AbdelRahman Murphy – Heartwork Being Anchored To Allah #13

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The conversation on patient mental health is emphasized, emphasizing the importance of finding one's way through hard experiences and finding one's way through hardship. The speakers stress the need for patient mental health and provide advice on mental health. There is a brief advertisement for a YouTube video and a book on "immements on a woman" before the conversation ends.

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			As-salamu alaykum.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Bismillah walhamdulillah.
		
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			As-salatu was-salamu ala rasulillah wa ala
		
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			alihi wa as'habihi ajma'in.
		
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			Welcome home.
		
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			We praise Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in
		
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			abundant praise and we thank him.
		
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			We glorify him and we ask that he
		
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			send his peace and blessings upon our messenger
		
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			Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and on his
		
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			family and his companions and on those who
		
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			try to follow them including us until the
		
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			end of time.
		
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			Ameen.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, we are at the final session for
		
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			being anchored to Allah which is a series
		
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			where we covered or we are going to
		
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			finish covering one hadith, one moment in the
		
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			life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			And I want you guys again to think
		
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			about, I mentioned this last week but since
		
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			this is the conclusion, it really behooves us
		
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			to think about this that in a conversation
		
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			that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had
		
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			with Ibn Abbas which is the whole story
		
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			of this narration and I'll read it again
		
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			for everybody inshallah in just a second.
		
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			In that moment that maybe took 3 minutes,
		
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			4 minutes in terms of actual communication, we
		
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			have spent 12, 13, 14 hours talking about
		
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			all of the wisdoms, not all of them
		
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			but some of the wisdoms that we can
		
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			derive from that and this shows again just
		
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			the depth of knowledge that's present and available
		
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			in the words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
		
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			wa sallam.
		
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			So this is the final part of the
		
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			narration of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			in which he speaks and tells Ibn Abbas
		
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			the last bit, the last little artifact of
		
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			how to handle life because this entire series
		
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			is based upon life advices that will be
		
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			beneficial for everybody and anybody and so in
		
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			the beginning it talks a lot more about
		
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			active behavior, in the middle it talks more
		
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			about how to handle different things as they
		
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			hit you and then at the end it's
		
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			talking about being able to be pleased and
		
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			content with the decree of Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala and so he finishes by saying
		
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			that we talked about the grief that a
		
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			person goes through leads to their relief or
		
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			is coupled with their relief and then he
		
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			finishes with a couple lines he says, وإن
		
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			النصر مع الصبر victory and aid comes with
		
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			patience وإن الفرج مع الكرب and relief comes
		
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			with the difficulty which is what we talked
		
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			about وإن مع العسر يسرا and with every
		
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			difficulty there is an abundance of ease so
		
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			this is the last chapter that we're going
		
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			to talk about which is the idea that
		
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			every hardship is coupled with ease Allah mentions
		
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			this in the Quran this idea of difficulty
		
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			being coupled with ease it's like when a
		
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			person expects something when we say coupled it
		
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			means that you expect that at the presence
		
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			of one of them you'll find the other
		
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			so just like you expect certain things if
		
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			somebody says hey do you want a peanut
		
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			butter and jelly sandwich and you say yeah
		
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			and then it's only peanut butter you're like
		
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			where's the jelly because you had that expectation
		
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			or a cheeseburger with no cheese you expect
		
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			it you can see I'm hungry you can
		
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			expect it right you have that expectation so
		
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			when it comes to life when you go
		
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			through difficulty it's not just a matter of
		
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			again like oh this is what you know
		
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			this is what I learned or what I
		
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			know no this is what is promised and
		
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			Allah mentions this not just once not just
		
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			twice but multiple times in the Quran if
		
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			it weren't important why mention it over and
		
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			over again mentioning it over and over again
		
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			gives us that understanding and that relief to
		
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			know that this is in fact something that
		
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			we can not only not only like know
		
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			casually but that we can pin and hinge
		
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			our entire life upon Allah Ta'ala says
		
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			in the Quran سَيَجَعَلَ اللَّهُ بَعْدَ عُسْرٍ يُسْرً
		
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			that Allah appoints and He makes that after
		
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			every difficulty a person goes through there will
		
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			be ease in Surat Al-Sharah which we're
		
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			going to talk about today we're going to
		
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			break it down he says very famously فَإِنَّ
		
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			مَعَ الْأُسْرِ يُسْرً Allah repeats Himself and there's
		
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			no such thing in the Quran as repetition
		
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			because of an accident you and I we
		
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			repeat ourselves we tell the same stories we
		
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			repeat ourselves on accident we say the same
		
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			thing because we forgot Allah doesn't forget and
		
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			Allah doesn't need to repeat Himself unless there
		
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			is a purpose to the repetition a lot
		
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			of times we think oh He's repeating Himself
		
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			for emphasis but the Prophet ﷺ teaches us
		
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			that His repetition is not only just for
		
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			emphasis sometimes there's actually a deep value in
		
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			the repeating of what He says جل وعلا
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ one time was sitting and
		
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			there was a hole that was dug in
		
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			front of him right in the desert there's
		
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			like a lot of different examples the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ would often times try to always relate
		
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			spiritual teachings to like the natural world around
		
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			him and even just daily life right so
		
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			one time he was sitting with his companions
		
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			he took his finger and he drew a
		
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			line in the sand and then he drew
		
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			a lot of lines that were coming off
		
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			of the sand or off of that line
		
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			so basically it looked like a straight line
		
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			and then a lot of branches and he
		
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			told his companions that this line that I
		
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			drew in the middle is the straight path
		
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			صراط المستقيم and every branch that I drew
		
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			off of it every offshoot that I drew
		
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			off of it is a path of Shaytan
		
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			and Shaytan is at the head of every
		
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			one of those trails and he's calling you
		
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			trying to get you off of the straight
		
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			path so the Prophet ﷺ had this really
		
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			beautiful way of teaching by using like the
		
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			things that were around him okay so this
		
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			is what's about to happen now he was
		
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			sitting one time and there was a hole
		
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			in the dirt in front of him just
		
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			like a hole that went in and if
		
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			you think about like what is what is
		
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			a hole when you look at it right
		
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			it's in some cases like a mystery you
		
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			don't know what that is who dug it
		
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			where it leads to is it just like
		
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			an empty hole is there something in there
		
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			there's a lot of mystery and confusion about
		
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			what that is so he says the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ he was sitting and he saw this
		
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			hole and he said that no matter what
		
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			the purpose of this hole is no matter
		
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			what how it was dug what animal dug
		
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			it if a human dug it all that
		
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			is irrelevant he said if hardship were to
		
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			go into this hole meaning that if this
		
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			hole was the source of hardship he said
		
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			the person should also know that ease will
		
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			also come with that as well meaning that
		
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			even in the smallest things in life who
		
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			thinks about a hole in the dirt who
		
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			thinks about something as insignificant as like landscaping
		
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			but he said no in every affair in
		
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			your life even if it's something as small
		
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			as a hole in the earth that's in
		
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			front of you if it comes with difficulty
		
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			it comes with ease and we mentioned this
		
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			last week but it bears repeating the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ was able to say this not only
		
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			because he's the Prophet he also had to
		
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			live this himself he also had to experience
		
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			the difficulty it's one thing to kind of
		
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			be like you know generally your life is
		
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			pretty easy and to tell people that are
		
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			struggling like hey you know what it'll be
		
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			okay like what do you know about it'll
		
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			be okay you've never had to worry like
		
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			I've had to worry right but the Prophet
		
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			Muhammad ﷺ in his life part of the
		
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			wisdom of why he was tested so much
		
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			was so that when we read these narrations
		
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			of him saying it will be okay you
		
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			look at his life and you're like wow
		
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			if anyone knows what it's like to wait
		
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			for something to be okay it's him so
		
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			he's telling all of his companions many of
		
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			them have seen the devastation they've seen him
		
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			lose his family lose his friends lose his
		
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			livelihood they've seen all of this and he
		
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			is remaining optimistic if he can be optimistic
		
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			then surely everybody else can trust in that
		
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			optimism of the Prophet ﷺ so when the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ when he explained this there's a
		
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			lot of scholars that also explained these verses
		
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			as well and they said that Allah ﷻ
		
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			in the Qur'an He promises that for
		
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			every one difficulty a person has they will
		
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			have two eases two moments of ease two
		
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			moments of felicity of grace and the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ even one time said this himself he
		
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			said one hardship in life will never overcome
		
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			two eases and this hadith is a little
		
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			bit vague but the scholars they explain it
		
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			they say that every person who experiences a
		
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			hardship experienced ease before it and ease after
		
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			it every person before things became difficult things
		
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			were easier, right?
		
