Abdur-Raheem McCarthy – 14 life lessons I learned from my father – Abdur Raheem McCarthy

			Salam Alaikum rockmelon I want to share with you something that is very, very dear to my heart. And
these are the lessons and teachings that my own father taught me that has had such a huge impact on
my life. And subhanAllah this is something that I wrote about two years ago. And while I went to
film it, some brothers actually do like professional filming. And we, you know, we had the
appointment tomorrow when a film and that was going through my laptop, I couldn't find no these
points that I had wrote down I have with me about today about 13 Different things I'm going to share
with you and cellos, I'm not going to go too long. So don't worry about that in shallow tonight, but
		

			Michelle is gonna be beneficial, you really benefit from these points in shallow time. And I was
gonna I'm gonna do it in English. And also, I'm gonna do an Arabic as well. But when I didn't find
the notes, we ended up delaying it. And as you know, now, many of you are with me on social media
and my father, he's been he's been ill, he's not doing well. And we never know any, obviously, the
amount of the ages or the time of death that's on in the hands of Allah subhanaw taala. But when
someone gets a bit older, and they're ill, you know, the reality is that death is closer, right? So
even though these points were, you know, something I've benefit I want to share with you guys, I've
		

			said, look, he said, it's even important that you have father he has himself, that's your father,
here's the impact that you've had, that he has had on your life. So I sat down here today have a lot
of just like a really busy time, my life was in motion. No, it's got to film it now, that you that
here, not just the people don't just benefit the people. So I sat down here today at home and
Hamdulillah, to film this, to let my father know the impact that he's had on my life. And also, so
you guys can benefit from the things that he told me as well and shout, Donna. The first thing is,
love what you do for a living. And this lesson, he taught me and had a huge impact on me. I remember
		

			I was working in Dubai in a school there. And we had a very long day teaching. And then we had a
parents evening. And I had left the house probably like, you know, around around quarter to six. And
now I'm coming back. It's like, seven 715 In the evening, I'm going to traffic coming back home. And
my father said something had such a huge impact on me. He said, Do you know how long I've been
working today. And I was like how long? And he said 16 hours straight. And I want you to realize
that my father owns his own company. And when someone owns his own company, and someone's it's a
very, very successful company on top of that, Mashallah. So when someone is successful in his own
		

			business, we're used to in the in the Gulf countries, you know, you hire foreign workers for cheap
from outside and let them do it. You don't put yourself through any strenuous task. So I asked him,
I said, Why don't you just hire someone else to do it? And he said something that really had a huge
impact on me. He said, Do you know why I do what I do? He said, because I don't need the money. He
said to me, and he said something a bit vulgar what he said, but he said, he said I could take $20
bills and and wipe myself with it. And then for the rest of my life, and I would never go broke. He
said, I have money, I'm set for the rest of my life, Mashallah. But he said, I do it. Because I love
		

			it. I love what I'm doing. He said, I don't need the money I'm not doing for the money. And that
reminded me of the statement that when you do what you love, you never go to work. Another lesson
that he taught me was not to work for others, to do your own thing to work for yourself to be your
own man to own your own business, and do your own thing. And this was when I was and I didn't
realize this. And many of the things I'm telling you guys, I didn't realize them in the beginning.
And I told him, I told my stepmother because my stepmother, I have a bit of a had before. And it's
all love. Now I love her so much now, but I used to have like a love hate relationship, because she
		

			would do a lot of good for me. So that would have an impact on me. But she was very tough. So I had
that hatred toward her because my mother let me basically do what I want him she had a lot of love
for me. But she gave me a lot of freedom. Whereas my stepmother realized that freedom is not good
for you, you need to do like this and like this. So it was it was difficult for me to accept from
her. But when I became a father later, and I started to implement many of the things they told me, I
realized, and all the good that my my father and my stepmother were doing. And he for me, may Allah
bless them. So I said to them, I said, Thank you so much for all of the lessons that you taught me.
		

