Abdal Hakim Murad – Seclusion & Love Session 3 Seclusion vs Companionship
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Mila here Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu
salam ala acromial NBR. Even more serene Zina Muhammad in while he
was happy he had mine. So this is the third in our four lockdown
Ramadan lectures when we're talking about the interesting
polarities and balance and tension and
mutuality that exists between these principles of seclusion and
love, water and muhabba. And the story so far is that we've been
looking at, particularly last time the distinction that needs to be
drawn between solitude and loneliness, solitude, something
that we sometimes crave that can help us get work done that can
help us concentrate that can be a good opportunity for some of my
bad
loneliness being largely negative thing, that the two mental
dysfunction and societal breakdown in many ways and as we saw, has
become one of the the efforts one of the defects of our present,
atomized, individualistic age.
What I want to do this evening, is to be a little bit more systematic
of our religion and to do the traditional thing of looking at a
text and going through it and offering some comments on it. And
the text in question is, the section from Imam Al Ghazali is
great here, Allah Medina, which is the reason
to isolate themselves. And as we go through this, we'll see that
there are a number of quite classical ancient to the NIA of
concentrating a little bit more, letting the dust in the heart
settle, opening ourselves up to the blessings of this possibility
of mindfulness and inshallah This will bring a redoubled benefit to
the benefits of that month of Ramadan. So Emanuel has early, of
course, in his own life had been through stages of self isolation,
he said, this crisis impelled him into the desert and wilderness and
we don't really know much about what he did that we know that he
returned, having benefited hugely from the experience, he was healed
and repaired and returned to society. seclusion, versus the
benefits of software, friendliness, sociality. And in
his usual way, he does this very systematically. So he actually
lists six benefits of self isolation, and seven drawbacks of
self isolation. So let's go through these in a systematic way
and inshallah at the end, we'll have a chance to move on to
consider some of the larger ethical issues which this raises.
So
passing over the first chapter of the keytab and also the book of
self isolation. Let's move into the second where he talks about
the benefits so as he did all this benefit number one, why is it good
for us to get away from at all and be alone, as Ferraioli liability
will flicker? While the state nurse will be Munna Gerety later,
Allah and onegevity will help while Ishihara will be stick
Sheffy as Rory Leahy to Allah, if you Amory dunya, will akhira Well,
mela courtesan No it will. So benefit number one is being able
to dedicate oneself to worship and to meditation and to find intimacy
in close communication with Allah subhanaw taala rather than the
communications of, of, of creation,
and occupying oneself with unveiling Allah's secrets in the
matter of this world and the next world, and the way in which the
heavens and the earth have been created. Remember that the
traditional idea of OSLA of going into a retreat in Islam is not
just sit with your testimony, and say a million Subhanallah but it's
also an active act of meditation and contemplation, its
contemplative, as well as an opportunity for for worship.
Now, he then goes on to point out that there's a
degree at which this is not necessary, where one can be with
Allah subhanaw taala full time, even though you're with society
full time. Most of us can't manage that. But he does say that's a
possible outcome. So he says Wallonia, Tassie eyelid Genmai
Boehner Mukalla Tati, Nursey Zaha Iran, well cubberly Allah his
surgeon, it's not really possible for anybody to combine
outwardly mingling with the human race, and inwardly to be
completely focused on Allah Illa Quwata Nobu, except to the Power
of Prophecy, the NDR alayhi wa sallam had this capacity, belay
and Buffy and Yatta colada if in BFC Fiat Murphy Delic so let us
weaklings not be deceived by the fact that all prophets are able to
be totally with Allah but also socialized or not and therefore
that's how we're going to be we're weak we're not at their degree
well I yeah Bordeaux and tanta here Tara to Baden Alia II like
but it's not impossible at the degrees of some of the Alia might
actually reach to that or to something like it back on duty law
annual Junaid and the whole call, it's narrated on the authority of
Emmanuel Junaid that he said and it will kill him Allah will do
fella Athena center, oneness who yes or no no any who can limit
him.
For the last 30 years, I've been speaking to God, although
everybody else thinks I've been speaking to them. In other words,
he's near his hadoar his awareness and everything is that Allah
subhanaw taala is the two modules and everything else is his way of
being present with the divine presence in that moment, but that
Imam will do need, say the TYFA and it's unlikely that we have got
even 1% of that degree.
So that's the first benefit, you get quality time with God.
And very little thornier benefit number two, at the hollows or
below Aucilla on in Marcy elder to Tara doll in Central LA hollyburn
Bill Mahato wasalam woman her fetal Kalwa. So number two is
through isolation. One can be safe from committing the sins which
human beings are often exposed to when they're with other people.
And you can be saved from them. And you're in a state of retreat.
Why about this for specifically his pointing us to hear a labor
backbiting? He can't really do that if there's nobody to listen
out of the app showing off. Nobody to show off to was supposed to
annual Emory Bill Monroe he one night here and in one car is very
important to remember because early, that if you see something
that needs to be done, you should say that it needs to be done.
And if you see something wicked, then you have to do something
about that wicked thing. But very often we don't do that. But we're
going to be saved from that if we're on our own. When will
sadhaka to Tobiah Minal Aquila, Akira dia, while our Emilio Habiba
Ella T ut Bucha, El Hijo, Allah dunya. Now this is where he talks
about stealing ethics.
