AbdelRahman Murphy – Gentleness

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			One of the challenges that we encounter as human beings is that we develop ideas and notions and
beliefs that we believe to be most effective in accomplishing something. And we develop these ideas
or these thoughts and these practices based off of our own experiences, our own anecdotes. One idea
or example, that has become prevalent
		

			is the idea. That might is right. And that people have to be tough in order to accomplish something.
I was once at a gathering where a lot of young business students were learning from a mentor, there
was a mentor who was very successful in business, made a lot of money had a lot of success in his
industry. And he was telling the students that in order to get anything done, you have to be mean to
people, you have to be tough with people. And I couldn't help but think to myself when I heard him
say that he was a Muslim by the way. I couldn't help but think to myself that somehow Allah is this
the method that the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam used in order to accomplish things? Was his
		

			awesome was his default, to be tough with people so that he could accomplish what he wanted to
accomplish? The answer is no. And this is actually one of the biggest emergencies that we have in
our religion, you know, they say, and we teach our, our young people, especially from Sunday school,
that Islam is the biggest blessing that we have. And one of the reasons why Islam is the biggest
blessing that we any of us could have and hamdulillah is because it teaches us how to view things,
how to interpret things. You know, when you have a computer, it makes your life a lot easier because
you can plug in data, and it produces an answer for you quickly. Islam is the same way. We have all
		

			kinds of thoughts and ideas, we need to go ahead and process them through our religion through our
relationship with Allah subhanaw taala and through the example of His Prophet Mohammed, Salah Salah.
And in that example, we'll find what truly is the best way to live and this is what is wrong with
Allah was saying to us in the ayah that is recited when Allah says Lakota can Allah computer Sula,
that verily there already is in the Messenger of Allah understand this, this verse has a lot of
grammatical nuance. It's very beautiful. Number one is Allah uses the word Cana, which means that
it's already happened, it's already done. But let me ask you a question when this verse is being
		

			revealed, is the Prophet Muhammad SAW something still alive? Yes. So Allah is saying that no matter
what the prophet Muhammad SAW Selim does in his life, he's been divinely guided to act in a way
where every single thing that he does, is a beautiful example for you. And the word Fie, Allah says,
Lakota, Canada look and feel rasulillah in the Messenger of Allah
		

			sallallahu ala rasulillah, not with him or around him, but in the Messenger of Allah. In Arabic This
is known as much as figurative language. It means that every single thing about the Prophet Mohammed
Al Salaam, is known as a skeleton Hashanah, a beautiful pattern, a The best example that a person
can have. So when any of us in our personal family professional life, think of something, never
ever, ever forget that we have to measure it up against what Allah subhanaw taala has said. And the
example from the prophetic tradition is a sort of setup. And in that measurement, it's like laying a
transparency over something. The only way we'll know if we get it right is if we check it up against
		

			the example the Prophet Muhammad SAW second. One of these
		

			topics that I just mentioned, which is might is right, be tough, get things done. And when we
measure it up against the example the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim, we find that this is actually not
how he operated on a sort of Salah. We have a narration where he was speaking
		

			Tada Chateau de la Han Han. By the way, this is one of the beautiful examples of what a relationship
can be between a husband and a wife that the Prophet Muhammad SAW said of them. He was teaching his
wife is something that was beneficial to not only her but to the rest of humanity. And she taught it
to all of us. I
		

			wrote the love on her, where he says Thai Chateau de la Han. He says yeah Isha in the law, her feet,
when will your headboard riff? Oh, Arusha. Allah is the most gentle, the most compassionately,
caring and gentle, and he loves it. He loves gentleness, he loves it when people are gentle with
each other. This alone brothers and sisters, this statement alone is enough of a reason for us to be
gentle with one another. Just the mere fact that Allah is characteristic is raffia, that he is
gentle with everything, and that he loves gentleness should be enough of a motivator for us. But
then the Prophet Mohammed Sosa then goes on to explain, well, you're on the island with manna you're
		

