Zia Sheikh – Ramadan Khatira Day 4

Zia Sheikh
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The segment discusses the importance of women in Islam and the need for men to respect them. They also touch on equal pay and treatment for women, with a focus on men being given a better status. The responsibility of men and women for maintaining healthy behavior is emphasized, along with the responsibility to obtain and maintain their status as mothers. The responsibility is given to men because they are the breadwinners and the woman is the one who gives them their status.
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Alhamdulillah, salatu wasalamu ala rasulullah.

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Last night we completed a large portion of

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surah An-Nisa.

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An-Nisa means the women.

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And this surah, it deals with a lot

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of issues related to women.

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The rights that they were deprived of in

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pre-Islamic times.

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in this surah

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gives them those rights.

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For example, the rights of inheritance.

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Prior to Islam, they had no right of

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inheritance.

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Islam gave them the right of inheritance.

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The right of getting their rightful mahr, their

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dowry, that was promised to them at the

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time of marriage.

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala obligated that upon

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the husbands that they had to pay that

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mahr as soon as possible when it was

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demanded.

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In addition to many other things which are

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related to the rights of women.

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Now in this day and age, we have

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a huge issue of women that say that

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they are fighting for women's rights or women's

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equality.

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The problem with that is, Islamically at least,

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that men have been given a different status

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and different responsibilities and different qualities and women

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have been given different responsibilities and different status

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and different reasons for being honored.

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Islam for example, it gives a woman respect

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and dignity from many perspectives.

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If you look at the fact that Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala or the Prophet ﷺ

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and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in the

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Quran talks about the importance of the parents

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and specifically the mother.

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Prophet ﷺ was asked by a person who

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is more rightful of my respect and good

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treatment.

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The Sahabi asked, the Prophet ﷺ responded, Ummuk,

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thumma man, then after that who?

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Ummuk.

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Thumma man, then after that who?

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Ummuk, your mother.

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Three times the Prophet ﷺ said, your mother.

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And then thumma man, the fourth time the

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Prophet ﷺ said, Abuuk, your father.

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So from this we see the respect that

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is given to the mother.

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The scholars say that the Prophet ﷺ mentioned

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this respecting of the mother three times because

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of the three difficulties that she has to

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endure during the childbirth, carrying the child for

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nine months during the childbirth and then weaning

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the child and looking after the child for

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two years.

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These three difficulties give her the rightful respect

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that she deserves.

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And that's why the Prophet ﷺ three times

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said, your mother.

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So the mother is given that dignity and

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respect.

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And then the daughter is given the respect

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also.

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The Prophet ﷺ said in a hadith that

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a person who has three daughters and raises

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them, educates them and then marries them off

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into a good household, gives them a good

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tarbiyah, the Prophet ﷺ said Allah promises Jannah

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for that person.

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And imagine just having daughters, just the fact

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that a person has daughters, it gives him

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this opportunity if he raises them right and

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treats them right and gives them a good

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education, then he will be worthy of paradise.

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And even according to a hadith, two daughters.

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This is not mentioned about the sons.

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The Prophet ﷺ himself, he had four daughters.

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His male children, they used to be born

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and they used to pass away.

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So the fact that the Prophet ﷺ had

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four daughters himself, this shows that the daughters

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have a special place.

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The Prophet ﷺ said, حب النساء الطيب والنساء

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I love perfume and women.

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And this mentioning of the women and saying

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that he loves them was not because of

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any kind of womanizing reason or any perverted

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reason.

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The reason was because in those days the

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women were downtrodden, they were not respected and

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they were treated in a bad way.

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Daughters were buried alive.

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So the Prophet ﷺ wanted to raise the

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dignity of the women by saying that I

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love the perfume and I love women.

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So you should love the women and you

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should respect them and treat them carefully too.

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So again and again we see that each

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and every aspect of a woman is respected

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and dignified in Islam.

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And the problem is that when women are

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saying that they want to be equal with

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men, then inadvertently they are admitting to their

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own inferiority by saying that we are not

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equal to men.

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This is basically what is happening.

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But if we look at it from the

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Islamic perspective, if a woman is satisfied with

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her own status and a man is satisfied

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with his own status, then there is no

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problem with that.

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There is no fighting over who is better

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and who deserves more pay or who deserves

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XYZ treatment.

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There is no issue because each and every

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person has his own status, his own responsibility

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in Islam.

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And that's why one of the verses in

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Surah An-Nisa, it's a very beautiful verse.

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Allah ﷻ says, وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوا مَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ

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بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ Do not wish for

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the status that Allah ﷻ has given you

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over each other.

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What does that mean?

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The status that men have been given over

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women and the status that women have been

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given over men, we should not be wishing

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for that, we should not be aspiring for

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that.

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So for example, probably nobody does that, but

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a man cannot say that I want to

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have a baby, I want to become pregnant.

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Nobody wants to do that, but just in

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case it crosses somebody's mind.

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No, women have only been given the honor

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of having children.

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So a man cannot aspire to do that.

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So this is what is meant here.

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وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوا مَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَىٰ

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بَعْضٍ Men have been given their own status,

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women have been given their own status, none

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of you should aspire for the status of

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each other.

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And then the ayah goes on to say,

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لِلنِّسَاءِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبْنُ لِلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبُ

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وَلِلنِّسَاءِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبْنُ For the men, there

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is a status that they earn, and for

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women is the status that they earn.