What does that mean? What he means is that when you're with certain
people, inevitably you tend to become acclimatized to their ways
into their values. We're social animals, we're osmotic. So the
Arab proverb says a tarball Salim Sanrak, a normal sound, human
nature is a thief. In other words, we tend to acclimatized ourselves
to the people that we're with over hanging out in society, where
there's a lot of people who are perhaps not the way we'd like to
be. We tend to
adapt ourselves to that level. And that's one of the dangers of
social life. Remember, because Allah saying, one of the benefits,
this is part of the second benefit of going into your retreat, self
isolating, is that you're not going to be kind of dragged down
by the kind of conversation that happens at work by the kind of
jostling on the undercut the kind of low qualities that you might
find when you're out and about
number three, and 30 that with third Lisa l colossal minute
Phaeton will also met, while Seanna to Dini when left Seattle,
how old is he here? What are all the the authorea? So number three
is saving oneself from seditions and arguments and protecting one's
religion and one's life from getting involved in them. And in
the dangers that they represent. What's he talking about? He's
saying, well, it may be dangerous out there. One reason why people
might want to self isolate is that there's a fitna nowadays it's kind
of the fitna of COVID-19. But very often historical periods have been
there's been uproar there has been public strife. There have been
bandits in the streets, there's been breakdown of law and order
and also political divisions, civil wars and so forth.
We're gonna tackle will be layered on top so bear that in your feet,
and then we'll also Matt, how rare it is. He says for the land to be
free of fanatical movements, and disputations and arguments for
more Tesla unharmed fie celebrity minha somebody who draws back from
them is safe from them.
Allah Abdullah ibn amor webinars. One of the great ones of earliest
on the son of Amory Biddle ask the great Sahabi lemma dakara rasool
Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will fit in our wasa when
the Holy Prophet mentioned the seditions that civil disputes that
were to come and describe them, while Carl, he said, either are
eight a nurse and married yet or who the home were covered, and
then to whom we can help each other. Or shipbroker Dana Asaba
when you see that people's pledges are disregarded, and their trusts
are no longer trust, in a trustworthy way, upheld
and they're like this, and then he put his fingers together.
In other words, they're kind of at the side of the suit they're
disputing for automatic Morrone and I said, O Messenger of Allah,
what do you command me to do if I'm in that situation of tumult
for call Ilsan basic stay home
when Black Ally can de Sanic control what you say? Well, hood
Mata RF we're down there to anchor hold on to what you know is right
and leave that which seems wrong to you. Well, I like a bit unreal
casada on camera llama stay with the people who are knowledgeable
enough to be right and avoid the turbulence of the masses.
One hour I will sad inquiry and now who sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam call you she called on your corner Hi Rommel in Muslim, random
Ania Tabby OB her Shah FLG belly while my waka LK three your fifth
Ruby D mineral fit and Iman Shatin Illa Shahrukh is a very famous
Bukhari Hadith. And of course, there's many like these avoid
asking the believers to avoid tribulations by heading for the
hills. So here he says sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the time has
always come when the best thing a Muslim owns shall be a flock of
sheep, with which he goes to the pastures of the mountains and the
places where the rain may descend in order to flee with his religion
from seditions from mountain peak to mountain peak. There's a lot of
advice like this in the in the Sierra and in the Sunda
unfortunately nowadays we tend to do the other thing we say well
that's fitness there's dispute there's a civil war. Let's go for
it brothers, masha Allah Allahu Akbar, but the Holy Prophet is
saying, go with the sheep to the mountains don't get involved in
these, the shovel hat and it's a prophetic command.
We'll call Assad on lemma Dahlia ill Harada Yemen more Alia and
sad, said when he was invited to join the army and in the
insurrection at the time of more hour he said, that Illa and
Tartini sayfa and Lahore ironi. Bossy or attorney, Wally Cernan
young tech will be careful careful for Abdullah. Now I won't get
involved in this war unless you give me a sword that has two eyes
that always eat correctly and a tongue so the sword will tell me
who I should be killing and who I shouldn't be killing.
So that I can go for the miscreant and avoid killing the believer
will call mezzaluna wa methylglucose Kathie Lee Coleman
Kano, Allah Mahajan, by the likes of us and you is like a people who
are on a straight white road for buying their home the Kedah Lika
yesI roll and while they were traveling on it, it herget Reifen
a Georgia a fierce wind blew up for the low Tarik well Tabitha
Allah him so they left the road and became confused for call about
the home Atari echo that you mean, some of them said the road is off
to the right. For Arkadelphia for tat, who won the law, so they went
that way, and got lost and winter stream? We'll call about all that
as she meant. Another say no, it's off to the left somewhere for aka
Luffy her for Tahoe Dalu and they also went off and got lost what
America had on what a worker for hat that had that theory. What
about unity? Tarak and others stopped until the wind settled and
they could see the road again. This is the word of the believer
and he says disputations amongst mankind, and it's all very
confusing, insincere people on all sides, you stop. And this is the
Sunnah. And this is the Prophetic advice, ashamed that many of our
brethren in many parts of the world think that they're really
sure that that's the way No, that's the way the results are in
the headlines every day, because that's number three. Sometimes
it's good to self isolate, if there's complete political madness
and tumult, and there are lighter versions of this and of course, if
you're sick of the arguments for Brexit, switch off
but
you're not going to make a difference anyway.