			alone. And this is the example that we take that he says Allah gives people things, through their
gentleness that they will never ever receive, through harshness, the secret key to unlocking
attainment of your goal, whatever goal you have, is not is not being difficult. It's not being
harsh, but it's being gentle when you're up to lmsc law. And actually, he completes it by saying,
and nothing Allah subhanaw taala gives, except it is upon that meaning that except is upon
gentleness. So we learn here something amazing. You know, one of the reasons why people are
difficult and why we're tough with each other is because we don't think about the method or the
		

			process. We only think about the goal. I want to get something so I will act a certain way, no
matter what. So I can get that thing you know who else has this methodology children when they pound
when kids are pouting. I know all of us love pouting. All of you parents love pouting, right? When
your kids have a tantrum, when they're exhibiting that behavior. They're saying, I don't really care
how I get it, I just want to get it.
		

			And this is not from the methodology of Islam. The believer has a personality, where they are just
as concerned about how we do something.
		

			And also how we get something as getting itself. We get the we want the pleasure of Allah. We want
to follow the example of the Prophet Mohammed Al Salaam, how do we do it, we do it with things that
are less Parramatta loves. We don't do it in ways that we imagine and we think up we do it in ways
that are less prone to our loves. So we are as concerned of how we do things as we are about
achieving the goal. So the Prophet Muhammad SAW said him said here, you can be tough all you want,
you can be harsh all you want, you will not achieve the goal that you want, until you employ
gentleness with each other.
		

			And what's interesting, by the way, is that gentleness and easygoing being easygoing and loving is
actually very easy. When times are good. You know, one time there was a story that came out in
Chicago after the bulls one there like 900 championship, Mashallah, alright. I'm speaking in Boston,
the city of championships, but bear with me in sha Allah, where they asked some heinola, one of the
players said, I, we hated all of us hated Michael Jordan.
		

			We hated it. Right? This is like a statement of Cofer in Chicago, by the way, if you say we hate
Michael Jordan, so he said, we hated Michael Jordan. And the reporter said, seriously, you hated
Michael Jordan. He said, yeah, we all hated him. He said, But you guys played so well, together. You
were so successful. And he said, when you're winning, everyone loves each other.
		

			Right? When times are good, it's easy to be nice to people. When times are bad. That's when people
start to get difficult. That's when people start to get tough. So when we talk about lift, and being
gentle, you know, some of us right now we're thinking like, yeah, you know what, when I got that pay
raise that day, I got home, I went home to my wife and I was really nice to her. Right? Are when my
kids came home with all A's on their report card. I was very gentle with them. But the reality is
the true test is, are you and I gentle when our backs are up against the wall? Are we gentle when
things are going south? I want to give you a couple of examples of how the Prophet Muhammad SAW
		

			Selim was gentle when times were tough. You know, Subhan Allah, on the day of the day of the Battle
of our head,
		

			where the believers were, you know, backstabbed and torn by the silent elite, who at the time was
not a Muslim or the long run, but he was not a Muslim at the time. He was a General of the Army of
Polish when they thought that they had won the battle and then the Polish came back around from
behind the mountain and attack them and this led to a couple
		

			things number one, it led to the injury of the Prophet Mohammed sauce on them.
		

			Because the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim, he gave a group of archers specific directions, there was a
group of archers and if you know anything about this, you know the strategy. The goal of the archers
is to protect you know that the main cavalry from any sneak attack because they have what high
ground. So he told these archers you guys stay here and do not come off of this mountain. This is an
explicit commit do not come off of this mountain. He said, even if you see birds picking apart our
dead bodies, like you think the battle is over helaas don't leave your spot.
		

			So what ended up happening was during this battle, the Muslims began to actually win the battle. And
there were some moments where the cold ice tried to come from behind the archers fired arrows and
they went back so the plan was working. The problem was a missile seven, the strategy was working
implemented beautifully. What ended up happening when the Muslims started to win and there was
noticeable advancing on the Muslim side, there started to be a lot of armor and a lot of money being
left in the battlefield.
		

