Zaynab Ansari – Inanimate Faith Creating Authentic Faith in a Consumer Culture

Zaynab Ansari
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The speakers discuss the importance of creating authentic faith in a consumer culture and avoiding wasteful Chinese culture. They stress the need for donations and reconfirming one's potential while avoiding rewarded spending. The speakers also touch on the "verbal beauty industry" and the importance of finding meaning and purpose in one's life. The speakers emphasize the need for people to find meaning and purpose in their lives and avoid overbought spending. They also touch on the historical and presentational context of the prophet sallalContinental time and emphasize the importance of not giving up on one's desire and wealth.
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Now that all your money is gone,

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we would like to just quick give a

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quick thanks to our sponsors,

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everyone, because, you know, this event really is

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impossible

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without having organizations like Islamic Relief. Having organizations

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like Beitul Mal, Dar es Salaam, Economics, Helping

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Hand, Mersen,

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Strategic Realty Solutions, University Islamic Finance, Unity Productions,

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as well as Zigna Relief. We don't get

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this opportunity

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unless we really have these people who come

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together and they spend this money for the

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sake of Allah so that everybody can benefit.

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And truly the people who we need to

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thank as well are you, the audience, because

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you are who will also make this event

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possible.

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And in that note, I would like to

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introduce Imam Majid inshallah excuse me, sister Zaina

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Bonsari to speak

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in regards to creating authentic faith in a

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consumer culture.

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I elected to speak first because I'm really

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here to listen to Imam Magid and to

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learn from him so Inshallah, I'm going to

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keep my presentation brief.

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I'm really happy though that we

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have the presence of Islamic relief here

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based upon what we discussed in our previous

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panel

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on the relationship between

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helpers and migrants on Muhasrin al Ansar and

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this idea of building bridges within the American

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Muslim community,

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I really want to exhort everybody

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here to make a donation to Islamic relief.

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And let me say this,

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Islamic

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Relief really benefit from donors who can give

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on a consistent basis. Alhamdulillah,

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one time donations are excellent, but try to

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sign up to be a monthly donor to

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the extent that you are already signed up

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to support Al Medina Institute and other noble

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efforts.

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Also make sure that you're directing your sadaqat

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to

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a group that assists those in the most

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dire areas of need.

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I think that

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this idea of directing our resources,

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our resources towards those who are in need

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really segues, alhamdulillah, beautifully into the topic

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of this presentation which is creating authentic faith

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in a consumer culture.

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in the noble

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Quran,

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The translation of this beautiful ayah that encapsulates

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this session is, oh children of Adam, take

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your adornment at every masjid and eat and

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drink, but be not extravagant.

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Indeed, he likes not those who commit extravagance.

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I looked up this word al musriffin.

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It comes from

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the the the mustar or the verbal noun

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al israf,

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and I was interested in seeing how often

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Allah ta'ala uses it in the Quran and

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how people translate it. And it's really interesting.

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I

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read in Surat Adhariyat,

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the 51st chapter of the Quran, these are

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ayat 31 through 34.

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Allah subhanahu ta'ala says

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These ayat for me were really terrifying because

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in relating the story

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of Ibrahim

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alayhis salam,

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Allah ta'ala tells us

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how Ibrahim

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said when he beholds the angels, remember he

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receives those guests, those visitors, and he realizes

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they're angels, right? And he says, what is

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your Aaron, oh messengers?

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And they say to him we are sent

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to a people

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who are

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immersed in sin

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to bring down upon them rocks of clay

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marked by your Lord for those who exceed

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all bounds.

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So this is really, really

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fascinating but also terrifying in the sense that

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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is using this

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label of musliffin

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to describe Umlut,

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right? The people of Lut alayhis salam. And

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we know that they indulge certain appetites.

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And see, that's the thing about israaf.

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It's not the case where we're committing excess

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in good works, right? It's not the case

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where people are committing excess in charity, in

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piety, in worship and devotion. No.

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Excess really by its very nature

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is in areas that are harmful and detrimental

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to the human being and to society at

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large. People commit excess in what? Usually in

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areas connected to their carnal appetites, right? So

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it's in the area of food and drink

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or it's in consumption of resources

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or it's in the misuse and misdirection

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of the nam and the bounties and blessings

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that Allah ta'ala has given us. It manifests

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itself in wasteful extravagance and ostentation.

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Excess and one of the really interesting things

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about this concept of israaf is that some

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of the translators say that what a person

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who commits israaf is doing is actually that

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person is actually sinning

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against

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their own self.

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That person is actually committing

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acts of excess and extravagance and wastefulness

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against his or her own self.

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Right? So it's just it's not a case

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necessarily

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where that person

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is committing an act of excess or wastefulness,

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and this impact is only felt by those

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around him or her. Indeed, it's felt by

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those around him or her, but also that

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person is committing a sin against his or

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her own soul whenever he or she engages

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in something which exceeds all bounds.

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So in

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reflecting on this aya

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and the concept which is how do we

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create authentic faith in a consumer

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culture,

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I did a little bit of research because

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I was interested in seeing

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where we as a nation

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are directing our dollars. What are we spending

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our money on? And obviously they're the necessities

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of life, so I kind of went beyond

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that. I know that obviously we spend money

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on food and drink and shelter and transportation

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and medical care, etcetera,

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but even in those realms, especially in the

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area of food and drink,

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we need to differentiate between that which is

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critically vital and necessary

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and that which is extravagance or wastefulness.

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I remember living overseas

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and we went to

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the supermarket quote unquote in Damascus,

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and

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at that time in Damascus, it was considered

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quite impressive

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to go into a shop and maybe find

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not one but maybe 2 kinds of cereal,

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not one but maybe 2 kinds of tomato

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paste, not one but maybe even 3 kinds

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of pasta, for example.

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And then when we came back to the

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United States and went to our our supermarket

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and the shelves are just

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packed, they're just lined with all variety of

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products and it's bewildering.

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I I mean, you have to ask yourself

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why do we need How many different kinds

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of cereal? What, 200 kinds of cereal? Why

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do we need that, right?

