Abdal Hakim Murad – Fast to Give Ramadan Moments

Abdal Hakim Murad
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The speaker discusses the negative impact of distractions on mental health and family, as it can lead to feelings of guilt and shame. They stress the need to lighten one's work and think about mental health, as distractions can lead to feelings of guilt and shame. The challenges of life, including financial planning, sharing experiences, and the importance of faith, family, and friends are discussed. The use of hardship and the need for people to feel good about their lives is emphasized. The conversation also touches on the challenges of the Holy Prophet career, including the belief that eating poverty is a real experience, the need for a list of employees to remember them, and the importance of giving and giving, giving, giving, and giving.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. Well, Ali,

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he was Akbar he, woman who Allah, Ramadan Kareem. Once again, we've

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been welcomed through the portals of this generous and always

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astonishing month.

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And we find ourselves in a different kind of life a different

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kind of experience breathing a different air. And change is

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always good for us.

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Through endless mediocre sameness, there is a certain rotting of the

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soul. So this change is something that is really part of the benefit

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of the of the month. And since this is the age where we are told

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to celebrate diversity, diversity in our forms of life, is something

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that is particularly timely in the case of welcoming this past month.

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So

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at the college, we have been reflecting on a number of things

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this year and us this month, changes our pattern of work,

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students are still here, the staff is still here, the timing is a

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little bit different. But Alhamdulillah I think, in many

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cases, students find that they work better when they're fasting,

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somehow there are fewer distractions

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that we have been reflecting on

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purgation

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often nowadays, we feel that we are overweight into many ways we

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are carrying a lot, not just an excess,

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around the midriff, but also too much going on in our lives, too

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many plates to spin, too many engagements to keep.

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This can be quite difficult for those who try to maintain a

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spiritual mindfulness and focus in the month of Ramadan. Through

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Allah's grace, many of those distractions are taken away,

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because many of our more usual routines to do with physical

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sustenance is simply not there any longer. The desk is cleared, as it

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were, it's quite Zen time.

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But nonetheless, we find ourselves weighed down

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by so many distractions.

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And this is quite a useful time of year to take stock, to clean out

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the attic to engage in spring cleaning, to think about what we

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need, and what we probably will never need and throw out or better

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still give to the food bank or give to the charity shop that

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which others will benefit from more than we could. And there is

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in this divestment this TED read to use the traditional Islamic

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term, a tremendous sense of lightening of the heart that we

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are not carrying so much.

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Niger and wealthy foreigner is the Arab proverb, which means

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something like those who travel light reached the destination more

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easily nurture, and morally for literally, those who make light

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are saved.

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So one of the most useful things we can do for the rest of the year

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in the month of Ramadan is to see which of our worldly activities

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and

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incumbrances we would be better off without

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will the ship of our Islam float more safely, if we throw overboard

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some unnecessary weights?

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Well,

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one thing that we can certainly do is to think about

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the appalling inequalities which are constantly growing in today's

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world,

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and just contemplating them, and not doing anything about them

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within one's own compass and capacity is another weight that

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drags us down adds to our sense of guilt and shame.

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Too often Muslims who migrate perhaps for religious reasons, or

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perhaps for worldly reasons, find themselves encumbered.

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Their arteries are clogged, they just have too much of that dunya

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for which they migrated.

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And this leads to sometimes mental health issues, sometimes a general

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sense of anxiety. Somehow, the more we have, the less Tawakkol we

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seem able to cultivate, logically it might have to be the other way

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around. But this tends to be the way it is with with too much in

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our accounts and our pockets, that our credit card balances more than

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we could reasonably need.

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There is a certain hardening of the arteries of the spiritual

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heart and we feel this

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So in the month of Ramadan when we are attempting this teddy read

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trying to lose some weight, I suppose physically, we also need

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to think about how we can lighten our ship as we move through life.

