Abdulbary Yahya – How Can We Break Bad Habits
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What can we do to break these bad habits? Well, like I mentioned, it is consistency. But also to always check ourselves every single day has come full circle public and to have Sabu hold yourself accountable before you're held accountable.
Meaning check yourselves before you're checked before the Day of Judgment for the for death comes in every single day. You know how outside in this society people make new year's resolutions. We make
new day resolutions every day, it's not the New Year, because you never know how when when your final moments in this dunya are going to be and so we have to of course we're not perfect.
And the people of Jen are not perfect Allah does not say that the people of Jenna don't commit sins. No. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, By the nose of la mina shaytani r Rajim was Mario Eelam ferati. Rob Beco majan, Otto has malware to
override that limit
and compete and hurry
towards the forgiveness of Allah and a paradise of which the width is the width of the heavens and the earth, prepared for the mud.
Now who are the matakohe larina Fiona says sobre la, though those who spend in times of ease and in times of hardship. Now who are the people who spend in times of ease and hardship? They're the ones who are consistent in doing good deeds. No matter what the situation is. They're always generous. They're always consistent in doing good deeds.
lenient bonuses for rah, rah rah well, Calvary mean and values, and those who hold back their anger meaning These are people of strong determination, and people of strength in and and mentally they're strong. And they can hold back because the person who is strong as the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, isn't the one who is able to out wrestle another? It's the one who's able to hold back when he's angry. Well, Calvin, you mean All right, well, I have seen and in NASS and those who are forgiving, who forgive others will law who have been sinning and though surely Allah loves those who do good, mean they're consistent in doing good deeds. And they're also forgiving meaning
they are a people who have good relations with other people. And they are forgiving. And that's, that's why Allah forgives them also, for those who are forgiving to other laws also forgiving towards them. And so, but sometimes you might say, How can I forgive someone when they have said this, and then this to me?
And sometimes it is difficult when you go to sleep and sometimes you lose sleep over things that people say and do you
sometimes say to us or do to us? We lose sleep and we don't sometimes sometimes we don't want to forgive them and deep down inside. Whoo, I'll see you on the Day of Judgment.
Right? You might say Yo tm insha Allah. But it's, you know, it's always better to forgive.
But sometimes it's difficult than how can you forgive? Well, I'm going to give you a
tool or something that we can do a mindset that we can have.
Whenever you have a graduate youth, someone has done something to you. And you feel it you find it difficult to forgive them. I want you to think about this.
I want you to say to yourself, if I forgive such and such a person,
I will have gender
because the people who forgive
are the people of paradise.
Is Jana worth it or do I want to keep this in my heart
and lose sleep over it?
Do you want Jana is genuinely not worth it.
Hopefully inshallah Jelena is worth it, no matter what has happened to you.
To learn to forgive, learn to make dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we will make mistakes and the law says well
leadin a loofa he shed an old oil ambu fusa home dhakaram law, those who when they commit a lewd act or they commit a transgression
or oppress themselves are wrong themselves mean by committing sins and robbed by wrong in themselves? They remember Allah. The first thing is to remember Allah, and then festival Fotolia oh no be him and they asked for here. It means quickly, they quickly immediately asked forgiveness for their sins. Will my young funeral no but a lie and who is there that can forgive sins except Allah? And then the key here while I'm
home? Yeah.
And they are not persistent in what they do, or they have done knowingly. That's the key. So what does that mean?
It means that a believer, a believer can make a mistake.
But a believer never falls net is never bitten from the same snake hole twice.
You can make a mistake, but we are not bitten from the same snake hole twice the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, layer that will mean to her in WA hidden maritime. unbelievers never bitten from the same snake hole twice. So let's say for example,
you sleep
and you overslept.
And you maybe were late for 5g, you said stop for law stuff. So you go to sleep the next day. It shouldn't happen again.
The next day, you should take precautionary measures. You should set the alarm, whether it be an alarm clock that you have, or your phone to set that alarm, and let's say okay, that does not work. And it happens again, we'll do something else. Do not take it lightly. And do not let the exact same thing happened to you again.
Make sure and it might happen again. But don't let the same reason be the cause at least.
And that's why what do they say what's in what's the definition of insanity.
insanity
is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different results
like change, do something else. If you fall in you fall in because of this is causing you to committed sin, then you have to
take the proper steps or at least I plan to take the steps to correct it.
It's you know you might have make a mistake, but at least learn from your mistake. And think about the causes.
And sometimes, you know, one of the reasons might be because you are in your with bad company. And so sometimes you have to let go of those who pull you away from Allah.
And sometimes you have to make drastic changes. For you know, for for some of us maybe it's just just like a Butterfly, butterfly
sometimes takes, you know, starts with a cocoon. And you think that's the end of its life. It goes into it. So what do they call it worm, not worm, but
Caterpillar, Caterpillar, and it goes into the cocoon and you think that's the end of its life, but then it breaks out of it. And it flies. But then at the same time also there's a struggle there. If you want to kill a butterfly, then help it get out of its cocoon.
So if you
were to see the struggle, and you open up the cocoon so that the butterfly can come up faster from the cocoon, you have just killed the butterfly because it will not be strong enough to fly.
Because that struggle that it's it's that it has to take to break out of the corner strengthen in its weakness.
And so sometimes Allah subhanho wa Taala will test us with some trials and tribulations and know that Allah subhanho wa Taala when he tests us with something, we should never lose hope nor give up well at a assumere rohilla never lose
hoping the comforting Mercy of Allah and know who they are Samia rohilla ilco McAfee rune, no one loses hope in the comforting Mercy of Allah except for disbelievers. Now why is it that one who loses hope in the comforting Mercy of Allah is a disbeliever? Why is that the case? Because one who loses hope it's as if he's saying, Yeah, Allah, you don't know what I'm going through, and I can't handle what I'm going through. Wasn't Billa How can you say such things, but to lose hope? That's exactly what that's what you're saying. But you have to understand, Allah knows what we're going through. Allah knows what we're going through. And he knows that we can handle it, because he would,
he will never burden us with anything we can't handle.
He will never burden us with anything we can't handle.
And sometimes he wants us to be stronger. And he gives us no option except to be stronger so that we can be stronger.
And so how can we be stronger? It's all about consistency.
And when you abandon a bad deed, to follow it up with a good deed, and listen to this hadith here, it's a beautiful Heidi, to help us abandon that deeds and to make that to be strong and determination is the hadith of Abu Azhar that Allah VFR
in which he said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I said
it's a very short Hadith,
but so much benefit can be extracted from it.
He said it duck Allah hi you
have the
fear of law and have Taqwa and allow wherever you may be.
To be a little hesitant to tempo,
and follow
a bad deed with a good deed. And they will erase it erase the baddie. Will Holly did NASA be who Lucan Hasson
and deal with the people with the best of manners?
Very short. But let me explain to you why it's so powerful. It tequila hifumi.
have Taqwa wherever you are.
No matter where you are.
have Taqwa and be conscious of Allah at all times. That's between you and Allah.
And you're going to make mistakes. But if we make mistakes, what did the Prophet sallallahu wasallam say, and follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will wipe it out. This here is a key to abandoning bad habits. Because if you abandon a bad habit, you leave a vacuum.
You have to fill that vacuum with a good deed. Otherwise, the bad habit will come back.
That's why you follow it up with a good deed.
If you've repented from
listening to music, or watching Haram, maybe videos or you're addicted to certain types of movies, Hollywood and Bollywood and the likes, you may say You know what?
staff in LA, I'm going to leave it. But if you're going to leave it, first and foremost, the repentance has to be sincere because there are some people who they say they've repented. And then they put away the movies and the CDs and the DVDs in a box and they put it up in the attic and set a stall federal law.
But why did they put it in the shoe box?
because deep down inside in the back of their minds.
When if
I change, I go back in those videos were very expensive. I spent a lot of money on it. You know, if something happens, let's go. And so it says if they have repented, but they have kept the bad habit within an arm's reach.
That's not sincere repentance. sincere repentance has to be accompanied by the conviction that you will not never ever return to it again. And you what you should do is just destroy it and get rid of it so that you don't even have the opportunity to go back to it and that sincerity, and then what are you going to do? Well what the time that you used to spend
doing those bad
What is what should you do? You should spend it in doing something else. Don't just say okay, that's free time for me Alhamdulillah that's free time for me no fill that time with good deeds. But the recitation of the Quran watching beneficial videos of lectures are you like to watch videos? Yes, there are videos that are very beneficial instead of those movies. Now, instead of listening to music, change it put on put in if you have to a nice sheet that are permissible.
And then if you have to, it's okay. But as long as you don't go back to that which is prohibited, but fill it up, otherwise, that vacuum will be filled again with with the bad deed. And so
I know I won't take more of your time, but just give me a few more minutes. I'm just going to give you a couple of other examples.
And we will end in Charlotte because I don't want the reputation that I have in Seattle to follow me to Bradford. You know what they say in Seattle, they say never give a woman a telephone or standard bilberry a microphone. I don't know what that means. But
I hear people saying it.
But I don't know what that really means. But anyways, I don't want that reputation to follow me here. So bear with me for just a few more minutes and ChildLine. We will end it
now to make that change.
To make the conviction to make that change, don't just change for the better.
But change for the best.
If you're going to change,
why not change for the best? Because better
is the enemy of best.
You have to give it your all.
There was a person
he was known for his piety and righteousness.
A great scholar.
Not only was he known for his piety and righteousness, but his nickname was IV hot romaine.
Do you know that means worshiper, the worshiper of Mecca and Medina, the worshiper of Mecca
Javi, Al haramain,
the worshipper of the two holiest cities.
That was his nickname, because of his piety and righteousness.
He was very cautious, even in his words.
One day, he said, I know someone
I know someone
who's so careful with his words,
that at the end of the week,
he knows how many words that he spoke in that week.
Because nothing comes out of his mouth.
Except he holds this up. He holds himself accountable for
because on the Day of Judgment,
every word that we say
we will be accountable for.
Save, it's not going to be beneficial. He's not going to say it.
Forget about haraam. We're talking about MOBA permissible, permissible speech here, permissible yet if it's not beneficial, that's what the prophets have said. We're gonna you know, be late for your call higher and earliest, whosoever believes in Allah.
In the day, you may be liable Yamanaka, whoever believes in the law and believes in
alone, and then the last day and the Day of Judgment, they let him say that which is good, or let him be quiet. So he was okay. He said, I know someone
that counts his words. That's how that's the kind of person this person is. And so you're not that happy. He said.
He said, his name, of course, is alpha 11. I hope he says
when he mentioned that, he said, I know someone.
It's no longer it's none other than himself. But he didn't want to brag.
He did not want to say oh, I you know me, I have no course since I know someone and remember that he says no other than himself.
That's the type of person that he was. I mean,
but you know, he wasn't like that before.
There was a time in his youth
that he was feared.
He was feared because he was so ruthless.
He was
Fear
because he was the robber of Mecca and Medina.
He was the thief. He was a thief, not any type of thief.
He was a type of person
that mothers used to scare their children with before they would go to sleep if the children didn't go to sleep, and they would mention his name like you know, nowadays you have some parents they say, if you don't go to sleep the Boogey Man is coming to get you he was that Boogey Man
mentioning his name, sent shivers down people's spines,
because he was so ruthless, but not only ruthless, he used to do this between to the people of Mecca and Medina.
One day,
he said I was on the roof,
about to jump into a house
and was
about to jump into a house.
And I heard an old man
and I saw him standing up in prayer at nighttime. You know, these guys, they go around nighttime, of course.
I saw him standing in prayer, nighttime crying profusely
reciting the Quran in his prayers.
And I said to myself, why is this man crying so profusely?
And so he sits and listens to his recitation. And he comes across a verse, in which Allah subhanho wa Taala says, lm ye nealon levena, Amano. Daksha boo boo.
Is it not time?
is enough time for the believers to have their hearts tremble not in the in the remembrance of Allah. Like is it not mean at all? Is it not time for the believers to repent to Allah to be affected by the remembrance of Allah? Isn't it time to change? Is it not time?
And we'll leave niab when he heard this first and this man reciting with such emotions.
He also broke down.
And he cried.
And he said to himself, overnight,
I think it is time.
I think it is time.
He jumped from the house. And he's walking and walking in the desert.
Thinking about his life, and what he has done what he had done.
Thinking about that verse, asking him isn't that time, he says it is time or for the longest time. So he comes across,
he comes to an area where he finds a tent.
And there was a fire there.
He goes to them. And he sits outside the tent.
And he can see the light from inside. And he could hear two people inside that tent speaking to one another. One of them says, you know, we should really get going. We need to keep on moving.
We can't stop here that love.
The other one says,
Do you know where we are?
We
are in an area inhabited by the ruthless fully.
I'm not going on nighttime.
In this area.
When I know he's out there,
alpha lane, he hears his voice or he hears this voice trembling.
And he says
the people should not be trembling because they hear my name.
They shut
their hearts should be trembling.
When they hear a last name.
When they remember a lie, isn't it time of the day that your hearts tremble and the remembrance of Allah
it is time.