So benefit number four self isolation and failure to Robbie.
I'll call our swim in shattering nests to avoid the evil that is
amongst mankind.
For inom, your Lola can moderate and be LIBOR or moderate can be so
is done with dogma because people sometimes hurt you with bearing
false witness or slandering you and sometimes by having a bad
opinion of you and making false accusations against you.
Well mandala can be lifted AHA it will automatically carry the
ballot er sort of effect will be hard and sometimes making
suggestions and asking you to do things which is going to be very
difficult for you to do or target and minima or COVID. Sometimes
they just lie about you. For Obama era and I mean cabinet family, I
will acquire lamella Tableau okolo home condo, maybe that they've
just misunderstood you and they look at you and what you're doing
and you are a man in religion, they haven't really figured out
what you're about. If you're on a spiritual path for instance, they
may constantly be attacking you because they don't really know
what you're doing. Fair Tiffany Lauren Urlacher here at and I'm
the homie Rona who if you don't know Holly walked in, toss her off
he forced her to really sharp so they want you to see things that
they find open to criticism and they store these things up. So
that in a particularly useful moment, they will raise them for
either arteza The home is stagnate I need to have for the angioma and
evatik. So if you just avoid them, yourself isolate you saved from
all of that.
While you Delica kala Babu Kana le Ray for this reason a wise man
once told somebody or Allah mocha de teeny Hi Ron minerality L if he
did him, should I tell you just two lines of poetry which are
better than 10,000 silver coins for Mahamat. So this is the poem
if it is Psalter in Dr. Belay Lin well Tiffany to be Niharika blonde
McCauley Lisa little Coulier Raja tone Vina Yabba doo ba ba ba in
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Lo your voice if you're talking at night
and look around in the day before you say anything.
But because once you've said something, and it's appeared, you
can never bring it back. Whether it was an ugly thing you said, or
something beautiful.
Well, Ashoka and many Stellata Ben Swisher raka Humphrey Amelie him,
lend me in fact Kevin Hassett in what I do when you see us on eBay,
and it's clear, he says it's inevitable that if you're
associating with other people, there will certainly be people who
are jealous of you. You will certainly have enemies who think
the worst of you were to a hermit and the holiest I do my dirty
well, he must be Makita and people who conspire against you and try
to pull you down. Well he Ted Ted CCSR in Latin whare the nurse or
Muhammad had the head of so whom Allah amor yes I born Nicola say
Hyten Allah him who will do for huddart home because people
whenever they really want something
they think that everything is a shout directed against themselves.
Those people are enemies. So watch out for them.
Walk I destroyed the hair. So Humala. Dunya folios will no
longer be ready him ill HERSA Allah because they themselves are
so obsessed with getting dunya things. They assume that everybody
else must have done your intentions and everything.
Colin mutina be great is to the airport and what an MP says.
It has a fit Alomar he said oh no no who was not the karma Yeah, I
turned to home in Ottawa homie will add more hippie hippie Akali
identity he for us Mahaffey Layli in Minnesota chemotherapy me.
If a man's actions are bad, his thoughts will be bad as well.
And he will believe those imaginations about other people
that is accustomed to his nasty suspicions about other people,
he'd actually come to believe them. And He will even come to
oppose those who love Him by mentioning the words of that
Viserys
and so he he spends his life in a kind of dark night of doubt.
So
that's another good reason that many people will cite for Osler
for staying away. And he has another little point which is kind
of a footnote here because it will sit through Allah Dini one o'clock
it's a good way of concealing the good things that you have, and
therefore, saving yourself from some kind of ostentation or from
the jail.
see others people don't know how much you're praying fasting or the
your if you're an older than that jealousy is not going to appear
so we should fast forward number five benefit number five of self
isolation in Islam alpha A that will come isa onion Katya Tama on
Nursey UNK way on Katya Tama Oka on in this
other people's desire to get things from you will come to an
end and your desire to get things from other people will come to an
end. For unbent data or terminus for free equal Jedward. It's
really beneficial when people are not just wanting things from you.
For in the radon nurse you hire to lead to drug because you'll never
be able to please people. Firstly, Yvonne will not be Islamic enough
see Allah so it's better for a man simply to
concern himself with improving himself.
Well call a son Allahu alayhi wa sallam is a famous Hadith in Sahih
Muslim also Illa men who are doing a comb, Wollaton zero 11 Who are
Falco for interval edge Darrow alert is the Rooney I'm not Allahu
Aleikum.
So the Holy Prophet is saying, Look at the people who are less
fortunate than yourself. And don't look at those who are above you.
Because this will make it harder for you to despise Allah's
blessings upon you
walk all around even Abdullah Khan to or jealous will open yet, for
them as a Muslim woman. This chap says I used to sit with a lot of
rich people. And I was always unhappy. Quanta Ara Thoburn
asadmin Thirlby a debit and a fra humming deputy, I will see a shirt
that was better than my shirt and a horse that was faster than my
own horse for JLS tool for Cora faster. So then I talked to
keeping the company of the poor. And I found a piece in that
number six benefit of self isolation and faded a ser DISA,
colossal minimal Shahadat is Takala it will hammer car, one
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that it's if you're on your own, you don't have to see
stupid people and foolish people and put up with their idiocy and
their rubbish and meaningless chat, you just be preserved from
that. So that is
the list of the 10 benefits. Let's just go through them again, number
one, self isolation can be for the sake of worship and can be really
useful for that. Number two, the avoidance of sins. There's a lot
of fitna out there, you're avoiding it. Number three, the fit
and there might be a civil war, or burglars in the street or some
catastrophe out there. You avoid that number for avoiding bad
people who are going to kind of drag you down. Number five, it
gives you a kind of independence from others, they don't know about
you, you don't know about them, they're not asking you for stuff,
you don't need to ask them for things. And then number six,
freedom from having to put up with really difficult and stupid
people. So those are the six benefits. And we can all see that
this is pretty timeless, we can imagine ourselves in any of those
situations.
