Zia Sheikh – Two Methods Of Seeking Advice ISTIKHARA & ISTISHARAH

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The concept of "articipical" in the name of Allah is used to indicate a turnaround, with the use of "naught" and " Volkswagen" to describe a person or situation. The sh defective behavior of people is also discussed, including woodpeckers and luckless things. The speakers emphasize the importance of remembering words like " Volkswagen" and "naught," and stress the significance of sh defective behavior.

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			In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious,
		
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			the Most Merciful.
		
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			In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious,
		
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			the Most Merciful.
		
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			As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
		
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			As the introduction was made, the thing that
		
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			was mentioned was that many people find themselves
		
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			at a crossroads sometimes.
		
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			They find themselves at a point where they
		
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			seem to be stuck.
		
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			They have two options, two roads to traverse
		
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			and two decisions to make and they don't
		
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			know which decision to take.
		
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			There is a hadith or reported hadith which
		
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			has been mentioned by Tabarani which says, that
		
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			a person who makes istikhara, he will never
		
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			be unsuccessful and a person who makes istishara,
		
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			basically he takes advice from people, he will
		
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			never be a person who becomes upset at
		
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			something, he will never be sorry.
		
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			So this reported hadith, according to many scholars,
		
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			is weak.
		
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			And Shaykh al-Bani, he goes as far
		
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			as to say that it's a mawduh or
		
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			a fabricated hadith.
		
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			But the gist of the subject is actually
		
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			supported by the Qur'an and the Sunnah.
		
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			Both things, the issue of istikhara and the
		
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			issue of istishara and taking opinion from people,
		
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			they're both supported from the Qur'an and
		
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			the Sunnah.
		
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			So first things first, I'm going to talk
		
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			about istikhara.
		
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			What is istikhara?
		
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			If you look at it linguistically, linguistically it
		
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			means to seek khair, to seek goodness, to
		
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			seek the better way.
		
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			And when you are making istikhara you are
		
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			basically asking Allah swt, oh Allah show me
		
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			what I'm supposed to be doing at this
		
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			particular juncture in my life.
		
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			So this is what istikhara is about.
		
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			There are certain things that we need to
		
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			be aware when it comes to istikhara.
		
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			Anybody who is familiar with fiqh or even
		
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			basic fiqh is aware that there are certain
		
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			categories of ibadat and categories of ahkam that
		
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			a person is supposed to be doing.
		
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			They are the faraidh, they are the wajibat,
		
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			the sunan, the nawafil, the mandubat, meaning the
		
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			mustahabbat.
		
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			So in these things there's no istikhara.
		
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			There's no istikhara about these things.
		
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			Well should I get up to pray fajr
		
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			or not?
		
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			Well, do you need to make istikhara to
		
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			pray fajr?
		
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			No, you have to pray fajr.
		
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			You cannot basically shirk your responsibility and throw
		
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			it at Allah swt and ask him to
		
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			guide you in this respect because he has
		
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			already laid down the rules for this thing.
		
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			So in these ahkam there is no istikhara
		
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			that you're supposed to be doing.
		
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			Istikhara is therefore then only in the things
		
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			which a person is supposed to be doing
		
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			and he has basically, for example he has
		
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			two wajibs, two obligatory things that come up
		
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			to him and he doesn't know which option
		
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			to take.
		
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			For example, the issue of getting married has
		
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			come up to him and the obligation of
		
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			hajj has come up to him at the
		
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			same time.
		
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			So now at that particular juncture, at that
		
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			crossroads, what does he decide?
		
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			What does he do at that point?
		
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			This is the time where he should make
		
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			istikhara.
		
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			So two girls give a proposal for marriage
		
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			or one girl gives a proposal for marriage.
		
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			Should he proceed with this marriage or not?
		
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			That's when you make istikhara.
		
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			A person gets a job offer and he
		
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			is wondering whether he should take that job
		
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			or not.
		
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			This is the time where you make istikhara.
		
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			The opportunity arises to move from one place
		
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			to another place.
		
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			That's a huge step in one's life, especially
		
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			from moving from country to country.
		
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			At that point, a person should make istikhara.
		
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			So this istikhara actually, if you look at
		
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			the history behind it, it replaced a lot
		
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			of things that the Arabs used to do
		
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			in the past which were superstitions.
		
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			So those superstitions that the Arabs used to
		
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			practice were known as tiyarah.
		
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			The Prophet, peace be upon him, he mentioned
		
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			in one hadith basically four kinds of superstitions
		
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			that the people used to practice.
		
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			He said that there's no such thing, everything
		
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			is from Allah.
		
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			One of those things was called tiyarah.
		
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			Tiyarah is from the word tayf which means
		
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			bird.
		
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			And what the people used to do, they
		
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			used to leave their house in the morning
		
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			and they used to see in which direction
		
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			are the birds flying.
		
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			So for example, if they're flying from left
		
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			to right that means it's a good day
		
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			today.
		
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			Okay, I can proceed with my business, I
		
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			should go ahead and do what I'm supposed
		
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			to be doing because everything's going to turn
		
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			out fine.
		
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			But if they're flying in the opposite direction,
		
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			then that's it, go back inside because it's
		
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			going to be an unlucky day.
		
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			It's going to be a misfortunate day.
		
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			So people used to take these flying of
		
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			the birds from left to right or right
		
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			to left as an omen.
		
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			And in this day and age we have
		
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			similar omens that we kind of think about
		
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			and we even believe in sometimes.
		
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			So you have a black cat crossing your
		
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			path.
		
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			So it's going to be a bad luck
		
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			day today.
		
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			Some people say good luck, some say bad
		
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			luck.
		
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			A person walks under a ladder and he
		
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			says I'm going to get 7 years bad
		
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			luck.
		
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			Have you heard of these things before?
		
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			If you walk under a ladder that's 7
		
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			years bad luck.
		
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			Or if you break a mirror, that's 7
		
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			years bad luck.
		
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			All of these are superstitions.
		
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			All of these are wrong and they are
		
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			tantamount to shirk.
		
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			And let me give you a couple more
		
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			examples that people practice and think about.
		
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			You've probably heard the phrase touch wood, right?
		
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			You say that okay, Alhamdulillah, my job is
		
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			going fine.
		
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			And then touch wood.
		
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			You would go to a table which has
		
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			wood in it and you touch the wood.
		
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			Does anybody even know what the significance of
		
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			that is and where that came from?
		
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			If you look at the books of history,
		
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			you'll find that in the old days, the
		
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			people that used to believe in these superstitions
		
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			and they used to practice pagan rituals, they
		
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			used to see woodpeckers pecking at the tree
		
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			trunks.
		
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			You've seen a woodpecker, right?
		
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			Who knows what a woodpecker is?
		
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			Everybody know?
		
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			Do they call it a woodpecker in Australia?
		
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			Or is it a kookaburra?
		
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			What's a kookaburra?
		
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			Is that a kind of a woodpecker too?
		
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			No?
		
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			Alright.
		
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			Okay, so a woodpecker, they used to see
		
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			it pecking on the tree.
		
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			And they used to say that this woodpecker,
		
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			this bird, is actually conversing, he's talking to
		
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			the tree, he's talking to the god which
		
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			is found in the tree.
		
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			So they used to think that touching wood
		
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			at any given time was good luck.
		
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			Just like this woodpecker, touching the wood which
		
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			has the god inside it, it is good
		
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			luck.
		
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			So that's what they used to believe.
		
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			Then you may have come across this thing
		
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			that people have which is called a rabbit's
		
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			foot.
		
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			They carry a rabbit's foot around them for
		
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			good luck.
		
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			The history behind that is that people, they
		
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			used to see rabbits, and if you've ever
		
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			seen a rabbit in the wild or even
		
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			as a pet, it basically rubs the ground.
		
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			It tries to dig into the ground, it
		
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			burrows into the ground.
		
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			So the people used to say that this
		
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			rabbit is basically conversing with the gods of
		
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			the earth.
		
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			So because this paw of the rabbit, the
		
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			foot of the rabbit was used to converse
		
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			with the gods of the earth, that means
		
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			it must be very lucky.
		
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			So they used to keep this rabbit paw
		
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			with them.
		
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			So these are examples that people still believe
		
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			in and practice yet they are tantamount to
		
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			shirk.
		
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			More common examples that you may have heard
		
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			of and especially found and that are prevalent
		
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			in the Indian subcontinent are the issue of
		
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			palm reading.
		
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			You go to a palm reader, which is
		
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			completely haram.
		
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			Any kind of fortune telling, it is not
		
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			permissible.
		
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			It is haram to engage in fortune telling
		
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			and to go to a person who reads
		
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			your fortune or reads your palm and tells
		
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			you what the future holds for you.
		
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			We should not be believing in it and
		
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			a person who does that, he is basically
		
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			stepping into the boundaries of shirk.
		
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			We are not supposed to be engaging in
		
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			any type of fortune telling.
		
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			Another aspect of that is astrology.
		
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			It is very common if you go to
		
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			India and Pakistan, they ask you what is
		
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			your star sign?
		
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			Are you a Taurus?
		
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			Are you a Pisces?
		
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			Are you this or are you that?
		
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			Are you Scorpio?
		
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			And again, all of that is related to
		
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			seeing the future by looking into the stars.
		
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			And again, completely haram and a complete form
		
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			of shirk.
		
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			So all of these things, we have to
		
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			sideline them and replace them with something which
		
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			is known as istikhara.
		
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			Seeking khair from Allah SWT and seeking this
		
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			guidance from Allah SWT.
		
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			And ultimately, what is istikhara?
		
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			It is a form of dua.
		
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			The Sahaba mention that the Prophet used to
		
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			teach us istikhara just like he used to
		
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			teach us a surah of the Quran.
		
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			He taught us istikhara just like he taught
		
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			us a surah of the Quran.
		
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			The famous dua, many of you may know
		
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