			So I remember when I was a student in Medina, he contacted me said, What are you doing? Like, what,
why don't you come back to America and take over this company. So I'm getting old, I'm going to
retire soon. This is your company, I'm his only son. He said, Come take it away. And that for me. I
wanted to know student of knowledge, I want to be a scholar of Islam, I'm studying with the
scholars. So and that's what I want to do in life. And that's what I enjoy doing. You know, I mean,
I wouldn't mind having a couple million dollars to be honest with you and helped me email my family.
But if I have to sacrifice my objectives in my goals to reach that, I'm not going to do that. So he
		

			said come back around the company. And I know that I think about it should I've done it shouldn't
have all had it, but I'm done. I'm happy with the decision I made which was to stay in Medina to
finish studying with the scholars and to then continue inshallah to teach and to give Tao Al
Hamdulillah. But he told me something very, very profound, because he said what do you gain in the
end? So I have this issue of tolerable and you know, and the reward we get of seeking knowledge and
teaching others you know, as a as a Muslim we have this is something very dear to us, but perhaps
animals I'm not gonna understand it in the same light. So I mean, one of the things I said to him I
		

			said in the end, I said I get a BA I get a bachelors of arts so I have a I have a college degree and
he was like for what and if you look at it in reality like you know, Bill
		

			gates and many of the successful people in the world today, Steve Jobs, they didn't have college
degrees, right? So my father asked me, So what are you going to do? What are you going to benefit
from having a BA, he's going to go work for someone else. I know you're going to become the slave of
someone else, basically. And I realized this as well, when I was a teacher in Dubai, even though I
love teaching, but all of the things that came with teaching and preparation, and just you know,
constantly being watched and being ordered around, it's like you're being pulled in chains by your
slave master to the work. I realized many years later, when my dad was talking about that you need
		

			to do your own thing, have your own business, and work for yourself. And amazing story. When I first
started working for my father's company, I was 18, I was coming from a serious Jedidiah no bad
background, doing a lot of bad things. My father was trying to help me go straight. And he gave me a
job. That is the worst job you can imagine. I was basically like the cleaner, and the boy that will
run around on the construction site, even though my father owned the construction company I was
working for. And he gave me basically, I don't even know if that was minimum wage. At the time, it
was very bad. I was getting like $800 a month, which wasn't good. Obviously, he's saying, you know,
		

			I'm taking care of the, of your housing and your food and things like that. So it's 800 is enough.
Anyways, you know, coming from my background, I was making more money when I was doing and the Haram
before, but anyways, and he had an objective. And he did explain it to me. But sometimes, you know,
we don't understand it's very important. I always talk about benefiting from our elders, those who
have been through life before us. He wanted to teach me something very important. And that is that
you start from the bottom, he said, I know as a salesman, you're very good. He said, you can. So he
told us to tell me you can sell ice water to an Eskimo. He said, I know that you can run this
		

			company. He said, I know you're good when it comes to being in the office. He said, I know you're
good when it comes to administrate it being an administrative things. He said, But what you need to
do, he said, I want you to be on the field from the bottom, learn how it's done, see how it's done.
And then you start to learn a bit of corporate injury, a bit of this and this JOHANNS then, and then
you come into the office, then you're going to be very successful in running this company.
Obviously, I didn't realize it at the time. But then with my experience in life later I learned what
he was saying was correct, that if you start sometimes from the bottom, you gain that experience,
		

			and then you work your way up, that's going to help you be more successful in what you do in the
future, Inshallah, tear down the wall. This is one of the most amazing lessons I've ever benefited
from my father, my father, he hired some a different group of corporate news to come in and to do
some work and one of the houses we're working on. And my father used to come to all of the sites and
he would look at the sites himself. And he came in and he said, he saw that there was a board
inside, it was crooked, it wasn't straight. So he looked down, he looked and saw another board
wasn't straight, he told them tear down the wall, back back to take down the whole thing and build
		

			it again. And the people were shocked. They were like, once we put up the drywall put up this he
said no one's gonna see it. And it's not going to have an impact on the building anyway, just
crooked. He said, No one's gonna see it. My father said to these workers, he said, but I saw it. And
he said what I do, he said, It's all perfect. He said, I won't allow anything to be crooked, or to
not be correct. And he said, You take down the whole wall and you do it again correctly. And he
said, I won't pay you a diamond to you do it here how much time is going to be lost and getting the
job done. But it doesn't matter how much time it takes. What's important is that it's done
		

			correctly. And as a Muslim, we know the issue of Amana being trusted, when someone has entrusted you
someone's paid you money to do something for them, that we must fulfill it. And the best way and the
responsibility we're going to be asked about this, you will not be am on the Day of Judgment when
you when we stand in front of Allah subhanaw taala, focusing on perfection, not focusing on the
quantity but focusing on the quality. For many years, my father's construction company was rated the
number one construction company in the area that we live in, in Virginia in the US. And my father
said something to me very amazing. He said that I only build 25 homes a year he said I can build
		