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So subhanAllah,

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it's really really sad when when you stop

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and consider how much we actually eat in

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this society and we're not,

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many of us sadly are not eating with

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a view to sustaining ourselves that we might

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go out and help others, but it's eating

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just for the sake of eating. You know,

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Sheikh Mortassim

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did this really good series, the Sheikh Hassan,

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last year

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on the prophetic character and one of the

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things that Sheikh Muertassim talked about was how

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we live in a culture now where there

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is an entire cable network devoted to food.

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But it's not about

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nutrition

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and the foods that are good for you

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and those that are bad for you and

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what to eat and what to avoid to

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be healthy. It's all about just indulging in

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eating just for the the sake of it.

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So then you sit down and you spend

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hours watching celebrities talk about their favorite favorite

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meals. I mean, what's the point? And then

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on the other hand in this society, it

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is said that the average American throws away

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enough food every year to feed about 80

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to 100 people in sub Saharan Africa, for

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example.

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But it's actually not the food and drink

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patterns, the consumption patterns I was really interested

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in. I wanted to know what are we,

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as a society, what non essentials are we

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spending our resources on? Non essentials, right? This

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is really I think,

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this is the heart of the problem when

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it comes to this consumer culture.

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It's not that

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we're spending money on things that are necessary,

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but it's all the things that we're wasting

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our money on because we have told ourselves

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that if we waste our money on these

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things that we will be happier, we'll be

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more fulfilled,

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we'll have a better life, somehow

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we will attain

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something, right, transcendent. Because I think that's really

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what's at the heart of this. We've told

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ourselves that somehow we're gonna attain some transcendent

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sense of happiness and joy and satisfaction

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if we fritter our money away on stuff

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that frankly is really useless.

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So for

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example, in 2012, I found that the average

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American

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spent about 3, this is 2012, spent $3,000

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on entertainment alone. I'm sure that number is

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actually much higher. Annually,

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we fork over $20,000,000,000

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on

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movies. This is just movies. $20,000,000,000

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spent

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on movie tickets

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to watch people go through

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completely scripted dialogue and actions,

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people whose lives are not anything we ever

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want to emulate. We

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gave

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the film industry again $20,000,000,000

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and I know as Muslims, sadly, we are

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participating in this culture. We're going and sitting

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down and watching these movies too. I remember

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when

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a few years ago when one of those,

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a Batman film premiered on the eve of

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Ramadan,

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and people are updating their Facebook feeds about

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how they were in the movie theater at

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12 midnight to usher in Ramadan with watching

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this Batman movie. Okay. For some of us,

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that might be amusing, but the problem is

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when we're spending money

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basically to

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be distracted by an illusion for 2 or

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3 hours, what are we gaining from that?

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Think about the fact that in this society,

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the movies that are usually pulling in the

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most money, and from adults, not from children

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necessarily,

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The films that are pulling in the most

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money are those films in the so called

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superhero genre.

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What does that tell us about ourselves as

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a culture? We're obviously searching for something, and

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we're searching for something that is that we

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think is larger than life and transcend it.

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But in reality,

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we are missing out on our own potential,

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right? Our own potential to reach out and

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affect in a positive way the lives of

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those around us.

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Superman, Batman, you know, with all due respect

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to the comic book fans,

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those are not superheroes.

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We had superheroes in our history. Prophet Muhammad

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sallallahu alaihi wasallam,

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The companions.

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The women of the prophet's household sallallahu alaihi

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wasallam.

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The alama, the mujahideen,

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those who sacrificed that we could stand here

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today.

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The pioneers in our American Muslim community.

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Right? Those people who labor

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tirelessly behind the scenes, we really need to

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reconceptualize

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what it means to be heroic.

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So again, $20,000,000,000

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is what we spent alone on movies.

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About $13,000,000,000

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and that's a conservative estimate. $13,000,000,000

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spent on video games.

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And an additional $14,000,000,000

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spent on concert tickets,

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which you might say, well at least they

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actually went to the concert and they were

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able to see somebody perform live. At least

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they had some kind of connection to a

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living person, right?

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But again,

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these numbers to me are really staggering.

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In 2014,

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as a society, we spent,

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okay, get ready for this number, on personal

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consumption expenditures, right?

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We spent $10,000,000,000,000

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$10,000,000,000,000

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we spent on personal consumption expenditures.

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However, only a third of that amount of

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10,000,000,000,000

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was actually spent on necessities,

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housing and transportation, etcetera.

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The vast majority of it was spent on

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technology,

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communications,

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entertainment, vacations and alcohol.

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Now what I did not look at was

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how much we as a society are spending

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on the adult entertainment industry. I didn't even

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wanna see those numbers. I just didn't wanna

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see them.

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Women,

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sisters,

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keep this number in mind. Every time you

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put on your hijab

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and you go out there representing yourself as

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an honorable and dignified Muslim woman,

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right, and you're eschewing

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what you're told is a beautiful, you know,

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that ideal that's that false ideal that's held

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up as being the beautiful woman, the attractive

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woman, every time you put in your hijab,

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right, and you're going against that trend, keep

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in mind that you are actually defying

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what is now

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a $12,000,000,000

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conservative estimate, a $12,000,000,000

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beauty industry. It's called the prestige beauty industry

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that tells us how we should look in

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public.

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They tell us it's for our own self

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fulfillment, but we know that's just bunk. Right?

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Ultimately, it's for what? It's to attract the

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gaze of members of the opposite *.

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So women are spending about $12,000,000,000

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or so fueling the beauty industry and an

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additional $12,000,000,000

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trying to alter that which Allah created by

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undergoing surgical and non surgical

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plastic

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procedures. Right? So basically botox and fillers and

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injections

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and tummy tucks and liposuction

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and all that stuff that they have sold

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to us to convince us that if we

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only, you know, nip and tuck and and

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try to erase the lines and the creases

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in our faces and remove

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the hair and bleach our skin that somehow

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will end up being better and more whole

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human beings.

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SubhanAllah.

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It's astounding.

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It's astounding because when we have the vast

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majority of the world's population lacking access to

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clean water and nutritious food and education and

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basic healthcare, but then in this society we're

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spending 1,000,000,000,000

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of dollars on honestly complete frivolities.