			Because the Muslims were winning, they're moving forward. And the archer started noticing, hey,
there's a lot of wealth down there just sitting. There's a lot of armor, there's a lot of valuable
things that we could be collecting, everyone else is gonna get first opportunity. You know, it's
like, it's like a buffet line here in Ramadan. Like when if stars served, people will run people
want to pray in the back of mclubbe so they can quickly go and eat right. So the archers are sitting
and they're saying, look, there's money just sitting there. And their desire for that wealth
overcame them and most of them left some of them stayed, but most of them left when the archers left
		

			that mountain kind of been when he saw it. And he knew he knew that this is our chance this is our
time. So they went back around behind the mountain that the mark the archers were on and they snuck
and they actually got to the immediate location of the Prophet Mohammed salsa. And of course some of
the the soldiers they got and they actually even struck the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salim one of them
took his sword struck the Prophet Mohammed still sent him on his head, his helmet, which had some
edges right here, cut into his cheeks. It chipped some of his teeth. He was bleeding profusely. This
led to the all out chaos. Once the believers realized that they were being attacked now from two
		

			fronts from two sides. It led to all that chaos. You know what happened? Because the archers didn't
listen, you know what happened? the uncle of the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim Hamza was martyred. One
of the closest companions of the Prophet Mohammed Al Salah Musab bin Omar was martyred. A large
amount of companions were killed in this battle.
		

			This is where riff is tested. How did the Prophet Mohammed salsa number respond to the archers? Did
he tell them all of you? This is your fault. We're gonna execute you and kill you. No, no, he was
gentle with them. After everyone retreated and the battle was over. He didn't excommunicate them. He
didn't kick them out. He didn't call them out. He didn't even gather them and say all of this is
your fault. He had riff. He had gentleness with people, because as I said, if you were harsh with
them, they would turn away from you. You see, we think that being tough with people is the best way
to get what we want. But actually, it's not true. being gentle with people is the best way to get
		

			what we want, even if we are in a state of pain. The Prophet Muhammad SAW seven said or when was the
most painful day of my life. He would cry when he thought of losing his uncle Hamza, but he was
still gentle with people. Another example of the Prophet Muhammad SAW sedums gentleness, when
someone made a mistake was during Fatima Mecca, the conquest of MK Gar, the opening of Mecca when
the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salaam was planning this journey with the believers to go to Mecca, and to
open the city for all the Muslims. There was a certain Sahabi by the name of Hatton but on the
Lahore on who was actually one of the Sahaba who fought in the Battle of bed that and if you know
		

			about the Battle of bed dead, it was an extremely important battle and every single companion from
that battle, Allah subhanho wa Taala gave them an open a blank check it out. He like he said that
they're forgiven, because it was such a important moment in the community of the believers, and that
there was no person in that battle except that they were sincere. So this Sahabi by the name of
Hatem has a family. He at the time is in Medina, his family's in Mecca. He knows that the Prophet
Mohammed Salah Salem is planning this journey to open Mecca, and he's concerned, even though he
believes obviously in the Prophet Mohammed Al salam, he fought in bed that he's concerned. So he
		

			writes a letter and he sends a letter to his family. He sends a letter to his family, trying to tell
them hey, this is the plan of the Prophet Mohammed Al Salaam. Mecca is about to be opened, be ready.
He's trying to let his family know, but this is a huge risk.
		