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			so they appreciated and they enjoyed the easy
		
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			times and then the hardship happens but as
		
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			they're going through the hardship what does a
		
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			person look forward to?
		
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			they look forward to the next time that
		
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			things will become easy again so if you
		
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			were to do the math on your experience
		
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			you would find that every hardship is actually
		
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			always coupled with two moments of ease two
		
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			periods of felicity of grace so the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ is saying that this is the system
		
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			that Allah ﷻ designed life to be in
		
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			for us and that if you're optimistic and
		
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			if you're observant that you'll be able to
		
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			see these things the Prophet ﷺ he also
		
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			commented well let me give a little bit
		
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			of back story here you know we quoted
		
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			one surah last week we quoted surat al
		
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			-duha surat al-duha is the 93rd chapter
		
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			of the Quran so if you go to
		
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			Quran.com slash 93 you'll see this chapter
		
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			and the chapter is beautiful Allah ﷻ swears
		
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			by the duha which is the bright early
		
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			morning hours and he swears by the night
		
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			when it falls still and this is an
		
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			interesting rhetorical mechanism but Allah ﷻ let me
		
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			give you a little bit of what he's
		
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			trying to do here and what the tafsir
		
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			tells us Allah is painting a picture of
		
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			time when you think of time like when
		
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			you go through like time lapses what do
		
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			they show you when they want you to
		
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			see that the day has come and gone
		
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			they show you in a movie what the
		
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			sunrise and the sunset if they don't want
		
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			you to sit there and have to watch
		
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			the whole day they show you sunrise, sunset
		
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			sunrise, sunset and as the viewer of that
		
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			movie you're understanding like oh time is passing
		
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			right so Allah in these first two verses
		
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			is telling us what time passes right وَالدُّحَى
		
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			وَاللَّيْلِ إِذَا سَجَى by the light of the
		
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			morning sun and by the stillness of the
		
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			night and the scholars one of my favorite
		
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			tafsirs Ibn Ajiba he said that Allah Ta
		
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			'ala uses this metaphor or this illustration to
		
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			describe to us the emotional state of what
		
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			time feels like when things are not going
		
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			your way you don't even have the frame
		
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			of mind to enjoy it you can't enjoy
		
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			the day you know what do they say
		
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			when someone gets their heart broken like you
		
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			know they have these jokes about people who
		
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			get heartbroken they get dumped may Allah Ta
		
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			'ala protect us right I mean I'm good
		
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			but may Allah Ta'ala protect everybody else
		
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			right Alhamdulillah I'm past that stage right she
		
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			said yes a long time ago so Alhamdulillah
		
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			may Allah Ta'ala protect all of us
		
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			Amin Ya Rabb okay what do they say
		
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			they're like oh this person like oh like
		
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			the sun doesn't shine as bright food doesn't
		
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			taste the same like do you want to
		
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			go hang out they're like no I just
		
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			want to sleep all day right sorry if
		
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			I'm describing some people are like tearing up
		
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			like did he see me today no right
		
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			so when a person is in a state
		
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			of difficulty and grief time is extreme it
		
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			already is fluid but it's an extremely fluid
		
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			experience right a person can't understand you know
		
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			what is up what is down they're heartbroken
		
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			and the Prophet ﷺ experienced heartbreak so Allah
		
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			after that verse says ma wada'aka rabbuka
		
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			wa ma qala and this is like so
		
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			important that no matter how fast the days
		
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			seem to keep going and how they seem
		
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			to keep passing you by right the days
		
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			and the nights and the days and the
		
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			nights and you wonder as you're watching the
		
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			sun rise and the sun set and the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ by the way this surah came
		
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			after a period where he was not given
		
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			revelation for a long time it's called he
		
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			got revelation once then he came with revelation
		
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			to his people they challenged him he said
		
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			okay next revelation comes I'll come to you
		
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			and revelation paused so he used to sit
		
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			and wait for revelation because that was his
		
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			answer to the people that were challenging him
		
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			he can't make up stuff no he's a
		
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			Prophet of God so imagine he's sitting and
		
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			waiting waiting waiting waiting the days are passing
		
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			passing passing he feels very what depleted defeated
		
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			left is there ever going to be relief
		
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			and even though our circumstances are different we've
		
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			all arrived at that same conclusion will I
		
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			ever find a job?
		
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			will I ever get married?
		
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			will I ever be happy?
		
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			will I ever have a good relationship with
		
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			my family?
		
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			will I ever you fill in the blank
		
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			right will I ever and that's what Allah
		
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			is describing then Allah says almost as if
		
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			to answer not your first question but your
		
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			last question ما ودعك ربوك و ما قلع
		
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			because the first question is like the low
		
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			hanging stuff will I ever be happy?
		
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			will I ever this?
		
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			will I ever get married?
		
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			will I ever find a job?
		
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			that's like the more obvious one the last
		
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			question in that same line of questioning is
		
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			why has Allah abandoned me?
		
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			like why did Allah leave me?
		
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			like I've been begging him and he hasn't
		
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			answered so Allah doesn't answer the first question
		
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			which is oh messenger of God you will
		
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			be given revelation oh messenger of God you
		
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			will be victorious no he answers the end
		
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			of questioning which is don't worry no matter
		
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			what God has not abandoned you nor is
		
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			he displeased with you because as you sit
		
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			and watch time pass and life is not
		
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			going the way that you imagined Shaitaan starts
		
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			to implant that thought into your heart why
		
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			has Allah abandoned me?
		
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			what have I done to upset him?
		
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			what did I do wrong?
		
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			وَلَا الْآخِرَةُ خَيْرٌ لَكَ مِنَ الْأُولَىٰ and then
		
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			Allah continues the next life is certainly better
		
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			than this one what is to come is
		
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			better than what is happening now and the
		
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			scholars say that this is you know you
		
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			can read this in two ways this verse
		
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			can be read as what is to come
		
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			in this life is better than what you've
		
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			already you know gone through but the other
		
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			reading of this and they're both correct based
		
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			on the language is the afterlife is much
		
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			better than this dunya and so becoming disappointed
		
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			in the dunya and in the result of
		
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			that losing your relationship with Allah because that's
		
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			the real danger everybody gets heartbroken everybody gets
		
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			sad and everybody experiences disappointment but how many
		
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			of us are able to transcend the disappointment
		
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			of the dunya and not let it affect
		
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			our relationship with Allah that's the real one
		
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			don't let it develop resentment towards Allah don't
		
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			let it affect whether or not you trust
		
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			him right?
		
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			so he says the akhira when you go
		
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			there you're not even going to remember this
		
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			place everything you worried about it's the dot
		
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			of it's the place of grief and anxiety
		
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			but as soon as you step into jannah
		
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			as soon as you enter heaven you won't
		
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			even remember you won't even recall the narration
		
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			says and the Quran even says this people
		
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			will be asked in the afterlife they'll be
		
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			asked how long did you spend there?
		
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			how long?
		
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			and you know what we're going to say?
		
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			one day or maybe a part of a
		
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			day one day or maybe a part of
		
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			a day by comparing to me that's have
		
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			you guys ever been in math class before?
		
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			like or in one of my lectures you're
		
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			like when is this going to end?
		
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			you sit here and you're like this is
		
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			non-stop you know you're connecting you take
		
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			a flight if you're used to 2 hour
		
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			flights you hop on a 3 hour flight
		
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			you're like ya rabbi when are we ever
		
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			going to land?
		
