Zakir Naik – Wishing Salaam to the Opposite Sex

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The speaker discusses the importance of maintaining the Quran's guidance on sex and not wanting to be too compl cotton. They also explain that it is not a requirement for every Muslim to approach a woman, but for those who do not, they should maintain their stance. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of not giving a "has" or "hasn't" reply to a woman, as it is not a requirement for every Muslim to respond.

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			This is a very good question.
		
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			As I said, the Quran mentioned in Suri
		
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			Anam chapter 6 was 54
		
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			that
		
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			that when those come to thee
		
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			when those come to thee who believe in
		
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			our signs, wish them.
		
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			The Quran verse says, when those come to
		
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			thee,
		
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			when they approach thee, then salaam
		
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			becomes afar.
		
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			Now when you go in the marketplace, I,
		
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			as a Muslim man, go. Even if they
		
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			don't come to me, I wish them for
		
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			salaam because the prophet said, do I wish
		
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			salaam, better to spread salaam? But you as
		
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			a Muslim, a Muslim woman, you have to
		
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			even maintain your hijab. And for hijab, there
		
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			are various verses given in the Quran after
		
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			a say hadith. If you read Surah Azza
		
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			chapter number 33, verse number 32, it says
		
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			that a special voice has been revealed to
		
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			the wife of the prophet saying that be
		
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			not too complacent in your voice,
		
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			lest
		
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			in the opposite person
		
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			in whose heart is a disease, they may
		
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			misunderstand you. Means for the wife of the
		
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			prophet,
		
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			they could not be too complacent, you know.
		
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			Oh, Assalamu Alaikum.
		
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			You have to maintain your hijab. Hijab is
		
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			also of the wife. So as a gender
		
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			lose sister, you as being opposite *, you
		
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			need not wish
		
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			every
		
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			Muslim that you see on the road who
		
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			does not approach you.
		
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			When I go to the market, if I
		
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			see a Muslim, a Muslim woman,
		
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			and just passing by, I will not wish
		
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			a salaam.
		
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			If she approaches me and there are certain
		
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			problems that she requires help, etcetera, I maintain
		
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			my job, I lower my gear, etcetera,
		
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			and follow.
		
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			But normally, if they don't approach, it's not
		
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			compulsory. For the same *,
		
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			for letting
		
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			peace spread on the world,
		
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			I will try and wish to even a
		
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			person who doesn't approach me. So you, sister,
		
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			to the opposite *,
		
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			it's not a requirement
		
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			that you should wish to every Muslim, brother,
		
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			young, old that you meet.
		
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			If you know, if he is a,
		
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			your father or your son or your husband,
		
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			then
		
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			it's preferable. If anyone approaches you, you should
		
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			meet. Now regarding the question, if suppose a
		
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			person,
		
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			if a Muslim wishes you how
		
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			should you respond as a Muslim?
		
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			First,
		
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			you should realize that if there is a
		
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			requirement
		
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			for the Muslim man
		
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			who's a of yours to talk to you,
		
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			then can the discussion proceed.
		
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			If you think it's not a requirement,
		
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			you need not proceed with the discussion.
		
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			You need not proceed. If you know that
		
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			this particular boy is from your college
		
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			and,
		
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			honestly, he mostly talk to you, then you
		
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			have to maintain your hijab. You did not
		
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			talk to him also
		
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			because his intentions aren't good. But if you
		
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			know that the intention is good and suppose
		
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			opposite * approaches,
		
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			you give the reply but not too complacent.
		
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			Don't say, oh,
		
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			It's not a requirement.
		
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			You have to maintain your hijab.
		
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			Be firm so that if there's a disease
		
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			in the heart of the opposite person, it
		
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			will not be increased.
		
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			That is the guidance of the Quran. So
		
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			sister,
		
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			where
		
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			is concerned for a woman
		
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			and
		
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			where a woman is concerned for a gent,
		
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			you should maintain the Islamic hijab. And as
		
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			the sister said earlier, that there are some
		
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			men who look at the woman who don't
		
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			do hijab.
		
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			The Quran
		
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			first speaks about the hijab for the man
		
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			and then for the woman. The Quran says
		
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			in chapter 24, verse number 30,
		
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			before it speaks about the hijab for the
		
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			woman, it says, say to the believing man
		
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			that you should lower his gaze and guard
		
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			his modesty.
		
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			That means whenever a man
		
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			whenever a man looks at a woman,
		
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			any brazen thought, any unashamed thought comes in
		
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			his mind, he should lower his gaze. This
		
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			is a job for the Muslim.
		
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			So if a Muslim man
		
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			looks at a woman, irrespective whether she's a
		
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			Muslim or non Muslim, he cannot feast on
		
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			her.
		
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			So sister said there are Muslim
		
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			boys who look at non Muslim and get
		
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			married to them. They aren't following the Quran.
		
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			They aren't fit to be called as Muslims.
		
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			Once there was a friend of mine who
		
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			was a
		
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			Muslim, who was staring at a girl for
		
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			a long time. So I told him, brother,
		
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			what are you doing?
		
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			Why are you staring at a girl for
		
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			the long time?
		
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			So he told me, our beloved prophet said
		
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			that the first glance is allowed. The second
		
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			is prohibited. I have not yet completed half
		
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			my glance.
		
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			What did the prophet mean when he said
		
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			that the first glance is allowed, the second
		
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			is prohibited?
		
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			It doesn't mean that you can look at
		
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			a woman, stare at her for a long
		
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			time without blinking for 10 minutes, and say
		
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			that I'm following the prophet.
		
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			What the prophet meant that unintentionally, if you
		
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			look at a woman, don't intentionally look at
		
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			her to feast on her.
		
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			So similarly, sister, it's not a requirement
		
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			that you greet every Muslim
		
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			man that you meet.
		
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			But if they approach you depending upon the
		
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			situation, you have to give the reply based
		
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			on Quran and Sahadeep. Hope that answers the
		
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			question.