AbdelRahman Murphy – Heartwork Guided Steps To The Path Of Allah #15

AbdelRahman Murphy
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The importance of finding the right conclusion when following a Prophet's advice is emphasized, as it is essential for everyone to express their love for one another. The success of storytelling in helping people understand their beliefs and actions is also emphasized. The importance of fasting and sharing small businesses is also emphasized, as it can lead to negative emotions and embarrassment. The negative impact of lying on one's health and behavior is discussed, along with potential consequences of lying.
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Okay, assalamu alaikum, bismillah walhamdulillah, wassalatu wassalamu ala

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rasulullah wa ala adihi wa ashabihi ajma'in,

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welcome home everybody.

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It's good to see you, alhamdulillah.

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Okay, tonight is the shortest heartwork of the

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year, this happens every year, because the sunset

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time has come in early.

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So we're gonna insha'Allah go until the

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couple minutes before the Iqama and then we're

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gonna head over.

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Iqama is at 7.45 insha'Allah, so

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we'll make our way over there.

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So we'll jump right in insha'Allah with

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tonight's topic.

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If anyone has any questions for the Slido,

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there insha'Allah.

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Alrighty, so Imam Muhasibi, we're on this journey

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together, all of us.

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If this is your first time here, then

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welcome, welcome to the journey.

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For those of you who have been coming

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or listening, welcome back.

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So we're on this journey together to find

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our path, on the guided path to Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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Imam Muhasibi writes this book called Ar-Risalat

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Al-Mustarshideen, which is the book in which

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he said, this is a small letter, a

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short letter, for those who want to be

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rightly guided to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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And he's been talking a lot about some

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of the traits that are important on this

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journey.

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I think one thing that's really important to

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realize as you read through these traits is

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that you recognize that the things that he

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says are important are not things that are

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very difficult to do.

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It's a very important thing to realize.

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A lot of times when we think about,

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when we conceptualize our own path forward in

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Islam, we sometimes become very hesitant because we

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think that it's going to be too far

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out of reach, and I'm already so far

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behind, and there's no way that I can

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make it up.

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And we put ourselves at a disadvantage, completely

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like mentally self-inflicted.

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But if you look at what Imam Muhasibi

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is saying, he's mentioning very, very attainable goals,

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very basic things.

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I'm not saying basic to put them down.

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What I'm saying is that they're all attainable.

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If a person sincerely reaches for them, they'll

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be able to get them.

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He's not saying that if you want to

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come close to Allah, you have to fast

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every Monday and Thursday.

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He's not saying you have to finish an

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entire Quran every month.

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He's not saying these things.

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All he's saying is watch your relationship with

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Allah and His Messenger.

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Make sure that you prioritize them above all

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else.

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Be careful not to have a practice of

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faith that is two-sided, that is two

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-faced.

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Be careful to be a person that does

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not tell others to do what they themselves

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do not do, etc.

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So all of these things are a very,

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very introductory basic level of spiritual attainment.

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Now, the last section that we talked about

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last week was the section on nasiha or

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shura, the importance and the imperative in Islam

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of being a person that both gives advice

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and also receives advice.

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And we mentioned that this is one of

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the most important things that the community has

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to offer.

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And one of the reasons why it's important

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is because only people who love each other

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would take time out of their day and

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would genuinely, sincerely try to advise one another.

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This is part of what we believe to

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be a pillar in our religion.

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If we didn't care about each other, we

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would never, ever try to advise each other

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at all.

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We would watch each other and the demise

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of one another.

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We'd see people stumble and fall.

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Not giving someone advice is like seeing someone

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trip and fall and drop everything and not

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offering to help.

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And not taking advice is like dropping everything.

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And when someone says, Hey, can I help

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you?

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You say, No, I don't want your help.

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Both of those situations are absurd.

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We would never think of that as normal.

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So advice is essential.

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Advice is absolutely essential in terms of climbing

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the path to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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And he mentions this.

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And he says, just to briefly wrap that

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up, he says that one who gives you

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advice is displaying their love for you.

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And one who hides advice from you is

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actually showing their hatred of you, their betrayal

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of you.

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So don't be the person that hides and

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don't be the person that holds giving advice.

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He mentions Umar ibn Khattab radiallahu anhu says,

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There is no good in a community or

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in a family or any group of people

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that do not sincerely advise one another.

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And we talked about the conditions for advice,

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right?

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Let me go through it one more time.

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The conditions for advising someone is that it

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has to come from a place of love.

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It has to be constructive, not destructive.

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It's very easy to break somebody down.

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Anybody can walk up to somebody and say,

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hey, you're doing that wrong.

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But how many of us can show somebody

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that there's a better way to do something

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without making them feel embarrassed or shy or

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humiliated?

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That's the creativity that we're talking about.

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Can we be creative in the way that

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we offer advice?

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To the point where the person actually is

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totally unaware that the advice is being given.

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Number two is that the advice should measure

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with and be commensurate with the actual need

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or the flaw.

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If somebody made a small mistake, then I

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don't have to dump an entire bucket of

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advice on them.

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If somebody made a small mistake, I can

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use the dropper and I can give them

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advice that measures to the mistake that they

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made.

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Likewise, if somebody is making a really big

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mistake, then I should not approach them with

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the dropper.

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If somebody is doing something very, very horrible

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to their family, to their friends, whatever, then

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it might require that I approach them in

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a more serious way.

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And the third thing that is mentioned by

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some of the scholars, and I know we

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have others, is that you have to make

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sure that when you advise 99 times out

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of 100, that advice has to be given

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in private.

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Very rarely.

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I know a lot of us say, oh,

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well, you know, it's important to advise, but

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we have to make sure we give advice

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in private because that's part of preserving someone's

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dignity.

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And then the last step that we talked

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about in one of his books, he says,

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if giving the advice, this is a very

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important one, if giving the advice to somebody

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is going to push them away even further

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and push them into a place even worse

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than the place that they're in, then don't

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do it yet.