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			and subhanallah like time feels so difficult in
		
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			the afterlife all of that waiting all of
		
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			that you know difficulty in dealing with time
		
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			as it passes you're going to say verbally
		
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			you're going to utter we only spent one
		
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			day there and by the way this is
		
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			for those who had it good and those
		
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			who had it pretty tough everyone's going to
		
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			say the same thing the dreams you chased
		
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			and the dreams you sacrificed for you know
		
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			the work that you the work that you
		
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			invested in and gave up time with your
		
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			family and friends and your kids because you
		
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			wanted to be successful in the dunya we
		
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			weigh it was only for a day you
		
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			gave up everything for one day the sins
		
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			that we indulge in because we think it's
		
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			going to bring us happiness because we think
		
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			that it's what we need it was only
		
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			for a day and imagine being in jahannam
		
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			may Allah protect us and we were told
		
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			you gave up this for one day you
		
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			gave up all of akhira for one day
		
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			or even a part of a day so
		
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			Allah here reminds the Prophet yeah life is
		
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			tough and this is by the way at
		
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			the beginning of his message surah ad-duha
		
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			he's being given this in the beginning stages
		
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			of his message okay and Allah is telling
		
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			him you're going to go through some tough
		
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			times but if you can keep your eyes
		
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			on the prize patience will come with its
		
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			grace if you can be patient you will
		
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			have grace you will experience the reward and
		
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			the pleasure and at that time you will
		
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			be given so much bounty and favor by
		
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			your lord that you will be absolutely content
		
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			and what the scholars say here if you
		
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			read the tafsir why did Allah say that
		
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			you will be content when he talked about
		
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			the akhira because in Arabic they say you
		
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			can understand something the opposite of something kind
		
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			of like reading between the lines what's the
		
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			opposite of this is what if you're going
		
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			to be truly content in the akhira what
		
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			does that mean about this life you'll never
		
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			be what you'll never be truly content you'll
		
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			never be truly content it's kind of gross
		
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			but bear with me for a second I
		
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			feel like we've grown close together talked about
		
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			brain masala last week right the scholars they
		
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			say something so it's so real you know
		
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			if you guys have ever had someone in
		
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			your family who just keeps it real I
		
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			want you to imagine them saying this the
		
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			scholars say the analogy of this dunya and
		
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			its pleasures are like eating a meal you
		
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			plan for it you enjoy it, it tastes
		
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			good you digest it and then before you
		
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			know it it's time to go to the
		
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			bathroom and they say that's pretty much what
		
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			it is that's pretty much what it is
		
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			like you spend all this time and I
		
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			want you to think about like when people
		
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			wait for example for like going out to
		
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			a nice fancy restaurant or like ooh we
		
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			made plans Friday for sushi and so all
		
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			week long you're like looking forward to that
		
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			you go, you enjoy it and then in
		
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			a few hours your body does its body
		
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			thing digests it, pushes it through and you're
		
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			like all of that waiting all that anticipation
		
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			for what for what, I mean literally it's
		
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			a four letter word right, for nothing right,
		
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			this dunya ain't anyway so so the scholars
		
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			use that I can't, the scholars use that
		
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			example to illustrate to you and I that
		
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			look at the metaphor and the dunya that
		
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			you're investing into after all that when you're
		
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			dead and put in your grave you're going
		
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			to be like that was it that was
		
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			it may Allah protect us when you enter
		
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			Jannah you're really going to understand what true
		
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			contentment is because true contentment doesn't stop in
		
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			this life the meal ends in this life
		
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			the wedding that you've been planning for and
		
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			excited for and hoping for and praying for
		
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			that wedding ends, you know I went to
		
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			a wedding recently I have to say man,
		
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			I have to say there's going to be,
		
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			I think the next heart work series is
		
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			going to be SOS Muslim weddings we got
		
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			to figure this stuff out, okay but you
		
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			know and it's beautiful everyone's celebrating I want
		
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			to tell you, like the phrase you know,
		
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			it was a movie I think everyone's chasing
		
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			that for their weddings, right, there's too much
		
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			Bollywood influence in the ummah today, right and
		
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			the best is when they ask the imam
		
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			to be part of it, they're like can
		
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			you please announce the unveiling of the bride
		
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			I'm like that's too personal, like I need
		
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			to leave like you got, I finish my
		
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			nikah, I'm always like alright you can all
		
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			do your you know stuff now, alright and
		
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			enjoy, you know your mirrors and your dollar
		
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			bills around the head and stealing shoes and
		
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			everything you can do all of that now,
		
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			I will depart now Alhamdulillah, right and then
		
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			the wedding that you planned for, that you
		
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			prayed for it's over, right the purchase that
		
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			you have the brand new shoes right the
		
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			Air Force Ones, the clean white Air Force
		
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			Ones the Jordans, the Dunks, they get their
		
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			first scuff, khalas they're done, you just don't
		
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			even feel the same way about them anymore,
		
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			you get a scratch on your car, you
		
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			just don't feel like it's time to start
		
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			shopping that's the nature of this dunya, you're
		
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			never going to be truly content here it's
		
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			not a thing it's not a thing and
		
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			if we keep looking for true contentment here,
		
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			all we're going to find is disappointment over
		
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			and over and over again because we're like
		
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			no, no, no, I promise you this is
		
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			the one that's going to make me content
		
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			this thing, this purchase as soon as I
		
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			click confirm, check out, buy as soon as
		
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			I sign on the da da I promise
		
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			you, this is what's going to make me
		
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			content but I'm telling you, many of you
		
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			guys are younger than me, I'm 36 I'm
		
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			telling you, as someone who believed that for
		
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			a long time and we all struggle with
		
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			it, I still do till today, to some
		
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			degree I'm telling you that it doesn't end
		
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			because as soon as you get something you
		
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			see something else that's a little bit better
		
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			see something else that you like a little
		
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			bit more right, you see and think about
		
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			it, subhanallah, have any of you ever stayed
		
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			in an Airbnb that's nicer than your house
		
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			what do you do when you come back,
		
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			you're like that Airbnb was so nice, I
		
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			caught somebody one time in an Airbnb, looking
		
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			at all the labels of all the pottery
		
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			and all the decorations taking pictures of the
		
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			barcodes I'm like, they're like, if I can't
		
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			take the home with me, I'm at least
		
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			going to redecorate that's an example again of
		
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			that discontentment, right but subhanallah the moment that
		
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			you look at everything you have with the
		
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			lens of patience and you see how much
		
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			more you have than so many more people
		
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			you don't feel the need to increase anything
		
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			that you have any longer Allah's promising him
		
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			this and that's why Allah, what does he
		
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			do when he tries to tell him how
		
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			to be content in this life he reminds
		
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			him if you want to be content look
		
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			backwards, don't look forwards the more you look
		
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			forwards the less content you'll be look backwards
		
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			was it not the case that Allah found
		
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			you as an orphan right, do you remember
		
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			those days, it's like Allah is asking the
		
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			Prophet, do you remember those days when you
		
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			were alone had nobody and Allah gave you
		
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			shelter look back, don't look forwards if you
		
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			want rida with Allah look backwards and he
		
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			found you in a state where you were
		
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			wandering you were there and you knew in
		
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			your heart of heart what was right and
		
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			you knew, the Prophet was always given a
		
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			baseline of course of guidance but before his
		
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			messengership he would go and he would what
		
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			he would think and do tahannoth and meditate
		
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			what's the purpose of this what's the purpose
		
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			of this life he was wandering, he was
		
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			thinking and Allah gave you this guidance and
		
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			Allah found you in a deep state of
		
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			need and he enriched you and gave you
		
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			a sense of sufficiency of provision Allah asks
		
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			three questions and in those answers the Prophet
		
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			of course he was never discontent with Allah
		
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			but we all need this reminder he says,
		
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			was it not the case that you had
		
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			those three scenarios where you were an orphan
		
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			that was lost you were wandering and confused
		
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			about what the path forward was and then
		
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			even after you were sheltered and you had
		
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			guidance, you were completely destitute, you had no
		
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			funding, no money, no support and Allah gave
		
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			you the riches to support you and your
		
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			mission فَأَمَّا الْيَتِيمَةَ فَلَا تَقْهَرْ so as a
		
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			result of thinking about your own journey and
		
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			the patience that you had to display and
		
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			endure with when Allah gives you when Allah
		
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			provides for you what's the right response number
		
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			one is you can never ever forget about
		
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			the people that are enduring patiently as well
		
