Zia Sheikh – Relationships 3252016
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The speaker discusses the issue of domestic abuse and how it is prevalent in our communities. They mention the Prophet A.S. who emphasized the responsibility of men in addressing women and the need for men to take care of women. The speaker also mentions a session on domestic abuse that is upcoming and emphasizes the importance of listening to the experts.
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So, this is again, it's not an unmanly
thing to love one's wife.
It's not an unmanly thing to have affection
for his wives.
And this is what the Prophet A.S.
demonstrated.
I mentioned in Fajr this morning, how the
Prophet A.S. in the society which used
to hate women and used to look down
upon women and used to treat women like
objects.
The Prophet A.S. came and showed by
example how to treat women.
How did the Prophet A.S. treat his
own daughter Fatima A.S. In an environment
in which people used to be ashamed of
having daughters and used to bury their daughters
alive.
Whenever she used to come and visit him,
he used to stand up to greet her
and he used to kiss her and he
used to make her sit in the same
place where he A.S. was sitting.
And when he used to visit her, she
used to do the same for him.
And in another Iwaya, it is mentioned that
when Fatima A.S. used to visit, he
said, welcome oh my daughter, welcome oh my
daughter.
There are countless Iwayas that talk about a
person who has daughters in his house and
he raises them, gives them a good Tarbiyah
and weds them off to a good person.
How a person is promised Jannah by doing
that.
In a Hadith, the Prophet A.S. he
said, I love perfume and I love women.
Now, this loving of the women was not
in a perverted sense as some people may
twist out of context.
But rather the Prophet A.S. was trying
to emphasize this point that in a society
where women are downtrodden and you look down
upon the women and you bury your daughters
alive and you treat your women like objects.
In that society, I am standing up and
saying I love those same women and I
respect them.
This was the reason that the Prophet A
.S. was very vocal about this issue.
The Prophet A.S. he said, Have the
Taqwa of Allah S.W.T in the
issue of women.
Have the Taqwa of Allah S.W.T
in the issue of women meaning that we
have to fear Allah S.W.T about
the accountability when it comes to the women.
It is mentioned by the scholars that when
a person, his wife has wealth it is
not permissible for him to take his wife's
wealth.
If a woman is working for example, her
money is her own.
It is not permissible for him to demand
that she contributes to the household.
He should, if he persuades her and she
agrees then that's fine.
But there should never be any kind of
pressure from the husband upon the wife that
she contributes to the house.
The ayah is very clear.
The men are responsible for the women.
Meaning spending upon the women, taking care of
the women and providing for the women, providing
clothing and housing and food.
This is the responsibility of the man and
not of the woman.
So this responsibility is upon the shoulders of
the man.
So when the Prophet S.A.W. said,
Have the Taqwa of Allah S.W.T
in the issue of women.
This is what he meant also that a
person should not take the wealth of their
wives.
This is the point that I am coming
to.
Today we have a very important session after
Salatul Maghrib about domestic abuse.
And this is something that has become prevalent
in our communities in many different ways.
So we need to make sure that we
come to this session tonight to hear from
the experts themselves as to how domestic abuse
is becoming prevalent and how we need to
try to avoid it and how to, if
we have something like that going on in
the house, how we need to take care
of it.
Aisha S.A.W. says, The Prophet S
.A.W. never hit anything with his hand.
Not a woman, not a servant, not a
slave.
The Prophet S.A.W. never...