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Don't do it yet.

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It might not be the right time, or

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you might not be the right person, or

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that person might need a different environment.

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You know, there's so many factors.

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You really have to be a very thoughtful

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person.

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There might be times where you know what's

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wrong, but you saying it is going to

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trigger that person, right?

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And in that moment, what's the more important

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thing?

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Do you want to be right or do

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you want to make sure the person gets

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the advice?

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If you want to be right, then that's

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a sense of narcissism that is going to

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be tough to beat.

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If all it is is about me winning,

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man, that's going to be tough.

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But if you really want to help the

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person, it might mean that you give the

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advice through somebody else even though you're not

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going to get any recognition at all.

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There's a very famous story.

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Abu Hanifa, rahimahullah, is a very famous scholar,

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and he was one of the great imams

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of the four legal schools.

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Abu Hanifa is like one of the goats,

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okay?

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And his mother used to actually refuse to

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learn Islam from him.

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So I want you to imagine he's teaching

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like thousands, tens of thousands of people.

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And then even after his passing, right, his

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students continue to teach, and now he's benefiting

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how many people?

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And his mother was like, no, I'm interested

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in that imam, the other one, not you,

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right?

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I know I just triggered a lot of

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us.

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There's a lot of doctors whose parents don't

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go to them, etc.

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So Abu Hanifa, and for a while he

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was confused, like why is my own mother

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not interested in learning from me?

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But then at the end of the day

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you're like, you know what, probably because she

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cleaned me when I was a baby and

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yelled at me.

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All my flaws are exposed to my mother,

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right, my family.

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Our families know who we really are.

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Everyone around us admires us, but our families

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are like, oh yeah, that one?

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Okay.

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So the guy who Abu Hanifa's mother used

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to go to to learn from, when he

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didn't know the answer, who did he go

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to?

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He went to Abu Hanifa, very good.

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So he would go to Abu Hanifa.

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So he'd say, yeah, imam, your mother asked

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me a question, and I don't know the

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answer.

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And he's like, what's the question?

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And he'd give him the answer.

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And then he would give the answer to

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that sheikh.

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That sheikh would go and tell Abu Hanifa's

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mom, and then she would later come and

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say, he's so smart.

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And she would praise the other guy.

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And he would, again, in that moment, like

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how many of us would be like, you

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know, check the footnotes, you know, like who

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told him, ask him who taught.

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But subhanallah, in that moment, he just said,

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yeah, you're right, he's very smart.

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That's why you go to him, right.

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He's the one, you know.

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And in those moments, again, the reason these

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stories are so powerful is because they're cute,

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they're short, they're funny, they're real.

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It's history.

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But the reason why they're so powerful is

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because if anyone had a right to feel,

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you know, offended or whatever, it'd be somebody

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of great stature.

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But if it's you or I, and this

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is like a day-to-day, you know,

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daily life sort of relationship, then don't let

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your ego get in the way of helping

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in the right way.

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You know, if somebody else is better at

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advising, then go through that person.

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Don't let it be you.

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Don't block the khair with your own ego,

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okay.

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So those are the four ways.

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Those are the four things.

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It has to be constructive, not destructive.

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It has to be measured with the actual

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flaw.

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It should be in private, not in public.

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And it should be if you give it

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and it's going to be more destructive, then

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it's better to withhold for that moment, right.

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If you give it and it's going to

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push the person away, don't do it.

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Don't do it at all, okay.

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Now, why did he talk about nasiha?

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Because he said in everyone's journey to Allah,

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nasiha is another step on that path.

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But once a person has jumped on that

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step or has walked upon that step, there

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are conditions and there are other steps that

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will dictate whether or not they'll be successful.

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How will a person be able to accept

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advice?

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Raise your hand if you find it tough

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to be advised.

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Raise your hand if it's difficult when someone

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comes to you.

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What's the typical response when you're advised?

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Defensiveness, right, whatever, what do you know?

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Defensiveness, maybe there's a lot of rationalizing, a

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lot of explanation, okay.

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This is actually an indication of something that

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could be pretty problematic.

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And he mentions it here.

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He says that the next step on joining

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the path of Allah subhana wa ta'ala

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is that you have to be a person

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that prefers the truth over yourself.

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You have to be a person that in

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all scenarios, you prefer the truth.

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You don't prefer your own opinion.

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You prefer what Allah subhana wa ta'ala

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has sent down as the truth.

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And this, there's so many stories in the

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seerah where this is demonstrated.

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Where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam himself,

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do you know that there were stories and

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moments in which they were trying to come

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up with an opinion or a solution on

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how to handle certain scenarios?

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And you have like Abu Bakr, right, you

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have Umar radiallahu anhu, of course you have

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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You have all these companions.

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Now, if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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is receiving revelation from Allah, naturally, everyone's gonna

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defer to him.

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But there are moments and there are instances

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where he would ask for their advice.

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He would say, what do you guys think?

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And there were times where he sallallahu alayhi

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wa sallam was inclining in one direction towards

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one decision.

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And there were some companions going towards the

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other side.

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And Allah would later reveal that the other

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companions were on the correct thought trajectory.

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Away from the one that even the Messenger

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of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was originally

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opining toward, that he thought that he was

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going towards.

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What's the lesson in this?

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Now, normally, all of us would say, oh

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man, this is like a huge indictment against

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Islam.

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Because if you assume that the Prophet is

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a Prophet of God, then he has to

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be absolutely, his opinions have to be absolutely

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correct 100% of the time, every single

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time.

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Yes or no?

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That's the natural thought.

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But remember, his job, ayatollah sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam, is that he's a human being but

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he's a messenger.

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And so Allah is teaching him and giving

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him the milestones of messengership along the way.

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And one of those milestones is preferring the

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truth over yourself.

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Preferring the truth over yourself.

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Imagine, the Prophet ayatollah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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not picking the right answer immediately.

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What a shot to the ego that would

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be.