However, the Imam then goes on
with a chapter on fat loss, the drawbacks, the defects of self
isolation, or seclusion.
And remember, the context nowadays is are there going to end locked
down? Will it be a little bit we'll be able to visit relatives,
we'll be able to chill out in restaurants. It's called kind of
worldly stuff. But we should be looking at a deeper reality behind
this. If we can get back to work again and get back into the wider
society. What are the drawbacks that we have experienced in Oslo?
And what are the benefits of being in company? So he lists seven
drawbacks of OSLA which also for what it is the benefits of
companionship and being with other people. So let's look at these
Bismillah al Qaeda Talulah a Taleem with alone. Benefit number
one of being with other people is teaching and learning.
This is the first thing in America sorry, because he's erudite alum
of the Obama spent his life Teaching and Learning with God the
Khurana formula fad Lahoma Vicki, Debbie Island, Walmart, Amazon,
will I bear dirt if you don't? Yeah, these are the greatest forms
of worship in this world. This is the religion of aliens after all.
Well, I also work with Erica Ellerbee and Mahabharata, and this
is unimaginable unless you're mingling with other people. You
Isla Annelle Aloma cathedra one body Hartman Doha, about to her
daughter or even 15 But some of these knowledges things that you
can learn are essential and others are
secondary
furthermore Tegile Illa tal loom ima who have followed on Allah He
asked him Bill Osler
the one who needs to know things that are obligatory for him how to
do the minimum of the prayer how to learn your app, ADA would
actually be sinning if he isolated himself.
We're in Tala mal Florida. What can I lay it to? Minho l How do
you feel alone water electricity available I bad, fairly artisan.
But once he's acquired this basic knowledge, and he's not the kind
of highly intelligent person who could continue to become a
scholar, Mufti Accardi or so forth. And then he wants to
seclude himself for worship and then that becomes permissible for
him.
We're in Kearney Yucca deer or Allah Tabata Rosie Fiol only shot
a while ago. Fellows Luffy Hockley, he oblah. Ptolemy via to
Hassan.
But if he's able to become an expert in legal and theological
matters, then
for him to go into isolation before learning is a great loss.
While he heard her Paula Naha your hero, Nakai, the greater Alim of
Iraq used to say, to fucka Thorn, Matt, as Ill learn fuck, and then
go into isolation. Okay, so that's the drop first drawback of Osler,
it's going to be harder to learn. And even in these times of
zoom, social media and so forth, it's not really the same and how
the universities are going to operate. If the lockdown happens
at length, nobody's quite sure how it works. How do you really
examine students? How do you assess students supervise them
deal with the issues if it's all virtual or electronic that there
has to be mohatta There has to be engagement with others.
30 that was Senya. Benefit number two enough all into File,
benefiting and benefiting others
EML into fat Albinus, benefiting from others forbid QSP well, more
armella Earning a living and engaging with them with elec Alia
to utter illiberal mohatta And this can only happen when you are
in society. While Matteo la hemos Thorin Illa Turkey Lozoya somebody
who needs to earn a living has to come out of self isolation for
yoga or Fiji heard in minimal holida in Taliban Wafaa kata Shafi
come up with a colonel Vicki Wu Caspe. And then he goes into this
kind of jihad, the struggle of maintaining the ethical standard
when he is in the context of the workplace. And remember, because
he has a whole amazing section in here, Deborah Caspe, which is
basically what we've nowadays called Business Ethics, which
shows how even in the workplace, there is never a moment when
religious and spiritual ethics are not being tested and required.
Okay, so we can benefit from others economically. And we can't
do that if we're self isolating, and Monifa as for benefiting
others for her and ninfa. Nurse imobie Mellie he will be Bettany
here. This is that we can help other people with our work or with
our wealth for your own will be hired at him. I'll be Lil hisbah
So we can go out and fulfill their needs.
For fear and novelty because we have an aging Muslimeen there's a
reward in satisfying the needs of the Muslims with elica label now
Louis Lebbon Mahabharata and this can't happen if you're in your
retreat. Woman Quadra Alia bow PME me hello the shadow fair often
hula hooping Eliza will also let whoever is able to do this while
maintaining the boundaries of the Sharia. This is better for him
than to stay on his own in his retreat. In Canada layer started
off he also that he lived in a worthless Salawat mal Betania in
his OSLA all he's doing is preoccupying himself with worship.
If you're in your Osler, because you're writing a book or
something,
then it might well be different because the book will ultimately
be benefiting humanity.
A failure to thoroughly thought the third benefit of being not
locked down and in company is a Tete de bois to Adam.