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This is something that is stressed very much in the Holy Quran and

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sometimes we cringe or recoil when we look at some of the

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absoluteness of its language. Many of the earliest verses of the Holy

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Quran were inveighing against the wealth of the Meccan plutocrats,

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who were engaged in unhackable to khairthal.

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That's so amazing. It's just two words. Al Hakim will take Ethel

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and it sums up the entirety of what most human life nowadays is

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about. rivalry in worldly increase has distracted you. You can't get

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it into English in less than about eight words as part of the

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telegraphic condensed brilliance of La speech. Hola, como tech,

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Ethel. So this is about rivalry in worldly increase, because we want

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a car that looks as good as the car parked outside the neighbor

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next door.

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But we also want to increase itself, more stuff. And this

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distracts us low.

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Al heckle law who is a kind of game it's like a sport is like a

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trivial pastime. It's like killing time.

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But we've been distracted by this worldly increase from the things

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that actually really make us happy.

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What really makes us happy in life,

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faith, family, friends, things like that. And those are not

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really conditioned upon how much you have in your bank balance.

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Family is so much more important than all of the striving we do for

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worldly increase. Go to any graveyard of any religion. And

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you'll see what is on people's gravestones. It's about God. And

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it's about family.

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It will say a much missed grandfather or Nan or that's

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always the language. It doesn't say the late lamented, managed to

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become chief executive of the personnel department at Unilever.

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You never see that on a gravestone. So this capitalistic

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society is moving us away from what at the end, until we visit

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the graves at those ultimate Nakaba turns out to be the most

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important thing when everything else is stripped away. We realize

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what is important.

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It's not going to be the head of HR, who's sitting at your

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deathbed. It's going to be your nearest and dearest and it's going

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to be in sha Allah the angels.

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So Allah uses some quite

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hard language

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when he speaks of this, this human tendency to avoid what actually

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makes them happy and what is important because we're distracted

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by the glitter of the gold.

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Well, I asked her when the lady near Kelowna Bhima Tahoe LA home

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in Fort Lee who are higher on the home Bell who are shad Rola home,

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so your Tawakkol Buffy will be here your milk Leanna Will he let

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him era to Samoa to you will alt Allahu be mata maluna Javier.

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And I still find these verses

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challenging. It's hard to measure oneself up against the high

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standards

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that they demand. It says something like

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let not those who have been given a portion of Allah's generosity

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think

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that if they are miserly with it, that it is better for them. In

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fact, that is worse for them. It will be hung around their necks

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on the day of judgment. And Allah's is the inheritance of the

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heavens and the earth. And He is all knowing of what you do.

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The Sahaba would never read beyond reverse until they had assimilated

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its meaning and the meaning here is quite challenging, it's

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unarguable.

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If when there is starvation and hunger and need,

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increasingly in this country, those food poverty in the UK

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if we are anxious about when we will be able to buy the new BMW

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there is something wrong with us, and the happiness that we think

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that that car will bring to us and the status and the successful

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competition for worldly increase. And what people will say about us

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as we glide obliviously, past them

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will not be a happiness equivalent to the happiness that we

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experience when sincerely

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We express our human solidarity with those who are less fortunate

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than than ourselves. To give

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is to gain.

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Leon Kosal mandolin in South Africa. He says sallallahu alayhi

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wa sallam, no wealth is decreased by sadaqa. And anybody who has the

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habit of sincere not absent minded or ostentatious charity giving

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no one who has been in that state misunderstands it or

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underestimated it's a real thing.

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Just two days ago,

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somebody I've never seen before came up to me in the mosque,

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and said they had 100 pounds left in their account.

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But they were really their hearts were bleeding because of what's

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happening in Syria and Turkey because of the earthquake. And so

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they gave 50 pounds out of their last 100 pounds to charity to

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support those those people.

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A few hours later, 8000 pounds arrived in this person's account.

