Abdullah Oduro – How To Overcome Your Biggest Loss Iman Cave

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			so give me an example of if you
		

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			don't mind and we can cut this your
		

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			first loss what mistake did you make bro
		

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			my first loss was possibly like one of
		

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			my biggest lessons you know I was I
		

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			was young I was on a four fight
		

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			winning streak this is like when I started
		

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			MMA everything was happening very quick and I
		

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			fought someone that I really was like maybe
		

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			three times better than him so everyone I
		

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			fought until that fight was considered better than
		

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			me and I don't know if I got
		

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			a little bit cocky or I just got
		

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			I was like in such a hurry to
		

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			beat him that I just like dug a
		

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			hole and trapped myself in it and I
		

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			lost that fight and it was very depressing
		

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			it was so depressing like I never even
		

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			thought or knew that you know I could
		

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			recover from it like alhamdulillah alhamdulillah I'd never
		

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			ever was even close to even thinking suicidal
		

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			thoughts like yeah that wasn't even something that
		

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			ever crossed my mind right but at some
		

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			point I was like people that commit suicide
		

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			because of depression I can't understand why they
		

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			would do like it wasn't ever crossing my
		

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			mind but I was like I kind of
		

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			get where they're coming from because I just
		

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			felt I was I got really famous really
		

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			quick and that fight everyone watched it like
		

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			I'd go to the masjid people would talk
		

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			about it I go to school people would
		

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			talk about it everywhere I went people would
		

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			talk about it and ask me questions people
		

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			thought I even sold the fight off and
		

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			got paid because of how much they didn't
		

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			expect me to lose that fight and it's
		

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			beautiful how you said I understand what people
		

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			that commits I understand where what what world
		

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			they were in I see it but I
		

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			choose not to go so did you have
		

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			people around you that were like in your
		

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			corner literally and metaphorically so so that's what
		

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			helped me really bounce back because my dad
		

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			was always in my corner he was with
		

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			me in the fight and training camp at
		

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			the fights and then I was just I
		

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			was feeling so upset and alhamdulillah my dad's
		

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			also an imam so he's an imam and
		

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			he's also an MMA trainer so you know
		

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			I would sometimes I just tell him like
		

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			well dad you know why like what why
		

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			you know why did I lose like I
		

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			did everything I trained so and I'm a
		

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			better Muslim than that guy I'm a better
		

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			fighter like you know I said everything I
		

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			look so why did Allah choose me to
		

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			lose like why why me not why didn't
		

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			he lose you know and then my dad
		

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			started telling me like okay calm down don't
		

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			say anything that you know this is a
		

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			little dangerous now you're now you're on the
		

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			lines of of like you know it's saying
		

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			things that are so he humbled me real
		

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			quick got me to calm down then he
		

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			said you're a fighter right you fight you
		

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			fight that doesn't mean you're winning every every
		

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			second of every day it means you fight
		

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			so whether you you have an opponent and
		

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			you beat him you won the fight if
		

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			you lost then you have to fight back
		

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			and if it's not that same opponent you
		

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			fight back within yourself like Satan on and
		

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			the loss itself and and now you're being
		

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			tested and that's really it you know he
		

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			always told me like even when I won
		

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			big fights you know we'd celebrate we'd be
		

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			so happy he's like by the way this
		

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			could still be a test like it's still
		

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			part of that test you know how when
		

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			you lost you were tested this win could
		

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			also be a test so use it use
		

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			it to the for the good and alhamdulillah
		

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			I you know I still have my mom
		

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			I still have my dad they're always here
		

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			to like just humble me they keep me
		

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			in check no matter what but that that
		

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			lesson that my dad father gave me was
		

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			to always fight back no matter what like
		

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			I mean you could be in rock bottom
		

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			just fight back rise up and always try
		

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			to find a way tougher things that you
		

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			go through in life and then you're like
		

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			complaining isn't gonna do anything let me just
		

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			fight back and that's where I start to
		

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			think what are the steps that I'm gonna
		

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			do to fight back