Abdullah Oduro – How To Overcome Your Biggest Loss Iman Cave

so give me an example of if you

don't mind and we can cut this your

first loss what mistake did you make bro

my first loss was possibly like one of

my biggest lessons you know I was I

was young I was on a four fight

winning streak this is like when I started

MMA everything was happening very quick and I

fought someone that I really was like maybe

three times better than him so everyone I

fought until that fight was considered better than

me and I don't know if I got

a little bit cocky or I just got

I was like in such a hurry to

beat him that I just like dug a

hole and trapped myself in it and I

lost that fight and it was very depressing

it was so depressing like I never even

thought or knew that you know I could

recover from it like alhamdulillah alhamdulillah I'd never

ever was even close to even thinking suicidal

thoughts like yeah that wasn't even something that

ever crossed my mind right but at some

point I was like people that commit suicide

because of depression I can't understand why they

would do like it wasn't ever crossing my

mind but I was like I kind of

get where they're coming from because I just

felt I was I got really famous really

quick and that fight everyone watched it like

I'd go to the masjid people would talk

about it I go to school people would

talk about it everywhere I went people would

talk about it and ask me questions people

thought I even sold the fight off and

got paid because of how much they didn't

expect me to lose that fight and it's

beautiful how you said I understand what people

that commits I understand where what what world

they were in I see it but I

choose not to go so did you have

people around you that were like in your

corner literally and metaphorically so so that's what

helped me really bounce back because my dad

was always in my corner he was with

me in the fight and training camp at

the fights and then I was just I

was feeling so upset and alhamdulillah my dad's

also an imam so he's an imam and

he's also an MMA trainer so you know

I would sometimes I just tell him like

well dad you know why like what why

you know why did I lose like I

did everything I trained so and I'm a

better Muslim than that guy I'm a better

fighter like you know I said everything I

look so why did Allah choose me to

lose like why why me not why didn't

he lose you know and then my dad

started telling me like okay calm down don't

say anything that you know this is a

little dangerous now you're now you're on the

lines of of like you know it's saying

things that are so he humbled me real

quick got me to calm down then he

said you're a fighter right you fight you

fight that doesn't mean you're winning every every

second of every day it means you fight

so whether you you have an opponent and

you beat him you won the fight if

you lost then you have to fight back

and if it's not that same opponent you

fight back within yourself like Satan on and

the loss itself and and now you're being

tested and that's really it you know he

always told me like even when I won

big fights you know we'd celebrate we'd be

so happy he's like by the way this

could still be a test like it's still

part of that test you know how when

you lost you were tested this win could

also be a test so use it use

it to the for the good and alhamdulillah

I you know I still have my mom

I still have my dad they're always here

to like just humble me they keep me

in check no matter what but that that

lesson that my dad father gave me was

to always fight back no matter what like

I mean you could be in rock bottom

just fight back rise up and always try

to find a way tougher things that you

go through in life and then you're like

complaining isn't gonna do anything let me just

fight back and that's where I start to

think what are the steps that I'm gonna

do to fight back