			is a massive risk. Because if you're letting them know there's a chance that the rest of the place
can find out and the Prophet Muhammad SAW said him is going they could plan a massive counter
attack. So Sabrina I said I'm he tells the Prophet Mohammed Al Salaam that this person sent a letter
to his family. They go and they retrieve it. I believe he sent to Allie rhodiola Rhonda go and
retrieve the letter, and they bring it back and they sit with hats and they said hats and what are
you doing, man? What are you doing? You're putting all the entire community at risk by doing this.
So Hotham says back to the Prophet Muhammad SAW sentimiento sola, you know that I believe, I fought
		

			in bed with you, you know that I believe out of school of law. But I have family in Mecca, and I'm
worried about them. He noticed the humaneness of the companions. panela their humanity was so real.
Ahmad radula. Harun is saying yes to a lot. This is treachery. He's a traitor. He could have
sacrificed all of us just by this one letter for his family. We all have family there we all have
beloved people there we're all worried about them but we trust haften missing I trust as well but I
was just worried. The Prophet Muhammad SAW sent him forgave him and let him go. This is this is
gentleness when Armada became confused and said yes, well, why did you let him go? He said yeah all
		

			about he participated in the Battle of bed that and Allah spawn tada already forgave them for
everything. So how can I not forgive who Allah has forgiven?
		

			me this is, this is gentleness. And he achieved isotopes of them. You know, one of the reasons why
so many people were attracted to him was because of this gentleness. SubhanAllah. There's even a
story about his enemies, people who hated him, people who wanted to kill him. You know, we're
talking so far about believers. Right, we talked about the archers that are heard we talked about
hathorne rhodiola. Han. But what about people who hated him? Who wanted him to die? Literally,
there's a narration on our show with Isla Harada, where she said that one time there was a group of
the, from the tribe of Medina of the Jewish community, a small group of people, and they walked by
		

			the prophet Mohammed Al, salaam, callooh, Assam or alikum. And this is a little play on words, they
were trying to be cute. So instead of saying a set Mr. Aiken, which is the greeting of the
believers, they said Assam or Aleykum, which in Arabic means like death and poison be upon you,
right. So the Prophet Muhammad SAW them heard this, he said, while equal. All right, whatever you
wish on me, I'm gonna wish it back to you. Assemble alikum walaikum Ayesha, and a lot of us know
this, when you love somebody and they're being insulted. You become more angry than they do
sometimes. Right. So I showed the lavon hat. She said, Why do they come Assam? Right. Well, I know
		

			Kamala will help you but Polycom may be upon you and the curse of Allah and His anger. Right? So
she's getting really upset at this group because why they insulted her husband, the prophet Mohammed
sauce, Allah. The Prophet Mohammed says, Listen to this gentleness Subhanallah and this is for
somebody that just wished death upon you. Right? He says, Man, Aisha, what is this? He said, I like
you better. Make sure you have some gentleness with people will yakka an urn foil foil fascia, and
be very careful to be harsh and hurtful with people and difficult with people.
		

			Like that. She said back to the Prophet Muhammad SAW said to them, I will just smile makalu Did you
not hear what they said to you? Right? They just wish death upon you. Did you not hear it? That's
why I was responding that way. Listen to his response. LLM test, Mary Mack. Well, did you not listen
to what I just said to you? So she's saying yes to a lot. They cursed you. He's saying it doesn't
matter. This teaches us a very valuable lesson. gentleness is not conditional. We're not only gentle
with those who are gentle with us. You see, this is sometimes how we act. I'll be nice if you're
nice. Know the Prophet Mohammed Sal Salaam, was nice to everybody was gentle with everybody. And
		

			this is what attracted people. This is what attracted people.
		

			And especially, will conclude with his family. So we talked about believers, we talked about
rejecters people who hated him. But what about his family? What did he teach us about gentleness in
the home? Because we had this disease as human beings By the way, where we are very, very kind to
strangers. We hold the door open for strangers, but when it's our own family, we're like grab the
door yourself. Right? Or when it's time to eat we're like oh please, by all means we get a plate for
our guests. But for our own family, we're like get your own plate lazy bum, right. But with families
of Han Allah the Prophet Mohammed Al sent him said you have to have a special gentleness with them.
		

			He said either or all the law who has the agenda, Be and he Baten later on? If Allah desires
goodness for a family, he said Allah him.
		