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			Allah reminds him أَلَّمْ يَجِدَكَ يَتِيمًا فَآوَدْ do
		
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			you remember when you were an orphan and
		
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			then Allah says فَأَمَّا الْيَتِيمَةَ فَلَا تَقْهَرْ and
		
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			if you find an orphan never let them
		
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			be oppressed وَأَمَّا السَّائِلَ فَلَا تَنْهَرْ and if
		
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			you ever come across somebody that's asking because
		
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			what وَوَجَدَكَ عَائِلًا فَأَغْنَى you were in a
		
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			state of need so if somebody comes they're
		
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			asking and they're in a state of need
		
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			فَلَا تَنْهَرْ never repel them وَأَمَّا بِنِعْمَةِ رَبِّكَ
		
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			فَحَدِّثْ and when you think about the blessings
		
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			of your lord then proclaim it this is
		
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			actually a very interesting one do you know
		
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			why it's important for us to talk about
		
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			how Allah has blessed us do you know
		
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			why to keep your ego in check good
		
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			but when you're with other people yes aren't
		
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			you all afraid of حَسَد نَزَر how's your
		
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			day going you're like horrible right you don't
		
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			want to share Allah is saying if you
		
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			have something good that happened to you talk
		
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			about it with again not everybody right don't
		
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			post it maybe to your story but فَحَدِّثْ
		
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			why go ahead because if you can't recognize
		
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			something like you yourself by sharing by talking
		
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			about it with those that you love and
		
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			that love you it will be a reminder
		
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			intrinsically to everybody that we're so blessed if
		
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			I went around the room today and I
		
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			asked everybody what'd you have for lunch today
		
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			and we talked about it you know some
		
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			people like oh I had what'd you have
		
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			for lunch today what'd you have for lunch
		
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			today what'd you eat for lunch today sorry
		
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			you didn't have lunch yeah oh what'd you
		
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			have for brunch okay love ourselves a little
		
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			brunch on a Monday okay you had what
		
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			work gave you some brunch what was on
		
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			the menu sandwiches that's pretty good who here
		
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			likes sandwiches raise your hand very good okay
		
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			excellent what'd you have chicken and some I
		
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			like how you said potato wedges not fries
		
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			you're a distinct man right you're a scholar
		
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			you're a man of nuance I like that
		
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			okay you could have said hey you got
		
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			fries potato wedges there's a difference those who
		
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			know know right IYKYK right he had some
		
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			chicken some potato wedges sounds good huh who
		
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			else who had some nice lunch today anybody
		
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			who had a good lunch nobody your mom
		
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			cooked subhanallah who misses mom's cooking raise your
		
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			hand yeah subhanallah right anyone else what'd you
		
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			have tacos not even Tuesday taco Monday you
		
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			see what's happening when you talk even the
		
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			smallest blessings but are they small really when
		
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			you talk about these things and people you
		
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			know everyone here inshallah has something to eat
		
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			today if you're fasting may Allah bless you
		
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			but if you're not you had something to
		
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			eat today and you're thinking to yourself like
		
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			Danish had the chicken and potato wedges sounds
		
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			pretty good but he heard tacos he's like
		
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			you know I love a taco right and
		
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			she heard the brother who had sandwiches and
		
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			she's like the sandwiches sound delicious right and
		
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			we all heard mom's cooking and we're like
		
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			yeah right when you talk about the blessings
		
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			of Allah it reminds you how grateful you
		
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			should be how lucky you are and I
		
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			don't need to bring up the pictures and
		
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			I mean it's self-evident what we're seeing
		
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			right now our brothers and sisters it's self
		
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			-evident every morsel every grain you know there
		
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			was an auntie subhanallah I'll never forget I'll
		
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			never forget her man she subhanallah she hired
		
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			me I was you know what I used
		
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			to do I had a crazy work my
		
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			resume is insane I used to fold towels
		
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			at bed bath and beyond when I was
		
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			in high school alhamdulillah I know more about
		
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			towels and sheets than anybody in here thread
		
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			counts textures polyester blends I can hook you
		
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			up we're good okay bed bath and beyond
		
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			I worked at the apple store for a
		
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			while I worked what else did I do
		
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			oh I did sales for like a plastics
		
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			company interesting and then when I was trying
		
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			to get married I worked for an auntie
		
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			she's an orthodontist and I used to do
		
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			the preparation of the molds that they would
		
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			take to send to the companies to get
		
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			the braces or the approval for braces so
		
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			what they do is they make you bite
		
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			into a mold and then it comes out
		
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			kind of jaggedy I used to go on
		
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			that rotary thing and smooth it out and
		
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			then I used to work at the front
		
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			desk right I was like the secretary hi
		
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			how are you right I was pretty good
		
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			so she used to she was muslim so
		
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			she used to bring lunch for us it
		
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			was like a few of us muslims who
		
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			worked there and I noticed you know she's
		
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			very mashaAllah successful but she would always bring
		
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			food and we would eat kind of like
		
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			you know in a more humble modest way
		
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			so we all had like a small plate
		
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			and you would take from the main plate
		
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			and then you would eat so she made
		
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			some like keema and rice some like ground
		
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			beef and rice and stuff like that we
		
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			would be eating and of course like everyone's
		
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			eating and you finish your plate right just
		
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			like mama taught us but I would notice
		
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			her she would literally every grain of rice
		
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			every grain she would pick and she would
		
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			eat it off her plate not in a
		
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			grotesque way in a very classy way but
		
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			she would very gently so then one time
		
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			I asked her I said I said auntie
		
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			I you know it's not coming out of
		
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			hunger obviously she's not like oh I'm so
		
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			hungry I said I noticed that mashaAllah you
		
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			really clean your plate your mom must have
		
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			taught you well she goes I don't know
		
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			where Allah put the blessings and I'm not
		
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			trying to I'm not trying to lose that
		
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			she goes you have to eat every bite
		
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			because you don't know where Allah put the
		
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			blessing in the food maybe he put it
		
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			in that one grain your barakah for that
		
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			day is in that one grain and you
		
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			passed it up right so remember and she
		
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			grew up this auntie very successful now grew
		
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			up in India very very difficult life so
		
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			where do you think those lessons kind of
		
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			grew from they grew from a state of
		
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			reflection about what life used to be and
		
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			what it is now but the most impressive
		
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			people that you'll ever meet are people that
		
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			have not forgotten where they've come from but
		
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			the ones who forget where they've come from
		
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			are the ones who become the most putrid
		
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			and evil of people may Allah protect us
		
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			and so Allah Ta'ala is reminding okay
		
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			okay now this surah like I said it
		
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			is right before the surah that deals with
		
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			isn't that amazing Allah just told the whole
		
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			story of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in
		
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			like eight verses he told the whole story
		
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			basically summary of it in the next one
		
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			now that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has
		
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			recounted his difficulty Allah is teaching him about
		
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			the the value of his patience he begins
		
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			by saying it's hard to translate but let
		
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			me do my best so the literal translation
		
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			is have we not opened up your chest
		
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			for you and this is kind of an
		
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			interesting translation this is how google would translate
		
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			it but when you look in the tafsir
		
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			of how it's supposed to be translated is
		
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			is the feeling of relief that a person
		
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			has when things get better opening up of
		
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			the chest makes sense too when you're nervous
		
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			where do you feel most constricted here right
		
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			when you're nervous my son had his last
		
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			football game his soccer game oh god I'm
		
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			turning European he had his last soccer game
		
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			on Sunday it was his final game did
		
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			I tell you guys about the previous team
		
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			he was on the Zionists no oh that
		
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			was Tuesday night we played on a team
		
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			we submitted him to a city league and
		
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			it was individual and they threw him on
		
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			a team my luck right the team they
		
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			added him on no joke all of the
		
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			kids went to this private school of a
		
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			certain faith and when you look up the
		
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			website of the school and their goals and
		
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			their mission and their values number one value
		
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			is Zionism so my son is playing with
		
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			all these kids okay and his name is
		
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			Moosa of all the prophets that we could
		
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			have Moses lead Bani Israel you know so
		
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			it was a very interesting season okay and
		
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			I did my best to try to obviously
		
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			and you know Moosa did his best and
		
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			he was good he's one of the good
		