Spring courtesy and learning courtesy
or nanny, be he what we mean by this is an era TL Dobby will pass
it in as being trained up through enduring the ways of other people
while Mujahid Effetre humbly at their home, and making an effort
to put up with
The harm that they do customer only neffs in order to break the
ego, what Gohan Lucia has worked and to go against one's personal
preferences and desires. While he am in alpha Wade allottee to
stuffer do Bill Mahabharata and this is one of the benefits that
can be found in being in society. We are often lonely luminol OSLA
we have Peyman limb to head the backlog and for the person who's
o'clock, who's ethics whose courtesies are not of a sufficient
standard, it is better to be in society than to be on one zone
while he heard antenna but then a Sofia theory about opt for your
call it on a NASA B feed murti him. And this is why in a mulatto
Sally's date though the Sufi lodges everywhere and one of the
things that the dervishes would do would be to go out in order to
serve humanity or in the case of bad in Dr. Banta to serve the sick
dogs in the street and it's a path of not of monastic staying in one
cell but of actually going out into society to see how one can
benefit so to add dub learning at AB learning courtesy through being
in society putting up with people's difficult ways,
and that deep as far as teaching or spreading
courtesy and good manners and good o'clock for inner mana and EBV and
Euro with Ira who this is when we undertake the training of others.
Well, who are Hallo Schaffer, Sofia Timo and this is the state
of the shape of the Sufis for indoor layup due to Allah to Adibi
him Ellerbee. Mukalla Tata him, he can't lift up the moral and
religious level of his disciples without associating with him.
Well, hello, hello, and while him will hook Mahatma, he's just like
a teacher. Teacher can't teach if he hasn't got students around him
he has to be in society.
Number four and fader to Robbie, at least nurse will Enos. This is
a nice one,
to find intimacy with others and to bring intimacy to them. In
other words, to kind of relax and open heartedness that comes when
you're chilling with other people and this is a benefit. There's
nothing wrong with this
work that I do man you have to run Wella email at the outset. This is
the intention of somebody who attends weddings and big parties
were more washed out once in any place where people gather to
socialize with her that theology or in a husband lives the field of
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but sometimes these situations have to be judged if there's
something haram that
you shouldn't keep the company of somebody who's not appropriate
company for you. Oh Allah watching MOBA wakad used to have both
ethically unreadiness something could be permissible or
permissible gathering you go and see somebody in the evening
and this can actually become Mr. hub for religious reasons.
With le cuffie Manuel stentless will be more Shahadat he actually
will acquire leafy deen and this is because people feel happy when
they keep the company of or visited by people who are
religious
can only be Musharraf in Malays, immediately something Taqwa people
are happy, when should you go and then for taqwa, come and visit
them.
Yep, so this is an important principle.
That
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, In Hola Hola, mellow
Hatha Tamil, lo.
Allah will not become bored before you become bored. In other words,
if you push yourself in worship, eventually it will become hard for
you. Not Forgotten, but it'll become hard for you where the
Amarone lay your stuff and
remember Hazara says this is something that is necessary.
Sometimes we need downtime. Sometimes we need to chill we need
to relax with friends. And this is also one of the HAC rights of the
Muslim. And it's fine and this is why we can't really be on our own
all the time. We need company we need to relax for in the NIF ser
level haka other, Muslim Tarawa, because the human self cannot be
at ease with the truth constantly for as long as it isn't sometimes
relaxed. While he took leave, he had melasma 10 fear if you
constantly force it, to do worship or to worship, study after study,
you will become repelled. Woman You said to her the Dini of
liberal, as in a hadith, whoever goes too hard into religion, it
will overpower him. For in Edina. Mateen for a little for Hebrew
riff is another Hadith. This religion is strong, the holy poor
If it's so go into it gently.
Well, he Delica call it Ibnu abbess Radi Allahu anha. Lola
marhaba TL Wes Wes Lem. Oh Jellison nurse, an abbess says,
but for the fear of kind of nasty whisperings I wouldn't associate
with people. In other words in the company of other people, even if
it's just an ordinary gathering, there's a benefit because
otherwise, it's just Dean Dean Dean religion all the time. It
becomes it becomes hard. So even if an abbess a mountain of Taqwa
was aware of this fillet is certainly Stephanie Elmore.
Tassilo Eden unrefuted in your Stephanie's will be more share her
that he will Mohinder 30 Phil Yomi will Leila sour so it's necessary
really to have somebody who you speak to and find a good company?
Even if it's an hour a day?
Fairly edge to hit V talebi Mandla UFC to Allah He FISA RTE Tikka sir
it's hard so be sure that that person you spend your one hour
with and relax with is not somebody who's going to be
damaging the other 23 hours
while Italica kala sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah who Allah
Dini kalila man is on his friends religion. So look to the kind of
person that you take as your friend. Right indicative. We're
known by the company that we keep other things being equal.