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It was an accidental repayment of some student loan long ago and it

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just popped up and she was almost in tears because she's seen the,

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the truth of this, that are ridiculous accountancy, whereby we

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calculate profit and loss isn't isn't real. We're not really in

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control of

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money. Even the economists even the Bank of England is not in

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charge of the economy. Not possible. Allah's is the is the

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inheritance of the heavens of the earth, everything comes from Him,

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everything is on loan to him. And if we are generous, and if we lose

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some weight, if we engage in some kind of financial liposuction, we

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will feel better for it.

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So this aspect is very challenging aspect of the Holy Prophets career

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are one of the great heroes of history, the great hero of

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history, who changed history more than any other man lived in

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conditions of very considerable simplicity, shall we say?

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Laya, Beto, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Dara, Manuel

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Edina. DuQuoin spent the night in his house.

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And we're worrying about financial planning for the next five years.

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And he didn't. He was just thinking about the moment.

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One of the great ones of our history had in Assam lived in a

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life of real poverty. And he just loved to give and to give. And it

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was his great joy to give.

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And somebody said, Well, don't you feel a bit inferior when you walk

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past the Sultan's palace?

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And he said, the only difference between me and the Sultan is one

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day. They said, What do you mean? And he said yesterday, the Sultan

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had what he had not had what he had, but that's finished and he

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can't go back to it.

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Tomorrow he will have or he may have what he will have what he may

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have. But he's not got that now. So I'm the same

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as him. The only difference is today, right now.

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A day is just a day.

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So this is a different way of thinking. And it's hard to school

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ourselves in this prophetic mindset, and to understand what it

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would be like to be so happy and to be so poor, but to be poor as

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the ultimate say fucker, if tra

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voluntary poverty, giving and giving and giving, while

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maintaining this is a sharing requirement enough for one's

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dependents. You can't allow your baby to

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to be thirsty. But nonetheless, all of the excess this

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extraordinary is the father till now this incredible cornucopia of

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money that somehow doesn't have much Baraka in it that just

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gushing forth from the earth at the moment that so many are

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experiencing and living in. Some Muslim elites are certainly living

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in it. There are Muslim oligarchs and Muslims who aren't generous

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enough with the model that Allah has given them. And we need to

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think about trying to remember the joy, that is the consequence of

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sincere giving, that nobody knows about.

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And to try during this Ramadan in particular, to create a list of

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recipients. Maybe from Bangladesh or somewhere, you know, somebody

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back home, for whom 100 pounds would be extraordinary. Well,

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don't forget that person. This kind of stuck there. You have the

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good passport, the job,

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you will be called to account for your determination to hoard what

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you should be giving. There are charities

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They can take out standing orders. You can support CMC and support

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the next generation of Muslim scholars, which is kind of sadaqa

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jariya that goes on, in sha Allah for as long as their scholars live

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and their students live in their families live and is kind of self

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replicating sadaqa This is a religion of Ireland.

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But you should also remember the poor, the destitute, the needy,

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that earthquake victims, the rising sea level victims that this

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is a world of very great suffering. And this we have a, a

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generous God, who rewards us in unimaginable ways, not least in a

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certain lightness in the heart, when we give and when we give

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sincerely and with the door with presence. So since this is a month

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in which good deeds are multiplied, let us think about

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this. And remember

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that the pleasures that come from spiritual acts are always better

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for us than the pleasures that come from physical acts and those

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that come from physical acts sooner or later you get

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overwhelmed by them and you become sick. But with the sweetness that

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comes from spiritual acts, you just become better and better and

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stronger and stronger. So we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to

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return to this ALMA, the spirit of sharing the spirit of solidarity,

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the spirit of mercy, because all wealth is Allah's wealth, we hold

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it only on trust and we will be accountable for every last penny

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for every last cent

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May Allah give you a great Ramadan and a peaceful Ramadan at a family

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Ramadan and lift your sorrows and your suffering and your anxieties

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and inspire in all of us the spirit of giving, which is part of

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the beauty of the prophetic spirit. Baraka Alfie Kohn was

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