Aarij Anwer – 7 Habits of Highly Effective Muslims

			I want to share with you a beautiful Hadith of the Prophet Allah is awesome today. And this hadith,
you can call it The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Muslims, things that if we were to incorporate
them in our lives and the seven of them, you become highly effective as a person, elevated in
spirituality, closer to Allah subhanaw taala and generally a much better person. This is based out
of the hadith of a Buddha Allah devotee robiola one who
		

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			says my dear friend commanded me to do seven things and that's where we get those seven habits.
Number one
		

			I'm out on the beautiful Bill Misaki new a new women whom he commanded me to love the poor and to be
close to them. Number two
		

			for Amma Ronnie and Andorra Illa man who are Dooney Well, Umbra Isla man who are focusing
		

			he commanded me to look at those who are below me in privilege, those who have less money, not those
who have more privilege and more money than me.
		

			Number three, were emalahleni and Aucilla Rahima for in advance, but he told me he commanded me to
be close to family to keep family close, even if family does not want to remain close.
		

			Number four, well not only Allah, Allah hadn't shy
		

			he told me or commanded me to not ask anybody of anything. Ask Allah subhanaw taala
		

			do what you can do but don't rely on people's generosity and favors. Number five Amani Allah half of
Allah he lo Mata Allah him
		

			sorry number five will Amana need an affordable health care we're in Ghana moron. Number five he
told me or commanded me that I see the truth, even if the truth is bitter.
		

			Number six, but I'm not an Allah Hafiz Allah He alone was alive. He commanded me to not fear people,
but to fear Allah subhanaw taala not be afraid of what the people say. Not let that become a
deterrent for me to do what's right. He told me Don't do that. Only fear Allah subhanaw taala Allah
help of Allah he lo Metalla him. Now this is in reference to an ayah in the Quran as well. Well, I
saw fauna lo medalla. And they don't fear the criticism of the criticizers. They don't worry about
that.
		

			And lastly, number seven will Imani and Oxfam in Colina how La Quwata. We love for in Hoonah. I'm in
Cannes in the lounge, Buffy the wire for consuming canoes in Jana. Number seven he commanded me to
say La how la Vela who what I love in love frequently, often because this is a treasure from the
treasures of paradise the statement and this is a Hadith of one William well Hua, this hadith
narrated by Muhammad and it is a authentic narration and this other similar narrations that are
found a few points here, I don't want to each of these seven are amazing points. Each of these seven
can be expanded upon
		

			extensively, but I'll touch upon a few of them in some detail and all of them generically. The first
thing before we even begin to talk about the hadith is how a Buddha wrote the law and who describes
the Prophet alayhi salam and the relationship. He describes it as a moronic Khalili, my close
friend, you can call it my BFF he is the one who told me to do this. This is the messenger of Allah.
Some remember the Messenger of Allah is Rasool Allah, the Messenger of Allah. He's the Imam of the
community. He's the commander in chief of the army. He's the head of state, yet one of his
congregants, one of the people that is part of the Jamara.
		

			He's the Messenger of Allah, like his friend, not just any friend, his close friend. And this is not
exclusive to Abu Dhabi, we have other Sahaba for example, and other learners saying that I will
sonically li be selasa, my dear friend told me to do three things always. And you find similar types
of sentiment in there in many, many multiple narrations for multiple Sahaba who all hung around him,
prayed with him, you know, hung out with him, heard him talk saw him on a day to day basis. This all
him
		

			is a friend pasando.
		

			That's how they saw him. And this is an underappreciated part of the character of the Prophet is
		

			that he was truly a friend to the people. Think about that for someone who is the head of state, for
them to be so friendly, so welcoming, so open. It takes so much character so much, you know,
accommodation, so much welcoming to make people feel that they're included. This is how he was at
his Auto Salon.
		

			And this is a glimpse from his life that we can only get when we combine many, many of the
narrations are we deep, and we already take a deep look at his life. Ali Sato Salam, the point
being, this is something that he was, this is how we should be as well, we should be friendly, we
should be kind, we should be welcoming. People should feel comfortable around us. It shouldn't be
that our presence makes others uncomfortable. It shouldn't be this way we are to be people who are
gentle.
		