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وَاسْأَلُوا اللَّهَ مِن فَضْلِ Ask Allah ﷻ for

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a status.

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Ask Allah ﷻ for a blessing.

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So this is what Islam teaches.

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That you have been given different responsibilities, but

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each one is loved and cherished in the

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eyes of Allah ﷻ, and you should appreciate

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that.

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And then after that Allah ﷻ tells the

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men what their responsibility is.

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الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ

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عَلَى أَعْبَاظٍ وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُ مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ The men

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have been given the responsibility over the women.

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And many people take this verse out of

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context, and they kind of try to make

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it look like the men are in charge

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of the women or the bosses of the

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women, but the scholars say that this order

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here is لِلتَّقْلِيف وَلَيْسَ لِلتَّشْرِيف تَقْلِيف means that

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it's a responsibility that is being given to

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the men here.

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It is not an honor or a status

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that is being given, it's a responsibility that

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is being given to the men.

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What is that?

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That they are responsible for the women.

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Why?

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Because بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى أَعْبَاظٍ because

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of the status that they have been given,

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meaning they are physically more strong, mentally more

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strong, so therefore they go out and work

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while the woman stays at home and takes

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care of the children, which in itself is

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a very honorable responsibility.

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And then وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ because of

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the fact that they spend from their wealth

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upon the women, that's why this status has

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been given to the men.

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So the men need to understand that this

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is a responsibility and on the other hand,

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we have certain situations where the women, they

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earn a living, so the men have no

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right to take the earnings of the wife.

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Remember that.

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Because the woman is not responsible for providing

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for the household.

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If she chooses to do so, if she

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wants to do so, then that's her right,

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but otherwise the man cannot demand that she

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pays towards the household costs.

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This is the responsibility, the sole responsibility of

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the man and nobody else's.

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Because he is the one, he is the

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breadwinner, and Allah SWT has given him this

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responsibility and order.

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And this also goes, this is the answer

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to the question that people have about the

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issue of inheritance, which is also mentioned in

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this surah.

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Allah SWT says, وَلِذَّكَرِ مِثْلُ حَضِّ الْأُنثَيَينِ that

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the women, they get half of the inheritance

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that men get.

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Now remember that this is not always the

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case, that the women get half of the

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inheritance.

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In certain situations it's equal.

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وَلِأَبَوَيْهِ لِقُلِّي وَاحِدٍ مِّنْهُمَا سُدُسٌ Sometimes when the

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child passes away before the parents, and he

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leaves an inheritance, both the parents have an

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equal share, one-sixth each.

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But sometimes, or in most cases, it is

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half of what the males get, the females

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get.

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And the reason for this is, that the

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women, whatever they get from any inheritance or

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any earnings, they get to keep it all.

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Whereas the men, whenever they get any money

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from anywhere, they have a responsibility to provide

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for their household, to provide for their children,

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to provide for their women.

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That's why in their inheritance they get more.

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That's the reasoning behind it.

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So in any case, the summary of these

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verses is, that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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has given men their own status, women their

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own status, each should be satisfied with their

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own status, and be happy with what Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala has ordained for them.

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Going on, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala He

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says in one of the verses at the

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end, of what we recited yesterday, talking about

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the issue of istihzaat in religion, ridiculing religion,

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which has become a very common thing nowadays.

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That a person, you know, whenever there's a

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majlis, there's a gathering or anything like that,

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the people that are ridiculed the most are

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the scholars or the bearers of the religion.

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Any person who practices the religion, any person

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who has a beard, any person who tries

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to practice the sunnah, they become the target

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of jokes and ridicule.

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala He says, وَقَدْ

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نَزَّلَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الْكِتَابِ أَنْ إِذَا سَمِعْتُمْ آيَاتِ

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اللَّهِ يُكْفَرُ بِهَا وَيُسْتَهَزَّؤُ بِهَا فَلَا تَقْعُدُوا مَعَهُمْ

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حَتَّى يَقُودُوا فِي حَدِيثٍ غَيْرِهِ Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala has ordained, He has ordered in

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the book, that whenever you hear the verses

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of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, that kufr

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is being done with them, meaning they are

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being disrespected in any way, shape or form,

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or they're being ridiculed, they're joked with, then

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do not sit in that majlis.

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Do not sit in that gathering.

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إِنَّكُمْ إِذَا مِثْلُهُمْ If you do that, then

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you are just like these people.

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The people that are engaging in that talk,

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the people that are engaging in that activity,

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you are exactly like them, and you'll be

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treated like them by Allah subhanahu wa ta

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'ala.

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إِنَّ اللَّهَ جَامِعُ الْمُنَافِقِينَ وَالْكَافِرِينَ فِي جَهَنَّمَ جَمِيعًۭا

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So, basically what the ayah is saying is,

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that this attitude of ridiculing religion, ridiculing Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala, ridiculing the ayat of

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, the verses of

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the Quran, the hadith, the bearers of the

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religion, this is the work of the disbelievers

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and the munafiqeen.

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So if you want to be counted amongst

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those people, then this kind of majlis is

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the majlis you'll find yourself in.

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So if you cannot defend the religion in

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that majlis, and if you cannot speak up,

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then you have to leave that gathering, and

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you should not be part of it, otherwise

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will count you

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amongst those people.

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With that we finish, inshaAllah, I pray that

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gives us tawfiq

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to understand and practice what has been said

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and heard.

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Al Fatiha.

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