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It's completely astounding and it's it really is

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a tragedy. It's a tragedy. Now the reason

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why I'm saying all this is because

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we are told, right, in this society that

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the way to get ahead is to pursue

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wealth,

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right? And that once we've acquired wealth to

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spend it

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really in sort of the most ostentatious way

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possible.

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And that's going to ultimately lead to fulfillment

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and happiness. It doesn't

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because we all know that industrialized societies tend

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to have extremely high rates of suicide and

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depression

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and other mental health disorders that people are

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searching.

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In the midst of all this though, I

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mean why are we spending the way we

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spend?

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Why these patterns of consumption? It's because we

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are searching. We are searching for something to

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fulfill us, to give, to infuse our lives

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with ultimate purpose and meaning.

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But we've forgotten that we're not going to

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find meaning

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and purpose in that which is ephemeral and

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that which is transitory and that which is

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created.

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We're not gonna find meaning and purpose in

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that. We will only find meaning and purpose

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in that which is universal

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and eternal and divine.

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And this is the message that we can

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communicate

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to our fellow citizens, right? So I want

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you to think about that inshallah as you

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leave this hall and as you engage in

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patterns of consumption and spending,

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where are you directing the naaam, the bounties

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and blessings and resources that Allah ta'ala

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has provided you?

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Now keep this in mind. We were talking

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about this earlier, how we as a community

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sometimes

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that we're uncomfortable

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reaching out and extending ourselves to those who

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are less fortunate, and especially the most underserved

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portions of this society.

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But in doing so, right, in indulging that

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discomfort

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and ensconcing ourselves in our comfortable suburban neighborhoods,

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are we emulating the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam,

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or are we trying to run as fast

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as possible

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away from his sirrah, sallallahu alaihi wasallam?

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Keep in mind that the prophet sallallahu alaihi

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wasallam that when he passed,

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what did he leave behind when he passed

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on? Sallallahu alaihi wasallam. He left behind a

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mule,

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right, so his riding animal,

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a weapon,

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and a piece of land that ultimately was

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given for charity. That's all he left behind,

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salallahu alayhi wasalam.

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This is a man who was sent as

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a rahma

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to the world,

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Right? This is a man, sallallahu alaihi wasallam,

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that una Umar, radiallahu anhu, came to visit

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the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam, Umar wept because

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the prophet was sleeping on what we would

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just on basically a straw mat. That was

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his bed.

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He didn't sleep on a Tempur Pedic mattress

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with sleep numbers.

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He slept on a straw mat that left

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tracks and marks on his body. Sallallahu alaihi

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wasallam. When Umar saw this, he wept because

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he thought about Khosrow and Caesar and their

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wealth and their palaces and their store houses

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and their retinues and the prophet of Allah,

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the final prophet and messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam

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is living in what we would call in

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today's terms abject poverty.

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The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallamino in his household

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that often

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oftentimes they would go weeks if not months

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without there being a cooked meal in that

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house because they were not even able to

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light a fire

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and find something to actually cook on that

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fire. So for weeks, if not months at

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a time,

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they would subsist on dates and water,

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dates and water. Now imagine in Ramadan if

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we invited someone over for iftar and we

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said, you know what, we're going to have

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basically a prophetic Iftar tonight and we're just

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going to have dates and water. Imagine the

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reaction of your guests.

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Right? I was told by somebody who hosted

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a dinner party in Ramadan

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that if she served

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no less than 5 meat dishes,

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no less than 5 dishes of animal protein,

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they would go back and talk bad about

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her.

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Yet the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam,

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we know sometimes had to tie rocks

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to his stomach

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just to deal with the hunger pangs.

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So let's think

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about the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.

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And let's think about the fact that

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he lived in conditions that again we would

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describe in today's terms

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as abject poverty, but there was nothing abject.

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There was nothing abject or low about the

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prophet's existence sallallahu alaihi wa sallam because he

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was connected to that which is eternal,

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transcendent,

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divine

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and completely

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fulfilling.

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Because the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam enjoined us

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to be in this world

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as travelers or passersby,

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and he showed us by example

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how to do that. Sallallahu alaihi wasallam.

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Think about what happens when you pack to

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go somewhere, right? One of the things that

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I would imagine many of us strive to

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do is that when we go somewhere, we

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don't wanna be we don't wanna be sort

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of weighed down by

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excess baggage. We wanna pack as light as

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possible.

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So in undertaking this journey to Allah, subhanahu

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wa ta'ala, we wanna pack very lightly.

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And I want to share

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something based upon personal experience, and thank you

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for bearing with me because

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grief is something which profoundly shapes and changes

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your life.

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And in losing my husband, Alayr Hamhu,

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and in having the amana or the responsibility

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of discharging

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his estate and settling his affairs,

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I learned for the first time ever

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that even someone who lived as simply and

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modestly as my husband,

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Allah yarhamhu,

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even then he had acquired things. He

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accumulated things. He collected things.

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He repaired cars and he lifted weights, and

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so he had some things that he left

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behind.

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And it was a very sad process

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to go through his things and

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look at them, these things that he had

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collected

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and spent resources on and cherished and valued

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to go through these things and decide, well,

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what can I actually keep? What can I

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actually use?

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I'm going to have to donate

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some of these things. They're going to have

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to be given away. Let me try to

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at least find somebody who will remember him

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when they use these things. And sadly,

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some of the things ended up being discarded,

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and that hurt because those things meant a

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lot to him. But ultimately, he could not

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take a single

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worldly

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possession

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with him.

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All these patterns of consumption in which we

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indulge, all the things we acquire

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to make our lives more pleasing or more

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appealing or more comfortable,

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we cannot take a single

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thing with us.

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I've experienced that firsthand now that the only

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thing that my husband, Allah Yerham, was able

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to send before him and take with him

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were his actions.

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That's it.

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That's it. His actions

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and the knowledge that he left behind.

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Right? These are the things that are going

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to

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to be a witness for him and speak

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on his behalf on the day of judgment,

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his actions,

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the knowledge that he imparted that people continue

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to benefit from because he was a teacher,

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right?

