Zaynab Ansari – The Most Successful Marriage Part 1 Engagement

Zaynab Ansari
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The speaker discusses the marriage of Prophet Muhammad to Lady Khadija, which was a 15-year marriage. Khadija's support for Muhammad was high, and her business acumen was impressive. However, Khadija was unable to work for her previous husband and decided to propose to Muhammad instead. The marriage was successful due to Khadija's beautiful and blessed foundation for marriage.
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Assalamu Alaikum. Muslim amiryya. Welcome to a new

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series on the most successful marriage.

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I'm Zainab Ansari, and I'm really delighted to

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talk about the marriage of Prophet Muhammad,

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peace and blessings be upon him, to Lady

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Khadija.

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So this is the first part in our

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series, and for the first part, I want

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to talk about

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the engagement

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period of Khadija Radiallahu Anha to the Prophet,

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peace and blessings be upon him. She They

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really do embody,

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just a very successful partnership.

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And I think this really helps to lay

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the foundation

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for what's going to be a very strong

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and happy marriage. So

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let's talk about their engagement.

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As you well know, Khadija, peace Khadija

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peace be upon her, peace be upon the

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prophet, was,

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about 15 years the prophet's senior when they

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got married. Right? However,

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if we back up a little bit and

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kind of look at their interaction prior to

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getting married, we can really understand that Khadija

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from the outset is hugely supportive

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of Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him.

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Keep in mind that he's a young man

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who comes from a good family,

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but a family that is not known for

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wealth. Banu Hashim was,

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was not was not one of the wealthier

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clans of Quresh,

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but they were noble and they were respected.

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So Khadija knows that the prophet, peace and

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blessings be upon him, this this young Muhammad

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comes from a good background,

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a good family.

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Moreover,

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she is really,

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intrigued by this the idea that he is

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called as Sadiq and Al Amin. He is

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called as Sadiq, the truthful, and Al Amin,

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the trustworthy. Right? Because unlike the other many

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of the other young men of Quraysh,

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he was not,

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profligate. Right?

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He was not out there sort of in

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the markets,

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idling away and wiling away his time.

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He did not partake in gambling and intoxicants.

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He really, kind of, kept himself above the

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fray.

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So

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his very pure reputation

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was something that was well known to Khadija.

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So that when Khadija

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was looking to hire somebody

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to run her business,

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she chose the young Muhammad. Peace and blessings

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be upon him.

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Now keep in mind that Khadija was known

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for her business acumen. In fact, she'd inherited

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her business from,

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her previous husband who was deceased. So she's

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a widow. Right? So she inherits the business

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from him and makes the business really large

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and very successful.

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However, given the constraints that she faced as

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a woman in pre modern society,

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Khadija knew that she couldn't very well herself

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take the caravans from Mecca to Syria

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to engage in commerce and trade. Right? For

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that, she had to have a very devoted,

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trustworthy agent.

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So that's how she comes to hire Muhammad,

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peace and blessings be upon him. But Khadija

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is very savvy. She says to her servant,

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Maysarah, accompany Muhammad. I want to see how

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well he does. So, Maysara accompanies Mohammed, and

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when he comes back to Khadija, he just

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has glowing reports about Mohammed that he got

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to Syria,

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he's serious, he sets up his wares in

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the market, he sells, he's direct, he doesn't

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cheat the customer,

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and look at the prophets. Right? He has,

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the the prophets were at least doubled, possibly

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tripled. More than anything else, Khadija had received

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from previous representatives that she'd sent to Syria.

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So Khadija was

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very impressed with the Prophet, peace and blessings

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be upon him, and immediately knew that this

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was the person who could really, sort of,

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help her grow her business even more. It

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was this,

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it was the fact that Khadija was so

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taken with the Prophet's

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business acumen and his honesty that she decides

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in light of that to go ahead and

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propose marriage to the young Muhammad, and she

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does.

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And he's taken him back because he's just

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started to work for her. He says, I'm

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poor. I'm young. I don't have much to,

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to offer a wife. But Khadija

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knows that he has the most valuable thing

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that a man can offer a woman which

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is good character.

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So this is the beautiful and blessed foundation

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for the marriage of Prophet Muhammad and Lady

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Khadija.

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And in part 2, we're going to look

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at how and why they had the most

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successful marriage. Thank you so much. I'm Zaina

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Bensary on behalf of Muslima Media.

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