			There are many Hadith about this, where ALLAH messenger prays for the person who is Hainan lady in
and who is gentle, who soft, easygoing doesn't take themselves too seriously. These are good
characteristics. Kindness, and gentleness are the characteristics of the believer. And we should, as
a reminder, try to be more kind and more gentle to those around us. Especially those of our family,
our community and everybody else as well. This is just the point. And if you read the zero, the
prophet salaam, you study the zero, I want you to try to see other examples where people who were
Musa lien people who were praying behind them, people who are in his army, how they have their
		

			relationship with the Prophet and how they describe them. It's a very fascinating tangent to focus
on, if you're studying this, you know, Inshallah, that's one. One basic point. Now the seven
effective, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Muslims, it starts number one, by Rehabil, Misaki,
in with the new women who love of the poor,
		

			love of the poor, not just help the poor, it's loving the poor, and to be close to them. This is a
level above than just providing support to someone which is good. That's very good to financially
support somebody. But this is one level above where you have empathy for their situation, where you
can see that this person is in a bad situation. And it's like, they're not at fault for being in
that bad situation, necessarily. Perhaps it's circumstances, perhaps they made mistakes. We all make
mistakes, but their mistakes were more costly than my mistakes. That's empathy. And understanding
that and having that attitude is so critical. You would,
		

			unfortunately, like our culture thrives on being cutthroat. That's how corporate culture is very
cutthroat, which is fine in a business setting, which is sometimes necessary in the business setting
to drive innovation to, you know, get a better results getting to make more profit, but is not good
in relationships in understanding people, and particularly those who are underprivileged,
particularly those who are underprivileged because of generational trauma or oppression. This is
important we speak about, for example, the people who are largely considered to be marginalized,
like, say, the indigenous community. And particularly, if you live in areas where there's lots of
		

			indigenous folks, the narrative turns very fast from being okay. These are people who are
marginalized, too. These are people who are at fault because they drink too much. This happens, this
happens in Calgary, for example. There's lots of indigenous people live in the area, Winnipeg I was
there as well, recently, same narrative as exists there. But there's a lack of empathy and
understanding what causes these people to do what they're doing. If you look at the history that
they have, that they have lived through, it gives you a perspective of the suffering that they went
through. They don't know how to cope with it, this is possibly their response to it, not to condone
		

			that behavior, but to have empathy to understand. So we can inshallah help the weak and take some
lessons. This is what football Messiah scheme represents, is to understand the situation of the
miskeen not to just say you are miskeen because you are a bad person. What do we mean whom to bring
them closer? This this idea of bringing them closer is to say that, you know, they're not lower or
I'm not better than them. I remember I was in Pakistan I used to we had we would always have a
servant in the house. Right? This was a
		

			This is a common thing where you have a poor person who comes to your house, they, you know, clean
up and stuff. Sometimes they live on the property as well. And they never eat on the same table as
the rest of us. They always sit on the floor eat and while the family's eating on the table. Why is
that? Why do we feel superior to that person? Because we have more money. That is that why this is
exactly the opposite of what the messenger of Allah Islam is saying, what do we mean who bring them
close? In fact, you have a Abdullah bin or Muraleedharan Omar, who is narrated, that he would,
		

			he would go and look for a person who was underprivileged, who was a miskeen and invite him into his
house complete stranger, so that they could have a dinner. And he would do this as frequently as he
possibly could mow the lawn. And he's seen this on the Messenger of Allah system even more where he
would come to the US House. So for the people who would sit in the back of the masjid because
they're homeless, they had no home. And he would take one of them. And he would go to a Sahabas
House, who has money who has food, and he would invite all of these poor people with him. So that
that the classism that exists, can be broken at its core, these poor people are coming with the
		

			Messenger of Allah, the most honorable person to a rich man's house, and they will all sit together
and they will all eat together, because you're all the same. In the sight of Allah, it's only Dukkha
that makes you better or worse. This is what the messenger while some did actively, and then his
Sahaba did actively to make sure that this kind of this evil doesn't corrupt a person's brain or
their soul. Unfortunately, we see this in our society. And this is something that we have to figure
out how to address. Maybe the solution isn't to find the person who was, you know, homeless and
bring them into the house. I'm not saying you do that. But there has to be some way that we develop
		

			empathy and teach empathy to our kids and break down this classism that exists quite often in the
Muslim cultures. It's important that we think about this proactively for ourselves and our families.
Please move ahead is up look at him.
		