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Sadaqa jariyah,

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any ongoing sadaqa that that he established or

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that was established on his behalf,

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children

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to supplicate for him,

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right? A Quran that he bequeathed,

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Hamdulillah, I'm reading from the Quran that he

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left behind.

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So, think about this as you engage in

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your own patterns of consumption.

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Think about what your those who you leave

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behind, what are they going to do with

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those things? What's going to become of all

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these things that you treasured and valued?

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What do you really want to send forth?

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As a sister in the Muslim community of

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Knoxville told me, Sister Sharada Nazami, I wanna

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give credit to her, an amazing sister who's

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just joined the community. Sister Sharada said that

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when you think of it in terms of

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we wanna build up our spiritual 401 ks,

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right?

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Our spiritual 401 ks. It's funny. We live

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in a society that tells us to spend

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1,000,000,000 of dollars in frivolities but then the

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same society tells us to save our money

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and prepare for retirement, pay into your 401

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ks. What about our spiritual 401 ks? What

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are we sending forth to Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala? Let's think about that. And I want

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to conclude with this du'a and the Quran,

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Right. Because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala realizes that

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even those amongst the the mumineen, the believers,

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that sometimes we commit acts of excess

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and for that we seek Allah's pardon. And

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the ayah is

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That is our du'a, right. That is our

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du'a.

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And it comes in the context of those

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who stood

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alongside the messengers

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and they fought valiantly in the cause of

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Allah

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and they sacrificed.

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Allah ta'ala refers to them as those who

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are steadfast,

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and all they said was what was their

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prayer?

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Our Lord, oh Lord forgive us our sins

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and our excesses.

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Make our feet firm and give us help

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against the disbelievers.

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Sister Zainab for that sheikha Zainab, I should

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say, for that sobering reminder and make this

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make dua

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for Abu Salha. May Allah

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shower his soul with rahma

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and enter him into the highest ranks of

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paradise, Amin.

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Next, Inshallah Majid.

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I'd like to begin this talk by

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making du'a,

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collective du'a

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for

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the husband

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of sister, sheikh

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This topic that,

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Sheikh Zainab already covered,

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the the meaning of this ayah, and I

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was very,

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interested

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in the numbers of 1,000,000,000 of dollars being

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spent

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in different various,

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you know,

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consuming society that we we don't realize that

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how much

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cumulative

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spending that we have together until you hear

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the numbers.

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But I would like just to,

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touch on

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a few points

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to add to the what she have said.

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Number 1,

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everything that I owe

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and everything I own,

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that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,

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he's the one who provided me and provided

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those who provided to me.

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All our money

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is Allah

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trust and a man has given

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to you and to me.

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As Allah says in the Quran,

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Whatever we own, whatever we have is belong

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to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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And therefore, we have to deal with with

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it the way that almighty,

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the one who entrusted us with this money,

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you have to do to do with it

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what he want us to do with it.

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And therefore,

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number one thing about money that we should

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not ever

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think about shortcut

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and cutting corners

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to earn haram.

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You know, there's something in America called easy

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money.

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You heard of easy money?

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What is easy money?

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Fast money.

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A person have a small accident, he pretend

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that all his body is hurting

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because he wanted to, you know, get that

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25,000,

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$30,000

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and,

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you know, even if it does, nothing hurts.

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Or a person want to have lottery tickets.

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I buy lottery tickets every day.

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Want to get it fast.

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Alcohol, gambling are the work of shaitan Allah

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said.

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We don't gamble

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because we are gambling with our when we

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do so.

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Therefore earning money, even

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a person,

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being asked to do a work of 40

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hours,

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and a person

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does the work of 20 hours,

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not completing the task, because sometimes you can

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complete your task in 30 hours,

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and a person cheat in 10 hours, that

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10 hours, many of it is haram.

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It's haram.

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A person have to fulfill

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the contract

00:31:37 --> 00:31:39

that he or she signed with their company

00:31:39 --> 00:31:41

or people they work for.

00:31:41 --> 00:31:44

For earning of the money is number 1

00:31:44 --> 00:31:44

issue.

00:31:46 --> 00:31:46

But

00:31:47 --> 00:31:49

spending of the money, I think that's what

00:31:49 --> 00:31:50

we like us to talk about.

00:31:52 --> 00:31:53

It is also very

00:31:54 --> 00:31:55

important.

00:31:58 --> 00:31:58

And Allah

00:32:00 --> 00:32:01

when he asked

00:32:02 --> 00:32:03

us

00:32:04 --> 00:32:06

eat and drink and do not transgress,

00:32:07 --> 00:32:08

don't overspend.

00:32:09 --> 00:32:11

There's a difference between the word and

00:32:19 --> 00:32:20

Those who do

00:32:21 --> 00:32:23

they are the brothers of Shaitan.

00:32:24 --> 00:32:25

What is

00:32:25 --> 00:32:26

in Arabic?

00:32:27 --> 00:32:29

Is to spend money in haram.

00:32:31 --> 00:32:34

A person pay money to see something Haram,

00:32:34 --> 00:32:36

to watch something Haram,

00:32:37 --> 00:32:40

to use that credit card to pay for

00:32:40 --> 00:32:41

something Haram.

00:32:44 --> 00:32:45

Without mentioning

00:32:45 --> 00:32:47

what happened recently,

00:32:48 --> 00:32:50

that some people were paying money in in

00:32:50 --> 00:32:51

website

00:32:52 --> 00:32:54

to violate their marriage.

00:32:59 --> 00:33:00

That is tabeer.

00:33:01 --> 00:33:04

Anytime a person spend money is something that

00:33:04 --> 00:33:05

violated

00:33:05 --> 00:33:07

what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala asked us to

00:33:07 --> 00:33:09

do or not to do,

00:33:11 --> 00:33:11

That's called Tabir.

00:33:13 --> 00:33:13

Israf

00:33:14 --> 00:33:15

is overspending

00:33:15 --> 00:33:16

in halal.