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What a shot to the ego that would

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be.

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When somebody makes a mistake, the first thing

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they want to do is cover it up.

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Oh, that's not what I meant.

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Oh, I was mistaken.

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Oh, this and that.

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The Prophet ayatollah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when

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the answer came down and it corrected his

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original opinion, he didn't establish it, he was

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thinking about it.

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But when it redirected his original opinion, whatever

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Allah says, I'm going to uphold.

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So this is the next step.

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And if a person can't do this, no

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amount of advice is ever going to work.

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No amount of relationship is ever going to

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work.

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The person themselves has to be willing to

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admit that this is the truth and I'm

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going to submit myself to this truth.

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If you look at all of the other

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tribes and other people and other nations that

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rejected Prophets, no matter how clear the miracle

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was, could you imagine?

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We live in a time where people doubt

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the existence of Allah, they doubt the existence

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of God, the reality of Prophethood and Revelation.

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Could you imagine if there was a Prophet

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ayatollah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam amongst us and

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he pointed at the moon and it split?

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Would you believe?

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Yes or no?

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Of course.

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Everyone here is like, ashhadu an la ilaha

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illallah, you're already Muslim, you're fine, don't worry.

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Of course.

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You see these visual miracles and you're like,

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oh my goodness.

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If you were in the battle of Badr

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and you saw angels coming down from the

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heavens, fighting in the battlefield, taking, you know,

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murking these fools, like what would you, how

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would you react?

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You'd be like, I believe, I believe, amantu

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billah.

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Isn't it crazy, subhanallah, that these people were

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so truthphobic, patent pending, okay?

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They were so truthphobic that they would actually

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visually witness something.

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You know, we're in a time where we're

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not visually witnessing it necessarily.

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They would visually see it.

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They would experience it.

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They would be able to look at the

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Prophet himself ayatollah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and

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watch his miracles real time.

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But their addiction to their opinion was stronger

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than their ability to see the truth.

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And this is why we make the dua.

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You guys repeat after me.

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Allahumma arini alhaqqa haqqa warzuqna tiba'a.

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That dua is so beautiful.

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Oh Allah, allow me to see the truth

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as truth, that's step one.

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And oh Allah, give me the good provision

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of being able to follow it.

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Because just knowing truth doesn't mean that you

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follow it.

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How many of us know how many times

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a day we have to pray?

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Say it out loud.

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How many times a day?

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I'm not gonna ask the second question.

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How many of us struggle?

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Don't raise your hand but think.

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How many of us struggle?

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We know five times a day.

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But when it comes to certain times, we

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struggle.

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So knowing truth is not enough.

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Warzuqna tiba'a.

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And then we say Allahumma repeat.

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Arini albaatila baatilan warzuqna ishtinaba.

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Oh Allah, grant me the ability to see

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falsehood as what it is, as a lie,

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and give me the good fortune and glad

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tiding of being able to stay away from

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it.

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This is a prophetic dua.

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The Prophet ﷺ himself would pray for this.

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Another dua that we make is, you don't

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have to say this one, Allahumma arini haqiqatal

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ashya kama hiya.

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Oh Allah, let me see things as they

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really are.

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Because this life, this dunya, as Allah ta

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'ala described in the Qur'an, when he

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says maa gharraka bi rabbikal kareem.

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What has confused you?

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What has tricked you?

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This life is nothing but trickery.

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This life is nothing but delusion.

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No offense if you're from certain parts.

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When people ask me, I would go to

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like Southern California.

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You go to like this place like Irvine,

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you go to like Rodeo Drive and all

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these things.

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It's crazy because you see all of the

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beautiful...

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I'm trying to think of an example in

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Dallas.

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We don't really have much.

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You go to North Park Mall and you

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see the beauty of North Park Mall.

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And then you go to Denton.

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You're like, oh, this is the reality of

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Dallas.

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No, it's all jokes.

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But you go to a place like Irvine,

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California.

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You see Beverly Hills.

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You see all these places.

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You know what's crazy?

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You see the storefront and the amount of

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money they put there and the product and

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the window shopping.

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But then you go to the back alley

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and you see the dumpster and you see

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the garbage and the rats and the trash.

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The smart person is able to know that

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that piece of earth, that area has no

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inherent value more than the area in the

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middle of Iowa or in the middle of

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Kansas.

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No inherent value more.

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It's just what we've made it to be.

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So we ask Allah, Oh Allah, allow us

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to see things as they are.

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Don't make us become people that are so

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confused and so intoxicated and so impressed or

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so impressionable.

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Like, oh wow, everything is so nice.

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SubhanAllah, everything is made from dust and dirt.

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Everything, if you reduce it to its base

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particle, is the same as you.

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The thing that makes everything different and special

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is people's attachment or things reference point to

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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That's why the masjid is nicer than any

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other establishment in this place.

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That's why the most beautiful place on earth

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is known as Makkah al-Mukarramah.

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That's why the most peaceful city on earth,

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Madinah al-Munawwara.

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Even though it's in the middle of a

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desert.

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If you drive 30 minutes outside of Madinah,

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30 minutes outside of Makkah, you know what

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it is?

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Nothing.

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Desert.

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And for some reason, baboons.

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I don't know why they're indigenous.

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I'm not joking.

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When you see it, you're gonna remember me

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now.

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You're welcome, right?

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There are tribes of monkeys.

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And all you see, subhanAllah, in between these

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two cities, when you go there for Umrah,

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may Allah grant us, you see barren land.

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And one of my teachers says something really

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powerful.

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He said the reason why Allah placed Makkah

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and Madinah in the most barren of land,

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says what?

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بِوَادٍ غَيْرِ ذِي زَرْعٍ He described it in

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the Qur'an.

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In a place with nothing.

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Nothing grows in Makkah.

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It's just rocks.

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The reason why Allah put it there is

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to show us that in the middle of

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nothing, Allah can place the most important thing.