			He said number two, are they subtle, salam, if you can make space and moving inshallah they'll be
great. Number two, he said,
		

			Well, I'm not only an Andorra, Elam and Hua Minh, who are Dooney, Wallah, 11 who have Okay, the idea
being being grateful, looking at those who are underprivileged, not those who are more privileged
than myself. The idea here is, we look at those who are underprivileged, in hopes that we are
grateful for the blessings and the privileges that Allah has given us. Not that we don't want to be
ambitious, it's actually to the contrary, we don't want to be ungrateful. This is a very important
habit of a successful, effective Muslim, that they are grateful for what Allah has given them. Elena
has in us like the messenger said, True richness being actually wealthy is you're happy, you're
		

			happy with what you have a handler, because in all honesty, you can never have enough, there's
always someone who's going to have more.
		

			And if that is the pursuit, it's always going to be a futile pursuit.
		

			To the effective Muslims habit is Alhamdulillah I'm happy with Allah has given Me I will try to get
more I will try to work hard, but Alhamdulillah for Allah has given me an unhandled love of what he
has kept away from me. This is the attitude. Number three is to take care of family to keep family
close, even if family doesn't want to be close. I've given a football on this before. This is a
hard, hard thing to do. We can do justice to it in a few minutes. But the idea is fundamental in
Islam, family is blood. Those are ties that Allah subhanaw taala created, we didn't choose to create
those ties. We didn't choose our brothers or sisters. We didn't choose our parents. We didn't choose
		

			our cousins, Allah chose them. For them to be our family. We can choose our family. So I will choose
our friends excuse me, we can choose our our spouses, hopefully, but everybody else in our family,
Allah chose them for us. So if anything, the righteousness and the goodness that we extend to them,
even if they are not reciprocating that is because Allah chose them. That's the fundamental reason.
And that's why you find this in the Quran. Again, and again. We're living the Yasi Luna AMA, ama
Allah who will be a useful those who join that which Allah has commanded to be joined. And here the
image of joining here is you keep ties with family because you're tied by blood, but you keep that
		

			tight. You don't cut that off. That's number three a highly effective habit of the believer.
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			For Allah, Allah has that I don't ask anybody for anything. This is actually according to him in
cathedra, the meaning of Iraq and I will do a year kind of saying, you will only worship and you
will only ask for help. And even if he says that you will only ask for help means we rely solely on
Allah. We don't rely on people's generosity and favors. Of course, people will help us, Allah will
send people to help us. That's not what this is saying. That's not what the messenger is saying,
Let's build slum. But what he's seeing is that don't be dependent. Don't be dependent on people,
people will disappoint you. Be independent of people and depend on Allah punctata Allah will never
		

			disappoint you. This is a liberating way of living life. It's a very powerful way to live your life
wherein you know that whatever I am able to achieve I will do it with my own hands with my own hard
work through Allah Sophia and Allah's blessings through Allah has divine guidance, I will achieve
that. But I will not wait for people to open doors for me. This is that attitude that the messenger
wants us to have. It's a very beautiful attitude. It's a it's an attitude that creates positivity.
It takes away negativity from a person's heart. Oftentimes he would feel this person hasn't done
enough for me. He should have done more let's negativity so I'm going to help you that won't get
		

			anything done.
		

			Not to worry, I asked Allah subhanaw taala you can I will do a you are gonna start in and whatever
Allah gives me I'll be content with what am I this volatile stuff put a Lalibela goes up through who
knows?
		

			lol hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. You are early, he was having a bad number five. Mr.
Ronnie and Aquila will help the way in Ghana moron. The fifth habit of a highly effective Muslim is
to see the truth. Even if it is bitter. This is a hard thing to do. It's really hard. Because it's
so easy to lie. It's so easy that I when we're talking with colleagues, someone makes a joke,
someone says something. And you're almost compelled to make up a story to fit in. This happens a
lot. Particularly if you know you and your colleagues don't have a lot of overlap. It happens. It
happens in situations where people are stressed, they will go cross the border. It's a stressful
		

			situation. We have trauma from people stopping us from people interrogating us, it's easy to say
something that's not fully true. How much money do you or do you have in your bag, or persons has a
small life. These are things that we think are small, but they're not small. Because what we have
done in our minds is we've made it okay to live. That's the problem. It's not that the lie hurt
somebody you're not that's not the point. The point is, it's okay in our minds to lie when we see
when we see it's convenient. That's the bigger problem. And that's why it is not allowed in Islam to
lie in any circumstances, except very, very exceptional situations. To save a life to save a
		

			relationship, really, in those two extenuating circumstances, you could just see a word that's
ambiguous to prevent a disaster. But other than that 99.999% of times, there is no line, not even as
a joke, not even as a small little thing we made up to fit in nothing.
		