00:33:17 --> 00:33:19

In in in

00:33:19 --> 00:33:21

the thing that we spending money on it

00:33:21 --> 00:33:23

is halal to begin with, but we have

00:33:23 --> 00:33:24

exceeded the limit.

00:33:25 --> 00:33:27

We accumulated so much of it that we

00:33:27 --> 00:33:27

don't need.

00:33:28 --> 00:33:29

And is to spend

00:33:31 --> 00:33:33

money in something that actually you don't need,

00:33:34 --> 00:33:35

but you desire.

00:33:37 --> 00:33:39

You just desire. And that's why,

00:33:44 --> 00:33:46

Omar saw a man carrying a meat. There's

00:33:46 --> 00:33:50

no Safeway or, you know, Giant and and

00:33:50 --> 00:33:52

those nice fancy bag. When they used to

00:33:52 --> 00:33:53

buy things, they used to carry it in

00:33:53 --> 00:33:54

their hand.

00:33:54 --> 00:33:56

What the man carrying the meat in his

00:33:56 --> 00:33:58

hand like this, and

00:33:59 --> 00:34:00

saw him, he said, what is this? And

00:34:00 --> 00:34:02

it is meat. But

00:34:02 --> 00:34:04

went to ask him what is this all

00:34:04 --> 00:34:04

about.

00:34:09 --> 00:34:11

So this is a meat I desire and

00:34:11 --> 00:34:12

I bought.

00:34:17 --> 00:34:19

Or to you, every time you just desire

00:34:19 --> 00:34:20

something, just buy it.

00:34:21 --> 00:34:22

What

00:34:23 --> 00:34:24

try to tell him here that

00:34:25 --> 00:34:27

that you should not just have the habit

00:34:27 --> 00:34:28

of

00:34:30 --> 00:34:30

see something

00:34:31 --> 00:34:32

on on

00:34:33 --> 00:34:34

s

00:34:35 --> 00:34:35

a

00:34:37 --> 00:34:37

l

00:34:38 --> 00:34:39

e,

00:34:40 --> 00:34:41

and just go and buy it.

00:34:43 --> 00:34:45

Not because it's on sale, we're gonna buy

00:34:45 --> 00:34:45

it.

00:34:46 --> 00:34:48

Do I need it or not?

00:34:52 --> 00:34:54

And you don't go to the,

00:34:56 --> 00:34:58

yellow Friday, that's a Black Friday,

00:35:01 --> 00:35:04

that you sleep in front of the store,

00:35:05 --> 00:35:06

do tajjud,

00:35:11 --> 00:35:12

so you can grab the TV.

00:35:14 --> 00:35:16

And people run, like, rush to the store.

00:35:16 --> 00:35:17

Like, what happened?

00:35:17 --> 00:35:19

Because that advertisement said if you don't get

00:35:19 --> 00:35:20

it now,

00:35:20 --> 00:35:23

you're gonna miss on it. You're gonna die

00:35:23 --> 00:35:23

miserably.

00:35:29 --> 00:35:30

That was what this love is about.

00:35:33 --> 00:35:34

I will never

00:35:36 --> 00:35:38

ever in my life and and hope my

00:35:38 --> 00:35:40

children will never do that. I know I

00:35:40 --> 00:35:42

know my wife will not do it.

00:35:42 --> 00:35:44

But to spend the night in front of

00:35:44 --> 00:35:45

a store,

00:35:46 --> 00:35:48

2 o'clock in the morning to go and

00:35:48 --> 00:35:50

have a blanket and so forth so that

00:35:50 --> 00:35:51

they can get up in the morning and

00:35:51 --> 00:35:52

run to the store.

00:35:53 --> 00:35:54

SubhanAllah.

00:35:58 --> 00:36:00

And therefore, what is here or the problem

00:36:00 --> 00:36:01

here is this,

00:36:02 --> 00:36:03

that sometimes

00:36:04 --> 00:36:07

that people create a need for people when

00:36:07 --> 00:36:09

they don't have the need,

00:36:10 --> 00:36:11

and that's called the power

00:36:12 --> 00:36:13

the power of advertisement.

00:36:14 --> 00:36:15

Have you heard of it?

00:36:16 --> 00:36:18

Have it occurred to you that

00:36:19 --> 00:36:22

all the food advertisement take place during dinner

00:36:22 --> 00:36:23

time and lunch time?

00:36:24 --> 00:36:25

Because you're hungry.

00:36:27 --> 00:36:28

But sometimes

00:36:29 --> 00:36:29

people

00:36:31 --> 00:36:31

even

00:36:32 --> 00:36:33

advertising things

00:36:34 --> 00:36:35

with the

00:36:36 --> 00:36:36

magnify

00:36:37 --> 00:36:38

to multiply

00:36:39 --> 00:36:40

and to magnify

00:36:41 --> 00:36:41

the desire.

00:36:43 --> 00:36:45

And therefore, they give you somebody sitting somewhere

00:36:45 --> 00:36:46

and says,

00:36:46 --> 00:36:48

paradise on earth.

00:36:49 --> 00:36:50

That's very, really

00:36:51 --> 00:36:51

appealing.

00:36:52 --> 00:36:53

You know?

00:36:53 --> 00:36:55

And and and therefore,

00:36:55 --> 00:36:57

some people time sometimes they

00:36:58 --> 00:37:00

start borrowing money and get on debts to

00:37:00 --> 00:37:02

buy things that they really don't need.

00:37:06 --> 00:37:07

1,000 of dollars.

00:37:07 --> 00:37:09

And all of this, you pay minimum worth

00:37:09 --> 00:37:09

call.

00:37:10 --> 00:37:11

Minimum.

00:37:13 --> 00:37:15

When you you wanna borrow the credit card,

00:37:15 --> 00:37:18

you start paying minimum minimum payment

00:37:19 --> 00:37:22

that you you you become on debt for

00:37:22 --> 00:37:23

30 years,

00:37:23 --> 00:37:24

20 years,

00:37:25 --> 00:37:25

enslaved

00:37:26 --> 00:37:28

been enslaved by now.

