be the scholar who was taking care of his daughter began teaching him of his
education of his tibia, Medina, Solomon, k San Rahim, Allah Tada. One of the things that he made a
must that he must do is that he must be there for the five daily prayers. And so pangolins is
something even our Mushaf nowadays, we had a totally a program as well, that our chef used to give
us he would give us a form of the of the basic things that we need to do.
		
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			The day. And we had to accomplish this as students when we were in Medina, because the objective of
the student is not just to go into gain knowledge, but to have the Tobia of the scholars as well. So
So panela, one of the things we had to do was the five daily prayers, not just the five daily
prayers, we had to be there for attack of Iran, the objective because the way of the self as a
university and he said, either right, or Roger to her when we attack the Bureau to oola. Folks,
Sylvia Dickman, who, if you see somebody who doesn't pay attention to the forest tech Bureau, then
wash your hands from them.
		
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			And he's somebody who's not serious about facilities comes late. So wasn't just making the gym. It
was being there for the beginning of the gym. And that was one of the things that we had to do. And
in our program we were doing with our chef in Medina.
		
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			So he had the same type of program we had to be there. So when he was late for the slot one day he
said What happened? He said that, you know, my servant was taking care of my hair. She was brushing
his hair and combing his hair and taking care of it and know in the back in the day, their customers
what similar to our brother long buttock, Mashallah was the long hair. That's how they used to do
back in the day. So it was like a fashion statement, and they had so taken care of his hair. So he
missed this a lot. What did his father do as an implementation as a lesson for him, he sent someone
right away To do what? To shave his hair off completely. Teach him a lesson that the solid is the
		
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			most important thing. So if I like what the brother mentioned, f one, I want you all to pay
attention as parents, modern studies, modern studies prove that
		
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			80 to 90% of what the children have in their life is from the Tobia they get when they're young,
when they get from their parents, what they see from their parents. So all they have throughout
their life, it comes from what they see from their parents, that has a huge impact. So that's the
first thing the key thing is obviously what we see from our parents. Very good. The next group
		
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			subber all the groups, I think most of all, all of the sisters were patients that you have to have
patience. But how do we teach patients?
		
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			This is now we're learning patience, therefore, rather than looking
		
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			at the dose, Emily implementation
		
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			what how do we how do you teach patience?
		
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			through knowledge,
		
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			but for a young child, is the best way to teach him. And you teach him in conditioned bodies, and
this maybe teaches majete?
		
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			What else can we do to teach patience?
		
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			What's the best way to teach patients?
		
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			To be a role model back to what the brother said the beginning, this group said is that what the
parent when he sees patients from the parents, obviously, if you're going to be successful, anything
in life, you have to have patience? Very good. What else? The other one, the next group? were mixed
up now. Where's the third group?
		
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			Good, excellent. And the second thing we have here in the book as well as talking about, or the
third thing is talking also about the environment that he was in, like, how did the environment have
an impact on Omar Abdulaziz?
		
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			What environment was in
		
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			Windows knowledge and who was in and who wasn't that society he was in
		
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			the silos that just did that pain who is there, some of what? Some of the Sahaba were still there.
I'm gonna map that as a hitter for some of the Sahaba directly. So some of the Sahaba of Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was there. And when you go back to his family upbringing, one of his
uncle's, pay close attention to them, pay close attention and as Abdullah bin Omar are the
Allahumma, even when his mother wants to go when her husband became the, the the governor, the Wali
in Egypt, he said, leave the boy with us, let us take care of him. Even when he when his wife made
it to Egypt, his father receives a surprise Where's Alma?
		
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			Where's my son said his uncle asked to leave him there.
		
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			So as his upbringing was there in Medina and that society young age, then he went to Egypt to be
with his family, then his father sent him also back to Medina to study there and to learn more. So
his upbringing in that society. So being in a good society is one of the keys for a proper
upbringing. And that's why we have to focus on our children and make sure they're in the proper
environment. Alhamdulillah here in the UK, you guys have a blessing. We talked about that yesterday.
Okay. That doesn't mean it's perfect. Nowhere in the world is perfect. People say want to make
digital people always want to focus about making his job and making his you know, making digital.
		
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			They never make digital and never focus on building and what they have in front of them and taking
advantage of what we have
		
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			Man, look at this. Now the blessing we have this machine here, all of the activities you guys have,
where we're in many parts of the world, they don't have these type of activities. So hamdulillah
take advantage of having our children and a good society in a good place. And that has a huge impact
on the upbringing.
		
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			The group in the back?
		
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			What do you guys have?
		
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			To be good? Have good manners? Excellent.
		
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			What is the importance of good manners in Islam?
		
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			Very good. Once again, it goes back to the same thing to being the role model. That's the best way
to teach you. But also we teach it from the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. What is
the status of good manners in Islam?
		
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			Very good process, as he said, in our brief to do Tim Academy McCulloch that I was sent to perfect
good manners.
		
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			And he said there's nothing heavier in the scale of good deeds,
		
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			good manners. And he said, do you reach the level of the soil mineral core and one who's fasting
through the day? And,
		
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			and praying during the night with your good manners? So having good manners excellent. With sisters
mentioned that to being polite? I think almost all the groups mentioned that as well.
		