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			players and he was you know he's kind
		
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			of you know making a name for the
		
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			Muslims Alhamdulillah but then you know we looked
		
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			at my wife and I were like you
		
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			know this is actually it was happening all
		
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			SubhanAllah throughout the fall and so every weekend
		
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			was like this horrible pain of like I
		
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			can't even be around because I looked up
		
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			the social media of the other parents and
		
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			it was like I mean just how they
		
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			felt I was wearing my watermelon hoodie of
		
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			course and I just I told my wife
		
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			I said you know what this team they
		
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			were good they were like crushing teams without
		
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			American military support they were crushing team and
		
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			and so like Moosa was loving it because
		
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			they're like we didn't tell him by the
		
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			way because it was going to be heartbreaking
		
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			if he knew that these kids because then
		
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			he's going to ask them why do you
		
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			support I was just waiting for him to
		
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			be like yeah McDonald's is bad I was
		
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			waiting for him to like start that conversation
		
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			anyways we decided let's build a Muslim team
		
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			right let's build a Muslim team so we
		
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			put together some Muslim kids and we go
		
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			out there and we get rocked we lose
		
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			0-5 0-4 it's like it's bad
		
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			right we didn't have enough Arabs on the
		
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			team honestly so soccer you know you guys
		
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			just admit it if it was cricket no
		
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			Arabs please right if it's soccer we need
		
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			some Arabs so long story short this is
		
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			the last game of the season and they've
		
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			been improving like you see them practicing outside
		
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			they've been growing getting better and it's the
		
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			last game and it's 8am and I'm like
		
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			making some breakfast for him and I'm like
		
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			here eat this just have something small and
		
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			he goes I can't and I go why
		
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			he goes I feel like I'm going to
		
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			throw up he's so nervous he goes my
		
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			chest is beating so fast right and I'm
		
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			telling him it's okay it's okay just say
		
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			bismillah bismillah don't worry Allah is with you
		
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			you're going to do fine you've been practicing
		
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			for this etc etc but he felt all
		
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			that constriction in his chest right and then
		
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			he scored 4 goals they won 8 to
		
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			1 they stomped him at some point I
		
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			was like pull the starters right please he's
		
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			scoring goals from midfield I was like stop
		
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			it doing that Ronaldo thing anyways Allah bless
		
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			him so the point being is that the
		
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			chest is the nexus of anxiety you know
		
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			we think that it's up here because that's
		
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			where we're processing but the feeling is here
		
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			Allah says did we not expand and open
		
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			up your chest to relief for you like
		
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			the constriction is gone and didn't we relieve
		
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			you of the burden that you've been carrying
		
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			for so long you see Allah the one
		
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			that you've been carrying on your back even
		
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			though literally the prophet wasn't carrying it on
		
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			his back but think about how burdens feel
		
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			think about how stress feels you know when
		
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			someone is stressed you can see it in
		
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			their face you can see it in their
		
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			language you can see it in their posture
		
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			when somebody is stressed they don't sit confident
		
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			they sit hunched over thinking occupied right Allah
		
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			is describing the prophet in his time of
		
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			difficulty you were constricted you were weighed down
		
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			and you were burdened but you were patient
		
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			and because you were patient he says we
		
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			elevated your name your remembrance you know what
		
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			the scholars say the scholars say this ayah
		
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			is referring to the most beautiful association ever
		
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			you know we think of like associations we
		
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			think of people we think of husbands and
		
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			wives we think of families with names right
		
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			we're like oh the kennedys oh this and
		
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			that association if you tell someone like oh
		
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			I know a celebrity or who's the most
		
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			famous person you have in your contacts list
		
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			oh I know this person everyone goes crazy
		
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			right people are dying to like even touch
		
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			a celebrity I had a friend subhanallah who
		
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			was at the Mavs game and I guess
		
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			the Mavs Luca fell down or something and
		
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			hit his face and he came up and
		
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			his face was bleeding and my friend he
		
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			loves Luca he said you're still beautiful man
		
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			and he said Luca said my face hurts
		
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			right that's love like we like when we
		
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			love somebody we the association and now he's
		
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			like telling us like dude he talked to
		
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			me we're like no you're a doctor and
		
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			he was complaining to you his face hurts
		
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			he's like he talked to me he really
		
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			did you know Allah is telling the prophet
		
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			that you were alone you were unknown you
		
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			were carrying this burden and when you feel
		
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			stressed out and when you feel patient when
		
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			you feel like you have to be patient
		
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			and you're working through it you do feel
		
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			alone but because of your patience what happened
		
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			to your name Muhammad what does every Muslim
		
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			say when they accept Islam when they remind
		
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			themselves of their faith faith what better association
		
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			than to have your name permanently associated with
		
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			Allah permanently the name Muhammad will never be
		
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			removed from the name of Allah God's name
		
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			will always be coupled right after his name
		
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			the remembrance of his beloved his prophet his
		
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			Habib his Mustafa our messenger you can't understand
		
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			the reward of being patient and just like
		
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			the prophet got that proximity our name may
		
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			not be joined in the kareemah of course
		
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			but you still got proximity with Allah your
		
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			name is mentioned in the gatherings the angels
		
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			are talking about you like you're the celebrity
		
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			when you bear patiently the angels brag about
		
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			being close to you about being near you
		
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			about knowing you because of your patience then
		
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			Allah says this one he says verily with
		
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			every difficulty there is ease indeed with every
		
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			difficulty there is ease and then he finishes
		
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			how do you handle those moments so keep
		
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			striving keep working hard and when you have
		
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			completed what you're supposed to be doing when
		
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			you have reached the end of that moment
		
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			of that destination of patience keep working hard
		
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			keep connected don't forget about it when you're
		
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			patient and Allah rewards you for your patience
		
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			that's the first time think about this let
		
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			me give you an example what is he
		
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			saying here you pray pray pray pray pray
		
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			Allah gives you what you've been praying for
		
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			what do you stop doing praying you make
		
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			dua over and over and over again for
		
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			the exam you take the exam exam is
		
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			over what stops dua when you become free
		
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			when you become relieved and you have completed
		
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			your duty keep going why because that shows
		
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			that this was not a transaction with Allah
		
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			but this was who you really are you're
		
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			not patient because you wanted to get some
		
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			commodity or something transactional no you're patient because
		
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			you wanted to be close to Allah and
		
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			patient people realize faithful people realize that patience
		
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			is the quickest pathway to being close to
		
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			Allah Ta'ala and when it comes to
		
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			being patient you push yourself by hoping in
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala alone these two
		
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			surahs are back to back in the Quran
		
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			93 and 94 both of them are summarizing
		
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			the life of the Prophet in like the
		
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			shortest way they're describing a person who endured
		
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			difficulty who bore patiently and as a result
		
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			of that achieved a status with Allah that
		
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			was unlike any other human being may Allah
		
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			Ta'ala give us this okay we'll finish
		
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			with one last line and then we'll do
		
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			some Q&A inshallah okay what happens when
		
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			a person deals with life patiently what happens
		
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			first of all we all hate being reminded
		
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			to be patient right and this subhanallah if
		
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			you look at how the Quran is addressing
		
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			this the Quran is telling you be patient
		
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			and part of our struggle is that we
		
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			have to actually just take that advice as
		
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			it is you know my son one of
		
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			the things that's interesting about children is that
		
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			you can't you can't just tell them to
		
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			do something especially if they're very inquisitive you
		
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			have to explain why you have to explain
		
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			why hey you can't do that well why
		
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			and only if the why makes sense you
		
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			get their buy in but if the why
		
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			is not there I mean we've all been
		
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			children before if the person didn't tell you
		
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			why you're like forget you I'm going to
		
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			do what I want I know best I
		
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			know better right so in this surah Allah
		
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			doesn't exactly give the why and with Allah
		
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			oftentimes there won't be a why but it
		
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			comes from knowing that whatever Allah has told
		
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			me to do is ultimately what's best for
		
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			me even if I don't know how it
		
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			works exactly right be patient so if somebody
		
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			says to you like I'm so frustrated I'm
		
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			so exhausted I'm so you know I'm just
		
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			irritated why is this not happening and someone
		
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			says try to be patient you're like stop
		