			He gives them gentleness with each other.
		

			How many relationships brothers and sisters Think for a moment as we conclude, how many
relationships in our homes are suffering because we're difficult with one another? How many
marriages how many fights, how many arguments how many grudges are built, because there is a lack of
gentleness with each other. You want to accomplish something in your
		

			home, you want your kids to do something, you want your spouse to do something you want your
parents, you want anything to happen inside of your home, I challenge you. The next time you feel
the Neff cynical desire to be tough, and to say it's my way or the highway, I'm the authority in
this house. challenge your neffs and be easy with people and see what law how it gets done. I get on
a constant basis. Teenagers coming to me saying that when their family comes home, when their dad
comes home or their mom comes home, it's like they sound the alarm. So they'll be sitting enjoying
themselves having a nice time. As soon as they hear Bob has cars pulled into the garage, dad's cars
		

			pull into the garage. They ring the bell, everybody quick, don't have any fun, quick runaway dad's
home, we have to make sure we're all doing homework. I had one person tell me that when my mom comes
home, my heart rate goes up. Because I'm so scared of the difficulty that's going to happen between
us. This is not a way to live. This is not a place where the home should be a place of Sakina.
That's why in the Arabic language, the word Sakina and mess Ghana, home and tranquility share a root
word because the home should be tranquil. The way that we make our homes tranquil is we have risk
and that's a sign that Allah Spano Tata, once cleared for our homes We ask Allah subhanaw taala to
		

			make us amongst those who are gentle with each other. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us this
prophetic characteristic of gentleness and we ask Allah subhana wa tada to make it that whenever we
try to achieve anything, whenever we want to achieve anything, we think first of how gentleness will
be the factor in achieving it and not harshness. I mean, there'll be a lot I mean, subsonic along
with La La Land, Mr. Frederick wanted to be like,
		

			under reliable alameen wa salatu salam O Allah Emanuel MBA will Manasa Nene Cena Mohammed Salah
Laura Salim wala early he will be he will be in sunny la Medina allama john lemon home I mean, I
just wanted to conclude today's hookah with a moment of risk and a moment of thinking about our
brother Joshua May Allah spawn tada be with him and give him in sha Allah she fat common sha Allah
complete cure As you may or may not have known brother Joshua is the security guard who protects
Mashallah here and more than he protects. He smiles if you ever seen him when you walk into the
masjid he greets with a smile he greets with a big Mashallah saddam and he he suffered a very
		

			serious, I believe is a heart attack. He sewed a very serious heart attack the other day, an aortic
aneurisms, Pinilla, and I believe he was rushed to the hospital and he underwent a few procedures.
And he's in a scenario right now where he's recovering. But we still pray that Allah Spano Tata give
him she felt in Sharla because these situations, as many of you probably know, it can be very
delicate. And so please inshallah, if you have the time to send him a message or to visit him that
would be the best but if you you know can't find the time right now before you see him then the
least we can do is we make the offer and so we asked the lowest price on it to give him Shiva and
		

			all the believers who are ill we asked Allah Spano Tata to give them she thought we asked last
contacted to make it easy upon them and their families and we asked Allah subhanaw taala to uplift
and relieve them from their financial burden, as we know that for a lot of families in this country,
even healthcare which should not be a financial burden for people is a financial burden. We ask a
lot smarter to make things easy. In the lotto Monica who you saw Luna Allah nebby Yeah, you will
levina Amano Sol de la he was a limitus Nima alongside Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah Muhammad came out
so late Allah Rahim Allah Allah Ibrahim al amin in NECA Hamid Majeed Allahumma barik ala Muhammad
		

			Allah Allah Muhammad come about Okta, Allah Ibrahim Ibrahim al amin in Armenia Majeed in the La
Jolla motivated son ej the quarterback williamtown in Russia and Mongolia above it. You're either
come to Allah come to the Quran, okay, masala