00:37:29 --> 00:37:31

And I I I I can tell you

00:37:31 --> 00:37:32

that it's,

00:37:33 --> 00:37:34

it's very tempting

00:37:35 --> 00:37:38

that when you see something to buy

00:37:39 --> 00:37:41

and somebody says, you know,

00:37:42 --> 00:37:43

just use credit card.

00:37:44 --> 00:37:45

Very tempting.

00:37:47 --> 00:37:49

I want to share with you that concept

00:37:49 --> 00:37:50

of. What is?

00:37:51 --> 00:37:52

That's what I'm gonna talk about.

00:37:54 --> 00:37:55

Because there's a misunderstanding

00:37:55 --> 00:37:58

of what is. The word means detachment from

00:37:58 --> 00:37:59

material world,

00:37:59 --> 00:38:02

but there's more deeper definition on this.

00:38:04 --> 00:38:05

Some scholars says,

00:38:11 --> 00:38:13

is that the material world

00:38:14 --> 00:38:16

become equal in your eyes,

00:38:17 --> 00:38:19

having it or not having it become equal?

00:38:20 --> 00:38:21

Losing it

00:38:21 --> 00:38:24

or having it? Some people think that zuhud

00:38:24 --> 00:38:26

is to wear very dirty clothes or

00:38:26 --> 00:38:29

clothes with some holes on them. That's not

00:38:29 --> 00:38:29

zuhud.

00:38:31 --> 00:38:33

This and the cloth, what is the in

00:38:33 --> 00:38:33

the heart?

00:38:39 --> 00:38:40

Is to have

00:38:41 --> 00:38:43

not to show that you attach some materials.

00:38:44 --> 00:38:45

And that's why Imam Malik

00:38:45 --> 00:38:47

used to have a very nice clothes, well

00:38:47 --> 00:38:48

well dressed,

00:38:48 --> 00:38:49

nice perfume,

00:38:49 --> 00:38:50

have a nice home.

00:38:51 --> 00:38:52

And one of

00:38:52 --> 00:38:53

the zuhad,

00:38:54 --> 00:38:55

a man wrote him a letter and said,

00:38:55 --> 00:38:57

how come she look so nice, dress so

00:38:57 --> 00:38:58

nice?

00:38:58 --> 00:39:00

What happened happened to your Zuhd?

00:39:00 --> 00:39:01

For Imam

00:39:02 --> 00:39:03

Malik reorient this man.

00:39:04 --> 00:39:06

He said, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala open to

00:39:06 --> 00:39:08

you a a particular door of Ibadah.

00:39:09 --> 00:39:11

Enjoy that. Allah open for me the door

00:39:11 --> 00:39:13

of teaching others.

00:39:13 --> 00:39:14

And then he orient to him,

00:39:15 --> 00:39:17

Zuhud is is in the heart.

00:39:19 --> 00:39:20

Zuhud is in the heart.

00:39:22 --> 00:39:24

There's some people have 1,000,000 of dollars.

00:39:26 --> 00:39:29

And one business deal doesn't go well, which

00:39:29 --> 00:39:31

is another million, maybe it's

00:39:31 --> 00:39:32

$200,000,

00:39:32 --> 00:39:34

and they have a heart attack.

00:39:36 --> 00:39:38

There's so much into it

00:39:38 --> 00:39:39

that if

00:39:39 --> 00:39:41

it doesn't go like the way they want

00:39:41 --> 00:39:42

it,

00:39:43 --> 00:39:45

they get sick over

00:39:47 --> 00:39:48

it. It's not worth

00:39:49 --> 00:39:51

it. It's not worth it.

00:39:54 --> 00:39:55

You know that,

00:39:56 --> 00:39:59

I told you this poetry before, I think

00:39:59 --> 00:40:00

in one of the conference of Madinah,

00:40:03 --> 00:40:04

that Imam Ali

00:40:05 --> 00:40:07

a man come to him and asked him

00:40:07 --> 00:40:07

to,

00:40:10 --> 00:40:12

to sign into a deed.

00:40:13 --> 00:40:15

The man owned by properties.

00:40:16 --> 00:40:18

And he bought a very prime location, they

00:40:18 --> 00:40:19

call it,

00:40:20 --> 00:40:20

real estate.

00:40:21 --> 00:40:22

And he want him to

00:40:24 --> 00:40:26

to witness it.

00:40:26 --> 00:40:27

So I brought it

00:40:29 --> 00:40:30

to to

00:40:31 --> 00:40:32

to sign on it.

00:40:33 --> 00:40:34

When he looked at the man eyes, he

00:40:34 --> 00:40:36

saw the dollar sign.

00:40:38 --> 00:40:39

We call

00:40:39 --> 00:40:40

sign. Okay?

00:40:41 --> 00:40:42

Or sign.

00:40:44 --> 00:40:44

And

00:40:45 --> 00:40:47

he took it from him, and he flip

00:40:47 --> 00:40:48

it, and he wrote poetry.

00:40:50 --> 00:40:52

A long poetry, I will give you some

00:40:52 --> 00:40:53

of some of these

00:40:54 --> 00:40:54

verses.

00:40:58 --> 00:40:58

He says that

00:41:05 --> 00:41:05

A

00:41:06 --> 00:41:08

person cry over material world,

00:41:10 --> 00:41:13

and the person should know that the happiness

00:41:14 --> 00:41:16

you get in dunya when you detach yourself

00:41:16 --> 00:41:17

from it.

00:41:23 --> 00:41:26

Don't rely on a material world. And for

00:41:26 --> 00:41:28

that, for sure, we'll finish it or vanish

00:41:28 --> 00:41:30

it, and we'll vanish us with it.

00:41:40 --> 00:41:41

Our money

00:41:41 --> 00:41:42

that we

00:41:43 --> 00:41:44

piled up

00:41:44 --> 00:41:45

and accumulate,

00:41:46 --> 00:41:47

it will be inherited.

00:41:48 --> 00:41:49

And our home,

00:41:51 --> 00:41:53

time will take care of it.

00:41:55 --> 00:41:56

Then he says,

00:42:05 --> 00:42:07

prepare yourself for a home,

00:42:09 --> 00:42:10

house in paradise.