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			telling me that what you're actually saying is
		
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			if I can't understand why I have to
		
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			be patient I don't want to do it
		
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			but that shows a lack of trust in
		
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			the entire plan that Allah Ta'ala has
		
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			for you and we talked about this last
		
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			week Allah Ta'ala laughs out of joy
		
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			when he sees the end of a person's
		
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			struggle is coming and that person is becoming
		
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			very irritable because he knows the person is
		
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			going to experience relief very soon so here
		
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			are some things that the author says come
		
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			only from being patient are you ready number
		
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			one he says when you're patient all of
		
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			the sins that you have start getting erased
		
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			if something bad happens to you and you
		
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			bear patiently it's like a dry erase board
		
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			every single sin I want you to think
		
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			about all the sins you had for a
		
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			given day and then on the way home
		
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			from work you get a flat tire at
		
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			that point you can be like whatever right
		
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			you can say certain things or you can
		
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			say okay everyone okay everyone's safe let's pull
		
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			over let's call triple A let's go to
		
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			the discount tire let's go here whatever and
		
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			you handle it with patience to the point
		
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			where when you get home eventually the people
		
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			that are at your house or the people
		
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			maybe you're going out to dinner with some
		
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			friends or you're going to you come here
		
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			to Ruth's you get here and no one
		
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			can tell that you had a flat tire
		
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			people where's your car you're like oh I
		
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			had a flat tire you're acting totally normal
		
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			that's patience right but the impatient one is
		
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			the one is like I can't wait to
		
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			tell everybody what a bad day I've had
		
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			can I tell you nobody wants to hear
		
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			it you know because everybody's had a similar
		
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			bad day everyone's had a similar experience right
		
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			you have very when I say nobody I
		
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			mean the general body of course you have
		
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			a few loved ones that always want to
		
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			hear about your pain how do you always
		
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			right come here cry right here right but
		
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			for the rest of humanity when you see
		
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			someone and they say hey how's it going
		
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			right you know that's not the time to
		
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			like unload right they're asking you know I'm
		
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			and they're asking generally how's it going they're
		
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			not asking about your passenger side front tire
		
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			okay so he says if you're patient only
		
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			if you're patient this does not go to
		
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			the impatient people if you're patient then sins
		
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			are written off completely like they're just erased
		
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			all together and you are rewarded for being
		
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			patient by losing your sin number two is
		
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			that the hardness of your heart when a
		
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			person is tested and they have to bear
		
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			patiently their heart starts to become soft this
		
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			isn't talking about physical this time about the
		
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			actual spiritual heart a hard heart has a
		
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			few afflictions of them ingratitude person is not
		
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			grateful of them a lack of sympathy a
		
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			person is apathetic they can't feel for others
		
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			of them the person always has dry eyes
		
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			like emotionally now some people don't cry easily
		
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			but their heart is dry meaning that nothing
		
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			affects them they can see the most emotionally
		
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			traumatizing damaging story does not affect them you
		
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			know I'm still hungry I'm still this I'm
		
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			still that didn't you just see what happened
		
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			didn't you hear so and so's mom is
		
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			sick so and so's dad is so and
		
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			so's child is in the hospital oh let's
		
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			go eat unaffected that's a hard heart patience
		
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			when you endure and you really put yourself
		
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			against it Allah the gift that he gives
		
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			you is that he starts to make you
		
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			what grateful starts to make you more empathetic
		
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			you start to feel softer you start to
		
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			be able to connect with people better instead
		
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			of judging you start to make excuses abdullah
		
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			he said that hypocrites look for criticism believers
		
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			look for excuses meaning if I see somebody
		
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			the hypocrite is the one that's always leaning
		
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			to try to figure out man why would
		
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			they do that the believer is saying I
		
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			know why they do that because of this
		
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			reason give them the excuse may Allah make
		
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			us like this so he says that patience
		
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			softens the heart third is he says that
		
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			if a person is patient in this life
		
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			and they deal with their trials patiently in
		
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			this life on the day of judgment they
		
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			will be elevated and when they stand before
		
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			Allah they will be announced and proclaimed that
		
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			this is the one who endured patiently this
		
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			is the one it's like being the valedictorian
		
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			at your graduation it's like being the one
		
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			you get the honorific you get the announcement
		
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			you get the salute of everybody on the
		
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			day of judgment because the ones who are
		
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			patient are the ones that are drawn near
		
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			to Allah subhanahu wata'ala number six is
		
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			he says that when a person is patient
		
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			they start to develop contentment sorry sorry about
		
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			that when a person is patient they start
		
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			to develop true contentment and he says this
		
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			is the goal that every person should have
		
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			I want to finish with this one question
		
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			and this one thought let's go back to
		
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			the beginning of the story the prophet is
		
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			sitting on an animal he's riding and there's
		
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			a young man behind him and he tells
		
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			this young man about remembering Allah being with
		
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			Allah realizing that nobody can hurt you and
		
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			nobody can help you Allah is the one
		
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			who's with you and to bear with things
		
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			with grace and with empathy and with understanding
		
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			and patience okay this is the life advice
		
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			the prophet gave this is the hadith that
		
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			the prophet he tells this young man listen
		
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			to me clearly I have to give you
		
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			some advice and Ibn Abbas he takes this
		
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			advice and he internalizes it and he deeply
		
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			thinks about it I want us all to
		
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			think for a moment about just today's lesson
		
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			but even if you can't remember before try
		
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			to remember and think for a moment about
		
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			how you and I in the past day
		
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			have failed with this alone think about the
		
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			impatience that we've shown with people with our
		
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			friends our loved ones our community you know
		
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			think about the impatience you've shown on the
		
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			highway with these horrible Dallas drivers probably going
		
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			to Denton think about I need to be
		
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			more patient with Denton really right think about
		
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			the failure that we have think about it
		
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			this stuff transcends when you order at a
		
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			restaurant or at a coffee shop or you
		
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			purchase something and there's a person that's going
		
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			I don't know like 10 seconds slower than
		
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			normal and the irritation that is felt internally
		
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			think about the question that you sent to
		
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			somebody on iMessage and then within a minute
		
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			you tapped on it and you tapped the
		
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			question emoji or the question tap back think
		
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			about these demonstrations and think about how all
		
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			of these are proofs that you and I
		
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			are not truly content people they're all proof
		
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			like if we want to be content we
		
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			need to be able to be like Sayyidina
		
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			Yaqub we need to be able to find
		
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			out that our son was taken and be
		
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			able to somehow be able to say you
		
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			know what I trust in Allah and he
		
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			cried crying does not mean you're not patient
		
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			he shed tears he moaned he lamented he
		
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			grieved about losing his son but he was
		
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			patient he cried to Allah you know think
		
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			about how when something doesn't go our way
		
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			when we complain outside of what is normal
		
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			right there's a functional complaint oh you lost
		
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			your baggage you know they lost your baggage
		
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			at the airport or something okay I have
		
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			to go file out a form or whatever
		
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			it's a complaint but think about even when
		
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			you're allowed to complain how you complain and
		
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			to who you complain to is the person
		
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			that you're complaining to even able to change
		
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			your situation or are you just at that
		
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			moment petitioning Allah's decree for you in your
		
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			life but you're too scared to actually talk
		
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			to Allah about it like many of us
		
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			we're actually upset with how Allah has ordained
		
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			our life but instead of opening our hands
		
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			and complaining to Allah we'd rather just sit
		
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			and talk to everybody about how we don't
		
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			like it and that ultimately is a proof
		
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			of a lack of contentment with Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala so if anything the Prophet
		
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			peace be upon him is giving Ibn Abbas
		
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			the path to contentment with Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala and if there's nothing that a
		
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			person gains from these 14 hours that we've
		
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			gone over this hadith the only thing that
		
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			we can hope to take away is that
		
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			maybe Allah will give us that gift that
		
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			we'll be content with him may Allah make
		
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			us content with him may Allah make us
		
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			never discontent with him, may Allah make us
		
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			always in every scenario able to see the
		
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			silver lining, may Allah allow us to always
		
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			see the beautiful truth in the trial that
		
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			we're experiencing, may Allah always give us the
		
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			ability to bear patiently and to not complain
		