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			Was the other group. Next group were you
		
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			because you guys are mixed up now. So I don't know. It's Milla
		
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			educated, very good from a young age. One of the key things that they focused on was the education
and what is the most important education that we focused on?
		
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			for our children?
		
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			The Quran,
		
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			the Quran, but you're one there's a big mistake that we make nowadays, as teachers as addresses.
Because when we have here, if you go back to the book about Omar Abdulaziz, what are the main things
that have had an impact on him? Number two, him focusing on seeking knowledge and memorizing the
Quran from a young age.
		
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			And when you read through it, and you come here, it says that he would have an impact on him the
Quran, and he would break down into tears, so we know for our event a young age, and then they gave
several examples of several ayat that made him break down into tears. Rahim Allah, what does this
teach us?
		
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			How can such young man break down into tears?
		
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			He no one. What does this teach us?
		
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			How many of our children nowadays break down into tears when they hear the poor on
		
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			that's it. They understand what to do with the reading.
		
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			Not just the the non Arabs even though the Arabs have no clue and or they have some idea, but not
not a good good idea what it means because one of the objectives of the enemies of Islam
		
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			was to come to corrupt the Arabic language. And that's why you'll find all of the arrows speak with
different dialects. The objective of this so they don't understand the Quran.
		
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			They can't understand the Quran properly, it's not gonna have the impact. But here this young man
not only memorize the Quran, but he understood the meaning of the ayat.
		
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			And it had a huge impact on will break him down into tears. Rahim Allah Allah tada because he
understood the Quran and one of the mistakes that we need to that we make and we need to fix and
rectify
		
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			is understanding the men Hajj of the Sahaba and teaching the Quran they were young they will learn
the Quran. What did they say? They said we will learn first what
		
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			else man?
		
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			We don't teach the man anymore.
		
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			We just put on madrasa molana stick careful ruler. We don't do in the UK. He'll be careful now.
		
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			But now this is what people have in mind. What is this? You know, you have to memorize, memorize
memorize the young Sahaba they said couldn't an Italian man a man we used to learn the man a first
thing so moneta Allah, Al Quran then we will learn the Quran
		
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			but is there to be man and so we will increase in our email to the Quran. That's what I had an
impact on them.
		
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			And they weren't in a race to focus on understand the meanings, whether it's from the Sahaba also
have a 10 verses 10 verses understand the meanings, not being a race to the end, actually be able to
understand the Quran. So this upbringing obviously had a huge impact on who Omar Abdulaziz was was
there the group?
		
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			Where's the you from?
		
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			Wherever
		
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			something else
		
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			did you what
		
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			I can't hear you
		
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			and teach you to be trustworthy, not the lie that goes into good manners. And this goes back also
the what is the best way to teach you
		
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			This principle to the children.
		
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			The teaching method was the best way to teach them not to lie.
		
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			But
		
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			they're about the profit. Excellent. What else?
		
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			What?
		
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			Okay, now, but why? Why do we teach them how not to lie? We know that it is bad to lie. Yes.
		
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			Obviously, is one of the keys, right again, goes back to the first point about being the role model.
Many times we train them at a young age to lie, and then we tell them not to lie. They see us lying.
So they're learning from us. They become what the hustlers especially a specialist in lying from
their parents. What else they have one something key when it comes to line. Now, if a child were to
come in this cup here with a knockin and to break it on the floor,
		
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			what's gonna happen to him?
		
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			The child shows are going to be upset, because this young kid came up on the stage during the break,
and he broke the cup. And now there's glass everywhere. And then the student
		
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			who did it, everybody's looking which kid did it? There's a few of them on the stage.
		
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			What's he going to do? Most kids
		
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			realize that I didn't do it at a young age, especially.
		
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			How can we teach them the importance of not lying in this stance as parents?
		
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			The tough one, because we didn't wish we didn't see him? We can go back to the CCTV and see who did
it. But
		
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			say, okay, maybe you did, maybe you didn't. If I don't know as your parent, Allah knows. This is the
teaching of the man right away. Then the true believer doesn't lie, the danger of lying. And if you
did it, then
		
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			Allah knows you did it. The importance of being truthful. One time in the story of Omar Abdulaziz,
		
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			his son came to him crying.
		
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			He asked him, Why are you crying? He said, so and so one of the slaves. He hit me.
		
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			The slave came to him. It's Moses servant came to him. And he asked him, did you hit my son? Here's
somebody who's the Khalifa.
		
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			You hit the hood of his son, and he is one of the servants. He said, Yes, I hit him.
		
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			home, I was impressed why he was honest. Here, you're standing in front
		
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			of them of all of the Muslims. And you're saying yes, I hate your son. He said, go ahead and go. He
said, I'm not gonna do anything to you. Because you're honest. Boys of honesty, teaching the
importance. So tell the kid we're not going to hold you accountable for this? Because you're honest.
Teach them from the age honestly, very good, how much time we have for them? Hope we have some time.
They the there's all the groups, we missed any of the groups, wherever there
		
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			was that
		
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			limited wealth? That's a good way to raise your kid.
		