00:42:11 --> 00:42:12

This

00:42:18 --> 00:42:19

The wife of pharaoh

00:42:19 --> 00:42:20

Do

00:42:20 --> 00:42:21

you

00:42:21 --> 00:42:22

hear

00:42:22 --> 00:42:23

that?

00:42:23 --> 00:42:24

Wife of

00:42:29 --> 00:42:30

She said,

00:42:33 --> 00:42:34

Oh Allah,

00:42:34 --> 00:42:35

build me a palace.

00:42:36 --> 00:42:37

That's a right desire.

00:42:43 --> 00:42:44

To desire.

00:42:44 --> 00:42:46

Say, oh Allah, build me a home, custom

00:42:46 --> 00:42:48

home in paradise. You can do that. Say,

00:42:48 --> 00:42:49

oh Allah, I want my home in paradise

00:42:49 --> 00:42:51

to look so nice.

00:42:52 --> 00:42:53

I want it so beautiful.

00:42:54 --> 00:42:55

That's a good desire.

00:43:00 --> 00:43:02

She said, Allah, build me a home in

00:43:02 --> 00:43:03

paradise

00:43:03 --> 00:43:05

and have me stay away from the injustice

00:43:05 --> 00:43:06

and transaction

00:43:06 --> 00:43:07

transgression

00:43:08 --> 00:43:10

of pharaoh, her husband.

00:43:15 --> 00:43:18

Work for a home that the door person,

00:43:18 --> 00:43:18

the doorman,

00:43:19 --> 00:43:21

the person standing at your gate is

00:43:22 --> 00:43:23

a Malek, an angel.

00:43:29 --> 00:43:31

What the best neighborhood in Virginia?

00:43:32 --> 00:43:33

The most expensive neighborhood?

00:43:34 --> 00:43:34

McLean.

00:43:36 --> 00:43:38

You know the best neighborhood in Jannah?

00:43:39 --> 00:43:41

When prophet Muhammad

00:43:41 --> 00:43:42

is your neighbor.

00:43:44 --> 00:43:46

That's the best place. It's might be walk

00:43:46 --> 00:43:47

into paradise.

00:43:47 --> 00:43:48

All I mean?

00:43:49 --> 00:43:50

And you see a Musafa

00:43:51 --> 00:43:52

smile at you.

00:43:54 --> 00:43:54

Welcome,

00:43:55 --> 00:43:56

American Muslim.

00:43:59 --> 00:44:00

Welcome home.

00:44:01 --> 00:44:03

You don't need a passport here.

00:44:06 --> 00:44:08

And you and the Muslim from Chad and

00:44:08 --> 00:44:11

the Muslim from Nigeria, you're enjoying the same.

00:44:12 --> 00:44:13

There's no discrimination here.

00:44:14 --> 00:44:16

There's abundant of resources.

00:44:17 --> 00:44:17

Infinite.

00:44:21 --> 00:44:22

Whatever

00:44:22 --> 00:44:24

they desire, they get.

00:44:35 --> 00:44:36

Made made made of gold,

00:44:37 --> 00:44:38

and

00:44:38 --> 00:44:40

the soil of it

00:44:40 --> 00:44:41

is misk,

00:44:42 --> 00:44:44

and the glass of it is

00:44:49 --> 00:44:51

There is no home that we go to

00:44:51 --> 00:44:52

after we die.

00:44:56 --> 00:44:58

Except that the home that we built before

00:44:58 --> 00:44:59

we go to it.

00:45:03 --> 00:45:05

If a person will build it with good

00:45:05 --> 00:45:07

deeds, she will enjoy it. Otherwise,

00:45:08 --> 00:45:10

there's no there's no homeless

00:45:11 --> 00:45:11

in.

00:45:12 --> 00:45:13

A

00:45:13 --> 00:45:14

person gonna have a home.

00:45:17 --> 00:45:19

But may Allah make our home paradise,

00:45:20 --> 00:45:21

all of us.

00:45:23 --> 00:45:24

A man came to Rasulullah

00:45:45 --> 00:45:47

Tell me at deeds if I would do

00:45:47 --> 00:45:49

it, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

00:45:50 --> 00:45:52

will love me and people will love me.

00:45:54 --> 00:45:56

Detach yourself from the material world, Allah will

00:45:56 --> 00:45:57

love you.

00:46:01 --> 00:46:02

Don't become so much interested in what people

00:46:02 --> 00:46:04

have in their hand and then people will

00:46:04 --> 00:46:07

love you. Don't have envy and jealousy. How

00:46:07 --> 00:46:08

come their home bigger than my home? How

00:46:08 --> 00:46:11

come their car better than my car? And

00:46:11 --> 00:46:14

psychologically, it's very disturbing. Somebody driving their car

00:46:14 --> 00:46:15

and they bought a new car, they're enjoying

00:46:15 --> 00:46:18

it, and see somebody just driving next to

00:46:18 --> 00:46:19

them with a nicer car.

00:46:20 --> 00:46:22

Look at that. That's the car. What is

00:46:22 --> 00:46:23

this here? There's nothing.

00:46:24 --> 00:46:25

Or a person go and visit somebody have

00:46:25 --> 00:46:27

bigger home than than their homes. When they

00:46:27 --> 00:46:29

work home, like, they're very down and depressed.

00:46:29 --> 00:46:32

Why? SubhanAllah. That house is the house. What

00:46:32 --> 00:46:34

this kind of home is this?

00:46:34 --> 00:46:36

We are so much consumed

00:46:38 --> 00:46:38

with with,

00:46:39 --> 00:46:41

thinking about what you don't have.

00:46:41 --> 00:46:43

We don't enjoy what we have.

00:46:43 --> 00:46:45

We don't enjoy it.

00:46:45 --> 00:46:47

It passed by by us.

00:46:48 --> 00:46:50

Seize the moment. Enjoy what Allah Subhanahu have

00:46:50 --> 00:46:52

provided for us. And I think they're asking

00:46:52 --> 00:46:53

me to stop.