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And the middle of what we think is

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so important, Allah can show us that it's

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actually nothing.

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Right?

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You go to these places and you realize,

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I've had it switched the whole time.

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So Allah, may Allah show us the truth

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is truth.

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So here Imam al-Hasibi says, if you

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don't recognize the truth, eventually Allah takes your

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ability to recognize it away.

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If you don't recognize it, Allah takes it

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away.

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Just like you don't appreciate what you got

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till it's gone.

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So he says, whenever you see the truth,

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respect it by recognizing it.

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Even if you're not perfect.

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Even if you can't follow it exactly.

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But don't ever deny that it's the truth.

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Don't ever say no.

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Say, I'm not there yet.

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But this is the truth.

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Islam is the truth.

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The sunnah is the right way.

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The Prophet ﷺ is the best example.

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I am a human being who's flawed.

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But Allah and His Messenger are exactly what

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I know that I should be following.

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Don't ever ever discount that from yourself.

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And then he continues.

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And he says the next step.

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And this is what we're gonna focus on

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tonight.

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Is he says, be careful.

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Well, let me share what he says exactly.

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He says, honesty leads to righteousness.

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If you're honest, if you're an honest person,

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internally honest, and also with what you say

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and how you speak, then that leads to

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righteousness.

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And righteousness leads to Allah's pleasure.

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Lying leads to a complete disregard of everything.

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And that behavior brings about the anger of

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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I started the talk tonight by talking about

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how Imam Muhasibi's roadmap is one that is,

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you know, definitely it's comprehensive.

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But in no way, shape or form is

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it incredibly difficult.

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This is a perfect example.

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On his list of things to worry about,

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Imam Muhasibi says, be truthful and don't lie.

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Be a truthful person and don't lie.

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Now, I know all of us, to some

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degree, we consider ourselves to be truthful people.

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But if we were to be honest, right?

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No pun intended.

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If we were to be honest, if we

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thought about deeply, how easy it is for

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us to lie.

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Or how simple and how smoothly we bend

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the truth.

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Things that we don't even consider lies anymore.

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What's a lie that we tell that we

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don't factor in or consider a lie?

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Anyone share one?

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Okay, I'm going to assume it's your friend.

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How about that?

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What's a lie that your friend tells?

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I'm on the way.

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There we go.

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I'm on the way.

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Right?

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Why don't you share your location?

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Ah, my battery's low.

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Alright, I'm on my way.

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I just left.

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Okay, what else?

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That's very good.

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What else?

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What else is a lie that we tell?

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Yeah?

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Yes.

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Your haircut looks fine.

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Are you talking to me personally or what's

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going on?

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Your haircut looks fine.

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Yeah.

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We'll talk about some of the exceptions for

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lying.

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That actually might qualify, right?

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Okay, what else?

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Yes.

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I'll pay you when I get paid.

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Oh wow, we got a little personal there.

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If anyone owes him money, right, that is

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a, you just got hit by a stray.

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Not so stray, okay?

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I'll pay you when I get paid.

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What else?

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What else?

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What's a lie that we have accepted as

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not a lie?

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It's just we think, oh, it's normal.

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Everyone says it.

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Cheating in school.

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That's nervous laughter.

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That's not funny laughter.

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Cheating in school.

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Absolutely.

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ChatGPT.

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Ah, there we go.

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Everyone's like, Ya Rabb.

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Can you imagine?

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Like you did everything well in life and

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ChatGPT is the thing that took away your

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good deeds?

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Okay, so listen to this.

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This is an important section.

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Why?

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Imam Ghazali, he very famously said when he

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described the thing that will take someone to

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hellfire.

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He said a lot of people live their

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life looking for the big boulder, the big

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boulder sins.

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These giant sins that are easily identifiable and

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easily recognizable.

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He said 99% of the people going

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to Jahannam, to hellfire, may Allah protect us,

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99% of them are not going to

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go to Jahannam because of the big boulder

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sins.

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Those are not the ones that are going

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to pull the most people in.

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He said the ones that are going to

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trip people up are the tiny pebbles that

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aggregate and that accumulate one after another.

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And this is a beautiful analogy because the

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big boulder is obviously a lot more recognizable

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and when you recognize it and when you

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do that sin because it's so big and

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recognizable you make Tawbah, you repent for it.

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But the small sins are the ones that

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we do and we forget that we've even

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done them.

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One dua my teacher said that gave me

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goosebumps.

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He was making dua one night Ramadan and

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we were all in class and we were

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making dua with him.

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He said, O Allah, forgive us for the

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sins that we've forgotten that we've committed.

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Forgive us for the sins that we've forgotten

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that we've even committed.

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Because every mistake, every sin that we've committed

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requires repentance, whether it's specific or general.

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Imagine.

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Imagine being a person that's committed so many

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small sins that we became desensitized and we

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forgot.

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And we forgot.

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I don't know if anyone here has ever

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like counted your calories for the day to

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see what they've eaten.

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Or I don't know how many of you

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like watch your spending and log into your

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credit card or your bank account to see

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your transactions.

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There's a common phenomenon that happens and that

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is, tell me if this is correct, with

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credit cards, with calories, with anything that you're

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trying to count, you tend to underestimate how

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much you've spent until you see what you've

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spent.

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And then you realize and you look when

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you see that big number on your credit

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card balance, you say, what is that?

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And then you go and you go and

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you filter, do this, filter the transactions by

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the amount.

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No, Wallahi, listen, I'm not joking.

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This is a really, really important example.

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Filter by the highest amount and look and

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see what you find.

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You're not going to see a lot.

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If the total bill is a few thousand

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dollars, you're not going to see one transaction

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for a few thousand dollars.

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You're going to see one for a few

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hundred dollars, another for a couple hundred dollars,

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a few for one hundred dollars.

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And then you're going to see a lot

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under those, a lot.

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And those added up.

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And when you combined all of those, it

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presented you with this massive debt that now

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you have to figure out, can I pay

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it?