			This is hard. It's very hard, because our culture is built up on making up stuff to entertain
people. But our deen is built on principles. And the principle of truth is non negotiable for us.
We're an Akula, we'll have to encounter moron. Even if it is bitter. That's where it's hard.
		

			Oftentimes, a child will lie,
		

			the hide a bitter situation.
		

			But that's really the test. Can you tell the truth, when it will get you in trouble.
		

			And this is something I encourage all of us, those of us who have kids that teach our children if
they tell the truth, and it's something that you know, is not damaging, right, they did something
that's not damaging. They didn't do the homework, for example, but they told the truth. The Congress
should be cognizant that we don't want to punish and then create a situation where they don't tell
the truth next time. We have to be cognizant of that. How do you handle that we're encouraged that
they tell the truth. We reward that they told the truth, but also help them in what they didn't do,
right. This is a problem that we have to grapple with. And all of us should actively think about
		

			this because the habit of truthfulness is built in
		

			In these small transactions, the small moments and then amalgamates into it, and then the messenger
says, One radula
		

			a person will tell the truth Hatter YouTuber in the law, he's a deacon, they tell the truth and they
tell the truth until Allah writes that this is a real, truthful person, and that they go into Jannah
as a truthful person. And the opposite end of the spectrum, a person tells the lie and the telling
of the lie hatha yoga and the lying kids daban until they're written in the eyes of Allah as the
perpetual liar.
		

			And that takes him to the fire of *. So we build these habits in ourselves and in our families.
Number six. I'm out on the Aloha Fila Hill Omotola in the haters gonna hate. That's one way of
putting it. loam is blame someone low Matala him the blame of the one who wants to blame you or who
is blaming you for making the right decision that people blame you, you live with the consequences.
That's what the message is saying. You did the right thing. If people blame me for that, don't worry
about it. This is a very powerful idea. A lot can be said about this. A lot of implementations of
this can be discussed. But the idea is at its core, we fear Allah subhanaw taala
		

			that's what who matters to us. First and foremost, we take precautions we make sure we do things
right. But if it comes down to a choice between this is what Allah Papa says. And once and this is
what people will say, and it's what people want. And there's no way to rectify or reconcile between
the two. Then we choose Allah subhanaw taala if there's a way to reconcile hamdulillah do so. But if
there isn't, what are Hoffa Elia Hakuna Villa de la medulla in the believers, they prioritize Allah
subhanaw taala. And finally, the seventh habit is an Oxfam and only the high level of water I love
Allah saying the whole hour who was in the villa frequently it's a reminder what is the mean all
		

			power, all might is in the hands of Allah. We are feeble beings, we're small beings. We are, you
know, little, we live for a few years and we die. We get, you know, infected fast, we get sick very
fast. We're holding on and settled by Eva, we're weak.
		

			Allah is the one who's strong, we remind ourselves constantly the whole level of water level, Allah
is the one who's in charge. Allah subhanaw taala has all the ultimate power. It's liberating because
you don't blame yourself for your mistakes and your shortcomings so much then it's okay we will make
mistakes. Allah is the One who is powerful. He is the forgiving one. These are seven effective
habits, highly effective habits of believers. Number one being I'll recap quickly, the one who loves
the poor and keeps them focused, number two, to look at those who are underprivileged, so we're
grateful number three, to keep them the close even if family doesn't want to be close. Number four,
		

			to not ask for anything of anyone to be completely independent and only rely on Allah. Number five,
to tell the truth even if truth is hard and bitter. Number six, to not fear the criticism of people
only worry about Allah Subhana Allah is pleasure. And number seven and finally to c'est la hawla
wala Quwata illa Allah is a beautiful habits all of us need a reminder like this all of us have to
think about how can we inculcate this in ourselves and our families we ask Allah for tofi in
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but I mean, have a nasty nasty dunya Hassan
		

			Ibrahim Salam