00:47:01 --> 00:47:02

Said,

00:47:03 --> 00:47:04

to have in Dunia

00:47:05 --> 00:47:07

is not to believe that you're gonna live

00:47:07 --> 00:47:09

forever. You have to know it's gonna come

00:47:09 --> 00:47:10

to an end

00:47:11 --> 00:47:12

sooner or later.

00:47:16 --> 00:47:18

He said he's not buying

00:47:18 --> 00:47:21

not enjoying nice food or wearing a cloth

00:47:21 --> 00:47:22

that is so,

00:47:23 --> 00:47:24

maybe old

00:47:25 --> 00:47:29

or not nice. That's not the result. And

00:47:29 --> 00:47:31

I give you example, Mohammed Jafar Sadiq.

00:47:31 --> 00:47:32

Mohammed Jafar Sadiq,

00:47:33 --> 00:47:34

a man visited

00:47:35 --> 00:47:37

him, and he saw him

00:47:37 --> 00:47:39

wearing very nice clothes. He said,

00:47:41 --> 00:47:42

you you are from the family of Rasulullah

00:47:43 --> 00:47:45

and you wear this kind of clothes?

00:47:47 --> 00:47:48

Mom left the pillow

00:47:48 --> 00:47:51

and showed him a clothes that's very rough.

00:47:52 --> 00:47:53

And he said,

00:47:59 --> 00:48:00

And when you leave, I wear this kind

00:48:00 --> 00:48:01

of clothes.

00:48:05 --> 00:48:07

And whatever for Allah, we hide it, and

00:48:07 --> 00:48:09

whatever for you, we show it to you.

00:48:10 --> 00:48:12

And the last story I'm gonna say,

00:48:13 --> 00:48:15

how you how you have how many of

00:48:15 --> 00:48:16

you heard the story of a woman that

00:48:16 --> 00:48:18

she and her husband have one garment?

00:48:21 --> 00:48:22

Only 2 people?

00:48:24 --> 00:48:25

I'm gonna tell you to it again

00:48:26 --> 00:48:28

because here is soft on my heart.

00:48:29 --> 00:48:30

This woman,

00:48:33 --> 00:48:33

as a hubby,

00:48:36 --> 00:48:38

him and his wife have one garment.

00:48:38 --> 00:48:41

He prays, and he run home and give

00:48:41 --> 00:48:42

the garment to his wife to pray on

00:48:42 --> 00:48:43

it.

00:48:43 --> 00:48:44

That's all they have.

00:48:46 --> 00:48:49

And, subhanallah, how many clothes we have?

00:48:49 --> 00:48:50

The when

00:48:51 --> 00:48:53

when did he stop him?

00:48:54 --> 00:48:56

Why you are not interested to sit with

00:48:56 --> 00:48:56

me?

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Said, yeah, Rasool Allah, one garment my wife

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and I have. Therefore I have to run

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home. She said she can work to pray

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on it.

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He go back to his wife. He was

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late a little bit. His wife asked him,

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why are you late today?

00:49:13 --> 00:49:13

How about

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missus

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salah?

00:49:17 --> 00:49:17

Stop me.

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And he asked me why I'm in Russia

00:49:21 --> 00:49:21

all the time.

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She said, don't tell me that you told

00:49:25 --> 00:49:25

him.

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She said, I did tell him.

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Are you complaining about Allah to his prophet

00:49:36 --> 00:49:37

Muhammad We're

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happy with 1 garment. We don't want anyone

00:49:40 --> 00:49:41

to know.

00:49:42 --> 00:49:43

That's kind of people,

00:49:43 --> 00:49:46

the dunya, it is it really it is

00:49:46 --> 00:49:47

not in their heart.

00:49:47 --> 00:49:48

And my advice

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to myself and to you, the following.

00:49:52 --> 00:49:53

Number 1,

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think about the concept of wealth. It's not

00:49:56 --> 00:49:57

belong to us.

00:49:58 --> 00:49:59

Think about

00:49:59 --> 00:50:01

fashion versus function.

00:50:02 --> 00:50:05

Fashion versus function. What I mean by that?

00:50:05 --> 00:50:06

It has to be Nike. It has to

00:50:06 --> 00:50:08

be Adidas. It has to be this. It

00:50:08 --> 00:50:08

has to be,

00:50:09 --> 00:50:11

other I don't know all the

00:50:12 --> 00:50:14

the sister and the brothers can help me.

00:50:15 --> 00:50:15

Okay?

00:50:16 --> 00:50:18

Branding versus borrowing.

00:50:18 --> 00:50:20

That I have to have the branding, no

00:50:20 --> 00:50:22

other even I've borrowed the money.

00:50:23 --> 00:50:24

And concept of saving,

00:50:25 --> 00:50:26

say for ACIRA,

00:50:26 --> 00:50:29

and Sheikh Hasenob said it, and that what

00:50:29 --> 00:50:32

we need to have an ACIRA Financial Planning.

00:50:33 --> 00:50:35

And maybe instead of 41 k, we'll say

00:50:36 --> 00:50:37

a

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one k.

00:50:41 --> 00:50:42

Planning. That

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we need to think about that. And the

00:50:45 --> 00:50:47

brother just told us from the Islamic relief,

00:50:47 --> 00:50:48

he said help people.

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I saw

00:50:49 --> 00:50:52

people in Nigeria. I saw people in Ethiopia.

00:50:52 --> 00:50:53

I traveled

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around the world, and I see some people,

00:50:55 --> 00:50:57

$20 means a lot to them.

00:50:58 --> 00:51:00

I would like to ask my family first

00:51:01 --> 00:51:04

that let us do every day, every month.

00:51:05 --> 00:51:05

We

00:51:05 --> 00:51:09

we, do, pay our bills, the first check

00:51:09 --> 00:51:11

to be for charity, even if $20.

00:51:12 --> 00:51:14

And each one of us have to check

00:51:14 --> 00:51:15

their closet,

00:51:15 --> 00:51:17

and the clothes we don't who have not

00:51:17 --> 00:51:18

worked for 1 year,

00:51:18 --> 00:51:20

get rid of it.

00:51:21 --> 00:51:22

We don't need it. Trust me.

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