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And the only reason why that debt even

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accumulated like that was because we underestimated the

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effect of the small spending, the small purchase.

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It's the same thing with sins.

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Every glance of desire that we make to

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the opposite gender, every word that we utter

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that is backbiting or untrue, every single time

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that we say something that is hurtful to

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somebody, every prayer that we delay for no

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good reason, I'm not talking about good reason,

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I'm saying no good reason.

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Everything that we, it all adds up.

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And this is not, by the way, Allah

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does not exaggerate bad deeds.

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He exaggerates good deeds.

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You do some small good deed, Allah treats

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us like I treat my kindergarten daughter.

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Wow!

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Mama, good job!

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Exactly, hang the painting up.

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Allah does that for us.

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We sit here, we're like, Alhamdulillah.

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Allah is like 3,000 good deeds.

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We don't deserve 3,000 for saying that

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once, but Allah is so kind.

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But if we sit here and say something

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that's reprehensible, Allah is so merciful, He only

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counts it once.

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This is a special mercy upon the Ummah

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of the Prophet ﷺ.

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That Allah multiplies the good, and Allah Ta

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'ala does not multiply the evil.

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But even that being the case, there's so

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many small things that we might do, that

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the aggregate of all of them could topple

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us over.

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One of those things that's very, very difficult

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is being truthful and not lying.

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And these are the things that are very

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critical.

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I'm gonna share with you some narrations.

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The Prophet ﷺ, he said in a hadith,

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let me share with you some of these

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hadith to show us the power of what

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this dishonesty can do.

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The Prophet ﷺ, Aisha, his wife, she narrates,

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she says, مَا كَانَ خُلُقًا أَبْغَدَ إِلَىٰ رَسُولِ

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اللَّهِ There was no trait that was more

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detestable and more hated to the Prophet ﷺ

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مِنَ الْكَذِبِ More than lying.

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To what degree?

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Are you ready for this?

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Now the Prophet ﷺ, by the way, he

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forgave people very quickly.

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That was his general disposition.

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Somebody would do something, I mean, he was

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so kind.

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You know, there was one time a person

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came to him, he had just received a

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new garment, a new shirt, a new shawl,

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and he walked out of the shop.

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I want you to imagine you just went

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shopping, you just hit up a sale, you're

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walking out of the store, and somebody goes,

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what did you buy?

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You said this.

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They go, oh, I really like that.

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And they look at you like dot, dot,

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dot.

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Can I have it?

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That happened to the Prophet ﷺ.

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He just received a new shawl, a new

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gift.

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And a person saw him and said, Ya

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Rasool Allah, I really like that.

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And the Prophet ﷺ took it off of

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his shoulders and put it onto his shoulders.

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Gave it to him.

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So kind.

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There was no trait.

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That kind of behavior for us is like,

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you know, you're like smiling, you're like, enjoy

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it, you know?

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Oh, I'm so hungry.

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You're like, me too.

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And they're like, do you have food?

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You're like, I do have my food, yes.

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And then you have to share.

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And you're like, it's like pulling teeth.

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And afterwards you feel good about it, but

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in the beginning you were a dirtbag.

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One hundred percent, right?

00:31:01 --> 00:31:03

You don't want to share those fries, right?

00:31:03 --> 00:31:04

The drinks weren't free refills.

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The milkshake, no one refills those.

00:31:06 --> 00:31:08

So the point being is, listen, this is

00:31:08 --> 00:31:09

very critical.

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The Prophet ﷺ was very easygoing.

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He forgave everybody for everything ﷺ.

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But listen to this.

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Aisha رضي الله عنها, she says, there was

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no deed that he hated most, more than

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lying.

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وَلَقَدْ كَانَ الرَّجُلُ يُحَدِّثُ عَنْهِ النَّبِي ﷺ بِالْكَذْبَةِ

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He said, if there was a person that

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would speak a lie in the presence of

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the Prophet ﷺ, and the lie would be

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established.

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He says, فَمَا يَزَالُ فِي نَفْسِهِ The Prophet

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ﷺ, his soul could not rest.

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حَتَّى يَعْلَمَ أَنَّهُ قَدْ أَهْدَحْذَ مِنْهَا تَوْبَةً Until

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he knew that that man who told the

00:31:56 --> 00:31:58

lie repented for the lie that he told.

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The same individual that would let major aggressions

00:32:07 --> 00:32:12

against himself go with no thought, not even

00:32:12 --> 00:32:16

remembering it, hiding it from everybody so that

00:32:16 --> 00:32:18

nobody would make this person feel bad.

00:32:19 --> 00:32:20

Somebody would come up to him and treat

00:32:20 --> 00:32:23

him poorly, and within a second the Prophet

00:32:23 --> 00:32:23

ﷺ would let him go.

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But if a person lied, if a person

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told a lie in front of the Prophet

00:32:28 --> 00:32:33

ﷺ, he would literally ask, did you repent

00:32:33 --> 00:32:33

yet?

00:32:34 --> 00:32:36

Did you make tawbah?

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The person would see him and say, did

00:32:38 --> 00:32:40

you go to Allah and ask for forgiveness?

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Because lying is no joke.

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Lying is very serious.

00:32:45 --> 00:32:47

Another one, and to show you again.

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There was food that was brought to the

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Prophet ﷺ, and he was surrounded by some

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companions.

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Amongst them was Asma'a bint Yazid ﷺ.

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The food was presented, and the Prophet ﷺ,

00:33:06 --> 00:33:09

as was his practice, when people gave him

00:33:09 --> 00:33:11

food, he would pass them around.

00:33:11 --> 00:33:12

He would never eat from it first, right?

00:33:13 --> 00:33:16

So he presented it, and everybody was hungry.

00:33:17 --> 00:33:19

But people, out of deference to the Prophet

00:33:19 --> 00:33:23

ﷺ, out of respect, they would pass, they

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would say, no, no, please, please, you go

00:33:24 --> 00:33:24

first, right?

