Abdullah Oduro – Hadith #18 Exemplary Conduct, Reflections of Goodness at Home, it’s Sunnah

			and authentic hadith and it Timothy where I Aisha said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
said, hi to come hydrocone Ali, well, no hydrocone Arlene, the best of you are those who are best at
their families and I am the best to my family. This hadith many of us know this hadith and it is a
pillar in regards to masculinity how the first one is that you will be tested. And that's the time
for the best part of you to come out. I when we talk about sports, the reason I hone in on sports
and say you learn your reality through physicality is because when you're facing a stressful
situation, you hurt yourself. Do you remember the name of Allah? subhanaw taala? Do you remember
		

			that at that moment, that it will get better at that moment? That it's a test from Allah at that
moment, the person that may have injured you, it may have been unintentional? Do you get up and want
to start a fight with him? After the game is over? Do you get up and blame him and speak badly about
him? Do you want to bring some beef or some problems to him later? Is that really what a man is? Or
does a man contain himself? Well, what about the one that's in your household, your wife, your wife,
the one that knows how to quote unquote, push your buttons, and that can test you at times that hunt
Allah, no one can test you in that way. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa Salam is
		

			saying hydrocodone, hydrocodone really early. Because the best of you are the ones that are the best
version of yourselves, that hold yourself and self restraint. Patients honor dignity, at times of
hardship at times of anger. Remember, we mentioned that anger is not a bad characteristic
inherently. It's how you direct it and channel it and use it. You don't direct your anger to be
physical with someone that is naturally weaker than you, someone that is weaker than you and you
take advantage of them and abuse them. That is the the time when you test yourself. The what your
wife may have done something that was wrong. Your younger sister, as an older brother may have done
		

			something that was wrong, your older sister who may be weaker than you, young men may have done
something that was wrong, she may have violated you. Some may have done something that was
disrespectful. But how do you treat her? How do you respond to her? How do you respond? This is
important, because this is where you have to dig deep inside of yourself and ask what's the benefit
of me doing so I want to prove my point. But let me do it in a conducive fashion to where it doesn't
leave any scar or trauma on people. That's the first point. The second point is people. You want to
treat people how you will be treated. So the best of you are those who are best at their families.
		

			Treat your wives how you would want your mother to be treated. How do you want your younger sister
to be treated? When you think about your sister's husband, your mother's husband, your dad? How did
he treat her? You know certain things that he may have been doing that are not right, do you want to
repeat the process because that is not the one that was best to his family therefore, not being the
best amongst men. And the last point is with the province is the importance of fulfilling our
purpose of life in following the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam following the
Sunnah,
		

			following the methodology of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is the epitome of masculinity.
It's the epitome of manhood. It's the epitome of how one should be a husband, a father, a leader, a
neighbor, a community member, right? This is important for us to remember the examples that we
should look at for masculinity ultimately should be those that follow the Sunnah of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Yes, there are cultural nuances from our culture that we may understand
as a man. But our first concern should be does it violate the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam May Allah subhanaw taala make us of those that are the best versions of the best
		

			amongst us, being the best to our families and taking that into importance, not violating anyone for
the sake of the strength that we have as masculinity. Because we have these characteristics. Medical
off eco was Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.