			100, maybe even 200 If I want because he was very known for the quality of his work. He said I have
a two year waiting list people who have on a waiting list now who want to build with me, but he said
I only build 25 homes a year, because he said I realized that these are the only ones that I can
supervise myself. He said every single house he said I go to all of the time I see with my own eyes
to make sure that it's being done correctly. And we all know from the teachings of our beloved
prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he said in Allah you Hibou either amila or her
dakumar Mulund and you'd kind of hope that our loves one of you does something that he perfects it,
		

			improve just 1% a day. There's my father used to always teach me and he would and he really
installed us me just 1% a day just 1% a day. And a lot of times when we want to become better at
what we do, we want to perfect whatever it is we're doing in life. We want to improve you know,
drastically and a great rates right away. But that doesn't really happen. You know what happens a
lot of times for example, you want to start working out or start dieting sometimes we go really
hardcore, and we do a lot in the beginning and then we burn out and in a week or two weeks or a
month or what have you. But if you take care
		

			gradually and just each day you become 1% Better 1% Better. At the end of the year, how much are you
better, depending which calendar you use that 355 363 65 Whatever it is. So let's say 365 with 360
in the middle 360 times better than you were at the at the beginning of the year. And something I
remember that Imam Abu Hanifa Rahim Allah that he mentioned, about learning different issues of the
religion, he said, if you learn just three issues a day, don't try to do too much is three issues.
And when I teach this and I remind the brothers of this, of the of the statement of Imam Abu Hanifa
I always say that, you know, even if it's just one issue a day that you learn about your religion,
		

			that you're going to be what 360 times more and they know more about your deen or religion at the
end of the year and 10 years, you're gonna know, three 3600 different things, a verse of the Quran,
Hadith, the teaching of the Prophet Muhammad salallahu Salam, whatever it is, you're learning, you
got to know something more than you did, because you just learned one thing yesterday and you
continue. So it's the consistency that you're constantly trying to improve, not trying to do too
much, keeping on slow pace and Subhanallah when I remind myself of these things that I learned from
my father, we see the relation that a lot of them have directly with what Islam taught me that's why
		

			I said that. I didn't realize in the beginning in a how and how great these things were that he was
teaching me. But then when I learned about a snap, for example, they should tear down the wall, the
Amana in the responsibility you know, with and fulfilling what you've been entrusted with how many
times in the Quran is Allah tell us about this? How many things in the teachings of the Prophet
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, as he taught us about this, what was the name of avaliable
Beloved Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam of Saudi Arabia. I mean, people knew him before Islam before
the revelation came to him that he was the saw that he was the true for one, and the trustworthy
		

			one. So a lot of the things that my father used to teach me, I didn't really get it me for me, to be
honest, I would have left the board crooked, hello, I'm not gonna waste time and the people are not
going to see like the like the dude said, who are working for him. But the reality is, is that we
know as as as as as the Quran and the Sunnah teaches us that Allah sees us that we're going to be
held accountable. So that type of responsibility in that manner, and to fulfill what the obligations
that we have. It's one of the great teachings so many of the teachings from my father actually been
I've benefited so much from them later on in life, because of the teachings and what Islam had
		

			taught me. And I found that amazing smelling my father has been teaching me these things since I was
young. And here we hear a lot of teachings in the Quran. And our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam is teaching us this and his sunnah, and his traditions, Ali salatu salam, be
simple. An amazing lesson that my father taught me is to always be simple and not to be extravagant,
even if you have money. And this will happen in 2009. When we were at a conference in Canada, my
father came from America to visit me. And he noticed were in the elevator, I still remember the
story Cipolla very well. And the code I had on was a very inexpensive code, it was in a cashmere
		

			coat. And through an n 50. During that time, is probably even more now in today's prices. He asked
me how much that cost was like $350 It was actually a gift. I didn't buy a booster and $50 and the
shoes I had on so we're about $110. So he ate he looked at me he said look, because actually I had
left my job and I was you know, looking for another job at the time. So he said that you know, here
you are unemployed but you know, you were wearing these these very expensive clothes. And he said, I
have I have millions more money than you he said, I'm doing better than you. But yet he said my
jacket only cost $80 And my shoes only cost $40 Be humble. My father used to always try to install
		

			this in me Be humble. You tell me humble pie, humble pie, you always tell me this, especially before
my basketball games. Because through all my practice and all my dedication and training in
basketball, I became pretty good. So obviously sometimes when you become good at something that goes
to your mind, and then you become a bit arrogant. So my father used to always teach me the
importance of being humble. And we know from the teachings of our beloved prophet muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mantra well, but Allah that whoever is humble for Allah, Rafa who that
Allah will raise his status, you need to sacrifice for your kids. And I remember when I said I
		

			became very good in basketball, how did that happen? Two people really sacrificed for me, one of
them was my coach, and my basketball coach, may Allah bless him, and also my father. I used to wake
up at 5am every day before school, I go downstairs have my oatmeal, that's porridge for you, if you
bricks and then I would wake my father up, I will call my coach, and my father would get out of bed,
my coach would get out of bed and he would take me to the gym, around 5:30am, I would train to
around 715 You know, get showered, get dressed and be in the school by 730. And then every day after
school as well, I would train for several hours lifting weights and then playing basketball for
		

			about three or four hours during the evening. So I put in a lot of time, but the fact that he in
here's someone who's running an a multimillion dollar business, his own business is you know, and
he's waking up at the time he normally wouldn't wake up at you know, like 5:15am every day in order
to take that 20 minute drive from our house on the countryside all the way to go into our school.
That's dedication. No matter how busy
		

			You're sometimes you just have to stop. And you have to go you have to sacrifice for your kids and
what like that has a huge impact even now, we don't know what 3540 or 30 years later here I am
looking at that impact that it had on me the fact that he made that sacrifice for me getting out of
bed every day at 515 never make a huge decision in your life. Unless you think it out first in my
Jamelia, my pre Islamic State, I was in a very bad situation, I was going down the wrong path. And I
decided and I spoke with my father about this that one of the things that really helped me
straighten out was to join the military. And suddenly my family and then it's a military family. My
		

			both my grandfather's were in the in the US Army. My father and they were in World War Two. My
father was in the US Army during the time of the Vietnam War. They never deployed him, but he was
really ready to be deployed on his base. Also, my uncle, my cousin, were also officers in the
airforce. So I'm from a military, family. And military brings discipline and helps you straight up
your life. So I said, this is what I'm gonna do. I have my father take me to the recruiting office,
and the recruiting office where we live that has all of the branches of the military, the Army, the
Navy, the Air Force, and the Marines and the Coast Guard. But for me right away, I was always a bit,
		

			you know, hardcore in my training and the things that I would do. So for me, I was going straight to
the Marines. There was no other branch for me, even though my my father, and my grandfather's were
in the army. And my, my uncle and my cousin were in the Air Force. For me, it was directly to the
Marines without even thinking about it. I went there, we talked to the recruiter, I was about to
sign the paper. I was about to sign that paper, my father said stuff. He said, Look, he said, Don't
sign this. Until you do two things. First. He said take take one week, he says I'm requesting from
you. He said, take one week, to think about it. Because this decision is going to change the rest of
		

			your life. The next four years of life, you're going to be in the military. So make sure this is
something that you want to do. No, no, just thinking now because you want to change this this
morning or yesterday, when you when you spoke to me. And you think the military is the ways you're
gonna make the decision based on that. Really think it through for the next week, one week. And then
as you're leaving, say, go to the other branches. He said, I love the Marines. But he said just you
know, take from the army and everyone else read, read what they have, get to know all the branches
and see which one you want to choose. And he said, if it's still something you want to do a week for
		

			now, he said, I will bring you back myself, the recruiter, even though he had the paperwork for me
to sign. He told me listen to your father. After one week, obviously, I was back on the streets and
back into the the rubbish I was doing before Islam. And eventually, the path led me to Islam. But it
didn't lead me back to the recruiting office. So I never joined the military. But the lesson that I
gained from that is to never make it in an emotional decision. Always make sure that it's something
well thought through. And then you take the step and make that decision.
		

			Talk less and listen more. I never could understand how my father knew everything that was going on
around us. Eventually he told me I got a bit older. He said it's because I don't talk much and I
listened. He said everyone likes to talk, many people talk but many not too many act. My father is a
person of not talking a lot but a lot of action. And he works Mashallah. So any he would always
listen to know what's going on around him. And that's what we know from as the expression we have an
expression Arabic and always says that you know, you have you have two ears, and one tongue meaning
which one you should be doing more, you should be listening more. And also from the teachings of
		

			Islam. What did the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam tell us? Whoever believes in Allah in the last
day, fill your pool higher and holiest mode, then let him say good or to remain quiet. And he
talking too much gets you in trouble talking too much if you're not acting isn't that no benefit. So
only talking about that which is good, and listening to know what's going on around you. Even though
my father was very silent, he was like most Irish way we can explode. And we can go very quickly if
somebody gets angry. And he was someone who can control his anger which I respected. But if someone
if he needed to be tough and need to put you in your place. And I remember some times when I stepped
		

			out of line I saw myself you know, being being tough and being this my father, you know, he would
jump out of his chair and he would he would put me into play. So he was very strong when he needed
to be strong. And as the Arab say they have the expression. It telco will help will help him to fear
the anger of the honeymoon who's forbearing and forgiving the nice guy, it'd be beware of he gets
angry. So he was always quiet. Well listen more than he would talk. If you became angry. He knew how
to put it in a way where he could put you in your place and be strong when he needed to be strong.
Just like the workers I mentioned before and they were messing around with his business. And he saw
		

			the corporate boards. He said take it down now he was he was always very quiet. Welcome to the
jobsite, always very nice guy. Now you're messing with my business, take it down, do it again. Or
you won't get paid a dime, only help those who help themselves. So this perhaps is one of the
biggest things that had a huge impact on my life that my father taught me and that is he will only
help those who help themselves. Even those who are close to us and I know my kids, they hate this
one, but one day inshallah they're going to understand it as well just like I understood it later.
If someone is being
		

			lazy and not striving for themselves, my father would never help them. But if someone's working
hard, someone's grinding, he's struggling any, he's trying to do what he can for himself and need
some help, my father will be the first one to help him out. Sometimes Subhanallah we don't even look
at it being a big stream, some people who are close to us in the family, but if they're not serious
about, you know, bettering themselves and working hard for themselves, that my father wouldn't help
them. And this is something that I really, really value even when it comes like, for example, the
beggars on the street. You know, some people asked, he said, Why don't you ever give to these
		

			beggars, many of them, that's what they do for a living, obviously, and they're not out there
working. But I see sometimes a young boy, or you know, any brother or sister they're out next to the
masjid or out on the street, they're selling, you know, tissues or selling different things on this,
you know, trying to get by here, I might even give them a bit extra sadaqa. Because these are not
begging, they're trying to sell something, to be able to, you know, to work hard, and to have some
Halal forms of income, but someone who works as a beggar in the street, I don't respect these
people. And I don't help these people, even when it comes to my own family members. Now, even my own
		

			children, if I don't see them working hard, I don't help them with their stuff. So you're on your
own. And but if you're working hard, and you're struggling, and you fell down, needed some
assistance, I'm going to be there for you. This is what my father told me, and what Allah evaluates
so much. And this is what I live by, never give up, no matter how bad the situation might be. My
father, even though was super successful. And he did have one part of his life where he No, he was
even before he when he's when my mother, he was working as a plumber, in a nice position working for
a very successful company in our area. And later, when he got divorced from my mom, and then married
		

			my stepmother. He opened his own business, but it wasn't successful. And you know, perhaps any one
of the reasons I know him in the beginning of his life, he had a drinking problem or used to drink
like most Irish Americans, or Irish people drink a lot, but didn't have stopped drinking, he ended
up stopped drinking, he realized that wasn't good for him. And this is something a beautiful lesson.
And sometimes you realize that something you might enjoy, obviously, as Muslims, we don't enjoy
drinking, obviously, but I'm talking about and even for non Muslims, because obviously some non
Muslims will hear this as well. So it might be something that you you enjoy, even for us, it might
		

			be for example, a dieting, and my wife was eating an ice cream the other day, and I wanted to have
it was look very nice. But I realized the impact that would have, and I'm going to think about what
I'm cutting down. So it's that good from someone leave that. So use you see these things, even
though you might enjoy them, they're not going to be beneficial for you. And one of the things that
really benefited from his story.
		

			Even though there's some that's something he taught me directly about this story, something that
kind of reflected on is that he kind of you no went back and looked at what went wrong. He looked at
what went wrong. And he reflected on his situation. And he fixed the problems that he had. He went
and he when he wasn't he didn't give up on establishing his own company. But he realized this time
look, I don't have the ability. So when work for someone else, he became the vice president of that
company and he became very successful, he was actually running the company. And this you know, his
boss was going through his own problems with his divorce and what have you. So he ended up you know,
		

			being able to know the market know the place, start his own business, saved his money, he had built
his own home and Hamdulillah we had a beautiful, you know, house on the hill. 27 Acres is very
beautiful, Mashallah. And then he started his own business started off small, you know, buying,
buying the lot of land, he was selling the land, build a little Rambler, one story house, and then
he started obviously, building the bigger Custom Homes, million dollar $2 million homes, Michelle
after that, when he when he when he after he established himself, we didn't give up when he failed
in the beginning. And he continued with his objective and his goal, which was to be successful, to
		

			own his own business, and not just his own business, that his business would be number one, it would
be the best And Alhamdulillah he was able to accomplish that have a system in life, one of the key
things that I really reflect on how my father's life was, he was someone who was very, you know,
systematic in his life, he, you know, wake up at a certain time every day, go to sleep at a certain
time, do the same thing over and over again, this routine, sometimes people might find it boring,
but in the reality, this is the way to access, that doesn't mean you're going to have to be bored,
because there's other things you can do, you know, here and there in order to you know, to switch
		

			things up. But the point is, is that if we're going to be successful, we have to, you know, fair,
what are the key ingredients that we need to be successful? And what is the system that we need to
follow in order for us to be successful. And this is something that my father lived by. And I
believe it was one of the key things that helped him be so successful. So those I believe are 13
things that really benefited from my father led life lessons. And perhaps I can add more but I
remember one of the do ads one of our brothers he told us one time when I did the holdup about any
Habib, Habib, and I said no that for 50 for things that we benefit from life of could be and he said
		

			make it like seven now, so people can go more and so inshallah these are the main things honestly,
that really had a huge impact on my life. Now the stories and lessons that I've benefited from my
father, and he's still teaching me even till today. I remember when he visited me when I was living
in Dubai, and he was talking about I was wasn't parking the car and in the best of ways he said Park
in this way is better. So even now when I come to park I remember the lesson that my father taught
me the last story that I'll end with in shuttle Tada. It happened when my father visited
		

			In Canada, and we went to were invited to the Sudanese masjid. And it was actually they made a big
celebration, you know, they know how family ties. And so then, so they had an mashallah they made a
huge like feast for my father and my stepmother. And it was me and checks it that log in Toronto and
the sisters from the Sudanese community, they said that their English is not the best. So they
didn't really my father was going to be there. So they asked to the lecture that I was going to give
a small reminder that it'd be in Arabic. And I remember when I sat down to give the lesson, the
lecture, it was after I said about 10 minute reminder, actually, there was some young youth who were
		

			there who didn't understand Arabic and my father, my stepmother, I was doing understand Arabic, but
they say, okay, we can we put it English? And I said, No, our commitment to the sisters, is that
we're going to make an Arabic I said, we can, you know, give a small translation to my father to
explain to him what what was being said, but we gave a commitment to our sisters is going to be an
Arabic, so my talk is going to be an Arabic. But what has such a huge impact on me from this story,
was the fact that when the people talk to him after my lecture, and my heard my father speaking to
them that mean to me directly, but he told them, he said, I can see that he's doing good. And he
		

			said, I'm very proud of him. And obviously, because, you know, perhaps I took the path in life that
he didn't want for me, he designed something for me at his company, and no thought I would come and
I would run that company after him. Maybe one other things for me in life, but I chose a different
path in life. And hearing him say, they know he was happy for me. And he said, I'm very proud of
him. And that will lay it was just an amazing feeling. hamdulillah then you know, all of the
sacrifice, I made 13 years, you know, seeking knowledge and being away from my family. And then you
know, to hear my father You know, when he came and he sat with me and saw me after all these years
		

			to see it that he was he was happy for me. And he was proud, proud of me well and had an amazing
impact on me. We ask Allah to bless my father and to bless all of you and all of your parents. And
Allah knows best Allah Allah Allah salAllahu Salam wa barakaatuh Muhammad, what does that little
Hayden said?