00:33:25 --> 00:33:26

In Urdu they call it what?

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Takalluf.

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So they'd be very takallufi.

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Is that a word?

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Okay, so...

00:33:32 --> 00:33:34

Did I just whitewash your language?

00:33:34 --> 00:33:35

Okay, so...

00:33:37 --> 00:33:43

So this Subhanallah, this hadith says, أُوتِيَ النَّبِيُّ

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ﷺ بِالتَّعَامِنِ فَأَعْرَضَ عَلَيْنَا فَقُلْنَا لَا نَشْتَهِيهِ That

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it would be presented to us, and we

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would say, we do not want it.

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We don't want it.

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We're good.

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We don't want food.

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And they were like really hungry.

00:34:00 --> 00:34:05

The Prophet ﷺ said, لَا تَجْمَعَنَّا جُوعًا وَكَذِبًا

00:34:06 --> 00:34:07

It's already bad enough that you're hungry.

00:34:09 --> 00:34:12

Don't join the discomfort of hunger with the

00:34:12 --> 00:34:13

discomfort of lying.

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Like just keep it real.

00:34:17 --> 00:34:18

Don't lie.

00:34:18 --> 00:34:19

Now, I know some of us are like,

00:34:19 --> 00:34:21

wait, but they were lying in a good

00:34:21 --> 00:34:21

way.

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But this was not good.

00:34:23 --> 00:34:25

This behavior was not good.

00:34:26 --> 00:34:28

The behavior of passing up on some food

00:34:28 --> 00:34:29

when you're really hungry.

00:34:30 --> 00:34:31

For the sake of what?

00:34:32 --> 00:34:32

For false piety?

00:34:33 --> 00:34:33

No, eat.

00:34:33 --> 00:34:35

The Prophet ﷺ is giving you food, you

00:34:35 --> 00:34:35

eat.

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The guest's responsibility is to take what the

00:34:39 --> 00:34:40

host gives them.

00:34:40 --> 00:34:43

If the host gives you water, don't be

00:34:43 --> 00:34:45

like, I don't want it, no thanks.

00:34:45 --> 00:34:47

I already drank some on the way here.

00:34:48 --> 00:34:50

How much of a front is that to

00:34:50 --> 00:34:51

the host?

00:34:51 --> 00:34:54

And so he says, don't put together food,

00:34:54 --> 00:34:56

your hunger, and lying.

00:34:56 --> 00:34:56

Another narration.

00:34:57 --> 00:34:59

On the Day of Judgment, Abdullah ibn Mas

00:34:59 --> 00:35:01

'ud, he narrates that the Prophet ﷺ says

00:35:03 --> 00:35:07

that for every person on the Day of

00:35:07 --> 00:35:09

Judgment, there will be a banner above their

00:35:09 --> 00:35:10

head.

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And they will describe what kind of person

00:35:13 --> 00:35:13

they were.

00:35:14 --> 00:35:15

You know, we just had the Olympics that

00:35:15 --> 00:35:15

we saw in the summer.

00:35:16 --> 00:35:18

You got the opening ceremonies, a little weird.

00:35:18 --> 00:35:21

But generally, when they're introducing the countries, you

00:35:21 --> 00:35:22

have the banners, right?

00:35:22 --> 00:35:26

The announcements, what country they're coming in, right?

00:35:27 --> 00:35:28

And so on the Day of Judgment, each

00:35:28 --> 00:35:30

individual is going to have their announcement, their

00:35:30 --> 00:35:30

banner.

00:35:31 --> 00:35:34

This person fasted, this person prayed, taraweeh, this

00:35:34 --> 00:35:35

person gave sadaqa, etc.

00:35:36 --> 00:35:37

But it's also gonna work the other way,

00:35:38 --> 00:35:42

in which every person who was treacherous, every

00:35:42 --> 00:35:44

person who thought they got away with it,

00:35:44 --> 00:35:45

this is lying, it's very specific.

00:35:46 --> 00:35:47

Every person who thought they got away with

00:35:47 --> 00:35:50

it, it's going to be announced that their

00:35:50 --> 00:35:51

sin is there.

00:35:52 --> 00:35:53

And on their banner is going to be

00:35:53 --> 00:35:55

every single person that they lied to.

00:35:56 --> 00:35:58

All of their treachery, all of their betrayals

00:35:58 --> 00:36:00

are going to be announced.

00:36:00 --> 00:36:02

May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect us.

00:36:02 --> 00:36:04

And the last hadith that I'll share is

00:36:04 --> 00:36:06

that we all know fasting.

00:36:06 --> 00:36:08

Can you guys believe Ramadan is six months

00:36:08 --> 00:36:08

away?

00:36:09 --> 00:36:11

I know this because at roots we're planning

00:36:11 --> 00:36:12

for it already, right?

00:36:13 --> 00:36:14

Six months, may Allah give us Ramadan.

00:36:15 --> 00:36:16

It's such an amazing experience.

00:36:17 --> 00:36:17

Ramadan is six months away.

00:36:17 --> 00:36:20

We know that fasting, that Allah ta'ala

00:36:20 --> 00:36:24

said, assawmu li wa ana ajzeebi That fasting

00:36:24 --> 00:36:25

is for me and only I can reward

00:36:25 --> 00:36:25

it.

00:36:26 --> 00:36:27

So we know that the status of fasting

00:36:27 --> 00:36:28

is very high, right?

00:36:29 --> 00:36:32

Did you know, and fasting, it clears away

00:36:32 --> 00:36:32

all sins.

00:36:33 --> 00:36:35

Like if a person fasts, all the sins

00:36:35 --> 00:36:36

get wiped away.

00:36:36 --> 00:36:37

Right?

00:36:37 --> 00:36:38

Like a scrub daddy.

00:36:38 --> 00:36:39

Like it just cleans it up.

00:36:40 --> 00:36:41

Like that Don Power Wash.

