Abdullah Oduro – Hadith #4 Trust and Safety, The True Mark of a Muslim’s Character

			Abu Huraira Allahu Anhu reported that the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, peace and
blessings be upon him said, Allah Most of the movement Solomon Natsu melissani Here, he will be no
man. I mean who a nurse who, Allah demand him what I'm wearing him. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said in an authentic hadith and Sunnah and in necessity, the Muslim is the one from whose
tongue and hand the people are safe. And the believer is the one people trust with their lives and
wealth.
		

			Three points from this beautiful, beautiful Hadith. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is
setting the standard. And when he says Ellen, muesli mu well Minoo
		

			it is as though he is telling you this is what the Muslim is. Right? This is what the movement is,
these are the types of things that they do. This is how they are viewed. This is how they're looked
at, for you as a man, and exemplifying your masculinity. And not being a masking the masculine is
where you are a person that people feel safe from, particularly when he said from the tongue.
Setting the standard, from your standards, for instance, is that I don't curse. I don't use vulgar
language to bring home a point. For example, when people are around me, they hear eloquence or when
people around me they hear wisdom, or when people around me, they hear motivation. But it doesn't
		

			have to be with vulgar language and vulgar language, is the language that is used in a locality that
is known to be vulgar. Or it's spoken by people that are known for fist fist being disobedience. So
when we hear rappers or we hear singers, whether it's pot, whatever kind of music or genre,
particularly in entertainment, whether it's a sports figure, that outside of playing, he's using
this vulgar language when he's at a pre fight, you know, interview, you know, before the fight or
before the game, or after the game is a sore loser, and he uses vulgar language. You know, that is
not the characteristic of a Muslim. Because that vulgar language people are not free from it. You
		

			know, they're not free from mon selama nasem. In the Sani, they are not free and safe from your
tongue when you come around, round. Oh, he's gonna get a tongue lashing from you because you're
going to curse, curse, and sound immoral, vulgar, violent, no, the man doesn't do that the man is
cool, calm, collect. And he knows how to sound educated even to get his point across, or even to a
debate someone or to let them know that they're wrong in a classy, masculine, self controlled, self
restraint. way, this is important, and also said from his hand that you don't go around and use
violence against people. That's your standard, the importance of promoting safety in relationships.
		

			That's the second point, the importance of promoting safety in relationships. You know, the
dangerous man is the one that they know physically can harm them. But he has self restraint. People
feel the safest around the security guard, the guard at the building, right in standing in front of
the building with some artillery with a handgun or whatever weapon or he himself is a weapon.
Because he's trained people feel safe around that person. They feel safe. So imagine when you get
married, your wife, your wife, your future wife, they know that you are able to use your body in a
way that can kill somebody that you know how to defend yourself and your honor and your family
		

			because you have studied a skill, Jujitsu, Ninjitsu, taekwondo, Aikido, judo, Sambo, whatever it
came from MMA, you know, mixed martial arts, whatever boxing mix, kickboxing, whatever it may be, it
is a skill that is of self defense, defense to defend yourself. People feel safe around you, and you
walk in as an honorable, dare I say even feared men.
		

			The third point is how safety is conditional for confidence. So you promoting safety is not
offending or being offensive with two people with your tongue, or with your limbs. You don't curse
at them, nor do you go around and push or grab people for no apparent reason and offense, because if
they haven't offended anyone else, or violated someone else, violate the innocent in that case, it's
a different case. Here the safety is conditional for confidence because when people feel safe around
you, they have confidence in you. They will listen to you when you are a husband, or or a father, as
a husband, your wife, it doesn't even cross her mind. Would my husband be physically abusive to me?
		

			It doesn't cross her mind. Would he curse at me and say something vulgar and hurt my feelings? Maybe
once or twice you may say but you are man enough and humble enough to apologize to apologize. It's
not something that is consistent. Right?
		

			So when the Prophet sal Allahu Allah wa Salam is saying the tongue, that safety, from your hand,
from your limbs, with the family with your children, you're not verbally abusive to them, telling
them that they're nothing or cursing at them, because what's going to happen? They're going to curse
as well. Some of you are watching this right now. And you they say you curse like a sailor, you
curse. And you're not even angry. When you're on the computer. Some you use a curse word, every
other five words. If the if it's not, doesn't download quick enough, you start cursing, and you got
that from your father, because you grew up like you grew up around that that is not an ultimate sign
		

			of masculinity, where you can't even express yourself. The masculine man is a competent man. He's a
competent man. And he values learning and education. Not doesn't have to be book knowledge, but he
values learning more, because that will make him more powerful. Make him more powerful in this life.
In men, men desire, power, confident men, desire power. And when you're confident with yourself, you
trust yourself, hence people will trust you. And that's an ultimate question you need to ask
yourself, do you trust yourself? Do you trust yourself? And if not, what are you doing about it?
Because when people don't feel safe around you, that is not a good sign, particularly if it's your
		

			family members. May Allah subhanaw taala bless us all, to be people of honor, respect, and people
that promote safety to where people feel safe around us. Trust us because it's important for people
to be confident in us. Asmin Burkle off he was Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh