Abdul Wahab Saleem – Difficulty of Being a Muslim Man

			Life is getting very, very expensive, the world is not the same anymore. In the past, people used to
be able to get by on peanuts, really, I mean, the type of food that people used to eat was very,
very simple food, the type of drinks that they would drink would be very, very simple drinks, the
housing that people used to live in was very, very simple as well, life in general was very
simplistic in the past. So a man and his responsibilities were very, very minimal. Today, that's not
the case anymore. Now you have to get yourself a nice house, you have to make sure you're living up
with the Joneses, and you're keeping up with the Joneses. That's what is expected of you as a man
		

			today, isn't it? So you have to work really hard. That's the brutal fact of it. There are many men
today, if they want to have a family, they have to work two jobs, sometimes three jobs. Sometimes
they're working two jobs, and they've got a side hustle on top of that. And it's exhausting. It's it
really, really is extremely exhausting for Matt. This is the life of a man today in the 21st
century, especially a Muslim man. Why is that? Because a Muslim man has responsibilities that,
		

			frankly, non Muslim men just don't have. And that's because we're expected to do basically
everything in terms of breadwinning. And the women, they they sit at home, and they don't have that
same sort of responsibility. This is just a brutal reality of what Muslim men have to do and have to
go through. And so I've got a headache for you. That's going to control you that's going to allow
you to continue doing your work and fulfilling your responsibilities. Because I know that most men
who are actually behaving as men, they're going above and beyond their responsibility from the
shitty I really go to the books of Islamic law or the early books and, and we see what what is
		

			required of a man it's very, very simplistic, you have to give a roof you have to make sure that,
you know, everybody's fed and you have to make sure everyone's clothes, that's the bare minimum. But
this is not where everybody is today. This is not what's expected of a married man today, okay. And
it's hard. And there's many people and many men who you know, who can bear this responsibility, and
there's others who cannot as well. And sometimes people go through psychological problems, they go
through social problems, they go through marital problems, because the burden is just too much. I've
got a Hadeeth for you. That's going to help you get through this burden. The Prophet sallallahu
		

			alayhi wa sallam, he said, that when a man spends on his family, either unfuck or Rajat or Allah,
early, he does Ebola. And he's thinking about the fact that when I spend this money, I'm going to be
rewarded by Allah subhanho wa Taala, that spending will be considered sadaqa it will be charity. So
when you're spending on your family, sometimes many times more than you have to, don't worry about
it. When you're working day job, a day job, probably another job to make sure everything is looked
after. Don't worry about it. Because every time you do that you are basically in
		

			southern, you're giving sadaqa you're giving charity you're doing something that would be
businesslike to Allah considered charitable for you on the Day of Judgment so your time will not be
wasted and your reward will not be wasted by Allah subhana wa tada saramonic martela