So he goes
repents to Allah takes a shower that night, goes to the masjid and he's praying and he's crying and crying
until fudger.
From that day on.
And you know this story, one of the reasons why he mentioned this story, because one of his students said,
Oh,
when I was younger,
I used to hear your name.
My mother used to mention things about
how did you change to be such a person that you are now
And so he tells them this story.
So from that day on, he studied with the scholars of Mecca and Medina.
And he didn't just become
a regular Muslim.
He didn't just say, let me be better.
He was aiming to be the best.
The best person that he could
to the point where he became
not just a just alpha although he loved but
I beat a lot haramain
worshipper of Mecca, and Medina
so all of us
we
are given a new chance
every day
to be better.
But don't just be better.
Be the best that you can be.
Be the best Muslim.
Be the best
in everything that you do.
And the law says continue higher omit and reject leanness, you are the best of nations brought forth for the people. That Muna Bhima roofie. Wet and how Nandan Mancha, were taught me know Neville,
you forbid that which is evil, and you order that which is good, and you believe in Allah.
And right now, it's even more important for us, not just to be better, but to be the best.
Because of all this, all the other problems that we have around this, people are speaking badly about Islam, the media is bashing Islam left and right.
But what can we do as individuals, we always blame the times that we're living in.
There's nothing wrong with the times that we're living in.
The only thing that's wrong with the times that we're living in is us.
We have to be the best neighbors.
We have to be the most honest people,
we have to be the most helpful of people.
We can't be ordinary, we have to be extraordinary. People look at us as being different. We just can't be just we can't just be different. We have to make a difference.
We have to be the best neighbors, the best coworkers, the most honest of people and the most helpful of people. And if we are like that, it will not matter what BBC ABC, NBC, especially Fox,
they can say anything that they want.
Because you know, as they say your actions speak so loud. I can't even hear what you're saying.
We can drown out all those voices in the media
by showing people what true Islam really is.
And if we are the best our neighbors will know.
And they will say
you guys at Fox, and BBC.
CBC, whatever it is, you guys in the media, you're lying.
I know Muslim.
I have a neighbor who's a Muslim
is the best neighbor I have ever had.
That's Islam.
I have a co worker.
He's the most honest worker in that in the company.
Never checks his personal email.
very honest, whether we're looking at him or not. I know he's working.
So trustworthy.
And if we're like that,
the media can yell and scream or they want
your coworker your classmates will say, I know Muslim.
That's what true Islam is.
I know those guys in the news that they're saying those are Muslims are terrorists, and they're doing this and that No, no. They don't represent Islam. My neighbor is the one who represents Islam.
My neighbor
is the most helpful person in the whole neighborhood.
I see him walking in the streets, picking up rubbish
from other people in front of other people's houses. Isn't that what Islam teaches us?
And then the neighbor will come to you and say Why are you like this? And you can tell him
Because this is what Islam teaches me. Do you want to know more about Islam and they will sit and listen to you
and inshallah they accept Islam because they'll see how extraordinary you are.
And the least of which is they will not be affected by the media. But everyone here is responsible.
We as individuals are responsible. If you live in in this country, you are responsible, we are responsible.
We represent Islam and the Muslims. We are at the forefront of the Muslim oma, there is no better place for us to live in here.
Because we have an opportunity to show people what Islam really is
every day.
But unfortunately,
sometimes that's not reality.
The Muslims are known for being fraudulent,
lying. Muslim neighborhoods are
the dirtiest neighborhood sometimes
we're known for all types of crimes, drugs, all kinds of things.
But there is hope and we can change
but everyone can make a difference.
And it starts with us because Allah says in Allah Allah you may be our love will not change what's in the people had to you maybe unfussy him until they change what's in themselves
New Year
I know we don't celebrate the new years but I'm just saying a new day
let's have a new you
and not just a better you
but the best that you can be
so when we're sitting at home
and it's time to pray
and the football game is going into extra extra time they call it
ask yourself where would the best Muslim in Bradford be right now?
Where would he be?
I think he would be in a lesson
let me be the best Muslim
that may be that best Muslim
it's time to change
and be right now.
Not after you get married not after you make hij not after he you finished your mortgage not after you retire. But right now before we leave the store
the be the best Muslim
in Bradford
Why can't we do that?
We ask Allah subhana wa to teach us that which benefits us and benefit us from that which has taught us with exactly one oh Hydra masala Allahu Allah novena, Mohammed well earlier so happiness items.