00:36:41 --> 00:36:42

It just cleans it up.

00:36:43 --> 00:36:43

Okay?

00:36:44 --> 00:36:50

But, there are two things that even fasting

00:36:50 --> 00:36:51

gets affected by.

00:36:54 --> 00:36:58

The Prophet ﷺ said, As-siyamu junnatun ma

00:36:58 --> 00:37:02

lam yakhrikuhu Fasting is a shield for the

00:37:02 --> 00:37:04

one who does not damage their shield.

00:37:05 --> 00:37:10

Qeela wa bima yakhrikuhu ya Rasulullah How is

00:37:10 --> 00:37:13

it possible for somebody to damage the shield

00:37:13 --> 00:37:14

of fasting?

00:37:14 --> 00:37:18

The Prophet ﷺ says, bi kadhbin aghibatan That

00:37:18 --> 00:37:21

if a person lies or if they backbite

00:37:21 --> 00:37:23

somebody, as powerful as a good deed as

00:37:23 --> 00:37:27

fasting is, lying and backbiting can destroy it.

00:37:27 --> 00:37:27

Okay?

00:37:27 --> 00:37:30

Now we'll talk about, the scholars have written

00:37:30 --> 00:37:34

a beautiful explanation of why lying is so

00:37:34 --> 00:37:35

problematic.

00:37:35 --> 00:37:37

I'll give you the first one, and then

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we'll go next week with the continuation.

00:37:39 --> 00:37:42

Lying, a lot of us think, there are

00:37:42 --> 00:37:44

so many sins that are worse than lying.

00:37:45 --> 00:37:49

Murder, stealing, zina, like all, we can think

00:37:49 --> 00:37:50

of so many.

00:37:51 --> 00:37:51

Right?

00:37:51 --> 00:37:52

And the answer is yes.

00:37:53 --> 00:37:56

In terms of the actual sin, there's no

00:37:56 --> 00:38:01

doubt, that lying on its impact is less

00:38:01 --> 00:38:02

than some of these sins.

00:38:03 --> 00:38:03

There's no doubt.

00:38:04 --> 00:38:08

But the effect of lying is worse because

00:38:08 --> 00:38:09

we don't take it seriously.

00:38:10 --> 00:38:13

If somebody commits murder, it's very serious.

00:38:13 --> 00:38:15

If somebody commits zina, it's very serious.

00:38:15 --> 00:38:18

Somebody steals, it's a serious crime.

00:38:18 --> 00:38:19

We take it seriously.

00:38:19 --> 00:38:22

But if somebody lies, I'm on my way.

00:38:24 --> 00:38:24

Right?

00:38:24 --> 00:38:25

I already left.

00:38:26 --> 00:38:27

Let me borrow your lab.

00:38:28 --> 00:38:29

Let me copy this.

00:38:29 --> 00:38:30

I have to write this thing.

00:38:30 --> 00:38:31

Chat GPT.

00:38:31 --> 00:38:33

I'm not feeling good today.

00:38:33 --> 00:38:33

I can't come in.

00:38:34 --> 00:38:34

Right?

00:38:35 --> 00:38:37

All of these, because we don't register them

00:38:37 --> 00:38:39

as heavy, they're very heavy.

00:38:39 --> 00:38:41

The first thing the scholars say that it

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does is it makes a person lose the

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ability to appreciate that lying itself is a

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negative thing.

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Thus, they become what?

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We say in English, we call it a

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pathological liar.

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Do you guys remember when you were a

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kid and you first lied for the first

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time?

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You remember that?

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No?

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Mashallah, you pious children.

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You don't remember your first lie?

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You don't remember when you like took something

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and you weren't supposed to and they're like,

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did you take it?

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And you're like, no.

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You blamed on your sister.

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Wow, that's messed up, by the way.

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Okay?

00:39:15 --> 00:39:16

You remember when your sister lied?

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Okay.

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So when you lied for the first time,

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I'll tell you what happens when you lie

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for the first time.

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Okay?

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And for those of you who haven't lied

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yet, may Allah bless you.

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It's an honor to meet you, Angel Gabriel,

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all right?

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So, when you lie for the first time,

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because lying, subhanallah, you guys ever seen like

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a lie detector test?

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It's basically like an EKG, right?

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They hook it up to you and they

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see the irregularities in your heart rate and

00:39:40 --> 00:39:41

your rhythm and your beat.

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Allah has programmed inside of every single person's

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body at a cellular level that lying is

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something that is detectable.

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Meaning that, outside of religion, they can base

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it on your heart.

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They can read literally your heart and see

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that you're lying, subhanallah.

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When you lied for the first time, your

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body probably went through a series of reactions.

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There was probably a heart rate increase.

00:40:10 --> 00:40:12

Your pupils, my son says pupils.

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That's why I said pupils.

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My pupils, when you lie, your pupils dilate,

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right?

00:40:19 --> 00:40:20

You may have started to sweat a little

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bit.

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You may have started to feel cold.

00:40:24 --> 00:40:27

You may have become hypersensitive to like noises

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and sounds.

00:40:28 --> 00:40:29

You may have become a little bit, you

00:40:29 --> 00:40:31

know, concerned, anxious around you.

00:40:32 --> 00:40:32

Okay?

00:40:33 --> 00:40:36

All of these are the psychosomatic reaction to

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lying when you know that you're not supposed

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to be lying.

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Subhanallah.

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When you're a kid, it happens.

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And then the more you do it over

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time, you lose those reactions.

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And then subhanallah, as we find in the

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story of Yusuf a.s. with his brothers,

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the lies become so frequent and so common

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that not only do you not have reactions,

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but you can no longer detect whether what

00:41:02 --> 00:41:04

you're telling is a lie or whether it

00:41:04 --> 00:41:04

is the truth.

00:41:05 --> 00:41:07

And then you start to believe your lies

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as if it were truth.

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So the scholars say that this is the

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first indication of why lying is so problematic.

