Abdullah Oduro – Hadith #19 The Virtue of Reconciliation, Strengthening Bonds

			Buddha dat reported really Allahu Anhu that the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
a little bit of can be off Solomon Daraja to see me wa Salatu was sadati Shall I not tell you what
is better in degree than fasting Prayer and Charity? They said, Oh of course, O Messenger of Allah,
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Salah who attended benei for in the facade of that
Sylvania II and Halle, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, reconciliation between two
people, or reconciliation between people. Very corrupted relations between people is the razor man
this is important for young men. Those of you that are very convinced hadith is sunnah on sunnah
		

			Timothy and it's Hasson Inshallah, tada.
		

			This hadith is very important
		

			for competitive people,
		

			for people that Subhanallah even have a level of low self esteem, or you feel inadequate, and I
guarantee you as a man, you definitely feel one of those three, at a time in your life, right. The
first one is the fact of you, not you being competitive.
		

			It's natural to be competitive and to want to win as a young man, as a man in business, and
entrepreneurship. In a job that you're in, you want to be the best at it, or the job that you're in
someone that you see is at your level, you always may look at that person say, Okay, I think I could
do better than him. He's at my caliber, I'll use him as a marker to see my progress. This is good.
As long as you don't allow that to be a form of jealousy to where you don't hope for him to win as
well. Right? That's where competition is good. You see somebody that's at your level, quote,
unquote, your age, your strength, or your academic level, or your entrepreneurial level, right
		

			financial level, and you say, You know what, I'm going to use him as a marker to see how good I'm
doing. Right. But it doesn't mean that you hope for him, you don't hope for him to win, you want for
him to win, because he's a hard worker, or he's not a hard worker, and you give him advice for him
to win, right? For him to be the best version of himself. That's a very important characteristic for
a man because a man has what they call an abundance mindset. They always want hair for people, they
always want good for people. People will trust you as a leader, especially as a family member, as a
neighbor as a team member. If they see that you always want good for them. When they come around you
		

			they see strength, they see honor, they see integrity, and they see someone that really wants good
for them. They see someone that cares for them that asks about them. That is what will bring unity.
And that's the first point. Unity is a sign of strength. The man recognizes the young man recognizes
if we're on a basketball team together football team, if we're a staff, if I have people working for
me,
		

			you know, even if you're a young guy, and you starting a business, and you know recording basketball
games, football games are going to take pictures of certain events, or you're going to start a
company and selling clothes, a company and selling shoes, you're going to need some help, you're
gonna need a right hand, man, you're gonna have to be that person that encourages them, because you
had the internal motivation and hamdulillah to do something. But your friend had the same idea. He
had the same idea. But he doesn't have enough strength, doesn't have enough self esteem doesn't have
enough work ethic, meaning that he works hard. He doesn't have that. So you take him under your
		

			wing, and you teach him, you don't teach him the skill, because he's probably better than you. But
you have the work ethic. So you think to yourself, Man, if I could join my work ethic with his
expertise, I don't have to do that particular thing that we've competed in, rather, let's join
together and join forces and split the money in half.
		

			Right, you'll be much more efficient, and you'll be much stronger. Unity is better than strength. So
the one that sees stay with me, the one that sees two people that have qualities that are similar to
each other.
		

			And they argue or they don't get along, they've grown up and they've been so competitive, that they
dislike each other. You can be that third person, that person that says you know what, bro, y'all
need to get together. The process. Some said that you can even lie to bring people together. The one
that has the intention to bring two brothers, especially Muslim, to bring two brothers together for
the sake of Allah, and you want them to come together to win together for the sake of Allah. That is
what is so beautiful. That is better than these things that he's saying that is better than fasting.
And CME. That is better than CME is Salatu was a sadaqa. It's even better than that. He said we
		

			offered him in that again. So the first thing is
		

			the man loves for brothers to be together.
		

			You'd love for brothers to be together. The second point is the importance of one men wanting men to
stick together, right? Having that desire does
		

			desire for brothers to stick together. After the game you go out, but in your mind, you go out for
the sake of Allah, you know this team, I want to keep it together, man, you know, I will look if all
of us Muslims came together, or majority of us are Muslim on this team, or on this in this club, and
there's some non Muslims there, let them see how Islam is man, let them see that Islam is very
transcendent, that we're trying to be men here. We're trying to get jobs. We're on a social media
group, we're, you know, we're on a WhatsApp group. And we're always asking, how'd you come up today?
Right? You're always trying to pull people up, you're always trying to win, you know, and you
		

			realize that winning is for the sake of Allah. And it's because of Allah. He's your motivation and
your destination. You want to bring people with you on this endeavor that you're that you're on, you
want people to see what you're seeing, this is important. And this is a sign of a strong man,
because he wants the unity between brothers, because he knows we can lift each other up immediately.
Or ultimately,
		

			the third point is understanding the negative connotations of competition. As we talked before,
competition is natural. But it is a natural characteristic that Allah has given us. But what our
responsibility is, is to steer it and guide it in a way that becomes a badass and steer it and guide
it in a way to where it becomes worship. Because there are many qualities that Allah has given us
naturally within our fitrah that we talked about, but how do you align and refine it by following
the shittier by following the deen of Allah Islam, when you use those qualities to follow the deen
of Allah Islam, this is what is important. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, First stebic will have a
		

			lot to compete in that which is good to compete and that which is good. If you're competing against
your brother before you start saying I want to grow I'm already catching shot, I may Allah make it
easy on you meant, but you come in and second, right? You use that use those words of competition.
		

			you ultimately want to win, but you want to push him because pushing him will push you. You
understand. That's the competitive nature that you want. You want to win, you want him to lose, but
you want to make sure he gives it 110% which will push you to give 120 That's why when I go to the
gym, I usually go alone because I got to be around people that's going to push me because I know
when I pushed myself, I'll reach different realms and avenues of myself that I never knew were
there. And Wallahi brothers, there's nothing like that discovery. Because you realize the
manifestation of the name of Holic, the creator
		

			of the name itself, the provider. That meant I had this semi meant Allah has given me so many
faculties I didn't even realize existed. So brothers, remember this beautiful Hadith because the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that this the one that doesn't bring people together, the
facade that's in vain is Halaqaat it's a razor it will cut people is dangerous, is detrimental.
Let's be those individuals that bring healing by bringing brothers together and that which is good,
by calling to that which is good, by bringing them together for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala
because if not, if we don't, if we let that fit into linger between our brothers, it is Hannukah it
		

			can cause separation, not only of the bodies of the minds, but of the hearts. May Allah subhanaw
taala make us upright men of honor, justice and integrity said I want everyone to Allah human cancer