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			against him but to complain to him because
		
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			he's the one who is in charge of
		
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			our affairs may Allah ta'ala give us
		
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			the ability to handle difficulty with grace and
		
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			with beauty and with compassion, may Allah ta
		
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			'ala give us the ability to reflect the
		
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			character of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			in that when we are tested we are
		
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			brought nearer to him, when we are tried
		
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			we are brought closer to him when we
		
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			are disappointed we come back to Allah we
		
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			don't run away from him, ya Allah bring
		
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			us close to you, gently in a way
		
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			that allows us to appreciate and to grow
		
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			nearer to you ya Allah, oh Allah we
		
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			ask you to let us take all the
		
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			lessons that we've gained from this narration ya
		
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			Allah and from all of the stories and
		
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			all of the references, all of the ayat
		
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			and all of the hadith and every reflection
		
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			that was shared, we ask you oh Allah
		
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			to allow this to become the way that
		
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			we behave, the way that we act the
		
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			way that we are, and that these classes
		
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			become a proof for us and not against
		
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			us, Ameen, Ameen, ya Rabbil Alameen Subhanak, Allahumma
		
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			bihamdik, nashadu an la ilaha illa ant, nastaghfiruka
		
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			wa natubu ilayk, we're gonna have inshallah a
		
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			little bit of a Q&A, so if
		
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			you wanna go to slido.com, you can
		
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			hop on and when you go into the
		
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			the room you can type heartwork and inshallah
		
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			you can put your questions on there, and
		
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			then I'll have them on here and then
		
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			we'll do some Q&A the questions can
		
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			be about anything, if you need to head
		
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			out inshallah, by all means you can, just
		
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			do so quietly if you can inshallah, so
		
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			that we can do the Q&A bi
		
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			-idhnillah yeah,
		
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			sorry the code here let me reload it
		
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			sorry, one second slido, S-L-I-D
		
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			-O S-L-I-D-O okay here
		
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			let me do one thing real quick, sorry
		
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			okay okay, so for the event code enter
		
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			heartwork heartwork, H-E-A-R-T W
		
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			-O-R-K, yeah huh?
		
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			all lowercase, yes slido.com and then enter
		
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			heartwork inshallah, and you can start putting the
		
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			questions there, okay, they're coming in now alright,
		
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			so if you're gonna head out inshallah, we
		
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			just wanna ask you to keep the noise
		
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			level to a minimum inshallah so we can
		
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			get through some of these questions number one,
		
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			this is very interesting this is a very
		
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			interesting question is composite bonding for teeth halal?
		
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			I don't know, right see, that's a great
		
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			answer I actually don't know, Allah knows best
		
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			I would ask a dentist and a scholar
		
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			if you could find both, that'd be great
		
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			okay, this is actually a very good question
		
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			do you get partial credit if you try
		
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			to be patient but you struggle, but you're
		
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			trying your best, absolutely absolutely, look patience looks
		
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			different for everybody when we look at the
		
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			stories of these people we are describing ideal
		
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			levels of patience we're describing truly like amazing
		
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			levels of patience, the reality is that every
		
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			single person in this room your display of
		
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			patience will be different than somebody else, and
		
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			your job is to just be patient within
		
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			your own realm, you can't look at your
		
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			friend or another person someone else might be
		
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			a very very just naturally quiet person right,
		
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			someone else might be a little bit more
		
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			extroverted, a little bit more outspoken patience is
		
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			not determined by the personality type, it's determined
		
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			by the feeling you have in your heart
		
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			towards Allah how do you feel in that
		
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			moment a quiet person can be very resentful
		
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			and a loud person can be very very
		
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			patient, right so those manifestations are not necessarily
		
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			always reflections of the heart however, it is
		
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			important to try to line up your heart
		
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			with how you behave and remind yourself in
		
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			those moments as you're being patient, but yes,
		
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			absolutely if you try to be patient but
		
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			you struggle Allah rewards that, without a doubt
		
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			the effort is what Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala is looking for is it transactional if
		
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			you ask Allah to make something better for
		
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			you, no not necessarily, but Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala is the one who knows what's
		
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			best so it's kind of like going to
		
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			I mean, I hate to use this analogy
		
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			because it's not befitting of Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala but it'd be like going to
		
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			any professional or master of something and saying,
		
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			hey, I know that this is how you
		
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			do it, but can you do it differently
		
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			like would you ever step into the cockpit
		
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			of a plane and tell the pilot, like
		
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			hey, I know you take off like this
		
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			but try this for me you wouldn't do
		
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			that, right because you trust that person, so
		
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			the fact that you trust them means that
		
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			you don't want to have any input into
		
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			how they do it, when you step on
		
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			that plane you want to have no input,
		
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			in fact if you saw somebody else trying
		
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			to like, you're like hey get out of
		
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			there, let the person do their thing, with
		
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			Allah let Allah do his thing just ask
		
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			him, oh Allah give me what's best, and
		
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			if you trusted him what's best, imagine losing,
		
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			by the way, you know who did this
		
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			Bani Israel they did this in Surah Al
		
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			-Baqarah they asked Allah to give them a
		
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			certain type of food when Allah had already
		
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			given them the best kind of food, and
		
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			then Allah asked the question, are you trading
		
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			that which is worse for that which is
		
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			better, meaning are you exchanging, like you want
		
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			me to take away what I've given you
		
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			which is better and give you that which
		
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			is worse but again, they were of the
		
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			opinion that well, we know best so this
		
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			entire exercise is really about understanding that you
		
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			don't actually know best, Allah does, and if
		
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			you look back at your life, you'll see
		
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			many instances where you thought you knew best
		
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			you really thought, and then you realized, you
		
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			know what, I actually didn't and so now
		
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			it's time for me to hand it over
		
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			to Allah, how to have Khushu in Salah
		
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			that's a long one I'll give you a
		
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			couple tips, number one slow down if you
		
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			force yourself to slow down in your prayer
		
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			you will naturally have a better experience in
		
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			prayer number two, don't pray in a preoccupied
		
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			state or in a rushed state if you
		
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			pray in a state of preoccupation or being
		
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			rushed, you're not going to enjoy it number
		
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			three before you pray, my teacher told me
		
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			this, it's really beautiful, he said, before you
		
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			pray as you stand up to pray think
		
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			about, okay this prayer, I'm praying this prayer,
		
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			this Salah, for Allah, for this thing meaning,
		
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			let's say you're really grateful for something or
		
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			you're really struggling with something or you are
		
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			just in a moment and you're deeply calling
		
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			upon Allah for help or for gratitude with
		
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			that thing, you say, this Maghrib that we're
		
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			going to pray, oh Allah I'm really struggling
		
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			at my job and I'm praying this prayer
		
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			as a means of closeness to you, Allah
		
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			to help me with this, right, so almost
		
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			like make your intention, your thesis for that,
		
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			the fourth one, tip that I love is
		
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			if you pray at home, inshallah when you
		
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			pray at home make your prayer area kind
		
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			of special, have a prayer rug, perfume the
		
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			prayer rug, that's actually a really good tip
		
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			Imam Ghazali says, don't make it too distracting,
		
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			like don't pray a lot of people try
		
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			for the vibes like, I'm going to pray
		
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			in front of my window, it's like, no
		
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			don't do that because then you're like, is
		
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			that a cardinal?
		
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			or is that bird bleeding?
		
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			what's going on?
		