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			What maybe I made? I don't know, maybe it's good.
		
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			How can we reword it to be correct.
		
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			He said limited wealth.
		
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			Hey, the pheno to be satisfied with what you have. And to not be extravagant and not be attached to
the new. That's one of the key things that are more even after Aziz, when he raised his children,
when he focused on is not having them attached to the dunya and teach them the importance of being
attached to him. And what the brother said that you suffice with what you have. Always look at, as
the teacher the professor said them told us look at who the ones who are less fortunate than you. So
that's very important from a young age that we teach them, that even if you have limited wealth, to
be sufficed and be satisfied with what you have very good. Any other books you have missed before we
		
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			go back?
		
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			To the What do you have anything else?
		
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			Very good. Looking at who they befriend. And this goes back to what we talked about their
upbringing. He's in a pious family. He's in a pious society. His father chose the Mora be the one
who was teaching his son, training his son educating his son and made sure he was from the sun to
him from the pious people made sure he was from the mama and papa from the Kabbalah, the ones who
were teaching his son as well and omo Robbie, a loved one when he became the halifa. He did the same
thing with his children as well where he taught them and train them had the scholars train them, as
the brother mentioned, the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			when he said el Moro Allah Dini, clearly he that the person is on the religion of his friend, and
pay attention to this Hadeeth as parents we reflect on this,
		
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			Elmo, Allah de that the person is on the religion of his friend.
		
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			What does this wording teach us in the detail one?
		
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			He didn't say
		
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			Edmodo. Yet the effort will be really that the person is affected by his friends. He said he's on
the religion of his friend.
		
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			To show you how much the impact how much the effect of who you befriend has on you. The Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam set of criteria for us of who we should be friend and the other Howdy.
He salatu salam ala mamina wala Groupama a letter T. He said only befriend the movement, the
believer, and nobody should eat from your food except for the one who has to be the pious one. Why
the food? Because who do you usually invite for dinner at your house?
		
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			Everybody? If the brother had dinner for us tonight, he prepared dinner for me because I love him.
Allah bless him. Nobody who's going to invite to his house, everybody's Bismillah all the brothers,
he's going to choose a select few. These are the his crew, his kids, brothers, ones who are close to
him, right? The one who should be close to you and coming with you to have a meal at your house. He
should be the one who was the one who was pious that we have a few minutes left. And in anything
else from the from the other groups are often
		
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			beneficial that we can add.
		
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			The sisters minute mentioned many things.
		
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			Quality family time, things like that. Obviously, this goes with any we talked about this actually
before in some detail in one of the other lectures we gave last time we're in green lane. And I
think that's even available online. Most of these things when it comes to
		
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			raising the family, anything else beneficial. And other groups want to mention that one before.
before the event.
		
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			Where
		
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			implementation excellent. They learn from a young age to implement Islam. Now this teaching, and we
see this implementation a big problem when it comes for example, what's the most important thing in
Islam?
		
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			What's the most important thing?
		
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			Everyone makes that mistake? I don't know why.
		
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			Everybody makes a mistake every time you ask. Everybody says this a lot.
		
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			Before the salad was the most important. Shahad La La is the most important thing. Number two, the
salad.
		
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			We don't focus unfortunately, on even protecting the Shahada. You'll find that the things our kids
watch, on the TV, the cartoons they watch, it's full of shirk, full of magic. We're not even
protecting the Shahada, focusing on having strong to heed that in order to heathen the importance of
the salaat many of the parents make the mistake when it comes to implementation here when the salaat
		
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			What mistake do they make?
		
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			Every time they come to me and they say my kid the namaz is not reading that. The first question How
are you with your mouse?
		
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			So you expect your kid to be Mashallah with the namazi and you're like, this doesn't work like that.
You have to you have to be on yourself. Secondly, I say did you take advantage
		
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			of the 5400 training sessions?
		
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			5400 lessons did you take advantage of them to teach your son or your daughter who were shocked What
are you talking about?
		
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			Whereas 5400 What are we supposed to teach them to start praying?
		
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			Seven okay.
		
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			And so what ah
		
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			the trading session till 10 if you look into the Islamic calendar, what is the most days we can have
any year?
		
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			llama calendar
		
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			30 days is the highest. So in 12 How much is that?
		
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			360 times that by 12?
		
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			How much is it?
		
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			360 times it by by five for the 5% How much does it come up to?
		
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			That's not your thing at
		
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			one 1800 so each year 1800 to be a lessons for the salaat the first year 1800 sessions, the second
year 1,803rd year 1800 the total in the three years How much is it?
		
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			5400.
		
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			People don't take advantage especially coming to Southern miskeen it's early, let them sleep. He has
to get up he has to study for the school. So they don't focus on the importance of the
implementation of the deen and teaching the importance of holding on to their Deen. So these are
some of the key things the key elements when it comes to the upbringing and hamdullah we see many of
this in the life of a modern disease, so we'll take a break now inshallah for the Salatin Channel
Tunnel will continue after the sooner prayer and some otologist come along