Further, no, Amina is Nursey by the Elkhart in the heart, so this
kind of relaxing chilling with people some hours of the day,
we're Aubameyang, cooler off Tolman and Azra. If you Hockley
about a lush house, the case of some people this might be better
for them than to be isolated failure difficut fee a while it
could be what how allergies are whirlen tomoloo Jealous. So first
of all, look into your heart, then look at the person you're going to
be associating with and then associating with him. Associated
with him. Benefit number five of being in company fee nearly 30
What he nullity gaining reward and helping others to gain reward and
mundane feeble Furby Hodor agenda is gaining road by attending
funerals and visiting the sick and attending the to AIDS What am I
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well Fedora Gemma Have you set it to solo at either lead Loksatta
fie Turkey similarly even if you're self isolated, you go out
to join the five daily prayers there's no rocksalt concession
because this is the Sunnah
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autoimmune Padilla to Gemma way as Ido Ali unless there's the fear of
some manifest obvious harm that will happen that will actually
make attending the Juma do more harm than good nowadays of course
it's the epidemic.
So the summer in our situation extrapolated is self isolation
means you self isolate alas even from the drummer in the mosque
with early Kalia difficult he learned that this happens he says
only rarely that there's some really strong reason why you
shouldn't go to the mosque for the press.
So
II up and also so we gain benefit, we gain reward when we're in
company of others by going up by socializing because there's a
reward in visiting the sick and so forth.
And that you Analetto as for helping others to gain reward for
and you have to hide Bairbre Lita older one nurse oh yeah also Phil
Mossad. Oh you have no Allah Nam for inner homeand Allah Allah
beats however because this gives other people an opportunity to
gain reward for instance, they see you at a funeral and they console
you and they get a reward for that.
Or they congratulate you for some blessing. And they get rewarded
for that.
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or the Nola home physio Cara nello for Weber's era, what kind of
hobby tankini suburban fee and particularly the scholars, if they
attend these events, they help other people because of their
presence and people are given happiness because they see them
though.
Okay, so he then says, You have to wait up the benefits of attending
such a thing against the drawbacks. And this happens if
even we're not thinking about self isolating, shall I go to so and
so's wedding? It's only a second cousin. But it's a second
marriage. Do I really need to go? But would it upset them if I
didn't go? But there's other things I could be doing with the
time and it's a long drive. These are kind of normal ethical human
decisions
and emotional concerns.
is suggesting that we have to use a balance and the xane in these
situations in order to determine what's appropriate is not it's not
a fixed thing of the fit will not say go to this wedding. Don't go
to that. As that it was said he said feel more highly minimal
holida Atewa
the, the sixth drawback of self isolation
or as he puts it, the the six the benefit of not being isolated and
being in company is you learn humility. This is really important
that you that in a warming after little coral bat this afternoon
mahkamah This is one of the noblest of degrees.
Well a Octo Allah He filled water you can't learn humidity if you're
on your own. Well, cardio Cornwell kibble suburban 250 are in Oslo.
It may be that pride is the reason why you're going into self
isolation. I'm so superior to people that don't understand me.
I'm so good at my liquor. I'm going to be on my own Faqad Rubia
Phil is raw Iliad is narrated one of the stories of the Bani Israel
and the hockey man Mina Hakama. That a wise man son the fourth and
may 18 was the Tina Messiah fanfare Hikmah he wrote 360
scrolls about wisdom cutters under and the hawk Gardnerella and Allah
HeMan Zilla and he thought on his own writing these things that he
was a very high of a very high degree with God for Allah Allahu
Taala in an Obeah God revealed to His Prophet only for Len say to
that person in their care card. maletto Alderney foucha You filled
the whole world with hypocrisy. We're in the Allah Akbar la mini
Farka che and I'm not going to accept any of that hypocrisy.
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for to hello when Farrah Duffy saw Robin tattle up. So he went
further and
found a cave under the earth to live in will call an awkward blog
to read or be now I found the good pleasure of my Lord. For oh hello
Darla Elan Obeah and God again revealed His Prophet say to him in
the kalam Tableau every diet you have not achieved my my approval
call for duckula as well. So then he went off to the bizarre to the
marketplace where harlot alarma or jealous or home and he spent time
with the ordinary working class people and sat with them. Whatever
color humble Akela Tama Boehner home and he sat with them and had
meals with them at their food. Were mush I feel I swapped him
out. I walked around the bazaar with them for Hala Jota Allah Elan
OBE, an acquired by lottery die and God revealed His Prophet. Now
I'm satisfied with you
for can Minmatar Zielinski Beatty, he was about I thought attackable
how many a person there is Imam Al Ghazali says who is in his home
self isolating, but his intention is prideful. Well Murni or Anil
Mahaffey, Allah you work hard, Allah your condom, and the reason
why he doesn't attend those gatherings is that he might not be
sufficiently honored, and might not be allowed to sit at the
front. Oh, Yara Terra for an Mohalla talk to him Arafah Lee
Mahalik or he thinks that not going to those things makes him
even more special. We're Abraca literality decree he been a nurse
and will improve his reputation amongst others.
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now call it he might also think that some of his weaknesses will
become apparent if he's mixing with others. Fillet your target
fee his Zod will issue how do I bother so people no longer think,
Oh, he's busy with renouncing the world and with worship, for
totally luminol Beatty Citroen Allah Makabe so he uses his
isolation in his house as a veil over his ugly habit. We got
another record in sci fi zoete with the Aboudi him in radius tech
rock, walked into Hello be different or thicker. He's not
really on his own in his house with a vicar of a meditation, but
because he doesn't want people to know who and what he really is.