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			don't do that, pray in an area where
		
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			you can have khushu, you can have focus
		
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			inshallah, okay how to pray for miracles everything's
		
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			a miracle, really, I mean our existence is
		
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			miraculous just ask Allah to constantly be with
		
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			you and to take care of you and
		
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			to guide you and ask for what you
		
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			need but always leave it up to Allah
		
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			SWT Allah al-alam what if someone has
		
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			mental health issues and can't help but be
		
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			very annoyed or ungrateful, mental health is real,
		
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			but spiritual health is also real and mental
		
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			health part of the, and by the way
		
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			this is not, I got my masters in
		
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			mental health so I'm not speaking like an
		
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			imam I'm taking the kufi off, okay mental
		
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			health is often times met by spiritual truths
		
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			AA, Alcoholics Anonymous the first step that was
		
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			established in the process was belief in a
		
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			higher power right, now they've removed that for
		
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			the secularization of it, but it was there
		
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			for a reason and you'll find a lot
		
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			of mental health theorists actually were believers in
		
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			God and they often invoke the power of
		
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			belief in God as being helpful in mental
		
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			health, so I'm not denying mental health, of
		
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			course, mental health exists right, may Allah SWT,
		
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			Allah mentions in the Quran, Arabic Arabic He
		
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			tells the Prophet SAW, are you gonna are
		
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			you gonna kill yourself because they're not listening
		
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			to you because they're not you're preaching to
		
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			them and they're not listening so you're gonna
		
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			you're gonna like break yourself over this right,
		
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			meaning what, anxiety is real, absolutely but don't
		
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			think that mental health can only be solved
		
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			by mental health, no, spiritual health is part
		
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			of the equation, so person says what if
		
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			I can't be very, I can't help but
		
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			be very annoyed or ungrateful I think you're
		
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			selling yourself short I think you can be
		
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			grateful I know you can I know that
		
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			you can be a person of patience we
		
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			all have our irritations and our sensitivities some
		
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			days are worse than others don't define yourself
		
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			as this type of person, that's the first
		
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			mental block that's the first mental block, you
		
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			have the ability to be grateful, there was
		
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			a man who came to the Prophet SAW,
		
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			Ya Rasulallah my heart is hard, he's basically
		
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			trying to resign, resignation it is who I
		
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			am, Ya Rasulallah Prophet SAW said, go and
		
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			wipe the head of an orphan, touch the
		
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			head of an orphan, be close to orphans,
		
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			why because that will shatter the hardness around
		
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			your heart right, the Prophet SAW said what
		
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			you're not doing the right things you're kind
		
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			of selling yourself short you have to do
		
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			the right things okay, may Allah make it
		
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			easy when you say complain to Allah, wouldn't
		
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			that come off as grateful no because Allah
		
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			is different than us complaining to somebody else
		
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			can be in gratitude, Allah has told us
		
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			through his messenger and through his own words
		
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			he loves when we complain to him so
		
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			you go to Allah and you complain to
		
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			Allah Oh Allah, the Prophet SAW said I
		
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			complain to you and it's not ungrateful because
		
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			you're complaining to the one who can actually
		
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			do something about it but if I complain
		
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			to everybody else about my life but I
		
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			don't make dua to Allah it's coming off
		
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			as me complaining about Allah but I'm not
		
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			telling him right I just hate my job
		
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			I hate it, I hate it Habibi, no
		
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			one's getting you a different job and we
		
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			just want to eat, you know like we're
		
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			just here for dinner now if you have
		
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			a close friend, it's like hey help me,
		
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			I want to get a different job or
		
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			do you know any people, can you help
		
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			me my LinkedIn, networking, etc, etc make dua
		
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			for me, all that is productive when I
		
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			say complaining, I mean what just hot air
		
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			just the way that it is so complaining
		
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			to Allah that's a good logical thought oh
		
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			I don't want to complain at all Allah
		
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			tells you, complain to me complain to me
		
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			how do I gain patience with parents you
		
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			work very hard at it, subhanAllah and you
		
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			realize that your parents had to be patient
		
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			with you and you have to be patient
		
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			with them and it's a journey it's a
		
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			process you know, aging with your parents is
		
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			not easy you know some things that you
		
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			see are totally nonsensical but it's kind of
		
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			like when they saw you and you were
		
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			totally nonsensical and that's why when Allah mentions
		
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			the process of aging in the Quran, He
		
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			says that you started weak, then you became
		
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			strong, and then you returned back to weakness
		
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			almost as if to say, you were weak
		
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			and you have to remember what's the worst
		
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			quality again, the person who?
		
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			forgets, forgets what it was like so you
		
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			know, all the most powerful stories about parents
		
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			and parenting are the people who remember, the
		
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			children who remember what their parents were like
		
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			when they were younger and they try to
		
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			have that same mercy and that same empathy
		
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			so really work hard at it, it's not
		
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			easy, subhanAllah and the Quran is filled with
		
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			stories both of great parents and great kids
		
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			and tough parents with tough kids so that
		
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			we can understand that there's a spectrum and
		
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			as long as your relationship with your parents
		
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			is functional and healthy no one's relationship is
		
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			perfect but functional and healthy you need to
		
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			do your best to try to be as
		
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			caring and as loving as you can right,
		
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			with all of the flaws and all the
		
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			mistakes, it's fine it is what it is,
		
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			we're all human we're all human, I feel
		
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			so disconnected spiritually how should I go back,
		
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			subhanAllah just the fact that you're asking shows
		
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			you that Allah wants you back you know
		
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			a person who's not worried about this that's
		
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			the one who needs to be worried but
		
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			the person who actually has the courage to
		
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			like type this out or to like think
		
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			this and verbalize it it's Allah pulling on
		
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			your rope just calling you back, right so
		
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			the first thing is say alhamdulillah and the
		
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			next step is go to pray to Allah
		
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			and pray to Allah and when you put
		
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			your head on the floor ask Allah just
		
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			to keep you close to Him and start
		
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			your steps you know one day at a
		
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			time can you be better today than you
		
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			were yesterday can you be better tomorrow than
		
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			you were today there's a narration that says
		
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			that Sayyidina Luqman was telling his son that
		
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			life is all about being better today than
		
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			you were yesterday, that's it and Allah, all
		
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			He's looking for is that you take those
		
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			steps you're not going to be the sheikh
		
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			and this and that tomorrow right, but you
		
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			can be a person who is infinitely better
		
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			than you were just a few days ago
		
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			with these sincere moments with Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala okay we'll do one last one
		
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			because I know that we have some what
		
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			did you have for lunch that's what they
		
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			asked me I don't even know I forgot
		
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			I just had like a bunch of random
		
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			snacks Monday is not great for me for
		
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			lunch can you wear a necklace of the
		
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			ayah of the Quran there's no explicit prohibition
		
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			but there are some practical things that one
		
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			should think about when it comes to wearing
		
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			like jewelry with sacred words on it like
		
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			the name of Allah or Quran number one
		
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			is like you have to be very careful
		
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			going to the bathroom Quran as well I
		
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			would be concerned about not being in a
		
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			state of wudu and then ultimately the Quran
		
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			was not meant to become like jewelry I
		
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			know that there's different sort of like oh
		
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			well it makes me feel you know close
		
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			that's you know I guess for some people
		
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			that's fine I can understand I guess but
		
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			the Quran is meant to be a book
		
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			of guidance not a book of decoration you
		
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			know even the stuff that we put around
		
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			the space we're getting these cards plaques printed
		
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			that explain the verses so that it's still
		
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			guidance not just art because it's meant to
		
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			be a book of guidance you know and
		
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			one of the companions he said I fear
		
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			for a day when we use the book
		
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			of Allah for ornamentation instead of like implementation
		
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			and so even when you look at calligraphy
		
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			it's beautiful it inspires us but we all
		
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			want to make this an implemented thing so
		
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			while there's no explicit prohibition on wearing jewelry
		
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			that has Quran on it just think about
		
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			those things and maybe you know be a
		
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			little bit careful can you settle the pineapple
		
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			on pizza debate what do you think Abbas
		
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			no alright there he is I'm not offended
		
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			he doesn't like pineapple pizza guys there Abbas
		
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			said it he's sorry it's ok ok is
		
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			it haram to become a nail tech I
		
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			don't know what that is ok this is
		
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			where we're going to wrap it up inshallah
		
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			ok because he's always wearing a kufi you
		
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			know you can ask him tomorrow night at
		
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			the first halaqa at Valley Rites of Islam
		
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			inshallah may Allah accept from us you know
		
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			anytime you finish a course of study Allah
		
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			sends his blessings so we ask Allah to
		
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			accept all of our du'as barakallahu feekum
		
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			everybody take care inshallah maghrib is in a
		
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			couple minutes so we're going to head to
		
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			the musallah for those of you who sat
		
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			on the back jacks can you help us
		
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			line them up and for the chairs inshallah
		
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			if you could just help us stack them
		
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			and we're going to head to pray inshallah
		
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			in just 60 seconds new
		
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