00:41:14 --> 00:41:16

On its face, sure.

00:41:17 --> 00:41:18

It took three seconds.

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What's the big deal?

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But what it does to you over five

00:41:22 --> 00:41:24

years, ten years, fifteen years, twenty years, what

00:41:24 --> 00:41:27

it does to you, the damage, the irreparable

00:41:27 --> 00:41:30

damage is something that can be considered much

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greater than even some sins that are much

00:41:32 --> 00:41:32

greater than it.

00:41:32 --> 00:41:33

May Allah Ta'ala protect us.

00:41:34 --> 00:41:36

Okay, we have prayer in two minutes, inshaAllah,

00:41:36 --> 00:41:38

so I'm going to answer one question, inshaAllah.

00:41:39 --> 00:41:41

And then we will head over to the

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musallah for salah.

00:41:42 --> 00:41:42

Okay?

00:41:46 --> 00:41:47

Oh man.

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How to deal with people who hurt you

00:41:51 --> 00:41:54

and spread narratives about you but you know

00:41:54 --> 00:41:54

the truth in your character.

00:41:55 --> 00:41:56

I feel alone sometimes.

00:41:57 --> 00:41:58

May Allah Ta'ala make it easy.

00:41:58 --> 00:42:00

This is a very difficult situation for a

00:42:00 --> 00:42:01

person to be in but I'll tell you

00:42:01 --> 00:42:02

the good news.

00:42:02 --> 00:42:05

The good news is that you are in

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the company of the prophets of God.

00:42:07 --> 00:42:09

If somebody spreads bad news about you, you

00:42:09 --> 00:42:11

are in the prophet's company.

00:42:11 --> 00:42:13

Meaning that, if you look at all the

00:42:13 --> 00:42:15

notable characters from the Qur'an, from the

00:42:15 --> 00:42:19

hadith, that trait is something you share with

00:42:19 --> 00:42:20

them.

00:42:20 --> 00:42:22

As long as it's not true.

00:42:22 --> 00:42:23

Right?

00:42:23 --> 00:42:24

Because theirs were made up about them.

00:42:25 --> 00:42:28

If you look at Maryam A.S. in

00:42:28 --> 00:42:29

the Qur'an, if you look at the

00:42:29 --> 00:42:31

righteous women of the Qur'an, same thing.

00:42:32 --> 00:42:34

So, number one is you're in good company.

00:42:34 --> 00:42:38

Number two is that Allah will vindicate you

00:42:38 --> 00:42:41

and He will honor you as long as

00:42:41 --> 00:42:43

you remain patient and as long as you

00:42:43 --> 00:42:44

remain principled.

00:42:44 --> 00:42:45

You don't have to defend yourself.

00:42:45 --> 00:42:48

Against an onslaught of lies, the truth is

00:42:48 --> 00:42:50

enough to defend its own self.

00:42:50 --> 00:42:52

As long as you remain firm upon it.

00:42:52 --> 00:42:55

And the last thing is, if people are

00:42:55 --> 00:42:57

spreading things about your truth and your character

00:42:57 --> 00:42:59

and things that are untrue about your character,

00:43:00 --> 00:43:03

your responsibility is to protect yourself.

00:43:03 --> 00:43:06

And sometimes what that means is reconsidering who

00:43:06 --> 00:43:07

you spent time with.

00:43:07 --> 00:43:09

If the people that are doing this are

00:43:09 --> 00:43:11

people that are in your circle, doesn't mean

00:43:11 --> 00:43:12

you have to make a big deal about

00:43:12 --> 00:43:13

it.

00:43:13 --> 00:43:15

But you should genuinely reconsider who you spend

00:43:15 --> 00:43:16

time with.

00:43:16 --> 00:43:18

If the people that you are close with

00:43:18 --> 00:43:21

and investing your time with are hurting you

00:43:21 --> 00:43:22

and hurting your character.

00:43:22 --> 00:43:23

May Allah Ta'ala make it easy.

00:43:23 --> 00:43:24

May Allah Ta'ala give us the ability

00:43:24 --> 00:43:26

to always remain truthful and to always avoid

00:43:26 --> 00:43:27

telling lies.

00:43:27 --> 00:43:28

May Allah Ta'ala grant us the ability

00:43:28 --> 00:43:31

to protect ourselves even from the small white

00:43:31 --> 00:43:32

lies that we tell.

00:43:32 --> 00:43:33

Ameen, Ameen, Ya Rabbil Alameen.

00:43:34 --> 00:43:36

InshaAllah, we're gonna go ahead and skip the

00:43:36 --> 00:43:38

question line tonight and head straight to the

00:43:38 --> 00:43:38

musalla.

00:43:38 --> 00:43:41

Next week, this is important, next week we're

00:43:41 --> 00:43:43

gonna be having heartwork after maghrib.

00:43:43 --> 00:43:45

Maghrib is gonna be at 7.15, 7

00:43:45 --> 00:43:47

.20. So we're gonna be having heartwork after

00:43:47 --> 00:43:48

that inshaAllah.

00:43:48 --> 00:43:51

Suhba up until maghrib and then we'll have

00:43:51 --> 00:43:51

heartwork after.

00:43:51 --> 00:43:52

Jazakumullahu khairan.

00:43:52 --> 00:43:54

Wassalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

00:43:54 --> 00:43:55

If you sat on a chair, please do

00:43:55 --> 00:43:57

us the favor of folding it and carrying

00:43:57 --> 00:43:59

it through the hallway and putting it on

00:43:59 --> 00:44:00

the dollies.

00:44:00 --> 00:44:02

If you sat on the backjack, please help

00:44:02 --> 00:44:03

us by lining up the backjack in the

00:44:03 --> 00:44:04

front.

00:44:04 --> 00:44:05

Wassalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

00:44:05 --> 00:44:07

See you guys in the musalla for maghrib.

00:44:07 --> 00:44:07

Wassalamualaikum.

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