And then he goes on and it's a very beautiful section here. And
of course, it's something that all scholars have to contend with
quite a long, quite a long section. What Allah Allah to
handle that the sign that gives away those people under home you
have a bona end user or whether you're a bona Enya Zorro, they
love to be visited, but they don't like to visit others. We are for a
foreigner betta colorable our army was Salatin, Eli him, and they're
happy when the ordinary people and the Sultan's come to them, wished
he met him, Allah Bebi him talk to him and spend time outside his
door workability him ADEA from Allah the ability to borrow can a
kiss
His hand hoping for blessings. Will O'Connell St. Harlow been FC
Hall lady you Buckley do Ella Hill Mahabharata was era tennis and if
it really been sincere in his self isolation
he would really be unhappy when these people come to visit him
come a hockey no unfor Dalian eighth or call for dial been a out
the great early type said Why did you do any ill early at ASEAN
Ellika what it is iannelli you would say to a visitor Have you
come for me to look beautiful to you or for you to look beautiful
to me? Well I'm hurting will Assam and who Connolly Amira the journey
Zara who a prince once once were to visit hottie mill Assam. He
said Hagerty Allah araca wala toorani What do I need from you?
What I need is not to see you and for you not to see me.
So, this kind of modular and MMO facility is clearly referring to
real individuals whose intentions in this kind of seclusion weren't
not pure and he spent some time indicating why this is poisonous.
So the final benefit of companionship and failure to
Serbia at Jatoba.
experiencing the world we might say for in the head to suffer dome
in Mahabharata to help the majority actually him experiences
gain only through associating with other people and seeing the way
they are well Arklow hurry xiyue LASER caphyon Vita fat homie
masala Hey Dini, we're dunya the instinctual mind is not enough to
understand why the interests of the religious in the wealthy life
might be. We're in nama to feed her a tragedy, but one more
madrasa. We can only really learn these kinds of life skills,
through being with other people and through experience, while our
higher Fe OSLA T manlam to hunico Atari. There's no good in an
isolation of somebody who is gaining no experience
for sabio either a Tesla buggy or Oman Jaya Hila a young person, if
he's isolated will remain ignorant and uninformed.
And then he goes on a hamster journey, one of the most important
aspects of experience and you're generally benefits who were
o'clock I was fit about any self knowledge that he comes to
understand his own self and his own qualities and how he is
within. Well, then he kala yaka did he feel halwa he can't learn
enough about himself if he's on his own. For in the column with
Robin fetal color ese because every experience that you have
when you're on your own is easy. We'll call it Adobe in our
recording our has sold in either color Venus de la mia, Tara
shacman, hula hoops, and every angry person or jealous person or
hateful person, if he's on his own.
His ugliness will not as it will be sweated out of him. Well, he
has suffered mightily cat these are lethal qualities in
themselves. Yeah, do imouto Ha ha ha. You have to gain control of
them and erase them. While I agree Teskey no habit about the unmei
your Hajikko her and it's not enough simply to stay away from
the things that arouse your your jealousy or envy and your hatred.
So he then says
a heart which is full of these ugly qualities. Be fellow do Malin
won't tell it the Saudi it is like
a wart or a boil full of pus. And somebody was pus with this
Passfield Boyer, he says, might not feel the pain of it for as
long as his still.
But as soon as he starts moving, or the copper comes along and
prods the boil with his
with his probe, immediately, he starts to feel the pain. So what
he's saying here is that we're really messed up and full of bad
qualities, those bad qualities will only become clearer to us
will only their painfulness will only be clearer to us, if we are
with other people and associating with them. And then we can
inshallah be healed. So as you can see, there's a lot in this book,
and it's based very much on the Imams and experience with himself
and with others. But what I want to do, before I move on, is to see
where he goes next because next time we're going to be talking in
sha Allah, specifically about the question of muhabba or love.
But this book of Oslo is paired with a book of softball.
So the book of self isolation is right next to in fact comes after
the book of companionship and friendship, where the Imam talks
about
why it's important to have friends what kind of people make good
friends, how you should be with different kinds of people how you
should be with people who are doing business with how you should
be with rulers, how you should be with the poor, how you should be
with with different categories. So a lot of practical wisdom in the
book. But I just want to make one point about this book, which is
that it's very surprising.
Normally an ethical work about the need for society will talk about
human beings as social animals society can't exist. And
psychologically we can't thrive and flourish unless we are
engaging with other people. That's not the tech that Emeril has only
takes
so listen to the opening of it but could add ever Sapa.
Alhamdulillah he led the Ramada so forth I bet he'd be lotta if he
took CC Tolan MT Nana where I left Albania, Colombia him for us
Bobigny I'm glad to hear when one other elevated Amin sudo Rahim was
on lofi dunya, Azteca at Nana hissing 100 Allah has given us
this great benefit of of brotherhood and companionship and
that the number of having friends while you are here at the roof,
aka our K learner, and in the ACA as well. And when you think about
it, the akhira that gender is a piece of company. If lernen Allah
Surin motorcar billion they are brothers facing one another on
benches on sofas it's a place of company that's part of the Neoma
of paradise
and then he goes on I'm about to proceed for in it to have Buffy
laid to Allah will who were fee Dini he may have the little robot
What's he talking about here? loving one another for the sake of
Allah and brotherhood in his religion are amongst the most
meritorious ways of drawing close to him. What after the miles to 30
minutes ha if you majority lie that well I should autumn
Lucha Walla Walla hasha wrote on behalf of Tahoe and Mata Sahib
Warner, Bill moto have been a fajita Allah. We'll see how how
can be Maratea. So again, he thinks there's certain conditions
for friendship and companionship, by which those who keep each
other's company
join those who love one another for Allah's sake.
So it's not actually talking about social utility or social contract
here and this is why we need society. This is why we need
friends is talking about love. He begins this book, have an ever
softer
courtesy courtesies or companionship immediately by
talking about at the hab, Villa loving one another for the sake of
Allah.
And time is running short. He spent some time talking about
hospital Horlock
early profits sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in Namibia, I thought you
were attending the muckety muck o'clock I'm saying only to perfect
the noble qualities of character.
And then
this quality of good character makes us beloved. And immediately
here there's an amazing torrent of Hadith about people who love one
another, that Allah's sake and we're not here talking about
romantic love or hormones, or we're talking about the human
capacity, not just to have friends with other people really to love
people for the sake of Allah and this was the way of the Sahaba and
there's so many beautiful, beautiful, beautiful Hadith and
he's got a long list of them. I'll just mention particularly well
known one which is in Bukhari and Muslim.
Allah call us on Allahu alayhi wa sallam Saba Tonio zyloprim Allah
Hafiz lillahi, Yeoman Al's Illa illa Allah. There are seven who
will be shaded by Allah on the day when there is no shade but his
Imam on Idol or just ruler shared by Nisha Fei badda. Tila a young
man who grew up in the worship of Allah, what agilon Kalba, whom
Allah Khan Bill masjid, and a man whose heart is attached to the
mosque is courage. I'm into Hatha Yoga I lay. What I've learned to
have Baffler is tema, Allah ricotta Farakka, Ali, and two men
who loved one another for the sake of God. When they came together,
they were like that, when they separated. They were like that was
a jewel and the Corolla Hollien for fall that Aina and a man who
on his own remembered God so much that he's eyes filled with tears,
while Jolanda atoma atone that has been what Jamel for call India
have Allahu Taala and a man who was harassed I guess, by a
beautiful woman of a good family and just said, I fear God. Why
don't you learn to sadhaka bees
sadaqat in for alpha hat Allah Tala mushy Madho baton phaco,
Yemeni and man who gives a charity and hide it so successfully, that
his left hand does not know what his right hand is giving.
So he then opens up an unexpected in this book, you'd expect to find
it in the Kitab al muhabba. There's a separate book of love in
the air here. All of these
sayings about love and how the early Muslims in particular used
to find this idea of having a friend who want actually loved an
incredibly valuable and precious thing. Allah Omar radula, Juan,
either a Sabah Hadoken would then mean Effie, failure to miss set up
for Kelowna, you'll see both Alec if one of you find a brother who
really loves him, hold fast to that,
hold to it, because that very rarely occurs.
And then sections on kinds of love and then annual habilidad waffleh.
We love people for different reasons, sometimes the ulterior
motives, but the highest form of love for others, is a love that is
for the sake of God and that is in Allah. So amazing phrase, not just
an herb Lilla loving somebody for God's sake, but an herb filler,
loving somebody in God. And this is a very high degree larly en el
Amin Who elmen Our Mala, not because he might teach you
something, or benefit you in some way, but just for the sake of that
person. And he says this is the high degree, and it's one of the
subtlest and most complex of human states.
And inshallah we'll come to an end here. But he then goes on to talk
about love as infection. In other words, if you really love
somebody, you love everything about that person. So he cites a
poem about Majnoon, who doesn't just love Leila, but he loves He
rubs his cheek against the wall of the house where Leila used to
live. And the mom's point ultimately, is that the true love
which is for Allah subhanaw taala if we have that love, we will love
his creation, but love what he's made, because everything is from
him. So the mark of the true believer Alladhina amanu I shared
to hug Balilla. Those who have Eman have more love for Allah. And
if they have a love, love for Allah, they love the world that
he's made, and the signs that he's created, and the nature of which
is the work of his hands, and their people of love. So there's
so much more that can be said about this amazing book in the
keytab and the hubba. None of us and he's talking about love for
God and God's love for us. In this book. He's talking about our love
for other people as being an expression of our love for God.
And inshallah we can see the centrality of this. And the fact
that coming out of Oslo self isolation into society is an
opportunity basically for love. Society, in the Islamic view is
about love for others, because of magnificence and the beauty of the
subtlety of Allah's creation. And this is part of the beauty of our
tradition, that it is absolutely focused on this principle of love.
So, of the cup of love, one is never quenched. But in short, at
this point, we've kind of at least worked through these benefits and
drawbacks of self isolation. And we've seen how the Imam
immediately takes us into this principle of love, companionship,
being with others. It's not just about chilling with people, but
it's about love. And his name is after all, sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam the holy prophets name disclosed finally on the MLP Emma
Habibollah, God's beloved. So he asked Allah subhanaw taala to
grant us the Shiva as the one who loves his Alma and who taught us
this love for Allah, and for everything that is made, then in
sha Allah make us people of muhabba and in sha Allah have the
right added, whether we're in times of aloneness, or whether
we're with others in sha Allah, to grant us the boss era and the
wisdom to get things right all the time to be balanced, and to make
the right judgments about who, when and why we associate with
other people in sha Allah. But I can offer equal what a Caballo cm
Macomb was salam o aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.